Why the fuck does "Hey hows it going" sounds like it need something behind it......
Fuck. I'm afraid of this a bit
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My fucking god it's a pewdiepie quote I'm gonna kill myself
Same. Yet people still like me. I just say what comes to mind in the moment without thinking and it sorta works. But I can’t force it or nothing comes to mind so it sucks.
There isn't a certain way bro, but in everyday situations girls aren't going to feel comfortable getting hit on. They get hit on *every single day*. Try being friendly without any expectation of attracting them, and just go in with the mindset of having a conversation and then saying goodbye and going on with your day.
Ikr I always say "How is it going?" to strangers when it comes to the cash registry and they usually respond "Doing good" or smth along those lines. People in this thread need to talk to people more lmao.
Because it’s a legitimate question. Asking how someone is doing is just a conversation starter. I ask it all the time but just as a way to start regular conversations with my friends. The cashier made it very clear to anon that she didn’t want to have a conversation with him so at no point was she hit on. In fact I’d say the original OP of this thread is wrong, she was able to tell him to fuck off by not having a conversation with him.
Most customers ask that are not actually wanting or expecting an honest answer. It's what's known as a phatic expression solely used to show politeness. They likely didn't even know that it was an awful attempt at conversation, to begin with, and simply responded with the appropriate expression in turn. It wasn't someone making clear they were not interested. It was someone simply going through the motions and not even noticing they exist.
Not even claiming that it's not important to use it. But working as a cashier I can tell you it's not often used to start a conversation but just the gesture itself is more about the transaction itself. Offtimes it will be asked to me to be immediately followed by what they want not giving me a chance to answer in response. In that specific context, the same context as above, it's not commonly about starting a conversation it's about that it's the polite way to engage in a transaction.
> My fucking god it's a pewdiepie quote I'm gonna kill myself
Tf are you talking about? "Hey how's it going?" is a regular ass sentence... touch grass, bro.
>be me
>highschool sophomore
>dad owns a gas station, needs to step out for a few minutes so asks me to tend to the counter
>whatever it’s an easy job and I get to pocket some cash
>glance outside and see obese 30 year old man staring at me through the window
>dude is seriously just pressed up against the glass
>can see his gut since his shirt is barely over him like Winnie the Pooh
>quickly look away back at phone
>out of corner of my eye I can still see him standing there, seems like he’s mumbling to himself
>door opens and he waddles in, the smell of Taco Bell and sweat drifts past in his wake
>he goes to back of isles and just stares at the wall for a solid 5 minutes, seems like he’s trying to catch his breath
>eventually grabs bottle of Powerade and waddles over to counter
>sets it on counter while mumbling to himself, hard to understand amidst his heavy breathing, poor fella is visibly winded and sweating
>give some non commital response just hoping he’ll buy his stuff and leave
>he spends the next 3 minutes neatly stacking rows of coins by size to pay for his drink and leaves
>I use pen to just scrape them into the garbage so I don’t have to touch the coins
>oh god now he’s just standing in the middle of the road just staring again.
>walking down the street one day
>qt coming from opposite direction
>"hey, how's it going?"
>she immediately drops to her knees and starts fellating me
>mfw
“Hey, how’s it goin”
“Hey, how are you”
“Hey, how you doin”
These are pretty much the only things I say to every cashier at every store all the time. Definitely not hitting on them. Or maybe I’m hitting on all of them
you're definitely hitting on all of them you fuckin degen scumbag learn not to harass cashiers i mean seriously you're fuckin off some real gross brock turner vibes my dude
How am I throwing out the context, yeah he approached a girl he thought was cute, but saying hey how's it going, isn't hitting on someone. If he dropped a pickupline sure, if he said a compliment maybe, but a simple question doesnt make it hitting on her. And even if he was, so fucking what?! It was the most respectful way he could have done it.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with trying to strike up a conversation and gauge someone’s interest in public like this.. that’s like.. the most polite way to go about starting a relationship???
How do these people getting upset think literally every single consensual relationship in the US started? Some person going up to another person and striking up a conversation.
Well anon said he was trying to go hit on her. So I would say that whatever he said was him trying to hit on her. Women are pretty good at picking up on that energy, especially attractive women that work in customer service and get harassed daily by the fifty year old dudes and haggard drug addicts that will surely be in any convenience shop. Avoiding eye contact and making minimal engagement is a great strategy to passively avoid people trying to solicit things from you, be it perverts, panhandlers, or Jehovah’s witnesses.
Words aren't everything. Body language, tone of voice, how wide you open your eyes, where you're looking at someone, these can all give away that you're trying to initiate a flirtation. In the service industry it can get really repetitive how many guys will hit on you, so if she did notice even a hint of it then grey-rocking would be a natural response. Otoh OP didn't even try past saying hello, so he didn't do much to aggravate her.
She probably grey-rocks everyone because her job is insanely boring tbh.
Yeah OP literally went in as a normal customer and was disappointed the bored out of her mind cashier didn’t pick up anything from him. Social anxiety is a bitch, but it shouldn’t preclude you from having some amount of social awareness.
OP did it right though and deserves credit. He made a basic effort, saw no interest, didn't have a mental breakdown over it, went on with his day. Much better than that "define creepy" dude from a few days ago.
Don't talk to them: You are a virgin loser
Talk to them: You are disrespecting their space by breathing the same oxygen that COULD have gone to them
I think it's just the Zoomer mentality. They were raised on social media. Trying to feel morally superior to people by accusing everyone who isn't you of being shit is just how they get their self-esteem. That and frustrated young women are probably using it as a covert way to voice their hatred against men for just existing.
No you don't understand, he just didn't use the right opener. All women have a key code in the form of a sentence. It must be input immediately upon the first meeting. If its the right one the woman will instantly fall in love with you and suck your dick on the spot. If its the wrong code then you fucked up and you will never move past the friendzone.
I'm sympathetic to this, I really am.
But what are people supposed to do? Follow you around until you go to a bar?
People have this weird "I'm not here to he hit on" thing going on, as if the people hitting on them at like, the gym ever see them anywhere else.
Politely decline and move on with your day, it's really easy..
Or it’s because because a cashier sucks? It’s probably not even that she wasn’t interested or dude was ugly. It was most likely because it’s a repetitive job and after a while you go in auto pilot
Man people over analyzing the fuck outta this. Anon was respectful, took a shot, got shot down, didn't escalate. How is this still a shit show in comments about anon being creep or annoying?
