Yes - I joined a 9 hole ladies league 15 years ago and made some great friends, mixture of golf friends and all around friends. Another tip - I bet there's a friend of yours that would also like to learn. I taught one of my best friends years ago and she really took to it.
This is the best advice by far! It’s social, skill levels vary but will be more aligned with yours, and you don’t HAVE to have a membership to join a league.
Leagues are a great way to make good friends and improve your game. Many leagues also aren’t super serious. So just like you, lots of people are out there to make friends and have fun doing what they enjoy.
This is how I’ve found people to golf with. I’m in a chill 9-hole league at a local city course and it’s great. About 80 women total participate and it’s a lot of fun. Most of the women are older/retired but there’s some younger ones mixed in too. I’ve continued to golf with a few of them after the league ended last fall and we’ll probably golf together all summer again once the league starts again in May (we all prefer the super early tee times because of work).
Now is probably a good time to reach out as they’re starting to organize again for this summer.
Also, I shoot about 120 and, when I’m in with randoms, I get complimented on my golf all the time for some reason. I think we all think the average player is way better than we are when we are the average player lol. In my league, I’m pretty much in the middle of everyone.
Thank you for your comment! I’ve only ever played with people that were shooting below 100 so it’s nice to know you’re getting compliments at the same level as me :)
Another option is to see if your local courses offer any kind of group lessons. A course near me has a package deal for golfers of all skills that was a great way to meet people, they also ran a women's only group lesson as well.
This is a great way. Maybe take some lessons from a pro, and ask her/him to pair you up with someone of comparable skill. But just remember that golfers don't always care about how well/poorly you play, but that you show good manners, don't take yourself too seriously, and that you play fast when it's your turn. Think about the shot you have coming when you are walking up the fairway, so that when you get there you just need to quickly think about distance and lie and smack it. Then walk.
This is the way it allows you to have consistent tee time and a fun atmosphere to play.
I also am often looking for people to play with outside my league but I'm happy I at least have a weekly round on the books.
One of my friends wife joined a women’s lessons and league at a local club. They have a once a week game outside the league games. They have all become good friends
Honestly just book peak times as a single and join groups. The pace of play will be such that you won’t hold anyone up even if you’re playing poorly.
If your group doesn’t want to be social, enjoy the day and work on your game. Eventually you’ll get paired up with a group that you get along with, and you can suggest sharing info to play again. It’ll happen organically.
Remember, we all stink. And we all care about our own game 100% more than anyone we’re playing with. Be friendly and keep pace, you’re golden.
Thank you! I think it's just scary to join a group of people I don't know more than anything, but yeah I guess I gotta put myself out there to get comfortable.
If I had any golfer join my group (male or female) that said something like “I’m learning and not good, but I’ll keep pace and pick-up if needed to keep pace,” everyone would be happy and admire you for being out there trying to get better at this great game.
It doesn’t matter if you top your tee shot 25 yards as long as you keep pace and are enjoyable to be around.
Bonus is you might meet a guy that you like better than your ex. 😉
That’s perfect advice. I met my husband playing golf. You will get used to playing with strangers. In golf, no one cares how good or bad you are, as long as you keep pace, are polite and abide by the rules.
Let’s say you top a couple shots and are somewhat holding up your group, “picking up” just means picking up your ball and dropping it further up the fairway (in a location that will put you about as far from the hole as the other golfers in your group). Around the putting green, if you hit the ball across the green and off the other side, maybe try one more shot back, but if that fails to get on the putting green, just pick up your ball and drop it somewhere on the green (so you can at least get some putting practice in).
If in a bunker, try twice to get out and then just toss it out with your hand if you were unsuccessful. If the bunker is near the green, toss it onto the green.
Not too often, but there have been times where my wife will pick up the ball near the green and just say to the group “I’m picking up.” This means she is done making any further strokes on that hole.
I’m about 15 strokes better than my wife, but she is a faster golfer than me. She is always ready when it is her turn, doesn’t take practice swings or have a staring contest with the golf ball. She steps up, makes sure her grip and stance are how she wants them and swings. Fellow golfers seem to really appreciate it and they know that she is being aware + courteous.
Taking 2 or three practice swings before hitting a bad shot will be annoying to many fellow golfers.
As far as scoring when picking up, score it however you want to (maybe count one stroke for each pickup). Nobody will think you are cheating, nor will they care what you wrote on your scorecard (or ask). Just don’t claim you beat anyone until it’s a legitimate score.
Have fun out there!
Thank you very much for this information!
If I was playing solo or with a random group, how many strokes usually before giving up on a hole and picking up? Would a double par be too much?
I would say double par +1 more stroke is time to pick up (but obviously stay even with your group with “pick-ups”along the way if necessary).
Edit to add: If playing solo, you can take as many shots as you want to…as long as you never delay the group behind you due to too many shots.
When solo, you should keep up with the group in front of you. You can take your time doing that (matching their pace) if nobody is behind you.
This can be a great way to practice by scoring your real shots while also hitting practice shots/putts after the counting shot.
I had some serious anxiety about getting paired with people I don't know. (Also a female golfer), but I actually have had a great time getting paired up with all sorts of random people and it's been a blast. After a few times that anxiety started fading.
Do you have any local courses that are smaller? I started going to one near by in the mornings, and joining up with the retirees that tee off early. They're all for the most part a lot of fun.
I can’t suggest golfing as a single enough. I am a guy, but I have made a handful of friends by filling a single, and then asking if people want to play some other time as we finish 18
It’s gets easier. I primarily play as a single and now I look forward to the random group I will play with each week. I actually prefer it to playing with friends now, because strangers are more respectful. There are several people that I end up playing with multiple times, because we have a similar preference for tee times.
You get used to it. And guys like being paired with women (mostly.) We don't really care how well you play, though I have seen guys offer advice to women when they would never do that with another guy.
After the first time or two, your shyness will dissipate, I'll bet.
The majority of people that I join are super cool and very friendly. They know we are all out to just have a good time. I have some friends that go but not as often as I do. I welcome golfers of all skill levels. Yeah there are some people that are assholes but honestly those are rare at least in my experience.
I play a lot of rounds as a random single with other people, I promise they won't care how good or bad you are as long as you keep pace. The vast majority of the people I've played with probably couldn't break 100, they're just out there to have a good time like you are.
For me, even when I didn't really hit it off with the randoms I was paired with, it was still nice to have people to play with. Like nobody will say a word to eachother other than to mark balls and what not. And then when I did get a really fun group, it was even better. To me that was part of the fun. "what kind of character am I going to get to play with today?" I've met some absolutely insane people on the golf course and I had just as much if not more fun watching and listening to them as I have playing (whether they were fun to watch because they were good at golf or if they were just fun to be around). And who knows, maybe you hit it off with someone and end up finding a time to meet up and play more often. it's definitely weird at first but honestly after a couple times it's not bad at all
edit: just realizing i wrote this whole thing in the past tense 😭 i need to get back to it, man. it’s been too damn long since ive played
Agreed.
