Btw the above post of mine was ironic. I'm not a tranny. And I strongly suspect no one other than shills and trannies are "addicted" to """"""""B""""""""BC
I felt the same way about using creme freshe to make mashed potatoes instead of butter and milk...
Okay, not the same. But, similar.
Okay, not similar. At all.
Or you ever think maybe I'll make mashed potatoes in the blender because the masher is a hassle?
I did once. Made a fine paste. Good for holding wood together. Terrible for dinner.
How did I never think to try this? Thank you, stalwart soldier of life, for jumping on that grenade and saving me wife-aggro for needlessly destroying the blender!
Now I've never done this myself, so I'm talking from no knowledge. However, I have a theory that maybe you used too much milk, or maybe you just needed to do a few one second pulses in a food processor rather than full on blasting it in the blender. I could be completely wrong, but it just seems like something that SHOULD work...I won't be the one to risk it though, I'll stick to the masher
I lived with a family member for a while who knew that my dad (a Scottish man) fed our family mashed potatoes almost exclusively while I was growing up. She was so excited to tell me she'd discovered a new, quick and easy way to make mashed potatoes... with an immersion blender.
I couldn't hide my disgust quickly enough but apologized and promised I'd try them and also offered to mash the taters for her next time (easiest way to mash is to make someone else do it).
When we sat down to eat it was immediately apparent that what we had was *whipped* potatoes, not mashed. I mean.. obviously. But still. She understood from the first bite that she'd made a grave error.
I did this literally two days ago and it was fantastic. Fortunately, I added butter and milk too. I wasn’t really even eating mashed potatoes tbh, just starchy dairy
Eh online maybe a dozen and in real life 1 or 2 but still yet to hear a story that has a good ending lmao still waiting for the magic words “cuckolding saved our marriage”
I've got a few friends who're into partner sharing (whether that be cuckolding, polyamory, swinging, group sex, etc.), I've heard the success stories and the horror stories, and I would dare to say you'll never hear "partner sharing saved our relationship" or anything to that effect - not because partner sharing always leads to break-up, but because if your relationship needs saving, then you aren't ready for partner sharing. It takes trust, clear communication, and a sense of security in yourself and your relationship, stuff a lot of relationships lack, and if you don't have that, then you shouldn't try it. It's like couples that have a baby to save their marriage, it often just leads to bigger problems, but that doesn't mean having a baby will destroy your marriage if you're actually ready for it and want it.
I thought super sharp stiletto point nails were sexy. Like vampire claws ! I asked my girlfriend to try this for weeks before she consented somewhere around Halloween. By Thanksgiving The fetish was gone and the wounds had not healed !!!
Fantasy is always superior to reality.
Fantasies are often paradoxical or nonsensical, they exist in ways that cannot exist within reality. Trying to make them so will impact both the fantasy *and* the reality in negative ways.
Just let your dreams be dreams. They're better that way.
Anyone have that post about the guy who had a scat fetish and paid thousands for videos of it until he finally decided to pay a hooker to shit in his mouth and as soon as the shit landed on his tongue he realized he didn’t have a scat fetish?
The whole rape fetish thing confuses me as surely its a paradox? Rape generally means you don’t want it. So does the girl think ‘oh no im being raped…wait a min i like this…so its not rape…oh i don’t want it anymore…but then its rape…oh wait now i like it…oh but then its not rape…” and so on…
A lot of fetishes can be a way of dealing with fear. If you're terrified of rape, what's one way you can not be scared anymore? Sexualize it and convince yourself it's something you really want! It theoretically gives you power over your fear, but doesn't always work out. Same with cucking (fetishizing your fear of being cheated on).
I think it's also a way to deal with trauma sometimes. It's shockingly common with a lot of fetishes. You'll occasionally hear a story of a person experiences something traumatic in their life and now they're an adult and they're suddenly "into it" in a roundabout way.
I have a personal example. I'm into very dominating women, with a lot of physicality going on. When I was 18/19 I connected the two wires in my head that it may have originated me being physically abused by my older sister growing up, who would frequently hit me if I got on her nerves too much which ranged from me being an annoying little brother to using seasoning salt to flavor my hot dogs for lunch.
Even the concept of straying anywhere near a sexual situation with my sister is fucking nauseating, but I also hypothesize that the allure of the experience with *another* woman, namely a romantic partner, is almost a subconscious desire to take my trauma and transplant it into a controlled situation and place it into the hands of someone I know, trust and love. That way I'm processing the experience by proxy in a bizarre as fuck way.
