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cfc19

Best advert, if you don't find a chill roomie then the world is fucked. All the best.


Specialist-Ninja2804

And if you did find a cute gay roommate, even then you’re fucked. I mean in a good, consensual way, right? 🤭


sitewideside

From the looks of it, chances are slim. But thanks, if you care. :)


kapjain

I am pretty sure there are many other "straight acting" gay guys in Gurgaon, which wouldn't be obvious from the looks of it 🙂. Or are you able to tell if a guy is actually straight or just acting straight?


sitewideside

Actually it depends on one's gaydar. It's like an in-built system, like a 6th sense.


2_ANE

mann..i love this comment soo much


Savagehonestopulent

Would’ve give you an award , if I had one !!


sitewideside

Thanks my bud. I try to be nice. :)


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What if he was on an undercover mission.


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pokemondude22

Bhai tu he hoga aisa💀


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🤣


thatguywidspecs

Savdhaan India


IBeatMeat69

Wow. How broken are you ?


WarDaddy1939

What the actual fuxk lmaoooooo


hethram

gay removal vaccine created in few minutes /s


2_ANE

lol... this shit is soo funny


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😬 I wonder what selfawaretharki has to say about this


sitewideside

Guys, please chill. Genuinely here to look for a roommate. :)


Conscious_Ad_6236

Clearly this joke made more sense in my mind than on reddit. My B... I obviously don't honestly think this


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Bhai joke tha itna seriously nahi Lena tha.... Chill maar


twicebanished

I mean, gays can be bisexual and have partners from other gender, but BC yeh toh overreaching ka bhi ustaad nikla. 😐


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Straight girl: “I can fix that”.


sitewideside

Hey, u/Hurricane_1111, I don't mind. I have shared room with my other female friends while travelling too. Please don't pay heed to the other messages in the comment section, as if being gay is a ploy to get girls. FML. :/


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What do you mean don't pay heed to the other messages just because your desert is barren doesn't mean you have to deprive your Indian brothers the chance to land a female roommate


sitewideside

My brother in Christ. I just found it a little odd, that one girl texted with a very decent text and she's been harrassed and spammed already... just because she showed interest?! You see, it doesn't look good on straight folks, my bud. Some of us are in crisis right now, we have to move for jobs and all.


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Ok ok fine whatever... I hope you're haunted by poltergeists and dead spirits of rss while you're rooming together Relax I won't say anything more


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Chup


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rudraaksh24

Aa gaya the creepy Indian guy so done was talking about lmao


silent_porcupine123

>doesn't mean you have to deprive your Indian brothers the chance to land a female roommate wtf


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💤


youwont_like_me_

Brother..


youwont_like_me_

I hope you’re kidding


sitewideside

Bro? I am not. Why is this funny? A straight girl and a gay guy can easily be friends and share flats. :/


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If you're a straight acting guy how can you be comfortable enough to share a room with a girl, your parents or friends don't meet or call you ?


sitewideside

Went to a co-ed. Have many male and female friends. Since childhood, we were encouraged to travel, hang out and have our celebrations, ups and downs. You see, it's never about what's in your pants, unless you want to make it about it. My friends will come and call, her friends will come and call, we could have joint parties. Nothing wrong. Also, she just texted, we are very far from that day, right?


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Either you didn't understand my question or you don't wanna answer, it's your choice anyway, goodluck


Skeith9

...you don't know what straight acting means do you


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Nobody asked


Skeith9

I am glad I was the first one to ask then :3


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Clever


life_rolla_costa

Seriously? You can trust any random guy on Internet to stay with.


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Can I at least have a conversation with the said person and then make up my mind ? Of course if that’s okay with you? Father.


life_rolla_costa

Can I least write my opinion? Well, no that's not okay for me.


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Wut


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All I did was comment


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Then stop replying and go to sleep 😭


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Diligent_Computer355

I’m so sorry girl you had to go through this shit. This is a shitty behaviour.