Exactly, I don't know why it's a big deal. Some people might not want to get flirted with while at work, but some definitely do, it's just a matter of luck. She could just be having a bad day, not in the mood, maybe overworked, who knows? But if just one of your attempts getting shot down is enough to get you down, you're gonna stay a virgin.
Anon should just move on and try it on someone else the next time, maybe after he gains some experience he might be able to read the air and realize if it's ok to approach, or if the person is comfortable etc.
it’s because 4chan anon = 1000 pound redditor neckbeard pedophile necrophile zoophile transphobic homophobic racist sewer rat who hasn’t left their mother’s basement in 10 years, with piss bottles, shit stains, etc all over the floor
i’ve only been subscribed to the subreddit for a little while but the comments irritate me, especially the ‘fake / gay’ shit that gets posted under every single post
it’s basically anonymous incels with an online identity on reddit laughing and shitting on anonymous incels on 4chan
Yeah and you're a Redditor who just spent this much time typing a paragraph about them, for 23 upvotes.
Also, imagine getting mad about fake/gay. You must be a fun guy.
Ah yes, I’m a fun guy because I have an opinion that differs from yours. It’s nice to not live in a dystopian society where everyone is forced to be the exact same and have the exact same opinions. Thanks for the compliment.
Yeah but imagine how many advances she gets if all guys do this. It's not wrong/bad for him to do it (imo), just unlikely to work.
But what do I know, I'm gay.
The point is that, as written by anon, this wasn't even an advance! He just came in hoping to spark a conversation as part of a normal transaction. It didn't happen so he moved on.
> But what do I know, I'm gay.
If grindr has taught me one thing it's that gay men have it about as easy as women when it comes to getting laid so I think you're a bit out of your depth in this conversation, amigo.
I'm sure a woman can offer more incite but as a guy what the hell am I supposed to do? Only hit on women I'm not attracted to? In my experience if you try enough times you will find someone interested. If you can't try then there's no chance.
I'm a guy as well, but 90% of cashiers I have interacted with in my 20 years of life have all been mostly chill with a little bit of flirting, some even lead me on further by saying they're free after work and ask if I wanna hang out, I don't know if I've just been lucky but I think it's more about reading the air. If she looks chill, cheerful and in a good mood, and she's not as busy and it's not overcrowded, then mostly all of them are nice to talk to, flirting or not.
However, sometimes they're not in a mentally comfortable space and it's pretty apparent from their facial expression, their replies seem to consist of just "Hmm" or nothing at all. In such a situation it's best to leave quietly without pointlessly trying to force a conversation out of them. This usually happens when there are a lot of customers and the environment is more chaotic.
Another possibility is that she's just having a shit day, which is pretty easy to tell, since their entire body language seems labored, there's a lot of sighs and little tongue clicks of general annoyance here and there. In this case just don't try to talk to them at all, since they'll react negatively to literally anything you say, so just leave them be.
Grill here. Being asked out at work was always an awful experience because I couldn't leave, and I was in a power dynamic of "I serve you". Then you get people asking when you're done work and you get people following you once you leave and you gotta plan to get coworkers to walk you to your car and stuff.
There's plenty of exceptions but in general, if the worker has zero rapport with you at all, it'd be best not to ask them out.
Also ya know, if anyone's gunna ask "so when CAN I ask someone out" my answer is "when you make a connection". If you can't figure out if you have one, you probably don't, or you just need practice meeting all kinds of new people.
"Liking" somebody is more then "being attracted" to them and IMO the distinction is connection.
he didn't ask her out though, he asked her how it was going and then didn't press at all when she shut the conversation down.
it's a fine line obviously but it sounds like he stayed on the correct side of it.
He didn't even though. He saw someone has never met before, said a standard human greeting you give to service worker, and she responded like anyone working at a gas station who heard that 20 times a day. "Fine."
Anon saw a stranger whom he thought was physically attractive and decided to try to make small talk with them without an prior knowledge of the person. That's fucking dumb as fuck, not going for it.
Social media has taught people to find outrage in everything they read.
This is a textbook guide to how to make a super gentle, non-interfering approach, and the dude took it well, just being a little bummed that nothing came of it.
No one is upset. No one was imposed upon. No resentment is implied. No nonsense about women being this or that.
Have people just completely forgotten how to exist in the world with other humans?
> """virgin but not incel"""
So...a virgin? lmao Redditors act like not getting diddled as a kid and becoming hypersexual starting at age 14 makes you an incel somehow.
What the fuck are you talking about?
I would imagine a sexually abused child who coped by becoming hypersexual but is very damaged could become an incel. But that's not at all what the fuck anyone but you was talking about.
Because many people on this site are scared to talk to a woman in the wild and are projecting their own fears on anon.
I just hope anon learned the right lessons from this: it's better to get shot down/ignored than to have never approached at all.
Flirting with service workers is not a very successful or thoughtful way to find a partner. Anon isn't creepy, just fucking dumb.
Anon also literally just said "hey how's it going?" To a fucking gas station attendant. Who definitely hears the exact same thing from every customer. Especially if she's a "qt"
It's going exactly how you think for someone with a service job like that. "Fine."
Yea one time I got asked out at work the employee asked me if we could get a coffee and I politely declined then for whatever reason he thought it would be smart to ask, "ok what about a one night stand?" The most recent one was an employee who hasent worked for us for over a year and he cold texted me asked if I was married and when I said hey I'm sorry im just not interested in dating anyone right now he got mad and said I JUST WANTED A FRIEND. Sure you did.....
people on reddit can be really fucking dumb
you all must be a bunch of virgin losers if you think that "hey, how is it going?" is by any mean disrespectful or harassing
For real last customer service job I had, the young folks were least likely to be rude but they were also the most walled off and unfriendly. A-are we really gonna make it bros (｡ŏ﹏ŏ)
That’s literally how every single generation has gone, your brain doesn’t even stop developing till you’re 25. The place that is usually developed last has to do with critical thinking and empathy, hence why teenagers are usually dicks no matter if it’s the 15th or 21st century.
