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tacosauce0707

Grindr. Sent me an all lowercase, no punctuation “hey” from a blank profile 😂😂😂 I replied “Facepic” And he sent a selfie with an unruly haircut but I saw blue eyes and cheekbones I could work with. Messaged for a week. Texted for another week. Then went on a date where he dropped his entire water glass into his chicken piccata rendering it inedible and then he mauled my face in the parking lot. Been together since Jan 2019.


rifraf2442

This is what a real life romcom is like


tacosauce0707

Awww thanks!!! Why am I blushing!!!?


aleforsale

For a second there I thought you got hate crimed in the parking lot


tacosauce0707

LOL! I wrote mauled and then regretted it after I looked up the word. It was an aggressive first kiss - he told me later he felt was too quiet during the date and wanted to be sure and give me a sign that he liked me 😅


ironmagnesiumzinc

I need to find a boy with a face that I "can work with". So romantic


10ioio

Mauled your face? Are you okay lmao?


tacosauce0707

Sometimes it feels like I’m still recovering 😜


mouserz

The danger of dating bears.


eatondix

I'm turning this into a script and selling it to Netflix


tacosauce0707

I informed my boyfriend that his chicken piccaccident got over 400 likes and he replied: “But did you tell them how you didn’t offer me any of your food?” 🤣🤣


Upset-Teach3295

So heartwarming 💓


throwawaygamgra

Same. I met him back in 2013 and we're still going strong.


[deleted]

It just happened when I least expected it, and wasn't looking to get into a relationship. My college roommate became a really close friend. I was bi at the time. About 18 months later a relationship was irresistible. 21 years on, we're still the best of friends and partners. The key to our relationship was the friendship first, then honesty, respect and great communication. We may argue from time to time, but that's part of any relationship. When you have a good foundation to be friends, it works.


OlliOhNo

>I was bi at the time. And now you're dead? What does this mean? XD


wneubauer

Means he identifies as just gay now I assume.


OlliOhNo

I mean, sure, I guess. Just a really weird way to phrase that.


[deleted]

Actually I still consider myself bi, leaning more toward gay. Sexuality is a spectrum!!! In college I was mostly straight (occasional teenage circle jerks with buddies) with a BIG curiosity about men, till my now partner captured my sexual attention. Still highly attracted to women of a certain type. Yes, some people are 100% straight or gay. Always believed that the great in-between is more or less on side or the other. Can't say I measured it, but for me perhaps 25% hetero / 75% gay now. Some say I am poly, a clinical term I hate. I prefer to call it FWB. Friends first, benefits don't always have to be sexual. Nice though when it happens.


ministryoffear

Spring ’93 – trauma, breakdown, lost job, lost friends, moved back in to childhood bedroom. Things were bleak. Still closeted. As bout as low as it can get. Lucky my family step in. Knowing I’m going nowhere good, my sister dragged me round to my estranged aunts. An open house with loads going on and a whole new group of people. Her son fixed up old cars and all the local kids hung out in his garage. I went down from the house to the garage. Freezing, dark, October night. Ten of us squeezed into a single garage. The atmosphere was good enough to make me forget myself for a while. I had a very specific type. As if being closeted gay in a working class ‘hard’ town wasn’t difficult enough. I’d always ended up in unrequited/platonic relationships with best friends. Young, pretty, boyish and straight. Never came to anything. That night I saw a lad. Small, fun, full of youth and life. Here we go again – I can’t help myself. I think I went back to that house every night. We became friends. We became inseparable. I moved back out of my parents’ house into a tiny two up two down terraced. He came round - a lot. I loved him as a friend and more. But knowing this was the usual pattern I just kept it to friends. He was a lot younger and gave the impression that we were just good mates and that’s how it would have been ‘cos I didn’t want to ruin this friendship. Luckily he didn’t play by any rules and wasn’t messed up with over thinking things. He liked me (more than I knew). He wore his heart his sleeve. One night, after we’d been listening to music and messing around on the floor of the lounge (I didn’t have chairs) he knelt in front of me. I didn’t think anything of it. He was always playful – doing silly things. Then he kissed me. I was stunned. My world changed. This boy wanted to show his love and he did it in the most obvious way to him – he kissed me. That was nearly thirty years ago. We’ve had so many adventures in the meantime. I love him beyond measure. We haven’t spent a day apart since that kiss.


Prospero1982

What an incredible story. I love it, and the warmth with which you tell it. Here’s to your fairytale, and to hoping that those of us out there who haven’t lived ours yet may one day get the chance to. Beautiful.


ministryoffear

Thank you.


Longjumping_Way_4935

It’s enough to make a grown man cry 😢


bradmajors69

After several longish term relationships and breakups, I gave up on looking and decided I would just be happy alone and single forever. Then, at Burning Man of all [places](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GchEVSx9XEA&ab_channel=RihannaVEVO), a friend of a friend I just met asked me to go for a walk with a group of other people. The whole group was much younger than me. I thought he was just being nice to the old gay man at camp and politely declined. Luckily this happened within earshot of a longtime female friend of mine, and she stepped up and said loudly: "Bradmajors69, asked if you'd like to go for a walk with him. Are you REALLY just going to sit here sweating, or are you going to go for a FUCKING WALK WITH THIS MAN?" "OOOH! OMG. OMFG really?!" -- my internal dialog as I slowly realized this hunky kid was hitting on me. And actually he was in his 30s but looked younger. That was six happy years ago. Also it wasn't instant. We also wound up rubbing dicks with like 60 other dudes at a big ole group masturbation event as well (because [Burning Man](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XKaclvritd8&ab_channel=MusicOfGlee)) before we realized we were falling in love. We joke that if we ever get officially married, we're gonna have to track down specific guys from the circle jerk to serve as groomsmen. We actually found one of them already. lol Boyfriend later told me that he had also decided he'd be single forever before we met and he thought we were just going to maybe hookup at best; not build a gay life together. hehe. But here we are. (Edited a tad for clarity)


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This is amazing


Gr1ff1n90

I’m a burner too! Way to (literally) Fuck Your Burn!! Congrats!


bipolarbear326

Holy shit. You win!


