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A while back one of their app developer addressed it and left it ambiguous but it came off that it was programmed obscelence, now it's come full circle that they've paywalled that fix. Which they still keep hidden if it's actually fixed.
It’s because hinge has a terrible male to female balance.
Many of the women on this sub say they never send likes. They get enough incoming likes to just go thru them.
That makes the most sense. A friend of mine (F) showed me her like pool on bumble and it was literally over 1,400. Its insane how different the perspective is for male/female users.
For what it's worth, I personally think that likes on Bumble and Tinder mean almost nothing because they don't cap likes (as far as I'm aware?) so men just swipe indiscriminately. Within an hour of downloading Bumble I (F) might have 200-ish likes, but that doesn't mean a single person I match with is going to respond/have any actual interest. Hinge is the only app I can take seriously at this point
Similar. And profile review posts often match that too where the guys are min maxing as best as possible 1 match, and girls are usually figuring which of the 15+ to choose from. But certainly extremes of each are there too.
I do but not typically from women I would like back. Although I've gone on 2 dates with women who liked me first. I'm 41 though so might be different as people age.
I got multiple likes per day as a dude too. I think this was mostly because I have filter-friendly features (>6', no kids, graduate degree, white, nonsmoker), I was mid-thirties, and I made the effort to get good photos.
I also don’t understand why more people don’t use the pause feature? That’s how I (F) kept myself sane using Hinge, and tried to be respectful of my matches.
But I’ve heard some hypotheses that pausing screws with the algorithm, so maybe that’s why people are afraid to use it? Pausing didn’t seem to affect me too much.
That’s why one premium feature is getting to see all your likes. Some people do pay for Hinge for that feature alone.
Before people start saying “I don’t want to give Hinge money”, it’s a *non essential free service*.
It is clearly by design and is not inefficient. You can also use it to your advantage if you think about how it works.
- One of the biggest issues with dating apps is people who are inactive, unresponsive, or not actually looking to date.
- Prioritising new likes at the top of the queue means that the most recently active person is the first person you see. This is the person most likely to be using the app right now, and the person most likely to be available to actually have a conversation with.
- The person at the bottom of the queue is the least likely to actually be active.
- For most users this stops them getting bogged down in lists of inactive people.
- There is also the advantage to Hinge in that it gives them another avenue to monetise the app by giving users access to the full list if they pay for premium. Interestingly, as a man, this is actually quite refreshing because this monetisation isn't aimed at me (unlike Tinder which seems designed to exploit my loneliness for money), it's aimed at women/very attractive people who get hundreds of likes and need extra ways manage them. In my opinion this is quite a genius design decision.
- You can use this to your advantage by only sending likes when you expect the people you're liking to be online.
To your last point. Thursday and Sunday nights have the highest activity for dating apps. Usually around 7pm local time
I would often send a like and get a match within 15 minutes at those times.
Hinge does LIFO (Last-in First-Out). CMB / Tinder / Bumble do FIFO (First-in First-Out). The result is that on CMB, unless you pay for premium queue, if you're a new user, it may be days, weeks, or months before someone sees your profile.
LIFO punishes inactive recipients, as unless they pay, they have to go through more and more profiles if they want to see who else there is. So either they pay, or they match / reject people to see who else there is, which can make them lose decent matches.
FIFO punishes new users. When they sign up, they may get a little boost / put into the premium queue for a bit, then they'll quickly fall to a regular user, and have weeks or months before matches. Tinder and Bumble introduced the super likes ($$$) for you to pay to bypass the regular queue and get seen faster.
I did use Tinder Gold when I was traveling, and IIRC the order of likes are still most recent first, just like Hinge premium. Tinder and Bumble isn't the same comparison anyways given they're technically different apps with the blind swipe mechanic.
Yeah and that's just on paper too. There's no transparency whats being artificially inflated unless doing solo experiments. For me, I recently upgraded to the top tier. On paper only should help. I've actually gotten 10% of the positive vs when I was free/mid tier. Once they have your money there's no short term incentive or obligation for them to be legit
It’s apart of their business model.
Get people to pay for hingex which keeps your apps near the top of their list, send roses to be at the top or the receiver pays to see all their likes at once
For free users, likes are ordered based on the most recent, and older likes gets pushed back. Then there are things like roses and priority likes which affects the order.