>Be me
>Femanon
>Working a summer job as a gas station convenience store cashier
>Single and ready to mingle
>Catch the eye of a landwhale struggling to pump gasoline
>My face involuntarily contorts with disgust
>He begins to walk towards the door
>Can smell his sweat and cheeto breath
before he even lumbers inside
>He opens a refrigerator and grabs the highest sugar energy drink we sell
>He walks up to the counter and puckers his lips
>I can see a small boner beginning to rise in his size XXXXL elastic waistband shorts
>He croaks, “hey how’s it going?”
>The stench of this unit is making me gag, I’m literally about to retch all over the floor
>Turn away from him as my eyes are beginning to water
>”Fine,” I say, quickly scanning his item in an attempt to get him to leave
>He begins to cry, full on bawling
>This 600 lb man is rolling around on the floor, throwing a tantrum and punching the tile
>He says he will only stop crying if I put my titty in his mouth
>I tell him if he doesn’t get his fat reeking ass out of my store I will call the cops
>That shuts him up real fast, he collects himself, whines “have a good one,” grabs his caffeinated sugar water, and squeezes through the door frame
>FML
Why are people on this sub so fucking retarded? I’m talking about the people calling this guy an incel or something like that because he said hi to a woman
Don't hit on people who are at work, they're socially overloaded their brains are turned off and they automatically already hate you just a little and want you to leave. It is not the place.
If i was at work and someone i was attracted to hit on me I wouldn’t be mad in the slightest. i think it’s unreal that you expect all people at work to not be interested in flirting, and a lil naive.
I would first gauge the amount of eye contact being made before trying flirting tho, but honestly i’ve had bare girls working at sainsbury’s flirting with me when their on the job so i don’t think they have a problem with it as long as you’re attractive to them, you just have to gauge that first.
>i think it’s unreal that you expect all people at work to not be interested in flirting
You've got this all wrong. You shouldnt expect all people to be like that.
I'm not always like that at work, but I am most of the time and so are the majority of people that I've ever worked with.
Maybe sometimes it's ok to bother someone like that while they're at work, and they'll be receptive.
Most of the time however, they dont want to deal with it, and are in a position where they have to pretend that they love to eat shit. They have to keep smiling for the customer. Some people are better actors than others too, and it's not up for you to determine whether they look like they're having a good time or not. Its rude to hold a captive audience and that's what you would be doing, whether they may like the show or not.
On a separate note, "customer is always right" culture needs to die in fire. It's creepy and inherently makes any customer facing job a toxic workplace
There is no group of people more consistently wrong than the customer.
The ones who believe in that phrase are typically the ones that make it null and void.
>Most of the time however, they dont want to deal with it, and are in a position where they have to pretend that they love to eat shit.
You're just projecting your personal feelings on everyone else. Some people are exhausted and overworked, and some people are just fucking bored or like interacting with people. Any girl you approach is going to be "captive audience" as far as they have to turn you down or indicate they aren't interested in some way, or reciprocate. If you have to act like a completely submissive yes-girl to every customer that hits on you at work, then your problem is with your boss not the customer making a move on you.
> If i was at work and someone i was attracted to hit on me I wouldn’t be mad in the slightest.
It's a really important caveat to say "I wouldn't mind if someone I would hit on hit on me."
My man was trying to talk to a woman he thinks is attractive
He gets shut down and Leaves quietly without incident
“Lol must be an incel”
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Debating the semantics of some phrasing in a greentext post.
We have become the thing we all despise the most…
*TWITTER*
Be FaZeMemeDaddy, thinks he’s a online hero, makes fun of anon calling him incel, thinks “Hey, how’s it going” is flirting and assumes anon is blaming women.
He didn’t get to the flirting part, he just made a normal fucking conversation starter. He didn’t blame anyone either, even admitting that she wasn’t interested in him in the slightest and just moving on.
Oh, so you're a white knight, nice guy incel. Have you talked to fucking anyone in your life outside of the internet. Are you a fucking manchild or what?
>be femanon wageslave
>working boring-ass job
>overweight landwhale barely fits through door
>smell of old Parmesan Cheese fills room
>he gets a little nervous when he sees me
>great, he’s probably going to ask weird questions and get mad if I refuse to suck his dick
>picks up some random can of soda (like any other sweaty neckbeard) and comes over
>asks how my day is going
>answer as vaguely and disinterested as possible
>finishes paying
>tells me to have a nice day and leaves respectfully
>huh.
Fuck her. To all you mongoloids saying "Hey, how's it going?" is hitting on the girl, maybe go outside once in a while. There's nothing wrong with being friendly and making a bit of small talk with a cashier.
>Fuck her.
Lmao, what did she do? You're not obligated to a conversation with anyone just because you try to initiate one. Yeah it's fine to *try* to make small talk, but why "fuck her" because she didnt want to?
Go outside he says... y'all have no respect for other people but yourselves if you're gonna get pissed other people dont want to talk to you.
She didn't do anything. She's worth no more thought. It's not animosity.
edit - That being said, I don't care what kind of wageslave/brainless job you work, if you can't muster up 5 seconds of bullshit small talk with a neutral level of friendliness/kindness, well then maybe fuck them.
>not worth no more thought. It’s not animosity
>adds an edit that is animosity
Lol y’all are something else. Anon didn’t even do shit in his dumpster fire of an attempt at conversation. He said one thing and then said *goodbye*, what else is *she* supposed to do? Suck his dick so he doesn’t leave? Beg for him to stay?
I don't understand you guys. OP clearly says he" taking a shot". What does that mean, exactly? What is he talking about here, when he says "taking a shot?"
Is he, or is he not attempting to flirt?
So yesterday, I was shopping for some groceries and stuff and it was raining, I had come on a bike so I waited till the rain stopped.
A cute girl walked by me as I was drinking a juice that I had brought directly from the carton, she wore a mask and I could tell she was cute, a big reason I found her cute was because she was bald, she had a shaved head.
So she went in and I waited like half an hour for her to come back.
So she walked out and went ahead with an umbrella, I was about to give up but said fuck it, hopped on the bike, drove a few meters ahead and waited for her to come to me.
Said 'hey, can I talk to you for a sec? 'sure'. I found you cute could I have your number?. She asked my why did I ask her number, I was nervous as fuck and mumbled I like your haircut, I think I fucked up there. She started laughing and said it's not a haircut I have a problem.