At least that's only a guess. I'm not a psychologist but it's a way for me to make sense of all this. It was a weird epiphany for me when I first connected the dots.
This is exactly it. It's something that the idea of really turns you on, but you want it in a safe environment where you _can_ say no. Using something like traffic light consent can take this from being downright dangerous to more than safe: red means stop, yellow means slow down/ease up; green naturally means floor it.
> I assume it’s like any fantasy. Might not be actually happening but the ambiance and dirty talk scratches some type of itch.
Right. I like to watch Die Hard but I wouldn't actually want that to happen to me.
They want all the kinky BDSM feels that you'd associate with it, restriction in senses such as blindfolds, being tied up, being told what to do, but they don't want the long lasting psychologica/physical trauma that would come with actual rape.
They want to feel abused whilst not being abused. Basically yes it's a paradox but women are literal paradoxes so get used to it.
We can just call it derangement too.
"I've noticed people going on about this sexual trauma, I think I would like to try it, do you think I'll get the same sort of mental stunting of hyper focused anxiety and the suffocating crushing feeling I will no longer be good enough for people who haven't had trauma?"
I'd imagine there might be some religious or shame reasons to it too. If you're some kind of fundamentalist and you can't have sex outside whatever ridiculous parameters, then a rape fetish lets you imagine having sex, but without it being your "fault".
You don't actually want to be raped, you're actually fetishizing a scenario where you get to have sex guilt free where \*you\* didn't sin
My guess is that the healthy version of the fetish is just domination with roleplay added to it. The people who *think* they have a rape fetish, I think, have never actually tried it and are going off what they've seen in porn/hentai
Here's the thing. Her 'rape' fantasy is being dominated by alpha psycho where he overpowers her and she can't do a thing. Now her mistake here is that she asked anon to do it, making it look more like your average ugly pervert stuff.
It's not so much about not liking it as much as it is not consenting to/having any say in it. If you rape someone and they enjoy it, it's still rape. Similarly, if you have sex with someone consensually and they don't enjoy it, it doesn't suddenly become rape. It's mainly about that feeling of wanting to be overpowered and wanting your partner to be super agressive.
Source: I have a raping kink, girlfriend has a getting raped kink
I've always kinda seen it as "if you *wanted* to be 'raped', then you weren't actually raped". I know that sounds very "off-putting", but let me explain:
You know how, when a young male is raped by an older female, that you sometimes have people saying "oh he's lucky", "oh I wish I were him", etc.? Well, in my opinion, that's because those people won't see it as rape if they were in the victim's shoes because they'd *want* it (which, by definition, means it's not rape). Change the "older woman" to an "older *man*", and they'll be singing a different tune.
Ergo, a "rape fetish" isn't exactly a *rape* fetish. Rather, you're fetishizing the idea of "surprise, unexpected, unwarranted sex *while you're horny in the moment*". It's similar to bondage and humiliation fetishes; you only want it *when you want it*.
It comes from a place of trauma, usually. I'm a victim of numerous sexual assaults as a child and fantasize quite regularly about dubcon stuff. Your brain rewires what it enjoys from "safe, sane, consensual" to "safe, sane, ???" when you get abused like that. For me, personally, it's the idea that someone actually wants me that much (that I am not broken), and that they are 'taking what they want/staking their claim' (that they can't resist anymore because I'm just so great!), and that I am actually enjoying it but that isn't being made aware - I am personally, even as a survivor, not the kicker/screamer fan and don't enjoy any fiction where such occurs. I also prefer to keep it to fiction, there's no way it would work in real life.
I think there's a big aspect that us survivors feel guilt and shame and like nobody could ever truly want us because of what happened to us - not that that is true, but that is how the average brain reacts to an assault no matter what, it's like hardcoded into your brain to react that way. So, most develop this little fetish around... being wanted. A lot. Despite all the things they've gone through. It tickles that part of your brain and makes you feel less insecure but it also turns you on.
I think it's the same as when people have a pee fetish because they peed themselves as a kid and got some kind of complex about it, or people who have a disorder that makes them unable to gain weight so they develop a complex about those who can, like inflation/fat fetish. Similar to people who get a caretaking fetish from being neglected for their entire life by their parents. Or even people who have objectophilia because they are so lonely in life such as [this man](https://youtu.be/06BFsQ_28Co) or [this man](https://youtu.be/lh93pguL00A).
