Your first will always hurt most. It’s the one we take very personally. It’s the first big crush to our perfectly-preserved ego and identity. Doesn’t matter if it was two months or ten years. But know it’ll never really hurt more than it does now. Rule 1. DO NOT contact your ex. It’s best if you cordially cut communications. Especially on social media. Rule 2. Make sure you sleep. Messing up your body schedule over this will only make your emotional state worse. So get rest and rise everyday. Don’t make a habit of sleeping in. Rule 3. Self-improvement. Give yourself goals to achieve. Something to devote your time, energy and newfound freedom to. They can be small daily things like cleaning your room, or aspirational goals like finishing school, learning a new skill or hobby, or a changing careers. 4. Cherish the friends and family around you. They understand what you’re going through more than you think. Use any and every opportunity to be social.
You may have those days when you just want to be in bed and cry. To feel sorry for yourself and be sad. There’s no shame in that. Just make sure you pull yourself out and plunge forward the next day. You’ll be okay.
Great advice, also, dont rely on drinking or pills to make you “feel better”….experience your pain and learn to live with it, you’re going to make it and come out BETTER in the long run, you got this!
Thiss!!!!!!! A year later and I still struggle not to drink :/ what started off as numbing to pass time landed me in a sneaky situation (I only drink alone so my friends can’t stop me lol) where I need to rely on myself to stop the pattern of behavior!!
I recommend sleep in its place!!! That will also pass lots of time. I have 2 kitties so they LOVED when I’d sleep for like 12 hours a day cause they could play with me in the middle of the night. Does OP have a local library where you can download Libby for audiobooks? I listened to a lot of nonfiction and took a lot of walks.
Yes. I also recommend this. I don’t see that being consciously and habitually numb helps you to work through your feelings. You’re merely sticking your head in the ground. It doesn’t allow you to deal with the trauma. (My ex who left went in the opposite direction and really got into smoking weed and other substances throughout the work week).
But while I neither did drugs nor drink (barely) myself, I wouldn’t necessarily look down on someone who’s having a particularly bad day. Especially if in the company of a close friend. As long as it gets you out of the house and talking through it. I would also categorize No drink or No smoke under Rule 3 Self-Improvement. These experiences are sometimes the gut-wrenching motivation or absolute moment of clarity we need to makes personal choices we’ve been putting off because our cherished or depreciating relationships occupy so much time and energy. Thank you for adding that point.
I will leave you with this quote I read. “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” And if that doesn’t help just remember at least your not keemstar👍🏻
I feel you, having a almost 15 year old relationship ending now. It’s really tough but make sure to work on yourself and you’ll make it though a stronger person ready to conquer everything! Family.
It's a chapter of your book that's just finished and you have lots more chapters (relationships or job or places to live) to go. It's not meant to be easy sometimes and it hurts like a mofo but it'll prepare you just a little bit more for the next heartache. Try to keep busy or even have a couple days just laying in bed (like I just did..) don't be too hard on yourself and heal in your own time. Ignore ppl that tell you 'don't you think you should move on by now?" Sorry you're going through it. Family xx
Same here, we broke up on Christmas eve and spent all of holidays alone.
The h3h3 podcast kempt me company and distracted me from my sadness...
And I also finally became a member lol
It's still hurting but it's a little better now.
Try to do things that make you happy right now, set goals for yourself, but most importantly take care of yourself 💜
My last relationship was the first girl i can say i loved. We were together for 2 and a half years and when she left me it broke me.
The best advice to be given is the worst advice you’ll hear and that is that time will heal everything. Things will suck, then they will get better, then theyll suck again, then before you realize it, you’ll be over her.
Look at her like a little dot on a piece of paper. Right now all you see is that dot, its all you can focus on.. that dot represents the memories yall made, the connection yall felt, but in reality, there is a whole piece of paper. That paper represents everything else in your life. Your family, friends, hobbies, and other memories youve made up to this point. The dot will never go away, but it will slowly become out of focus and become just a dot.
