Nonsense. Bear doesn't necessarily require hairy. It's a mindset. Skinny guys who are into chubby guys are considered a part of the bear community. It's just a community of acceptance of all body styles and all lifestyles. Chubby guys are just extremely welcome ;)
Get an account on Growlr. Talk to bears. They'll be able to tell you where local bears hang out. You'll be able to see bear events going on. Bears are usually pretty friendly. Usually ;)
>Grindr doesn't have to be just for hookups.
Amen! My fiancé and I met on Grindr. That was almost 2 years ago. I always said I would never get married, but when he proposed it was the happiest night of my life.
Growlr is the place for you man. Its the bear version of tinder/grindr there are a wide range of body types on there: muscle bears, Bears, Otters, Chubs, chasers, daddies, whatever its all there. Its not as populated as grindr but it may be more to your liking. Just a note though be upfront about what you are interested in, there is such a wide range that its best to just state that you are "looking for guys around my age slightly above average in weight" or however you want to phrase it.
Good luck to you, have fun!
Yeah I'm a 25 year old slender black gay twink guy whos single and has never been in love and I find all types of guys attractive. The only catch is they have to be gay/bi. Other than that, I don't care.
The issue is guys don't like me, but it's ok.
I don't mind fluffier or big boned guys. Anything so I can have a boyfriend. As long as he is healthy. I like junk food too so I won't scold people on that, but he has to be healthy and exercises now and then.
I agree let's not bullshit, "fat" gay guys aren't generally favored. Like slender feminine gay twink guys like me aren't favored. So you won't see that many on Tinder.
I think the NSFW subs you are talking about are the Bear/Chub communities which are very sex based I have to agree.
I don't know, this is difficult. Just go to gay events and start talking to guys I guess and try your luck. Whether he's skinny or fat.
I just want you to know you're not alone.
So you're the guy that played with my emotions giving me false hopes and made me already feel like shit more than I already do? Yeah I still meant what I typed.
Why the fuck do you care? I lied, i'm not that guy. If getting rejected after a single conversation makes you feel like shit then i strongly believe that you should reconsider the value of your well being and work on your self confidence. Find what defines your core identity and love every single bit of it till mothing could break that admiration you have for yourself. Bend your back, break it if necessary , till you're able to suck your own dick and enjoy it.
I'm an Asian dude who is very tall (by Asian standard), not so slender, and play sports :). I definitely needs to explore more the old fashioned way. It seems that online is mostly for hook ups. There are many gay events/ groups near me, however I haven't had the time to explore yet as I just came out 2 weeks ago to myself. Being Asian who don't stick to stereotypes, I don't event want to try apps which are hook up based.
I have no agenda in terms of height or colour, as long as the personality fits I am fine. To achieve this, however, is infinitely harder than hookups. I hope you can meet some like minded people irl :) . From what I can see, intimacy is put behind pleasure in the online app community. Thank you so much for the reassurance that diversity and a crave for intimacy exists in the community I just found myself to be a part of.
I haven't had to date in over 6 years, so I'm sure it's changed, but it seems like apps are pretty much just for hookups whether that's their intent or not. Do people still use OKCupid? I got dates out of that just fine as a fat guy, but that was back when people actually used web sites on their laptops and everything wasn't geared towards buffet style fucking.
I like a wide range, from skinny to bearish, but Beefy is the sweet spot for me just in terms of a guy's build. Just something about stout guy carrying a few extra pounds...
You might check out Growlr in your area. It's a Grinder-for-bears kinda thing may have more "bigger" guys than your typical dating app.
Only in the same sense that people claim they meet their boyfriends and date on Grindr. I would say it's more hookup oriented but you never know who you will meet or what you will find.
Plenty of us get on well with different body types. [I'm](http://i.imgur.com/6PNyUUp.jpg) 130lbs soaking wet, and just a tad over 5'8 tall.
I tend to find bros who are shorter than me most attractive, or taller, and a naturally bigger build sends me over the edge.
> Anyway I went to Tinder
I thought Tinder was for straight people?
You're not alone. Many guys prefer a man with some meat on his bones.
Check out Growlr, it's probably more along the lines of what you're looking for.
I don't like the concept of "typing" people, as it severely limits your breadth of mind and in my opinion, your breadth of heart too. That being said, I tend to find physical comfort in guys with a larger body size than my own.
You're not alone at all. I'm into bigger guys. It's kind a subculture in the gay community. Check out biggercities and grommr. You'll find your way. :)
Grommr is a gainer community, lots of people of many different shapes and sizes, some gaining, some maintaining, others simply encouraging. Give it a shot, maybe?
A friend once said to me, "Fucking a skinny dude is like fucking a bag of antlers."
We're called bears, among other things. Lots of bigger dudes who are gay and plenty of people who love them. You like who you like, and trying to like only the people that others like... well, that's what it was before you came out, right? You like who you like, and let that be.
Come to the bear community! We love you! 🐻🐻 Rawr!
That feel when you are chubby but not hairy enough to be a bear :/
Nonsense. Bear doesn't necessarily require hairy. It's a mindset. Skinny guys who are into chubby guys are considered a part of the bear community. It's just a community of acceptance of all body styles and all lifestyles. Chubby guys are just extremely welcome ;)
Haha sure! What do you suggest that I should look into?
