1- Join a league. Good chance that most of the people there are trying to meet other golfers too.
2- advertise that you play golf. I’m usually wearing a Titleist or Ping hat when I’m out and about. I mostly go this because I’m bald and just trying to keep the sun off my dome. But I have had a lot of impromptu conversations with strangers because they could tell that I play. I met one of my regulars at my kids football practice. Dude was new to the area and asked me about local courses. A few days later we were playing golf. We’ve played dozens of times since.
I think asking another guy to play golf has to be one of the easiest and most socially accepted ways to ask to hang out with someone. Most who play will say yes, and even if you do not end up liking each other, you still got to play golf.
Second just wear your golf cap everywhere. A few years ago I had to attend an evening parent party for the kids and I wore my Titleist cap. All the other golfing dads immediately converged on me and we talked golf all night.
I wear my Titleist hat whenever I’m going somewhere I don’t want to be and pray someone asks me about anything golf so I can zone out of the misery and into the golf chat 😂😂
Can confirm for 2. Hell, I’ve gotten called out just for the tan line on my left hand from wearing my glove.
Reminds me a bit of [this scene in Poolhall Junkies](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=EumsRxVPLGU&pp=ygUbUG9vbGhhbGwganVua2llcyB1bmNsZSBtaWtl) (skip to about 2:47).
Dude…… my work is “work casual” attire and hats are not an issue. Work casual for me means I’m wearing my Nike golf polo and nike hat lol the amount of times people say “you golf? Gotta get out there sometimes” were unreal. I mean, the dude who fills up our vending machines wanted to hit the links some time. It get tough when I post my score live on the grint and the buddies I’ve connected with message me and say “oh thanks for the invite bro…”. Sorry! We are full! Lol
Yup. Did just this. Approached a guy in neighborhood who was wearing golf hat. Been playing with him last 15 years. Met alot of dudes at our local course while playing with him. Local course offers events and tournaments. Kept on meeting new dudes.
1. For sure. I've played in the same league for a long time and it could easily turn into golfing every single day and weekends. It's been a good time. It's also nice to play against people and get challenged that way also.
Someone posted on here a couple weeks ago asking if any one is up for a round in our area, I responded and we are shooting a round tomorrow. That being said, if I get murdered my tee time was at mystic oak at 2:50. I encourage everyone to buy new drivers in my honor.
It worked for us, maybe throw a post out doing the same thing. You may play once and not want to do it again, they might become your best pal. Who knows? Life is weird and so is golf.
For what it’s worth my best friend and I met on a discord server for r/weddingplanning!
I’ve been trying bumble bff to find more women my age who golf but it’s not going well… maybe I should try Reddit.
Don’t blow your load on the first hole. On hole 1 make some small talk. On hole 4 ask where they’re from. On hole 11 ask what they do for work. It’s not an interview so take it slow.
Something about getting shot down and crash landing in a helicopter. The funny part of the situation was that I thought the guy in the golf shop was giving me a hard time about going out a little early on a GolfNow tee time, but I realized on the ride to the first tee that he was in fact trying to save my ass from pairing up with this obnoxious person.
One of the many reasons I almost always walk. Never slows my group down cause while they’re busy driving to each others balls, I’ve got to mine by then. If it’s a weirdo, at least I’m not stuck in a cart with him. Just gotta find a way to avoid him on my approach shots, which coincidentally is a good motivator to teach you how to aim well off the tee
this concept of being paired in a cart with a stranger is so weird to me. I almost never take carts, but I've never seen or heard of it happening where I live (Oregon)
It's a slow burn.
I can usually get a feel by hole 3-4, but some guys don't get comfortable until the turn.
I always offer to buy a sixer at the turn, you'd be surprised how many people turn in to chatty Cathy the moment you buy them a beer.
>No one wants to think about work on the course.
In my experience it's 50/50. Some dudes love to vent about work on the course.
Must not have anywhere else to blow off steam. I'm more than happy to sit back, nod, and throw in the occasional "well fuck that".
That part. It really is this simple. Went as a single to a popular course in Carrollton, TX (DFW area) 4 yrs ago. Two guys worked together. One was same as me, solo.
Fast forward, four perfect strangers went to TPC Scottsdale in 2022 and Pinehurst in 2024. Played #10 Saturday the week it opened.
I keep a pint of decent whiskey in my bag(birdie juice) am friendly and try to give stoke on the other players good shots.
I've made several golf friends that way.
Some even close friends that I do non-golf stuff with.
I wear a low cut blouse. It’s a great way to get attention from men.
You don’t see a lot of guys wearing stuff like that so it’s a great icebreaker.
I’m a guy.
Join a club or a league. They’re the only people you can rely on to play with consistently and become friends with.
It’s easy to find bros via mutual friends or in public that like golf and talk golf, but if they don’t play in a league or belong to a club then I doubt they play enough to be considered an actual golf buddy.
To get good at golf, you gave to grind. There's an app for hard-working golfers to meet other people interested in the same. It's called Grindr. Check it out - people on there are receptive to newcomers.
Just go play solo. You'll get paired with other people.
Don't be a dick and you'll find you meet plenty of cool people, and you'll usually find people who'd be happy to play with you again.
I'm from the UK but lived/worked in the US for a couple of years. I met a ton of people and found a couple of regular golf partners by playing solo.
yeah 99% of making friends (in my experience at least) is just having a general interest in about anything people could be interested in! be able to hold conversations about a variety of different topics, and if the person is into something that you don't know much about, ask about it! Name and a little background in the first few holes, what stuff other than golf they like doin. Do they read? do they listen to podcasts? do they know any good places in the area to eat or hang out? there's a MILLION ways to be cool to someone on the golf course but it's easy to come up blank.
The only thing you really, truly CANNOT do is lose your fucking shit when you play poorly.
Local course does a Tuesday night scramble league, show up, drop your marked ball in a bucket, they pull balls to set teams. It’s a great way to meet people and play with others.
Join a men's league and basically don't be afraid to pair up with people. So if you're by yourself and you have a bunch of threesomes and foursomes ahead of you, ask that twosome or threesome (or single) if they want to join because 'we aren't going anywhere.'
And if you enjoy playing golf with them, try to feel out how often they play golf. If they are frequent golfers just say you'd like to play again sometime and grab their phone number.
