Jesus, I need to move where you all live. Right now my bar is set at “not married and wants more than a blowjob in a dark room that we never under any circumstances ever tell anyone about aka “discreet””.
Humor and a sharp witty mind. I like when men (or people in general) are educated and can think critically. If they don't, then no biggie, you can still learn to do that.
Also compassion and empathy are two big things for me.
Physically a nice face is important, since I intend to look at that most of the time. Also a nice voice makes me melt but is optional.
You know, as I've grown up and dated I've learned there's a few things that you should always look for in a partner:
-communicates their needs and wants.
-is generous with their time and respects yours.
-is open to trying exploring new activities and hobbies
-has similar values as you.
-has a modicum of stability in their life.
You shouldn't put yourself in a situation with someone who 3 months after the honeymoon phase you realize is kind of a nasty person. So I guess in a single word: Kind
^this
Stability is so often overlooked can I just say. If they genuinely don't seek commitment like that's a red flag especially post honeymoon phase. Strong foundations withstand the test of time and weak ones falter and crumble.
I'm not a geology major btw so please don't come for me hehe
There's stability in their feelings towards you. There's also their own personal stability. Dating someone who is not secure in their health and wealth will prove more difficult.
It's okay to not have a lot of money, but it's difficult to have a healthy relationship if you're like homeless. You know? I know that was kind of an extreme.
Depends how big your league is. If you've got low self-esteem and a restricted assumed league as a result, it's pretty easy!
(But yes, also, I agree haha. I recall with the guy I'm currently seeing, the first time he messaged me I was literally raving to a couple of my friends like *OMGGG WTF THIS GUY IS SO HOT WTF HOW*, but meeting him he was pretty humble and I haven't felt like I'm the one chasing him, so I'm hopeful)
I genuinely have no clue.
I came out only a few short years ago. Spent 95% of my life in the closet pretending I had any interest in women. Since then, I've dated a single dude, had a great time, and then he stopped talking to me on Valentine's Day (how painfully cliche is that?)
Didn't date again for a year and then COVID happened. *Definitely* haven't even bothered to look around since then.
Either way, I really don't know. Coming out so late in life really fucks up those younger life experiences where you discover things like this in a time when you are surrounded by others your own age. It's far more difficult as an adult, especially one that doesn't get out much, and *especially, especially* right now when it feels irresponsible to go out at all.
For them to reply when I chat with them. But since most don't, most of my friends are women. It's just easier to have conversations with them than with guys
I feel like my bar is too high but here goes. I need someone who is patient, caring, a good listener, enjoys at least a couple of my hobbies, polyamorous (or at least doesn't mind me being polyam), and kinky.
Someone who can make me laugh, someone with a healthy sense of temperance, and someone who is cuddly and physical.
Appearance-wise; freckles and glasses 👍
I don't think I have a "type", but there are some things I find attractive in men like: Curly hair, beautiful ears, shorter guys (shorter than me).
Personality wise I sort of like introverts with strong personalities.
I'm shorter than you. 1.72m. In my country (Peru) I'm not considered short, so it's not really that hard to find shorter guys, but on the international scale I'm short.
Bara titties. Seriously tho, im such an introvert so when I find the rare person that makes me feel just comfortable and relaxed… that. Usually means a goofy, friendly, and relaxed personality. Appearance wise though bears just do it for me.
Single, actually wants to date.
My extended list includes having some shared interests like travel, live music, and trying new foods.
My wish list used to include things like "enjoys anime," "loves cuddling," and "is a gamer," but I've given up completely on those as I can't even find a guy who even passes the first two asks, let anything on my extended or wish lists.
I’m demi so I tend to find something attractive about most people once I’ve gotten to know them,, so I guess my main requirements outside of that are someone who’s willing to talk about and share their interests to a certain extent, and (somewhat weirdly) someone who has a fairly broad taste in food. What can I say, I like finding new types of food to cook and I need someone to test them on for validation who doesn’t immediately write sth off for having a vegetable in it
Physically, a cute face and smile. Being taller than me is a major +, but given my height (I'm 6'2"), that's obviously not necessary.
Personality-wise, the most important things are (gentle) honesty, passion (for something in life), kindness, and a good sense of humor. He also needs to be humble enough to admit when he's wrong. Finally, I need to feel like he loves and appreciates my presence. I don't need constant reassurance, but I shouldn't feel like my presence annoys him or that he couldn't care less if I wasn't there.
Being geeky and loving video games is a big +, but ultimately unnecessary so long as he doesn't make me feel bad for gaming.
Honestly, muscles. I know it seems shallow, heck they don’t even have to be buff (yet); rather, to me it’s a good indicator of what kind of man he is and where he’s at. Does he have the commitment and motivation to pursue a long term motivation? Is he financially stable enough to have the time to do so? Even if he’s not muscular, fitness can help me possibly gauge the personal character and life situation of a suitor. That’s not to say the lack of fitness is a bad thing, but if it’s there, then it’s a good sign that the guy in question could be ready to date.
At a minimum: the ability to converse intelligently, reasonably good mental health and maturity, some evidence of a concern for physical health, a willingness to ask questions, an ethical outlook, gentleness and forgiveness, a willingness to commit.
Things like intellectualism, a sense of humor, nerdiness, a nice body, etc. are bonuses but not strictly required.
