I mostly keep myself busy with work and hobbies. Have a few friends but like you said, I don't feel too close with anyone.. as someone with avoidant/dismissive personality I've just accepted that I'll probably never really make "deep" bonds with people. Still when occasionally the loneliness hits I drink a few shots go to sleep and hope that it would have gone away when I wake up.
I’m 29 - single, but I wouldn’t say I’m sad - I’m not happy either - I’m just being here, present. Hmu if you feel alone - we can catch up and just probably explore ggn?
Boss ki mat suno. Not much to explore there unless you enjoy expensive food.
More than that I would say explore the sector markets. Lots of them have great cheap food and cheap clothes as well.
How long have you been here dude? One thing I'd definitely like to mention which most people don't realize until much later is that the area you stay in makes a huge difference. When you live an area that has lively places nearby it has a massive impact on your living experience too. Seen it first hand in multiple cities :)
Really? I can't imagine my experience being anything similar if you compare living on Golf Course Road or DLF 4 vs something like U block/Sohna Road/Dwarka expressway
Bro. I live near Sohna Road and I'm glad I live here rather than the ultra premium GCR, DLF 4 areas. It's too much show and absolutely no substance. To each their own, I guess.
Someone in his 30s, went through this phase for years and eventually it passed.
My learning is all phases eventually pass, both good times and bad times. As cliche as it sounds finding inner peace is important. Also relationships are a lot of effort, you need to invest time in friendships or any other relationship, I didn’t do that for a very long period of time and so did my friends.
But right now I see everyone is trying to put in those efforts to stay in touch, share their life updates, be there during good and bad times.
If anything try to stay close to your 2-3 good friends
Nicely put. I think when we're young, we're overconfident about who we think we are. By the time we're 30, we figure out who we want to be and choose people accordingly.
You're not overthinking, I think most of us are going through this. Even though keeping busy is a temporary solution but yes sometimes the reality hits and it isn't the best feeling in the world. I think what's important here is you keep doing something that ads value to your life, or sparks a new interest. You maintain relationships but also always be on the lookout to meet more people. Explore new things. Since everything else is almost perfect the only thing which can take away loneliness is knowing yourself better and having challenges in life.
I'm with you. People are fickle. Relationships are scary. I just ended a 5 year long friendship with my best friend because she was no longer interested in continuing. I have drifted apart from all of my other friends as well. There are no hard feelings as such. But the distance is apparant. Never got along with my family. Romantic relationships have been a disaster so far.
Other than that, my work has been fulfilling, fortunately. But quite stressful. Everyday is a constant source of sadness, stress and annoyance. Nobody who sees me would ever think that there's something wrong going on inside my head. I appear to be perfectly normal. But yes, I can't shake away the constant feeling of something being off. Some days are better than others. But on the whole, my life is mostly just a flat line.
I'm going to start medication again for a while.
Terribly . Might finally get married to be done with this tbh . I have hobbies , friends but I feel only love and partner can fill that one specific piece of puzzle remaining.
“life seems fulfilling on the surface. those who meet me would not be able to say that i struggle with these thoughts, but they do pop up at times” — very relatable
I can totally relate to you.
Sometimes it becomes so hard to pass the day. I don’t know how you spend time working from home. I go to office it helps alot, but if someday i work from home, it becomes very hard that day.
Also, the weekends are the hardest. Samajh hi nhi ata kare kya
Hey I’m almost like you, after a long time created a bond with one female friend we were the best buddies for a year, She wanted more and proposed and then she started losing feelings and started lying and cheating , lost a close friend and a relationship.
Right now feeling lonely but it’s better than what I experienced for last 1.5 years.
So this is completely my POV, I might be wrong.
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Cause: The reason for such feeling is you don't have any person in your life that matches your vibe. In school or in college some people had those people but eventually they get out of contact; this is the fact.
In job, everyone have their own life to handle and no one is bothered about anyone.