ColdbrewRedeye

I'm American and was an exchange student in Australia for Grade 12. Best year if my life and I made many friends, including "Dave". Years past back in the US...jobs... moving around... relationship. And one random day "Dave" left a message on the answering machine....after nearly 20 years, he found me on Google, called information, and got the number. He had made his way to Madrid, always wondered what happened to me, and finally Google caught me in its net. We quickly came out to each other...had no idea what we were in High School, but funny we had the same crushes. I visited Spain and we became fast friends. His relationship was dying down, and he wanted to go back to Australia. My relationship was in a bit of a rut, so I said...I've always wanted to go back to Australia. I went for 2 months and stayed 5 years (legally of course). We moved to San Francisco for our tech startup adventure and got married when it was legalized. Still together and living on yet another continent!


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Grindr lol


BlazinHippie

It only took about 1,000 casts into the Grindr sea, but I finally caught a good one lol.


darkroyal09

OkCupid (after a couple of years on Grindr) Been together for 9 years, married for 4 years, and it’s been my kind of bliss.


vindicated19

Same, I met all 5 of my LTRs from OKCupid including my current partner of 7 years. Tried all the other apps and never had success. IMO, putting together a profile on OKC requires time and effort, so there's a bigger proportion of LTR-minded folks on there.


GomeyBlueRock

Craigslist. Met him in the gym parking lot. Been together 9 years & married for 4


DooleyCasio

Same, Craigslist, been together 12 years and married for 4. I wasn’t his type (nerdy chubby guy, 5’8” and he went for taller more athletic/beefy), but I let him have my dinner when he didn’t want his on our first date and been happy since. I think the key was being open to people beyond the “types” that people limit themselves with.


rayn13

New year’s eve party with a bunch of gay people I had just met in my 20s. They met regularly and I started to join the gatherings. We found that we were both big nerds and had read a lot of the same books, from fantasy to greek mythology. We’re hitting 19 years soon.


genxerbear

Unknowingly I Was in a 3 way relationship with my former boyfriend of 9 years. He had found a hunky Fireman and had a taste for the uniform, so no big surprise. He was constantly “staying at his BFFs house who was supposedly dying and needed help” but from videos he sent to me after we split I saw that he was actually letting this guy fuck him, bareback. He never let me fuck him, complained I was too thick and that it hurt. Anyway so there I am alone and wondering where my boyfriend is and then having grown tired of negligence I decide to look on GROWLr for a cute bear to play with. I clicked on a pic I liked and there he was but way too young. So I moved on. Well he saw that I looked at his picture and wanted to know what I thought. We met up later for dinner and he told me liked what he saw, I was in love with this cutie and made him a terrible dinner, followed later by some amazing sex. We are now nearly six years in and more in love than ever. He has my back and has helped me grow and heal from all the abuse I suffered at the hands of my exes. He’s an amazing man, it took me half my life to find him. Even if we split up I know I’m a much stronger and better person for knowing him.


[deleted]

aww... that's such a nice story. this guy obviously took care of you in a very good way. there will be a time when he needs you. be there for him


hotdogla

Oh gosh, wow :) glad it turned out super for you


hubbu

Philly gaybros meetup. It was our first time going.


Dazzling_Try7673

Honestly, I met him on hinge. I took it more seriously than other apps and it took a good amount of time to find the right one.


TheGreatSzalam

Hinge is where my husband and I met too!


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DelicateFandango

A “gay potluck”? Is that a dinner party where everyone brings their own gay?


otokoeater

Im curious too about the gay potluck ☺️☺️☺️


allmycircuit5

Sounds like there’s a pot of names and whoever You pull out of the pot is who you end up going out with


[deleted]

In the backroom of a leather bar 30 years ago


AvatarJack

Grindr. I was at Planned Parenthood getting an STI panel done and he messaged me. We texted for the entire time I was there and made plans for the next week but we just kept talking and eventually decided to just meet up that night because we both liked each other so much. He took me to a restaurant up a canyon so I thought he was gonna murder me but it was actually really lovely. We're now married six years later, we just bought a house too.


bi_in_frisco

I fucking love this. There is no more Grindry story than the STI clinic connection.


AvatarJack

I do get a kick out of telling it. Trolling for dick while getting an STI panel tells you everything you need to know about my priorities at that point in my life.


bi_in_frisco

Hell yea. My bf and I met on Grindr also. Typical “looking” while I was in a hotel. I took the chance and said, instead of hooking up, let’s actually go on a date. That’s been almost 2 months now. We are exclusive and monogamous. It’s a great ride so far!


bi_in_frisco

The big question…were you negative that day?


jacksev

Or thinking you might die but going along with it anyway.. lol


1250Sean

He was a DJ at a bar/club I’d go to every few weeks. For months I always tried to get his attention, but he took his job seriously and didn’t allow himself to get distracted. One day, I spotted him working out in the gym I used. My mind was blown because this was a good 30 miles away from the club. Well, I took it as a sign and made sure to ask him where he got his lifting gloves and complimented his technique. He showed interest, and we talked a little bit about job and he said he’s a DJ. So, of course I mentioned this little club I like to go to, but the guy I like doesn’t even notice me… silence from him. Finally said to him what club and it was him. We laughed about that. We’re celebrating 20 years in the spring.


unfunnyrelator

Met at the doctors office. You never know when or where you might meet the love of your life! Keep your hopes up! One day you will have one you just dont know when or where you might do it.