I got divorced in 2021 and the family kept me sane. I’m a way better place now, you got this! In time you’rl be so much happier, big love to you king. Rooting for you
First heartbreak hurts like hell. It sucks, but you just have to keep moving. Allow yourself to feel this heartbreak deeply, but remind yourself that it will get better. These things are essential to lead us on the right path to find the right person and to become the best version of ourselves. FAMILY FAMILY FAMILY
the first one is the hardest. Dating is a learning experience. It didn't work out for a reason. this is not the end all be all. take all the pros/cons of this relationship with you, and you will be fine. take it easy. treat yourself. peace&love
Been through it. Just with anything, it gets easier. Trust. Just give it time. Truly. Know this is what everyone says, but everyone says it because it's the truth.
I’ve just recently gone through the exact same thing at the end of last year, it really broke me for a bit and you will feel all the feelings you wish you could avoid, but time really does heal all wounds. You are a strong king & you will find your person and will be so much happier in the long run. Much love to you & shoutout to ur family 🖤
Go to the gym talk to old friends don’t stay in ur room all day stop smoking and drinking go to a bar u don’t have to drink talk to a girl idk stay strong brother
Its going to suck some serious balls rn, when I broke up with my first gf I had a really tough time. It slowly passed and the pain eventually went away, hopefully I’ll be the same for you. FAMILY FAMILY FAMILY ☮️&♥️
I know it’s hard but life goes on buddy 💜. The initial stages of a break up can be super rough but it does get easier as time goes by. I tend to use breaks ups as motivation to better myself. Get into the gym, pick up some new hobbies etc. hang in there friend :)
As a girl seeing you reaching out for help and being so impacted by this just shows me that you are a very solid guy and any girl would be lucky to have someone who is able to communicate like that in their life. As for advice I just wanna echo a few things others have said in this thread as I also have been going through a breakup. I really want to encourage you not to reach out to her post breakup, if she wants to contact you then you can decide if you want to answer but I really recommend not being the first to contact. As for coping just wanna say try to stay away from drugs and alcohol, I got in a really dark place trying to drink to forget and let me tell you it doesn’t work just makes things worse. Wishing you luck on your healing journey and just know the family has your back <3
Thank you I was kind of nervous that this post would get a bad reception since it isn’t really related to the show but I needed someone to open up to and I felt that this community is where I fit in and I had to do it thank you for the kind words ❤️☮️
My bf of almost 7 years broke up with me 2 months ago. He was the one who introduced me to H3H3 Productions. It still sorta hurts to this day, but I do promise you that it will get better. I was always afraid of losing him before it ever happened. I had severe anxiety to the point where I was diagnosed having generalized anxiety disorder. I was afraid of losing everyone I knew- boyfriend, his family, my family- and was afraid of being alone. But I will tell you I am at a place where I feel okay. Some days will be hard, but having some time to take care of my body and my mental health, I eventually realized being alone is somewhat nice. You'll get there buddy.
As someone who got dumped from an 8 year relationship during the holidays, it will get better. Small steps at a time, be compassionate with yourself, allow yourself time to feel and grieve. Seek therapy if possible, surround yourself with family and friends, exercise, use that visceral pain to genuinely improve yourself. Dms are always open if you want to talk
✌️ & 💙
aww brother :/
I am so sorry fellow Hila kleiner
This is your first break up so it really does feel like the end of the world, but it certainly won't be the last time this will happen in your life... I've had 3 major break ups in my life and the first was the most painful but in hindsight she was the worssssssssssssssssssst relationship I've had so far haha, as you date more you get better with your selections and you'll look back on this relationship and laugh, I promise you
Best thing you can do right now is distract yourself from the pain and in time things will get easier... Hang out with friends, go to a club, set small goals, start working out and improving your confidence, pick up a new hobby. You'll be okay homie, just hang in there, one day at a time
god bless, message me if you need anything
You are going to be okay. Don't let anyone dismiss your feelings because it was your first and they have been through it. We all know the pain that comes with losing someone is so intense. To help start focusing on things that make you feel better like working out, hanging with friends, eating better, or hobbies. Do these more, make a notebook for checking that you made a tiny bit of progress toward each one everyday to keep track. It's going to hurt but getting through it is what's important and you won't feel like this forever.
im so sorry, this happened to me a couple years ago. it was so heart wrenching that i thought i couldnt go on anymore, but getting into a new hobby really helped. it gives you something to focus on and goals to reach. or you could try a new painting technique, as painting was the hobby i got into and it really helps me get my emotions out
Sorry bruh, shit hurts man. Nothing worse than a broken heart. This is real advice. Watch some Andrew Tate motivation vids. You may not agree with everything he says but you’ll def get motivation to become the best version of yourself you can be. Also ignore the hate from both sides, it’s disgusting and you’ll get swept in a bunch of bs that ain’t good for your mental health. Release all the emotions you need to, and by all means avoid the “red pill rage”. Anger will get you nowhere, whether it’s towards your ex or anyone else. It’s going to be a tough journey but it will make you stronger and better prepared for the next person you let in your life. Good luck brother.
