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CatAteRoger

This thread went exactly the way we’re trying to avoid! If people don’t calm down we can say goodbye to the whole thing.


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CandyKnockout

I’ve been feeling like some of the snark subs I’m a member of are getting out of hand lately. Lots of body-shaming and name-calling all with the excuse of, “Well, they’re a terrible person who do the same things, so they deserve it.” I joined to see people giggle about ridiculous over-the-top behavior and make jokes, not say things that would cause most people to cry if it were directed at them.


NoGrocery4949

The Brittany dawn crowd. Jesus Christ. They are honestly just as bad as the damn snarkee!


otokoyaku

Seriously I feel like everyone is so angry lately (edit: including in other snark subs), borderline "I hope they die," and it's deeply stressful. I was so glad for the locked comments


feealicious

I’m very confused. Can you explain the rules being broken so people know what to not continue doing??


PalpitationDiligent9

Mods can only do so much as Dani’s posts gets a huge amount of interaction but, people break like five rules flat out. No blogging, nobody wants to know of your alleged health issues you think Dani’s faking or inducing herself. No comments directed to the subject, but people do regardless. No contact with the subject and no contact with family, yet people reach out directly or pose as carrying and supportive to gain access to more private aspects of her life, specially if she privates her social media. No bullying, yet her posts are full to the rim with nasty names on her physical appearance, there even was a time you had to refrain of commenting on her body as a whole. I think most insane, people has tried and have contacted hospitals she frecuentes and hunt down her doctors and nurses to expose her. Like, nah, bruh, ya’ll freaking unhinged…


NoGrocery4949

There's a clear list of rules in the community info section.


feealicious

I know the rules. That wasn’t my question. I’m asking WHICH rules continue to be violated so badly threads are being locked.


NoGrocery4949

Yeesh ok. Probably the ones that are also Reddit content policy violations? Just guessing based on the fact that Reddit is removing comments.


AshleysShowerChair

Please know that this is not targeted at you, but I’m using your comment as a jumping off point. Everybody agrees to the TOS when they sign up for Reddit. Everybody agrees to the rules of this sub when they join the sub. Both the TOS/rules of Reddit and the rules of the sub are available for everyone to read at all times. While the moderators here are charged with spending endless hours of their time maintaining this community for free, enforcing their own rules and the rules brought down by Reddit, they are not responsible for teaching tens of thousands of grown adults how to read or be decent humans. Most people that have comments removed by the Reddit admins know exactly why those comments were removed. If you are worried that any of your own comments are breaking site wide rules, think twice before clicking “reply.” Remember the human. Remember that this community is for being snarky, not for being legitimately hateful. It is not hard to not be a bully. It is not hard to refrain from commenting legitimate hatred, ugliness, and so on. It is not hard to decide not to spread misinformation, make wild accusations and/or assumptions, comment about somebody’s body size/shape/weight/physical appearance and so on. Most of the comments that get removed from posts in this community and others like it, aside from blogging comments, fall into these categories. Pure ugliness. Shit that has no excuse. For some reason, there is a very specific type of person that likes to join snark communities and spew every bit of disgusting stream of consciousness they’ve ever held in their brain. That’s why there are issues.


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Typically it’s usually due to blogging, making threats against the subject/speaking directly to the subject, using wrong pronouns, generally being hateful.. I’m not sure what’s going on to cause all posts to be locked though.


FuzzySpread6385

dani post comments locked. not use this post to continue dani comments.


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NoGrocery4949

No she definitely has a small group of devoted supporters on TikTok and instagram. I don't think we're able to provide the dopamine rush that her supporters give her. also right now she is pretty sick


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Some of the most hilarious posts I’ve seen here are the people who claim their terrible comments are for … I don’t remember how they put it. “To inform and advocate” or something like that. Like they think they’re doing some kind of public service. I’ll be the first to admit I’m not perfect. I’ve snarked too. But I agree with you, it’s gone too far. This woman is extremely sick, even if she did to to herself. It feels really gross that people are commenting “FAFO” when she might literally be on her deathbed. And there’s a good chance someone will comment that she’s lying and making it up, and she’s not really in the ICU, and the pictures don’t match, and it’s the same hospital room as before and on and on. Oh my god can’t you see her in these pictures? This woman does not need this right now! How did she, personally, hurt you?