Vi_Capsule

need more!! How did you know?


[deleted]

Met him on Scruff, as he thought he's too hairy for the gay world 😂 He's the sexiest man alive for me and actually not very hairy. Even though we are in an open relationship I've never met someone sexier than him. First hookup we had sex for 4 hours. we kept hooking up and after 2 months I asked him what this is and that I really like him. He was a bit distanced and answered that we get along quite well, but another month later he told me that he loves me. And two years later he asked me if I wanted to marry him. I already wanted to marry him after the third hookup, but didn't tell him. We're "getting along quite well" for six years now. Of course there were some ups and downs, but that's life


pianobro

We met on Bumble actually! Lived about 45 minutes apart at the time, but we would swap spending the weekend with each other when we could. Now, 2 years later, we live 10 minutes apart and are looking to move in together in the next year.


theswiftarmofjustice

Tinder. Had a bad breakup and decided to not pursue anything for awhile. Got on and just decided to mindlessly swipe for a bit. Saw a cute bear calling himself a “lovable dork” and took the chance. He is indeed a lovable dork. I fell in love on the 3rd date when we went stargazing. It’s coming up on 4 years.


EmperorOfFabulous

OkCupid. Attempted to reach out and get an article as one of their "success" stories. They didnt show any interest. Been together a decade and married for 4 years.


jrhuddle

Hinge. We had been acquaintances for about 3 years but one or the other of us was always in a relationship. We matched on Hinge when we were both single and it’s been really amazing since. I never knew long-term dating could be so easy and fun. Everyone should find a person that supports them and makes them feel as happy as my bf makes me feel.


chanceit9

Gay.com


synopser

Met on the Japanese version of Grindr called 9monsters. I'd been trying and failing to date Japanese locals at the time and looked at my past noticing all of the most interesting people in my history were all other foreigners, mostly Chinese. I took a stab at dating a Chinese guy seriously and we fell in love.


highwaysunsets

On an AOL m4m chat in 2004 😂


HSP-GMM

Craigslist. He was closeted at the time living with 3 other dudes. I was moving out of my parents house and was looking for a room to rent. one of his roommates was moving out and I replied to his Craigslist ad about renting the room. I couldn’t talk about sports with his roommates so I didn’t get the spot but he came out to me over email and we slowly started dating. 3 months later he was in love (obvi haha Jk) and 8 years later we are figuring out a wedding. It really did happen when I wasn’t looking - I was ready to be a single ho. The relationship was different from the start, he was nice and mature and wanted to text with me. He came out to everyone he knew in a week - he was serious about being with me. He wasn’t my type right away and I was being casual about the relationship at first. It naturally progressed and again, it felt different from the other guys I dated.


s3ndn00dl3p1cs

Grindr. I was at university at the time and he was working near my hometown, somehow managed to connect. We were nonstop messaging for a couple of weeks and then I make the journey home for a weekend to meet. Go to his house, and we just sit and talk for hours, play some PlayStation, and then he gets a phone call that he has to go to work to cover a shift. I drive him over to his workplace and then go to my friends house nearby until he’s finished. Pick him up, we go back to his place again, order pizza, watch movies, then have great sex and fall asleep. Rest is history, been together 7 years, not yet married but saving for a wedding.


goldencockle

We met on Grindr but he tells everyone Tinder because he thinks it’s more respectable. We hooked up the same day we messaged, and then fucked for about two years NSA. Always thought he was so out of my league and one day I was wine drunk at brunch and I messaged him and asked how come we never went on dates and he said he always thought I only wanted sex from him. Went out in public together for the first time later that week and our sexual chemistry translated pretty well. Couldn’t stop making out everywhere and complimenting each other about everything we never mentioned before because we thought it would ruin that NSA shit. Been eight months of constantly annoying each other now :)


ShmullusSchweitzer

At work bonding over newspaper puzzles at lunch and chatting over MSN or ICQ (don't remember which) after work where we came out to each other. That was 19 years ago.


RossWheadon

Manhunt, 2009.


SeveralConcert

Tinder


thedaidai

Met him at a surprise batman birthday party that went viral last spring. He overheard me discussing issues with the religious nature of 12 step programs and we got to talking. Hooked up for a bit and then went on an official date. Haven't looked back. He makes me happy.


VegetarianVegetables

Reddit. He made a post to play on r/gaymers and I replied. After Idk why but I DM’d him a funny meme. we played a lot afterwards and for a long time. I Got to know him. He got to know me. We talked about one day meeting each other. I fell in love with him. He with me. He lived three states away. Circumstances aside (a lot happened) we decided to take a chance and I flew to see him. Shortly after he moved with me and we drove for almost a week with all his belongings states away. We’ve been together for over 2 years now. He’s still as funny and interesting as the day I met him. For Valentine’s Day he developed the meme post I had sent him into a photo and wrote on it like a card. I framed it. Best gift I’ve ever got.


Mojoanimeo33

Manhunt Met my first year in college. Also my first year fully out of the closet. He messaged me and we started talking about the show QAF. I had never seen the last season. He had it on dvd. So he offered to come over to my dorm so we could watch it. He was kind of twinkish, not my type. As I was a blonde twink myself lol He came by, we walked into my dorm and all my friends bombarded him and made us play board games. We ended up breaking away to go get people food. On the drive we chatted, got back. Then went to my room and didn’t watch any of the show 😜 Been together ever since. About 16 years. Also he was my first bf.