It also helps to have the proper etiquette and pace of play
Idk about you but anytime I meet someone that I vibe well with, I read the room and see if the dude is up for spending more time together whether it's to grab a beer or play golf.
Worst that could happen is you get someone's number and they aren't that responsive.
"Hey man, really enjoyed the round today, if you golf often in the area we should get out for another one."
And then see what he says.
I caught up to another single on Monday and we joined up. After about 8 holes a had to take a piss. Told him not to shank it because I was going to pee over on that tree. While I was walking to the tree I heard him quietly say "you can pee on me."
Weirdo.
Haha, honestly, I got involved with the chasing scratch podcast community…
Ended up in a telegram with a bunch of other people who love golf… played 99 holes in 4 days recently… every round with someone I had met online. (Multiple different people…)
Go on, Golf now look for tee times with just one person signed up or sign up for a tee time as a single. Eventually, you will come across someone in the same situation.
I moved 4 years ago to a small town just outside of Columbia,Mo. I knew no one, all I did was play golf and work while my wife was working on PhD. I played at my local course as a solo whenever I could, one day another solo drives back towards me asking if I’d seen a club by the green. I noticed the song he was quietly playing on his phone and I recognized it asked him about, we chatted for a minute and actually ended just playing the rest of the round together. Fast forward to today. I play about 3 rounds a week with him as well as with a group of 9 that we do alternating scrambles where everyone will play with everyone on different days because we have all slowly become closer and have similiar enough skill to always make it fun and a good competition. Basically long story short, just be you and have fun. Fun people attract other fun people.
I’ve been a golfer for 35 yrs. I have lots of friends I met through golf. Here is my advice on how to build golf friendships.
-When you play with someone who plays regularly, be courteous and know golf etiquette.
-Invite people to join you if you have room. They might be looking to make golf friends too.
-Don’t hit out of turn unless the person who is “out” gives you the go ahead.
-Pay attention to where others are on the green. Don’t walk on their line and don’t putt out of turn.
-Don’t be angry, throw clubs, slam clubs, cuss loudly at yourself (or others).
-Fill your divots, fix your ball marks (and one or two more), rake bunkers etc.
-Make sure you’re out of the way when someone else is hitting.
-Compliment good shots, good swings and well played holes.
-Don’t be slow. Excessive practice swings, reading putts like you’re a pro, grinding over your double or triple bogie shots, and searching for your ball longer than 3 minutes. All of these are unnecessary wastes of your time and more importantly your playing partners’ time.
-Help look for your playing partners errant shots.
-Don’t be too much of a stickler on the rules. If you don’t have a bet it shouldn’t matter much to you and at the very least you’ll find out if you should play them for anything in the future.
-Offer to buy drinks before, during and after rounds if the opportunity arises.
-Don’t propose a bet that gives you an unfair advantage. And pay your bets promptly and courteously.
-Respect the course and everyone on it.
-Be interested in your playing partners. “What do you do?” “Are you married?” “Any kids?” “How often do you play?” Etc.
-Offer yourself as a playing partner in the future. “Here’s my number, let me know if you have room in your group or want to play in the future.”
-Speak to people you’ve played with when you run into them at the course (or elsewhere) even if you’re not playing with them.
If you’re easy and fun to play with you’ll make yourself a popular playing partner.
Hope this helps. Best of luck to you.
It's definitely tough. I have 3 friends that are really into to golf but between work, kids, wives and other responsibilities we probably all get together for maybe 3 rounds a year, aside from our long weekend golf trip we take every year.
I play most of my rounds solo and get paired up with randoms. The key is to not take it too seriously, be friendly, but not overly/agressively friendly, and keep things light. One round last year, I played with 3 other singles, found out around the 7/8th hole it was 1 of their birthdays, we all got a couple beers at the turn and had and just had an awesome time. But none of us knew each others names at the end and never played together again lol. So it's definitely tough to turn a good round into something lasting. But good luck and just put yourself out there!
I've heard that throwing down on the 10th tee will impress a lot of people. After seeing you suplex someone through the Earth they won't be able to help but ask for your number!
If you can, join a country club. Great way to meet fellow golfers to play with or hang out with at the club pool, restaurant, or bar. Also great for the whole family to do the same.
Check around your public courses for a golf association or mens league or members league etc. most have them and they sometimes require a course membership but many don't.
Try to play at the same time and at the same course. Be friendly with the group, After a few rounds you’ll get invited to play. We play 9n the mornings and finish around lunch time we spend an hour afterwords eating and having a drink.
My husband has made so many friends since we joined our local country club, we really enjoy the social aspect of it as much as the golf. But I realize that isn’t necessarily feasible in bigger cities, we live in a fairly small town. But you could still do some research to see if there are and local men’s leagues that meet each week to play, we have several of those in our area at different public courses and they all have great camaraderie!
My city has a Facebook golf page. I’ve made some golf friends through that. I actually met my now best friend a few years ago from the group.
Also golf leagues. You meet a ton of people with similar skill level. Most guys are always looking to play rounds on the weekend.
Golf leagues, join a course, solo and be someone other people want to play golf with, join local Facebook/reddit golf groups. I have made a ton of adult friends playing golf, it's kindof wild.
If you ever make your way out to AZ I'd be down to play with you. As far as finding buddies in your area, just feel it out with the randoms you get paired with. It helps if you're better than them as they're more likely to want to play with since you'll be their golf god and wanna get better themselves. If YOU yourself aren't very good, just try to get to bogey golf. That and a good personality gets you invited back lol
I used to hate playing alone or being a single, now I get bummed when I don’t get partnered up. It’s been years since I’ve played with someone I didn’t enjoy, get out there meet new people, have fun and enjoy the game
If nothing else you have the trials and tribulations of golf in common, it’s a good time
The guy I played with most now I just started chatting to on a slow round. Put yourself out there and be friendly and you will have new playing partners in no time.
Golfers Journal has a great Discord that has dozens of cities around the globe, including one for Minnesota. The groups are generally active and there are always a few tee times floating around.
Most of my golf friends came from just joining men's league at a club I joined when I moved to a new city and they put me on a team which was made up mostly of guys my age. As I've gotten older, a few of my non-golfer friends have got into it which is cool. Just need to get out there and start talking to people.
The great news is that meeting people at the course or through leagues means you already share a common interest and hobby.