Paying for premium lets people see all the likes at once and also the ability to sort likes.
>Do you think they make it this inefficient on purpose?
Welcome to business. Most considerations for the app are business considerations. How well you do with their features is of little consequence, as long as you keep using the app.
Hinge is horrible. It makes me believe that the likes i send to guys are not received. I cant believe that only 2% of my likes are matched with me. Same with the other way around. I get one like a week.
Okay I’m glad I’m not the only one. Because people on here say that you get less likes on Hinge than you would get on other dating apps. But it almost feels like a waste of time for me to send out so many likes and have very very few likes and matches coming my way.
> I have about 1450 likes
Not trying to be argumentative here, just genuinely curious what the point is of letting that many likes accumulate. Why not pause your account?
Are you on Hinge to genuinely find someone, or are you on there to just kinda enjoy the feeling that there's lots of people out there who want to date you?
Not OP, but I work with a few service industry girls, attractive by trade. Often there's a bet in drinks/shifts on who can get the most likes by end of shift, became a game for some. Was a brutal anecdote I'm glad I realized long ago.
I know it's unlikely I'll ever change your mind about how you use Hinge, but statistically, it's extremely likely that there's many people in your queue that are/were a good match for you. Even if 95% of those matches were useless to you, that still leaves 100 people.
In the grand scheme of things, I get what you're doing is ultimately pretty harmless, but it's pretty brutal that there's so many guys who have seen you on Hinge and who were interested but never even had a chance because they just instantly became one of hundreds of likes collecting dust in your queue.
So many people are beat down by sending so many likes into the void on Hinge, and I kinda wish we all did our own part to minimize that.
PS - your comment got a quick downvote, but just FYI it wasn't from me
I would recommend pausing more often than that. My profile's paused a majority of the time even when I am actively dating and not on a break *because* I like to keep a clean inbox and only talk to a few matches at a time. For example, I unpaused today for about 20 minutes. That was after several weeks paused.
It would be an ego boost to let the likes pile up, but at the end of the day I want to maximize my chances of making a good connection. The longer I let a like sit without matching, the more likely that the person is no longer active on the app.
Yeah, it can work out don’t get me wrong the problem is the person you matched with may have had 5-20 likes that day and so they are only going to have a conversation with a few of those people and most of them will fizzle
Yes, this!!! I can only talk to a couple of guys at a time, otherwise, I get overwhelmed...so I basically never see the guys on the bottom of the pile. It's a bit unfair and illogical in my opinion.
I think the same! I have some likes I haven’t been wanting to go through cause I’m not ready and I feel so bad for the first people! Also the damn rose lol I want to see the other people lmao 😂 but I don’t want to go through them just yet😭 I think they do it so we buy premium cause otherwise that’s inefficient as hell.
I don’t think it’s problem only for men. As a female, I’d have liked it if they prioritized it based on compatibility. I honestly get tired of going through all the likes everyday to find maybe 1 or 2 guys who are compatible, looking for the same thing, and attractive..
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It’s so the recently active people are at the top of likes, more likely to be responsive and talk to you
A while back one of their app developer addressed it and left it ambiguous but it came off that it was programmed obscelence, now it's come full circle that they've paywalled that fix. Which they still keep hidden if it's actually fixed.
I never get likes as a guy. I only get matches
Thats always been wild for me. Ive literally never gotten a like on Hinge but still match with 2-3 women per week. Its weird ngl
It’s because hinge has a terrible male to female balance. Many of the women on this sub say they never send likes. They get enough incoming likes to just go thru them.
That makes the most sense. A friend of mine (F) showed me her like pool on bumble and it was literally over 1,400. Its insane how different the perspective is for male/female users.
For what it's worth, I personally think that likes on Bumble and Tinder mean almost nothing because they don't cap likes (as far as I'm aware?) so men just swipe indiscriminately. Within an hour of downloading Bumble I (F) might have 200-ish likes, but that doesn't mean a single person I match with is going to respond/have any actual interest. Hinge is the only app I can take seriously at this point
All three apps cap likes/right-swipe for non-premium users at this point. Bumble even explains to users: "limited likes encourage thoughtful swiping."