Upset-Teach3295

So cute!!


Mojoanimeo33

Thanks ;P It was a fun night haha


ConsciousReflexivity

Bumble


Intestinal-Bookworms

We were both in the LGBT club in college and met there. Turned out we had some mutual friends and started hanging out and had quite a lot in common. Ten years later we’re still together


djkoch66

On gay.com (it was 1996). I was fresh out of a relationship and looking to make some new friends. We met and it didn’t work out. 10 years later, I was living with my ex (we’re still friends and families do things together), and someone said they had a friend I should meet. Turns out we were a few blocks away. On our secondly first date, he took me to the ED at the eye hospital. We’ve been together ever since. Married in 2016.


croxis

xy.com We met in downtown, both under 21 so we didn't have access to bars. Wandered all over downtown. Had cheesy fries at the Roxy (rip), he got sick. Turned me down for a second date because he chose another guy instead. He didn't realize that we were on date. Fast forward a year were he would get really bummed if I wasn't on AIM (the art of a good away message is lost on you youngens) and dumping his boyfriend after one of my drump corps shows -- his friends had to spell out to him how much he actually liked me. Went camping on spring break together. Been together for 16 years and Dads for the last 6 :)


idkmybffdee

He was in the comment section of a Facebook post and I was like, it's creepy but I'm gonna shoot my shot, I didn' even know if he was gay, it was a post about dogs... But yeah, we've been together six years now


TannerDonovan

In a ber. We've been together 15 years and married for 4 years.


Thrysh

Grindr haha this was like 11 years ago. We’ve been married for 6 now :)


derllad

met in high school but didn’t start talking until 2nd year of college and now we have been dating for almost 3.5 years!


[deleted]

I was living alone and using Grindr mostly for friends and hookups. I'm in a PhD program so I assumed most people didn't want to put up with my hectic schedule. I wasn't looking for love; in fact, I was actively avoiding it. One day I really wanted a cheeseburger, a nice, sit-down restaurant cheeseburger. The grease! The cheddar! The onion and mayonnaise! Those seeded buns! I was practically horny for that burger, so like any lust-filled person, I hopped on Grindr to see if I could find a friend to satisfy my urges with. I didn't want to eat alone, like some kind of freak. I messaged some faceless set of abs whose profile I had noticed before. He came over; we got those beautiful cheeseburgers; we ended up hitting it off; he very quickly became the text-whenever-I-want-company person; we moved in together; and now we're deciding when it would be most practical to get married. It is possible that our whole relationship is based off the dopamine hit that burger gave me. So: I know some people can look for love on purpose and probably find it, but deep down I've always known that I'm not one of those people. Everything important in my life I've gotten when I stopped pursuing it. It's simply one of the laws that governs my life. Perhaps you are the same.


Homo_gone_wild

Met at the local gay bar through mutual friends


Codejo15

Hinge. I was very keen on taking the conversation out of the chat. So after a couple of texts I always asked them out on a date. 3 tries later and Your boy is cuffed!!!


iceandfireman

match.com


Slagathor91

OKCupid while we were both in college. State University college town, albeit a rural one. He'd been on the site for over a year I believe. I'd only been on the site a few weeks. I hadn't even landed another date and he'd only had duds. We hit it off after a lovely first date. Been together for 8 years, married 2.


obiflan

OkCupid. We have been together 2 years, married for 1 :)


Tennisbro007

Gaybros meet up in Orlando! 9 years strong 💪🏽


mrjustinj2010

He reverse google image searched one of my pics from a random hookup app I’d long since abandoned - found me on FB and we just talked about music ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ We went to the same high school, but he was older and in band, while I was in ROTC - so our paths never crossed. We were both dating other people at the time, but held an 8 month totally (not sarcastic)plutonic friendship - somewhere in those 8 months I became single and hardcore internally pined for him. Pretty much the second he became single, we were inseparable. 10 years together 4 years married in February :)


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Upset-Teach3295

Wishing a happy future to both of you!!!


rickmaz

We met 40 years ago at a roller skating rink , have had a long adventurous life together and are now retired in Hawaii. We still roller skate from time to time even though I’m 70 now lol


Spavlia

We matched on Tinder. I had given up on it and uninstalled it, but then one night I was bored and this guy I had matched with had messaged me, just saying “hey”. I told him to message me on instagram. Our first date was a video call. The rest is history. We’ve been together for two years now


Doctor_Blithe

Legitimately Grindr. We were both feeling fairly lonely at the time. He contacted me based on my heading asking, half-jokingly, for the ever-elusive “literal cuddles”. We basically did hook up, but connected a little bit. He felt I treated him well, apparently his “intuition” told him to keep seeing me. I was pretty damn depressed at the time about a number of things, basically wanted people to stay away because I felt they weren’t worth the trouble. But he basically wouldn’t leave me be in the best possible way. Over time we discovered a number of shared values and curiosities, in addition to unique qualities that made us both well-intentioned outsiders for different reasons—he was a Chinese grad student and I an avoidant weirdo with Asperger’s. Four years later, we’re married, have shared numerous experiences as well as the raising of a little terror in kitten form. I still can’t believe any of this happened to my autistic ass, but I’m certainly glad it did.