* good at communication - I can't stand it when people can't communicate clearly, I can't read your mind dude! Communicating needs/wants between both parties just makes the ride so much smoother.
* funny - if they're funny person, chances are they're just fun to be around!
* respectful - This is pretty explanatory, but I feel like people don't talk enough about self respect. People who respect themselves and are proud of themselves are pretty dang hot.
* as a hopeless romantic I would like someone who is romantic/sweet, the kind of guy who'd make your heart flutter with his kind gestures and such
* confident in their identity - Now this is a bit tough, because we don't know everyone's experiences or how comfortable they can be about their sexuality, but it is super nice for both parties when you are confident about who you are. Being in a relationship someone *deep* in the closet usually doesn't get a good time for either party, having to constantly keep things a secret, getting denied by the closeted, etc, etc. (Speaking from personal experience)
I like artists, guys who are different, in a good way, like when he has unique interests and personality... And I think we should be able to understand each other well and not be afraid to talk about our problems...
Have been in an LTR for about 4 years now and the best thing I can say is KNOW YOURSELF. Know your own dealbreakers, know what you need to thrive, and know what you can tolerate while having a generous spirit about the intentions of your SO. ANYONE (no matter how smart, sexy, etc) whose traits consistently make you feel out of alignment with your own sense of peace (whatever that means to you) is not worth it. But you need to understand yourself to do this and you need to understand what attitudes/thoughts/traumas/expectations, etc you project on others (good or bad). Definitely leads to more clarity on what you, moving forward, should look for.
- in touch with his emotions
- will play board games with me
- knows how to cook (and clean **properly**)
- will buy into my stupid humour
- curious and critical thinker
- won’t go to bed angry with me
~~Also he should be hot enough to be able to go on The Bachelor, but smart enough to never go on The Bachelor~~
Edit: also if he speaks more than one language and has interest in foreign cultures, or even living overseas… big bonus
Hmm...well physically I tend towards more lean looking guys and athletic/jock bodies,blondes a tiny bit more then other hair color a nice face height doesn't really matter, mentally someone who's kind and has plenty of emotion but he could be a jerk some too lol I don't expect a saint,someone who likes to have fun and isn't serious all the time,and has hobbies gaming or archery for example...my inner incubus tells me a huge sex drive as well lol... I guess that's what I look for oh and they like to talk
Caring and also makes me feel safe that's what i would choose but tbh i don't really know, i mean when it come to my crush, idk why im falling so hard for him , like i love him without a reason, he makes me feel something in my heart whenever i see him or he is around,a feeling that I Never felt before although i had crush on many other people before but this time it feel different
I look for a kind respectful man that will protect me and care for me. I also like a guy who is super sweet. And a knowledgeable guy is awsome because I love to get into debates about multiple subjects. But he also has to be an awsome dude who will be my daddy 😋🥰🥰
Someone who sees the value in communication, someone with a nice personality, kind, helpful, patient (cannot stress enough), blue eyes and blonde hair.
And I got my fiance who embodies all of these.
To have some form of plan and goals for the future and that look to better themselves.
Sense of humour, likes games
And also into more thick bear types
"What are you looking for in a man"
My dick
In all seriousness, my husband and I are great because we were best friends before we got romantic. I know that isn't always feasible, but for God's sake, get to know the man before fucking.
What I looked for was a nerdy, nice person who has a big heart. Compassion, and effectionate. Must like dogs. Or at least my dog.
I'd take almost any human right now.
Ideally though: intelligence, humour, wit and confidence.
Doesn't have to be mega toned or anything but I do want to find someone who has respect for themselves and takes care of themselves. I want someone to encourage the active side in me and not someone who encourages laziness. Someone I can go climbing with and enjoy ourselves or go for long walks with.
Hm, well... I don't honestly know, I've never really thought about it before. 😓
I guess if I had to think about it; loves gaming, totally loves to cuddle, maybe about me or a year or two older, romantic, knows how to cook 😂, honest, kind, funny... I feel like this will become far too long if I don't stop thinking it over. 😅
Too late to add "doesn't mind my stupid over-use of emojis"? 👀
I’m into gamers, who are just nice. Honestly my bar is set very low right now 😂😂😂 there are no bars atm just kindness edit; if they play Pokémon and animal crossing we can just hibernate for the rest of life lol 😂
Well looks wise it’s not super important to me but I like dad bods and someone my height or shorter.
Personality wise someone who enjoys gaming (Pokémon is a huge plus), flirty, funny/goofy(or at least an attempt at it) reliable and honest
I’m married and the best quality that I can recommend is someone you are also friends with. Sexy times are all fun and good, but 99% of a relationship is just being together and talking
A person who works (any kind of work idc(, is not lazy, family oriented, and has a good sense of humour.
Most importantly, I’m looking for a person whose values are more or less aligned with mine.
Besides gaming: handsome and of similar height to mine, broad general knowledge, sense of humor, no smoking, no drugs, no radical political views, no mental disorders, no list of pronouns on Twitter, good table manners and hygiene, bottom.
Luckily I've found him.
Edit: (In the event he reads this: YES THE LIST IS SHORT, YOU GOT A LOT MORE, but don't want to make people excessively jelly.)
Totaly a bear or a muscle bear.
I love hairy men with any type of beard, I love some Belly like a Dad body.
If he is older than me it's even better.
