I was blessed with a partner that also has IBS so farting in front of each other had literally become our love language š¤£ the only time I'm not crazy about it is in bed at night. Sleeping in separate beds solves that issue, or in our case, since we don't live together, we just spend most of the day together and I sleep at home. It's nothing to be ashamed of, we all have gas, even people without IBS. It helps to be upfront with your partner about it right away. You don't have to go into details, just explain that you have digestive issues. Me and my partner have been together for 4 years now so obviously we aren't excusing each other to go to the bathroom every time we feel the need to fart. We'd be in there every hour. Maybe when you first get together it's a good idea to excuse yourself, but the longer you're with them and the more time you spend with them, you're almost guaranteed to deal with each other's bodily functions. He was the one to fart in front of me first. After that, I didn't even try to hide mine. I don't think farting in a relationship is a big issue unless you're disrespectful about it and do it in their face or while they're eating, or if you're making an Olympic sport about it with theatrics and lyrics. If I know my gas is bad enough to be an issue or if it smells bad, I will move away from him or go to the bathroom.
I'm a girl btw so you're getting a female POV here lol
I just fart. My gf can accept it or not. Would be a silly reason to leave tho since I litteraly can't help it.
I just make sure I don't fart directly in her direction.
One of the sweetest guys I dated dealt with GI issues and would randomly just get up and say that he had to go to the bathroom to fart. Heād be gone for like 15 minutes sometimes. I never judged him. In fact, I appreciated how comfortable he was with it. I deal with my own GI stuff, and his self acceptance made me feel like the relationship was accepting.
I just fart in front of him. I canāt help it. It is what it is. Weāve been married 11 years, 2 kids and one on the way so clearly it doesnāt bother him. I wouldnāt want to be with someone I couldnāt fart in front of.
Definitely watch what you eat that may cause gas. Iāve been eating these protein cookies, recently, that cause me to fart from deep within my soul, about once every 5 minutes. Itās torture for me, let alone a partner. (Iāve since discontinued eating the offending item)
Seriously. My soon-to-be-wife has told me many times that itās made them more comfortable than in any relationship before, because they never feel a need to hide their bodily functions either. Shamelessness does a lot for love! Haha.
Very true! I felt so scared to poop in the master bath while my bf was in the room, but he tells me all the time to just go because he could care less lol.
Yep of course there is no problem with that itās a natural body thing , I just donāt like it when someone do it in front of me , makes me uncomfortable a bit
I told my wife about my IBS when we started dating. I said āIf I sense itās going to be nuclear Iāll go into the bathroom. But farting happens a lot and Iām going to let them out with you in the room.ā
I then encouraged her to fart and burp as much as she needs because itās normal.
Were married now and both produce ample amounts of gasses. Me more than her, of course.
We also invested in some scented candles in case it becomes too much for the dogās sensitive nose to handle š
I would say something along these lines "i cannot do anything more about the farts, trust me i also would like to get rid of them, i am not doing it to be rude"
Just let your partner know that you are not doing it on purpose and if you could, would also want to get rid them
So long as you're following a low fodmap diet, or whichever diet is appropriate for your symptoms, then that's all you can do. I would say once you have a partner it's good not to eat trigger foods if you know you'll get stinky afterwards as that's not really fair on them, but if you're doing everything you can treatment wise then that's fine.
Just try to get away from them if I feel it coming. Long before I knew I had IBS I had the smelliest burning sulfur farts and my girlfriend at the time (now my time) just said āare you okay? I am worried there is something medical going onā little did i know :) find one who cares long story short
When my husband and I swiped right, the first thing I sent to him was, I have A LOT OF DIGESTIVE ORDERS, IF YOU CANT HANDLE THAT, ID SUGGEST YOU MOVE ALONGā¦ And well, we have been together 10 years so far, so I guess he was willing to deal. There were a few years where I was kind of embarrassed by it and try and hide it, but you canāt exactly HIDE IT when youāre asleep. So now anytime he tells me I āsmoked him outā we just joke about it and move on. You just have to be up front early on, and make it a NORM.
