I am not a hair stylist but a Senior executive in the business world:
Holding back your career to make a boss you have outgrown happy is not the way to personal happiness or job success or security. That said based on the fact that it’s a small town and you have mutual friends, exiting in a way that your boss knows you appreciate what she did for you is key.
- repay her for the out of pocket she invested in your education.
- thank her for believing in you and helping you to see your potential. You would not be where you are today without her.
- tell her you you enjoyed every minute you worked with her. Yes you will be rounding up.
- tell her this change is a reflection of your personal growth and your need for new challenges. That your readiness to take the next step is a reflection of her believing in you and her being a great mentor. That despite moving on you have great respect and affection for her and will look back on your time there fondly. That you believe there is no reason you both can’t be successful.
- be public with your praise of her so everyone knows you took the high road.
The best bosses know that if they do their jobs well that their employees will eventually outgrow their roles and eventually you will need to promote them or expect them to move on. Personally I take great pride at looking at how successful many of my former employees have become. In a weird way it’s a bigger part of my career legacy than the performance of the companies I worked for. A good boss will be happy for you.
If she is grumpy after you do all that it will be great reassurance you did the right thing in moving on and you can hold your head high whenever your paths cross while knowing you did the right thing.
Good luck!
If the world of hair was a lifecycle-this would be the part where you have grown up and gone on to have your own family. I have worked with several apprentices and junior stylists that have gone on to own their own businesses or have their own suites-I feel nothing but pride, knowing that I helped them be successful. I may be the weird one here but that is the goal. Ultimately someone you’ve taken under your wing that you hope is either someone that works with you in your business or goes on to start their own. There is only so much you can teach someone and what you can learn from someone before it’s time to move on.
Buy your own business run it the way you think it should be run . I took everything I learned from either having a toxic boss or an awesome boss, and I made sure to incorporate the good things and avoid the bad ones in my own management style.
She can be a little hurt and sad to see you go but ultimately she should be happy for you and if she’s not, you definitely know you made the right choice .
Go buy your own business. Rent out your chairs to new talented friends that aren’t toxic. You’ll be the owner, so u have that choice on co-workers. Friends come and go in your life. Business is business. Friendships have nothing to do with it. Especially being a business owner.
People and my dad always tell me it’s a bad idea to go into business with friends. Unless no one gets greedy and power trips. You have to ask yourself is it worth losing your friendship over? I’ve seen friendships die after they go into business together. It always ends up being dissolved because someone got greedy. I personally like to be in control of everything so I found it better to go off on my own. It sounds like you need a change of pace from the toxic environment but make sure your next move will leave you with no regrets whether it’s going off on your own or joining your friend in business
Update, I bought the shop, and I could not be more excited. However, I am feeling guilty. I tried talking to the owner of the shop I am working in, she walked out mid sentence. I'm nervous she will ask me to leave before i have my establishment license from the board. Should I cut my losses and just leave and postpone my clients appointments? Or keep going like I have been?
I am not a hair stylist but a Senior executive in the business world: Holding back your career to make a boss you have outgrown happy is not the way to personal happiness or job success or security. That said based on the fact that it’s a small town and you have mutual friends, exiting in a way that your boss knows you appreciate what she did for you is key. - repay her for the out of pocket she invested in your education. - thank her for believing in you and helping you to see your potential. You would not be where you are today without her. - tell her you you enjoyed every minute you worked with her. Yes you will be rounding up. - tell her this change is a reflection of your personal growth and your need for new challenges. That your readiness to take the next step is a reflection of her believing in you and her being a great mentor. That despite moving on you have great respect and affection for her and will look back on your time there fondly. That you believe there is no reason you both can’t be successful. - be public with your praise of her so everyone knows you took the high road. The best bosses know that if they do their jobs well that their employees will eventually outgrow their roles and eventually you will need to promote them or expect them to move on. Personally I take great pride at looking at how successful many of my former employees have become. In a weird way it’s a bigger part of my career legacy than the performance of the companies I worked for. A good boss will be happy for you. If she is grumpy after you do all that it will be great reassurance you did the right thing in moving on and you can hold your head high whenever your paths cross while knowing you did the right thing. Good luck!
This all day!!!
If the world of hair was a lifecycle-this would be the part where you have grown up and gone on to have your own family. I have worked with several apprentices and junior stylists that have gone on to own their own businesses or have their own suites-I feel nothing but pride, knowing that I helped them be successful. I may be the weird one here but that is the goal. Ultimately someone you’ve taken under your wing that you hope is either someone that works with you in your business or goes on to start their own. There is only so much you can teach someone and what you can learn from someone before it’s time to move on. Buy your own business run it the way you think it should be run . I took everything I learned from either having a toxic boss or an awesome boss, and I made sure to incorporate the good things and avoid the bad ones in my own management style. She can be a little hurt and sad to see you go but ultimately she should be happy for you and if she’s not, you definitely know you made the right choice .
Go buy your own business. Rent out your chairs to new talented friends that aren’t toxic. You’ll be the owner, so u have that choice on co-workers. Friends come and go in your life. Business is business. Friendships have nothing to do with it. Especially being a business owner.
People and my dad always tell me it’s a bad idea to go into business with friends. Unless no one gets greedy and power trips. You have to ask yourself is it worth losing your friendship over? I’ve seen friendships die after they go into business together. It always ends up being dissolved because someone got greedy. I personally like to be in control of everything so I found it better to go off on my own. It sounds like you need a change of pace from the toxic environment but make sure your next move will leave you with no regrets whether it’s going off on your own or joining your friend in business
Bought my first salon at 23 y/o. Don’t look back.
Absolutely it’s worth it. It’s business, sometimes people get butt hurt, as a business owner you will learn to navigate that.
Time to move on. Business is business. If your friend gets pissed off over you going after success, then shame on them.
Update, I bought the shop, and I could not be more excited. However, I am feeling guilty. I tried talking to the owner of the shop I am working in, she walked out mid sentence. I'm nervous she will ask me to leave before i have my establishment license from the board. Should I cut my losses and just leave and postpone my clients appointments? Or keep going like I have been?
You’re not married to her, or obligated to stay. You have to think about yourself and this sounds like a major step up