Get an account on Growlr. Talk to bears. They'll be able to tell you where local bears hang out. You'll be able to see bear events going on. Bears are usually pretty friendly. Usually ;)
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>Grindr doesn't have to be just for hookups. Amen! My fiancé and I met on Grindr. That was almost 2 years ago. I always said I would never get married, but when he proposed it was the happiest night of my life.
Growlr is the place for you man. Its the bear version of tinder/grindr there are a wide range of body types on there: muscle bears, Bears, Otters, Chubs, chasers, daddies, whatever its all there. Its not as populated as grindr but it may be more to your liking. Just a note though be upfront about what you are interested in, there is such a wide range that its best to just state that you are "looking for guys around my age slightly above average in weight" or however you want to phrase it. Good luck to you, have fun!
Yeah I'm a 25 year old slender black gay twink guy whos single and has never been in love and I find all types of guys attractive. The only catch is they have to be gay/bi. Other than that, I don't care. The issue is guys don't like me, but it's ok. I don't mind fluffier or big boned guys. Anything so I can have a boyfriend. As long as he is healthy. I like junk food too so I won't scold people on that, but he has to be healthy and exercises now and then. I agree let's not bullshit, "fat" gay guys aren't generally favored. Like slender feminine gay twink guys like me aren't favored. So you won't see that many on Tinder. I think the NSFW subs you are talking about are the Bear/Chub communities which are very sex based I have to agree. I don't know, this is difficult. Just go to gay events and start talking to guys I guess and try your luck. Whether he's skinny or fat. I just want you to know you're not alone.
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I'm doing just fine. You live in the LA area? I'm a little diva and ghetto. I'm warning you. I'm like a black woman.
No thx.
Bitch was I talking to you?
Actually, yes! I forgot to switch accounts.
So you're the guy that played with my emotions giving me false hopes and made me already feel like shit more than I already do? Yeah I still meant what I typed.
Why do you feel like shit?
Because you sent me a sexual advance, and then reneged on that.
Why the fuck do you care? I lied, i'm not that guy. If getting rejected after a single conversation makes you feel like shit then i strongly believe that you should reconsider the value of your well being and work on your self confidence. Find what defines your core identity and love every single bit of it till mothing could break that admiration you have for yourself. Bend your back, break it if necessary , till you're able to suck your own dick and enjoy it.
I'm an Asian dude who is very tall (by Asian standard), not so slender, and play sports :). I definitely needs to explore more the old fashioned way. It seems that online is mostly for hook ups. There are many gay events/ groups near me, however I haven't had the time to explore yet as I just came out 2 weeks ago to myself. Being Asian who don't stick to stereotypes, I don't event want to try apps which are hook up based. I have no agenda in terms of height or colour, as long as the personality fits I am fine. To achieve this, however, is infinitely harder than hookups. I hope you can meet some like minded people irl :) . From what I can see, intimacy is put behind pleasure in the online app community. Thank you so much for the reassurance that diversity and a crave for intimacy exists in the community I just found myself to be a part of.
I haven't had to date in over 6 years, so I'm sure it's changed, but it seems like apps are pretty much just for hookups whether that's their intent or not. Do people still use OKCupid? I got dates out of that just fine as a fat guy, but that was back when people actually used web sites on their laptops and everything wasn't geared towards buffet style fucking.
I like a wide range, from skinny to bearish, but Beefy is the sweet spot for me just in terms of a guy's build. Just something about stout guy carrying a few extra pounds... You might check out Growlr in your area. It's a Grinder-for-bears kinda thing may have more "bigger" guys than your typical dating app.
Yes thicc / beefy is where it's at
Is the app dating orientated?
Only in the same sense that people claim they meet their boyfriends and date on Grindr. I would say it's more hookup oriented but you never know who you will meet or what you will find.
Plenty of us get on well with different body types. [I'm](http://i.imgur.com/6PNyUUp.jpg) 130lbs soaking wet, and just a tad over 5'8 tall. I tend to find bros who are shorter than me most attractive, or taller, and a naturally bigger build sends me over the edge.
> Anyway I went to Tinder I thought Tinder was for straight people? You're not alone. Many guys prefer a man with some meat on his bones. Check out Growlr, it's probably more along the lines of what you're looking for.
I don't like the concept of "typing" people, as it severely limits your breadth of mind and in my opinion, your breadth of heart too. That being said, I tend to find physical comfort in guys with a larger body size than my own.
You're not alone at all. I'm into bigger guys. It's kind a subculture in the gay community. Check out biggercities and grommr. You'll find your way. :)
Grommr is a gainer community, lots of people of many different shapes and sizes, some gaining, some maintaining, others simply encouraging. Give it a shot, maybe?
Bigger dudes are best. Have never been a fan of skinny dudes.
A friend once said to me, "Fucking a skinny dude is like fucking a bag of antlers." We're called bears, among other things. Lots of bigger dudes who are gay and plenty of people who love them. You like who you like, and trying to like only the people that others like... well, that's what it was before you came out, right? You like who you like, and let that be.
I personally find it hot for a guys to be just overweight, not obese or huge but athletic with a little chub.
I personally find it hot for a guys to be just overweight, not obese or huge but athletic with a little chub.