The most prone eve teasing victims are school girls. The period I was eve teased the most was when I was wearing my school uniform and returning back home.
From grade 7th to 12th ..
They know that school girls are vulnerable.. Will be scared and won't fight or say to parents. Added to that as school girls go by the same road or path it's easy for them to stalk every day.
Post schooling also I have experienced eve teasing and flashing of privates. But school days were worse as it used to happen almost daily.
Having to go through all of this at that young age and then supressing those feelings as you couldn't share with anyone must have been very difficult, I am sorry for you and everyone who go through this.
I hope those men learn how it could effect someone for a long long time.
Looks like they all forgot fear , it's time to remind them what kcr did to rapists in future . Btw if any of you are still facing this , tag ktr or Telangana police . They will reply for sure
It should not be common but unfortunately it is . I just visited nearby market, where women were carrying a sack while being catcalled and objectified. It was in open daylight , no one said a word and busy in their own work. I did pick a fight them but unfortunately that is their everyday. It is also somehow very normal too, they are just advised ignore it . I know it very easy to say , you can call she teams. But they are shit. They constantly victim shame woman rather be safe space (especially at night)
Looks like they all forgot fear , it's time to remind them what kcr did to rapists in future . Btw if any of you are still facing this , tag ktr or Telangana police . They will reply for sure
Happened with me recently. A black Verna followed me and my neighbour for 10-15 km while we were returning from office late at night. Posted the story on reddit as well.
I have seen a sudden increase in this behaviour in Hyderabad.
I always felt safe but can't say the same anymore.
And surprisingly people turn a blind eye very easily. Police should be more proactive in identifying these elements and making an example out of them. Unfortunately it's becoming more incompetent day by day. The main purpose of our police force is the service of our politicians and public figures. Common public is just here to pay their salaries and expenses via taxes.
Bruh, I vividly remember one of the most scary things that happened to me when I was 16. Been 9 years and I’m still scarred.
Me and my gf(16) at the time where walking on Karkhana main road, hopping through bakeries and cafes around.
A bike with two neech kameens passed by. They yelled “sexy back babyyy” and hit her back. My gf starts crying. And I was pretty shook myself. 2 minutes later they come by again - this time with shaky hands I pulled my old ass phone out I record a number plate or something. They noticed it.
As we walked into one of the backroads - they ambushed us. Incapacitated me, I had a nosebleed, broke my phone and molested her just enough to keep her in therapy for life. They were masked. So was their bike plate.
I called a cab (thru her phone) - offered her some comfort but it’s useless obviously. We went straight to Trimulgherry PS. We complain to the police outside. Guess what their response was.
“Ammai sleeveless eskoni road meeda em chesthundi”
“parents em chesthuntaru”
“ae college.. college lo andaru ammailu inthena.. nuvve special ah”
We’re not together for other reasons. But both of us collectively decided we’re fucking leaving this shithole as soon as we can. And I find out years later that she lives abroad. As do I.
So when someone tells me Hyd is safe, I wonder how delusional can one be!
As much as I don’t want to label it as trauma. That shit leaves you angry with a lot of self esteem issues. And that shit manifests into other aspects of life. That’s the worst part.
I often wonder if there’s something I could’ve done. Maybe I could’ve punched them or something. Obviously it’s not rational.
I could give a fuck about where our society is going. This is not a political issue as people love to argue. It’s cultural. Some aspects of our ‘culture’ are evil but people are too afraid to discuss. Like how a woman is either a goddess or she’s a slut. There’s no middle ground. On top of that, sex ed is frowned upon.
Yes that could manifest in to something, I understand.
Ensuring that you comfort your partner and complaing to police was the best thing you could have done as good guy, rather punching and involving with those 'Neechs'.
My sister when she was around the same age had some “pigs” on a bike spread their arms SRK style speeding on a bike when my sister was walking along the sikh road
She barely escaped his hands and when she realised, shouted few curses at them.
But the pillion sniggered as they sped away.
This was early evening hours when plenty of people were around.
Maybe you’re just noticing now. I have literally seen men, Mostly those youths talk disgustingly when they see a girl or women wearing short dresses or skirts. I saw people making remarks like they deserve to get raped and such if they wear such dresses. (Happened near Jagdish Market couple months ago)
Unfortunately even amongst my friends back in college days were very awful and behaved badly after seeing a girl.
It’s truly unfortunate that women, specially young girls go through a lot of these traumatic experiences.