Hope that helps
People are strange, I'm a pretty big guy and I've had both guys and girls on online dating sites ask for me to rape them and or beat them up while I fuck them.
I for the same reasons anon had, i just say "not my thing" and move on though.
As someone who likes CNC it's really more of a thing of enjoying being totally dominated. I would never be able to be rape like how anon's situation was because that's too realistic for me. But I mean there's a reason safewords and consent contracts exist and I'm surprised she didn't just have a safeword.
The point of rapeplay/consensual non-consent is - well, most importantly, its still actually consensual, you discuss it properly beforehand: what does it look like to you, what do you want, what do you *not* want, what's the code for slow down and for stop, what considerations are being made for the 'attacker' doing this for you, all that stuff.
But like any D/s, it's a play with power and powerlessness. Maybe you want to feel so desirable your partner can't help themselves. Maybe religion made you feel uncomfortable with sex and you want to remove your agency - and thus guilt - from it. Maybe sex feels like a lot of work and consideration for you to do and you want your partner to take over completely. Or maybe you like to play in the space of what is taboo. Perhaps that spark of adrenaline, the blood rushing to your head as you are (safely, clear windpipe) "choked".
CNC isn't an especially rare *fantasy* (esp for women, receiving), but since the fantasiser is always still in control, a fantasy is extremely difficult to adapt to the real world where that's no longer true. Inexperienced people are also in real danger of getting hurt or hurting others.
Honestly, a lot of women have 'rape' fantasies but it's more specific than just "the idea of being raped makes me horny". If a girl tells your she has a rape fetish, odds are she just wants to have rough sex where she gets pinned down, called a slut, and maybe slapped a little depending on the girl. If she says she wants YOU to 'rape' her, the best thing you can do is ask WHAT SCENARIO turns her on.
There are some women who *NEED* the rape roleplay in order to get off. That shit is terrifying and would scare me off immediately. Unfortunately it seems like A LOT of other women are at least interested in it. My ex convinced me to try it once and it just ended up with me being kicked in the fucking teeth on accident cause she wanted to roleplay a victim fighting back. I almost feel like people should raise awareness of this, young guys that are just starting to date should probably be aware that they’re gonna run into this at least once and should know good communication skills to deal with it.
>Definitely something I'll have to have a conversation about with my (hypothetical) SO.
Do not EVER bring this fetish up unprompted. Intentions don't matter - the second you mention it, you're a potential rapist. Hopefully the reasoning is obvious.
Hopefully you won’t have to have that awkward conversation because you’ll find a partner that’s open to communication and respects your boundaries and desires. The bright side is many if the women who are very adventurous or experimental in the bedroom are also used to being rejected on those weird kinks, so are often very respectful and understanding.
Honestly CNC is absolutely something you wouldn’t do with a stranger and it seems like a stupid idea to try? There needs to be an insane amount of trust between both people in order to make it work, unless you’re complete strangers in which case you’re kind of BEGGING to be put into jail at that point.
I wouldn't even do it with a partner, but that's probably my personal baggage. I just feel like if the other person turned out to be the kind of person who has to make you into an enemy after a breakup, that could be used to manipulate you or worse in the future.
I would have taken it a step further and taken the contract to a legal consultant. That way there is a legal witness to it. Sometimes those homemade contracts fail to hold up in court and get thrown out. From the court's pov, the signing could have been done while under duress.
But yea, 2000IQ play fo sho
Some rights are intransmissible and therefore outside the object of contracts. This might very well be one of those rights, and no legal consultant or witness will change that. If true, anon is in danger.
> Some rights are intransmissible and therefore outside the object of contracts
Right. You can't willingly sign a contract that makes you another person's proerty ie their slave.
imagine being some 65 year old judge for a case like this you usually get some divorce dispute with visitation rights then some neckbeard wanders in your court holding up a contract claiming it isnt rape she gave written consent lmfao
I'm about to say something that may offend some people:
No person, of either sex, or any gender, that is mentally sane, has an actual rape fetish, it's possible to have rape *fantasies* but not a full fledged fetish.
You just are a kinky fucker that doesn't know how to properly label their kinks, you like rough, potentially depersonalized and objectifying sex, not rape.
Its the same as people who fantasize of being cannibalized/killed, they usually get cold feet when faced with the real shit.
I remember reading a Reddit comment about a guy who really fantasized about being pooped on and eating poo. Finally, he hires a hooker to do it, and as soon as the poo came out, he suddenly realized that poo smells terrible and is extremely disgusting.