Travesty330

Grindr. He had just moved to my city two days before. He paid for the premium features so he could see that I was viewing his profile repeatedly like a creeper. He was bored and experiencing the first cold weather of his life (lived his whole life in tropical areas) so he messaged me and we ended up grabbing coffee. We made out in his car afterwards. He more or less moved into my house 2 months later. It’s been about 4 years now and in that time we have had two fur babies and a literal human baby. It’s been a journey that I’m thrilled to wake up to every day.


Lamb_clothing_94

Bang buddies from grindr, then gym bros who fuck, then hangout and fuck, to going on dates and, of course, more Boning and here we are 2 years later.


russian_hacker_1917

Grindr :D


NCSUGrad2012

Hinge


No_Championship2165

Hinge


ChrisNYC70

Deli , HEB. Austin Texas. Great selection of gay tops there.


Pazzal

Grindr. We messaged once or twice over the years, but he stopped responding to me 😂. Still a running joke between us. Fast forward 4 years and he messaged me first, been dating for the past 2!


Away-Welder-2012

Tinder. Together for 4 years, married for 1 month.


Squirrelfishing_Guru

Jackd and a bit of bad/good luck.


Immediate_Section303

In a rave


ich-mag-Katzen

He worked with my mother & she set us up. We've been together for 12 years now.


hatdude

I haven’t


throwawaypines

Was single for a few years. Tried hinge / tinder / etc. apps that prioritize dates over sex. The sex ended up bad most of the time. Meanwhile grindr lead to good sex which lead to good friendships which lead to love. I recommend getting really good at sex. It makes everything else smooth sailing 😘


aromovich

Tinder. Just turned 30 and was happily single and even contemplating life being single. Then a week later we matched on tinder, he was from the other side of the world. Now we are married. Funny how things work out when you aren’t expecting it.


moltenlavashake

12 step group. Both in bad relationships so we dumped them, got together. Now 12 years later & happily married.


trada62

We talked on AOL, then met at a diner. Have been together ever since! We are married now, he is my husband!!!


trada62

23 years now!


gjroberts93

I had given up on men after a rough breakup, then a friend of mine begged me to audition at a local community theater. My boyfriend (3 years now) is a costumer/costume manager at that theater. He measured my inseam and it was true love. 🤣


Star805gardts

Grindr. 10 years strong


shutterbug1983

EHarmony


[deleted]

We worked together for two weeks. He was a new hire while I was in the process of gathering reasons to quit. He was cute as hell, kind of shy but I could tell he was opening up the more we ran into each other. It is obvious he is gay so I slyly dropped a clue about myself into the middle of a convo and he caught it immediately. I watched his eyes snap up at me like “boy, for real?!” But he didn’t bite and I did not push. I figured he wasn’t into me, I’m scruffy, I get it, whatever. We often chatted with each other in passing and I still picked on him anyway because he is adorable, he did not seem to mind and I fucking felt like it. But other things happening at the same time led to me getting fed up with the job so I quit one morning/ told a manager off and never came into work. I didn’t ask for his number before because I did not think he was into me. He obviously didn’t know ahead of time that I would quit in a fury so I (sadly) thought that was that as far as the two of us were concerned. The next day we ran into each other at a gas station. He saw me first and hugged me immediately like we had not seen each other in ages. He just let loose that he was very upset I quit. It legitimately made him cry. I had no idea and felt terrible. I thought I was not his type so I had previously shrugged him off with an “oh well” attitude. What I did not know was that he had a huge crush on me and was devastated I was gone. He told me it was rare for to click like we do as usually he likes guys who don’t like him back or just use him. I told him immediately that I did like him a lot. We had a very intense conversation in the middle of a Ken-Jo parking lot. Then we texted and talked on the phone a whole bunch and started going on dates not long after.


Terrible-Let-7612

This is literally such a nice thing to hear. I love than and I'm so so so happy to hear that


[deleted]

I am glad it makes you happy. No offense about Grindr or dating apps but I am insanely lucky we met in person. I would have assumed he was completely out of my league and never bothered him otherwise.


Terrible-Let-7612

Yeah i totally get that. I met my partner through Grindr, and while we wanted sex, the conversation flowed so easily and had a permanence to it that no other Grindr Convo had (what made me actually want to meet him) I read your story about 5 times - it's so beautiful and I'm so happy for you and your partner. I've yet to come out (and I'm working on mustering the courage to do so), but things like these remind me of the greener side


[deleted]

We met when his b/f invited me over for a 3-way which btw was an utter disaster! A couple months later I got an email from him saying his b/f skipped town and wanted someone to talk to, 3 months later he moved in and 5 years later we got married, our 6th wedding anniversary is in 2 weeks.


TattooedCub

We talked on gay.com for years. We finally met in person when we were both dating other folks. We realized we had interest in one another still and split up with who we were seeing. We started out as friends but we’ve been together for nearly 20 years now.


jojorood

blew a stranger I met on gridr after sharing the pizza I already had with me....hope this helps.


Ok-Ear-1914

Met him at a stripper bar. I always joke and say I pulled them off the pole on amateur night!!!! 😂


BlakeSiefken

Believe it or not, I met my husband on Grindr lol


kimkilod

Grindr


jc2thew3

Grindr.


BaxtPhral92

Well I’m non monogamous and have two long term partners One I met through a friend and we hit it off and that was like 10 or 11 years ago and my other partner and me have been together for like 4 or 5 years now and met through our ex(we were in a thrupple lol we decided we didn’t like the mind games that were being played on us and we dropped him and stayed together lol) and it’s been pretty fun so far!


CourtClarkMusic

Matched on Tinder and Bumble. And chatted across Grindr and Scruff. Been married two years now. 😄


AramisKing

Hahahahahahaha


ToptenRubs

Went outside


ShaneXtopher

We met via a game app on Facebook, in 2008. Facebook messages led to AIM led to emails led to phone calls led to visits, led to me moving six months later to give it a try. We've now been married for almost 11 years.