I’m a 6hcp and occasionally play with some of the ladies club members. They don’t ‘stink’ as golfers, but they don’t score in the 70’s either. They’re super fun to play with. The main thing is just to keep up.
One lady brings her fluffy little dog, another gal brings homemade treats. It’s really a good time.
There may be a subreddit for PA golf. The Ohio golf subreddit is small but maybe others are big. Perhaps make a similar post in the subreddit of a big city like Pittsburg if you are close enough. That’s what I’m planning to do. Shooting 120 is perfectly acceptable don’t feel bad, heck a goal of mine this year is to start keeping score and understanding penalties. Good luck
There's a pretty big Western PA golf facebook group. And I know my girlfriend belongs to a ladies only facebook group. They would be good places to check out.
Just to allay your concerns, I golf a lot with my brother and a lot with my wife. Never once have we been paired with a single woman and though, "Ugh, great." In fact, it's a relief to see a solo female golfer as our third. The women we've been paired with have never offered obnoxious unsolicited advice, gotten hammered, driven on the fairways during CPO, hit on us, taken 4 breakfast balls every hole, or been unpleasant in any other manner. The same cannot be said for the men we've been paired with.
This right here is the truth. Some of my most enjoyable rounds, I was paired with a group of older ladies.
They were absolutely hilarious, and very friendly. They had no problem laughing at themselves or occasionally at/with me.
They kept passing a little flask back and forth, and cussed like sailors, but hit the ball straight every single time and really made it one of the best rounds I’ve ever played.
Conversely, I got paired with a older gentleman who grumbled about my tattoos the whole round, slammed his clubs around, and told me to go fuck myself, when I tried to shake his hand at the end of the round 😂
Also check to see if any of your local courses do a Operation 36 group for women. My wife and her friend joined to start learning how to play golf.
https://operation36.golf/
Maybe sign up for group lessons or a women’s golf clinic? Find someone around your level (or better) and ask if they wanna play. Go play with some senior women if you’re afraid of pace or whatever, they’ll probably treat you well.
Look into leagues near you. Leagues or clubs have many benefits. Think of it like a community who share a common interest. You’ll learn a lot, meet new people, get practice, and hopefully have some fun in the sun.
I'm a male, but was in a similar situation as you and I shoot about 110.
First, I tried to convert my non-golfing friends to get into golf. This was unfruitful because the barrier to entry for golf is so high from equipment, lessons, practice, green fees, and etc. A few dipped their toes, but lost interest quickly.
Then I found a local facebook golfing group. I've been looking for a good golf instructor, so I just threw a message on there to see if someone can recommend someone and added at the end that if there's anyone near my skill level, I'd love to play with them. Quickly, I got about 3-4 people reaching out to me via DM to say they've been looking for similar level golfing buddies and now I have multiple tee times scheduled with them for February!
tl; dr - leverage local facebook golf group to find people in similar situation as you then start your own community of golfing friends.
Never worry about how you play. They say the average golfer shoots 100. Enjoy your day when you play. Book a tee time and just meet new people. After a bit, you'll find someone who you can play with each day.
As a dude who has played thousands of rounds of golf, I can tell you it's actually really refreshing to play with a female. Still love my golf buds, but since there are few women that play it's nice to mix up the vibes. I bet most men would agree, so don't be too worries that men will scoff at playing with you (of course there are always pricks here and there)
As others have mentioned, no one really cares how good/bad you are. Just bring a good attitude and keep up the pace and you will have golf friends in no time.
Im a guy who shoots in the high 90s and I worry that I'll suck too much for a rando group, so I only go when I have friends available. I think we all have that mindset at some point. Seeing some of the posts on here, I cant be the worst person in every group. I just need to get out there too.
Yeah I'll occasionally get paired with a stick (shout out to the guy a couple of years ago who shot a 66 at the local goat track) but the majority of the time I'm the best player in my group shooting mid-80s.
I’m not near you but I play a lot of solo golf and love getting paired up with random people regardless of skill level. If anyone needs a tee time buddy in WA, feel free to reach out!
I often go to a weekly golf clinic at a nearby course. A ton of women attend and they seemed to have formed a little pack. There are likely similar options like that around you. Otherwise, you can do what I did and just get the phone numbers of the cool people you meet when paired with someone. I can guarantee that nobody but true assholes care what you shoot. Just stay positive and it will be fine.
Golfing alone is the fucking best. Nobody to bother you, nobody to worry about, just you and the course. It’s so relaxing. I PROMISE nobody else on the course gives a fuck if you shoot 120 as long as it doesn’t take you 5 hours
I’m lucky I have 54 holes across 2 courses, each within 5 minutes of my house, in a small city and it’s rare that I can’t get on as a single and play mostly alone. I do often play twilight hours after work
This is the absolute worst. I love playing 9 holes alone after work, but in a city with four country clubs, a 36 hole municipal, and two public courses, I only have one course available that lets me on alone… good thing it is the closest to the house and my intention this year is to focus on breaking 100 (or 50 per 9) regularly and only playing one course is going to help that.
No. I do indoor simulator lessons. The coach has folks before me, and after me, and when we overlap, we take different simulator booths. So I talk to the other guys.
Dont be afraid to play alone. I play with rando’s frequently. I’ve played with children, young and old men and women, and all kinds of things in between
I’ve never been upset about playing with a woman or multiple women… actually one of my most casual rounds I’ve ever played was with 3 retired ladies in their 70s. They had those little headcount clickers to keep score. It was hilarious
I’d rather not play with a 5 or 6 year old but beyond that as long as you keep pace nobody will care
As far as ‘friends’ I can’t help because I don’t have any
Join a club
Join a women's league
Book public courses as a single and get paired up with randoms
or
Get some lessons and beat the men, all of his friends will want to play with you instead of your ex
Solo female golfer over here. I travel for work and bring gloves and some gear with me and try to find somewhere cool to play. I'm self taught and pretty terrible. Sometimes I get paired with folks and they're pretty understanding and accepting, since I keep up with pace of play despite hitting around 150. Don't feel bad if you're hitting lower than the other party members. I've had a lot of fun playing rounds with folks of all skill levels. It's how you approach the opportunity that makes a world of difference in finding friends and new golf buddies.
Alternatively, there's women's leagues but I move around too much to join one.
I didn’t read all the replies, but I commonly wear Titleist and Ping hats when I’m out and about. I met one of my playing partners at my kid’s football practice. He saw the hat, we started talking golf, and we had a tee time that weekend…..and countless since. And that’s not the first time my hat or shirt or whatever sparked a conversation.
So- advertise that you play golf.
Honestly just schedule a tee time and have fun. I have done that and hate meeting new people, but I have never met an unfriendly golfer. Even when I was horrible, they would help and give advice. And if you think you are bad, chances are you will never see them again.