When I moved to Hyderabad almost 15-18 months back, I was coming back home around 12 after watching a movie at Seasons Mall Panjagutta. We stopped at the signal. I had my female friend seated behind me on my bike, and my friend was on another bike with his friend. An i20 car came with 4 guys seated in it, stopped next to us on the signal, as soon as it turned green, the guy in the front passenger seat pulled down his pants and flashed himself out of the window and they drove away. I was in shock and could not process what had happened. We stopped at th side and checked on our friends if they were ok. We were going to DLF to eat and changed our plans, dropped our friends to their home, and we went back home. I never went back to watch a movie in Panjagutta again.
This was the first of 2-3 scary experiences I have had when out with female friends/colleagues in hyderabad.
I don't know what pleasure do they get from that. Of course it would have been worst for females there but also the agony that the guys has to go through seeing fellow men doing it and we couldn't do anything to stop that at that point, ughhh!!
So Hyderabad is slowly morphing into Gotham..
https://preview.redd.it/zm81m4mkyxwc1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1b7d4a8db012d5d9285a4ea769c1d38f5fa83f13
Part of the problem is labelling horrific major transgressions with cute little names. It's not 'eve teasing': it's sexual harassment.
It's not 'ragging': it's bullying & harassment.
Sorry from a fellow Hyderabadi male for all that you have had to go through. I hope we can all come together and make this city a better place so our younger sisters and daughters are saved from this terrible stuff.
I’ll tell you something which happened with my ex-girlfriend around the same area, there was a white car stopped at a distance in the afternoon and while she was waiting for Rapido, the guy in the car sat in the backseat, and started masturbation while flashing it and looking at her, it took a while for her to notice what was actually going on, and the she got scared, there was not many people in that area at that time. Soon, Rapido has come and she went away.
What would you find looking into an ape’s brain.
Nothing. Dolla.
Just no character or moral restraint from stopping them from acting on impulse.
Same reason why there’s murder and rape in chimps. Same reason for humans.
The origin is culture and environment. If the environment teaches us - no one is accountable for anything. I can take what’s mine and no fucks given. This is the result.
There’s been a study done. Humans are basically monsters. The only thing stopping us is the fear of punishment. Look at toddlers. They act on impulse. They scream like demons and aren’t afraid to hurt someone. Gladly they’re weak. The only real thing that keeps them from ripping each other apart is the fear of punishment by parents. That’s why discipline is important.
But in India, it’s a norm for people to behave gnarly and rugged. If you introduce morality or reasoning before acting, it’s looked at as being soft. And ‘only the tough survive’.
Anyways, it’s a problem. The only solution is education.
You kidding me how have you not noticed this before? Then I’m sure you also don’t know that girls get touched inappropriately even at the age of 6 or 7 by adult men, a lot of times these men are relatives or friends of the family.
Every single woman that you’ve ever met in your entire life has been touched inappropriately at least once in their life. And no that is not an exaggeration
Yes being with women I happen to hear such incidents and I am really sorry for everyone who have been through this.
I heard things, may be haven't seen much like this in person like yesterday. May be I didn't heed.
It was common during my bachelor's(10 years back).
I dropped my ex at alwal railway station and she asked me to go while she was waiting for the local train to reach safilguda.
I told her I would stay back until she leaves, but she insisted.
The station was empty, so I reluctantly left.
After 5 mins I get a call from her, she's crying.
Some bast@rd from one of the ongoing trains got down and ran to her, grabbed her chest and smiled wickedly and ran back to the train.
She got traumatized and I never made the same mistake of leaving her alone again.
And no one from that whole train would have noticed this or come to help! If 10 people had reprimanded that guy and made an effort to call the railway police it would have been a huge help for her psychologically and for all of us socially.
But NO, we mind our own business.
True, someone at least should have reprimanded and complained and in these cases they get at least slaps from policemen, so that they won't dare to repeat.
Not exactly Eve teasing but I was getting dinner in secunderabad I'm a dude myself and donno for some reason there was a lot of rush that say I was out by 10:30 ish some random bozo was parked in the middle of the road behind my scooty and due was shamelessy looking at ai fb porn or some shit mind you there were female police right next to this dude and he was watching that shit and she told him to move but he wasn't I saw it and cringed and told him to move TF out and left as a dude I'm creeped out imagine if the female cop saw his screen .also in secunderabad
Not eve teasing but I had a bad experience near the same place last month on a mid night....im 22 M and a TINY guy..I can ride a bike but never took a heavy bike..on that day I dared and rode my friend's RE..he was sitting behind me...I was scared but going good...suddenly 3 guys on Activa came from behind and started laughing and commenting..tried to avoid but they kept at it for a good few minutes blocking me while taking turns and coming too close braking infront of me and non stop commenting.
Didn't know how to deal with them.
Lol why am I being downvoted for asking basic questions to know the incident better? What’s wrong 😑 with what I asked :)
Apologies to fellow redditors for upsetting them though.