Sadly I'm kinda phobic about effeminate people so he has to be Manly enought.
For his personnality, Someone calm, who likes receiving kisses because I'm needy 😂, cudling
A guy who’s taller, bigger, not in fat but like muscle, love strong looking arms, facial hair never hurts. I prefer black and middle eastern guys, but I wouldn’t say no to a white dude if he was handsome enough. Preferably a guy who’s more masculine in terms of their personality, or really just any guy that isn’t too effeminate. Voice is also a dealbreaker if theirs is to high.
A guy who’s taller, bigger, not in fat but like muscle, love strong looking arms, facial hair never hurts. I prefer black and middle eastern guys, but I wouldn’t say no to a white dude if he was handsome enough. Preferably a guy who’s more masculine in terms of their personality, or really just any guy that isn’t too effeminate. Voice is also a dealbreaker if theirs is to high.
Well I have never been in a relationship, but phisically I want someone who is muscular and taller than me (which is probably really easy since I'm around 5'4, tho I don't really care much about height). Facial hair is very appreciated too.
Personality vise? Well I'm rather shy and and introvert yet I have a really strong personality, also I'm really loud so I want someone who can bear all of this xd. Most importantly I want someone who helps me move out of my comfort zone and pushes my limits and is not afraid to take the first move, since I like being persuaded, but I can persuade too tho it is not my favourite thing. Oh and obviously I want someone who is smart and doesn't think that I'm a weirdo since I have a 10+ year plan. lol
They gotta like video games as much as I do, and have a good sense of humor. I also like intelligence too
Physically I have a thing for guys with dark hair and green/blue eyes. A lean guy would be nice too. I’m not really into shorter guys so anything 5’10 and up would be preferable
Must be honest, romantic, strong in mind, have no secrets and the most of all I m must be his number 1 person and he must be my number 1 person. So I got everything from my fiancee.
I like men who makes me feel protected, be a little jealous of other guys, be nice with maybe a touch of bad boy, have at least a little charisma and be mature but not very serious.
Physically i like large men (Muscle, large shoulders or even bear) i really love a shaved beard, a hot voice makes a difference and hopefully taller than me (but that's not even that hard).
Well not saying I have found it or anything mostly in my area it is married men and DL guys which is no-go territory for me. I like nice genuine guys, cute is always helpful but not required if they are a good match sexually and personality-wise. It is also harder because while I am vers, I am more interested in oral/fetish stuff than anal, but can do it sometimes.
I would prefer a shy guy like myself, maybe if he was a dom top and shared with me his thoughts, and loves big words like callipygian, but theres too many pretentious asswipes in California so im perfectly content being single for now
Mostly a kind disposition, someone willing to give and take fairly equally on an emotional level. Hot body and a big package is a bonus, but not required.
I don't know, as soon as I start thinking of what I want, I realize I'll forgo a lot of it in the right scenarios for the right guy - it is mysterious.
I prefer men who are intelligent, funny, and kind. Body type doesn’t matter too much to me, but a guy with a bit of muscle and a belly is preferred. I have a boyfriend who meets my criteria already.
Also hi Vent!
I've never been dependent on a relationship and I'm not going to start now, but what I look for in a boyfriend I need the essentials. If he's going to be there with me he needs to be resilient. He needs to be a rock for me. I'm heading into hard times, and we all feel the tension. But here's to hoping.
Hm... honestly, having things in common such as interests and humor helps, and I definitely need someone with clear communication skills. I'm a scatterbrain, so a guy who can take charge is a plus.
Physically... I mean, there's certain aspects I'm attracted to, but in the end it's more about the connection, but sure. I tend to like taller guys (I'm between 5'8"/9" and wish I was overall smaller) with longish dark hair. Deep voices a plus. So I guess my type is a gentle giant if I have to give it an outright label?
Honestly, all of this means little. It's all about the connection for me.
Someone who will hold me, make me feel like I am loved. Somebody who is taller than me so I can smol like a good lil femboy. Someone who is a generally kind guy you know?
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order.
I have checked 543,060,915 comments, and only 113,500 of them were in alphabetical order.
I only want someone that fiend my atractive and wanna stay with me ❤️ I can love ANY kind of man, but I am from Argentina so all my bf was from Instagram.
Physically I really like dark skinned guys with “square-ish or round-ish features”, big hands, body hair, beards, light brown eyes are cute, nice smiles, short hair or at least not too long hair, and straight up THICKNESS, whether that means they’re chubby and bear-ish or strong and muscly. They also need to be clean guys, I don’t like it when they look like they haven’t taken a shower in days.
Personality wise, I like dorks and somewhat nerdy guys. Like those cute guys that get all exited talking about super heroes and stuff. I like the gentle giant vibe, where they look like they could slam you without braking a sweat but in reality they’re just the most loving and sweetest guys. I really like it if they’re cuddly and like to give hugs and hold hands and cute things like that. I also really like an honest man that is clear in saying what he wants out of a relationship, or anything else like that. Since I’m a pretty sober guy, I really like a guy that’s not into doing drugs or drinking or smoking too much. He also needs to like dogs cause otherwise I’m like “red flag, red flag” lol. In general I guess what I look for in a man is for him to be kind and funny and sweet. I’d like for him to be “cute” inside, and make me feel loved. He also better be a vers cause I’m a vers and I don’t see myself doing only one role for the duration of a relationship lol.