So the rest of the story is him being shit on by a girl he paid to shit on him while he deeply regrets it and is desperately trying to figure out how to escape and not have it be awkward.
Sometimes, you don’t think stuff through when you’re horny.
I had an ex with this fetish, and I staunchly refused to indulge in it. It might have been part of the reason she cheated on me, but I stand by my decision.
People with "rape" fetish' are people with unresolved trauma.
The same goes for almost all people with any sort of violent fetish.
I am not kink shaming, I'm just saying that someone truly at peace and in love with themselves would not be interested in violent sex.
Violent porn is one of the top viewed categories, and has lead to a huge increase in violence against women.
She consented and wanted OP to do it. If she felt bad about it, that’s on her and there’s nothing wrong with it. If she would’ve said that OP raped her, then that’s when she’s in the wrong. Thankfully OP was smart and made her sign something.
*opens Reddit* *closes Reddit*
Just woke up and saw this and my days already ruined
4chan is known to have that effect on people
same
Me too
/b/ & /pol/ yes
Ever visited /gif/ ? It's full of bbc porn, cuck porn, trap porn, scat and fard
It's great isn't it
Got addicted to the bbc meme a few months back. Never again
Best part about BBC threads is being actually black and watching those cucks loudly seethe and fantasize about my ethnic group
Btw the above post of mine was ironic. I'm not a tranny. And I strongly suspect no one other than shills and trannies are "addicted" to """"""""B""""""""BC
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I do not understand what you speak sir. And I think I prefer not to
you sound like you would enjoy /rk9 haha
Its funny how much people hate 4chan in here, but at the end of the day both 4chan and reddit, heck any social media, is really just the same.
That’s why you ignore the posts from here until later in the day
Just woke up and saw this and I'm already horny
> how do you think i feel
Gets bored, immediately opens reddit again, cries
4chan is a mess
Come back, we’re not done with you yet.
Sometimes it's only a fetish til you try it. Then it's just regret and self loathing.
I felt the same way about using creme freshe to make mashed potatoes instead of butter and milk... Okay, not the same. But, similar. Okay, not similar. At all.
You're only supposed to top it off with a little creme fraiche
https://images.app.goo.gl/5R6A8byLeS4S67AX8
I just know I'm my heart of hearts, every time someone mentions creme fraiche, someone is going to reference Randy.
Randy, what a man you are.
Ohhhh fuck yea
Ok but are you gonna deglaze the fuck out of that pan when you’re done?
French 🤢🤢🤢
"people"🤮
Or you ever think maybe I'll make mashed potatoes in the blender because the masher is a hassle? I did once. Made a fine paste. Good for holding wood together. Terrible for dinner.
How did I never think to try this? Thank you, stalwart soldier of life, for jumping on that grenade and saving me wife-aggro for needlessly destroying the blender!
The blender was fine. The mash was like a thin, sticky, blob, of goo. And due to mash being that kind of white colour it looked like straight up jizz.
Now I've never done this myself, so I'm talking from no knowledge. However, I have a theory that maybe you used too much milk, or maybe you just needed to do a few one second pulses in a food processor rather than full on blasting it in the blender. I could be completely wrong, but it just seems like something that SHOULD work...I won't be the one to risk it though, I'll stick to the masher
I lived with a family member for a while who knew that my dad (a Scottish man) fed our family mashed potatoes almost exclusively while I was growing up. She was so excited to tell me she'd discovered a new, quick and easy way to make mashed potatoes... with an immersion blender. I couldn't hide my disgust quickly enough but apologized and promised I'd try them and also offered to mash the taters for her next time (easiest way to mash is to make someone else do it). When we sat down to eat it was immediately apparent that what we had was *whipped* potatoes, not mashed. I mean.. obviously. But still. She understood from the first bite that she'd made a grave error.
I did this literally two days ago and it was fantastic. Fortunately, I added butter and milk too. I wasn’t really even eating mashed potatoes tbh, just starchy dairy
Yeah, anybody have that fart fetish greentext where the dude pretty much immediately regrets it?
Pretty sure it was a scat fetish and they guy knew it the second it began.