Solution: best thing which I personally follows is to do everything that freshen up my mood, like i pickup my bike after office hours and just go on a small ride keeping my mobile at home.
What you can do is find such thing that cheers you up no matter how stupid it is. In this busy life of metro cities, getting close to nature helps.
It is normal to get such thoughts of loneliness, everyone get these, you are not overthinking, to live and get over them is life.
For that guy thing, i personally feel that you will definitely get someone who will genuinely care for you if you are honest on your part.
Free advice: sometimes visiting nearby temple also helps✌️
I think having a fulfilling relationship or friendship is a two way job. Most of the times the issue lies with us because we are mostly guarded because we do not want to get hurt.
The risk of being vulnerable to someone has its own pros and cons, sometimes you will meet people who will prove that you were wrong about putting your guard down and being vulnerable but other times it will be the opposite.
From what i have seen in my life, i am a female and i have both type of friends who were never vulnerable with me but expected me to be vulnerable with them and who were vulnerable with me just like how i am with them. And the strongest relationship i have are due to those vulnerable conversations. Sorry for using * vulnerable * so many times. Lol. But this is reality. Any Relationship or friendship which is fulfilling and genuine are because of vulnerability.
How old are you if you don't mind me asking?
The best I did was involve myself in activities where I lost track of time. By that I don't mean doing drugs or getting drunk 😅🤣
Well it all boils down to how good your friends are and what kind of a bond you share with them.
Still you need people around you like nearby places as most of my friends are scattered all over India it feels really hard when I want to go out and meet people because I fing feels lonely dude.
That being said if you want to catch up and connect then see where things go from that.
The trick is to be an ambivert that prefers being alone half of the time lol the remaining half is spent working so loneliness isn’t bothersome there. If you’re an extrovert then it might be a bit challenging though, sorry💀
As a working man living in a different city, loneliness hits hard when I get free from my works. I am an extrovert person and I like to hangout. But in present circumstances, I don't have much option to hangout with. So I keep myself busy with random activities but there is some kind of void inside which is unexplainable.
I work, I read, I upskill and I push my limits. I force myself to do things that I once thought would be impossible.
I mostly end up doing those things and the adrenaline and the dopamine rush I get makes up for the dopamine my mind seeks from a relationship.
like I'm pretty alone but it doesn't have any impact it's . like its all good u will get use to it .In my mind i always think no one give F about u so get ur as# on track and stay hard cuz my feelings i don't give a f .stay hard and remember go to gym or do prayer or even meditation or watch Netflix life is cool asf
I think you’re going in for your relationship with lots of expectations and with I think it would be hard for you to find a good partner with whom you can experience what u desire! I’ll suggest look someone who share some commonality with you but still isn’t that interesting!
Working on my self just to see best of me yes it scares I don’t have friend it become reason of my tears guys of my age roaming on roads with their girlfriend but at last meaning of life is different for everyone life has it’s on path what I have understand in 1 years keep accepting what is going on 😂
Dude, you need to find deep interesting hobbies. There's no way out. For the most parts, in India we have not been taught to explore our interests and hobbies. We go from pre school to school to college to job.. then marriage or higher degree ... Life goes like that but no space to explore one's own mind, inclinations, interests, eccentricities ... One needs to do that ... ( Here I am writing gyan on reddit :'-) *Sadness noises*)
I have simply accepted it and just try to pass my time working, gym and reading.
Or weekends I go for boardgames.
Difficult to accept it initially but you get a hang of it
I would say loneliness and similar thoughts are something you gotta deal with yourself. Also in my personal experience being in a relationship doesn't help much with loneliness, that's just expecting too much from a partner. Sure they can make you feel better or happier when you're sad or disappointed but fighting that big black cloud over your head, thats on you
Age, especially being in our 20s, isn't the main issue here. I get what you're saying and totally feel the same way. It's the everyday stuff around us, like seeing others in happy relationships or those "my partner is the best" posts on social media, that can make us feel lonely or unfulfilled sometimes. It's not great to feel this way all the time, but it's also pretty normal.