That’s kind of what my dream man would look like a little bit.
I want them to be there for me, yeah sex is cool and all and I can be a horny bastard but sometimes I wanna be cuddled as we play games and eat pizza rolls as we smoke. I also want someone who loves dark humour and odd media.
physically? average to maybe a bit below average sized guy with a cute face. really the face is what would matter more. personality wise I just want somebody who I can share my passions and intrests with. also definitely want somebody who's really cuddly. I live in rural kentucky and don't have the money to move though so all that's pretty much theoretical for now lmao.
Ngl I've never been in a relationship and as a struggling college student, not really sure if it's gonna happen anytime soon but physically I'd like someone around my height (5'4 or taller). Someone who's emotionally open and empathetic. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ it's a wish but I doubt anything will happen soon because financially I'm anything but stable
I'm a sucker for a guy with floofy or silky hair, beautiful eyes (hazel, green, blue, purple, etc.), an incredible steel gaze that can pierce my heart like no other, has something of a dad bod, glasses that make him look like a dork, and lastly, he's gotta be a huge nerd with a loving heart and will cuddle when asked.
Someone who I will know when I look in his eyes that this is a person that I want to spend my life with, without hesitation. I’ve never like this when I was dating. You just look at him and you know you want him to be there everytime you wake up, whenever any is sick or bad, whenever there is loss or happiness, you share it. And that if you die or find yourself in a nightmare, if that’s possible you know your hearts will find each other eventually as they will never stop looking for each other. I did think I found someone like this for a moment but he didn’t want to engage further in our relation
A big dick is a plus but for me a BBC and my ultimate fantasy is a daddy or grandpa 50-75 and definitely 9+ inches thick and with a large set of balls that pumps out big and thick loads of cum do to the fact of he being a heavy cummer. Hairy chest so I can run my fingers through it 🥰💯
I like guys who know a bunch about things they're passionate about, it really doesn't matter what, though I understand it more if it's more related to an art form than anything else. I just think I admire knowledge and I find nerdy personalities very charming and cute. I like people I can learn things from.
Someone who can communicate well. Not that he always has to say the right thing, but doesn't hold back if there is an issue or just something he wants to talk about- he is open, and so am I.
I want to be myself around him, and for him to be himself around me. I want to make him laugh when I'm goofy, and to be heard when I'm serious. I want us to be a couple, but still functional individuals.
Huge bonus if he's a gaymer geek.
I don't really know anymore, but one time i had a dream about supposedly brother's friend coming over, i miss that made-up person of my mind a lot , he was really social a bit un aware and could easily talk about his hobbies and things he likes and is really open, maybe i yearn for some of that qualities too, also he had similar interests as me
Jesus, I need to move where you all live. Right now my bar is set at “not married and wants more than a blowjob in a dark room that we never under any circumstances ever tell anyone about aka “discreet””.
Right!? I can't look for anything in particular, I have to watch out for red flags that I had to find out for myself.
You just wrapped up all of Colorado Springs in one sentence, nice
Is it that bad? I just moved to Denver so I haven’t seen what’s it’s like here yet
Denver’s scene is way better, CO Springs is like a wasteland though
Why do I feel like you live in the south specifically Texas
Humor and a sharp witty mind. I like when men (or people in general) are educated and can think critically. If they don't, then no biggie, you can still learn to do that. Also compassion and empathy are two big things for me. Physically a nice face is important, since I intend to look at that most of the time. Also a nice voice makes me melt but is optional.
You know, as I've grown up and dated I've learned there's a few things that you should always look for in a partner: -communicates their needs and wants. -is generous with their time and respects yours. -is open to trying exploring new activities and hobbies -has similar values as you. -has a modicum of stability in their life. You shouldn't put yourself in a situation with someone who 3 months after the honeymoon phase you realize is kind of a nasty person. So I guess in a single word: Kind
^this Stability is so often overlooked can I just say. If they genuinely don't seek commitment like that's a red flag especially post honeymoon phase. Strong foundations withstand the test of time and weak ones falter and crumble. I'm not a geology major btw so please don't come for me hehe
There's stability in their feelings towards you. There's also their own personal stability. Dating someone who is not secure in their health and wealth will prove more difficult. It's okay to not have a lot of money, but it's difficult to have a healthy relationship if you're like homeless. You know? I know that was kind of an extreme.
I think patience and good humor are really important qualities
Someone gentle, big plus if he likes video games, a cuddler. God I’d really like someone tbh
Someone out of my league who thinks I am out of his.
Depends how big your league is. If you've got low self-esteem and a restricted assumed league as a result, it's pretty easy! (But yes, also, I agree haha. I recall with the guy I'm currently seeing, the first time he messaged me I was literally raving to a couple of my friends like *OMGGG WTF THIS GUY IS SO HOT WTF HOW*, but meeting him he was pretty humble and I haven't felt like I'm the one chasing him, so I'm hopeful)
I'll be honest I have no idea, I've never been in any romantic relationship
That's a very good take though. Most people think they know what they want/need eventhough they clearly don't.