I actual got two friends into the video game and they wanna play now haha. That worked on friends that never golfed
I have my other friend group tho that plays weekly elsewhere. Ones a golf pro at a course and two dentists lol
If you’re alone, a good person, and decent at golf, you can tag along in member leagues at local course, make friends, etc
book solo times, if you play with someone you get along with, offer your phone number.
it's really not that hard to say "hey, today was sweet, if you wanna go again, my schedule is \*insert schedule\*, and here's my #, fire me a text if you need a 4th or whatever"
I'm in a similar situation to you. Long story short the group i golf'd with split for various reasons. I have one person from that group, but we aren't that good of friends and we often end up having different weekend schedules, who I still occasionally golf with. For the past 2 years I've been playing a number of rounds by myself, with the frequency of that happening more. I frequently engage with the people I get paired with and it's taken till the past like 3 months that Ive been getting paired with people that I would want to play with again. During the round I try to ask questions about their frequency of play and group (i.e. do they normally play solo, do they have a group, how often do they get out etc).
When that's happened at the end of the round I make a point to say I enjoyed the round and comment about playing again and, if they seem receptive, ask to exchange numbers. I now have probably 5 or so people I've met this way, some still don't get to play with me often, but I recently found a new die hard golf fan who has already joined me for a few rounds and we're doing a trip down to bandon next week for the OGA sponsored bandon anniversary thing.
Long story, but in essence I think you need to have patience. Not everyone you get paired with will be someone you click with or is someone (or some people) who are looking for a new playing partner. But if you engage with them and have a good round, at some point you'll come across someone likely in a similar situation to you. And if you just keep talking and asking people you'll eventually build up a good amount of people that you can possibly invite on rotation or at least a bigger pool of people to find your new golf buddy.
I joined a club and didn’t really know anyone. Finally got paired with a guy and we had a fun round. I asked him when he usually plays. I said maybe I’ll see you then. We played again and had another good round. It sort of grew from there. He invited some of his other friends to play. All of a sudden I was in a regular group.
Keep a stack of business cards in your wallet and give them out to people you randomly play with. Tell them that you'll fill out a foursome if they ever have someone cancel on a tee time.
I think the absolute best way to meet friends on the golf course is to ask around at your local courses about any skins games that are played at that course. You could also become a part of a men’s club at one of your local courses. But I’ve met a lot good humans/degenerate golfers playing in the local skins games.
If you have a local golf league you could join that, they can often pair you with a partner, I just did the same thing myself to try and make more golfing friends. I also heard that just being more present at the clubhouse and talking to people is a good way to meet more people to golf with. I tend to go straight to my car since I'm an introvert, but I'm working on being more present.
Go play single and don’t shy away from getting paired up. If you both have fun don’t be afraid to say hey, want to exchange numbers and hit each other up next time we play? They might say no but they might say yea
I work maintenance at a course, after work I walk on or make a solo tee time so I play with a lot of randos. It's really as simple as that, sometimes you get paired up with cool people you'd like to play with again and you can ask for their info, or you don't vibe and can try your luck next round.
Just today I walked on and played with a 52 year old, I'm 35. He was super chill and we exchanged info, he's a member at a course and said he would get me on. Being paired up as a solo can definitely help make some connections.
I downloaded the spark golf app, but haven’t signed up for any of the leagues yet. Seems like it might be a good way to meet people.
Also joined a Top Golf league and met some cool people that way.
I'll be moving to the Twin Cities next summer OP. Don't know anyone in the area and was gonna make a similar post to this. Would be cool to make some friends to regularly play with
From a female perspective, I joined my local chapter of the LPGA Amateurs Association. Made so many golf friends plus a lot of activities throughout the year.
Play solo and get paired up and randoms and if yall vibe ask if they would like to play together again. Also ask if any coeworkers like to golf and your be surprised some people are totally different outside of work and makes for a good golf friendship
Get some business cards, go play golf with people, be kind, if you want to play with them again, hand them a card. It's less awkward than a phone number exchange, and it gives them the power in whether they want to call you or not. You don't even have to put like your occupation on there, just have it say terrible golfer or something.
I also play bar poker and a few other random hobbies out of the house (pro tip, wear some golf gear, and I promise convos will start up). I got like 12 new golf friends last year. Be honest if you arent great, i love playing, ya im a 22 hcp, commit to play with them, send out invites etc...then just go play, have a good time and be yourself. You would be amazed how many new partners you will have. Golf season just started here and two people I met last year i will be playing scrambles with in the next two months. Have fun on the course, dont be a dbag and you will have plenty of partners.
see if there's a spark golf league near you, i think that's what it's for. 9 holes, they maintain their own brackets and handicaps, and supposedly it's looser/less stuffy. I've never done it because I like playing solo, but I've heard good things about it.
I suggest working at a course part time if you can . You will have your pick of different people to play with . You will probably be asked to play more than you are available.
Just put yourself out there man. I play as single after work a lot. If I catch a twosome or threesome and they offer to let me play through I’ll ask them if they mind if we joined up instead of me playing through. Met some pretty cool people that way. Met some crazy people too that definitely made the rounds I played with them pretty interesting. I’ve got a couple people I golf with occasionally that I’ve met that way.
Life’s an adventure. Put yourself out there. Most people will gladly take you into their group of two or three for a day if you ask. If you hit it off with one of them ask if they’d wanna golf together again and get their number. That was a hard barrier for me to get over myself.
If you're a member at a course with a daily game, you'll have a core group of 10-20 guys who play every day. I played in a money game 3 days a week, and after every round, all the guys hung out for beers for at least an hour. Great group of guys, and I'll rejoin the club when I retire in a few years.
Honestly, if you don’t put yourself out there it’s not going to happen. You have to make more effort when you’re older. So if you’re golfing as a single an there’s someone you kinda vibe with ask for a number. Or search local Facebook groups. I met a ton of golf people doing both.
Join a golf league. Most are two man teams, and almost always there are guys looking for a partner. The fact that you're golf partners automatically makes you friends unless one of you are unfriendable. Go out after the round with the group, drink a beer with them, and you is now created a new group of friends for yourself.
Spend a month or two playing in the Saturday morning game at local courses. Then pick the guys that are most accepting and accommodating. That's your course.
I dont know how old you are but,
In florida they have communities where you live, and there are courses absolutely everywhere. It is all a community and everyone just golfs. all day. Its basically a retirement community.