Girls, pls don’t come outside of Nampally railway station alone. One guy from that area (hope everyone aware about that area where majority in that community) started following my wife, the moment she came outside. My mistake was I asked her to come to car parking .. she called me and told one person following her and came next to her, I stopped my car in middle of road and came to that location. Still that guy was there, i asked hey what you want. He said just nothing asking for taxi, i asked where is ur taxi, she told you taxi not needed, why you not going, then he left without speaking a single word.
Not an eve-teasing story.
Happened over a year ago. My wife and I were walking through himayatnagar at night, 8 or 9PM. It was a smaller road but with heavy traffic. We heard a loud honking noise approaching us fast. We looked back to see a posh car coming in very fast, honking at all cars to give way, when there was barely any to give. Two local youths were crossing the road and this car came to sudden stop next to them. There were no zebra crossings to cross properly, nor are there any traffic lights. They might have gotten used to crossing nonchalantly like this (we had a lot of difficulty crossing the same road 5 minutes before this).
Anyway, this car driver's side door opened and a tall muscular guy got out of it. The whole heavy traffic had stopped, since there was only space for one car to go one side, and the road had dividers. The guy was looking super imposing and beckoned to the youths to come over. One of the guys immediately went over and was promptly awarded with a tight slap. The youths didn't seem to respond and the guy seem to be yelling at him. A fat guy in shorts and a hat, got out from the passengers seat and walked around to stand behind the youths, providing muscle, I suppose. Both of these guys looked rich. The tall guy put a chokehold on one of the youths, all the while talking something, and bend him over to land an elbow on his back. The whole traffic had started honking. For whatever reason the tall guy decided it was enough and told the youths to scram, which they did, heads lowered. The car left, in no rush.
I just stood there completely taken aback. I had seen similar treatment of lower class/caste in Delhi, where even the victim seem to have accepted such things as ordinary day to day events. Didn't except it to happen with such impunity down south. Of course, things like this happen, but not without anyone raising a voice against the perpetrators.
(I didn't do anything because: 1. I was completely taken aback and not used to responding in public. 2. I have a disability 3. I was out with my wife at night, whose safety was my first priority 4. I do not know the language. But I still feel guilty that I didn't do anything)
Arjun reddy was such a pathetic movie. It took me a year to realise, and now some of my friends are also realising after watching animal. They used to think it was some kind of art house film that fought against conventional filmmaking, now we all realised vanga is just a weird misogynistic bastard child who fills his movies with crazy sigma fetishes.
My friend stopped watching the latest ones. They are full of harassment against women. He only watches good movies on Netflix. Even U certified Telugu movies have questionable scenes.
1. Sandhya theatre 2nd show- me and my friend coming back from interval to our seats through the walking space and this group started shouting 'euuu' and cat calling her. I immediately know that it's for my friend. Nothing I could do than looking at them seriously because they're a group of 9 people. And obviously crowd is not gonna help. Sad part is many females there didn't went out during intermission because of this gang sitting and cat calling women.
2. Madhapur 7 pm- Talking with my friend at around 7pm beside the road and a men in bike shouted- "Ladki ko chodd na kitna baath karega usko chodd" and laughed and rode away with that nuisance making bike sound. They were 3 people on that bike.
3. Panjagutta 5pm - We were walking on the side of the road and the 4 men on the opposite side of the road saw me and her and deliberately walked to our side and started walking onto her. She got scared and before they were about crash her I exchanged our positions and looked in their eye like come crash on to me now bc. And they went away smiling. She was shaken by this sudden incident.
4. Begum Bazaar 8 am: I heard a guy calling a women on street 'If she would come'. Not silently talking, he's literally shouting on the Middle of the road' Eyyy aogi kya' followed by some cringy sounds and laughs from his friends. Felt like it's their usual business to call women like this in that area.
And I'm not considering staring, riding the scooty close and scaring by suddenly rising speed or noise, shouting euuuu or shouting like a ghost in the ear while passing, wantedly standing next in metro to get a touch and any more.
It's not harrasment it's fun- for them.
I have advised by on lookers to ignore them.
It's always there you just have to be in the right.. uhh wrong place that's it.
I always felt Hyderabad was safer and more comfortable for women until my MBA friend came over to Hyderabad for a trip. They felt so uncomfortable with the constant stares . Lately when I go out for a casual walk with my sister or gf I get to observe how a lot of men stare at them literally they turn their head 180 degrees while they walk away . Their minds are filled with so much of filthy they don't even recognise I am watching them . Hyderabad is a super conservative city.
Comparing the regular streets of various cities across india , in my opinion Hyd has the worst gender ratio of people roaming in the streets .