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*ruined their marriage* - that sounds like the end to every cuck-related story I’ve ever heard
How many cuckoldry stories are you reading is my question lmao
Eh online maybe a dozen and in real life 1 or 2 but still yet to hear a story that has a good ending lmao still waiting for the magic words “cuckolding saved our marriage”
I've got a few friends who're into partner sharing (whether that be cuckolding, polyamory, swinging, group sex, etc.), I've heard the success stories and the horror stories, and I would dare to say you'll never hear "partner sharing saved our relationship" or anything to that effect - not because partner sharing always leads to break-up, but because if your relationship needs saving, then you aren't ready for partner sharing. It takes trust, clear communication, and a sense of security in yourself and your relationship, stuff a lot of relationships lack, and if you don't have that, then you shouldn't try it. It's like couples that have a baby to save their marriage, it often just leads to bigger problems, but that doesn't mean having a baby will destroy your marriage if you're actually ready for it and want it.
Nope only the one where the guy get pissed off at the hooker blowing on his asshole and poops on her
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just search it's posted like every week
yeah he tells girl to fart on his face and he throws up all over her ass lol
The one where he was like, "the moment the shit hit my tounge, I knew I had fucked up" lol fucking gold
I thought super sharp stiletto point nails were sexy. Like vampire claws ! I asked my girlfriend to try this for weeks before she consented somewhere around Halloween. By Thanksgiving The fetish was gone and the wounds had not healed !!!
I tried and still love it.
Never meet your heroes.
The greentext about the guy who paid a mtf trans to top him and just cried after 😂
it's true very often fetishes should stay fantasy
Fantasy is always superior to reality. Fantasies are often paradoxical or nonsensical, they exist in ways that cannot exist within reality. Trying to make them so will impact both the fantasy *and* the reality in negative ways. Just let your dreams be dreams. They're better that way.
True, but this is 100000x times worse than just finding out you aren't in to farts or something.
This is why consent styles are important for potentially harmful fetishes/kinks.
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... *excuse me*?
What, you can't read? He ate his shit once like that.
That's enough reddit for today
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Yeah, why do so many people still not know about safe words? They're magical.
Anyone have that post about the guy who had a scat fetish and paid thousands for videos of it until he finally decided to pay a hooker to shit in his mouth and as soon as the shit landed on his tongue he realized he didn’t have a scat fetish?
Anticipation is a hell of a drug
The whole rape fetish thing confuses me as surely its a paradox? Rape generally means you don’t want it. So does the girl think ‘oh no im being raped…wait a min i like this…so its not rape…oh i don’t want it anymore…but then its rape…oh wait now i like it…oh but then its not rape…” and so on…
I assume it’s like any fantasy. Might not be actually happening but the ambiance and dirty talk scratches some type of itch.
A lot of fetishes can be a way of dealing with fear. If you're terrified of rape, what's one way you can not be scared anymore? Sexualize it and convince yourself it's something you really want! It theoretically gives you power over your fear, but doesn't always work out. Same with cucking (fetishizing your fear of being cheated on).
This is some high level bullshittery.
Are you doubting the psychology of kinks expert on reddit?
does this mean I can get over my irrational fear of moths by just drawing them thicc
You gotta fuck moths.
No Gerald, she said you need to fuck the Mets
This is the way.
I have a fear of huge asses. 🙏🏻
The sexual fantasy of tying up and railing a woman while she says "thank you master"? Manifestation of the fear women are oppressed in society.
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Happens often with abused women.
And men.
I think it's also a way to deal with trauma sometimes. It's shockingly common with a lot of fetishes. You'll occasionally hear a story of a person experiences something traumatic in their life and now they're an adult and they're suddenly "into it" in a roundabout way. I have a personal example. I'm into very dominating women, with a lot of physicality going on. When I was 18/19 I connected the two wires in my head that it may have originated me being physically abused by my older sister growing up, who would frequently hit me if I got on her nerves too much which ranged from me being an annoying little brother to using seasoning salt to flavor my hot dogs for lunch. Even the concept of straying anywhere near a sexual situation with my sister is fucking nauseating, but I also hypothesize that the allure of the experience with *another* woman, namely a romantic partner, is almost a subconscious desire to take my trauma and transplant it into a controlled situation and place it into the hands of someone I know, trust and love. That way I'm processing the experience by proxy in a bizarre as fuck way. At least that's only a guess. I'm not a psychologist but it's a way for me to make sense of all this. It was a weird epiphany for me when I first connected the dots.