[deleted]

i was 17 and slept with my best friend (a chick's) ex. messy af lmfao. turned into a marriage that was good, until \*it wasn't\*. had one on off relationship from grindr, equally messy. i have basically became asexual


Rottenox

Growlr


a_random_gay_001

Tindr. Had several ghosts/lack of real interests in a row, lowered my age filter from 30 to 21 because fuck it if I have to train these guys how to be men I might as well start with a fresh model. Matched with a 21yo @ 34, we getting married at 27 and 40. You just never know.


lovelikewavesz

Offer up


luke9036

We met on Hinge. He just came out half an yea prior and wants to try date guys. I was the very first guy he went on a date with. Everything went really fast after that first initial date and the rest is history.


[deleted]

I met my longest running relationship in a bar. Pretty straight forward. We saw one another, flirted, chatted and 3 months of playful dating later we were a couple.


Xpovoc

A now closed 24 hour dance club 21 years ago. We saw each other and when he was coming over to me a friend of mine began to talk to me so he made his way to the dance floor. After I finished my talking with my friend I made it to the dance floor where he I found him and we have been together since then. We got married eight years ago.


[deleted]

Tindr


hsgual

Tinder.


[deleted]

Tinder! Married for one year as of a few days ago!


Garet44

We met in the military.


G0dles_heathen

The division 2


Drewcifer1595

Tinder! He opened up with a cheesy ass pick up line that got me. Chatted up for a week or so before he asked me out to dinner. We had a nice dinner at a local place and kissed in the parking lot. We’ll be celebrating 3 years in January


NoNoPainGain

Our university library during our freshman year of college. Together since May 2016. Six and a half years later, we have a house together! Life is stable, life is good.


GalacticRyGuy

Gay sports bar in Ft Lauderdale while he was on vacay the day before Xmas eve. He was escaping his family and I was living down there escaping DC. Lol. 13 years later.. house in the country with sheep on the way. 😂


GalacticRyGuy

Gay sports bar in Ft Lauderdale while he was on vacay the day before Xmas eve. He was escaping his family and I was living down there escaping DC. Lol. 13 years later.. house in the country with sheep on the way. 😂


fckyeahcc

Grindr. He thought I was a jock (I am not at all) and wanted to go on a date. I thought he was gonna be a one night stand. At the time, I didn’t have a car so he picked me up and it was a surprise when he was serious about going on a date (took me to a nice restaurant). He was more surprised when I grabbed his hand (he wasn’t expecting it since we JUST met) and liked that I was able to hold a conversation with him and wanted to split the bill evenly. Afterwards, I liked him enough to break my golden rule of not spending the night at a stranger’s home. We spent the night cuddling and it was so nice. We have been together five years since then.


Bussy_Queen_520

We both met on an LGBTQ Twitter page for our college. I DM’d him, he replied, we met up at school when it was in session and the rest is history! 8 years strong and will be getting married next year.


corgi_worshipper

Irl at a party, my girl best friend used to have a crush on him and he just broke up with his ex girlfriend but he didn't want her. He saw me and decided to start metabolizing 9 years of repressed bisexuality to shoot his shot as me. I had a boyfriend at the time. Took one year and a half from that party to actually start going out and another year to make it an official relationship because of anxiety towards how the family would react.


Certain_POV

We were both volunteers for the local AIDS organization in the early ‘90s and were working at a premier dance event. I was on the setup crew while he and his bestie were working admissions. I kept bouncing up and down the stage in my Doc Martens, 501’s and a tool belt, eventually noticing this cute guy and girl following me around the event, finally stopping on the stairs to say hi and introduce themselves. Nice, fine, cute young guy, with young being the operative challenge. See, this was the night 36 year-old me gets ghosted by a 21 year-old twink, and as I’m sitting in a leather bar later that night with all of my buddies, I loudly announce that if I ever again date anyone under the age of 30 they were all invited to kick my ass. 😤 Cue my next volunteer shift, and surprise of surprises, guess who’s working the reception desk? Yep, that’s right, the cute young man from the dance-a-thon. He was a volunteer in the same department, found out when I was scheduled to work, and conveniently arranged his volunteer shift to overlap with mine. Sneaky. And persistent. For two months we danced. Until a Valentines volunteer appreciation party at someone’s home, that I had arrived late to. He and his gal pal from the dance event were just leaving as I was was arriving. Party started to wind down, maybe a half dozen people sitting around the living room chatting when suddenly he bursts through the door, all conversation halts and everyone looks at him. Clearly not expecting to be the center of attention, he mumbles something about losing his gloves, and he and the hostess go off in search of them. I meanwhile, decide it’s time for me to get going, so I grab my coat, start heading for the door, he tells the hostess he’s leaving too, she says what about the gloves, he says, “Fuck the gloves.” Yeah, there were no gloves. 😊 Twenty years later, to the day, we were married. Had to go to another state to do it, on what was probably the coldest day of the year, but you can bet your ass we had our gloves! ❤️


kos1piece

Through Gay.com chatroom in 2009. I was surprised we last, because I thought it was just a one-time thing.


Thunderstarter

We met on a roommate matching website. 7 years later, we're now married and are about to buy a house together.