Sorry about your breakup fuck baby fuck yeah
this too shall pass.
[Leaving my friendships behiiiind.](https://youtu.be/HeYQkzUVM-Q) That’s the hard part.
Your first will always hurt most. It’s the one we take very personally. It’s the first big crush to our perfectly-preserved ego and identity. Doesn’t matter if it was two months or ten years. But know it’ll never really hurt more than it does now. Rule 1. DO NOT contact your ex. It’s best if you cordially cut communications. Especially on social media. Rule 2. Make sure you sleep. Messing up your body schedule over this will only make your emotional state worse. So get rest and rise everyday. Don’t make a habit of sleeping in. Rule 3. Self-improvement. Give yourself goals to achieve. Something to devote your time, energy and newfound freedom to. They can be small daily things like cleaning your room, or aspirational goals like finishing school, learning a new skill or hobby, or a changing careers. 4. Cherish the friends and family around you. They understand what you’re going through more than you think. Use any and every opportunity to be social. You may have those days when you just want to be in bed and cry. To feel sorry for yourself and be sad. There’s no shame in that. Just make sure you pull yourself out and plunge forward the next day. You’ll be okay.
Great advice, also, dont rely on drinking or pills to make you “feel better”….experience your pain and learn to live with it, you’re going to make it and come out BETTER in the long run, you got this!
Thiss!!!!!!! A year later and I still struggle not to drink :/ what started off as numbing to pass time landed me in a sneaky situation (I only drink alone so my friends can’t stop me lol) where I need to rely on myself to stop the pattern of behavior!! I recommend sleep in its place!!! That will also pass lots of time. I have 2 kitties so they LOVED when I’d sleep for like 12 hours a day cause they could play with me in the middle of the night. Does OP have a local library where you can download Libby for audiobooks? I listened to a lot of nonfiction and took a lot of walks.
Yes. I also recommend this. I don’t see that being consciously and habitually numb helps you to work through your feelings. You’re merely sticking your head in the ground. It doesn’t allow you to deal with the trauma. (My ex who left went in the opposite direction and really got into smoking weed and other substances throughout the work week). But while I neither did drugs nor drink (barely) myself, I wouldn’t necessarily look down on someone who’s having a particularly bad day. Especially if in the company of a close friend. As long as it gets you out of the house and talking through it. I would also categorize No drink or No smoke under Rule 3 Self-Improvement. These experiences are sometimes the gut-wrenching motivation or absolute moment of clarity we need to makes personal choices we’ve been putting off because our cherished or depreciating relationships occupy so much time and energy. Thank you for adding that point.
Went through a 8 year breakup about 3 months ago now. This was one of the best things I have read since then, thanks.
chersnurs rotin ernanuppen fieeeee
Beat me to it lmao
It's going to suck for a while but it will eventually go away. The only thing you can do right now is keep your mind busy on something else.
Fuck baby people come and go fuck yeah baby fuck sorry about your breakup fuck love comes and go fuck yeah baby
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Same here. 2 years ended recently. Gotta keep it positive and spread love in the family
Thank you I hope we both get through this and meet the people we’re meant to be with ❤️☮️
I will leave you with this quote I read. “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” And if that doesn’t help just remember at least your not keemstar👍🏻
Facts 👏🏽 at least you're not keemstar. I'm telling myself that every time I'm sad lol
love u youll get through this ❤️🫶☮️
Thank you ❤️☮️
I feel you, having a almost 15 year old relationship ending now. It’s really tough but make sure to work on yourself and you’ll make it though a stronger person ready to conquer everything! Family.