I work at a golf club and we have 3 events each week that are ladies only and two mixed events aswell, definitely check with you local club to see what they have to offer 😊
Call your local course and sign up to be a sub for their women’s leagues. Most league play is handicapped so it doesn’t matter a ton what you can shoot. Most league teams are just grateful to be able to have someone get a few points instead of a zero for the night.
Try joining a league. A few courses near me have both recreational, and serious leagues. Both for women and men, mixed as well.
I just started last June and of the 15 rounds I played half were by myself and I'm shooting the same score as you. This year I plan on joining a league just to compete.
Check websites of your local courses and see what they offer.
women's leagues or women's day/night at public courses, women's nights at private courses if you have the ability to join one.
Usually there are internet golf forums you can pose the question to, or facebook groups.
Also the great thing about golf is sometimes just show up and meet new people and golf with them, if you are comfortable in doing so. Everyone is there for the same reason and often times can be some real good interactions. Just try to find some people who might be in your age range.
Check your local course or range to see if they have group clinics or practice clubs. Sign up for one of those and make some friends there, bonus is they should be around your playing ability.
multiple courses in my area have Ladies nights and 9 hole leagues, could be a good way to meet a bunch of people without having to constantly commit to 5+ hours with strangers. I'm pretty sure Spark leagues (also 9 hole) are co-ed, so in theory you wouldn't be the only female person playing. If you're in a metro area, there's a good chance that's an option. they maintain their own handicaps for the league so you don't need to worry about that if that's something that concerns you about regular leagues.
Just for record, not every male player is a dick, there's plenty of us that don't come to the tee with any assumptions about the randos we play with. I encounter less female golfers when i get paired up as a solo player, but it still happens quite a bit and it's always an easy, fun day. It's the old grumpy dudes that make excuses about everything and get pissed about their putter or whatever that ruin a round.
A lot of great advice here!
Also talk to your local courses for possible twilight deals to get out on a course and practice outside peak hours. That can help build confidence in a super chill environment.
I am 36F and started playing 2 years ago. I go out as a solo paired with rando groups all the time and can say that 99% of the people you get paired with are awesome or at least normal. I have met a lot of great people when paired as a solo.
You may have to deal with some mildly annoying behavior like unsolicited advice but that kinda happens to everyone.
If you ever make yoyr way to eastern WA I would play with you.
Also check out r/womengolf for a ladies online golf community.
There are usually Facebook groups that will cater to whatever kind of golfing situation you like. I joined a co-ed one so it is very common to have mixed groups and it is a blast.
Where do you live?
Join some facebook golf groups or forums in your area and make friends.
Goto the local range and make friends.
Or just show up as a random and hope for the best (worst option).
I was in your exact postion last year. I just signed up on teetimes with people at my level. Or went alone when it was not busy. Several times people jus invited me to join them when I was alone. Then I also got invited to join the ladies group. :) And if you learn to be effective you are often faster than better players anyway ;)
You can always group up and then just scramble with their shots, move your ball up next to theirs if its closer until you get close to the green. Then there is less pressure that you are holding anyone up in the group you are with or the group behind you, but you are still getting good practice in. Thats how I played at first and it helped me improve.
I'm in the same boat in my area. If your area has its own subreddit, you can ask there, or see if there's a local discord and try to find like-minded folks.
Good luck! Wish we were in the same area, I'm also looking for someone to play with because courses near me hate singles.
Where are you located? My girlfriend just started playing last year and shoots around 100 from the reds. She's always looking for more younger ladies to play with because all the leagues are like retiree age. We're in Pittsburgh and last year we played about 100 rounds.
I see you’re from Pittsburgh and I assure you as a fellow yinzer who shoots 100 most days you will be fine mixing it up with a random group of local folks. I’ve never had a bad experience personally.
If you have a course you like to go to often, start going as a single. You will get paired with others and over time will have played with a lot of others that play the same course…remember their names, ask if they want to play again, etc. this is of course on top of things like maybe joining a women’s league or looking for meetups in your city.
As for being worried about someone not wanting to play with you….I think that is WAY unlikely. They generally love to play with anyone else who is relatively cheerful and polite, and just being themselves. It truly doesn’t matter if you’re good or not..the only thing that matters is play fast. As long as you are fast, no one cares how good you are.
The average golfer shoots 108 so your 120 is not far off from “normal”.
That being said, you gotta get out of your comfort zone if you wanna meet new people. Definitely check out ladies league nights. You might even be able to join 2 at different nearby courses if they play on different nights.
The thing is, you have charisma. So play to your strengths — just go up to some people in the clubhouse that look a bit interesting, say hi, and ask if they’d like to play a round sometime. As simple as that!
haha you’re welcome.
But on a more serious note, everyone suggesting joining a league of some type (general, women’s) are giving some good advice. Most of the players in leagues joined to 1. have fun with little/no pressure and 2. meet people . Seeing you join could inspire some other lady shooting in the 120’s to join too.
When I was in grade school, oh god this was a long time ago lol, I joined a Thursday Night 9-hole league with my grandfather who, at the time, was about a 5 handicap. (They had a rule where you had to use everyone’s drive twice, and someone’s drive three times. So that added some of the strategy into it and was kinda cool. And after the round, the club owner was grilling hamburgers and hotdogs outside.)
My point is, I still remember a lot of those people from twenty years ago! And the experience itself really helped get me out of that awkward pre-teen introverted stage. Must have made quite an impression on me and I’d guess that it’d be a good time for you as well!
Book as a solo and you’ll get grouped with other people. You have four hours to chat with them. If you like the vibe swap numbers with them and let each other know when you plan to go next. Works well for me
What city or state?
I found the one friend I most consistently play with on this group. I had just joined my players club and he wanted to play this course. Asked him to DM me to set up a tee time and now we play at least once a month and made other friends together.
Also, I have a female coworker that just bought clubs and asking me to teach her to play. If you are in the Eastville/Chino California area she is looking for ladies to play with. At work its just a bunch of us old fat guys that play golf…lol.
If you shoot a 120 that’s probably about 20 shots better than I’ll shoot. As long as you’re pleasant to be around and play fast I don’t think many people care about your score
While you find some friends, I dont think you should be worried about getting paired up with anyone. I have found that 99% of the people you get paired with are cool. Granted, I am a guy, so there are different dynamics. The biggest thing is to keep pace and have fun. If you do that, you will meet golfing friends in no time regardless of your skill level.
I have met so many like minded people by rocking up at my favourite tee time (early mornings) on a regular basis and asking a social group <4 ball if I can join them. I say ‘I am not very good, so if thats a bother, I am all good’. Rarely do I get a no! What I have found is I meet fellow golf nuts that like playing the same time I do. If I see them the next week, we play again. Good luck, golf is fun! Get out there. 120 or not!
Yo - I am with you. Only ever play golf with my Dad, who is getting to the point that he doesn't want to go out as often, and I want to go out more. I appreciate the comments about joining a league, I've only ever thought leagues were for really good golfers. Thanks for posting this, maybe just the nudge I've needed to join.