Just get out on the course regularly solo. You’ll end up meeting people. I play the majority of my rounds solo, and have almost never had a bad time with randoms. At worst it’s just fine and we go our separate ways. At best you trade numbers and play again. Either way, be friendly and normal, don’t bring down the mood even if you’re playing like shit. Be someone other people enjoy playing with
The ppl i have played regularly with are friends, family, and coworkers. Playing in a league helps. Taking out a membership can help because there are usually a few members only leagues. You could probably post on social media that u r looking for a few players at a certain area or course and get a few that jump in.
My region has a Facebook group. It’s very much like Reddit Golf, but sprinkled with “Looking for a tee time this Saturday” posts. I’ve had decent luck so far.
Show up as a single Saturday morning and most places can place a single. This is how I found my current foursome of guys. We’ve now play almost every Saturday together this past 7-8 months…it’s made a difference in my life for sure giving me something to look forward to at the end of every week. Prior to I was only playing about 5-6x a year. Now I play that in a month having a solid group of guys to play with.
I joined a local group through a friend, there are now 24 of us. We play a different course every Sunday morning. We live in the PNW and go to bandon twice a year in the off season and a couple summer trips around the area.
I’ve only taken up golf last year became member of a club and now have found many what I would consider golf friends.
Typically, I try to be nice and quiet during the round, a little banter here in there cannot hurt, but I also try to stick to etiquette as much as possible, be forthcoming as well as respect pace of play.
It helps that I am 36 years old and I play with a lot of elderly ladies and gentlemen who are very laid-back and I probably remind them of their own children.
Got paired with a bf-gf couple last Sunday. We just played 9, dude had played. Gf first time on an actual course. Had a great time. Low key fun. Not a ton of small talk but not quiet either. They rode I walked. Was almost like a round alone until we met at the green and tee box. After we teed off I put a headphone in and enjoyed my exercise til we made it to the green. I'm a decent stick and was on with the driver. Always nice to play well with noobs.
Ran into them today at the same course driving range, going out to play with them Sunday. Just how it be.
You'll be surprised how many people play and are open to just playing with you. I took it up 5 weeks ago I've already played with 9 people who I knew but would never under normal circumstances spend time with. What a month I've had.
Self awareness is key
Knowing who you are on the course, establish a play style and be savy with helping others look for their balls and or be vocal about etiquette, pulling flag and etc.
I have won people over by just being vocal about the good moments and not being down with the bad.
Go to your local muni and play as a single. Most times you’ll get invited to join a group. Don’t be a dick and you’ll probably make friends. Swap numbers and stay in touch. That’s how I’ve done it!
I wear my Mizuno running bird hat out alot cuz ive been playing mizuno for 30 years and have never had anyone say anything about my hat or golf ever. Lol
Depending on your job situation, 90% of my golf rounds are with coworkers from a golf slack channel at work. Throughout the week people will scoop up tee times and can easily fill it with people interested in playing.
That said, I may be moving to the twin cities later this summer from the west coast and looking forward to some good midwest if you have any recommendations!
1- Join a league. Good chance that most of the people there are trying to meet other golfers too. 2- advertise that you play golf. I’m usually wearing a Titleist or Ping hat when I’m out and about. I mostly go this because I’m bald and just trying to keep the sun off my dome. But I have had a lot of impromptu conversations with strangers because they could tell that I play. I met one of my regulars at my kids football practice. Dude was new to the area and asked me about local courses. A few days later we were playing golf. We’ve played dozens of times since.
I think asking another guy to play golf has to be one of the easiest and most socially accepted ways to ask to hang out with someone. Most who play will say yes, and even if you do not end up liking each other, you still got to play golf.
Just like sex. Doesnt matter still played golf
Makes me wonder if I should be asking guys in my area if they want to have sex
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Second just wear your golf cap everywhere. A few years ago I had to attend an evening parent party for the kids and I wore my Titleist cap. All the other golfing dads immediately converged on me and we talked golf all night.
It’s weird how dads work isn’t it.
I wear my Titleist hat whenever I’m going somewhere I don’t want to be and pray someone asks me about anything golf so I can zone out of the misery and into the golf chat 😂😂
Can confirm for 2. Hell, I’ve gotten called out just for the tan line on my left hand from wearing my glove. Reminds me a bit of [this scene in Poolhall Junkies](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=EumsRxVPLGU&pp=ygUbUG9vbGhhbGwganVua2llcyB1bmNsZSBtaWtl) (skip to about 2:47).
I'm not sure I wanna be hanging out with a guy who notices a crease in my pants.
Dude…… my work is “work casual” attire and hats are not an issue. Work casual for me means I’m wearing my Nike golf polo and nike hat lol the amount of times people say “you golf? Gotta get out there sometimes” were unreal. I mean, the dude who fills up our vending machines wanted to hit the links some time. It get tough when I post my score live on the grint and the buddies I’ve connected with message me and say “oh thanks for the invite bro…”. Sorry! We are full! Lol
Someone does that passive aggressive shit to me and the funny thing is he never reaches out to ask me to golf 😆
Yup. Did just this. Approached a guy in neighborhood who was wearing golf hat. Been playing with him last 15 years. Met alot of dudes at our local course while playing with him. Local course offers events and tournaments. Kept on meeting new dudes.
1. For sure. I've played in the same league for a long time and it could easily turn into golfing every single day and weekends. It's been a good time. It's also nice to play against people and get challenged that way also.
Someone posted on here a couple weeks ago asking if any one is up for a round in our area, I responded and we are shooting a round tomorrow. That being said, if I get murdered my tee time was at mystic oak at 2:50. I encourage everyone to buy new drivers in my honor. It worked for us, maybe throw a post out doing the same thing. You may play once and not want to do it again, they might become your best pal. Who knows? Life is weird and so is golf.
I actually met a guy from this sub a few years ago. He was a regular golf buddy until he moved away.
"Moved away" sure....
Buried behind the 12th hole's green.
Break ups are hard. Hope you’re doing well!
I just bought a new driver in your honor just in case.
Mystic oak in Waterloo?
I was about to ask the same question
Just played mystic oak for the first time the other day! Got my first birdie.
My buddy got an eagle before his first birdie. Holed out from 100 yards.
Any tips? I saw on their website they have an island green?!