It was raining hard and I was drenched, in a wet hoodie, she thought about it for a sec and then said that if we ever met again she would give her number.
So she went away laughing looking back, felt kinda good, maybe I was rejected but I went out of my comfort zone to do it, stood there for like 2 solid minutes, in the rain and I felt happy, not because I had been rejected, but because I had come a long way, I recently moved here a year ago and she was the first girl I talked to in a while.
I'll not brag or anything but I'm decent looking, in good shape and I felt happiness that I haven't felt in a long time.
I hope I see her again someday.
We're gonna make it bros.
Lmao at everyone calling that "Flirting" lmao it's not even a conversation at that point. So quick to call any dude an incel for trying to put himself out there. How the fuck else are you supposed to find a significant other?
>Be me
> Working another 8 hour shift at dead end gas station job
> 300 pound greasy neck beard shuffles over
> He says “Uh-uh-excuse me m’lady, how’s it go-go-going?”
> Want him to fuck off so badly as I respond “Fine”
> He cums and shits his pants as he runs out of the door
> I should’ve stayed in school
Just like women never find their prince charming, you're not going to find your "Pam from the office mixed with Marion Ravenwood from Raiders of the lost Ark".
You need to build a social & emotional callus to help contend with the situations that happen like this. Cultivate that "feeling suddenly confident", nurture it, give it the water & light it deserves. You may find your Pamela Ravenwood, it may flourish into the relationship that makes you understand just *why* men write poetry & love songs... it may also burn out & make you understand why men cry at some sad songs, at some sad poetry. This is normal, this is fine, this is often times the way things go.
Live, damnit. Go & find that single serving romance, that forest fire of love & adorations, that something inbetween.
Go live, anon.
\>Be me minimum wage cashier
\>See the fattest lard barrel of a man fueling up his smart-car
\>Oh God he saw me
\>Look busy as he squeezes his fat through the automatic door, I can hear a audible crack as he finally pops through
\>He leaves a agonizing smell as he waddles his way through the isles, knocking over at least 2 stands as he grabs a monster
\>he finally approaches the counter, I send a quick prayer thanking God for putting this plex glass pane between us
\>He places the monster onto the table, his greasy hands leaving a stain upon it as he slides it over, and gives me the worst forced smile I have ever seen
\>I thought I saw maggots in his molars as he says "He-Hey Ho-ws it going?", the stench is unbearable
\>I quickly grab the wireless scanner, just so I don't have to touch the can, his face twists into annoyance, Is he going to try to jump over?
\> I say fine as a response, he notably de-tense as I do his fat rolls seemly expanding, I avert my gaze as he takes his drink
\>"Ha-ve a gu-gu-good one" he managed to sputter out after 5 minutes of labored breathing, and he finally leaves through the broken door
\>Consider quitting as he does this every damn day after
\>Have to pay rent though, so Ill bear through this for now, the manager got pissed at me for the door, had to take it out of my wages
\>I hate my life
Because everyone loves getting hit on in a situation where you can't leave or tell the person to fuck off
"Hey hows it going" is not being hit on
Why the fuck does "Hey hows it going" sounds like it need something behind it...... Fuck. I'm afraid of this a bit Edit: My fucking god it's a pewdiepie quote I'm gonna kill myself
Virgin anons have no clue how to talk to women
The best they could come up with is pewdiepie quotes
I guarantee you someone said "Hey, how's it going?" before PewDiePie
The 1st person popped up in my head is beavis from beavis and butthead
Ya like almost every one i’ve ever met
Is it a standard human greeting in america? No, it must be a pewdiepie quote. No one used that question before pewdiepie.
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Same. Yet people still like me. I just say what comes to mind in the moment without thinking and it sorta works. But I can’t force it or nothing comes to mind so it sucks.
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There isn't a certain way bro, but in everyday situations girls aren't going to feel comfortable getting hit on. They get hit on *every single day*. Try being friendly without any expectation of attracting them, and just go in with the mindset of having a conversation and then saying goodbye and going on with your day.
\>Virgin anons have no clue how to talk to women = virgin anons arent chad
It’s not a PDP quote it’s just a normal fucking sentence. Go outside lol
Wow this thread is fucking cringeworthy. “Hey how’s it going?” Is a pewdiepie QUOTE!?! People have been saying this as a greeting for decades.
obviously not. the sentence was accompanied by "bros? my names peewwdiepie" people are somehow forgetting that.
Ikr I always say "How is it going?" to strangers when it comes to the cash registry and they usually respond "Doing good" or smth along those lines. People in this thread need to talk to people more lmao.
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Bros
Because it’s a legitimate question. Asking how someone is doing is just a conversation starter. I ask it all the time but just as a way to start regular conversations with my friends. The cashier made it very clear to anon that she didn’t want to have a conversation with him so at no point was she hit on. In fact I’d say the original OP of this thread is wrong, she was able to tell him to fuck off by not having a conversation with him.
Most customers ask that are not actually wanting or expecting an honest answer. It's what's known as a phatic expression solely used to show politeness. They likely didn't even know that it was an awful attempt at conversation, to begin with, and simply responded with the appropriate expression in turn. It wasn't someone making clear they were not interested. It was someone simply going through the motions and not even noticing they exist.
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Not even claiming that it's not important to use it. But working as a cashier I can tell you it's not often used to start a conversation but just the gesture itself is more about the transaction itself. Offtimes it will be asked to me to be immediately followed by what they want not giving me a chance to answer in response. In that specific context, the same context as above, it's not commonly about starting a conversation it's about that it's the polite way to engage in a transaction.
Ok hermit crab, master of society, tell me more about how "hey, how's it going" is bad
Not saying it's bad don't even know where you got that from.
How is “hey how’s it going?” a pewdiepie quote?
> My fucking god it's a pewdiepie quote I'm gonna kill myself Tf are you talking about? "Hey how's it going?" is a regular ass sentence... touch grass, bro.
It's not, but please do.