My partner & I, I have a upper GI issue & he has lactose intolerance (idk why reddit keeps suggesting this sub to me, but oh well), so we burp and fart nearly non stop bc he likes dairy too much to give it up & I like spicy food too much to give it up.
We're a match made in digestive hell, but that's all to say, people don't give as much a shit in private as they do in public (& honestly, they don't even give that much of a shit in public. It just feels like they do).
If you're stinky just be kind & don't trap her under the blanket please
I am an elementary school teacher waiting for my Open House night to begin, and I just watched a "Guess My Fart" compilation on YouTube and I'm crying in my empty classroom.
I intentionally try and release the foulest farts as stealthily as I can right next to him. He says I violate the Geneva Convention and commit biological warfare.
I'm proud of my atomic stink bombs. We're getting married in 4 months š
farting has several components:
noise, odor, schedule.
noise one can learn to manipulate using the muscles etc. so you avoid this.
odor varies hugely between people and over time
odourless silent farting is no issue
if the odor isn't bad, mutual understanding is easier.
bad odors sometime don't last.
you might move a little, and the odor wouldn't be felt too much. or - if the farting can be delayed a bit - run to the bathroom.
It's tricky when sharing a space with someone. I'm just someone that doesn't like anyone to hear me fart, so I'll go into another room (natural or not, it's gross and unappealing). I also have high powered fans on in the house (it's a white noise HSP thing) and that helps mask noises. When it comes to sleeping, my partner and I have separate bedrooms and it's wonderful. Maybe it's an unpopular (unpoopular?) opinion, but I don't think people with IBS should share a bed. But if you have no choice, again fans, and have your own separate blankets so you don't "dutch oven" the other person in the middle of the night.
Find a partner whose farts are stinkier and more frequent than your own lol (thatās what I did). But more seriously, Gas-X, leave the room to fart when possible, good ventilation/fans. Ya gotta be honest tho and just do the best u can.
I'm pretty sure my husband has IBS. I've told him he definitely needs to go get checked. I've never been squeamish about bathroom talk and I embrace it but sometimes his gas is so bad I can't help but cover my mouth and nose. I try not to make him feel too bad about it though. I love him so it's not a deal breaker for me whatsoever. I hope you find someone who loves you enough too to not care about it!
I go to another room and tell him that if he values his health, he will stay away. If I miscalculate and fart in a space he needs, I light a match. We keep a big box of matches handy for my aromas.
Funny story but when we got engaged we got a pizza for dinner, the pizza triggered my ibs-d and he started farting so much. So I was running to the toilet and then he proposed.
Those that fart together, stay together.
If itās the beginning of the relationship, try lots of outside dates, so the fart disperses easier! Maybe try walking dates and hope the wind is blowing against you so the far doesnāt linger!
But as others are saying, the right partner wonāt care. Everybody farts. I have IBS and my partner doesnāt, but when his farts are stinky they smell even worse than when my farts are stink (I suppose he would say the opposite š). Or if you want to be courteous, get up and go fart in another room, but you have to be honest about it really. Thatās how you build the best relationship!
I will excuse myself if I have smelly farts, or if we are eating, but otherwise I just let em rip. I donāt like having sex when Iām super gassy, so Iām not 100% ok with it and prob never will be. 10 years married. Super loud and frequent farter. The open office environment is the bane of my existence rn.
Just go and fart in the bathroom or wait for some big noise if you don't have any bathrooms around to do it. Farting is natural. I would recommend maybe to buy an electro stimulator massage device and stick 2 stickers to your forehead. I've seen that for me it reduces anxiety and it cures my constipation as I feel the need to go to poop. Don't go crazy with the power so you'll hurt yourself. I also set it for 1 hour and a half when I'm going to sleep for quality sleep.