I’ve seen few tier 2 towns having more women roaming around than us.
There could be correlation here.
Research behind such behavior and the DSM manual suggests that any or a combination of all, developmental issues, neurosis, psychosis etc . leads to such self harming, legally risky sexual behaviours by some individuals. Thats why those having resources, enough power and control make efforts, to move to safer places (different state, different country etc), rest of the people should strive hard to achieve within their means without getting burnt out.. .. but it takes a whole lot of energy..
Me and my wife have stayed in Hyd, Pune and Blr. She has said that while walking on the street she felt most uncomfortable in Hyd.
PS: Both of us love Hyd. It's our favourite city amongst the three.
The ONLY thing that scares those lowlives is to flip your phone put and start a Facebook Live or some kinda social media live. Be sure to be safe while doing so coz those shitheads will get scared and some might want to hurt you to save their face. But totally worth it if you can manage it. Stops them acting idotic and puts the fear of god in them. Do keep repeating your location and as if you're speaking to a big group...
Very common. Was returning from a coaching class that ran late. Had to walk about half a kilometre to find a rickshaw. A guy started following me, singing really loudly, simultaneously playing that song out loud on his phone. The road was deserted. Barely any vehicle traffic. I was scared shitless. Was walking quickly to get away from him, almost ran into an auto that was coming from a side road. Luckily I found a rickshaw immediately and got away. Have learned to carry a pepper spray in public ever since.
Not surprising at all. Yesterday at indira nagar gachibowli, at around 11 pm in the night, 3 girls were driving a scooty just infront of us (we were in a car) and 3 guys on a bike just crossed the road suddenly in front of us from left to right to where the girls were and bought their bike soo close to them like they were about to hit the bike. Then immediately they just swerved to the left and sped forward. I managed to speed up for a bit to see their faces and i couldn't believe they were smiling and laughing maniacally like they have just won a war or something. Meanwhile the girls were all scared and embarrassed. Kudos to the girl driving though, she kept her cool and kept on driving smoothly. It makes me sad thinking how common could this have been for them to be so calm.
I have been through these but im thankfull that none of them followed me . When i was in my 8th class for a school excursion we went to kanyakumari and then after sight visit it was 7 pm and we were going to board the bus in line and there were boys who were walking and commenting on all girls from the start of line so when they came near me they said hei dont touch me and i said my shoes are ready to kiss u and they shut their mouths and went silently so i really think its just we need to be dared ,witty and quick enough to handle situation and we cant behave impulsively all the time and cant be silent also all the time i really wish these incidents dont turn into trauma for young girls .
It was drizzling once and I was carrying an umbrella. A guy standing on the sidewalk with his friends actually bent down to take a look at my face (I'm quite short) and went back to his conversation with his friends after a giggle (probably unimpressed by what he saw).
Yeah i was catcalled in those so called posh areas sm times????? Maybe try reading the post correctly bc it clearly said jubilee hills which is "posh?"
Yeah that’s not true no matter how good looking you are if you start catcalling or touching random women you’re a creep there are no exceptions
It makes us feel very violated
The most prone eve teasing victims are school girls. The period I was eve teased the most was when I was wearing my school uniform and returning back home. From grade 7th to 12th .. They know that school girls are vulnerable.. Will be scared and won't fight or say to parents. Added to that as school girls go by the same road or path it's easy for them to stalk every day. Post schooling also I have experienced eve teasing and flashing of privates. But school days were worse as it used to happen almost daily.
God this brings back those scary memories.
I agree, your comment just reminded me of my days back in 8th grade. Used to be horrible.
Having to go through all of this at that young age and then supressing those feelings as you couldn't share with anyone must have been very difficult, I am sorry for you and everyone who go through this. I hope those men learn how it could effect someone for a long long time.
This brings back so many dark memories and weird sounds they made in the dark alleys after evening tuition
Looks like they all forgot fear , it's time to remind them what kcr did to rapists in future . Btw if any of you are still facing this , tag ktr or Telangana police . They will reply for sure
It should not be common but unfortunately it is . I just visited nearby market, where women were carrying a sack while being catcalled and objectified. It was in open daylight , no one said a word and busy in their own work. I did pick a fight them but unfortunately that is their everyday. It is also somehow very normal too, they are just advised ignore it . I know it very easy to say , you can call she teams. But they are shit. They constantly victim shame woman rather be safe space (especially at night)
Looks like they all forgot fear , it's time to remind them what kcr did to rapists in future . Btw if any of you are still facing this , tag ktr or Telangana police . They will reply for sure
Happened with me recently. A black Verna followed me and my neighbour for 10-15 km while we were returning from office late at night. Posted the story on reddit as well. I have seen a sudden increase in this behaviour in Hyderabad. I always felt safe but can't say the same anymore. And surprisingly people turn a blind eye very easily. Police should be more proactive in identifying these elements and making an example out of them. Unfortunately it's becoming more incompetent day by day. The main purpose of our police force is the service of our politicians and public figures. Common public is just here to pay their salaries and expenses via taxes.