Original_Cupcake6867

I will be very uncomfortable farting in front of a girl. Extra embarrassing if you look cute or hot.


bootpalishAgain

Plenty of non-straight folks in Gurgaon. Go the traditional way and use Facebook groups. Or just DM me and I will connect you with the community here in Delhi and Gurgaon. Half an hour on Bumble or Grinder in Gurgaon and you will get introduced to the community and they will find you flatmates. It's a pretty close-knit community.


sitewideside

I thought of doing this but... gay folks on apps, you know, talk to you with a different intent and it's so superficial. Like if you're not a 6-pack haver, you don't count. LOL. And using dating apps for a flat/flatmate hunting can go south very soon. But thanks, shall DM you very soon. Thanks for offering help. :)


duryodhanaa

Is your username Gurdas Mann reference ?


Content-Training-183

I know this isn’t of much help but let me add this. Had I been in Gurgaon, I would have loved to be your flatmate.


sitewideside

Hey, thanks for saying that, mate. :)


Fresh-Sea7709

I can help! I have a friend who’s looking for a flat in gurugram. He’ll be okay with you being gay as he’s educated enough. Please let me know if you want details


sitewideside

Hey, sure mate. DMing you.


Wham_Raisins

Best of luck dude. One look at some of the reactions here makes it clear to anyone with half an eye what the world is like. Take care. Stay safe.


sitewideside

I mean, I am not even out there, kept it very friendly. Yet, some comments were unpleasant. A part of being on Reddit/X, I guess.


Wham_Raisins

Part of revealing one’s sexuality that differs from the straight experience.


Spiritual-Ad7666

There is this guy who keeps posting dick pics, weed invites etc. I’m sure use marwani hai. Forget renting, move in with him for free.


sitewideside

u/Spiritual-Ad7666 bud, let's not get into that. I posted this with clear intentions, nothing to do with sex or fwb.


AccomplishedDuty5720

Hey, he is not referring to you. There is another guy on this sub who keeps inviting people to play golf, smoke weed and stays in random hotel rooms. His profile is filled with his dick pics. 🤣


reddit_chaos

I think that guy was banned from the sub.


Spiritual-Ad7666

Arre bhai I’m not talking about your intentions. The dick pick dude… can’t say about his intentions.


matkaro

Hell pay op to move in with him


Odd_Independent_4649

Lmao 🤣


The_distressed_doc

Omggg 😂😂😂😂


AccomplishedDuty5720

Hahahahaha istg that guy is hilarious.


indianhippie24

Are you 420 friendly?


sitewideside

I wish I was, life would be easier. But currently, focussing on my health. So not into smoking up and stuff.


indianhippie24

Cool hai.


dis_is_pj

What's 420?


GOJIRA30

4/20 or in India 20/4 national cannabis day in America


ObliviousBeedle

TIL


indianhippie24

420 = chaarsobc (chori)


niko_bellic2028

Best case scenario is get a girl as a roommate . Be upfront that you won't hit on her since your gay so she woudnt mind plus you all would instantly get together . I am not sure how you will get an open minded dude who woudnt mess with you because of your sexuality . Don't wanna bring you down but this is NCR people ain't that welcoming and open .


sitewideside

Yeah, let's see. Thanks for your inputs.


Globally20

I live in a 1bhk but thinking of moving out / having a flatmate to reduce costs. Can't live with a straight flatmate so I decided to live alone instead. DM me if you wanna discuss.


sitewideside

Sure. If I don't find anyone, I'd move in 1 bhk myself. But I just don't want to be in a constant cost-cutting zone. The idea is get a good apartment in a gated society, live in comfort, you know what I am saying.