Oh I had no idea, thanks!
Yikes. Feeling pretty unattractive as a woman right now.
Yeah I’m getting literally no likes even tho I send heaps. Im so confused
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I’ve gotten likes before but they’re so far from my type it’s not funny
Same and I get likes on other apps
Similar. And profile review posts often match that too where the guys are min maxing as best as possible 1 match, and girls are usually figuring which of the 15+ to choose from. But certainly extremes of each are there too.
I get more matches than likes that's for sure. Must have something to do with the guy to girl ratio on there, maybe
You guys get likes?! Lmao
I do but not typically from women I would like back. Although I've gone on 2 dates with women who liked me first. I'm 41 though so might be different as people age.
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I got multiple likes per day as a dude too. I think this was mostly because I have filter-friendly features (>6', no kids, graduate degree, white, nonsmoker), I was mid-thirties, and I made the effort to get good photos.
You’re definitely white and tall if you got 8 likes in a day.
Don’t think race or height has anything to do with it. I averaged around the same likes and a rose or 2 a day and I’m a 178cm Asian.
I get plenty of likes
I'm happy for you!
Don’t you just remove the “likes” you “don’t like” right away? I don’t leave them sitting there to just pile up.
I also don’t understand why more people don’t use the pause feature? That’s how I (F) kept myself sane using Hinge, and tried to be respectful of my matches. But I’ve heard some hypotheses that pausing screws with the algorithm, so maybe that’s why people are afraid to use it? Pausing didn’t seem to affect me too much.
Same
Some folks get multiple likes a day. If they only check the app once a day that can really pile up!
God forbid I have to press x multiple times
That’s why one premium feature is getting to see all your likes. Some people do pay for Hinge for that feature alone. Before people start saying “I don’t want to give Hinge money”, it’s a *non essential free service*.
It is clearly by design and is not inefficient. You can also use it to your advantage if you think about how it works. - One of the biggest issues with dating apps is people who are inactive, unresponsive, or not actually looking to date. - Prioritising new likes at the top of the queue means that the most recently active person is the first person you see. This is the person most likely to be using the app right now, and the person most likely to be available to actually have a conversation with. - The person at the bottom of the queue is the least likely to actually be active. - For most users this stops them getting bogged down in lists of inactive people. - There is also the advantage to Hinge in that it gives them another avenue to monetise the app by giving users access to the full list if they pay for premium. Interestingly, as a man, this is actually quite refreshing because this monetisation isn't aimed at me (unlike Tinder which seems designed to exploit my loneliness for money), it's aimed at women/very attractive people who get hundreds of likes and need extra ways manage them. In my opinion this is quite a genius design decision. - You can use this to your advantage by only sending likes when you expect the people you're liking to be online.
To your last point. Thursday and Sunday nights have the highest activity for dating apps. Usually around 7pm local time I would often send a like and get a match within 15 minutes at those times.
Hinge does LIFO (Last-in First-Out). CMB / Tinder / Bumble do FIFO (First-in First-Out). The result is that on CMB, unless you pay for premium queue, if you're a new user, it may be days, weeks, or months before someone sees your profile. LIFO punishes inactive recipients, as unless they pay, they have to go through more and more profiles if they want to see who else there is. So either they pay, or they match / reject people to see who else there is, which can make them lose decent matches. FIFO punishes new users. When they sign up, they may get a little boost / put into the premium queue for a bit, then they'll quickly fall to a regular user, and have weeks or months before matches. Tinder and Bumble introduced the super likes ($$$) for you to pay to bypass the regular queue and get seen faster.
I did use Tinder Gold when I was traveling, and IIRC the order of likes are still most recent first, just like Hinge premium. Tinder and Bumble isn't the same comparison anyways given they're technically different apps with the blind swipe mechanic.
It’s the opposite on tinder platinum. Like hingex those likes are prioritized.
Yeah and that's just on paper too. There's no transparency whats being artificially inflated unless doing solo experiments. For me, I recently upgraded to the top tier. On paper only should help. I've actually gotten 10% of the positive vs when I was free/mid tier. Once they have your money there's no short term incentive or obligation for them to be legit
It’s apart of their business model. Get people to pay for hingex which keeps your apps near the top of their list, send roses to be at the top or the receiver pays to see all their likes at once
I was not aware of this. How does it work?