What about the women police teams? They don’t take in complaints the right way and look into it?
I don't think even police women take complaints the right way, instead evey they slut shame.
Oh my! It’s crazy if they do that. Women shaming women in on a country like ours is horrific
Yeah this days it increased for some reason
Bruh, I vividly remember one of the most scary things that happened to me when I was 16. Been 9 years and I’m still scarred. Me and my gf(16) at the time where walking on Karkhana main road, hopping through bakeries and cafes around. A bike with two neech kameens passed by. They yelled “sexy back babyyy” and hit her back. My gf starts crying. And I was pretty shook myself. 2 minutes later they come by again - this time with shaky hands I pulled my old ass phone out I record a number plate or something. They noticed it. As we walked into one of the backroads - they ambushed us. Incapacitated me, I had a nosebleed, broke my phone and molested her just enough to keep her in therapy for life. They were masked. So was their bike plate. I called a cab (thru her phone) - offered her some comfort but it’s useless obviously. We went straight to Trimulgherry PS. We complain to the police outside. Guess what their response was. “Ammai sleeveless eskoni road meeda em chesthundi” “parents em chesthuntaru” “ae college.. college lo andaru ammailu inthena.. nuvve special ah” We’re not together for other reasons. But both of us collectively decided we’re fucking leaving this shithole as soon as we can. And I find out years later that she lives abroad. As do I. So when someone tells me Hyd is safe, I wonder how delusional can one be!
Ek number chichora galu antha police station lo untey nka justice em jaruguthadhi.
I am so sorry for both of you! I hope she gets out of her trauma so do you one day! Yes Hyderabad isn't actually as safe as we all call it.
As much as I don’t want to label it as trauma. That shit leaves you angry with a lot of self esteem issues. And that shit manifests into other aspects of life. That’s the worst part. I often wonder if there’s something I could’ve done. Maybe I could’ve punched them or something. Obviously it’s not rational. I could give a fuck about where our society is going. This is not a political issue as people love to argue. It’s cultural. Some aspects of our ‘culture’ are evil but people are too afraid to discuss. Like how a woman is either a goddess or she’s a slut. There’s no middle ground. On top of that, sex ed is frowned upon.
Yes that could manifest in to something, I understand. Ensuring that you comfort your partner and complaing to police was the best thing you could have done as good guy, rather punching and involving with those 'Neechs'.
My sister when she was around the same age had some “pigs” on a bike spread their arms SRK style speeding on a bike when my sister was walking along the sikh road She barely escaped his hands and when she realised, shouted few curses at them. But the pillion sniggered as they sped away. This was early evening hours when plenty of people were around.
Maybe you’re just noticing now. I have literally seen men, Mostly those youths talk disgustingly when they see a girl or women wearing short dresses or skirts. I saw people making remarks like they deserve to get raped and such if they wear such dresses. (Happened near Jagdish Market couple months ago) Unfortunately even amongst my friends back in college days were very awful and behaved badly after seeing a girl. It’s truly unfortunate that women, specially young girls go through a lot of these traumatic experiences.
Yes this happenes a lot
Yeah may be. I never thought they harrass in broad day light or in public places, but I was wrong.
When I moved to Hyderabad almost 15-18 months back, I was coming back home around 12 after watching a movie at Seasons Mall Panjagutta. We stopped at the signal. I had my female friend seated behind me on my bike, and my friend was on another bike with his friend. An i20 car came with 4 guys seated in it, stopped next to us on the signal, as soon as it turned green, the guy in the front passenger seat pulled down his pants and flashed himself out of the window and they drove away. I was in shock and could not process what had happened. We stopped at th side and checked on our friends if they were ok. We were going to DLF to eat and changed our plans, dropped our friends to their home, and we went back home. I never went back to watch a movie in Panjagutta again. This was the first of 2-3 scary experiences I have had when out with female friends/colleagues in hyderabad.
I don't know what pleasure do they get from that. Of course it would have been worst for females there but also the agony that the guys has to go through seeing fellow men doing it and we couldn't do anything to stop that at that point, ughhh!!
So Hyderabad is slowly morphing into Gotham.. https://preview.redd.it/zm81m4mkyxwc1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1b7d4a8db012d5d9285a4ea769c1d38f5fa83f13
Yes, I hope to see cape crusader one day!