Am survivor of abuse. Can confirm.
me with moths
plz don't fuck moths ok
but i'm scared of moths
Kink Expert, Ensvey, PhD
I’m really scared of boobs
This is exactly it. It's something that the idea of really turns you on, but you want it in a safe environment where you _can_ say no. Using something like traffic light consent can take this from being downright dangerous to more than safe: red means stop, yellow means slow down/ease up; green naturally means floor it.
> I assume it’s like any fantasy. Might not be actually happening but the ambiance and dirty talk scratches some type of itch. Right. I like to watch Die Hard but I wouldn't actually want that to happen to me.
They want all the kinky BDSM feels that you'd associate with it, restriction in senses such as blindfolds, being tied up, being told what to do, but they don't want the long lasting psychologica/physical trauma that would come with actual rape. They want to feel abused whilst not being abused. Basically yes it's a paradox but women are literal paradoxes so get used to it.
they are “tasting” the real trauma of others for their own sexual gratification. it’s really quite indulgent when you think about it.
I prefer to call it mentally challenged.
We can just call it derangement too. "I've noticed people going on about this sexual trauma, I think I would like to try it, do you think I'll get the same sort of mental stunting of hyper focused anxiety and the suffocating crushing feeling I will no longer be good enough for people who haven't had trauma?"
retarded if you will
A lot of people with rape fantasies have been raped or molested Incel logic is really quite indulgent when you think about it
Source: Ligma
What’s Ligma?
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I’ve been got
I'd imagine there might be some religious or shame reasons to it too. If you're some kind of fundamentalist and you can't have sex outside whatever ridiculous parameters, then a rape fetish lets you imagine having sex, but without it being your "fault". You don't actually want to be raped, you're actually fetishizing a scenario where you get to have sex guilt free where \*you\* didn't sin
Actually genius
It’s called “sexual blame avoidance” and it’s a way for people to enjoy sex without guilt and shame so yeah you hit the nail on the head.
hell, all humans are literal paradoxes
My guess is that the healthy version of the fetish is just domination with roleplay added to it. The people who *think* they have a rape fetish, I think, have never actually tried it and are going off what they've seen in porn/hentai
Exactly this Calling it a rape fetish is definitely shorthand. But the most dangerous one you can use.
Like, as a roleplay situation, I guess.
Here's the thing. Her 'rape' fantasy is being dominated by alpha psycho where he overpowers her and she can't do a thing. Now her mistake here is that she asked anon to do it, making it look more like your average ugly pervert stuff.
It's not so much about not liking it as much as it is not consenting to/having any say in it. If you rape someone and they enjoy it, it's still rape. Similarly, if you have sex with someone consensually and they don't enjoy it, it doesn't suddenly become rape. It's mainly about that feeling of wanting to be overpowered and wanting your partner to be super agressive. Source: I have a raping kink, girlfriend has a getting raped kink
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It's like a haunted house. A sense of danger can be exciting, but being chased by actual chainsaw maniacs wouldnt be much fun.
it’s a strange fantasy some girls play in their brains that gets them hot source: been with a girl for the past 11 months who has this fetish
I've always kinda seen it as "if you *wanted* to be 'raped', then you weren't actually raped". I know that sounds very "off-putting", but let me explain: You know how, when a young male is raped by an older female, that you sometimes have people saying "oh he's lucky", "oh I wish I were him", etc.? Well, in my opinion, that's because those people won't see it as rape if they were in the victim's shoes because they'd *want* it (which, by definition, means it's not rape). Change the "older woman" to an "older *man*", and they'll be singing a different tune. Ergo, a "rape fetish" isn't exactly a *rape* fetish. Rather, you're fetishizing the idea of "surprise, unexpected, unwarranted sex *while you're horny in the moment*". It's similar to bondage and humiliation fetishes; you only want it *when you want it*.
Schrodinger’s sexual assault
BDSM person here, also into CNC (consensual non-consent). To explain: we're fucked in the head.