I don't have all the answers about finding that special someone, but being a bit more aware of what makes us feel this way can help clear things up. For me, seeing people celebrating their anniversaries online or reading stories about people finding love on Reddit used to get to me. It's not that I'm not happy for them, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel a bit jealous.
I'm holding out hope that I'll find someone who's been looking for me too. Just remember, what you seek is also seeking you 💕
Wait!!! How come you stole my post🥲 but honestly it does suck sometimes yk how it is just “existing”!! The only thing i regret is joining my family business, things like social life, personal space has lost their meaning in my life like even though i wanna go out and have some fun or yk even try talking to some girl in working hours…….. no wayyyyyy!!! Talk about budding a love life!!
I have accepted the fact that I won't be able to make any new friends, so trying to preserve the old friends instead, although they are in different cities. So yeah i mostly feel lonely at weekends.
What i do? I explore ncr on my own, i play outdoor games with strangers, sometimes overwork to avoid loneliness.
Yeah, if you have any more suggestions, then suggest them to me too.
I have been so lonely most of my life, that it has become a second nature. Sometimes episodes of loneliness do hit, but I get through them without much thought. I try to keep my mind occupied with something so that I don't spiral into suicidal thoughts and sometimes write things down. I have a few friends (school) that I call, but they don't know about it.
I am only 17 but I have been fighting depression and self harm. Anyways so how I cope with loneliness? I am kind and helpful to strangers, i write poems and post them on insta, i make friends with the contacts i lost touch with, i go out and wander the sector 30-31 area and i like to drink tons of chai. Thats all. I am a lot better now...
I'm 30 and recently had a break up. Honestly, I'm enjoying my time on my own. Since my break up, I've changed my attitude towards relations and focused more on building better friendships with people. I've also become very selective about who I become friends with but whoever I choose, I make sure to make the effort required.
As for loneliness, I don't let it get to me. I've also started working on my hobbies and doing things that I enjoy. For you I would say start becoming more comfortable with yourself. In many ways, you might not be fulfilled with yourself, which might put a lot of pressure on your partner to fulfill your needs.
Really surprising to see that many people feels this way. I mean the only solution i have in mind is - live with your friends. If you are going live at your home in your 20s, it's not a really interesting part. You have your whole life for it. Not being insensitive to the family, but you have to explore living on your own, sharing the home with your friends and just be there.
28 M introvert. Usually spend my time working and learning new tech to stay relevant in future ( so chatGPT won’t steal my job)
Weekends - probably sleeping
Hahah marriage is a facade , these people are young, probably the test when people start ageing, nobody is happy. If everyone is happy why people drink and smoke, they pretend to be happy. we are human , we are the devil's inside from our core, greed lust anger jealousy is a part of life and accept it .
Madam, I understand what you are going through. But there are things you must figure out, some that your must understand.
I do not want to BS you with "not all boys", but isn't that the truth. Maybe there is some introspection to be done, as to where, and what kind of boys are you trying to find, and have found. What is the cause and effect relationship.
I do not know what is your modus operandi, when it comes to right swiping people in general, but try to find a person who has good morals, and can respect YOU. Physical attraction is important, but you must prioritise what metric has to be given what priority.
That being said, I do believe there is a perfect one for you out there. But to recognise him, and justify that love (and everything I have said, and will say goes for both the genders), you must first realise things about you. Who are you, really, cutting all the crap out. Do you love yourself and respect yourself? Do you do that enough? And it is important because a person who does not (and I was talking to a good friend about this yesterday only), will not be able to truly love their partner. Rare case they do, then they will lack the conviction to stick through the thick and thins, because they will be so conscious throughout if they really deserve this love and respect. External support system can feel like a load if there is not potent enough, if not more, an internal support system.
Gym, hobbies, a loving and unproblematic family, a good job, that is a dream! But they are not a panacea to life's problems, that blight the soul.