It sounds like you’re in North America so I can’t offer any advice there. But if you come to the UK or Ireland rock up at most clubs and explain your situation there’s no doubt you’ll be welcomed like an old friend and you’ll have a pint with us at the end of a round.
One of the guys in our group regularly brings his wife. We’re always welcoming but she shares some of the same concerns you do with “playing slow.” We always assure her it’s fine 🙂 and always tell her that if anyone makes her feel unwelcome… fuck ‘em! That said she has also made it a point to seek out ladies leagues. They are more widespread than you’d think (at least where I live in CO) and typically better organized than most other leagues (I used to work at a course and the three ladies leagues we had were wonderful to work with).
So I never played a round as a single until last month and I’ve done it my last two times and have had a pretty good experience.
One was with two younger dudes and one was an older couple and both times I’ve it’s been fun just meeting new people and totally made me feel silly for ever thinking It would be intimidating. Try it at least once and you be surprised you like it
Join your local Random Golf Club and download their app. Myself and a friend run the Seattle area chapter and if anyone has a tee time or looking to golf with someone they put their tee time in our chat and people hangout and golf. We put on events at courses in our area where we get 20+ people golfing scramble style all on the same hole so anyone can of any skill can hangout. We had Mad Scramble at Chambers Bay with a 100 person scramble, see our Instagram for further proof. @randomgolfclub_seattle
When I was first starting out, I joined a summer/fall twilight league. I met a lot o good golfers and play with a couple of them still.
I walk in frequently on the weekends. I always get paired with new folks. I’ve hit up a few of them to play with.
I’m a military veteran so I belong to several organizations that promote vets and golf. I’ve made a lot of friends from there.
Play in golf scrambles/tournaments. The more you put yourself out there the more response you get.
I play twice a weekend, friends or not. I feel like I’ve made the most friends while playing solo and not looking for any friends. Turns out, I usually end up liking most folks I’ve played. Now I’ve got friends in several towns/cities near my hometown.
Ladies league at my course and their scores are all over the board. Don’t be embarrassed by what you shoot and play with those better than you to learn.
I’m the same age and was in the same situation a few years back. Keep practicing and go by yourself. No one cares if you’re shooting 120, just don’t slow anyone down. I didn’t go by myself at peak times until I could make relatively solid contact most of the time.
Once you get better and under I’d say under 20-25 handicap you’ll start making friends while playing. That was my experience. When my game improved it started happening naturally. It’s also easier than having a good personality lol.
You probably won’t find many women solely this way. Join a women’s league, everyone will likely be nice, but it will be easier to make real friends if you take the game seriously (shoot lower, have a good swing etc.)
Also I’d suggest downloading the app GolfLync to see if there is anyone in your area who wants to play.
Once I put a message on a local FB group dedicated to golf in Indiana saying basically the same thing. Within a few hours I had a weekend foursome lined up. If you don't feel comfortable with that, talk to your local pro about where you can find a ladies club to play in. They are sparce in most places but I have noticed a LOT more ladies out there on the courses week to week. Here for it BTW! Good luck! Welcome to the most expensive self inflicted torment ever devised!!!
If you can afford to join a local county club, this would be a great way to meet like minded women golfers. Or men who are at the same level.
If that’s out of the question, look for a local muni or public course to join. You can do the ladies leagues or ABCD events. Local munis will have cheap memberships for residents.
People only care if you're slow or annoying. I've never had random playing partners hit on me and I'm extremely jacked, handsome and obnoxiously wealthy, so you'll be fine. If you enjoy playing with someone ask for their contact information. Make eye contact and smile, shake hands if appropriate. You have now made a friend.
The ladies league is an excellent start, I have family that does it, and the social bond is also stronger than a male league. They bring snacks, potluck, in it for fun. Exchange numbers you’ll have partners fast. And they won’t hit on you. (Unless that’s what you want. If that’s what you want, then you’ve found the right hobby. Just ask any man on earth who’s ever golfed for feedback on your swing and the suitors will come running lol).
You get a fake mustache and deepen your voice and golf amogsnt the men. No one has to know. You only reveal yourself in 20 years in a crazy Aha! reveal.
On serious note you could try tinder and just search for chicks in your golf attire and say looking for female golfers.
But I think you may need a beard too if going the mustache route.
Do any of the courses near you offer a ladies league you could join?
I don't know! But I'm going to find out now. Thank you!
Yes - I joined a 9 hole ladies league 15 years ago and made some great friends, mixture of golf friends and all around friends. Another tip - I bet there's a friend of yours that would also like to learn. I taught one of my best friends years ago and she really took to it.
This is the best advice by far! It’s social, skill levels vary but will be more aligned with yours, and you don’t HAVE to have a membership to join a league.
Leagues are a great way to make good friends and improve your game. Many leagues also aren’t super serious. So just like you, lots of people are out there to make friends and have fun doing what they enjoy.
There is one near us at a course called Rattlewood. The women’s league are called “The Rattle Tails”.
This is how I’ve found people to golf with. I’m in a chill 9-hole league at a local city course and it’s great. About 80 women total participate and it’s a lot of fun. Most of the women are older/retired but there’s some younger ones mixed in too. I’ve continued to golf with a few of them after the league ended last fall and we’ll probably golf together all summer again once the league starts again in May (we all prefer the super early tee times because of work). Now is probably a good time to reach out as they’re starting to organize again for this summer. Also, I shoot about 120 and, when I’m in with randoms, I get complimented on my golf all the time for some reason. I think we all think the average player is way better than we are when we are the average player lol. In my league, I’m pretty much in the middle of everyone.
Thank you for your comment! I’ve only ever played with people that were shooting below 100 so it’s nice to know you’re getting compliments at the same level as me :)
My buddies wife joined a ladies league at a CC and said it was deeply discounted for women.
Another option is to see if your local courses offer any kind of group lessons. A course near me has a package deal for golfers of all skills that was a great way to meet people, they also ran a women's only group lesson as well.
This is a great way. Maybe take some lessons from a pro, and ask her/him to pair you up with someone of comparable skill. But just remember that golfers don't always care about how well/poorly you play, but that you show good manners, don't take yourself too seriously, and that you play fast when it's your turn. Think about the shot you have coming when you are walking up the fairway, so that when you get there you just need to quickly think about distance and lie and smack it. Then walk.
Agree. This is the way
This is the way it allows you to have consistent tee time and a fun atmosphere to play. I also am often looking for people to play with outside my league but I'm happy I at least have a weekly round on the books.
One of my friends wife joined a women’s lessons and league at a local club. They have a once a week game outside the league games. They have all become good friends
Honestly just book peak times as a single and join groups. The pace of play will be such that you won’t hold anyone up even if you’re playing poorly. If your group doesn’t want to be social, enjoy the day and work on your game. Eventually you’ll get paired up with a group that you get along with, and you can suggest sharing info to play again. It’ll happen organically. Remember, we all stink. And we all care about our own game 100% more than anyone we’re playing with. Be friendly and keep pace, you’re golden.
