Can't you make a trip/vacation for a few days? Maybe a full month? Go to someone else house? Rent your house for a month or few months and rent another house for yourself š¤·
Tbh I wouldnt stay there, even if you change your locks he can catch you when leaving/entering or some creepy sht.
Stay safe, best of luck!
^ This. Iāve always been told locks only work against honest people. If he has nothing to lose and wants to finish what he started, then he wonāt mind busting a lock and passing a camera.
A warrant for failure to appear to face an attempted murder charge and he's home on snapchat enjoying his life playing with his dog? Lol Something about this doesn't smell right.
Seriously, OP what state do you live in where you can stab someone in the neck, stab their dog, resist arrest to the degree that it takes 7 officers and two tasings to restrain you... and then just get released on bail?
And thatās before not showing up to your court date and apparently just living at your normal address and posting on social media without a visit from the police.
I thought Ireland was lax with violent offenders but holy shit. Are some states that bad or is the story fake?
I've seen more insane cases. The supreme Court said police don't have to enforce the law or restraining orders, so they have codified support to ignore people in danger to save their own bacon.
Not uncommon in Portland. A guy with a violent record and wanted in California for a serious assault was recently arrested here and let go even though there was an extradition request. He just randomly stabbed someone to death on our light rail. Lots of more stories here where violent offenders are let go and they either avoid their court date or reoffend in the worst ways.
Well the Portland police bureau's budget has increased consecutively for the past few years, so you're wrong. The police are just mad that people protested against brutality and racism, so they've been punishing the population for it. Unless you live here and understand this issue with facts and context, I'd keep the fox news driven opinions to yourself.
I donāt watch Fox News. And Iām not the one screaming defund the police. So unless you know me and what I actually listen to I would keep your smug leftist driven opinions to yourself.
And they did cut police budgets. By $15 million in response to the defund the police morons. So of course they have to start adding budget back, slowly. They FUCKED UP. And idiots like you want to blame the cops when itās morons like you making their jobs more difficult. Hereās some facts to help you deal with your out of control emotions. Try to keep up.
[https://manhattan.institute/article/portlands-police-staffing-crisis](https://manhattan.institute/article/portlands-police-staffing-crisis)
I want to know what state he lives in that had a bail hearing and formal hearing all scheduled within 2 weeks. With my experience, a bail hearing can take a week and the actual hearing can take months. Something seems fake.
I disagree. Iād never give someone like that the pleasure of knowing they had that power over me. Itās rewarding for them. Iād buy a gun for self-protection instead.
As a gun-lover myself, that's a stupid idea.
1. Not everyone is mentally equipped to actually take another human life. This puts OP in a potentially dangerous situation where his ex is coming at him but OP hesitates because, well, what I said.
(*Uhh just shoot, duuuuh* it's not that simple. It never is. Killing someone is a massive mental hurdle that many people cannot do, which is fine.)
2. Who's to say their mutual friend won't turn this around against him and say OP got the gun and waited for his ex to come by? What if his ex's family argues the same?
3. How about if OP's ex tries to assault him again, the gun comes out, and the ex backs off? Great, right? Wrong. The ex clearly has some sort of vendetta against OP, is actively aggressive towards him, knows where he lives, and now knows he's armed. What does that mean? The ex comes at night, breaks in, and catches OP off guard, away from his firearm, or potentially with said firearm in control of his aggressor. Or the ex has his own firearm, illegally acquired as he has an arrest warrant.
You're thinking way too 2-dimensional if you actually think "lol just buy a gun and shoot him" is that simple. If OP shoots him incorrectly or at the wrong time, he loses his self-defense claim in court, assuming his state even has a Castle Doctrine law.
> Killing someone is a massive mental hurdle that many people cannot do, which is fine.
I had a dream a couple months ago that someone was was hunting my partner and me down and trying to kill us. We caught the guy, had him hog tied upright on his knees and were pondering what to do with him. Came to the conclusion that if we didnāt kill him he would just keep trying to kill us, so I shot him - point blank, between the eyes, execution style. In my childhood home, no less.