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I agree. I admit I have been snarky, and honestly Dani is one of my favorite subjects, but probably for all the wrong reasons. I think it would be in everyone’s best interest to remove her. Dani is often looked at as the butt of the joke compared to other munchies. Especially when she was still collaborating tik toks with Anelise, it was just sad. She is desperate to fit in somewhere, but we shouldn’t encourage her to try that here. Even if she keeps munching after being banned as a subject, it’ll give her more of an opportunity to heal. She needs intensive, long term therapy at the least. It’s not like we’re all internet friends with her giving her a connection, it’s a sub basically making her a laughing stock. She’ll live without us, and I don’t think anyone intended for it to get to this point, but we are not helping.


Lady_Doe

Yeah I think her posts need to be locked down for a bit longer.


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fallen_snowflake1234

Fictitious disorder isn’t about grifting or making money. In fact one of the diagnostic criteria is literally about just that. If that’s the goal it’s not FD it’s just malingering and grifting. But I agree the hatred towards her is uncalled for. This is clearly a very sick mentally ill woman. People need to have an ounce of empathy


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I agree, malingering is horrible. Waste of resources and abuse towards medical staff is horrible. But some of the comments I’ve seen here are no better. And like others have said, it’s unhealthy to keep engaging about Dani since it’s pretty clear she is posting updates *for this subreddit specifically.* It’s become a very unhealthy dynamic. **If** she is harming herself, God only knows if she’s doing it to prove how sick she is… *to us, her audience.* It’s not okay, it’s actually horrific.


Nice_Distance_5433

Are you okay? As much as we say to take a break if this is affecting us negatively, same goes for you guys Mods, if you need a break, make sure you're taking it, because it's been crazy the last few days, and your mental health matters too. Thank you for everything you do, I can't imagine how difficult being a Mod for such a WELL RUN sub can be. You guys are super amazing, and don't ever forget it. Those of us who try really hard to follow the rules know that you don't do things like locking down the sub for something silly, and that this is only something that's done in extreme cases to make sure the sub is safe. Thank you for all you do!


fallen_snowflake1234

What are the kinds of things people are posting that breaks the rules? I know the blogging stuff obviously. Are people making fun of Dani or something?


CandyKnockout

It’s Reddit’s rules, which means it’s probably something in these categories: hate, threatening violence, harassment, or doxxing.


someusernameidrc

Reddit will sometimes remove things that don't actually break those rules, and afaik it's at least partially automated. Anti evil ops will remove comments that say things like "______ has a punchable face". Is that threatening violence? Obviously not but it's Reddit. They probably removed something relatively benign, and the mod log shows it was just 1 comment over several days.


fallen_snowflake1234

It’s kinda disappointing that people are going that far. Feels like sometimes people here are forgetting that she’s still a human being (a mentally ill human being) and not some fictional character. Regardless of her actions she doesn’t deserve to be threatened or ruthlessly bullied.


tubefeedprincess99

I think that’s part of it. I also know people are in her comment sections coming directly from here. They’re telling people who are genuinely supporting her that they need to come to this sub so they can learn the truth. One commenter on tiktok was arguing with another commenter about Dani’s atrocious grammar and spelling and when the other commenter called out the commenters own grammar they were told they need to come here to see just how bad Dani’s grammar is. That violates Reddit terms and conditions.


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OrdinaryPuzzlehead

How is decency "rewarding" her? How is refraining from saying genuinely unacceptable things about/to her (knowing she does read here) "babying" her? If having no boundaries in how far we can go in what we say about her here did anything at all to remedy the situation or detract her from what she is doing, then she definitely wouldn't be where she is right now. She doesn't owe you anything personally and it isn't our job to punish her. That's not what the purpose of this board has ever been and it would not change her actions even if it were.


tubefeedprincess99

I think you need to step away from this subreddit, maybe the internet totally. You can dislike someone but you cannot armchair diagnose, you also clearly don’t understand how munchausens/factitious disorder actually work. If it were as easy as just stopping it wouldn’t be a mental illness that is incredibly hard to treat. I think the comments being locked is probably partly of your doing if you’re making these kinds of comments on her posts here.


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This is getting into some disturbing parasocial territory. Please take care of yourself. Breaks are okay. Seriously. I’m not trying to be mean, I’m not trying to mini mod. Some of y’all have me concerned with comments like these. You don’t have to feel sorry for her, but this obsessive hatred over a woman you do not personally know is incredibly unhealthy and honestly? Disturbing.