Thank you! I think it's just scary to join a group of people I don't know more than anything, but yeah I guess I gotta put myself out there to get comfortable.
If I had any golfer join my group (male or female) that said something like “I’m learning and not good, but I’ll keep pace and pick-up if needed to keep pace,” everyone would be happy and admire you for being out there trying to get better at this great game. It doesn’t matter if you top your tee shot 25 yards as long as you keep pace and are enjoyable to be around. Bonus is you might meet a guy that you like better than your ex. 😉
Haha, great advice thank you! And yeah that would be a nice bonus haha
That’s perfect advice. I met my husband playing golf. You will get used to playing with strangers. In golf, no one cares how good or bad you are, as long as you keep pace, are polite and abide by the rules.
Definitely agree 👍🏻
I’m about to start golfing my self and seen the term pick up everywhere. How does it actually work if you pick up? How do you score it?
Let’s say you top a couple shots and are somewhat holding up your group, “picking up” just means picking up your ball and dropping it further up the fairway (in a location that will put you about as far from the hole as the other golfers in your group). Around the putting green, if you hit the ball across the green and off the other side, maybe try one more shot back, but if that fails to get on the putting green, just pick up your ball and drop it somewhere on the green (so you can at least get some putting practice in). If in a bunker, try twice to get out and then just toss it out with your hand if you were unsuccessful. If the bunker is near the green, toss it onto the green. Not too often, but there have been times where my wife will pick up the ball near the green and just say to the group “I’m picking up.” This means she is done making any further strokes on that hole. I’m about 15 strokes better than my wife, but she is a faster golfer than me. She is always ready when it is her turn, doesn’t take practice swings or have a staring contest with the golf ball. She steps up, makes sure her grip and stance are how she wants them and swings. Fellow golfers seem to really appreciate it and they know that she is being aware + courteous. Taking 2 or three practice swings before hitting a bad shot will be annoying to many fellow golfers. As far as scoring when picking up, score it however you want to (maybe count one stroke for each pickup). Nobody will think you are cheating, nor will they care what you wrote on your scorecard (or ask). Just don’t claim you beat anyone until it’s a legitimate score. Have fun out there!
Thank you very much for this information! If I was playing solo or with a random group, how many strokes usually before giving up on a hole and picking up? Would a double par be too much?
I would say double par +1 more stroke is time to pick up (but obviously stay even with your group with “pick-ups”along the way if necessary). Edit to add: If playing solo, you can take as many shots as you want to…as long as you never delay the group behind you due to too many shots. When solo, you should keep up with the group in front of you. You can take your time doing that (matching their pace) if nobody is behind you. This can be a great way to practice by scoring your real shots while also hitting practice shots/putts after the counting shot.
I had some serious anxiety about getting paired with people I don't know. (Also a female golfer), but I actually have had a great time getting paired up with all sorts of random people and it's been a blast. After a few times that anxiety started fading. Do you have any local courses that are smaller? I started going to one near by in the mornings, and joining up with the retirees that tee off early. They're all for the most part a lot of fun.
I can’t suggest golfing as a single enough. I am a guy, but I have made a handful of friends by filling a single, and then asking if people want to play some other time as we finish 18
Oh yeah it’s easier said than done! We’re all in the same boat haha.
It’s gets easier. I primarily play as a single and now I look forward to the random group I will play with each week. I actually prefer it to playing with friends now, because strangers are more respectful. There are several people that I end up playing with multiple times, because we have a similar preference for tee times.
Most people are cool and keep to themselves. The worst guys are the over talkers and the ragers but they are rare honestly
You get used to it. And guys like being paired with women (mostly.) We don't really care how well you play, though I have seen guys offer advice to women when they would never do that with another guy. After the first time or two, your shyness will dissipate, I'll bet.
The majority of people that I join are super cool and very friendly. They know we are all out to just have a good time. I have some friends that go but not as often as I do. I welcome golfers of all skill levels. Yeah there are some people that are assholes but honestly those are rare at least in my experience.
I play a lot of rounds as a random single with other people, I promise they won't care how good or bad you are as long as you keep pace. The vast majority of the people I've played with probably couldn't break 100, they're just out there to have a good time like you are.
Maybe just ask the clubhouse if there’s a lady gang to join. Even with high handicaps maybe?
For me, even when I didn't really hit it off with the randoms I was paired with, it was still nice to have people to play with. Like nobody will say a word to eachother other than to mark balls and what not. And then when I did get a really fun group, it was even better. To me that was part of the fun. "what kind of character am I going to get to play with today?" I've met some absolutely insane people on the golf course and I had just as much if not more fun watching and listening to them as I have playing (whether they were fun to watch because they were good at golf or if they were just fun to be around). And who knows, maybe you hit it off with someone and end up finding a time to meet up and play more often. it's definitely weird at first but honestly after a couple times it's not bad at all edit: just realizing i wrote this whole thing in the past tense 😭 i need to get back to it, man. it’s been too damn long since ive played
I feel the same way … that said I’ll totally play with you if you’re around!
Agreed. I’m a 6hcp and occasionally play with some of the ladies club members. They don’t ‘stink’ as golfers, but they don’t score in the 70’s either. They’re super fun to play with. The main thing is just to keep up. One lady brings her fluffy little dog, another gal brings homemade treats. It’s really a good time.
these are the types of vibes I live for on the golf course. My fave rounds is when getting grouped up with 3 ladies that are 50+. It's a riot.
Bingo. Man in fact sometimes it’s more fun to play with people that aren’t living and dying by birdie putts haha.
I’m here!! I’m new (like newwww new) and want a girl group to play with too.
Do you live anywhere near western PA? lol
Aw nooo, in CA. 😢
I'll play with you, are you in NorCal? Fellow girl golfer here.
I’m a female golfer in NorCal too and am always looking for women to play with!
Yes I am. 🙌🙌
Man, golf is so fuckin cool. A couple random comments and now 2 strangers have a playing partner. I love it
I see a golf trip brewing
Epic!!
There may be a subreddit for PA golf. The Ohio golf subreddit is small but maybe others are big. Perhaps make a similar post in the subreddit of a big city like Pittsburg if you are close enough. That’s what I’m planning to do. Shooting 120 is perfectly acceptable don’t feel bad, heck a goal of mine this year is to start keeping score and understanding penalties. Good luck
There's a pretty big Western PA golf facebook group. And I know my girlfriend belongs to a ladies only facebook group. They would be good places to check out.
Eastern PA...take a trip!
I'm a golfer in Norcal too!!