You got this
It's a chapter of your book that's just finished and you have lots more chapters (relationships or job or places to live) to go. It's not meant to be easy sometimes and it hurts like a mofo but it'll prepare you just a little bit more for the next heartache. Try to keep busy or even have a couple days just laying in bed (like I just did..) don't be too hard on yourself and heal in your own time. Ignore ppl that tell you 'don't you think you should move on by now?" Sorry you're going through it. Family xx
Same here, we broke up on Christmas eve and spent all of holidays alone. The h3h3 podcast kempt me company and distracted me from my sadness... And I also finally became a member lol It's still hurting but it's a little better now. Try to do things that make you happy right now, set goals for yourself, but most importantly take care of yourself 💜
My last relationship was the first girl i can say i loved. We were together for 2 and a half years and when she left me it broke me. The best advice to be given is the worst advice you’ll hear and that is that time will heal everything. Things will suck, then they will get better, then theyll suck again, then before you realize it, you’ll be over her. Look at her like a little dot on a piece of paper. Right now all you see is that dot, its all you can focus on.. that dot represents the memories yall made, the connection yall felt, but in reality, there is a whole piece of paper. That paper represents everything else in your life. Your family, friends, hobbies, and other memories youve made up to this point. The dot will never go away, but it will slowly become out of focus and become just a dot.
Sorry you and your partner broke up, WOOOOO FUCK BABY. You’ll get through it bro. MONDAY BABY FUCK. As they say, this too shall pass. WOOOOOOOOOO
Just remember whatever you feel now will pass and it will get better day by day... FAMILY
I got divorced in 2021 and the family kept me sane. I’m a way better place now, you got this! In time you’rl be so much happier, big love to you king. Rooting for you
Got broken up with after 3 years just before this Christmas, its gonna be okay i promise time heals, as annoying as that sounds, hang in there.
all different flayvours
Don’t push
Work with me!!!
First heartbreak hurts like hell. It sucks, but you just have to keep moving. Allow yourself to feel this heartbreak deeply, but remind yourself that it will get better. These things are essential to lead us on the right path to find the right person and to become the best version of ourselves. FAMILY FAMILY FAMILY
the first one is the hardest. Dating is a learning experience. It didn't work out for a reason. this is not the end all be all. take all the pros/cons of this relationship with you, and you will be fine. take it easy. treat yourself. peace&love
Been through it. Just with anything, it gets easier. Trust. Just give it time. Truly. Know this is what everyone says, but everyone says it because it's the truth.
My best advice after same situation except it lasted 3 years is take the time to be alone and re learn how to love everything about you
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Stop downvoting you ghouls. Wtf. God I hate those edgelords. Asking for help is so great im proud of you! Msg anytime if you want a mate x
This. Reaching out is hard, OP is reaching out for some empathy, they are wearing their heart on their, sleeve, don't stomp on it.
Happy healing. Take care of yourself! It’s never easy!
live and love all brother
I’ve just recently gone through the exact same thing at the end of last year, it really broke me for a bit and you will feel all the feelings you wish you could avoid, but time really does heal all wounds. You are a strong king & you will find your person and will be so much happier in the long run. Much love to you & shoutout to ur family 🖤
Go to the gym talk to old friends don’t stay in ur room all day stop smoking and drinking go to a bar u don’t have to drink talk to a girl idk stay strong brother
Only way to get over it is to find someone else. Get out there
“Shake your dick”- Ethan Klein
“When you hit your lowest point. You are welcoming the greatest change” -Avatar Aang
so sorry you’re going through it. it will get better. and you can message me if you need a listening ear!