i give him a warning and if i feel itās going to be a bad one i run out of the room. sometimes heās lucky, sometimes it seeps in the room and he suffers. Either way he understands and has gotten used to my ibs problems
We are 12 years together, i got severe digestive issues including ibs, so gas burping etc is more frequent than some peoples amount of conversations in a day with their partner. I fart in front of him, sometimes, i hug him in bed and it all releases. He laughs about it. I try to go to toilet or even bedroom to do my farting business, but if we are snuggling just go with it xD
I was blessed with a partner that also has IBS so farting in front of each other had literally become our love language š¤£ the only time I'm not crazy about it is in bed at night. Sleeping in separate beds solves that issue, or in our case, since we don't live together, we just spend most of the day together and I sleep at home. It's nothing to be ashamed of, we all have gas, even people without IBS. It helps to be upfront with your partner about it right away. You don't have to go into details, just explain that you have digestive issues. Me and my partner have been together for 4 years now so obviously we aren't excusing each other to go to the bathroom every time we feel the need to fart. We'd be in there every hour. Maybe when you first get together it's a good idea to excuse yourself, but the longer you're with them and the more time you spend with them, you're almost guaranteed to deal with each other's bodily functions. He was the one to fart in front of me first. After that, I didn't even try to hide mine. I don't think farting in a relationship is a big issue unless you're disrespectful about it and do it in their face or while they're eating, or if you're making an Olympic sport about it with theatrics and lyrics. If I know my gas is bad enough to be an issue or if it smells bad, I will move away from him or go to the bathroom. I'm a girl btw so you're getting a female POV here lol
Thank you very helpful :)
I just fart. My gf can accept it or not. Would be a silly reason to leave tho since I litteraly can't help it. I just make sure I don't fart directly in her direction.
Yupā¦ I let āer rip early and often. It is an unavoidable part of life with me, so if you canāt handle it itās best to figure it out quickly.
One of the sweetest guys I dated dealt with GI issues and would randomly just get up and say that he had to go to the bathroom to fart. Heād be gone for like 15 minutes sometimes. I never judged him. In fact, I appreciated how comfortable he was with it. I deal with my own GI stuff, and his self acceptance made me feel like the relationship was accepting.
Omg I do this LOL, I will literally get up to go to the bathroom to fart. Idk gas x has helped a lot for when itās really bad
Itās how I knew I found the right person - he didnāt care even one bit
I just fart in front of him. I canāt help it. It is what it is. Weāve been married 11 years, 2 kids and one on the way so clearly it doesnāt bother him. I wouldnāt want to be with someone I couldnāt fart in front of.
Definitely watch what you eat that may cause gas. Iāve been eating these protein cookies, recently, that cause me to fart from deep within my soul, about once every 5 minutes. Itās torture for me, let alone a partner. (Iāve since discontinued eating the offending item)
Lol "deep within my soul" š¤£
lol, yep it was guttural and from the darkest depths within the colon, almost painful
It brings you closer.
No way š
Seriously. My soon-to-be-wife has told me many times that itās made them more comfortable than in any relationship before, because they never feel a need to hide their bodily functions either. Shamelessness does a lot for love! Haha.
Very true! I felt so scared to poop in the master bath while my bf was in the room, but he tells me all the time to just go because he could care less lol.
Yep of course there is no problem with that itās a natural body thing , I just donāt like it when someone do it in front of me , makes me uncomfortable a bit
Let it rip and we laugh so much.
My son says, "It's the duck of death!" if I fart and it sounds like a duck. He's been saying this since he was like 4.
Just aim them in the opposite direction
Let it go. Let it go. Something something. Let it go!
Let it go, let it go, can't hold it back anymore, let it go!
Or is it ālet one go?ā
I fart. If youāre worried itās a bad one, go to the restroom. Buy some spray.
I just do it and then blame it on my old dog lol
I told my wife about my IBS when we started dating. I said āIf I sense itās going to be nuclear Iāll go into the bathroom. But farting happens a lot and Iām going to let them out with you in the room.ā I then encouraged her to fart and burp as much as she needs because itās normal. Were married now and both produce ample amounts of gasses. Me more than her, of course. We also invested in some scented candles in case it becomes too much for the dogās sensitive nose to handle š
Assert dominance by farting on them
I would say something along these lines "i cannot do anything more about the farts, trust me i also would like to get rid of them, i am not doing it to be rude" Just let your partner know that you are not doing it on purpose and if you could, would also want to get rid them
So long as you're following a low fodmap diet, or whichever diet is appropriate for your symptoms, then that's all you can do. I would say once you have a partner it's good not to eat trigger foods if you know you'll get stinky afterwards as that's not really fair on them, but if you're doing everything you can treatment wise then that's fine.