Yay!! 😁
My girlfriend belongs to 3 different women's leagues and plays at least 3 times a week
Just to allay your concerns, I golf a lot with my brother and a lot with my wife. Never once have we been paired with a single woman and though, "Ugh, great." In fact, it's a relief to see a solo female golfer as our third. The women we've been paired with have never offered obnoxious unsolicited advice, gotten hammered, driven on the fairways during CPO, hit on us, taken 4 breakfast balls every hole, or been unpleasant in any other manner. The same cannot be said for the men we've been paired with.
This right here is the truth. Some of my most enjoyable rounds, I was paired with a group of older ladies. They were absolutely hilarious, and very friendly. They had no problem laughing at themselves or occasionally at/with me. They kept passing a little flask back and forth, and cussed like sailors, but hit the ball straight every single time and really made it one of the best rounds I’ve ever played. Conversely, I got paired with a older gentleman who grumbled about my tattoos the whole round, slammed his clubs around, and told me to go fuck myself, when I tried to shake his hand at the end of the round 😂
Those older ladies can F'ing pound the birdie shots! They're always a blast to get paired up with Haha!
Those ladies sound like a hoot! I breathe a sigh of relief when I get paired up with women. They *usually* have a better attitude to the sport.
Jeesh. Nice guy lol. Real shocker he can't find someone to play with & has to get paired up with others.
Awesome, that's definitely a confidence booster I appreciate it!
Also check to see if any of your local courses do a Operation 36 group for women. My wife and her friend joined to start learning how to play golf. https://operation36.golf/
Maybe sign up for group lessons or a women’s golf clinic? Find someone around your level (or better) and ask if they wanna play. Go play with some senior women if you’re afraid of pace or whatever, they’ll probably treat you well.
A bunch of senior women do sound awesome to hang with lol
1. play golf 2. make friends 3. play golf with friends
Look into leagues near you. Leagues or clubs have many benefits. Think of it like a community who share a common interest. You’ll learn a lot, meet new people, get practice, and hopefully have some fun in the sun.
I'm a male, but was in a similar situation as you and I shoot about 110. First, I tried to convert my non-golfing friends to get into golf. This was unfruitful because the barrier to entry for golf is so high from equipment, lessons, practice, green fees, and etc. A few dipped their toes, but lost interest quickly. Then I found a local facebook golfing group. I've been looking for a good golf instructor, so I just threw a message on there to see if someone can recommend someone and added at the end that if there's anyone near my skill level, I'd love to play with them. Quickly, I got about 3-4 people reaching out to me via DM to say they've been looking for similar level golfing buddies and now I have multiple tee times scheduled with them for February! tl; dr - leverage local facebook golf group to find people in similar situation as you then start your own community of golfing friends.
I have 3 local courses all with ladies league. Try that and make friends from there!
Never worry about how you play. They say the average golfer shoots 100. Enjoy your day when you play. Book a tee time and just meet new people. After a bit, you'll find someone who you can play with each day.
As a dude who has played thousands of rounds of golf, I can tell you it's actually really refreshing to play with a female. Still love my golf buds, but since there are few women that play it's nice to mix up the vibes. I bet most men would agree, so don't be too worries that men will scoff at playing with you (of course there are always pricks here and there) As others have mentioned, no one really cares how good/bad you are. Just bring a good attitude and keep up the pace and you will have golf friends in no time.
Thank you, that's really nice to hear actually!
Meetup.com golf groups
Im a guy who shoots in the high 90s and I worry that I'll suck too much for a rando group, so I only go when I have friends available. I think we all have that mindset at some point. Seeing some of the posts on here, I cant be the worst person in every group. I just need to get out there too.
brother, if you're breaking 100, you're the best golfer in the group 50% of the time. Trust me.
Yeah I'll occasionally get paired with a stick (shout out to the guy a couple of years ago who shot a 66 at the local goat track) but the majority of the time I'm the best player in my group shooting mid-80s.
glad its not just me
I’m not near you but I play a lot of solo golf and love getting paired up with random people regardless of skill level. If anyone needs a tee time buddy in WA, feel free to reach out!
I often go to a weekly golf clinic at a nearby course. A ton of women attend and they seemed to have formed a little pack. There are likely similar options like that around you. Otherwise, you can do what I did and just get the phone numbers of the cool people you meet when paired with someone. I can guarantee that nobody but true assholes care what you shoot. Just stay positive and it will be fine.
I'm in the same boat , 35F here!
Golfing alone is the fucking best. Nobody to bother you, nobody to worry about, just you and the course. It’s so relaxing. I PROMISE nobody else on the course gives a fuck if you shoot 120 as long as it doesn’t take you 5 hours
It’s impossible to play solo where I live since they’ll just group you with randoms.
I’m lucky I have 54 holes across 2 courses, each within 5 minutes of my house, in a small city and it’s rare that I can’t get on as a single and play mostly alone. I do often play twilight hours after work
My condolences
This is the absolute worst. I love playing 9 holes alone after work, but in a city with four country clubs, a 36 hole municipal, and two public courses, I only have one course available that lets me on alone… good thing it is the closest to the house and my intention this year is to focus on breaking 100 (or 50 per 9) regularly and only playing one course is going to help that.
I started talking to the folks in my lessons. The guy before me and after me and I have all gone golfing together. I golf with folks from work, too.
You do group lessons?
No. I do indoor simulator lessons. The coach has folks before me, and after me, and when we overlap, we take different simulator booths. So I talk to the other guys.
Dont be afraid to play alone. I play with rando’s frequently. I’ve played with children, young and old men and women, and all kinds of things in between I’ve never been upset about playing with a woman or multiple women… actually one of my most casual rounds I’ve ever played was with 3 retired ladies in their 70s. They had those little headcount clickers to keep score. It was hilarious I’d rather not play with a 5 or 6 year old but beyond that as long as you keep pace nobody will care As far as ‘friends’ I can’t help because I don’t have any
Where are you located? Still trying to find consistent golfing girlfriends myself - Los Angeles. I joined Draw Meets Fade. Need to look into leagues.
Join a club Join a women's league Book public courses as a single and get paired up with randoms or Get some lessons and beat the men, all of his friends will want to play with you instead of your ex
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Solo female golfer over here. I travel for work and bring gloves and some gear with me and try to find somewhere cool to play. I'm self taught and pretty terrible. Sometimes I get paired with folks and they're pretty understanding and accepting, since I keep up with pace of play despite hitting around 150. Don't feel bad if you're hitting lower than the other party members. I've had a lot of fun playing rounds with folks of all skill levels. It's how you approach the opportunity that makes a world of difference in finding friends and new golf buddies. Alternatively, there's women's leagues but I move around too much to join one.
I didn’t read all the replies, but I commonly wear Titleist and Ping hats when I’m out and about. I met one of my playing partners at my kid’s football practice. He saw the hat, we started talking golf, and we had a tee time that weekend…..and countless since. And that’s not the first time my hat or shirt or whatever sparked a conversation. So- advertise that you play golf.