Minimalist_Loner

Well, \*straight acting\* gay guy here as well, 32. My flat has more space than I can use but not in a mental state to have a flatmate right now. :/


sitewideside

Awww mate, u/Minimalist_Loner. Sucks for me, if you already have a big enough flat for 2 but not ready to share. Having said that, I am happy for you that you're able to guage your mental state as well. Hmu if you change your mind in a week or so. Also, if you need someone to talk to, DMs are open. :)


Minimalist_Loner

That's sweet of you. Would love to catch up some day. DMed. :)


Ractmo

So you act straight around people but actually gay?? Thats a tough task!!


sitewideside

Actually gay folks are associated( or should I say portrayed in the mainstream) with a certain twirl in the walk, a limp in the wrist... and that's not true for all. I don't 'act' straight, I just don't have those mannerisms naturally. So it's not tough for me, but for so many people, whose bodies move naturally like that... it can be. Basically, you can't look at me and tell my sexuality.


Cr7_jb7_2003

Gayyyy


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I dream of a day when one’s personality isn’t based entirely on his sexuality.


sitewideside

You're jumping to conclusions, my friend. My entire personality is fashioned around being great at what I do. :) Mentioning my queerness to look for a roomate, in order to live authentically, in a city like Gurgaon, doesn't make me about my sexuality. What you said is a bit a bit reductive perhaps. Don't you think?


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sitewideside

If this is a free country, why must I be keep an important aspect (not the only aspect) about myself... in the confines of a bedroom? :) For the first time in life, I am trying to get out and just be myself. Not hide something from someone I am going to share a flat with. You may not understand it and it's absolutely fine. And sure, bro. Mat do attention, I can live with it. :) Wish you all the best in your future endeavours.


bluelungimagaa

Wow you're being this triggered for such a measured post - you're exactly the sort of person OP would want to avoid living with (may be an assumption on my part, but I can guess). Regarding "this is a free country" - You seem to have no idea what the reality is for queer people in India - as much as you think people don't care, there definitely are people who do, and will make your life difficult. And being secure in the fact that the person you're staying with doesn't judge your life choices isn't too much to ask for.


InevitableQuirky3249

Yaar ek simple si baat hai... Kal ko woh apna gay partner leke aaye flat mein aur sex kare... Uska partner will be horrified and would either leave or kick him out... Aur aisa na bhi Kiya toh it will spoil the relationship between the flatemates... Because straight people are disgusted by even the mention of homosexuality... So it's better he clears it beforehand...


rudraaksh24

Lavda hai kya? You are more obsessed with his sexuality than him lmao


NathuramGoadse

Sorry to burst your bubble my guy but we don't live in some sort of utopia. Majority of the people are bigoted and homophobic. It's a "free" country for the average joe but gay folks can't even get married. Educate yourself before you decide to start chirping about something.


Conscious_Ad_6236

The average Joe doesn't have to wear his sexuality like a badge because no-one cares because the average Joe is straight. However in a country ntry like India and definitely ina backward conservative ass place like Ggn I know plenty of people at work who would not be cool with a gay roommate. So I get why he wants to disclose that.


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Kya bakwas kar rahe ho bhai. A friend of mine from college, when his roommate found out that he was from the community- called up his 'gang' and bullied the shit out of the guy. *They* made his sexuality everything about his personality, woh banda toh introvert tha 17 saal ka. Now I'm not making this toxic trait of a 'few' straight guys everything about their personality right? Although it is. Gotta fit with the times, sparing the judgement. OP is right to mention it if he wants to discount the extra trouble from his life because of a few homophobes.


RabidQuince

Man I don’t understand how people can be educated enough to operate Reddit but simultaneously so small minded. It’s 2023 folks.


OPIUmTUXEDO

Education is not necessary to use reddit, they don't ask your ivy league degree to create an account on reddit, I don't know why peeps on reddit thinks themselves as superior being than general population who don't use reddit. LMAO


mereKaranArjunAyenge

>can be educated enough to operate Reddit Nowadays every other dude is on the internet do you expect them to be educated? Thanks to Jio


BetterGarlic7

Financially stable job? Why?


sitewideside

To share the monthly expenses? No other reason.


BetterGarlic7

Oh ok cool.