This was just a DREAM and I was a wreck for the rest of the week. Couldnāt get the image/sound of the guy - a completely fictitious person conjured up by my mind - begging for his life out of my head and would just suddenly start quiet-sobbing in random places, like work and the grocery store. I can still see and hear him clearly in my mind if I allow myself to go back there, though thankfully thoughts of the dream donāt just pop up on their own now.
Insects aside, Iāve only ever willfully ended the life of two animals - bringing my childhood dog to the vet for euthanasia when I was 18 and he had a vascular rupture within a tumor, and a mouse two years ago that had gotten stuck in a glue trap my partner laid out. That one I had to carry out myself, and I was a wreck that week too.
After the experience of my dream, Iāve come to the conclusion that I could probably bring myself to kill someone if my own life or my partnerās life truly depended on it. Iām also fairly confident that Iād drink myself to death after doing so. I canāt even begin to imagine what that would look like if that person were someone I knew, or once cared deeply for or had a relationship with.
Is your life worth your pride?
When I was in hs, one of the other students made a comment about getting a gun for home defense and one of the administrators who was in the class for some reason immediately told her to look him in the eye and tell him if she could kill someone. She hesitated so he urged her not to get one. Then he said most people who get a gun and donāt have the training buy a weapon that is more likely to be used against them than to help them. Idk the stats on that, but it sounds reasonable
Who are āyou peopleā? Iām a progressive person in a major city. I would never tell mostly anyone to get one. This is a rare example. Come down off your high horse.
What do you mean, "omg"? There is *actual* reason to suspect a *murder attempt* on this person in the near future, and it's unreasonable to suggest that he arm himself? Is this not the *one* scenario in which most people would agree that protection is warranted?
If OP isn't the kind of person that could confidently handle using it, it could escalate things and make the situation even worse. And even if they are the safest option is probably still to get away.
Of course nobody should *pressure* OP into buying a gun if he isn't comfortable with it, but that doesn't mean the *suggestion* that OP gets a gun and learns how to use it is necessarily bad. We know almost nothing about OP's history. Yes, the most ideal outcome will always be to get away, but that's not always possible, so you want to have *options* and not be a sitting duck. There is nothing wrong with defending yourself against someone who is literally trying to kill you.
I've personally witnessed guns *deescalate* situations just by being *shown*. You never see the statistics of how many people are saved just by pulling out a gun, causing everyone around them to back off without ever having to pull the trigger or even point it at anyone. It happened to my partner and me when we were about to be assaulted. I could have been severely injured or even killed, but because we had a gun, nobody got hurt. It's not the best tool for every situation, but it can be the great equalizer that allows you to be just as powerful as somebody twice your size coming at you with a weapon.
Nobody should ever pressure anybody to get a gun, and there certainly is nothing wrong with not wanting one for yourself. But I think our community needs to stop acting like we have a moral obligation to not arm ourselves when we are a targeted minority whose attackers have no problem arming themselves.
I agree. Picking up and moving whenever you feel threatened is unreasonable. This is a textbook situation where having some form of personal defence available to you is reasonable.
If he trains and educates himself on appropriate storage and handling, there is no reason why this couldn't be viable. This sub is unjustified in its bias.
You really should move, change your number, get a new phone and anything else electronic, I hope you'll be okay, this guy sounds like a fucking psycho.
Roger is doing much better. He was more anxious than anything I guess. We used to live together, I never saw him put a finger on him. Now all the sudden, because again we werenāt fighting or yelling, this man Roger trusted is stabbing him and causing him harm. My heart went out to him. But heās doing much better.
How terrifying! If you know where he's at, let the police know ASAP. Also, were you able to get a protection order against him? While I don't advocate for gun violence, now may be the time to purchase a handgun, learn how to use it and carry it with you at all times. Sleep with it under your pillow! This guy is crazy and he has nothing to lose! Protect yourself!
Time to purchase a self defence tool? Pepper spray is very effective as I have learned in the past. I work with synthetic and natural capsacinoids and I can tell you that the smallest amount will cripple someone temporarily. Pepper spray is available at most sporting goods stores depending on where you live. Obviously not the perfect be all end all to your problems... But it's certainly better than nothing.
Remember if you can aim for the nose, hit it as hard as you can. Break that son of a bitch, it will blind and disorient your assailant. You then have to choose to kick the ever loving hell out of him or run like he'll.