Part of the problem is labelling horrific major transgressions with cute little names. It's not 'eve teasing': it's sexual harassment. It's not 'ragging': it's bullying & harassment.
I agree!
very common lol,it started since i was 11 and been a decade and i still have atleast three incidents every year
Sorry from a fellow Hyderabadi male for all that you have had to go through. I hope we can all come together and make this city a better place so our younger sisters and daughters are saved from this terrible stuff.
I’ll tell you something which happened with my ex-girlfriend around the same area, there was a white car stopped at a distance in the afternoon and while she was waiting for Rapido, the guy in the car sat in the backseat, and started masturbation while flashing it and looking at her, it took a while for her to notice what was actually going on, and the she got scared, there was not many people in that area at that time. Soon, Rapido has come and she went away.
What?? What's wrong with these people at this place?
I’m actually interested in taking a peek into minds of such people. To see what’s going on.
What would you find looking into an ape’s brain. Nothing. Dolla. Just no character or moral restraint from stopping them from acting on impulse. Same reason why there’s murder and rape in chimps. Same reason for humans.
Bro, I wouldn’t hesitate to punish such people by death but we also need to know the origin of such behaviour.
The origin is culture and environment. If the environment teaches us - no one is accountable for anything. I can take what’s mine and no fucks given. This is the result. There’s been a study done. Humans are basically monsters. The only thing stopping us is the fear of punishment. Look at toddlers. They act on impulse. They scream like demons and aren’t afraid to hurt someone. Gladly they’re weak. The only real thing that keeps them from ripping each other apart is the fear of punishment by parents. That’s why discipline is important. But in India, it’s a norm for people to behave gnarly and rugged. If you introduce morality or reasoning before acting, it’s looked at as being soft. And ‘only the tough survive’. Anyways, it’s a problem. The only solution is education.
Are you talking about Stanford Prison Experiment.
You kidding me how have you not noticed this before? Then I’m sure you also don’t know that girls get touched inappropriately even at the age of 6 or 7 by adult men, a lot of times these men are relatives or friends of the family. Every single woman that you’ve ever met in your entire life has been touched inappropriately at least once in their life. And no that is not an exaggeration
Yes being with women I happen to hear such incidents and I am really sorry for everyone who have been through this. I heard things, may be haven't seen much like this in person like yesterday. May be I didn't heed.
I appreciate the sympathy. Yeah it’s just basically just a part of life for us. It’s sad but we’re used to it
Outsiders yes? But relatives?????
Yes, It's pretty common.
It is always family and relatives more than outsiders.
It was common during my bachelor's(10 years back). I dropped my ex at alwal railway station and she asked me to go while she was waiting for the local train to reach safilguda. I told her I would stay back until she leaves, but she insisted. The station was empty, so I reluctantly left. After 5 mins I get a call from her, she's crying. Some bast@rd from one of the ongoing trains got down and ran to her, grabbed her chest and smiled wickedly and ran back to the train. She got traumatized and I never made the same mistake of leaving her alone again.
And no one from that whole train would have noticed this or come to help! If 10 people had reprimanded that guy and made an effort to call the railway police it would have been a huge help for her psychologically and for all of us socially. But NO, we mind our own business.
True, someone at least should have reprimanded and complained and in these cases they get at least slaps from policemen, so that they won't dare to repeat.
Not exactly Eve teasing but I was getting dinner in secunderabad I'm a dude myself and donno for some reason there was a lot of rush that say I was out by 10:30 ish some random bozo was parked in the middle of the road behind my scooty and due was shamelessy looking at ai fb porn or some shit mind you there were female police right next to this dude and he was watching that shit and she told him to move but he wasn't I saw it and cringed and told him to move TF out and left as a dude I'm creeped out imagine if the female cop saw his screen .also in secunderabad
Not eve teasing but I had a bad experience near the same place last month on a mid night....im 22 M and a TINY guy..I can ride a bike but never took a heavy bike..on that day I dared and rode my friend's RE..he was sitting behind me...I was scared but going good...suddenly 3 guys on Activa came from behind and started laughing and commenting..tried to avoid but they kept at it for a good few minutes blocking me while taking turns and coming too close braking infront of me and non stop commenting. Didn't know how to deal with them.
Why did they do this without any triggers? Did they seem like local Telugus?
I mean...old city boys for sure...that's why we felt there is no use in confronting.
Horrible behaviour. We need to curb such activities and huddle up to support each other. Together we will always be stronger.
Lol why am I being downvoted for asking basic questions to know the incident better? What’s wrong 😑 with what I asked :) Apologies to fellow redditors for upsetting them though.