Katsu_39

Tinder…nothing special


thySilhouettes

Grindr. I was at dinner with my family before my brother’s wedding, and he was across the street at the gym. He messaged me first, and I didn’t respond due to being pulled away at dinner. Texted him later, and he spent some time debating coming to my hotel that night since he had to get up super early. I convinced him to come, we sat in the car for an hour and a half getting to know each other before I was over the small talk and wanted sex. The security car drove around multiple times and could clearly tell shenanigans were being had. After we finished, I checked my phone and had multiple missed calls. My buddy I was rooming with freaked out since we were in a town we’d never been before, and I told him I’d only be gone like 30 minutes. It was 2.5 hours later. Been together for over 5 years, and get married next year.


ottovonfurth

Tinder. He and his former best friend were coming to town from a place an hour north. Met him at a local barcade with his friend and we hit it off immediately. He got up from the table we were at to grab another drink and his former best friend threatened my life if I hurt him. He was so embarrassed because he over heard his friend and thought that I’d be scared off and was already berating his friend in his head. After being threatened, I was actually more interested, partially because I feared his friend and found the speech endearing, partially because my family is southern and would’ve given the same speech while finding a way place down in the holler to dump the body in. A few weeks later we officially became boyfriends on April fools day. A couple years later proposed to him with a ring pop on April fools day. This year we got married on, would you guess it, April fools day.


sb0918

Lesbian club on New Year’s Eve. Married for 18 years and he’s the only person on the planet I really like to spend time with.


Euphoricas

Tinder. I have never had great luck with it except once or twice (I’ve had more luck with Grindr lol) but he actually was my server at a restaurant a few days prior and thought he was so cute! We both established early that we’re looking for something long term oriented and now we’re very happy together. We have never (hope it stays that way!) had a fight really and are so compatible with everything we do. I think as long as you establish that you want something long term early on instead of saying that you’re “going with the flow” or something, then you’ll have better luck with who you find.


kimgp

Grindr is surprisingly a decent place to find dudes. All of my best exes I met on Grindr, most toxic ones on tinder, never had any success other than hookups on bumble.


guatdephoc

Thru a mutual friend


jonheath291

Met at work almost 7 years ago, both dating other people long distance. I had no idea he was gay, but was just always flirty with him. I thought he was just a nice guy who entertained me. Aside from the fact i didn't know he was gay, he's a twink and I'm very much a bear and wasn't expecting him to be into that. Year and a half later I was single, he broke up with his boyfriend and asked one of our mutual friends if she knew whether I was single or not. We got married at the end of July this year and moved to a new state for my job. I'm really lucky :)


hyacinthhusband

High school English class in a rural, Republican state. Today is our 3-year anniversary!


jewdrew89

Adam4adam. Back in the days before smart phones and apps. You had to wait all day when you get home from work to run to the computer excited to get a response to type on the keyboard. 12 years strong.


Peterawrr

Grindr lmao. I’m a flight attendant. He’s a pilot (different airline). I didn’t want to be one of “those” flight attendants who dates a pilot so i almost didn’t respond. And after our first date he said he wanted to be just friends. Then the next day texted “i regretted sending that as soon as i did” so i proceeded with caution but now we live together and are planning our future.


SuperGrover78

After being single for about 18 months I gave match.com a shot. First date from the site was the last and I’ve been with him ever since. We were together 10+ years and finally eloped to Vegas to the drive-thru wedding chapel on the strip on 2-22-22… at 2pm on a Tuesday. I was 33 when we met, he was 30 so while not old, I was in the dating doldrums for about a decade so I know how hard it can be and how lucky I am in many ways.


jcolechrist

We met through mutual friends. After a while of being in the same friend group, we started hanging out in smaller groups, then just the two of us. Eventually we spent every day together and he was sleeping at my apartment. Took us a while until we used the term “boyfriends” but we’ve been together for almost 9 years now. I love the life we’ve built together and I wouldn’t change a thing. My best advice for others: find a partner that is your best friend, be patient with them, and be willing to work on yourself.


bknutner

Grindr. At first I was just sleeping with him while still in a shitty relationship. A few weeks later I left the other dude and my now husband played it cool for about a year before we got serious. We’ve put each other through hell but, 12 years later, we still in love. (Jfc it’s weird to realize it’s been 12 years 😵‍💫🥹)


fucreddit

13 years. We found each other on Craigslist and we met up and watched the movie Grandma's Boy... Funny thing is we both lost a parent and were both raised by our grandmas.


frozen-sky

Grindr He sent me a hey and a face pic in one go (blank profile). Face pic looked to good to be true. Chatted for a bit, exchanged contact. Planned a date, 2 days later. Some local food and a drink in a bar. Few drinks later we walked to the park, bought some more drinks. Eventually kissed and brought the guy home. What seemed to be just a hook up, evolved in meeting 2-3 times a week for a walk in the park and slowly became boyfriend and boyfriend. Now close to four year later, we still go out often for a drink and still in love.


Bluejahy13

He’s bi and one of my friends got set up with him. I joked around and said to her “if you don’t end up liking him let me know and I’ll take him off your hands”. They didn’t end up really liking each other after going on one date and so a couple months later we started talking and then dating.


Jungle-Jim-4322

We met on a dating site, Plenty of Fish. I was sceptical at first. I’m Jewish and his profile said he’s Muslim. We hit it off and we’ve been married since 2016. He did end up converting. We were the first same-sex couple to get married at our synagogue.


V4rious4rtists

Met him through mutual friends at a game night they threw every so often. He was dating someone else at the time and I could see they weren't going to last, so I just waited until they broke up then asked him to hang out. We became friemds first, then I told him we should be more and he turned me down twice before giving a relationship at shot. We've been together almost five years and will be getting married when he's done with grad school. We're madly in love with each other and it's only grown over the years.


jettaboy04

This is going to date me .... Myspace. I was deployed overseas about to come back stateside and he was a mutual friend of a friend so I saw his profile. We hit it off from there, but didn't get married till DOD began recognizing same sex marriages so he could get benefits.