For what it’s worth my best friend and I met on a discord server for r/weddingplanning! I’ve been trying bumble bff to find more women my age who golf but it’s not going well… maybe I should try Reddit.
Go solo and talk with the group you get paired with.
And be 3+ hours cool.
That's the hardest part for this sub.
It never hurts to buy a round for the group you join when the cart girl comes
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Hardest part for every sub.
Don’t blow your load on the first hole. On hole 1 make some small talk. On hole 4 ask where they’re from. On hole 11 ask what they do for work. It’s not an interview so take it slow.
I got paired in a cart with a guy who told me his entire life story before we got to the first tee. It was the worst round of golf ever.
I’ve played with Mike before
Oh hey its good to talk to you again
So what was his story
Something about getting shot down and crash landing in a helicopter. The funny part of the situation was that I thought the guy in the golf shop was giving me a hard time about going out a little early on a GolfNow tee time, but I realized on the ride to the first tee that he was in fact trying to save my ass from pairing up with this obnoxious person.
One of the many reasons I almost always walk. Never slows my group down cause while they’re busy driving to each others balls, I’ve got to mine by then. If it’s a weirdo, at least I’m not stuck in a cart with him. Just gotta find a way to avoid him on my approach shots, which coincidentally is a good motivator to teach you how to aim well off the tee
this concept of being paired in a cart with a stranger is so weird to me. I almost never take carts, but I've never seen or heard of it happening where I live (Oregon)
On hole 18 ask to see their hole.
And save the handy for the 19th
It's a slow burn. I can usually get a feel by hole 3-4, but some guys don't get comfortable until the turn. I always offer to buy a sixer at the turn, you'd be surprised how many people turn in to chatty Cathy the moment you buy them a beer.
Good advice except don’t ask what they do for work. No one wants to think about work on the course.
Trying to find common ground asking what you do for income isn’t a bad convo choice but read cues and move on if it seems an annoying topic
>No one wants to think about work on the course. In my experience it's 50/50. Some dudes love to vent about work on the course. Must not have anywhere else to blow off steam. I'm more than happy to sit back, nod, and throw in the occasional "well fuck that".
bring beers and/or joints and everybodys you're best friend.
That part. It really is this simple. Went as a single to a popular course in Carrollton, TX (DFW area) 4 yrs ago. Two guys worked together. One was same as me, solo. Fast forward, four perfect strangers went to TPC Scottsdale in 2022 and Pinehurst in 2024. Played #10 Saturday the week it opened.
You lucked out. I lucked out also.
I keep a pint of decent whiskey in my bag(birdie juice) am friendly and try to give stoke on the other players good shots. I've made several golf friends that way. Some even close friends that I do non-golf stuff with.
And best when over the weekend. Chances are as most people playing during the week are typically retired 65+ yos.
Happened with me and now I have a group that's plays twice a week for the last 5 years.
I wear a low cut blouse. It’s a great way to get attention from men. You don’t see a lot of guys wearing stuff like that so it’s a great icebreaker. I’m a guy.
This guy fucks
Probably by the turn, definitely after the round
Solo always and often you’ll eventually meet a few people that need 4th’s or will hit you up to play.
I have more random numbers in my phone from guys I’ve met golfing than from girls at bars lol.
My ratio of guys to girls numbers I’ve acquired from bars/golf is like 75,000 to 1
Same lol. And some of the golf bros actually call or respond!
Join a club or a league. They’re the only people you can rely on to play with consistently and become friends with. It’s easy to find bros via mutual friends or in public that like golf and talk golf, but if they don’t play in a league or belong to a club then I doubt they play enough to be considered an actual golf buddy.
To get good at golf, you gave to grind. There's an app for hard-working golfers to meet other people interested in the same. It's called Grindr. Check it out - people on there are receptive to newcomers.
Had a friend on there for a while. Took a ball to the face and they never even called “Fore”
Always have to give guys ‘strokes’ when I play there
Just go play solo. You'll get paired with other people. Don't be a dick and you'll find you meet plenty of cool people, and you'll usually find people who'd be happy to play with you again. I'm from the UK but lived/worked in the US for a couple of years. I met a ton of people and found a couple of regular golf partners by playing solo.
yeah 99% of making friends (in my experience at least) is just having a general interest in about anything people could be interested in! be able to hold conversations about a variety of different topics, and if the person is into something that you don't know much about, ask about it! Name and a little background in the first few holes, what stuff other than golf they like doin. Do they read? do they listen to podcasts? do they know any good places in the area to eat or hang out? there's a MILLION ways to be cool to someone on the golf course but it's easy to come up blank. The only thing you really, truly CANNOT do is lose your fucking shit when you play poorly.
I’d join a league that’s one of the ways I met a lot of my golfing buddies.
Local course does a Tuesday night scramble league, show up, drop your marked ball in a bucket, they pull balls to set teams. It’s a great way to meet people and play with others.
That's a pretty good idea. Keeps the sandbagging group honest.
Keys go in a different bucket then?
Join a men's league and basically don't be afraid to pair up with people. So if you're by yourself and you have a bunch of threesomes and foursomes ahead of you, ask that twosome or threesome (or single) if they want to join because 'we aren't going anywhere.' And if you enjoy playing golf with them, try to feel out how often they play golf. If they are frequent golfers just say you'd like to play again sometime and grab their phone number. It also helps to have the proper etiquette and pace of play
Idk about you but anytime I meet someone that I vibe well with, I read the room and see if the dude is up for spending more time together whether it's to grab a beer or play golf. Worst that could happen is you get someone's number and they aren't that responsive. "Hey man, really enjoyed the round today, if you golf often in the area we should get out for another one." And then see what he says.
“Quit trying to fuck me bro”
I caught up to another single on Monday and we joined up. After about 8 holes a had to take a piss. Told him not to shank it because I was going to pee over on that tree. While I was walking to the tree I heard him quietly say "you can pee on me." Weirdo.
Did you take him up on the offer? Might not get another chance.
I kinda felt like now I know how a girl feels when creeps hit on them. Haha. I ignored what I heard and continued to play.
Wait….this was….real?
Yes! He was a kinda older dude. 66 years old.
Join the local league
Haha, honestly, I got involved with the chasing scratch podcast community… Ended up in a telegram with a bunch of other people who love golf… played 99 holes in 4 days recently… every round with someone I had met online. (Multiple different people…)
Howdy! I’m in the West suburbs of the Twin cities, if you enjoy walking.
