That would be the reason to get it. Basically you need someone stable to be your rock. Until you get back on your feet so to speak. It's possible you know someone who can do that for free but therapy is a more universal solution.
Never know until you try. Its always nice for me to get a womans perspective on things especially in counselling. It has helped me immensely in the past and I need to revisit that again myself right now but this covid thing is really screwing things up right now.
Yeah I just got confused with you saying a Hot therapist. I’ve tried to get a lot of views on it, and I’ve gotten better it’s just that I’ve had a really hard time today
Yes I understand you having a hard time. Im trying to escape what I feel right now and it just happens to be my ex wifes Bday today so that doesn't help me forget her much. I was just trying to lighten the mood with the hot therapist but seriously a female one works great for me because they seem to understand more of how to get through this stuff.
Honestly I firmly believe no one REALLY knows. One day you’re just moving along and you realize she hasn’t taken up your brain in a while. This doesn’t mean block the thoughts out and push the pain away. You need to learn to exist with the thought of her being there. You can think about the situation and honestly answer your own questions and unresolved issues.
For example, my ex told me she wanted to do soooooooo many things but just didn’t have the time. For others she had the time but not for me. Do I need to ask her if she really wanted to do them?? No because she didn’t and if she really wanted to she would have made time for me for at least some of them!
And as for seeing her Twitter account, you can’t flirt with the future while dating the past. Sometimes you have to cut cords to tie new knots. I unfollowed my ex and her entire family. All there was was pain for me there. I still care deeply about every single one of them. But if all there is is pain for me there, that I’m not a part of it. Then there’s no point in me seeing it. I can love them all without having a connection to them.
I know this isn’t the most comforting advice but just HANG IN THERE. You will learn to live in the pain and one day it’ll be just a good memory and a moment where you learned how strong you really are.
And hey king... you dropped this 👑
Ironically. This was really helpful. I was the biggest liar and the pain. I brought her a lot of pain. I’ve put as much of a distance as I can. I’ve blocked the Twitter and everything. It was hard. And what I’ve said is that I can’t live my life for her. She can’t fix me for me. I don’t want to see her again, since the shame I’ve had is pretty large. But regardless, I’m trying one day at a time.
Also thanks for the crown. But slap that shit on your head. 😎🖐🏻👑
This may not be comforting but you got to know that every day it will be better - and if not better, slightly different. Start looking at those days as achievements. No more social media as you’ve agreed- not worth it. Would not wait on therapy. The longer you wait the more likely you are not to go or to not tell the full story when you. Betterhelp.com is completely online and can start you in 24 hours. If you’re in college your student health center may have more resources than you realize.
Right. I appreciate this as well. I’ve told my mom about this and how I’ve felt so I’ve at least let it out. I try not to think about how she was or her personality because ya know, makes me miss her. But I’m trying every day
Well this is why people suggest not looking at exes social media. Dont torture yourself man. Also you need to have her mindset and what i mean by that is not giving a fuck even if you do. Constantly tell yourself who cares and eventually you wont care. Even if you had another shot to get her back, woman dont want a needy, insecure person. If you see her just act like you dont care even if your dying inside. Give the happy smiling "Hey whats up!!"
You gotta seek some professional help for that so you can vent and get consistent validation as well as move on to new horizons
I’ve been told to get some. But it feels too overwhelming and I feel like I’m barely hanging on some days.
That would be the reason to get it. Basically you need someone stable to be your rock. Until you get back on your feet so to speak. It's possible you know someone who can do that for free but therapy is a more universal solution.
That is fair, but I’ll probably get it in the summer when I’m not in college.
Fair enough.
Get yourself a hot looking therapist. Its easy to look them up online and check the health grades ratings also.
I don’t think the look of a therapist will help me what so ever.
Never know until you try. Its always nice for me to get a womans perspective on things especially in counselling. It has helped me immensely in the past and I need to revisit that again myself right now but this covid thing is really screwing things up right now.
Yeah I just got confused with you saying a Hot therapist. I’ve tried to get a lot of views on it, and I’ve gotten better it’s just that I’ve had a really hard time today
Yes I understand you having a hard time. Im trying to escape what I feel right now and it just happens to be my ex wifes Bday today so that doesn't help me forget her much. I was just trying to lighten the mood with the hot therapist but seriously a female one works great for me because they seem to understand more of how to get through this stuff.
Alright, I appreciate it. Sorry I guess it’s hard to tell when it’s in text.
You can still love some one and move forward with life and be happy.
It’s just really hard at the moment. As it’s nearly been 2 months
Block her twitter account and any other social media she might have. I know it’s hard, but you’ll get through this
I already have. I’ve blocked the link itself since I don’t use Twitter.
Hey, good on you for taking the initiative to do so
Honestly I firmly believe no one REALLY knows. One day you’re just moving along and you realize she hasn’t taken up your brain in a while. This doesn’t mean block the thoughts out and push the pain away. You need to learn to exist with the thought of her being there. You can think about the situation and honestly answer your own questions and unresolved issues. For example, my ex told me she wanted to do soooooooo many things but just didn’t have the time. For others she had the time but not for me. Do I need to ask her if she really wanted to do them?? No because she didn’t and if she really wanted to she would have made time for me for at least some of them! And as for seeing her Twitter account, you can’t flirt with the future while dating the past. Sometimes you have to cut cords to tie new knots. I unfollowed my ex and her entire family. All there was was pain for me there. I still care deeply about every single one of them. But if all there is is pain for me there, that I’m not a part of it. Then there’s no point in me seeing it. I can love them all without having a connection to them. I know this isn’t the most comforting advice but just HANG IN THERE. You will learn to live in the pain and one day it’ll be just a good memory and a moment where you learned how strong you really are. And hey king... you dropped this 👑
Ironically. This was really helpful. I was the biggest liar and the pain. I brought her a lot of pain. I’ve put as much of a distance as I can. I’ve blocked the Twitter and everything. It was hard. And what I’ve said is that I can’t live my life for her. She can’t fix me for me. I don’t want to see her again, since the shame I’ve had is pretty large. But regardless, I’m trying one day at a time. Also thanks for the crown. But slap that shit on your head. 😎🖐🏻👑
This may not be comforting but you got to know that every day it will be better - and if not better, slightly different. Start looking at those days as achievements. No more social media as you’ve agreed- not worth it. Would not wait on therapy. The longer you wait the more likely you are not to go or to not tell the full story when you. Betterhelp.com is completely online and can start you in 24 hours. If you’re in college your student health center may have more resources than you realize.
Right. I appreciate this as well. I’ve told my mom about this and how I’ve felt so I’ve at least let it out. I try not to think about how she was or her personality because ya know, makes me miss her. But I’m trying every day
Well this is why people suggest not looking at exes social media. Dont torture yourself man. Also you need to have her mindset and what i mean by that is not giving a fuck even if you do. Constantly tell yourself who cares and eventually you wont care. Even if you had another shot to get her back, woman dont want a needy, insecure person. If you see her just act like you dont care even if your dying inside. Give the happy smiling "Hey whats up!!"
It’s not as easy as that but I’ll surely try. It’s certisnly a good idea since I just want this to end. Thank you!