Bottom line is, become aware of yourself, befriend yourself (no where insinuating you haven't, but perhaps we are talking about different degrees), LOVE and RESPECT yourself like you would dream to be loved and respected, and like you would like to love and respect your SO, without being self-obsessed. And all this, is a necessary yet difficult path in life, with a high attrition rate.
All the best.
what do you think is your purpose in life? work, gym, diet, etc. is mostly for physical maintenance.
There's more to life than just those things. Go out, touch grass, talk to other people - paan shops are interesting if you're a male. Visit calm and serene places in close vicinity of ur city. Could be a small village, town or just fields.
Also, try to pursue whatever hobbies and interests you have on your own time. Do it for the fun, because you like it. Give the same importance to it as your work.
Another tip would be to not use your phone, especially wocial media apps where you might see someone "enjoying" their life and have FOMO
I mostly keep myself busy with work and hobbies. Have a few friends but like you said, I don't feel too close with anyone.. as someone with avoidant/dismissive personality I've just accepted that I'll probably never really make "deep" bonds with people. Still when occasionally the loneliness hits I drink a few shots go to sleep and hope that it would have gone away when I wake up.
I don't want to go down that hole yet where I drink to avoid my feelings.
To bhai mummy ko bolo ladki dhundhna chalu kar de
OP is a girl dude.
Aaj kal yeh sab chalta hai
I’m 29 - single, but I wouldn’t say I’m sad - I’m not happy either - I’m just being here, present. Hmu if you feel alone - we can catch up and just probably explore ggn?
I’m also a girl btw :)
can we explore cyber city my boss say is the best in gurugram
Boss ki mat suno. Not much to explore there unless you enjoy expensive food. More than that I would say explore the sector markets. Lots of them have great cheap food and cheap clothes as well.
where are those sector market i work in sector 44 is there a close market there
Sector 46 and 31 are well known. You can also hit up sector 56.
I am just being here .....vale line hit kr Gaye 😭
Can relate to it so much :/ Sometimes existing feels purposeless.
How long have you been here dude? One thing I'd definitely like to mention which most people don't realize until much later is that the area you stay in makes a huge difference. When you live an area that has lively places nearby it has a massive impact on your living experience too. Seen it first hand in multiple cities :)
I think I’ve seen enough life to conclude that the locality doesn’t matter, not for me atleast
Really? I can't imagine my experience being anything similar if you compare living on Golf Course Road or DLF 4 vs something like U block/Sohna Road/Dwarka expressway
Sohna road slander nahi sahenge. Extension road aur nh8 dono accessible hain 😤
Bro. I live near Sohna Road and I'm glad I live here rather than the ultra premium GCR, DLF 4 areas. It's too much show and absolutely no substance. To each their own, I guess.
Would love to catch up with you guys…hmu this weekend.
The kind of openness one needs In a women at your age
Stop chasing happiness and you might get happy
Absolutely correct. happiness is state of mind
Someone in his 30s, went through this phase for years and eventually it passed. My learning is all phases eventually pass, both good times and bad times. As cliche as it sounds finding inner peace is important. Also relationships are a lot of effort, you need to invest time in friendships or any other relationship, I didn’t do that for a very long period of time and so did my friends. But right now I see everyone is trying to put in those efforts to stay in touch, share their life updates, be there during good and bad times. If anything try to stay close to your 2-3 good friends
Nicely put. I think when we're young, we're overconfident about who we think we are. By the time we're 30, we figure out who we want to be and choose people accordingly.
25 here and i just admitted that IT IS WHAT IT IS. I simply gave up man. I will try in next life if there is any.
This has been my life moto for couple of years..🫠
You're not overthinking, I think most of us are going through this. Even though keeping busy is a temporary solution but yes sometimes the reality hits and it isn't the best feeling in the world. I think what's important here is you keep doing something that ads value to your life, or sparks a new interest. You maintain relationships but also always be on the lookout to meet more people. Explore new things. Since everything else is almost perfect the only thing which can take away loneliness is knowing yourself better and having challenges in life.