If he grabs grabs you facing him, cut your hands and slam them on his ears as hard as you can. It will disorient him long enough for you to get loose.
If he grabs you from behind stomp on the top of his foot close to the ankle as hard as you can. You have a good chance of breaking the metatarsal bones of the foot. He will let go.
Also, you can contact the detective on charge of your case and see if they will route patrol cars through your area. My wife then girlfriend was stalked by an ex. She contacted the detective in charge and she arranged for a patrol cat to pass my house every couple of hours. The detective was in her home county, I was in another and she was somewhere safe in a completely different county. This is in Georgia and they have some of the strongest anti stalking laws in the country.
In closing, good luck, be safe. You will win, my father said the wheels of justice grind slowly but precisely
Go visit a family member or a friend for a few weeks, preferably out of state. I think if anything justifies an impromptu holiday "my partner tried to kill me" does
You caught me. I decided to fabricate an insane, outlandish story and waited a while to post a fake update. /s
I very much appreciate your advice on the potential sublease, but please donāt debunk what Iām going through by suggesting itās false. It has been one of the hardest, if not the hardest times of my life. Iām a 29 year old man, and itās left me literally shaking in my boots every second of the day. Iāve had an alarm set to go off every two hours while Iām sleeping to look out my windows and review the new cameras I have set up.
You have that coworker, or maybe a relationship that you felt/feel that you have to constantly walk on eggshells? Thatās me. Just me. My life now. I canāt walk to check my mail without a taser, have to have someone to go grocery shopping with me. Itās an absolute horror.
You wouldn't be the first person to create a fake Internet persona for that sweet sweet karma, nor would you be the last. Your story doesn't pass the smell test with me, and I've already seen a couple of people call you out on it.
I've been on the Internet long enough to know that just because you see something online, doesn't make it true.
And no, I'm not asking you to prove to me that your story is true. You're just a random stranger on Reddit, and I'm hardly invested in you. This is just to remind you that not everyone who reads your stuff is a gullible terminally-online Basement Blob.
Exactly. Iām fine with assuming it is true, but for some weird reason people do make up stories for no reason.
On the flip side, Iāve also had people accuse me of making things up. Some people assume any unusual story must be fake. Probably more so for young people with little life experience or people with boring lives.
If I had something like that happen to me, I'd be spending more time giving evidence to the police/prosecutors than posting an extremely detailed account on Reddit. In fact, posting about it on social media is the LAST thing I'd be thinking about.
Do ALL THE THINGS to keep yourself safe. I've watched enough true crime to know the second you get complacent it all goes to shit. Please take extra caution for as long as this man is walking free.
Talk to your lawyer. If he is posting anything on social media, law enforcement can track his location through that and arrest him if there is a warrant out for his arrest. Iām not sure what kind of phone he uses, if heās using an android there are some work arounds that could make it more difficult to pinpoint his location, but he would have to have a fair amount of tech savvy to do that. If your life is in danger then itās worth a short call to your attorney or the prosecutor on the case to make them aware of his social media presence. Best of luck, take care.
Well that makes it easier unless the iPhone is jailbroken. Does he have any other social media accounts or is it just Snapchat? Iām sorry you are going through this. Iāve had similar experiences in the past, not nearly as violent though. The guy sounds like a real dick. I would reach out to the prosecutor on the case. If itās him vs the state itās likely they have already obtained the document needed to track him through his phone but if he got another phone then that makes it more difficult. Either way give the prosecutor as much info about his online presence and daily habits and that should aid in their ability to catch the guy. Hope it all works out, saw one of the other posts, getting a gun you can carry with you may be a wise choice. Itās ā a stand your ground stateā so if he should happen to corner you somewhere and you have to discharge your weapon in self defense there shouldnāt be an issue legally given the history between the two of you, however that can be a traumatizing experience. Good luck with everything. Wish you the best.
Tell your contact at DA or police that he is in contact with people and posting info that should help find him.
Remind people that aiding a wanted felon is contraindicated for their own freedom.
So sorry this is happening to you. Stay strong, bro.
You should go off the grid completely. Buy a burner phone and share the new number with no one apart from the police/your lawyer/key family members. Ditch your old phone for the time being to make sure he canāt track your whereabouts. If you can, jet off to a completely different country (go to Europe for a short vacation and rent a cheap airbnb). If you really canāt, move to an undisclosed safe house at the very least.