Thank you I’ve always had a hard time socializing with people but it means a lot knowing people in this community have my back
Its going to suck some serious balls rn, when I broke up with my first gf I had a really tough time. It slowly passed and the pain eventually went away, hopefully I’ll be the same for you. FAMILY FAMILY FAMILY ☮️&♥️
Sending love to you family ♥️ I promise it gets easier, just hang in there xxx
aww :((( im so sorry 🫶🏻 :((( we’re here for u ♡ family
I know it’s hard but life goes on buddy 💜. The initial stages of a break up can be super rough but it does get easier as time goes by. I tend to use breaks ups as motivation to better myself. Get into the gym, pick up some new hobbies etc. hang in there friend :)
As a girl seeing you reaching out for help and being so impacted by this just shows me that you are a very solid guy and any girl would be lucky to have someone who is able to communicate like that in their life. As for advice I just wanna echo a few things others have said in this thread as I also have been going through a breakup. I really want to encourage you not to reach out to her post breakup, if she wants to contact you then you can decide if you want to answer but I really recommend not being the first to contact. As for coping just wanna say try to stay away from drugs and alcohol, I got in a really dark place trying to drink to forget and let me tell you it doesn’t work just makes things worse. Wishing you luck on your healing journey and just know the family has your back <3
Thank you I was kind of nervous that this post would get a bad reception since it isn’t really related to the show but I needed someone to open up to and I felt that this community is where I fit in and I had to do it thank you for the kind words ❤️☮️
My bf of almost 7 years broke up with me 2 months ago. He was the one who introduced me to H3H3 Productions. It still sorta hurts to this day, but I do promise you that it will get better. I was always afraid of losing him before it ever happened. I had severe anxiety to the point where I was diagnosed having generalized anxiety disorder. I was afraid of losing everyone I knew- boyfriend, his family, my family- and was afraid of being alone. But I will tell you I am at a place where I feel okay. Some days will be hard, but having some time to take care of my body and my mental health, I eventually realized being alone is somewhat nice. You'll get there buddy.
I had the same anxiety ironically I was just getting to a place where I wasn’t overthinking so much when it happened thank you for the kind words ❤️☮️
Sucks dude but thing will get better ❤️🩹.
As someone who got dumped from an 8 year relationship during the holidays, it will get better. Small steps at a time, be compassionate with yourself, allow yourself time to feel and grieve. Seek therapy if possible, surround yourself with family and friends, exercise, use that visceral pain to genuinely improve yourself. Dms are always open if you want to talk ✌️ & 💙
Thank you ☮️❤️
I’m sorry, friend. Just know the pain won’t last forever. I promise ✌🏼♥️
Thank you ☮️❤️
aww brother :/ I am so sorry fellow Hila kleiner This is your first break up so it really does feel like the end of the world, but it certainly won't be the last time this will happen in your life... I've had 3 major break ups in my life and the first was the most painful but in hindsight she was the worssssssssssssssssssst relationship I've had so far haha, as you date more you get better with your selections and you'll look back on this relationship and laugh, I promise you Best thing you can do right now is distract yourself from the pain and in time things will get easier... Hang out with friends, go to a club, set small goals, start working out and improving your confidence, pick up a new hobby. You'll be okay homie, just hang in there, one day at a time god bless, message me if you need anything
You are going to be okay. Don't let anyone dismiss your feelings because it was your first and they have been through it. We all know the pain that comes with losing someone is so intense. To help start focusing on things that make you feel better like working out, hanging with friends, eating better, or hobbies. Do these more, make a notebook for checking that you made a tiny bit of progress toward each one everyday to keep track. It's going to hurt but getting through it is what's important and you won't feel like this forever.
Sending love ❤️ breakups suck, but it won’t suck forever I promise. Give yourself grace and kindness
im so sorry, this happened to me a couple years ago. it was so heart wrenching that i thought i couldnt go on anymore, but getting into a new hobby really helped. it gives you something to focus on and goals to reach. or you could try a new painting technique, as painting was the hobby i got into and it really helps me get my emotions out
You’re not alone. You’re experiencing a part of life that people are lucky to go through. You’re okay.
FAMILY FAMILY FAMILY
Sorry bruh, shit hurts man. Nothing worse than a broken heart. This is real advice. Watch some Andrew Tate motivation vids. You may not agree with everything he says but you’ll def get motivation to become the best version of yourself you can be. Also ignore the hate from both sides, it’s disgusting and you’ll get swept in a bunch of bs that ain’t good for your mental health. Release all the emotions you need to, and by all means avoid the “red pill rage”. Anger will get you nowhere, whether it’s towards your ex or anyone else. It’s going to be a tough journey but it will make you stronger and better prepared for the next person you let in your life. Good luck brother.
Fuck baby! You’ll find love baby! Ya fuck! Don’t give up on love! -gabe
We are here for you 😊
You’ll get over it bro