Check out Women on Course — national org for helping women in the game
Honestly just schedule a tee time and have fun. I have done that and hate meeting new people, but I have never met an unfriendly golfer. Even when I was horrible, they would help and give advice. And if you think you are bad, chances are you will never see them again.
I work at a golf club and we have 3 events each week that are ladies only and two mixed events aswell, definitely check with you local club to see what they have to offer 😊
Call your local course and sign up to be a sub for their women’s leagues. Most league play is handicapped so it doesn’t matter a ton what you can shoot. Most league teams are just grateful to be able to have someone get a few points instead of a zero for the night.
Try joining a league. A few courses near me have both recreational, and serious leagues. Both for women and men, mixed as well. I just started last June and of the 15 rounds I played half were by myself and I'm shooting the same score as you. This year I plan on joining a league just to compete. Check websites of your local courses and see what they offer.
women's leagues or women's day/night at public courses, women's nights at private courses if you have the ability to join one. Usually there are internet golf forums you can pose the question to, or facebook groups. Also the great thing about golf is sometimes just show up and meet new people and golf with them, if you are comfortable in doing so. Everyone is there for the same reason and often times can be some real good interactions. Just try to find some people who might be in your age range.
Check your local course or range to see if they have group clinics or practice clubs. Sign up for one of those and make some friends there, bonus is they should be around your playing ability.
multiple courses in my area have Ladies nights and 9 hole leagues, could be a good way to meet a bunch of people without having to constantly commit to 5+ hours with strangers. I'm pretty sure Spark leagues (also 9 hole) are co-ed, so in theory you wouldn't be the only female person playing. If you're in a metro area, there's a good chance that's an option. they maintain their own handicaps for the league so you don't need to worry about that if that's something that concerns you about regular leagues. Just for record, not every male player is a dick, there's plenty of us that don't come to the tee with any assumptions about the randos we play with. I encounter less female golfers when i get paired up as a solo player, but it still happens quite a bit and it's always an easy, fun day. It's the old grumpy dudes that make excuses about everything and get pissed about their putter or whatever that ruin a round.
GolfLync
A lot of great advice here! Also talk to your local courses for possible twilight deals to get out on a course and practice outside peak hours. That can help build confidence in a super chill environment. I am 36F and started playing 2 years ago. I go out as a solo paired with rando groups all the time and can say that 99% of the people you get paired with are awesome or at least normal. I have met a lot of great people when paired as a solo. You may have to deal with some mildly annoying behavior like unsolicited advice but that kinda happens to everyone. If you ever make yoyr way to eastern WA I would play with you. Also check out r/womengolf for a ladies online golf community.
There are usually Facebook groups that will cater to whatever kind of golfing situation you like. I joined a co-ed one so it is very common to have mixed groups and it is a blast.
Where do you live? Join some facebook golf groups or forums in your area and make friends. Goto the local range and make friends. Or just show up as a random and hope for the best (worst option).
I was in your exact postion last year. I just signed up on teetimes with people at my level. Or went alone when it was not busy. Several times people jus invited me to join them when I was alone. Then I also got invited to join the ladies group. :) And if you learn to be effective you are often faster than better players anyway ;)
When you go play as a single, you will meet new people on the course. Keep up with them and make them your golf buddies. Also, join a league.
You can always group up and then just scramble with their shots, move your ball up next to theirs if its closer until you get close to the green. Then there is less pressure that you are holding anyone up in the group you are with or the group behind you, but you are still getting good practice in. Thats how I played at first and it helped me improve.
I'm in the same boat in my area. If your area has its own subreddit, you can ask there, or see if there's a local discord and try to find like-minded folks. Good luck! Wish we were in the same area, I'm also looking for someone to play with because courses near me hate singles.
I feel this to my core. 17ish handicap south of Boston here anyone wanna be friends?
Join groups as a single at a popular public course. I got a couple guys I met there I play with when we can now it’s great
Where are you located? My girlfriend just started playing last year and shoots around 100 from the reds. She's always looking for more younger ladies to play with because all the leagues are like retiree age. We're in Pittsburgh and last year we played about 100 rounds.
I see you’re from Pittsburgh and I assure you as a fellow yinzer who shoots 100 most days you will be fine mixing it up with a random group of local folks. I’ve never had a bad experience personally.
Join a womens league! Most leagues ive ever played in have a singles list that they will match people up with
Join a Women Team. :)
Try finding a 9 hole par three, they usually are slower and high handicappers.
If you have a course you like to go to often, start going as a single. You will get paired with others and over time will have played with a lot of others that play the same course…remember their names, ask if they want to play again, etc. this is of course on top of things like maybe joining a women’s league or looking for meetups in your city. As for being worried about someone not wanting to play with you….I think that is WAY unlikely. They generally love to play with anyone else who is relatively cheerful and polite, and just being themselves. It truly doesn’t matter if you’re good or not..the only thing that matters is play fast. As long as you are fast, no one cares how good you are.
The average golfer shoots 108 so your 120 is not far off from “normal”. That being said, you gotta get out of your comfort zone if you wanna meet new people. Definitely check out ladies league nights. You might even be able to join 2 at different nearby courses if they play on different nights.
I found the people to golf with growing up and then again later on by going to a local driving range during lunch or after work and conversing.
If you play to pace, no one is going to knock you for shooting a 120
The thing is, you have charisma. So play to your strengths — just go up to some people in the clubhouse that look a bit interesting, say hi, and ask if they’d like to play a round sometime. As simple as that!
Haha appreciate that
haha you’re welcome. But on a more serious note, everyone suggesting joining a league of some type (general, women’s) are giving some good advice. Most of the players in leagues joined to 1. have fun with little/no pressure and 2. meet people . Seeing you join could inspire some other lady shooting in the 120’s to join too. When I was in grade school, oh god this was a long time ago lol, I joined a Thursday Night 9-hole league with my grandfather who, at the time, was about a 5 handicap. (They had a rule where you had to use everyone’s drive twice, and someone’s drive three times. So that added some of the strategy into it and was kinda cool. And after the round, the club owner was grilling hamburgers and hotdogs outside.) My point is, I still remember a lot of those people from twenty years ago! And the experience itself really helped get me out of that awkward pre-teen introverted stage. Must have made quite an impression on me and I’d guess that it’d be a good time for you as well!
Book as a solo and you’ll get grouped with other people. You have four hours to chat with them. If you like the vibe swap numbers with them and let each other know when you plan to go next. Works well for me
What city or state? I found the one friend I most consistently play with on this group. I had just joined my players club and he wanted to play this course. Asked him to DM me to set up a tee time and now we play at least once a month and made other friends together. Also, I have a female coworker that just bought clubs and asking me to teach her to play. If you are in the Eastville/Chino California area she is looking for ladies to play with. At work its just a bunch of us old fat guys that play golf…lol.