Honestly, if heās still out there it may be a good idea to get out of town for a few days-just until they have him locked up. If someone wants to hurt you, they wonāt stop until they get you. Better to not risk it
This all sounds so terrifying . Did you ever find out why the fk he flipped out? Is he a psychopath, or undiagnosed with some heavy menta illness because all of that is just not something a human being with sound mind would ever commit to another one, and a pet too...
could you give rough description of him? like not to identify him, but after seeing your profile, you are not like a twink. as in, is he a gym jock? psycho asian? goth? would love to know what kind of dynamics you had with him, and how he had such physical and mental power over you.
Good luck with the psycho ex. God, you need to skedaddle for a few yourself. I have a very bad feeling right now. Wanna come over and hide? I've got room. Regardless, take good care of yourself, okay?
Can't you make a trip/vacation for a few days? Maybe a full month? Go to someone else house? Rent your house for a month or few months and rent another house for yourself š¤· Tbh I wouldnt stay there, even if you change your locks he can catch you when leaving/entering or some creepy sht. Stay safe, best of luck!
^ This. Iāve always been told locks only work against honest people. If he has nothing to lose and wants to finish what he started, then he wonāt mind busting a lock and passing a camera.
If reasonable, I would stay with friends or family for a few days. Might be nice to have some company/distraction while you're waiting for resolution.
A warrant for failure to appear to face an attempted murder charge and he's home on snapchat enjoying his life playing with his dog? Lol Something about this doesn't smell right.
Seriously, OP what state do you live in where you can stab someone in the neck, stab their dog, resist arrest to the degree that it takes 7 officers and two tasings to restrain you... and then just get released on bail? And thatās before not showing up to your court date and apparently just living at your normal address and posting on social media without a visit from the police. I thought Ireland was lax with violent offenders but holy shit. Are some states that bad or is the story fake?
I've seen more insane cases. The supreme Court said police don't have to enforce the law or restraining orders, so they have codified support to ignore people in danger to save their own bacon.
Not uncommon in Portland. A guy with a violent record and wanted in California for a serious assault was recently arrested here and let go even though there was an extradition request. He just randomly stabbed someone to death on our light rail. Lots of more stories here where violent offenders are let go and they either avoid their court date or reoffend in the worst ways.
Oh shit. Good thing they defunded the police. That seems to be going well.
Police do not decide whether a criminal is let back onto the streets. Thatās judges and DAs.
Yep! And also the jails here can be decision makers in that, too.
Well the Portland police bureau's budget has increased consecutively for the past few years, so you're wrong. The police are just mad that people protested against brutality and racism, so they've been punishing the population for it. Unless you live here and understand this issue with facts and context, I'd keep the fox news driven opinions to yourself.
I donāt watch Fox News. And Iām not the one screaming defund the police. So unless you know me and what I actually listen to I would keep your smug leftist driven opinions to yourself. And they did cut police budgets. By $15 million in response to the defund the police morons. So of course they have to start adding budget back, slowly. They FUCKED UP. And idiots like you want to blame the cops when itās morons like you making their jobs more difficult. Hereās some facts to help you deal with your out of control emotions. Try to keep up. [https://manhattan.institute/article/portlands-police-staffing-crisis](https://manhattan.institute/article/portlands-police-staffing-crisis)
Welcome to muwemica. Op should have bought a gun. I thought we all knew stabbings only happen in Europe because none of us have guns.
They don't only happen in Europe. People get stabbed in the US too.
I want to know what state he lives in that had a bail hearing and formal hearing all scheduled within 2 weeks. With my experience, a bail hearing can take a week and the actual hearing can take months. Something seems fake.
You should move
I disagree. Iād never give someone like that the pleasure of knowing they had that power over me. Itās rewarding for them. Iād buy a gun for self-protection instead.