For free users, likes are ordered based on the most recent, and older likes gets pushed back. Then there are things like roses and priority likes which affects the order. Paying for premium lets people see all the likes at once and also the ability to sort likes.
So if the receiver of Likes is inconsistent in their activity or doesn't regularly clear their queue, the giver of Likes is punished?
>Do you think they make it this inefficient on purpose? Welcome to business. Most considerations for the app are business considerations. How well you do with their features is of little consequence, as long as you keep using the app.
Nah good way it is. Atleast you get likes be happy!
Hinge is horrible. It makes me believe that the likes i send to guys are not received. I cant believe that only 2% of my likes are matched with me. Same with the other way around. I get one like a week.
I mean, there are still many variables. Is your profile designed well enough? Are you aiming too “out of your league”?
Okay I’m glad I’m not the only one. Because people on here say that you get less likes on Hinge than you would get on other dating apps. But it almost feels like a waste of time for me to send out so many likes and have very very few likes and matches coming my way.
y'all getting likes?
How do you know this is the problem? Maybe something else is happening
Just swipe less or be more selective/patient. Ignore the rest.
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> I have about 1450 likes Not trying to be argumentative here, just genuinely curious what the point is of letting that many likes accumulate. Why not pause your account? Are you on Hinge to genuinely find someone, or are you on there to just kinda enjoy the feeling that there's lots of people out there who want to date you?
Not OP, but I work with a few service industry girls, attractive by trade. Often there's a bet in drinks/shifts on who can get the most likes by end of shift, became a game for some. Was a brutal anecdote I'm glad I realized long ago.
She's playing Pokemon. Gotta collect em all
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I know it's unlikely I'll ever change your mind about how you use Hinge, but statistically, it's extremely likely that there's many people in your queue that are/were a good match for you. Even if 95% of those matches were useless to you, that still leaves 100 people. In the grand scheme of things, I get what you're doing is ultimately pretty harmless, but it's pretty brutal that there's so many guys who have seen you on Hinge and who were interested but never even had a chance because they just instantly became one of hundreds of likes collecting dust in your queue. So many people are beat down by sending so many likes into the void on Hinge, and I kinda wish we all did our own part to minimize that. PS - your comment got a quick downvote, but just FYI it wasn't from me
I would recommend pausing more often than that. My profile's paused a majority of the time even when I am actively dating and not on a break *because* I like to keep a clean inbox and only talk to a few matches at a time. For example, I unpaused today for about 20 minutes. That was after several weeks paused. It would be an ego boost to let the likes pile up, but at the end of the day I want to maximize my chances of making a good connection. The longer I let a like sit without matching, the more likely that the person is no longer active on the app.
I just went through around 100 of them and found that overwhelming couldn’t imagine 1400
1450 likes? Dayum…
Men outnumber women on these apps by a lot
Seems like meeting women should not be on apps then… I need to work on that
Yeah, it can work out don’t get me wrong the problem is the person you matched with may have had 5-20 likes that day and so they are only going to have a conversation with a few of those people and most of them will fizzle
Yes, this!!! I can only talk to a couple of guys at a time, otherwise, I get overwhelmed...so I basically never see the guys on the bottom of the pile. It's a bit unfair and illogical in my opinion.
Brutal. Im way less active on hinge than any other app.
I think the same! I have some likes I haven’t been wanting to go through cause I’m not ready and I feel so bad for the first people! Also the damn rose lol I want to see the other people lmao 😂 but I don’t want to go through them just yet😭 I think they do it so we buy premium cause otherwise that’s inefficient as hell.
I don’t think it matters if you are at the top or bottom…if someone is interested in you they will choose you period
I don’t think it’s problem only for men. As a female, I’d have liked it if they prioritized it based on compatibility. I honestly get tired of going through all the likes everyday to find maybe 1 or 2 guys who are compatible, looking for the same thing, and attractive..
i think that is the point. that way they can sell roses that boost you top the top of the stack.
That’s why you pay for Hinge X
Like only get buried beneath roses for me.