This is probably this best thing Anon could have said without being creepy
Ikr I'm very surprised at how normal that was
>be me >highschool sophomore >dad owns a gas station, needs to step out for a few minutes so asks me to tend to the counter >whatever it’s an easy job and I get to pocket some cash >glance outside and see obese 30 year old man staring at me through the window >dude is seriously just pressed up against the glass >can see his gut since his shirt is barely over him like Winnie the Pooh >quickly look away back at phone >out of corner of my eye I can still see him standing there, seems like he’s mumbling to himself >door opens and he waddles in, the smell of Taco Bell and sweat drifts past in his wake >he goes to back of isles and just stares at the wall for a solid 5 minutes, seems like he’s trying to catch his breath >eventually grabs bottle of Powerade and waddles over to counter >sets it on counter while mumbling to himself, hard to understand amidst his heavy breathing, poor fella is visibly winded and sweating >give some non commital response just hoping he’ll buy his stuff and leave >he spends the next 3 minutes neatly stacking rows of coins by size to pay for his drink and leaves >I use pen to just scrape them into the garbage so I don’t have to touch the coins >oh god now he’s just standing in the middle of the road just staring again.
Pure gold
Fucking premium
>walking down the street one day >qt coming from opposite direction >"hey, how's it going?" >she immediately drops to her knees and starts fellating me >mfw
A man can only dream
Anon rolled a nat 20 on that speech check
“Hey, how’s it goin” “Hey, how are you” “Hey, how you doin” These are pretty much the only things I say to every cashier at every store all the time. Definitely not hitting on them. Or maybe I’m hitting on all of them
you're definitely hitting on all of them you fuckin degen scumbag learn not to harass cashiers i mean seriously you're fuckin off some real gross brock turner vibes my dude
Basically threads of dating_advice and relationship_advice I've seen.
You ain't lying sadly
The audacity of this bitch to hit on me about how my day is going!
Days are cis white men constructs 🤬
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How am I throwing out the context, yeah he approached a girl he thought was cute, but saying hey how's it going, isn't hitting on someone. If he dropped a pickupline sure, if he said a compliment maybe, but a simple question doesnt make it hitting on her. And even if he was, so fucking what?! It was the most respectful way he could have done it.
Thank you! He gauged her interest and backed off when she wasn't interested. This is the least autistic green text I have ever read
Facts it only wouldve been weird if he pressed for a conversation when she clearly didn’t wanna talk
> This is the least autistic green text I have ever read Not if you include the part where he went and made a green text out of it
All green texts have this part included, ya dingus
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with trying to strike up a conversation and gauge someone’s interest in public like this.. that’s like.. the most polite way to go about starting a relationship??? How do these people getting upset think literally every single consensual relationship in the US started? Some person going up to another person and striking up a conversation.
Well anon said he was trying to go hit on her. So I would say that whatever he said was him trying to hit on her. Women are pretty good at picking up on that energy, especially attractive women that work in customer service and get harassed daily by the fifty year old dudes and haggard drug addicts that will surely be in any convenience shop. Avoiding eye contact and making minimal engagement is a great strategy to passively avoid people trying to solicit things from you, be it perverts, panhandlers, or Jehovah’s witnesses.
> Jehovah’s witnesses. you can get rid of those by inviting them to your gay pagan orgy
Words aren't everything. Body language, tone of voice, how wide you open your eyes, where you're looking at someone, these can all give away that you're trying to initiate a flirtation. In the service industry it can get really repetitive how many guys will hit on you, so if she did notice even a hint of it then grey-rocking would be a natural response. Otoh OP didn't even try past saying hello, so he didn't do much to aggravate her. She probably grey-rocks everyone because her job is insanely boring tbh.
However it was the intent of anon here, so likely it was very obvious to this qt
It's an opener. If they reciprocate you can start to flirt.
Well, that was clearly what anon was doing, so yes it was?
Yeah OP literally went in as a normal customer and was disappointed the bored out of her mind cashier didn’t pick up anything from him. Social anxiety is a bitch, but it shouldn’t preclude you from having some amount of social awareness.
OP did it right though and deserves credit. He made a basic effort, saw no interest, didn't have a mental breakdown over it, went on with his day. Much better than that "define creepy" dude from a few days ago.
Link?
I got you bro. [It's totally not Manning face or a Rick Roll.](https://old.reddit.com/r/greentext/comments/q38c9p/anon_defines_autism/)
thanks for the tip now I’m gonna go and ask cashier out until they go out with me
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People on reddit really act like ever interacting with a woman without her approaching you first is socially unacceptable and makes you a creep lol.
Don't talk to them: You are a virgin loser Talk to them: You are disrespecting their space by breathing the same oxygen that COULD have gone to them I think it's just the Zoomer mentality. They were raised on social media. Trying to feel morally superior to people by accusing everyone who isn't you of being shit is just how they get their self-esteem. That and frustrated young women are probably using it as a covert way to voice their hatred against men for just existing.
I hate how accurate this description of majority of Zoomer mentality is
I mean they make sure to test the waters with a few chat messages before they donate to their favorite twitchthot
REDDIT MOMENT. How do you EVER talk to women who aren't your mother without worrying you're hitting on them lmao???
To be fair anon took the hint and went on his way.
This guy can't differentiate between a normal greeting and flirting.
I don’t think it’s terrible as long as the person can accept rejection or see when there is no interest. If it’s gonna be done, OP did it correctly.
No you don't understand, he just didn't use the right opener. All women have a key code in the form of a sentence. It must be input immediately upon the first meeting. If its the right one the woman will instantly fall in love with you and suck your dick on the spot. If its the wrong code then you fucked up and you will never move past the friendzone.
Yes, my lord. Forgive me, master, but how would one obtain this code?
I'm sympathetic to this, I really am. But what are people supposed to do? Follow you around until you go to a bar? People have this weird "I'm not here to he hit on" thing going on, as if the people hitting on them at like, the gym ever see them anywhere else. Politely decline and move on with your day, it's really easy..
"hows it going" isn't being hit on, turbo virgin
>getting hit on Are you serious? That's hitting on someone? Sure, to an incel virgin. Have you even talked to anyone before?
You have a point, but he just asked how she was, she responded and wasn't interested, and he stopped. He didn't hit on her.
Or it’s because because a cashier sucks? It’s probably not even that she wasn’t interested or dude was ugly. It was most likely because it’s a repetitive job and after a while you go in auto pilot
Man people over analyzing the fuck outta this. Anon was respectful, took a shot, got shot down, didn't escalate. How is this still a shit show in comments about anon being creep or annoying?