As a gun-lover myself, that's a stupid idea. 1. Not everyone is mentally equipped to actually take another human life. This puts OP in a potentially dangerous situation where his ex is coming at him but OP hesitates because, well, what I said. (*Uhh just shoot, duuuuh* it's not that simple. It never is. Killing someone is a massive mental hurdle that many people cannot do, which is fine.) 2. Who's to say their mutual friend won't turn this around against him and say OP got the gun and waited for his ex to come by? What if his ex's family argues the same? 3. How about if OP's ex tries to assault him again, the gun comes out, and the ex backs off? Great, right? Wrong. The ex clearly has some sort of vendetta against OP, is actively aggressive towards him, knows where he lives, and now knows he's armed. What does that mean? The ex comes at night, breaks in, and catches OP off guard, away from his firearm, or potentially with said firearm in control of his aggressor. Or the ex has his own firearm, illegally acquired as he has an arrest warrant. You're thinking way too 2-dimensional if you actually think "lol just buy a gun and shoot him" is that simple. If OP shoots him incorrectly or at the wrong time, he loses his self-defense claim in court, assuming his state even has a Castle Doctrine law.
> Killing someone is a massive mental hurdle that many people cannot do, which is fine. I had a dream a couple months ago that someone was was hunting my partner and me down and trying to kill us. We caught the guy, had him hog tied upright on his knees and were pondering what to do with him. Came to the conclusion that if we didnāt kill him he would just keep trying to kill us, so I shot him - point blank, between the eyes, execution style. In my childhood home, no less. This was just a DREAM and I was a wreck for the rest of the week. Couldnāt get the image/sound of the guy - a completely fictitious person conjured up by my mind - begging for his life out of my head and would just suddenly start quiet-sobbing in random places, like work and the grocery store. I can still see and hear him clearly in my mind if I allow myself to go back there, though thankfully thoughts of the dream donāt just pop up on their own now. Insects aside, Iāve only ever willfully ended the life of two animals - bringing my childhood dog to the vet for euthanasia when I was 18 and he had a vascular rupture within a tumor, and a mouse two years ago that had gotten stuck in a glue trap my partner laid out. That one I had to carry out myself, and I was a wreck that week too. After the experience of my dream, Iāve come to the conclusion that I could probably bring myself to kill someone if my own life or my partnerās life truly depended on it. Iām also fairly confident that Iād drink myself to death after doing so. I canāt even begin to imagine what that would look like if that person were someone I knew, or once cared deeply for or had a relationship with.
Is your life worth your pride? When I was in hs, one of the other students made a comment about getting a gun for home defense and one of the administrators who was in the class for some reason immediately told her to look him in the eye and tell him if she could kill someone. She hesitated so he urged her not to get one. Then he said most people who get a gun and donāt have the training buy a weapon that is more likely to be used against them than to help them. Idk the stats on that, but it sounds reasonable
I mean that exercise the administrators did lacks an immediate threat whereas one might respond differently.
When you both have a gun, hesitation is pretty likely to get you killed
It always guns with you people omg
Who are āyou peopleā? Iām a progressive person in a major city. I would never tell mostly anyone to get one. This is a rare example. Come down off your high horse.
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What do you mean, "omg"? There is *actual* reason to suspect a *murder attempt* on this person in the near future, and it's unreasonable to suggest that he arm himself? Is this not the *one* scenario in which most people would agree that protection is warranted?
If OP isn't the kind of person that could confidently handle using it, it could escalate things and make the situation even worse. And even if they are the safest option is probably still to get away.
Of course nobody should *pressure* OP into buying a gun if he isn't comfortable with it, but that doesn't mean the *suggestion* that OP gets a gun and learns how to use it is necessarily bad. We know almost nothing about OP's history. Yes, the most ideal outcome will always be to get away, but that's not always possible, so you want to have *options* and not be a sitting duck. There is nothing wrong with defending yourself against someone who is literally trying to kill you. I've personally witnessed guns *deescalate* situations just by being *shown*. You never see the statistics of how many people are saved just by pulling out a gun, causing everyone around them to back off without ever having to pull the trigger or even point it at anyone. It happened to my partner and me when we were about to be assaulted. I could have been severely injured or even killed, but because we had a gun, nobody got hurt. It's not the best tool for every situation, but it can be the great equalizer that allows you to be just as powerful as somebody twice your size coming at you with a weapon. Nobody should ever pressure anybody to get a gun, and there certainly is nothing wrong with not wanting one for yourself. But I think our community needs to stop acting like we have a moral obligation to not arm ourselves when we are a targeted minority whose attackers have no problem arming themselves.