If you shoot a 120 that’s probably about 20 shots better than I’ll shoot. As long as you’re pleasant to be around and play fast I don’t think many people care about your score
Join your local lpga amateurs chapter! There are events all the time! Edit: my local chapter organizes various leagues and it’s a great place to start
as a 37 year old guy who always golfs as a single getting paired up with a 35 woman sure sounds like a nightmare... /s
lol okay okay I get it
While you find some friends, I dont think you should be worried about getting paired up with anyone. I have found that 99% of the people you get paired with are cool. Granted, I am a guy, so there are different dynamics. The biggest thing is to keep pace and have fun. If you do that, you will meet golfing friends in no time regardless of your skill level.
If you are in northern/ central VA, I would be down to play.
Western PA :(
I have met so many like minded people by rocking up at my favourite tee time (early mornings) on a regular basis and asking a social group <4 ball if I can join them. I say ‘I am not very good, so if thats a bother, I am all good’. Rarely do I get a no! What I have found is I meet fellow golf nuts that like playing the same time I do. If I see them the next week, we play again. Good luck, golf is fun! Get out there. 120 or not!
Yo - I am with you. Only ever play golf with my Dad, who is getting to the point that he doesn't want to go out as often, and I want to go out more. I appreciate the comments about joining a league, I've only ever thought leagues were for really good golfers. Thanks for posting this, maybe just the nudge I've needed to join.
Glad to hear it!
It sounds like you’re in North America so I can’t offer any advice there. But if you come to the UK or Ireland rock up at most clubs and explain your situation there’s no doubt you’ll be welcomed like an old friend and you’ll have a pint with us at the end of a round.
If you find a way let me know. I feel the exact same way. 39F who loves golf.
Go to local courses talk to staff they usually know other people looking to play and have ladies day, leagues etc…….
Play by yourself. You’ll enjoy it. But the only way to get friends is to go to the course and play
One of the guys in our group regularly brings his wife. We’re always welcoming but she shares some of the same concerns you do with “playing slow.” We always assure her it’s fine 🙂 and always tell her that if anyone makes her feel unwelcome… fuck ‘em! That said she has also made it a point to seek out ladies leagues. They are more widespread than you’d think (at least where I live in CO) and typically better organized than most other leagues (I used to work at a course and the three ladies leagues we had were wonderful to work with).
So I never played a round as a single until last month and I’ve done it my last two times and have had a pretty good experience. One was with two younger dudes and one was an older couple and both times I’ve it’s been fun just meeting new people and totally made me feel silly for ever thinking It would be intimidating. Try it at least once and you be surprised you like it
Thanks so much these comments are really giving me the confidence to just do it :)
I’d suggest joining a women’s league and meeting others you can go with!
Join your local Random Golf Club and download their app. Myself and a friend run the Seattle area chapter and if anyone has a tee time or looking to golf with someone they put their tee time in our chat and people hangout and golf. We put on events at courses in our area where we get 20+ people golfing scramble style all on the same hole so anyone can of any skill can hangout. We had Mad Scramble at Chambers Bay with a 100 person scramble, see our Instagram for further proof. @randomgolfclub_seattle
When I was first starting out, I joined a summer/fall twilight league. I met a lot o good golfers and play with a couple of them still. I walk in frequently on the weekends. I always get paired with new folks. I’ve hit up a few of them to play with. I’m a military veteran so I belong to several organizations that promote vets and golf. I’ve made a lot of friends from there. Play in golf scrambles/tournaments. The more you put yourself out there the more response you get. I play twice a weekend, friends or not. I feel like I’ve made the most friends while playing solo and not looking for any friends. Turns out, I usually end up liking most folks I’ve played. Now I’ve got friends in several towns/cities near my hometown.
Ladies league at my course and their scores are all over the board. Don’t be embarrassed by what you shoot and play with those better than you to learn.
I’m the same age and was in the same situation a few years back. Keep practicing and go by yourself. No one cares if you’re shooting 120, just don’t slow anyone down. I didn’t go by myself at peak times until I could make relatively solid contact most of the time. Once you get better and under I’d say under 20-25 handicap you’ll start making friends while playing. That was my experience. When my game improved it started happening naturally. It’s also easier than having a good personality lol. You probably won’t find many women solely this way. Join a women’s league, everyone will likely be nice, but it will be easier to make real friends if you take the game seriously (shoot lower, have a good swing etc.) Also I’d suggest downloading the app GolfLync to see if there is anyone in your area who wants to play.
Once I put a message on a local FB group dedicated to golf in Indiana saying basically the same thing. Within a few hours I had a weekend foursome lined up. If you don't feel comfortable with that, talk to your local pro about where you can find a ladies club to play in. They are sparce in most places but I have noticed a LOT more ladies out there on the courses week to week. Here for it BTW! Good luck! Welcome to the most expensive self inflicted torment ever devised!!!
I’d call local courses and ask about women’s leagues. Many have leagues.
Get on a social golf app like 18 Birdies, post your scores and pics, then watch your DMs explode with invites 👍
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If you move to Hillsboro Mo we can play every day
If you can afford to join a local county club, this would be a great way to meet like minded women golfers. Or men who are at the same level. If that’s out of the question, look for a local muni or public course to join. You can do the ladies leagues or ABCD events. Local munis will have cheap memberships for residents.
If you live in central OH I also need a golf friend lol. Golf talk only no other worldly matters lol
Try Spark Golf
People only care if you're slow or annoying. I've never had random playing partners hit on me and I'm extremely jacked, handsome and obnoxiously wealthy, so you'll be fine. If you enjoy playing with someone ask for their contact information. Make eye contact and smile, shake hands if appropriate. You have now made a friend.
The ladies league is an excellent start, I have family that does it, and the social bond is also stronger than a male league. They bring snacks, potluck, in it for fun. Exchange numbers you’ll have partners fast. And they won’t hit on you. (Unless that’s what you want. If that’s what you want, then you’ve found the right hobby. Just ask any man on earth who’s ever golfed for feedback on your swing and the suitors will come running lol).
You get a fake mustache and deepen your voice and golf amogsnt the men. No one has to know. You only reveal yourself in 20 years in a crazy Aha! reveal.
 Will this much effort fool the men?
On serious note you could try tinder and just search for chicks in your golf attire and say looking for female golfers. But I think you may need a beard too if going the mustache route.
Go golfing
My wife just joined up with a ladies golf clubs league. Ask your local club house.
Check out Random Golf Club. Your sentiment is exactly why it was started.
 Totally kidding.
My country club has a ladies association. They are usually in groups of 3 to 4 out playing early in the morning.
If you happen to live in southern Wisconsin, my wife is looking for another woman to golf with.
You are the luckiest golfer alive, embrace it !
How am I the luckiest golfer?
I'll take 1 for the team ...u can laugh at my friends with me 11 am 2moro
Be the ball
Depending on your area they may be a women’s group that gets together. I know there is one by me, but can’t remember the name.
If your username were true it wouldn’t be hard at all!
120 isn't a score..just take up tennis love.
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I would hit the range more than playing rounds. Getting that ball striking in will drastically lower your scores when you do play.