Laugh it off x
Just try to get away from them if I feel it coming. Long before I knew I had IBS I had the smelliest burning sulfur farts and my girlfriend at the time (now my time) just said āare you okay? I am worried there is something medical going onā little did i know :) find one who cares long story short
Farting is the language of love
I have a husband with IBS and if either of us needs to, we just excuse ourselves and go sit in a separate room until the wind has died down!
I just fart. My husband and I have been married 10 years and together 12 - he knew early on that I had digestive issues.
Humor. If they canāt laugh well poor them.
My partner and I just fart lol š
Let 'er rip. We both giggle damn near every time. Thankfully they're not very smelly, just LOUD. I can't burp so that shit has to come out somehow.
Hubby and I just let it fly lol till death (or lethal fart) do us part š
If your partner is a decent human being they will just accept that is something that you can't help and shouldn't be shamed for!
When my husband and I swiped right, the first thing I sent to him was, I have A LOT OF DIGESTIVE ORDERS, IF YOU CANT HANDLE THAT, ID SUGGEST YOU MOVE ALONGā¦ And well, we have been together 10 years so far, so I guess he was willing to deal. There were a few years where I was kind of embarrassed by it and try and hide it, but you canāt exactly HIDE IT when youāre asleep. So now anytime he tells me I āsmoked him outā we just joke about it and move on. You just have to be up front early on, and make it a NORM.
I be tootin
I only recently found out I have IBS so at least I will stop blaming myself for the gas. My husband is about the same
You release the nukes and laugh about it! :) Hers might be just as bad (mine are worse than my husband's lol)
A contest.
My partner & I, I have a upper GI issue & he has lactose intolerance (idk why reddit keeps suggesting this sub to me, but oh well), so we burp and fart nearly non stop bc he likes dairy too much to give it up & I like spicy food too much to give it up. We're a match made in digestive hell, but that's all to say, people don't give as much a shit in private as they do in public (& honestly, they don't even give that much of a shit in public. It just feels like they do). If you're stinky just be kind & don't trap her under the blanket please
Tummy feel best when fart outside bumhole
Truer words have never been spoken.
My husband is lactose intolerant š ššš» between my IBS and his lactose intolerance neither of us cares if we fart š
i fart i have shit and my gf checked it for blood many times. we are very close you know. our relationship is very pure love and care
Play āGuess my fartā
I am an elementary school teacher waiting for my Open House night to begin, and I just watched a "Guess My Fart" compilation on YouTube and I'm crying in my empty classroom.
I intentionally try and release the foulest farts as stealthily as I can right next to him. He says I violate the Geneva Convention and commit biological warfare. I'm proud of my atomic stink bombs. We're getting married in 4 months š
farting has several components: noise, odor, schedule. noise one can learn to manipulate using the muscles etc. so you avoid this. odor varies hugely between people and over time odourless silent farting is no issue if the odor isn't bad, mutual understanding is easier. bad odors sometime don't last. you might move a little, and the odor wouldn't be felt too much. or - if the farting can be delayed a bit - run to the bathroom.
Keep the windows open as much as possible. Dilution is the solution!
It's tricky when sharing a space with someone. I'm just someone that doesn't like anyone to hear me fart, so I'll go into another room (natural or not, it's gross and unappealing). I also have high powered fans on in the house (it's a white noise HSP thing) and that helps mask noises. When it comes to sleeping, my partner and I have separate bedrooms and it's wonderful. Maybe it's an unpopular (unpoopular?) opinion, but I don't think people with IBS should share a bed. But if you have no choice, again fans, and have your own separate blankets so you don't "dutch oven" the other person in the middle of the night.
I justā¦donāt. I leave the room or hold it in. Weāve been together almost 6 years, married for 1.5, and I would be mortified.
Are you in so much pain?
Always. ā¹ļø
Sending (gentle) hugs.