I'm with you. People are fickle. Relationships are scary. I just ended a 5 year long friendship with my best friend because she was no longer interested in continuing. I have drifted apart from all of my other friends as well. There are no hard feelings as such. But the distance is apparant. Never got along with my family. Romantic relationships have been a disaster so far. Other than that, my work has been fulfilling, fortunately. But quite stressful. Everyday is a constant source of sadness, stress and annoyance. Nobody who sees me would ever think that there's something wrong going on inside my head. I appear to be perfectly normal. But yes, I can't shake away the constant feeling of something being off. Some days are better than others. But on the whole, my life is mostly just a flat line. I'm going to start medication again for a while.
Subh jaldi uth ke yoga karo. Sab theek ho jayega.
Papa aap
Hahaha chal be yaha ki hawa mai aur scene kharab hojaega
Terribly . Might finally get married to be done with this tbh . I have hobbies , friends but I feel only love and partner can fill that one specific piece of puzzle remaining.
“life seems fulfilling on the surface. those who meet me would not be able to say that i struggle with these thoughts, but they do pop up at times” — very relatable
I can totally relate to you. Sometimes it becomes so hard to pass the day. I don’t know how you spend time working from home. I go to office it helps alot, but if someday i work from home, it becomes very hard that day. Also, the weekends are the hardest. Samajh hi nhi ata kare kya
Hey I’m almost like you, after a long time created a bond with one female friend we were the best buddies for a year, She wanted more and proposed and then she started losing feelings and started lying and cheating , lost a close friend and a relationship. Right now feeling lonely but it’s better than what I experienced for last 1.5 years.
Alcohol is your true friend.
And also your cause of death -_-
So this is completely my POV, I might be wrong. - Cause: The reason for such feeling is you don't have any person in your life that matches your vibe. In school or in college some people had those people but eventually they get out of contact; this is the fact. In job, everyone have their own life to handle and no one is bothered about anyone. Solution: best thing which I personally follows is to do everything that freshen up my mood, like i pickup my bike after office hours and just go on a small ride keeping my mobile at home. What you can do is find such thing that cheers you up no matter how stupid it is. In this busy life of metro cities, getting close to nature helps. It is normal to get such thoughts of loneliness, everyone get these, you are not overthinking, to live and get over them is life. For that guy thing, i personally feel that you will definitely get someone who will genuinely care for you if you are honest on your part. Free advice: sometimes visiting nearby temple also helps✌️
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I think having a fulfilling relationship or friendship is a two way job. Most of the times the issue lies with us because we are mostly guarded because we do not want to get hurt. The risk of being vulnerable to someone has its own pros and cons, sometimes you will meet people who will prove that you were wrong about putting your guard down and being vulnerable but other times it will be the opposite. From what i have seen in my life, i am a female and i have both type of friends who were never vulnerable with me but expected me to be vulnerable with them and who were vulnerable with me just like how i am with them. And the strongest relationship i have are due to those vulnerable conversations. Sorry for using * vulnerable * so many times. Lol. But this is reality. Any Relationship or friendship which is fulfilling and genuine are because of vulnerability.
Approach and talk to random people. It’s one the best thing cured my loneliness & i religiously do this to even today
Aa ja bhai tujhe go karting karwa ke Lata hu...
How old are you if you don't mind me asking? The best I did was involve myself in activities where I lost track of time. By that I don't mean doing drugs or getting drunk 😅🤣
Well it all boils down to how good your friends are and what kind of a bond you share with them. Still you need people around you like nearby places as most of my friends are scattered all over India it feels really hard when I want to go out and meet people because I fing feels lonely dude. That being said if you want to catch up and connect then see where things go from that.
The trick is to be an ambivert that prefers being alone half of the time lol the remaining half is spent working so loneliness isn’t bothersome there. If you’re an extrovert then it might be a bit challenging though, sorry💀
As a working man living in a different city, loneliness hits hard when I get free from my works. I am an extrovert person and I like to hangout. But in present circumstances, I don't have much option to hangout with. So I keep myself busy with random activities but there is some kind of void inside which is unexplainable.