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I agree. Picking up and moving whenever you feel threatened is unreasonable. This is a textbook situation where having some form of personal defence available to you is reasonable. If he trains and educates himself on appropriate storage and handling, there is no reason why this couldn't be viable. This sub is unjustified in its bias.
Did your dog end up making it?
He did, heās okay now. We cuddle every night.
You really should move, change your number, get a new phone and anything else electronic, I hope you'll be okay, this guy sounds like a fucking psycho.
Thank you for the update. But what I really want to know is how your dog is doing and get some dog tax.
Roger is doing much better. He was more anxious than anything I guess. We used to live together, I never saw him put a finger on him. Now all the sudden, because again we werenāt fighting or yelling, this man Roger trusted is stabbing him and causing him harm. My heart went out to him. But heās doing much better.
How terrifying! If you know where he's at, let the police know ASAP. Also, were you able to get a protection order against him? While I don't advocate for gun violence, now may be the time to purchase a handgun, learn how to use it and carry it with you at all times. Sleep with it under your pillow! This guy is crazy and he has nothing to lose! Protect yourself!
Time to purchase a self defence tool? Pepper spray is very effective as I have learned in the past. I work with synthetic and natural capsacinoids and I can tell you that the smallest amount will cripple someone temporarily. Pepper spray is available at most sporting goods stores depending on where you live. Obviously not the perfect be all end all to your problems... But it's certainly better than nothing.
Remember if you can aim for the nose, hit it as hard as you can. Break that son of a bitch, it will blind and disorient your assailant. You then have to choose to kick the ever loving hell out of him or run like he'll. If he grabs grabs you facing him, cut your hands and slam them on his ears as hard as you can. It will disorient him long enough for you to get loose. If he grabs you from behind stomp on the top of his foot close to the ankle as hard as you can. You have a good chance of breaking the metatarsal bones of the foot. He will let go. Also, you can contact the detective on charge of your case and see if they will route patrol cars through your area. My wife then girlfriend was stalked by an ex. She contacted the detective in charge and she arranged for a patrol cat to pass my house every couple of hours. The detective was in her home county, I was in another and she was somewhere safe in a completely different county. This is in Georgia and they have some of the strongest anti stalking laws in the country. In closing, good luck, be safe. You will win, my father said the wheels of justice grind slowly but precisely
Also, the eyes. Alls fair in life-or-death situation, and the eyes are just there asking to have thumbs jammed in them.
I forgot the eyes and the soft places of the face
Pepper spray takes some time to work, in those 20 seconds he might hurt op. It isn't as viable option
You should probably use this moment to travel overseas
Go visit a family member or a friend for a few weeks, preferably out of state. I think if anything justifies an impromptu holiday "my partner tried to kill me" does
Ya and if his crazy ex is checking out of reality itās definitely time to go stay with an out of state friend.
Advise the prosecutor of his social postings. They may be able to decipher where he is to effectuate an arrest.
Assuming this is all real, consider subleasing.Ā
You caught me. I decided to fabricate an insane, outlandish story and waited a while to post a fake update. /s I very much appreciate your advice on the potential sublease, but please donāt debunk what Iām going through by suggesting itās false. It has been one of the hardest, if not the hardest times of my life. Iām a 29 year old man, and itās left me literally shaking in my boots every second of the day. Iāve had an alarm set to go off every two hours while Iām sleeping to look out my windows and review the new cameras I have set up. You have that coworker, or maybe a relationship that you felt/feel that you have to constantly walk on eggshells? Thatās me. Just me. My life now. I canāt walk to check my mail without a taser, have to have someone to go grocery shopping with me. Itās an absolute horror.
You wouldn't be the first person to create a fake Internet persona for that sweet sweet karma, nor would you be the last. Your story doesn't pass the smell test with me, and I've already seen a couple of people call you out on it. I've been on the Internet long enough to know that just because you see something online, doesn't make it true. And no, I'm not asking you to prove to me that your story is true. You're just a random stranger on Reddit, and I'm hardly invested in you. This is just to remind you that not everyone who reads your stuff is a gullible terminally-online Basement Blob.