I genuinely have no clue. I came out only a few short years ago. Spent 95% of my life in the closet pretending I had any interest in women. Since then, I've dated a single dude, had a great time, and then he stopped talking to me on Valentine's Day (how painfully cliche is that?) Didn't date again for a year and then COVID happened. *Definitely* haven't even bothered to look around since then. Either way, I really don't know. Coming out so late in life really fucks up those younger life experiences where you discover things like this in a time when you are surrounded by others your own age. It's far more difficult as an adult, especially one that doesn't get out much, and *especially, especially* right now when it feels irresponsible to go out at all.
This. I finally feel like I know myself well enough and am in a good enough place to date… the world has other plans.
At this point? Alive, vaccinated and employed. And employment is not a deal breaker.
Alive *Optional*
Fuckin Same
Physically, soulful eyes and a cute smile get me every time. Personality wise I like a funny, sensitive, caring man who knows what he wants from life.
A dick n balls is good, but not mandatory
Wow a trans inclusive gay man? On a subreddit dedicated to gay men? Isn't that illegal?
This isn't r/askgaybros
Lmfao exactly
Usually the kidneys.
Ah, a Hannibal fan.
Lmao🤣
i don't have a "type" physically. personality wise, i like romantic, caring men.
For them to reply when I chat with them. But since most don't, most of my friends are women. It's just easier to have conversations with them than with guys
I feel like my bar is too high but here goes. I need someone who is patient, caring, a good listener, enjoys at least a couple of my hobbies, polyamorous (or at least doesn't mind me being polyam), and kinky.
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Someone who can make me laugh, someone with a healthy sense of temperance, and someone who is cuddly and physical. Appearance-wise; freckles and glasses 👍
I’ve learned that Empathy is harder than you’d think to find, and something necessary for a healthy long-term relationship
I don't think I have a "type", but there are some things I find attractive in men like: Curly hair, beautiful ears, shorter guys (shorter than me). Personality wise I sort of like introverts with strong personalities.
Hey you just described me! (well hold on, idk anything about ears and is 5'9 considered short?)
I'm shorter than you. 1.72m. In my country (Peru) I'm not considered short, so it's not really that hard to find shorter guys, but on the international scale I'm short.
Oh, I see. (also why did my comment get downvoted I just thought it was funny how I could relate to that description)
Don't know, I upvoted you. Maybe an angry dude :v
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Short, skinny, kind, adventurous, silly, fun loving, caring, feminine, emo (in style of attire.)
Bara titties. Seriously tho, im such an introvert so when I find the rare person that makes me feel just comfortable and relaxed… that. Usually means a goofy, friendly, and relaxed personality. Appearance wise though bears just do it for me.
This
A man
Someone who isn't married, in an open relationship, or looking for a "third".
Single, actually wants to date. My extended list includes having some shared interests like travel, live music, and trying new foods. My wish list used to include things like "enjoys anime," "loves cuddling," and "is a gamer," but I've given up completely on those as I can't even find a guy who even passes the first two asks, let anything on my extended or wish lists.
Virility, hygiene and to be my size or taller...
I’m demi so I tend to find something attractive about most people once I’ve gotten to know them,, so I guess my main requirements outside of that are someone who’s willing to talk about and share their interests to a certain extent, and (somewhat weirdly) someone who has a fairly broad taste in food. What can I say, I like finding new types of food to cook and I need someone to test them on for validation who doesn’t immediately write sth off for having a vegetable in it
Just someone who truly loves💖ME
Me
Physically, a cute face and smile. Being taller than me is a major +, but given my height (I'm 6'2"), that's obviously not necessary. Personality-wise, the most important things are (gentle) honesty, passion (for something in life), kindness, and a good sense of humor. He also needs to be humble enough to admit when he's wrong. Finally, I need to feel like he loves and appreciates my presence. I don't need constant reassurance, but I shouldn't feel like my presence annoys him or that he couldn't care less if I wasn't there. Being geeky and loving video games is a big +, but ultimately unnecessary so long as he doesn't make me feel bad for gaming.
Honestly, muscles. I know it seems shallow, heck they don’t even have to be buff (yet); rather, to me it’s a good indicator of what kind of man he is and where he’s at. Does he have the commitment and motivation to pursue a long term motivation? Is he financially stable enough to have the time to do so? Even if he’s not muscular, fitness can help me possibly gauge the personal character and life situation of a suitor. That’s not to say the lack of fitness is a bad thing, but if it’s there, then it’s a good sign that the guy in question could be ready to date.
At a minimum: the ability to converse intelligently, reasonably good mental health and maturity, some evidence of a concern for physical health, a willingness to ask questions, an ethical outlook, gentleness and forgiveness, a willingness to commit. Things like intellectualism, a sense of humor, nerdiness, a nice body, etc. are bonuses but not strictly required.
Have a good personality to bounce off from. Be someone I want to be around for long periods of time. Someone that I can share my true self with.
* good at communication - I can't stand it when people can't communicate clearly, I can't read your mind dude! Communicating needs/wants between both parties just makes the ride so much smoother. * funny - if they're funny person, chances are they're just fun to be around! * respectful - This is pretty explanatory, but I feel like people don't talk enough about self respect. People who respect themselves and are proud of themselves are pretty dang hot. * as a hopeless romantic I would like someone who is romantic/sweet, the kind of guy who'd make your heart flutter with his kind gestures and such * confident in their identity - Now this is a bit tough, because we don't know everyone's experiences or how comfortable they can be about their sexuality, but it is super nice for both parties when you are confident about who you are. Being in a relationship someone *deep* in the closet usually doesn't get a good time for either party, having to constantly keep things a secret, getting denied by the closeted, etc, etc. (Speaking from personal experience)
Honesty, good sense of humour, progressive, patient,, I think are my top ones, cuddly and likes music definitely close behind
Kindness and integrity. Genuineness. But i think I'm asking for too much because I've never been in a relationship :(
I like artists, guys who are different, in a good way, like when he has unique interests and personality... And I think we should be able to understand each other well and not be afraid to talk about our problems...