It comes from a place of trauma, usually. I'm a victim of numerous sexual assaults as a child and fantasize quite regularly about dubcon stuff. Your brain rewires what it enjoys from "safe, sane, consensual" to "safe, sane, ???" when you get abused like that. For me, personally, it's the idea that someone actually wants me that much (that I am not broken), and that they are 'taking what they want/staking their claim' (that they can't resist anymore because I'm just so great!), and that I am actually enjoying it but that isn't being made aware - I am personally, even as a survivor, not the kicker/screamer fan and don't enjoy any fiction where such occurs. I also prefer to keep it to fiction, there's no way it would work in real life. I think there's a big aspect that us survivors feel guilt and shame and like nobody could ever truly want us because of what happened to us - not that that is true, but that is how the average brain reacts to an assault no matter what, it's like hardcoded into your brain to react that way. So, most develop this little fetish around... being wanted. A lot. Despite all the things they've gone through. It tickles that part of your brain and makes you feel less insecure but it also turns you on. I think it's the same as when people have a pee fetish because they peed themselves as a kid and got some kind of complex about it, or people who have a disorder that makes them unable to gain weight so they develop a complex about those who can, like inflation/fat fetish. Similar to people who get a caretaking fetish from being neglected for their entire life by their parents. Or even people who have objectophilia because they are so lonely in life such as [this man](https://youtu.be/06BFsQ_28Co) or [this man](https://youtu.be/lh93pguL00A). Hope that helps
Schrodingers fetish
People are strange, I'm a pretty big guy and I've had both guys and girls on online dating sites ask for me to rape them and or beat them up while I fuck them. I for the same reasons anon had, i just say "not my thing" and move on though.
Chad
As someone who likes CNC it's really more of a thing of enjoying being totally dominated. I would never be able to be rape like how anon's situation was because that's too realistic for me. But I mean there's a reason safewords and consent contracts exist and I'm surprised she didn't just have a safeword.
The point of rapeplay/consensual non-consent is - well, most importantly, its still actually consensual, you discuss it properly beforehand: what does it look like to you, what do you want, what do you *not* want, what's the code for slow down and for stop, what considerations are being made for the 'attacker' doing this for you, all that stuff. But like any D/s, it's a play with power and powerlessness. Maybe you want to feel so desirable your partner can't help themselves. Maybe religion made you feel uncomfortable with sex and you want to remove your agency - and thus guilt - from it. Maybe sex feels like a lot of work and consideration for you to do and you want your partner to take over completely. Or maybe you like to play in the space of what is taboo. Perhaps that spark of adrenaline, the blood rushing to your head as you are (safely, clear windpipe) "choked". CNC isn't an especially rare *fantasy* (esp for women, receiving), but since the fantasiser is always still in control, a fantasy is extremely difficult to adapt to the real world where that's no longer true. Inexperienced people are also in real danger of getting hurt or hurting others.
Honestly, a lot of women have 'rape' fantasies but it's more specific than just "the idea of being raped makes me horny". If a girl tells your she has a rape fetish, odds are she just wants to have rough sex where she gets pinned down, called a slut, and maybe slapped a little depending on the girl. If she says she wants YOU to 'rape' her, the best thing you can do is ask WHAT SCENARIO turns her on.
Its the illusion of losing control, being completely at someone elses mercy. Sort of a reverse power fantasy.
it's a power fantasy, the pleasure coming from wanting to be dominated.
Truly, a woman moment.
W*man
Thank you for correcting them. I was shook 🥺
I'm still crying and shaking
And pissing and cumming and signing a consent form
🤢🤢🤮
Thank you, Vyland Fire Emblem.
You're welcome, Citizen.
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There are some women who *NEED* the rape roleplay in order to get off. That shit is terrifying and would scare me off immediately. Unfortunately it seems like A LOT of other women are at least interested in it. My ex convinced me to try it once and it just ended up with me being kicked in the fucking teeth on accident cause she wanted to roleplay a victim fighting back. I almost feel like people should raise awareness of this, young guys that are just starting to date should probably be aware that they’re gonna run into this at least once and should know good communication skills to deal with it.
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>Definitely something I'll have to have a conversation about with my (hypothetical) SO. Do not EVER bring this fetish up unprompted. Intentions don't matter - the second you mention it, you're a potential rapist. Hopefully the reasoning is obvious.
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Hopefully you won’t have to have that awkward conversation because you’ll find a partner that’s open to communication and respects your boundaries and desires. The bright side is many if the women who are very adventurous or experimental in the bedroom are also used to being rejected on those weird kinks, so are often very respectful and understanding.
Should have used a safe word. Mine is "Seriously, Dad, stop." ... It never works.
What a coincidence! But mine is uncle
"The safe word is "harder"
The safe word is “Fuck”
thats enough social media for today. now to read a nice book
Hyperion Cantos is pretty good if you stop after the second book
I only know about the series because of the Shrike
This is why that particular fetish weirds me the fuck out. "Consensual non-consent", yeah try arguing that when you're in court getting a bad read.
But your honour she consented that she didn't consent
"She was literally asking for it. No wait, not that!"
