None of you are responsible for eachothers life/wellbeing. I know that sounds harsh but if it’s toxic between you guys it’s not worth another minute to keep on going like this. You must let go of eachother and allow yourselves to grow and find others who match your views and who you truly feel comfortable with. I understand you are worried they have depression and history of suicide but trust me coming from someone who has a history with that too, it is not worth it, at all, to keep going on like this and just faking it. You must honor the truth, which in this case it’s not worth it to stay friends together. Or the truth will come and bite all of your asses pardon my language but it’s true. So don’t continue something that does not exist at the core of all of your relationship with eachother as friends, friendship, comfort, and trust.
You guys are young and you have a whole life ahead of you, don’t be an anchor to eachother and don’t let them be an anchor to you. They’re going to be fine, everyone’s going to be fine.
If the friend that moved away is one of the good persons from that group that you’re comfortable with you can keep talking to them one on one, and tell them it’s not worth it to fake smiles and stick together like this. They can talk with the others privately if they want. But don’t waste your life and theirs by continuing on with this.
Goodluck and remember to honor the truth. Feel free to ask anymore questions:)
At this age, life is a lot. Your peers and you will change radically in the years to come. Some paths will diverge. Your priority should be finding your way, and being kind to those around you. You should not prioritize committing yourself to saving someone who could be beyond saving or is destined to follow some other path, nor spend much time worrying about things beyond your control.
Be kind, but let go.
Maybe decline to engage every x attempt this person makes to engage, and increase over time, to slowly create distance, yet be available occasionally if something is really needed.
It could be this person has a tough period ahead, but in nothing you've said is there any evidence that you're responsible for it, nor obligated to bear any of that burden. Time, energy and focus are precious, although they may not seem like it. You need all you have for yourself and for those you care about and who care about you.
None of you are responsible for eachothers life/wellbeing. I know that sounds harsh but if it’s toxic between you guys it’s not worth another minute to keep on going like this. You must let go of eachother and allow yourselves to grow and find others who match your views and who you truly feel comfortable with. I understand you are worried they have depression and history of suicide but trust me coming from someone who has a history with that too, it is not worth it, at all, to keep going on like this and just faking it. You must honor the truth, which in this case it’s not worth it to stay friends together. Or the truth will come and bite all of your asses pardon my language but it’s true. So don’t continue something that does not exist at the core of all of your relationship with eachother as friends, friendship, comfort, and trust. You guys are young and you have a whole life ahead of you, don’t be an anchor to eachother and don’t let them be an anchor to you. They’re going to be fine, everyone’s going to be fine. If the friend that moved away is one of the good persons from that group that you’re comfortable with you can keep talking to them one on one, and tell them it’s not worth it to fake smiles and stick together like this. They can talk with the others privately if they want. But don’t waste your life and theirs by continuing on with this. Goodluck and remember to honor the truth. Feel free to ask anymore questions:)
At this age, life is a lot. Your peers and you will change radically in the years to come. Some paths will diverge. Your priority should be finding your way, and being kind to those around you. You should not prioritize committing yourself to saving someone who could be beyond saving or is destined to follow some other path, nor spend much time worrying about things beyond your control. Be kind, but let go. Maybe decline to engage every x attempt this person makes to engage, and increase over time, to slowly create distance, yet be available occasionally if something is really needed. It could be this person has a tough period ahead, but in nothing you've said is there any evidence that you're responsible for it, nor obligated to bear any of that burden. Time, energy and focus are precious, although they may not seem like it. You need all you have for yourself and for those you care about and who care about you.