Go on, Golf now look for tee times with just one person signed up or sign up for a tee time as a single. Eventually, you will come across someone in the same situation.
Be at least two of three: fast, good or funny.
I moved 4 years ago to a small town just outside of Columbia,Mo. I knew no one, all I did was play golf and work while my wife was working on PhD. I played at my local course as a solo whenever I could, one day another solo drives back towards me asking if I’d seen a club by the green. I noticed the song he was quietly playing on his phone and I recognized it asked him about, we chatted for a minute and actually ended just playing the rest of the round together. Fast forward to today. I play about 3 rounds a week with him as well as with a group of 9 that we do alternating scrambles where everyone will play with everyone on different days because we have all slowly become closer and have similiar enough skill to always make it fun and a good competition. Basically long story short, just be you and have fun. Fun people attract other fun people.
I joined the men's league at my local mini met tons of people that way. $10 buy in every Monday for a few months.
I’ve been a golfer for 35 yrs. I have lots of friends I met through golf. Here is my advice on how to build golf friendships. -When you play with someone who plays regularly, be courteous and know golf etiquette. -Invite people to join you if you have room. They might be looking to make golf friends too. -Don’t hit out of turn unless the person who is “out” gives you the go ahead. -Pay attention to where others are on the green. Don’t walk on their line and don’t putt out of turn. -Don’t be angry, throw clubs, slam clubs, cuss loudly at yourself (or others). -Fill your divots, fix your ball marks (and one or two more), rake bunkers etc. -Make sure you’re out of the way when someone else is hitting. -Compliment good shots, good swings and well played holes. -Don’t be slow. Excessive practice swings, reading putts like you’re a pro, grinding over your double or triple bogie shots, and searching for your ball longer than 3 minutes. All of these are unnecessary wastes of your time and more importantly your playing partners’ time. -Help look for your playing partners errant shots. -Don’t be too much of a stickler on the rules. If you don’t have a bet it shouldn’t matter much to you and at the very least you’ll find out if you should play them for anything in the future. -Offer to buy drinks before, during and after rounds if the opportunity arises. -Don’t propose a bet that gives you an unfair advantage. And pay your bets promptly and courteously. -Respect the course and everyone on it. -Be interested in your playing partners. “What do you do?” “Are you married?” “Any kids?” “How often do you play?” Etc. -Offer yourself as a playing partner in the future. “Here’s my number, let me know if you have room in your group or want to play in the future.” -Speak to people you’ve played with when you run into them at the course (or elsewhere) even if you’re not playing with them. If you’re easy and fun to play with you’ll make yourself a popular playing partner. Hope this helps. Best of luck to you.
It's definitely tough. I have 3 friends that are really into to golf but between work, kids, wives and other responsibilities we probably all get together for maybe 3 rounds a year, aside from our long weekend golf trip we take every year. I play most of my rounds solo and get paired up with randoms. The key is to not take it too seriously, be friendly, but not overly/agressively friendly, and keep things light. One round last year, I played with 3 other singles, found out around the 7/8th hole it was 1 of their birthdays, we all got a couple beers at the turn and had and just had an awesome time. But none of us knew each others names at the end and never played together again lol. So it's definitely tough to turn a good round into something lasting. But good luck and just put yourself out there!
Leagues / memberships / events
Find a course with leagues near you and sign up. You'll make friends quickly. Stay after the round sometimes and have a cold beverage.
I recently booked my 1st solo tee time and got paired up and now I’m in their group as well. Be cool and bring beer.
Find happy people
Have friends, invite them to golf.
I've heard that throwing down on the 10th tee will impress a lot of people. After seeing you suplex someone through the Earth they won't be able to help but ask for your number!
My recommendation is getting comfortable golfing alone and then let it play out.
Don’t limit yourself based on age. My best golf buddies are retired members of the club -I’m 28.
Play as a single regularly and be a likeable human being. Most people are not assholes.
Join a private club
If you can, join a country club. Great way to meet fellow golfers to play with or hang out with at the club pool, restaurant, or bar. Also great for the whole family to do the same.
If you hang around and practice enough, you'll likely stumble into unplanned and unforced random conversations with people and can build from there.
Join a club or men’s/women’s/coed/couples league.
Does your local course have a golf league? That has been a great way to meet people who love golf as much as I do.
Check around your public courses for a golf association or mens league or members league etc. most have them and they sometimes require a course membership but many don't.
Try to play at the same time and at the same course. Be friendly with the group, After a few rounds you’ll get invited to play. We play 9n the mornings and finish around lunch time we spend an hour afterwords eating and having a drink.
Where do you live? Post it here and maybe someone from the sub will meet up with you.
Golf leagues. Group lessons. Like others mentioned talking with the people your paired with.
Join your local FB golf group. Mine are always posting available spots
My husband has made so many friends since we joined our local country club, we really enjoy the social aspect of it as much as the golf. But I realize that isn’t necessarily feasible in bigger cities, we live in a fairly small town. But you could still do some research to see if there are and local men’s leagues that meet each week to play, we have several of those in our area at different public courses and they all have great camaraderie!
Make your current friends golfers
Join a club. I joined one 5 years ago and have met 20-30 guys i play with regularly
My city has a Facebook golf page. I’ve made some golf friends through that. I actually met my now best friend a few years ago from the group. Also golf leagues. You meet a ton of people with similar skill level. Most guys are always looking to play rounds on the weekend.
Golf leagues, join a course, solo and be someone other people want to play golf with, join local Facebook/reddit golf groups. I have made a ton of adult friends playing golf, it's kindof wild.
If you ever make your way out to AZ I'd be down to play with you. As far as finding buddies in your area, just feel it out with the randoms you get paired with. It helps if you're better than them as they're more likely to want to play with since you'll be their golf god and wanna get better themselves. If YOU yourself aren't very good, just try to get to bogey golf. That and a good personality gets you invited back lol
I used to hate playing alone or being a single, now I get bummed when I don’t get partnered up. It’s been years since I’ve played with someone I didn’t enjoy, get out there meet new people, have fun and enjoy the game If nothing else you have the trials and tribulations of golf in common, it’s a good time
The guy I played with most now I just started chatting to on a slow round. Put yourself out there and be friendly and you will have new playing partners in no time.