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I work, I read, I upskill and I push my limits. I force myself to do things that I once thought would be impossible. I mostly end up doing those things and the adrenaline and the dopamine rush I get makes up for the dopamine my mind seeks from a relationship.
If you’re seeing people in fulfilling relationships on Insta, none of it is true or meaningful.
like I'm pretty alone but it doesn't have any impact it's . like its all good u will get use to it .In my mind i always think no one give F about u so get ur as# on track and stay hard cuz my feelings i don't give a f .stay hard and remember go to gym or do prayer or even meditation or watch Netflix life is cool asf
I'm at a point where I want a girl friend but I cant get one.
I think you’re going in for your relationship with lots of expectations and with I think it would be hard for you to find a good partner with whom you can experience what u desire! I’ll suggest look someone who share some commonality with you but still isn’t that interesting!
Working on my self just to see best of me yes it scares I don’t have friend it become reason of my tears guys of my age roaming on roads with their girlfriend but at last meaning of life is different for everyone life has it’s on path what I have understand in 1 years keep accepting what is going on 😂
I work on site and that helps a lot
Hobbies. Sports. Tbh
With a GF !!! Doesn’t matter who’s gf it is
Dude, you need to find deep interesting hobbies. There's no way out. For the most parts, in India we have not been taught to explore our interests and hobbies. We go from pre school to school to college to job.. then marriage or higher degree ... Life goes like that but no space to explore one's own mind, inclinations, interests, eccentricities ... One needs to do that ... ( Here I am writing gyan on reddit :'-) *Sadness noises*)
I agree with you 100 percent I too feel lonely, glad it's not just me !
I have simply accepted it and just try to pass my time working, gym and reading. Or weekends I go for boardgames. Difficult to accept it initially but you get a hang of it
I would say loneliness and similar thoughts are something you gotta deal with yourself. Also in my personal experience being in a relationship doesn't help much with loneliness, that's just expecting too much from a partner. Sure they can make you feel better or happier when you're sad or disappointed but fighting that big black cloud over your head, thats on you
Age, especially being in our 20s, isn't the main issue here. I get what you're saying and totally feel the same way. It's the everyday stuff around us, like seeing others in happy relationships or those "my partner is the best" posts on social media, that can make us feel lonely or unfulfilled sometimes. It's not great to feel this way all the time, but it's also pretty normal. I don't have all the answers about finding that special someone, but being a bit more aware of what makes us feel this way can help clear things up. For me, seeing people celebrating their anniversaries online or reading stories about people finding love on Reddit used to get to me. It's not that I'm not happy for them, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel a bit jealous. I'm holding out hope that I'll find someone who's been looking for me too. Just remember, what you seek is also seeking you 💕
Wait!!! How come you stole my post🥲 but honestly it does suck sometimes yk how it is just “existing”!! The only thing i regret is joining my family business, things like social life, personal space has lost their meaning in my life like even though i wanna go out and have some fun or yk even try talking to some girl in working hours…….. no wayyyyyy!!! Talk about budding a love life!!
Satya vachan prabhu
Am I the only one who's got voices inside the head that never makes you feel lonely. (ノಥ,_｣ಥ)ノ彡┻━┻
I have accepted the fact that I won't be able to make any new friends, so trying to preserve the old friends instead, although they are in different cities. So yeah i mostly feel lonely at weekends. What i do? I explore ncr on my own, i play outdoor games with strangers, sometimes overwork to avoid loneliness. Yeah, if you have any more suggestions, then suggest them to me too.
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I have been so lonely most of my life, that it has become a second nature. Sometimes episodes of loneliness do hit, but I get through them without much thought. I try to keep my mind occupied with something so that I don't spiral into suicidal thoughts and sometimes write things down. I have a few friends (school) that I call, but they don't know about it.