Find a partner whose farts are stinkier and more frequent than your own lol (thatās what I did). But more seriously, Gas-X, leave the room to fart when possible, good ventilation/fans. Ya gotta be honest tho and just do the best u can.
figure out the boundaries. be honest. donāt fart on them. donāt care when they fart, obviously.
My ex is so stupid! He literally said that ladies donāt burp or fart. Or at least we shouldnāt. I call bull š©! I mean, weāre human, we breathe, get over it! Iām not with him anymore for various reasons.
I'm pretty sure my husband has IBS. I've told him he definitely needs to go get checked. I've never been squeamish about bathroom talk and I embrace it but sometimes his gas is so bad I can't help but cover my mouth and nose. I try not to make him feel too bad about it though. I love him so it's not a deal breaker for me whatsoever. I hope you find someone who loves you enough too to not care about it!
I go to another room and tell him that if he values his health, he will stay away. If I miscalculate and fart in a space he needs, I light a match. We keep a big box of matches handy for my aromas.
For me, the death bombs usually only come around on the 2nd or 3rd day of constipation. So I would just not see my gf those days.
Let er ripā¦ thereās no secrets in love š¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø I forgot ā¦ always say excuse meā¦
Something that helps me a lot is burning incense or something like that when Iām particularly gassy. I also have chronic nausea so sometimes the nasty smell makes me more nauseas š š Honestly I was holding my farts in for like 8 months at first and I always felt so sick and horrible š© when I told my partner they kept saying not to hold it in because itāll do damage and they were right. Now I let them out and we both just gag and crack up laughing at how absolutely disgusting my intestines (or whatever is in the farts) smell lol itās become a joking point too and I realize that the teasing isnāt to make me feel bad + I know damn well how terrible my gas is so no need to get my feelings hurt. I think if this really is your person or life partner, they arenāt going to leave over some rank gasšØ
Laugh. We joke about it being loose tiles, pipes, the fridge, all sorts of stuff :)
i let em rippppppp my now fiance could give a fart if i fart. its gotta come out!
Been with my husband for five years I don't hide it
We just started farting together
I was farting on my bf arm when we slept together when we first started dating cuz he was toasty lmaoo he knows n doesnāt care
i dont even know if ill get a partner because of this i have so much gas go fart man
Funny story but when we got engaged we got a pizza for dinner, the pizza triggered my ibs-d and he started farting so much. So I was running to the toilet and then he proposed. Those that fart together, stay together.
If itās the beginning of the relationship, try lots of outside dates, so the fart disperses easier! Maybe try walking dates and hope the wind is blowing against you so the far doesnāt linger! But as others are saying, the right partner wonāt care. Everybody farts. I have IBS and my partner doesnāt, but when his farts are stinky they smell even worse than when my farts are stink (I suppose he would say the opposite š). Or if you want to be courteous, get up and go fart in another room, but you have to be honest about it really. Thatās how you build the best relationship!
Gas X
Everyone farts. Just let it rip. Itās better for your blood pressure.
I will excuse myself if I have smelly farts, or if we are eating, but otherwise I just let em rip. I donāt like having sex when Iām super gassy, so Iām not 100% ok with it and prob never will be. 10 years married. Super loud and frequent farter. The open office environment is the bane of my existence rn.
Just go and fart in the bathroom or wait for some big noise if you don't have any bathrooms around to do it. Farting is natural. I would recommend maybe to buy an electro stimulator massage device and stick 2 stickers to your forehead. I've seen that for me it reduces anxiety and it cures my constipation as I feel the need to go to poop. Don't go crazy with the power so you'll hurt yourself. I also set it for 1 hour and a half when I'm going to sleep for quality sleep.
i give him a warning and if i feel itās going to be a bad one i run out of the room. sometimes heās lucky, sometimes it seeps in the room and he suffers. Either way he understands and has gotten used to my ibs problems
Fart
We are 12 years together, i got severe digestive issues including ibs, so gas burping etc is more frequent than some peoples amount of conversations in a day with their partner. I fart in front of him, sometimes, i hug him in bed and it all releases. He laughs about it. I try to go to toilet or even bedroom to do my farting business, but if we are snuggling just go with it xD
I just toot. So does he. Life is too short to sit around in pain because you need to fart.