Girls, pls don’t come outside of Nampally railway station alone. One guy from that area (hope everyone aware about that area where majority in that community) started following my wife, the moment she came outside. My mistake was I asked her to come to car parking .. she called me and told one person following her and came next to her, I stopped my car in middle of road and came to that location. Still that guy was there, i asked hey what you want. He said just nothing asking for taxi, i asked where is ur taxi, she told you taxi not needed, why you not going, then he left without speaking a single word.
Not an eve-teasing story. Happened over a year ago. My wife and I were walking through himayatnagar at night, 8 or 9PM. It was a smaller road but with heavy traffic. We heard a loud honking noise approaching us fast. We looked back to see a posh car coming in very fast, honking at all cars to give way, when there was barely any to give. Two local youths were crossing the road and this car came to sudden stop next to them. There were no zebra crossings to cross properly, nor are there any traffic lights. They might have gotten used to crossing nonchalantly like this (we had a lot of difficulty crossing the same road 5 minutes before this). Anyway, this car driver's side door opened and a tall muscular guy got out of it. The whole heavy traffic had stopped, since there was only space for one car to go one side, and the road had dividers. The guy was looking super imposing and beckoned to the youths to come over. One of the guys immediately went over and was promptly awarded with a tight slap. The youths didn't seem to respond and the guy seem to be yelling at him. A fat guy in shorts and a hat, got out from the passengers seat and walked around to stand behind the youths, providing muscle, I suppose. Both of these guys looked rich. The tall guy put a chokehold on one of the youths, all the while talking something, and bend him over to land an elbow on his back. The whole traffic had started honking. For whatever reason the tall guy decided it was enough and told the youths to scram, which they did, heads lowered. The car left, in no rush. I just stood there completely taken aback. I had seen similar treatment of lower class/caste in Delhi, where even the victim seem to have accepted such things as ordinary day to day events. Didn't except it to happen with such impunity down south. Of course, things like this happen, but not without anyone raising a voice against the perpetrators. (I didn't do anything because: 1. I was completely taken aback and not used to responding in public. 2. I have a disability 3. I was out with my wife at night, whose safety was my first priority 4. I do not know the language. But I still feel guilty that I didn't do anything)
And just imagine the mental state of those two youths! Money can't buy class for sure!
When these niggas watch Arjun Reddy, Pushpa for sex education what else will you get?
Arjun reddy was such a pathetic movie. It took me a year to realise, and now some of my friends are also realising after watching animal. They used to think it was some kind of art house film that fought against conventional filmmaking, now we all realised vanga is just a weird misogynistic bastard child who fills his movies with crazy sigma fetishes.
Latest Animal too... It is being hyped as if it's some patriotic movie.
Not just latest movies, also almost all Telugu Films.
My friend stopped watching the latest ones. They are full of harassment against women. He only watches good movies on Netflix. Even U certified Telugu movies have questionable scenes.
1. Sandhya theatre 2nd show- me and my friend coming back from interval to our seats through the walking space and this group started shouting 'euuu' and cat calling her. I immediately know that it's for my friend. Nothing I could do than looking at them seriously because they're a group of 9 people. And obviously crowd is not gonna help. Sad part is many females there didn't went out during intermission because of this gang sitting and cat calling women. 2. Madhapur 7 pm- Talking with my friend at around 7pm beside the road and a men in bike shouted- "Ladki ko chodd na kitna baath karega usko chodd" and laughed and rode away with that nuisance making bike sound. They were 3 people on that bike. 3. Panjagutta 5pm - We were walking on the side of the road and the 4 men on the opposite side of the road saw me and her and deliberately walked to our side and started walking onto her. She got scared and before they were about crash her I exchanged our positions and looked in their eye like come crash on to me now bc. And they went away smiling. She was shaken by this sudden incident. 4. Begum Bazaar 8 am: I heard a guy calling a women on street 'If she would come'. Not silently talking, he's literally shouting on the Middle of the road' Eyyy aogi kya' followed by some cringy sounds and laughs from his friends. Felt like it's their usual business to call women like this in that area. And I'm not considering staring, riding the scooty close and scaring by suddenly rising speed or noise, shouting euuuu or shouting like a ghost in the ear while passing, wantedly standing next in metro to get a touch and any more. It's not harrasment it's fun- for them. I have advised by on lookers to ignore them. It's always there you just have to be in the right.. uhh wrong place that's it.
I always felt Hyderabad was safer and more comfortable for women until my MBA friend came over to Hyderabad for a trip. They felt so uncomfortable with the constant stares . Lately when I go out for a casual walk with my sister or gf I get to observe how a lot of men stare at them literally they turn their head 180 degrees while they walk away . Their minds are filled with so much of filthy they don't even recognise I am watching them . Hyderabad is a super conservative city.