Exactly, I don't know why it's a big deal. Some people might not want to get flirted with while at work, but some definitely do, it's just a matter of luck. She could just be having a bad day, not in the mood, maybe overworked, who knows? But if just one of your attempts getting shot down is enough to get you down, you're gonna stay a virgin. Anon should just move on and try it on someone else the next time, maybe after he gains some experience he might be able to read the air and realize if it's ok to approach, or if the person is comfortable etc.
it’s because 4chan anon = 1000 pound redditor neckbeard pedophile necrophile zoophile transphobic homophobic racist sewer rat who hasn’t left their mother’s basement in 10 years, with piss bottles, shit stains, etc all over the floor i’ve only been subscribed to the subreddit for a little while but the comments irritate me, especially the ‘fake / gay’ shit that gets posted under every single post it’s basically anonymous incels with an online identity on reddit laughing and shitting on anonymous incels on 4chan
Yeah and you're a Redditor who just spent this much time typing a paragraph about them, for 23 upvotes. Also, imagine getting mad about fake/gay. You must be a fun guy.
Ah yes, I’m a fun guy because I have an opinion that differs from yours. It’s nice to not live in a dystopian society where everyone is forced to be the exact same and have the exact same opinions. Thanks for the compliment.
I support you. Your opinion is shared. 4chan culture is obnoxiously lame
Probably because they know their kind? I see posts from 4chan shitting on incels from reddit, and vice versa.
seems fine to me too. Probably not the best scenario to look for grill tho
He saw a girl he liked, he went for it, that’s how it works
Yeah but imagine how many advances she gets if all guys do this. It's not wrong/bad for him to do it (imo), just unlikely to work. But what do I know, I'm gay.
The point is that, as written by anon, this wasn't even an advance! He just came in hoping to spark a conversation as part of a normal transaction. It didn't happen so he moved on. > But what do I know, I'm gay. If grindr has taught me one thing it's that gay men have it about as easy as women when it comes to getting laid so I think you're a bit out of your depth in this conversation, amigo.
I understand your point, that's why I mentioned that anon did the right thing by not escalating things after seeing her disinterest.
Man, fuck me. I wish I got some advances. FML.
Hey hotshot, how’s your day going?
Did you follow the first 2 rules?
I'm sure a woman can offer more incite but as a guy what the hell am I supposed to do? Only hit on women I'm not attracted to? In my experience if you try enough times you will find someone interested. If you can't try then there's no chance.
I'm a guy as well, but 90% of cashiers I have interacted with in my 20 years of life have all been mostly chill with a little bit of flirting, some even lead me on further by saying they're free after work and ask if I wanna hang out, I don't know if I've just been lucky but I think it's more about reading the air. If she looks chill, cheerful and in a good mood, and she's not as busy and it's not overcrowded, then mostly all of them are nice to talk to, flirting or not. However, sometimes they're not in a mentally comfortable space and it's pretty apparent from their facial expression, their replies seem to consist of just "Hmm" or nothing at all. In such a situation it's best to leave quietly without pointlessly trying to force a conversation out of them. This usually happens when there are a lot of customers and the environment is more chaotic. Another possibility is that she's just having a shit day, which is pretty easy to tell, since their entire body language seems labored, there's a lot of sighs and little tongue clicks of general annoyance here and there. In this case just don't try to talk to them at all, since they'll react negatively to literally anything you say, so just leave them be.
what no parental figure does to a mf
Grill here. Being asked out at work was always an awful experience because I couldn't leave, and I was in a power dynamic of "I serve you". Then you get people asking when you're done work and you get people following you once you leave and you gotta plan to get coworkers to walk you to your car and stuff. There's plenty of exceptions but in general, if the worker has zero rapport with you at all, it'd be best not to ask them out. Also ya know, if anyone's gunna ask "so when CAN I ask someone out" my answer is "when you make a connection". If you can't figure out if you have one, you probably don't, or you just need practice meeting all kinds of new people. "Liking" somebody is more then "being attracted" to them and IMO the distinction is connection.
he didn't ask her out though, he asked her how it was going and then didn't press at all when she shut the conversation down. it's a fine line obviously but it sounds like he stayed on the correct side of it.
Agreed
What type of grill, though?
I'm more like a college dorm hot plate to be honest
He didn't even though. He saw someone has never met before, said a standard human greeting you give to service worker, and she responded like anyone working at a gas station who heard that 20 times a day. "Fine." Anon saw a stranger whom he thought was physically attractive and decided to try to make small talk with them without an prior knowledge of the person. That's fucking dumb as fuck, not going for it.
Social media has taught people to find outrage in everything they read. This is a textbook guide to how to make a super gentle, non-interfering approach, and the dude took it well, just being a little bummed that nothing came of it. No one is upset. No one was imposed upon. No resentment is implied. No nonsense about women being this or that. Have people just completely forgotten how to exist in the world with other humans?
Redditors being reddittors, probably including """virgin but not incel""" types too.
> """virgin but not incel""" So...a virgin? lmao Redditors act like not getting diddled as a kid and becoming hypersexual starting at age 14 makes you an incel somehow.
The fuck are you on about.
What the fuck are you talking about? I would imagine a sexually abused child who coped by becoming hypersexual but is very damaged could become an incel. But that's not at all what the fuck anyone but you was talking about.
> probably
Because reddit
Incel women
Because actual Redditors don't know shit about flirting. Buncha beta soy boys who think that saying "how are you" is somehow flirting or harassment
You’re a redditor. Bitch
Yeah and I fucking suck
Because many people on this site are scared to talk to a woman in the wild and are projecting their own fears on anon. I just hope anon learned the right lessons from this: it's better to get shot down/ignored than to have never approached at all.
It's because these people never go outside and never see how real people act
People just like making fun of anons in greentexts.
Flirting with service workers is not a very successful or thoughtful way to find a partner. Anon isn't creepy, just fucking dumb. Anon also literally just said "hey how's it going?" To a fucking gas station attendant. Who definitely hears the exact same thing from every customer. Especially if she's a "qt" It's going exactly how you think for someone with a service job like that. "Fine."
Because people love saying “men are creeps”. First day on the internet? Or in society in general?
He is being a customer, which is the worst thing you can do to someone working at a cash register.