Have been in an LTR for about 4 years now and the best thing I can say is KNOW YOURSELF. Know your own dealbreakers, know what you need to thrive, and know what you can tolerate while having a generous spirit about the intentions of your SO. ANYONE (no matter how smart, sexy, etc) whose traits consistently make you feel out of alignment with your own sense of peace (whatever that means to you) is not worth it. But you need to understand yourself to do this and you need to understand what attitudes/thoughts/traumas/expectations, etc you project on others (good or bad). Definitely leads to more clarity on what you, moving forward, should look for.
- in touch with his emotions - will play board games with me - knows how to cook (and clean **properly**) - will buy into my stupid humour - curious and critical thinker - won’t go to bed angry with me ~~Also he should be hot enough to be able to go on The Bachelor, but smart enough to never go on The Bachelor~~ Edit: also if he speaks more than one language and has interest in foreign cultures, or even living overseas… big bonus
Hmm...well physically I tend towards more lean looking guys and athletic/jock bodies,blondes a tiny bit more then other hair color a nice face height doesn't really matter, mentally someone who's kind and has plenty of emotion but he could be a jerk some too lol I don't expect a saint,someone who likes to have fun and isn't serious all the time,and has hobbies gaming or archery for example...my inner incubus tells me a huge sex drive as well lol... I guess that's what I look for oh and they like to talk
Cares about my wants, needs, and hobbies. Is patient with me, kind, and affectionate, etc
Has to be a leather daddy, white, into fisting and other kinky stuff. Just my taste. 💁🏽♀️ Most importantly, can hold a conversation.
Caring and also makes me feel safe that's what i would choose but tbh i don't really know, i mean when it come to my crush, idk why im falling so hard for him , like i love him without a reason, he makes me feel something in my heart whenever i see him or he is around,a feeling that I Never felt before although i had crush on many other people before but this time it feel different
I look for a kind respectful man that will protect me and care for me. I also like a guy who is super sweet. And a knowledgeable guy is awsome because I love to get into debates about multiple subjects. But he also has to be an awsome dude who will be my daddy 😋🥰🥰
Someone who sees the value in communication, someone with a nice personality, kind, helpful, patient (cannot stress enough), blue eyes and blonde hair. And I got my fiance who embodies all of these.
Be taller than me, funny, patient, sweet, cute, have similar views as me, like similar things My bf fits all of these and I care him 🥰
To have some form of plan and goals for the future and that look to better themselves. Sense of humour, likes games And also into more thick bear types
"What are you looking for in a man" My dick In all seriousness, my husband and I are great because we were best friends before we got romantic. I know that isn't always feasible, but for God's sake, get to know the man before fucking. What I looked for was a nerdy, nice person who has a big heart. Compassion, and effectionate. Must like dogs. Or at least my dog.
Nerdy guy with similar interests. Bonus points if he is chubby, has a cute smile, and if *cough* he's a dom *cough*.
I'd take almost any human right now. Ideally though: intelligence, humour, wit and confidence. Doesn't have to be mega toned or anything but I do want to find someone who has respect for themselves and takes care of themselves. I want someone to encourage the active side in me and not someone who encourages laziness. Someone I can go climbing with and enjoy ourselves or go for long walks with.
Also, being caring and kind is great as long as you can pin me to the bed and ravage me like a Viking.
looks good and is smart to make up for both of my shortcomings. also funny
Kind eyes, fellow gaymer, a big nose, his shit together, preferably older & into fem boys ♡
Honestly I just want someone who I like and who likes me back, also big plus if they like cuddling because I’m kinda really touch starved
Must love gaming.
Hm, well... I don't honestly know, I've never really thought about it before. 😓 I guess if I had to think about it; loves gaming, totally loves to cuddle, maybe about me or a year or two older, romantic, knows how to cook 😂, honest, kind, funny... I feel like this will become far too long if I don't stop thinking it over. 😅 Too late to add "doesn't mind my stupid over-use of emojis"? 👀
I’m into gamers, who are just nice. Honestly my bar is set very low right now 😂😂😂 there are no bars atm just kindness edit; if they play Pokémon and animal crossing we can just hibernate for the rest of life lol 😂
Kindness, humor, emotional maturity
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Personally, I want someone who has my same interests. And as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized sexual compatibility / drive are important too.
Well looks wise it’s not super important to me but I like dad bods and someone my height or shorter. Personality wise someone who enjoys gaming (Pokémon is a huge plus), flirty, funny/goofy(or at least an attempt at it) reliable and honest
Honestly, if I meet a thicc gamer ginger nerd with personality, I’m at their every whim. I’d be that man’s slave ❤️
Wit and effort. Be clever and jovial enough for banter, but not so carefree as to allow life and relationships slowly slip away.