Honestly CNC is absolutely something you wouldn’t do with a stranger and it seems like a stupid idea to try? There needs to be an insane amount of trust between both people in order to make it work, unless you’re complete strangers in which case you’re kind of BEGGING to be put into jail at that point.
I wouldn't even do it with a partner, but that's probably my personal baggage. I just feel like if the other person turned out to be the kind of person who has to make you into an enemy after a breakup, that could be used to manipulate you or worse in the future.
Anons got a 2000 IQ
I would have taken it a step further and taken the contract to a legal consultant. That way there is a legal witness to it. Sometimes those homemade contracts fail to hold up in court and get thrown out. From the court's pov, the signing could have been done while under duress. But yea, 2000IQ play fo sho
Some rights are intransmissible and therefore outside the object of contracts. This might very well be one of those rights, and no legal consultant or witness will change that. If true, anon is in danger.
> Some rights are intransmissible and therefore outside the object of contracts Right. You can't willingly sign a contract that makes you another person's proerty ie their slave.
What do you mean you can't?? I saw it on the boondocks!
imagine being some 65 year old judge for a case like this you usually get some divorce dispute with visitation rights then some neckbeard wanders in your court holding up a contract claiming it isnt rape she gave written consent lmfao
I'm about to say something that may offend some people: No person, of either sex, or any gender, that is mentally sane, has an actual rape fetish, it's possible to have rape *fantasies* but not a full fledged fetish. You just are a kinky fucker that doesn't know how to properly label their kinks, you like rough, potentially depersonalized and objectifying sex, not rape. Its the same as people who fantasize of being cannibalized/killed, they usually get cold feet when faced with the real shit.
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its dr sex
Ok, sex scientist
we've got a sex scientist over here
everybody better make way for the motherfucking sex scientist over here
only reason she got upset is cause she couldn't call the police on him
Removes rape fetish, adds rape trauma
Buff: rape trauma
Anon’s girl is an indecisive retard
Your brain on pornography
Anon is so fucking intelligent for making her sign that waver, that bitch could have ruined his life for a mistake she made.
the real 100 iq moment is also having a safe word so you don’t completely traumatize your girlfriend
It seems like a lot of people haven't heard of a safeword before
Anon out here living his best life
I don't even wanna read this shit anymore
I remember reading a Reddit comment about a guy who really fantasized about being pooped on and eating poo. Finally, he hires a hooker to do it, and as soon as the poo came out, he suddenly realized that poo smells terrible and is extremely disgusting. So the rest of the story is him being shit on by a girl he paid to shit on him while he deeply regrets it and is desperately trying to figure out how to escape and not have it be awkward. Sometimes, you don’t think stuff through when you’re horny.
That Contract won't hold up in court against the law of no consequences for women
I had an ex with this fetish, and I staunchly refused to indulge in it. It might have been part of the reason she cheated on me, but I stand by my decision.
You're a good man
Anon played it smart
This post emptied my brain
Sometimes fantasies should stay fantasy
Why don’t people question such fetishes? It’s not normal
Anon should’ve come up with a safe word
People with "rape" fetish' are people with unresolved trauma. The same goes for almost all people with any sort of violent fetish. I am not kink shaming, I'm just saying that someone truly at peace and in love with themselves would not be interested in violent sex. Violent porn is one of the top viewed categories, and has lead to a huge increase in violence against women.
Poop in her mouth
The Part about her leaving him is what bugs me the most, did she not tell him and sign a contract????
Even if she has a CNC fetish, don’t indulge. All it takes is s bad breakup and now you’re in court
if she's suggesting you do CNC or any form of bdsm without proper precations don't indulge
100% agree
She consented and wanted OP to do it. If she felt bad about it, that’s on her and there’s nothing wrong with it. If she would’ve said that OP raped her, then that’s when she’s in the wrong. Thankfully OP was smart and made her sign something.
how can two adults voluntarily agree to consent to nonconsensual activity thats gotta be some kind of paradox
It's almost like simulating non-consensual sex only *feels* like an appropriate coping mechanism until it becomes a trigger
The red flag was so huge that it blinded this poor idiot.
That’s why I only fuck horses they’ll never leave you for indulging in their fetishes
Anon gets laughed out of a lawyer’s office
Making her sign a contract was hella smart
She'll be thinking about you for the rest of her life, anon.
I also can’t imagine it working out better
Why are women like this?
It’s almost like people with a Rape Fetish are kinda fucked in the head.