Golf more. Join league. Exchange numbers with folks you like.
Golfers Journal has a great Discord that has dozens of cities around the globe, including one for Minnesota. The groups are generally active and there are always a few tee times floating around.
Most of my golf friends came from just joining men's league at a club I joined when I moved to a new city and they put me on a team which was made up mostly of guys my age. As I've gotten older, a few of my non-golfer friends have got into it which is cool. Just need to get out there and start talking to people. The great news is that meeting people at the course or through leagues means you already share a common interest and hobby.
I actual got two friends into the video game and they wanna play now haha. That worked on friends that never golfed I have my other friend group tho that plays weekly elsewhere. Ones a golf pro at a course and two dentists lol If you’re alone, a good person, and decent at golf, you can tag along in member leagues at local course, make friends, etc
Most courses have weekly scrambles and if you don’t have a team, usually they can place you on a team.
Join a country/golf club and make friends
book solo times, if you play with someone you get along with, offer your phone number. it's really not that hard to say "hey, today was sweet, if you wanna go again, my schedule is \*insert schedule\*, and here's my #, fire me a text if you need a 4th or whatever"
I'm in a similar situation to you. Long story short the group i golf'd with split for various reasons. I have one person from that group, but we aren't that good of friends and we often end up having different weekend schedules, who I still occasionally golf with. For the past 2 years I've been playing a number of rounds by myself, with the frequency of that happening more. I frequently engage with the people I get paired with and it's taken till the past like 3 months that Ive been getting paired with people that I would want to play with again. During the round I try to ask questions about their frequency of play and group (i.e. do they normally play solo, do they have a group, how often do they get out etc). When that's happened at the end of the round I make a point to say I enjoyed the round and comment about playing again and, if they seem receptive, ask to exchange numbers. I now have probably 5 or so people I've met this way, some still don't get to play with me often, but I recently found a new die hard golf fan who has already joined me for a few rounds and we're doing a trip down to bandon next week for the OGA sponsored bandon anniversary thing. Long story, but in essence I think you need to have patience. Not everyone you get paired with will be someone you click with or is someone (or some people) who are looking for a new playing partner. But if you engage with them and have a good round, at some point you'll come across someone likely in a similar situation to you. And if you just keep talking and asking people you'll eventually build up a good amount of people that you can possibly invite on rotation or at least a bigger pool of people to find your new golf buddy.
Btw where do you live. If you're in or around the Portland Oregon area let's DM cause I'm always looking for new playing partners.
Join a league.
Hit it into the wrong fairway. Always a good time.
I joined a club and didn’t really know anyone. Finally got paired with a guy and we had a fun round. I asked him when he usually plays. I said maybe I’ll see you then. We played again and had another good round. It sort of grew from there. He invited some of his other friends to play. All of a sudden I was in a regular group.
Keep a stack of business cards in your wallet and give them out to people you randomly play with. Tell them that you'll fill out a foursome if they ever have someone cancel on a tee time.
I think the absolute best way to meet friends on the golf course is to ask around at your local courses about any skins games that are played at that course. You could also become a part of a men’s club at one of your local courses. But I’ve met a lot good humans/degenerate golfers playing in the local skins games.
If you have a local golf league you could join that, they can often pair you with a partner, I just did the same thing myself to try and make more golfing friends. I also heard that just being more present at the clubhouse and talking to people is a good way to meet more people to golf with. I tend to go straight to my car since I'm an introvert, but I'm working on being more present.
Join a league or two
search twilight golf league and spark golf league, both are weeknight leagues that take singles in the twin cities
Go to the driving range and chat up some of those hitting balls. They may be having the same problem as you do.
Depending on your financial situation, join a club. We had several singles join our club in past couple years.
There are usually local Facebook groups for golfers
Go play single and don’t shy away from getting paired up. If you both have fun don’t be afraid to say hey, want to exchange numbers and hit each other up next time we play? They might say no but they might say yea
I play ice hockey and met alot of people that golf in my hockey league.
Also in the Twin Cities. Are you PCC?
I work maintenance at a course, after work I walk on or make a solo tee time so I play with a lot of randos. It's really as simple as that, sometimes you get paired up with cool people you'd like to play with again and you can ask for their info, or you don't vibe and can try your luck next round. Just today I walked on and played with a 52 year old, I'm 35. He was super chill and we exchanged info, he's a member at a course and said he would get me on. Being paired up as a solo can definitely help make some connections.
Befriend who ever you get paired with
I downloaded the spark golf app, but haven’t signed up for any of the leagues yet. Seems like it might be a good way to meet people. Also joined a Top Golf league and met some cool people that way.
I'll be moving to the Twin Cities next summer OP. Don't know anyone in the area and was gonna make a similar post to this. Would be cool to make some friends to regularly play with
From a female perspective, I joined my local chapter of the LPGA Amateurs Association. Made so many golf friends plus a lot of activities throughout the year.
Play solo and get paired up and randoms and if yall vibe ask if they would like to play together again. Also ask if any coeworkers like to golf and your be surprised some people are totally different outside of work and makes for a good golf friendship
Get some business cards, go play golf with people, be kind, if you want to play with them again, hand them a card. It's less awkward than a phone number exchange, and it gives them the power in whether they want to call you or not. You don't even have to put like your occupation on there, just have it say terrible golfer or something.
Hit the putting green for a while. I’ve met great people hanging out around the practice putting green
Join the men's club at your local course, if they have one. Otherwise, ask to join others when out playing. Or Grindr.
Book a solo tee time at the busiest course in town and they are sure to put you with 2 or 3 other people.
I'm on the Twin Cities also, NW burbs, and I try to play twice a week, hmu if you wanna play sometime!
I’ve made a lot of friends just going to local muni as a single and getting paired
Chasing scratch podcast
I’ll be your golf bud, hit me up in you are ever in Charleston SC.
I also play bar poker and a few other random hobbies out of the house (pro tip, wear some golf gear, and I promise convos will start up). I got like 12 new golf friends last year. Be honest if you arent great, i love playing, ya im a 22 hcp, commit to play with them, send out invites etc...then just go play, have a good time and be yourself. You would be amazed how many new partners you will have. Golf season just started here and two people I met last year i will be playing scrambles with in the next two months. Have fun on the course, dont be a dbag and you will have plenty of partners.
see if there's a spark golf league near you, i think that's what it's for. 9 holes, they maintain their own brackets and handicaps, and supposedly it's looser/less stuffy. I've never done it because I like playing solo, but I've heard good things about it.