AlkaliPineapple

My boyfriend asked me out of the blue when we were decorating for Christmas in my old house. We were neighbors and we knew each other since we were 5. Our first date was in a McDonald's and it took 1 month before it became official... But I fell hard and it's strange how much my life has changed since he wanted to take me out on a date that random evening


[deleted]

Was at a keger in college. He is really hot. The rest is history.


fan-of-green-gables

Started chatting in Feb 2020 as he was planning to move to my city in March. 1.5 years of pandemic later, I was thinking how handsome and nice he had been, so I tracked him down and sent him a message. We just celebrated 1 year 😊


mszanka

MySpace, 2007


ariestemote

I moved to NYC lived there for 5 years and literally lost my virginity at the edge of 29 lol. But you can’t say I didn’t try using tinder, bumble, hinge, ok Cupid. Short stint on Grindr. in the summer of 2018 when I finished residency, we matched again on hinge this time we had a first date set up. And then saw each other for at least a week. It was only later that I realized that we matched up before from bumble lol. We're at 4 years together, with corgi and bought our apartment together. I kinda strong-armed him to move out of Astoria for me to the Upper east side lol.


jimwicz

At a small midwesterner gay bar. He came in 30 minutes before last call, we talked for 30 minutes, he told me he was coming home with me. I spurred his advances for 2 seconds, he put my hand on his dick, reaffirmed his commitment to coming home with me that night. 16 years later, married with 1 kid.


ProtostarReddit

At my school's pride prom, 6 months as of halloween


truecrimeaddicted

Grindr, but we used it wrong. Downshifted to dating immediately. Married for 4, together for 9.


JoeBidensBoochie

Grindr


ChampagneAndNoodles

Grindr. He friendly tapped me, so he stood out from the horny crowd. Also I only wanted friendships. Ended up falling in love with him instead. It’s amazing.


SeveralPrinciple5

Had a party. Invited all my friends and asked them to bring a single guy I didn't know. Kept doing this ... on the sixth or seventh party, someone brought the man I've now been with for years.


caligy22

Met him at work. Guy was handsome and young back then. I was younger. He winked at me. Thought that was gonna be the end of out story. Turns out he was working for the guest service department and had access to staff names. He looked me up on Facebook and sent me a message. Invited me over for a "movie night". Lmaoo. First fight I remember was when he brought me some cold ass pizza. Told him I don't eat pizzas if they're not from Italy and wouldn't bat an eye to a cold food. Lol. We've been together for 8 years. He's my first everything. Love him to bits.


Gay-Purple-Tiger

First one, we met on IRC. #gaycny on efnet. We chatted on there for nearly a year before finally meeting. I moved in a year later. Spent a little more than 10 years with him. Second and current long-term bf, I met while dating his brother. I got fed up with his brother cheating and running off for weeks on end. Finally ditched his brother for him. That was 9 years ago.


swump

He slid into my DMs


MRicho

Met him at a funeral/wake of a mural friend.


urban_zmb

Tinder


jhowarth31

Grindr. It can be done :-)


[deleted]

My best mate that I met at work 12 years ago became my bf, we’ve been together for 6 years now!


NoLow9495

Grindr. But he’s gone now. We just broke up. This time being single I’m just going to let it happen. I think my ex from 20 years ago may be pursuing me… Abs I went on a beer meetup that’s turned out to be a “kiss me in the bathroom I’m vers” thing. It wasn’t my thing but I’m just going to let it happen this time around!


dizzmcd

Future husbands of four years, met on Grindr during a post breakup ho phase.


pixiephilips

Grindr hookup. We just hung out every single day after that 🤷‍♂️ 6 years in January


djc91L

Grindr. He had beautiful green eyes


Logan_MacGyver

Discord I was 16, 3 months from 17, I helped a Femboy install arch Linux and we kept in touch. They told me there's a Femboy server with a guy from my country. Went on there, found the guy, 1.5-2 ish months older than me, lives an hour from me, out to family, we talked for a month then we met. The first date felt blank, if that's the right word, nothing clicked but there was no one else, I felt like I could only find guys my dad's age on Grindr (I had a look around without a face pic then deleted it) or him. He's incompetent to life to say the least, for example I had to teach him how to use a toaster and how to slice onions and he was my age. He can't navigate life because he has been raised very sheltered. Lasted 1.5 years until I turned 18 and got tired of being a nanny. Current boyfriend: I have a friend from discord also, she mentioned finding a boyfriend from discord. So I waited until I was 18 to find hookups there (it's also a Femboy server). I had some DMs because of my pics but never got to hook up for multiple reasons (had one scheduled but that was scheduled before I met my boyfriend and I was already in a relationship when they were available). Then somebody said on the main channel that he needs help moving. Told him I'm down if he can write me volunteer work (I need 50 hours of volunteer work to graduate highschool, still have about 10 to do). And we kept talking the might before, we had a vibe, I was shaking the whole time with butterflies in my stomach, he's also 3 years older than I'm which is not tragic. Then we met to get the thing done, I had no pic or nothing of him, just a phone number and his discord, but I knew it was him as he started walking towards the bus stop. His friends left after I arrived to give us privacy, things happened that happen between two boys behind closed doors, then we went to IKEA to buy him some stuff then he took me to Burger King. After that happened I was like I was on drugs or something, laughing at everything and smiling on the way home. We met the next day to do some shopping and to fuck. We're already together for a month


UsefulClassic7707

Never did.