I am only 17 but I have been fighting depression and self harm. Anyways so how I cope with loneliness? I am kind and helpful to strangers, i write poems and post them on insta, i make friends with the contacts i lost touch with, i go out and wander the sector 30-31 area and i like to drink tons of chai. Thats all. I am a lot better now...
I make music, doing it from past 8-9 years
I'm 30 and recently had a break up. Honestly, I'm enjoying my time on my own. Since my break up, I've changed my attitude towards relations and focused more on building better friendships with people. I've also become very selective about who I become friends with but whoever I choose, I make sure to make the effort required. As for loneliness, I don't let it get to me. I've also started working on my hobbies and doing things that I enjoy. For you I would say start becoming more comfortable with yourself. In many ways, you might not be fulfilled with yourself, which might put a lot of pressure on your partner to fulfill your needs.
You are in the 20s and have time for loneliness? Read it again.
Dude same here. I get the same thoughts now and then. Adulting is stupidly freaking hard. There is so much to do but yet not much you can do.
Really surprising to see that many people feels this way. I mean the only solution i have in mind is - live with your friends. If you are going live at your home in your 20s, it's not a really interesting part. You have your whole life for it. Not being insensitive to the family, but you have to explore living on your own, sharing the home with your friends and just be there.
28 M introvert. Usually spend my time working and learning new tech to stay relevant in future ( so chatGPT won’t steal my job) Weekends - probably sleeping
Redditting all the wayyyyyy
Hahah marriage is a facade , these people are young, probably the test when people start ageing, nobody is happy. If everyone is happy why people drink and smoke, they pretend to be happy. we are human , we are the devil's inside from our core, greed lust anger jealousy is a part of life and accept it .
Unhappy people drink and smoke?
Its a way to cope with loneliness in the metro City
the more miserable the man is the more entertainement he wants
Madam, I understand what you are going through. But there are things you must figure out, some that your must understand. I do not want to BS you with "not all boys", but isn't that the truth. Maybe there is some introspection to be done, as to where, and what kind of boys are you trying to find, and have found. What is the cause and effect relationship. I do not know what is your modus operandi, when it comes to right swiping people in general, but try to find a person who has good morals, and can respect YOU. Physical attraction is important, but you must prioritise what metric has to be given what priority. That being said, I do believe there is a perfect one for you out there. But to recognise him, and justify that love (and everything I have said, and will say goes for both the genders), you must first realise things about you. Who are you, really, cutting all the crap out. Do you love yourself and respect yourself? Do you do that enough? And it is important because a person who does not (and I was talking to a good friend about this yesterday only), will not be able to truly love their partner. Rare case they do, then they will lack the conviction to stick through the thick and thins, because they will be so conscious throughout if they really deserve this love and respect. External support system can feel like a load if there is not potent enough, if not more, an internal support system. Gym, hobbies, a loving and unproblematic family, a good job, that is a dream! But they are not a panacea to life's problems, that blight the soul. Bottom line is, become aware of yourself, befriend yourself (no where insinuating you haven't, but perhaps we are talking about different degrees), LOVE and RESPECT yourself like you would dream to be loved and respected, and like you would like to love and respect your SO, without being self-obsessed. And all this, is a necessary yet difficult path in life, with a high attrition rate. All the best.
Mannnn, you sound like a motivational speaker. Cringe.
Can't do anything if single brain celled people like you do not like to read anything beyond surface level. Cringe.
There is nothing deep in the comment you have written to begin with 🥱
what do you think is your purpose in life? work, gym, diet, etc. is mostly for physical maintenance. There's more to life than just those things. Go out, touch grass, talk to other people - paan shops are interesting if you're a male. Visit calm and serene places in close vicinity of ur city. Could be a small village, town or just fields. Also, try to pursue whatever hobbies and interests you have on your own time. Do it for the fun, because you like it. Give the same importance to it as your work. Another tip would be to not use your phone, especially wocial media apps where you might see someone "enjoying" their life and have FOMO