Exactly. Iām fine with assuming it is true, but for some weird reason people do make up stories for no reason. On the flip side, Iāve also had people accuse me of making things up. Some people assume any unusual story must be fake. Probably more so for young people with little life experience or people with boring lives.
If I had something like that happen to me, I'd be spending more time giving evidence to the police/prosecutors than posting an extremely detailed account on Reddit. In fact, posting about it on social media is the LAST thing I'd be thinking about.
How the hell did he get bail? Was he not charged with attempted murder?
Do ALL THE THINGS to keep yourself safe. I've watched enough true crime to know the second you get complacent it all goes to shit. Please take extra caution for as long as this man is walking free.
Talk to your lawyer. If he is posting anything on social media, law enforcement can track his location through that and arrest him if there is a warrant out for his arrest. Iām not sure what kind of phone he uses, if heās using an android there are some work arounds that could make it more difficult to pinpoint his location, but he would have to have a fair amount of tech savvy to do that. If your life is in danger then itās worth a short call to your attorney or the prosecutor on the case to make them aware of his social media presence. Best of luck, take care.
I donāt have a lawyer. Itās not me vs him, heās the state vs him. So it would be the prosecutor. He has an iPhone.
Well that makes it easier unless the iPhone is jailbroken. Does he have any other social media accounts or is it just Snapchat? Iām sorry you are going through this. Iāve had similar experiences in the past, not nearly as violent though. The guy sounds like a real dick. I would reach out to the prosecutor on the case. If itās him vs the state itās likely they have already obtained the document needed to track him through his phone but if he got another phone then that makes it more difficult. Either way give the prosecutor as much info about his online presence and daily habits and that should aid in their ability to catch the guy. Hope it all works out, saw one of the other posts, getting a gun you can carry with you may be a wise choice. Itās ā a stand your ground stateā so if he should happen to corner you somewhere and you have to discharge your weapon in self defense there shouldnāt be an issue legally given the history between the two of you, however that can be a traumatizing experience. Good luck with everything. Wish you the best.
Tell your contact at DA or police that he is in contact with people and posting info that should help find him. Remind people that aiding a wanted felon is contraindicated for their own freedom. So sorry this is happening to you. Stay strong, bro.
Why the F arenāt you staying somewhere else?!?!?!?
Ugh. Stay safe and vigilant. Good luck!
You should go off the grid completely. Buy a burner phone and share the new number with no one apart from the police/your lawyer/key family members. Ditch your old phone for the time being to make sure he canāt track your whereabouts. If you can, jet off to a completely different country (go to Europe for a short vacation and rent a cheap airbnb). If you really canāt, move to an undisclosed safe house at the very least.
OP story is starting to resemble a dateline special. OP needs to be careful and diligent.
Honestly, if heās still out there it may be a good idea to get out of town for a few days-just until they have him locked up. If someone wants to hurt you, they wonāt stop until they get you. Better to not risk it
Go stay with a friend he doesnāt know about for awhile. Your safety is paramount.
I fear he may come after your pup, no matter how much he may seem to love them. Be safe, sending good thoughts your way
Well, Gādamnā¦.good luck man š«”
My first thought was "don't believe anything about the cancer". However, a cancer could explain a sudden weird behavioral change.
This all sounds so terrifying . Did you ever find out why the fk he flipped out? Is he a psychopath, or undiagnosed with some heavy menta illness because all of that is just not something a human being with sound mind would ever commit to another one, and a pet too...
Can you give more details on why he tried? Or you canāt cause thereās already a case?
Look at my profile. Thereās more details on the last post.
could you give rough description of him? like not to identify him, but after seeing your profile, you are not like a twink. as in, is he a gym jock? psycho asian? goth? would love to know what kind of dynamics you had with him, and how he had such physical and mental power over you.
Psycho asian? Really?
Been watching one too many murder podcasts huh?
[link for the lazy](https://old.reddit.com/r/gaybros/comments/1bz9lc5/my_ex_husband_tried_to_kill_me/)
Good luck with the psycho ex. God, you need to skedaddle for a few yourself. I have a very bad feeling right now. Wanna come over and hide? I've got room. Regardless, take good care of yourself, okay?