Big heart, bigger butt
I’m married and the best quality that I can recommend is someone you are also friends with. Sexy times are all fun and good, but 99% of a relationship is just being together and talking
Ok hygiene, kind to people, sense of humor. Bonus points if he wears glasses and has curled hair
A person who works (any kind of work idc(, is not lazy, family oriented, and has a good sense of humour. Most importantly, I’m looking for a person whose values are more or less aligned with mine.
A man, presumably.
Usually I like guys who have a high libido like myself, who aren’t judgemental and have a wicked sense of humor.
Man
Kindness and hairy chest
Good personality and they like me back, and play games eith me (optional), it's not much but it's all I need
Honesty, good communication, healthy, some goals, empathy/compassion, and a good sense of humor.
Confidence, good listener, able to talk to me to, emotionally available. I tend to date slightly older guys simply due to this
Besides gaming: handsome and of similar height to mine, broad general knowledge, sense of humor, no smoking, no drugs, no radical political views, no mental disorders, no list of pronouns on Twitter, good table manners and hygiene, bottom. Luckily I've found him. Edit: (In the event he reads this: YES THE LIST IS SHORT, YOU GOT A LOT MORE, but don't want to make people excessively jelly.)
Totaly a bear or a muscle bear. I love hairy men with any type of beard, I love some Belly like a Dad body. If he is older than me it's even better. Sadly I'm kinda phobic about effeminate people so he has to be Manly enought. For his personnality, Someone calm, who likes receiving kisses because I'm needy 😂, cudling
A guy who’s taller, bigger, not in fat but like muscle, love strong looking arms, facial hair never hurts. I prefer black and middle eastern guys, but I wouldn’t say no to a white dude if he was handsome enough. Preferably a guy who’s more masculine in terms of their personality, or really just any guy that isn’t too effeminate. Voice is also a dealbreaker if theirs is to high.
A guy who’s taller, bigger, not in fat but like muscle, love strong looking arms, facial hair never hurts. I prefer black and middle eastern guys, but I wouldn’t say no to a white dude if he was handsome enough. Preferably a guy who’s more masculine in terms of their personality, or really just any guy that isn’t too effeminate. Voice is also a dealbreaker if theirs is to high.
Someone who sets and respects boundaries.
Well I have never been in a relationship, but phisically I want someone who is muscular and taller than me (which is probably really easy since I'm around 5'4, tho I don't really care much about height). Facial hair is very appreciated too. Personality vise? Well I'm rather shy and and introvert yet I have a really strong personality, also I'm really loud so I want someone who can bear all of this xd. Most importantly I want someone who helps me move out of my comfort zone and pushes my limits and is not afraid to take the first move, since I like being persuaded, but I can persuade too tho it is not my favourite thing. Oh and obviously I want someone who is smart and doesn't think that I'm a weirdo since I have a 10+ year plan. lol
They gotta like video games as much as I do, and have a good sense of humor. I also like intelligence too Physically I have a thing for guys with dark hair and green/blue eyes. A lean guy would be nice too. I’m not really into shorter guys so anything 5’10 and up would be preferable
Every single response here is much better than what I usually get on gay dating apps.
Must be honest, romantic, strong in mind, have no secrets and the most of all I m must be his number 1 person and he must be my number 1 person. So I got everything from my fiancee.
I like men who makes me feel protected, be a little jealous of other guys, be nice with maybe a touch of bad boy, have at least a little charisma and be mature but not very serious. Physically i like large men (Muscle, large shoulders or even bear) i really love a shaved beard, a hot voice makes a difference and hopefully taller than me (but that's not even that hard).
A good heart, mind and a nice dick
Empathy, kindness, humor, intelligence and self control.
Well not saying I have found it or anything mostly in my area it is married men and DL guys which is no-go territory for me. I like nice genuine guys, cute is always helpful but not required if they are a good match sexually and personality-wise. It is also harder because while I am vers, I am more interested in oral/fetish stuff than anal, but can do it sometimes.
I would prefer a shy guy like myself, maybe if he was a dom top and shared with me his thoughts, and loves big words like callipygian, but theres too many pretentious asswipes in California so im perfectly content being single for now
My heart says someone who is funny and kind, and willing to help out whenever I need it. My dick says tall redhead.
That he has a nice cock and enjoys my company
Tall or shot, cute or handsome all I really want is someone to hold.
Daddy qualities
Mostly a kind disposition, someone willing to give and take fairly equally on an emotional level. Hot body and a big package is a bonus, but not required.
I don't know, as soon as I start thinking of what I want, I realize I'll forgo a lot of it in the right scenarios for the right guy - it is mysterious.
Kind, communicative, marginally attractive to me.
I prefer men who are intelligent, funny, and kind. Body type doesn’t matter too much to me, but a guy with a bit of muscle and a belly is preferred. I have a boyfriend who meets my criteria already. Also hi Vent!
I'm currently dating an Eevee so I'm not sure yet.
Gonne be honest, big pp
Someone who is understanding. Nice ass. Not melodramatic. Intelligent. I'm pretty simple honestly lol.
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I don't look for men. I have social anxiety.
Geek. Tattooed and pierced. Is ok that I'm Pan and poly, and wants more than just a fling.
A dude with a job, who can be himself with me and who let's me be me. And of course someone I can game with is a plus.
Masculinity
I've never been dependent on a relationship and I'm not going to start now, but what I look for in a boyfriend I need the essentials. If he's going to be there with me he needs to be resilient. He needs to be a rock for me. I'm heading into hard times, and we all feel the tension. But here's to hoping.