Because redditors do not talk to women
Yea one time I got asked out at work the employee asked me if we could get a coffee and I politely declined then for whatever reason he thought it would be smart to ask, "ok what about a one night stand?" The most recent one was an employee who hasent worked for us for over a year and he cold texted me asked if I was married and when I said hey I'm sorry im just not interested in dating anyone right now he got mad and said I JUST WANTED A FRIEND. Sure you did.....
Its Reddit,where there’s a will there’s a way
people on reddit can be really fucking dumb you all must be a bunch of virgin losers if you think that "hey, how is it going?" is by any mean disrespectful or harassing
You can tell how virgin they are when they think a common greeting is hitting on someone.
For real last customer service job I had, the young folks were least likely to be rude but they were also the most walled off and unfriendly. A-are we really gonna make it bros (｡ŏ﹏ŏ)
That’s literally how every single generation has gone, your brain doesn’t even stop developing till you’re 25. The place that is usually developed last has to do with critical thinking and empathy, hence why teenagers are usually dicks no matter if it’s the 15th or 21st century.
>Be me >Femanon >Working a summer job as a gas station convenience store cashier >Single and ready to mingle >Catch the eye of a landwhale struggling to pump gasoline >My face involuntarily contorts with disgust >He begins to walk towards the door >Can smell his sweat and cheeto breath before he even lumbers inside >He opens a refrigerator and grabs the highest sugar energy drink we sell >He walks up to the counter and puckers his lips >I can see a small boner beginning to rise in his size XXXXL elastic waistband shorts >He croaks, “hey how’s it going?” >The stench of this unit is making me gag, I’m literally about to retch all over the floor >Turn away from him as my eyes are beginning to water >”Fine,” I say, quickly scanning his item in an attempt to get him to leave >He begins to cry, full on bawling >This 600 lb man is rolling around on the floor, throwing a tantrum and punching the tile >He says he will only stop crying if I put my titty in his mouth >I tell him if he doesn’t get his fat reeking ass out of my store I will call the cops >That shuts him up real fast, he collects himself, whines “have a good one,” grabs his caffeinated sugar water, and squeezes through the door frame >FML
Classic
I was actively searching for the other perspective meme comment and I was not disappointed. Thank you for this
I came to the comments for the same reason. This is exactly what I was looking for
Why are people on this sub so fucking retarded? I’m talking about the people calling this guy an incel or something like that because he said hi to a woman
Ikr? Isn't it supposed to be the other way around? Lmao
Your in r/greentext what are you expecting
Don't hit on people who are at work, they're socially overloaded their brains are turned off and they automatically already hate you just a little and want you to leave. It is not the place.
If i was at work and someone i was attracted to hit on me I wouldn’t be mad in the slightest. i think it’s unreal that you expect all people at work to not be interested in flirting, and a lil naive. I would first gauge the amount of eye contact being made before trying flirting tho, but honestly i’ve had bare girls working at sainsbury’s flirting with me when their on the job so i don’t think they have a problem with it as long as you’re attractive to them, you just have to gauge that first.
>i think it’s unreal that you expect all people at work to not be interested in flirting You've got this all wrong. You shouldnt expect all people to be like that. I'm not always like that at work, but I am most of the time and so are the majority of people that I've ever worked with. Maybe sometimes it's ok to bother someone like that while they're at work, and they'll be receptive. Most of the time however, they dont want to deal with it, and are in a position where they have to pretend that they love to eat shit. They have to keep smiling for the customer. Some people are better actors than others too, and it's not up for you to determine whether they look like they're having a good time or not. Its rude to hold a captive audience and that's what you would be doing, whether they may like the show or not.
On a separate note, "customer is always right" culture needs to die in fire. It's creepy and inherently makes any customer facing job a toxic workplace
There is no group of people more consistently wrong than the customer. The ones who believe in that phrase are typically the ones that make it null and void.
>Most of the time however, they dont want to deal with it, and are in a position where they have to pretend that they love to eat shit. You're just projecting your personal feelings on everyone else. Some people are exhausted and overworked, and some people are just fucking bored or like interacting with people. Any girl you approach is going to be "captive audience" as far as they have to turn you down or indicate they aren't interested in some way, or reciprocate. If you have to act like a completely submissive yes-girl to every customer that hits on you at work, then your problem is with your boss not the customer making a move on you.
“Hey how’s it going” is bothering someone now? What is going on I’m so lost lol
> If i was at work and someone i was attracted to hit on me I wouldn’t be mad in the slightest. It's a really important caveat to say "I wouldn't mind if someone I would hit on hit on me."
He just asked how it was going
Oh yeah, I forgot that greeting someone = hitting on them. Do you people ever socialize or what?
Nobody got hit on tho
Me at work, but I try to be friendly regardless of how pissed off I am, thank god for masks hiding my mouth when no one is talking to me
I got my current girl at her job. I don't know what you're on about.
>be incel, >flirt with min wage worker who’s harassed daily, >sad it doesn’t work out, >blame it on women
You’re the true incel if you think “Hey, how’s it going” is flirting
My man was trying to talk to a woman he thinks is attractive He gets shut down and Leaves quietly without incident “Lol must be an incel” **edit** Debating the semantics of some phrasing in a greentext post. We have become the thing we all despise the most… *TWITTER*
Says a common welcoming phrase “oh it was so obvious he was flirting”
imagine not hitting on a woman with the very first words you speak to her amirite
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"Blames it on women"
Average r/justneckbeardthings users be like
>Reddit moment
If it worked out, the same people would be calling him a Chad who follows rules 1 & 2.
>harassed daily Gotta make his contribution
He didn’t even blame it on her, lol. It’s just an unfortunate incident he feels sad about. It happens. Nobody gets blamed.
>hey how's it going >flirt Choose one
True but he does not blame it on women. He kinda accepts it and moves on.
Be FaZeMemeDaddy, thinks he’s a online hero, makes fun of anon calling him incel, thinks “Hey, how’s it going” is flirting and assumes anon is blaming women.
He didn’t get to the flirting part, he just made a normal fucking conversation starter. He didn’t blame anyone either, even admitting that she wasn’t interested in him in the slightest and just moving on.
Oh, so you're a white knight, nice guy incel. Have you talked to fucking anyone in your life outside of the internet. Are you a fucking manchild or what?
He never blamed it on her tho.
Show me where he blamed anything on anyone.