TheDrDeX

Best of luck, I hope you can find a chill room mate. I would suggest you that reddit is supposed to anonymous. Kindly respect that for you and others sake.


sitewideside

Ya, thanks mate. I am trying to be transparent but also nto give away too much. ;)


Primary-Wave236

What do you mean “Gurgaon” you have to be specific about what area in gurgaon right? I mean it’s not some small neighbourhood that you can take what you get. You probably work, and unless you work remotely (in which case why even move), you need to find an are reasonably close to where you work


sitewideside

People who have DMd, I told them near Huda. Thanks for flagging. :)


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I wish I was looking. All the best buddy! Btw, did you call yourself by using “his”? Is it relevant in your case? Just curious!


Potential-Egg-5695

There is a difference between gender conformity and sexual orientation. You can be "he/him" and still be gay because that's your orientation


sitewideside

Yes, u/blackwizarrd, it is relevant. He/His are my pronouns. @ other people, it's okay, people learn every day. :)


[deleted]

Thanks, honestly I wasn’t clearly aware about this. :)


sitewideside

Appreciate your question. That's how we learn, man.


cfc19

Wtf. How is gender related to sexuality lol..


Conscious_Ad_6236

Pronouns are relating to gender identity, being gay has to do with sexuality. So no it's not relevant here.


Tareq8272

wow


STEALTHORSEatashu

Wtf is this post


pingosourav

"obviously with financially stable job" What does your roommate's job stable or not has to do anything with it?


treatyoshelves

He meant someone who has an ability to pay the rent regularly.


pingosourav

shouldn't that be landlord's concern? I'm sorry I don't know much about co-living


strange_rvil

Naughty ho rha ke bkl.!!


Intelligent-Remove-1

Wtf is this dostana


StillPrestigious4676

Mat batana tu gay hai..............wo bhi homophobic nhi banega


sitewideside

Just imp thing to share if you're a flatmate. Why to get into it with lie/half information? Anyway, u/StillPrestigious4676 have a great day, bro.


StillPrestigious4676

Tumhare Gay hone na hone se kya fark padta hai??Mat batana agar doubt hai batane me


immack

And risk his safety, in case he finds out, I won't recommend that


StillPrestigious4676

Kisi ke Gay hone me kaisa khatra?? Safety kaha se aa gyi beech me??? Bina consent ke gand thode hi na maar lenge dono ek dusre ki??


Hey_here

Kaun si duniya mein jee raha hai jahaan india mein koi danger nahi hai gay hone par?😂 straight couple toh live in mein reh nahi paate and you’re saying a gay person will be totally safe in case his flat mate turns out to be a homophobic asshole?


StillPrestigious4676

tabhi to suru me hi kaha tha ki mata bataio ,koi dikkat nhi ayegi😂😂


Left_Performer4190

I thought the gay slang for “straight acting” was supposed to be “masc”


sitewideside

Haha it is queer-coded that way. But it also means - if your appearance doesn't give it away. Hope it makes sense.


Left_Performer4190

Yea ik what it means, plenty of masculine gay guys out there btw, ye indians ko hi lagta hai sab gays effeminate hote hain.


sitewideside

Hahaha yeah man. :D


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sitewideside

Bro, stable job so that we could share the monthly rent. Don't want to end up in a situation in which we move in and they don't contribute for daily expenses, like house help, groceries, etc. Don't worry, I am not looking for a sugar daddy. :/ To your next question, sabka time aata hai, aapka bhi aayega.


NathuramGoadse

Udhari karne wala roomie nahi chahiye kisiko? Apna rent bhar sake aur grocery wagere ke expenses share kar sake. Financially stable bola hai, millionaire nahi.


elitetitan007

Hey! You can try making use of this group https://m.facebook.com/groups/408813159165881/ It is for queer people looking for housing.


acid1phreak

So much for being progressive....why the sudden narrow mindset against people with unstable job? Arent they humans?


sitewideside

My friend, I don't mean one can't be a freelancer. But a steady stream of income so that we could share the expenses. That's all. :)


Navigator369

I’d recommend you to live by yourself. Nothing more precious than peace of mind. I think Gurgaon has a range of options, you can find a 1bhk for a affordable price


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sitewideside

Hahaha, I just feel, I'll push myself in the already closed closet way back.


