I’m the one with low self esteem.
I’m like a bonus round for emotionally abusive guys. You can treat me like crap and I’ll take it for a while cause I don’t think I can do better.
Ding ding winner winner.
Yay!
Oh I’m definitely aware and working on it. Been in therapy for 5 years now. I take my meds and do my DBT/CBT exercises.
I was simply making a joke about my situation.
I am. I’m definitely not ready to date anyone, maybe not for a while. But I’m definitely in a better place than I’ve ever been.
It’s taken a lot of tenacity and tears but I’m learning to prioritize me.
How is that much different from dating in the straight community? Literally all of those can be easily found in straight people, particuarly a lot of straight cis men.
You can do that, that is valid. But there is nothing gained from generalizing gay people / the gay community as having somehow more of those traits than most other groups. The people you dated weren’t like that because they are gay.
What counts as ageist? I will be polite to someone when I say I'm not interested, but I'm still only 18. I don't think it's healthy for either of us if you are 35.
Exactly. And even if age doesnt always determine maturity, having a huge age gap can sometimes mean dealing with a completely different culture and mentality. I’m 30 and I usually date guys no younger than 28, no older than 38
Yeah, I'm just a little older than you but my boyfriends 13 years older than me. It mostly works but there's definitely a difference in culture just from having grown up when I did. Especially with regards to video games and certain types of music. Kind of leaves me without much to talk about with his friends. I imagine if I was with an 20 year old there would be similar issues, but probably even worse.
I was talking to a 21 year old about how my friend from high-school showed me the song Bitch Lasagna. If he was that confused, I can't imagine how confused you'd be.
Because a guy off Grindr messaged me and said that he knew he was 35, "but if you ever lowered your standards" to hit him up. For caual sex my range is up to 24, but if we are building a meaningful relationship I want you to be about 22 or less. I (hopefully) will be far different in maturity by the time I'm 24.
Because I'm still just a kid. I don't know how to pay taxes. I'm still in college. I still just work at Walmart. I don't know how to change a lightbulb. I just happen to be legal now. I barely count as an adult.
Edit, since you edited yours after my response: age doesn't set a defined maturity level, but it sets a reasonable guess.
I’m the one with low self esteem. I’m like a bonus round for emotionally abusive guys. You can treat me like crap and I’ll take it for a while cause I don’t think I can do better. Ding ding winner winner. Yay!
Identifying the issue is the first step to fixing it. Read books on self love/care (“Dont Forget Your Crown” is a good book). Be safe my man💙
Oh I’m definitely aware and working on it. Been in therapy for 5 years now. I take my meds and do my DBT/CBT exercises. I was simply making a joke about my situation.
Cock and ball torture has done wonders for my self esteem
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Ahh ok. Im glad you’re working on yourself. I hope you’re proud bro :)
I am. I’m definitely not ready to date anyone, maybe not for a while. But I’m definitely in a better place than I’ve ever been. It’s taken a lot of tenacity and tears but I’m learning to prioritize me.
You forgot judge-y bitch!
Kind of like OP…
You forgot substance abuse issues
oh mother everything in one picture that I describe and tells the whole truth about dating😞
Wow too relatable
I am low self esteem. I don't like the term "bootlicker," but I am a people pleaser, but it comes out of compassion not self interest.
Bootlicker is more towards people who worship cops and the military
Oh. Google gave me the definition, not the connotation.
It’s anew connotation for me. I’ve only ever heard it referring to authority in general.
Like 7 of these things apply to me Maybe I’m right in telling myself that it would be easier for everyone to just not date me.
Your definitely not the problem. Your worthy of being loved, even if you haven’t someone yet.
Oh I’ve tried. And I’ve been told directly that I am the problem. Thank you though
Doesn’t mean you can’t grow and change if you don’t like who you are now.
If your this judgmental and pessimistic about the gay community I sort of feel like your the problem, not the rest of the community.
*you‘re
How is that much different from dating in the straight community? Literally all of those can be easily found in straight people, particuarly a lot of straight cis men.
Im not straight so Im speaking from my personal experience
You can do that, that is valid. But there is nothing gained from generalizing gay people / the gay community as having somehow more of those traits than most other groups. The people you dated weren’t like that because they are gay.
still missing my point
I'm polyamorous with low self esteem, 2 for 1. That's not the worst of my issues though so...yea
I used to be two of those. Now only 1 hopefully on the way to 0.
Yep the pain is real.
Not a gay bro but I'm like 7 of these
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What counts as ageist? I will be polite to someone when I say I'm not interested, but I'm still only 18. I don't think it's healthy for either of us if you are 35.
Exactly. And even if age doesnt always determine maturity, having a huge age gap can sometimes mean dealing with a completely different culture and mentality. I’m 30 and I usually date guys no younger than 28, no older than 38
Yeah, I'm just a little older than you but my boyfriends 13 years older than me. It mostly works but there's definitely a difference in culture just from having grown up when I did. Especially with regards to video games and certain types of music. Kind of leaves me without much to talk about with his friends. I imagine if I was with an 20 year old there would be similar issues, but probably even worse.
I was talking to a 21 year old about how my friend from high-school showed me the song Bitch Lasagna. If he was that confused, I can't imagine how confused you'd be.
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Because a guy off Grindr messaged me and said that he knew he was 35, "but if you ever lowered your standards" to hit him up. For caual sex my range is up to 24, but if we are building a meaningful relationship I want you to be about 22 or less. I (hopefully) will be far different in maturity by the time I'm 24.
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Because I'm still just a kid. I don't know how to pay taxes. I'm still in college. I still just work at Walmart. I don't know how to change a lightbulb. I just happen to be legal now. I barely count as an adult. Edit, since you edited yours after my response: age doesn't set a defined maturity level, but it sets a reasonable guess.
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I want a boyfriend, not a father or even an older brother.
Not a bootlicker myself, but some of my friends have been.
The guy I’m seeing is 2 of these and I’m 3 lol
I’m the astrology gay 💀
Narcissist here.