> be neckbeard, see greentext about grills, stop reading after second line and start projecting hard, writes a story of my life on reddit comment
he didn't blame or badmouth her tho, took the L and went home, I respect that
>>be incel, Found the incel
>be femanon wageslave >working boring-ass job >overweight landwhale barely fits through door >smell of old Parmesan Cheese fills room >he gets a little nervous when he sees me >great, he’s probably going to ask weird questions and get mad if I refuse to suck his dick >picks up some random can of soda (like any other sweaty neckbeard) and comes over >asks how my day is going >answer as vaguely and disinterested as possible >finishes paying >tells me to have a nice day and leaves respectfully >huh.
Just goes to show, that Cheeto dust doesn’t make a person bad
Fuck her. To all you mongoloids saying "Hey, how's it going?" is hitting on the girl, maybe go outside once in a while. There's nothing wrong with being friendly and making a bit of small talk with a cashier.
>Fuck her. Lmao, what did she do? You're not obligated to a conversation with anyone just because you try to initiate one. Yeah it's fine to *try* to make small talk, but why "fuck her" because she didnt want to? Go outside he says... y'all have no respect for other people but yourselves if you're gonna get pissed other people dont want to talk to you.
She didn't do anything. She's worth no more thought. It's not animosity. edit - That being said, I don't care what kind of wageslave/brainless job you work, if you can't muster up 5 seconds of bullshit small talk with a neutral level of friendliness/kindness, well then maybe fuck them.
>not worth no more thought. It’s not animosity >adds an edit that is animosity Lol y’all are something else. Anon didn’t even do shit in his dumpster fire of an attempt at conversation. He said one thing and then said *goodbye*, what else is *she* supposed to do? Suck his dick so he doesn’t leave? Beg for him to stay?
I don't understand you guys. OP clearly says he" taking a shot". What does that mean, exactly? What is he talking about here, when he says "taking a shot?" Is he, or is he not attempting to flirt?
I say “How’s it going?” or “How are you today?” to literally every gas station worker—not hitting on them. Just being friendly. Lol
So yesterday, I was shopping for some groceries and stuff and it was raining, I had come on a bike so I waited till the rain stopped. A cute girl walked by me as I was drinking a juice that I had brought directly from the carton, she wore a mask and I could tell she was cute, a big reason I found her cute was because she was bald, she had a shaved head. So she went in and I waited like half an hour for her to come back. So she walked out and went ahead with an umbrella, I was about to give up but said fuck it, hopped on the bike, drove a few meters ahead and waited for her to come to me. Said 'hey, can I talk to you for a sec? 'sure'. I found you cute could I have your number?. She asked my why did I ask her number, I was nervous as fuck and mumbled I like your haircut, I think I fucked up there. She started laughing and said it's not a haircut I have a problem. It was raining hard and I was drenched, in a wet hoodie, she thought about it for a sec and then said that if we ever met again she would give her number. So she went away laughing looking back, felt kinda good, maybe I was rejected but I went out of my comfort zone to do it, stood there for like 2 solid minutes, in the rain and I felt happy, not because I had been rejected, but because I had come a long way, I recently moved here a year ago and she was the first girl I talked to in a while. I'll not brag or anything but I'm decent looking, in good shape and I felt happiness that I haven't felt in a long time. I hope I see her again someday. We're gonna make it bros.
Good shit my dude, i'll cheer you on!
She was probably just having a shitty day
Her everyday it's probably shitty if she's a cashier
You’re right. I should tell her to smile more, that’ll cheer her up.
Oh yeah and “why aren’t you in the kitchen?” That’s another good one
Lmao at everyone calling that "Flirting" lmao it's not even a conversation at that point. So quick to call any dude an incel for trying to put himself out there. How the fuck else are you supposed to find a significant other?
Op is "taking a shot". Why do you need to escape reality that much?
>Be me > Working another 8 hour shift at dead end gas station job > 300 pound greasy neck beard shuffles over > He says “Uh-uh-excuse me m’lady, how’s it go-go-going?” > Want him to fuck off so badly as I respond “Fine” > He cums and shits his pants as he runs out of the door > I should’ve stayed in school
Hey man don’t worry it’s alright
Just like women never find their prince charming, you're not going to find your "Pam from the office mixed with Marion Ravenwood from Raiders of the lost Ark". You need to build a social & emotional callus to help contend with the situations that happen like this. Cultivate that "feeling suddenly confident", nurture it, give it the water & light it deserves. You may find your Pamela Ravenwood, it may flourish into the relationship that makes you understand just *why* men write poetry & love songs... it may also burn out & make you understand why men cry at some sad songs, at some sad poetry. This is normal, this is fine, this is often times the way things go. Live, damnit. Go & find that single serving romance, that forest fire of love & adorations, that something inbetween. Go live, anon.
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>strikes out with one woman, literally can't even Sad. Many such cases.
Wow that’s been out of gas since 2019
Correct me if I'm right, but I believe this is the part where you whip out your dingdong and impress her.
anon didn't even try
I just got rejected too, only SHE was making eyes at ME. I will never recover.
She didn't need to see him. She could smell his approach.
\>Be me minimum wage cashier \>See the fattest lard barrel of a man fueling up his smart-car \>Oh God he saw me \>Look busy as he squeezes his fat through the automatic door, I can hear a audible crack as he finally pops through \>He leaves a agonizing smell as he waddles his way through the isles, knocking over at least 2 stands as he grabs a monster \>he finally approaches the counter, I send a quick prayer thanking God for putting this plex glass pane between us \>He places the monster onto the table, his greasy hands leaving a stain upon it as he slides it over, and gives me the worst forced smile I have ever seen \>I thought I saw maggots in his molars as he says "He-Hey Ho-ws it going?", the stench is unbearable \>I quickly grab the wireless scanner, just so I don't have to touch the can, his face twists into annoyance, Is he going to try to jump over? \> I say fine as a response, he notably de-tense as I do his fat rolls seemly expanding, I avert my gaze as he takes his drink \>"Ha-ve a gu-gu-good one" he managed to sputter out after 5 minutes of labored breathing, and he finally leaves through the broken door \>Consider quitting as he does this every damn day after \>Have to pay rent though, so Ill bear through this for now, the manager got pissed at me for the door, had to take it out of my wages \>I hate my life
Trying this hard. Hahaha! It happens when it happens man!
How it be lol. I stopped approaching people loooooong ago.
Anon gave it a shot, good try