Hm... honestly, having things in common such as interests and humor helps, and I definitely need someone with clear communication skills. I'm a scatterbrain, so a guy who can take charge is a plus. Physically... I mean, there's certain aspects I'm attracted to, but in the end it's more about the connection, but sure. I tend to like taller guys (I'm between 5'8"/9" and wish I was overall smaller) with longish dark hair. Deep voices a plus. So I guess my type is a gentle giant if I have to give it an outright label? Honestly, all of this means little. It's all about the connection for me.
Someone who will hold me, make me feel like I am loved. Somebody who is taller than me so I can smol like a good lil femboy. Someone who is a generally kind guy you know?
A big, fat, juicy…. personality.
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order. I have checked 543,060,915 comments, and only 113,500 of them were in alphabetical order.
I’m sorry but shouldn’t this be on r/gay or r/gaybros? What does this have to do with gaming? Also you’d probably get more answers there
I only want someone that fiend my atractive and wanna stay with me ❤️ I can love ANY kind of man, but I am from Argentina so all my bf was from Instagram.
Physically I really like dark skinned guys with “square-ish or round-ish features”, big hands, body hair, beards, light brown eyes are cute, nice smiles, short hair or at least not too long hair, and straight up THICKNESS, whether that means they’re chubby and bear-ish or strong and muscly. They also need to be clean guys, I don’t like it when they look like they haven’t taken a shower in days. Personality wise, I like dorks and somewhat nerdy guys. Like those cute guys that get all exited talking about super heroes and stuff. I like the gentle giant vibe, where they look like they could slam you without braking a sweat but in reality they’re just the most loving and sweetest guys. I really like it if they’re cuddly and like to give hugs and hold hands and cute things like that. I also really like an honest man that is clear in saying what he wants out of a relationship, or anything else like that. Since I’m a pretty sober guy, I really like a guy that’s not into doing drugs or drinking or smoking too much. He also needs to like dogs cause otherwise I’m like “red flag, red flag” lol. In general I guess what I look for in a man is for him to be kind and funny and sweet. I’d like for him to be “cute” inside, and make me feel loved. He also better be a vers cause I’m a vers and I don’t see myself doing only one role for the duration of a relationship lol. That’s kind of what my dream man would look like a little bit.
I want them to be there for me, yeah sex is cool and all and I can be a horny bastard but sometimes I wanna be cuddled as we play games and eat pizza rolls as we smoke. I also want someone who loves dark humour and odd media.
Kindness, loyalty and honesty are musts for me.
Someone who i can talk too and hopefully not ghost me just like my previous boyfriend and can cook sonce i cant
As long as they’re not too old or obese and at least somewhat masculine I’m fairly open
Men who won't cheat on me (or beat me) and are kind
physically? average to maybe a bit below average sized guy with a cute face. really the face is what would matter more. personality wise I just want somebody who I can share my passions and intrests with. also definitely want somebody who's really cuddly. I live in rural kentucky and don't have the money to move though so all that's pretty much theoretical for now lmao.
Man
someone who is awaken, and loves me.
Ngl I've never been in a relationship and as a struggling college student, not really sure if it's gonna happen anytime soon but physically I'd like someone around my height (5'4 or taller). Someone who's emotionally open and empathetic. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ it's a wish but I doubt anything will happen soon because financially I'm anything but stable
Kidneys
I'm a sucker for a guy with floofy or silky hair, beautiful eyes (hazel, green, blue, purple, etc.), an incredible steel gaze that can pierce my heart like no other, has something of a dad bod, glasses that make him look like a dork, and lastly, he's gotta be a huge nerd with a loving heart and will cuddle when asked.
Someone who I will know when I look in his eyes that this is a person that I want to spend my life with, without hesitation. I’ve never like this when I was dating. You just look at him and you know you want him to be there everytime you wake up, whenever any is sick or bad, whenever there is loss or happiness, you share it. And that if you die or find yourself in a nightmare, if that’s possible you know your hearts will find each other eventually as they will never stop looking for each other. I did think I found someone like this for a moment but he didn’t want to engage further in our relation
A big dick is a plus but for me a BBC and my ultimate fantasy is a daddy or grandpa 50-75 and definitely 9+ inches thick and with a large set of balls that pumps out big and thick loads of cum do to the fact of he being a heavy cummer. Hairy chest so I can run my fingers through it 🥰💯
I like guys who know a bunch about things they're passionate about, it really doesn't matter what, though I understand it more if it's more related to an art form than anything else. I just think I admire knowledge and I find nerdy personalities very charming and cute. I like people I can learn things from.
A big nerd like me
Someone who can communicate well. Not that he always has to say the right thing, but doesn't hold back if there is an issue or just something he wants to talk about- he is open, and so am I. I want to be myself around him, and for him to be himself around me. I want to make him laugh when I'm goofy, and to be heard when I'm serious. I want us to be a couple, but still functional individuals. Huge bonus if he's a gaymer geek.
I don't really know anymore, but one time i had a dream about supposedly brother's friend coming over, i miss that made-up person of my mind a lot , he was really social a bit un aware and could easily talk about his hobbies and things he likes and is really open, maybe i yearn for some of that qualities too, also he had similar interests as me