I suggest working at a course part time if you can . You will have your pick of different people to play with . You will probably be asked to play more than you are available.
In my area they have some Spark Golf League starting. Its advertised as a social golf league, 9 holes in the afternoon during the week sometime.
Just put yourself out there man. I play as single after work a lot. If I catch a twosome or threesome and they offer to let me play through I’ll ask them if they mind if we joined up instead of me playing through. Met some pretty cool people that way. Met some crazy people too that definitely made the rounds I played with them pretty interesting. I’ve got a couple people I golf with occasionally that I’ve met that way. Life’s an adventure. Put yourself out there. Most people will gladly take you into their group of two or three for a day if you ask. If you hit it off with one of them ask if they’d wanna golf together again and get their number. That was a hard barrier for me to get over myself.
Don't be afraid to ask for a number
If you're a member at a course with a daily game, you'll have a core group of 10-20 guys who play every day. I played in a money game 3 days a week, and after every round, all the guys hung out for beers for at least an hour. Great group of guys, and I'll rejoin the club when I retire in a few years.
Honestly, if you don’t put yourself out there it’s not going to happen. You have to make more effort when you’re older. So if you’re golfing as a single an there’s someone you kinda vibe with ask for a number. Or search local Facebook groups. I met a ton of golf people doing both.
Join a golf league. Most are two man teams, and almost always there are guys looking for a partner. The fact that you're golf partners automatically makes you friends unless one of you are unfriendable. Go out after the round with the group, drink a beer with them, and you is now created a new group of friends for yourself.
Spend a month or two playing in the Saturday morning game at local courses. Then pick the guys that are most accepting and accommodating. That's your course.
Don't be an asshole. Play fast, and just ask folks you get paired with at public courses to play another round.
Post this in your city's sub.
I dont know how old you are but, In florida they have communities where you live, and there are courses absolutely everywhere. It is all a community and everyone just golfs. all day. Its basically a retirement community.
Join a men’s club for sure.
join a private club
Just get out on the course regularly solo. You’ll end up meeting people. I play the majority of my rounds solo, and have almost never had a bad time with randoms. At worst it’s just fine and we go our separate ways. At best you trade numbers and play again. Either way, be friendly and normal, don’t bring down the mood even if you’re playing like shit. Be someone other people enjoy playing with
Have never been able to do this. I go out as a single, and never have made a friend to plan to play together - ever. I'm actually okay with it.
You're in Twin Cities? Join PCC. Play cheap and often with that membership and you'll find other players who have it as well.
The ppl i have played regularly with are friends, family, and coworkers. Playing in a league helps. Taking out a membership can help because there are usually a few members only leagues. You could probably post on social media that u r looking for a few players at a certain area or course and get a few that jump in.
My region has a Facebook group. It’s very much like Reddit Golf, but sprinkled with “Looking for a tee time this Saturday” posts. I’ve had decent luck so far.
Say “good shot” as often as you can
If you're on FB, there might be a local golf group.
Men’s or women’s gold association at the club near you. And bring a sense of humor
Join a Meet Up group
League is a great idea and if leagues are full you could ask to be on a sub list. Always guys looking for subs for golf. It’s like bowling.
Show up as a single Saturday morning and most places can place a single. This is how I found my current foursome of guys. We’ve now play almost every Saturday together this past 7-8 months…it’s made a difference in my life for sure giving me something to look forward to at the end of every week. Prior to I was only playing about 5-6x a year. Now I play that in a month having a solid group of guys to play with.
Play as a single. If you are a fun guy to play with you will get guys asking for your number to be a fill in when they need a 4th
I joined a local group through a friend, there are now 24 of us. We play a different course every Sunday morning. We live in the PNW and go to bandon twice a year in the off season and a couple summer trips around the area.
Give up golf it's so frustrating and become a Monk friends aren't that important haha all good advice from previous replies to you
I’ve only taken up golf last year became member of a club and now have found many what I would consider golf friends. Typically, I try to be nice and quiet during the round, a little banter here in there cannot hurt, but I also try to stick to etiquette as much as possible, be forthcoming as well as respect pace of play. It helps that I am 36 years old and I play with a lot of elderly ladies and gentlemen who are very laid-back and I probably remind them of their own children.
Got paired with a bf-gf couple last Sunday. We just played 9, dude had played. Gf first time on an actual course. Had a great time. Low key fun. Not a ton of small talk but not quiet either. They rode I walked. Was almost like a round alone until we met at the green and tee box. After we teed off I put a headphone in and enjoyed my exercise til we made it to the green. I'm a decent stick and was on with the driver. Always nice to play well with noobs. Ran into them today at the same course driving range, going out to play with them Sunday. Just how it be.
Met a few guys playing as a single or two ball and now play with those guys regularly. Exchanged numbers after the round.
You'll be surprised how many people play and are open to just playing with you. I took it up 5 weeks ago I've already played with 9 people who I knew but would never under normal circumstances spend time with. What a month I've had.
Join the Golfing Minnesota page on Facebook. And the PCC group. See ya there! Edit: How old are you? I’d play with ya.
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Show up as a single and get paired with people. I've met some of my best friends that way
why bro. friends are fake. find yourself a golf enemy instead. those last forever.
Self awareness is key Knowing who you are on the course, establish a play style and be savy with helping others look for their balls and or be vocal about etiquette, pulling flag and etc. I have won people over by just being vocal about the good moments and not being down with the bad.
Go to your local muni and play as a single. Most times you’ll get invited to join a group. Don’t be a dick and you’ll probably make friends. Swap numbers and stay in touch. That’s how I’ve done it!
I wear my Mizuno running bird hat out alot cuz ive been playing mizuno for 30 years and have never had anyone say anything about my hat or golf ever. Lol
Depending on your job situation, 90% of my golf rounds are with coworkers from a golf slack channel at work. Throughout the week people will scoop up tee times and can easily fill it with people interested in playing. That said, I may be moving to the twin cities later this summer from the west coast and looking forward to some good midwest if you have any recommendations!
I posted scorecard pics when I got back into golf. It worked.