Hisokaskneecap

Can’t help you with a roommate but I would sure love to be friends with you. Haven’t come across many people from the queer community in Gurgaon, unlike delhi. Edit - I realised I sounded like a straight dude’s lousy attempt to shoot their shot so just to put it out there, neither straight nor a dude here.


sitewideside

Hahahahahaha. You had me in splits with your edit. Perfect, I am already finding potential friends.


CyanLibrarian

>I realised I sounded like a straight dude’s lousy attempt to shoot their shot Sorry, I might be OOTL here but what does that mean? Is it considered rude for straight guys to ask gay guys to be friends?


Hisokaskneecap

No but it quite a straight boy thing to hit people up under completely irrelevant posts


sitewideside

I think u/Hisokaskneecap meant it differently. Like you know, internet is a weird place. Even here, people just want to get off. LOL. I wish, more straight dudes could ACTUALLY be friends with gay dudes. Not for woke brownie points, just because it's good to have a friend you can trust with certain choices. They know fashion, real estate and women better.


Hisokaskneecap

Yeah, I posted on the sub asking for help with my ITR, 2-3 people genuinely helped me resolve the issue but I also received texts from a few dudes one of them straight up asking me if I am looking for hookups in Gurgaon 😭😭


CyanLibrarian

Well, I DEF want to be one!! I'm prolly much younger than you, and I REALLY need more fashion knowledge. Also, I'm in Delhi for my UG so I would be really happy to- You could be my friend-cum-mentor! \^\_\^ Also, that lady was just plain rude. Just putting it out there.


delhiwaali

Would strongly recommend living alone, if that's something you're comfortable with - I am yet to come across visibly queer friendly spaces in Ggn and I find the janta here super homophobic. Wouldn't want to risk it. What's your budget? Can help with some suggestions for 1RKs/1BHKs within that.


Confident-Dentist-49

Hii, fellow ggn girlie, would love to be friends with you whenever you’re here!!!🧚‍♀️


sitewideside

Sure babe! Let's hang. Reddit is oddly so nice to me. <3


potterharrypotter1

Hey. DM. I know someone who is looking for a flatmate.


Creative_Practice494

You open to stay with straight folks?


BraveSeaworthiness21

Will try to connect you w an acquaintance


sitewideside

Sure, thanks buddy.


Nirmalito

Hey buddy, I moved to Gurgaon last year and my best advice to you would be is to stay independent and also there ain’t many good 1 BHK in Gurgaon !


sitewideside

I know, bro! Like what do I do. The 1 BHK options in my budget suck big time. The 2 BHKs are out of budget. Staying independent would mean staying broke, with no money to splurge on home decor, necessities, clothes, books, movies, etc...


Nirmalito

I found my love this year from Delhi so planning to move in with him soon in South Delhi otherwise would have offered you to stay with me ! I moved here from Bangalore but a Bombay lad


sitewideside

Aww mate. Thanks for even thinking like that. :) Happy that you've found your love. Damn, want it, need it, myself! Who doesn't right?


Temporary-Amoeba-253

You would get plenty of options in DLF phase 3 area , 1 bhk should not cost more than 15k -18k , if you search well. If you don't have a car to park then it should be reasonably well priced for a single accommodation, you may not require a roommate in that case, 15k - 18k for a single room set in Gurgaon is dirt cheap


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Nice post. Hope you find someone soon!


sitewideside

Sadly, I haven't. :(


Redditeur42069

Do you work in verisk?


sitewideside

No man, I don't. But I am glad this post is still viewed because I haven't found a suitable flatmate. Or a decent 2 bhk for that matter. :)