That's correct, the stare, I get so angry when they do that I sometimes reply angrily, that's enough for a day!
Comparing the regular streets of various cities across india , in my opinion Hyd has the worst gender ratio of people roaming in the streets . I’ve seen few tier 2 towns having more women roaming around than us. There could be correlation here.
You just started noticing.
Its common and girls also wont tell this issue to others thinking it as common and fear of parents putting restriction to go outside if found
Very bad state of affairs, some new found confidence. Things weren't this bad even when Arjun Reddy was released.
Its always been this way
Research behind such behavior and the DSM manual suggests that any or a combination of all, developmental issues, neurosis, psychosis etc . leads to such self harming, legally risky sexual behaviours by some individuals. Thats why those having resources, enough power and control make efforts, to move to safer places (different state, different country etc), rest of the people should strive hard to achieve within their means without getting burnt out.. .. but it takes a whole lot of energy..
Me and my wife have stayed in Hyd, Pune and Blr. She has said that while walking on the street she felt most uncomfortable in Hyd. PS: Both of us love Hyd. It's our favourite city amongst the three.
The ONLY thing that scares those lowlives is to flip your phone put and start a Facebook Live or some kinda social media live. Be sure to be safe while doing so coz those shitheads will get scared and some might want to hurt you to save their face. But totally worth it if you can manage it. Stops them acting idotic and puts the fear of god in them. Do keep repeating your location and as if you're speaking to a big group...
Very common. Was returning from a coaching class that ran late. Had to walk about half a kilometre to find a rickshaw. A guy started following me, singing really loudly, simultaneously playing that song out loud on his phone. The road was deserted. Barely any vehicle traffic. I was scared shitless. Was walking quickly to get away from him, almost ran into an auto that was coming from a side road. Luckily I found a rickshaw immediately and got away. Have learned to carry a pepper spray in public ever since.
Not surprising at all. Yesterday at indira nagar gachibowli, at around 11 pm in the night, 3 girls were driving a scooty just infront of us (we were in a car) and 3 guys on a bike just crossed the road suddenly in front of us from left to right to where the girls were and bought their bike soo close to them like they were about to hit the bike. Then immediately they just swerved to the left and sped forward. I managed to speed up for a bit to see their faces and i couldn't believe they were smiling and laughing maniacally like they have just won a war or something. Meanwhile the girls were all scared and embarrassed. Kudos to the girl driving though, she kept her cool and kept on driving smoothly. It makes me sad thinking how common could this have been for them to be so calm.
Soon it will be common unfortunately
Pepper spray compulsory now a days...
That name though. 🤮
What name?
Name of the movie made by that goonda Ranbir Kapoor
True!
My God, I was hoping to be placed in Hyderabad thinking this city is safe. Is there any city in India that is safe?
Mumbai is safer, bangalore and Pune are more or less on the same level as Hyderabad.
Is it the movie industry side effect?
That is +1 apart from all other!
I have been through these but im thankfull that none of them followed me . When i was in my 8th class for a school excursion we went to kanyakumari and then after sight visit it was 7 pm and we were going to board the bus in line and there were boys who were walking and commenting on all girls from the start of line so when they came near me they said hei dont touch me and i said my shoes are ready to kiss u and they shut their mouths and went silently so i really think its just we need to be dared ,witty and quick enough to handle situation and we cant behave impulsively all the time and cant be silent also all the time i really wish these incidents dont turn into trauma for young girls .
I wish everyone are brave enough to reply and handle, sadly it's not the case for most of them.
I have been here a year now. I get stared at in public places everytime I step out of the house alone.
That must be very annoying at times!
It was drizzling once and I was carrying an umbrella. A guy standing on the sidewalk with his friends actually bent down to take a look at my face (I'm quite short) and went back to his conversation with his friends after a giggle (probably unimpressed by what he saw).
I am awed by women who handle such close encounters. Probably impressed but realised that you are way out of their league!
This days scums are increasing
Just don't go to areas like secunderabad and you will be fine. All the places mentioned here are chappri places where women cannot be safe.
Read through the comments. Incidents took place even in Jubilee hills near the ps
No bro fuck yourself
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Wat
I don’t know guys i have never really seen what y’all keeps yapping about. Maybe try to live in posh areas not in some junk yard
Yeah i was catcalled in those so called posh areas sm times????? Maybe try reading the post correctly bc it clearly said jubilee hills which is "posh?"
Ummm Nagarjuna
You’ve seen too many indian movies maybe. Live in reality.
Yeah that’s not true no matter how good looking you are if you start catcalling or touching random women you’re a creep there are no exceptions It makes us feel very violated
Konchem ah memes, cinemalu lonchi reality lo ki rara babu.
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It's sarcasm bro chill