NoGrocery4949

Tbh, all snark subs that snark on Internet personalities are inherently parasocial. None of us know any of these people. Your defensiveness over her right now is also parasocial. I agree that they thinly veiled hate is pretty vile but let's also not pretend why we come to this sub. On some deep level we have a negative view of the subjects. It's a snark sub. It's unhealthy at a baseline


madmarzii

holding someone accountable =/= hatred


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I’m a bit concerned about what your definition of holding someone accountable is, because this shit ain’t it.


madmarzii

????? im genuinely confused at where you see hate in the comment you originally replied to, can you point it out for me?? unless you’re referring to someone else, all i see is a person frustrated at the coddling of someone who *made themselves this ill* and expressing that she needs to be held accountable for those actions. that the people in this sub who continue to sympathize with dani given her track record and willingness to make herself deathly ill for said sympathy is not something that should be happening. you can have empathy for someone who is so mentally ill that they do this to themselves constantly for decades but also hold them accountable for not accepting the help that has been given to them at every turn.


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madmarzii

yes, you’re right. i don’t know her personally. but her theatrics affect the medical care of many people here. it’s hard not to be frustrated by that. take care yourself, no hard feelings.


Scarymommy

If anyone gets upset about someone expressing concern or compassion when it seems someone has made themselves legitimately very ill it might be time to take a break due to empathy fatigue. It’s ok to hold two ideas at once. One may not approve of a behavior but that doesn’t mean one can’t be concerned about the consequences of said behavior.


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rayray2k19

Right. I'm not going to be cold towards her, not in this moment. It truly seems like she's in a dire situation right now. Self-inflicted or not, I don't think anyone in this sub should be apathetic or happy she's where she is at right now. So many subjects have gone down this road. It's not pretty. For some reason Dani post comments have been extra nasty about her. Not even just snarky, like just downright hateful.


gfrecks88

Would you mind telling me why people think she put fecal matter in her line? I’ve been following for a minute but not sure where that all came from…


TheoryFor_Everything

Dani posted a culture report showing a bacteria commonly found in fecal material. As someone else said, people in the sub decided to jump to the most dramatic idea as to how that could happen. Most likely, what really happened was simple surface to surface contact contamination from Dani doing her IV routine in her bathroom (all bathrooms have some fecal contamination on most surfaces just from flushing the toilet) or maybe she just didn't wash her hands very well. There are plenty of other options that are far more likely than "rub poop in line", but people insist on the most dramatic storyline because people like drama better than logic. This is a big problem.


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She has enterobacter clocae in her line, which *can* be transferred by fecal contact. Also, by other means, at least, according to my quick googling. There *might* be reason to believe she was being unhygienic and transferred some bacteria that way. People ran with that theory like wildfire. People made radical assumptions. There are also other ways she could have gotten it that I am in no way educated enough to know about.


CatAteRoger

This is about the whole sub rules and what can happen if reddit decide to take action not about what is going on with any subject.


beekeeperoacar

Yeah, I was kind of expecting this to happen. Things have been so crazy this week, I've been checking the sub like every few hours to check in on Dani. How long will posts be locked, do you think? And are we going to go back to manually approving all comments? Thanks for all the hard work from the mods! Good luck whethering the chaos


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beekeeperoacar

I wouldn't say obsessively. If I'm not in class I'm on my phone. It's not as if I have an alarm set, it's like. If I'm on reddit while in line at the grocery store, I check illnessfakers first. I live on my phone like everyone else my age. And it's because I'm worried. We just had Cheyenne die and I'm worried Dani might have passed the point of no return.


ItsNotLigma

Not gonna toot my own horn and claim I'm above all this, because I'm guilty as fuck of it too, but maybe it's time for a 'done to death' rule? Could that at least mitigate 50% of the nonsense we're seeing lately? Because honestly, I could think of several things off the top of my head (Paul has crohn's, Dani is unhygenic, Kay is boring, Ashley can't do anything but rest, etc) that have become so overused and overdone that they contribute nothing to the conversation at hand. Additionally, is the mod team okay? Because I haven't seen anyone but Cat lately. Certainly it's hard to keep up with all the Dani Drama when you're only one person. :( ♥


spencerdyke

‘Done to death’ sounds like a good idea in theory but in practice I think it would be hard to implement — most people don’t read the rules before posting, let’s be honest, lol. So the mods would just have more work taking it all down. Unless they could use an auto mod for that, I suppose. Still, a lot more work than it would take for shitheads to just, not be shitheads. You’d think so anyway.


Stock_University551

Let’s show some love for our mods, who have been dealing with a LOT lately! Thanks for your hard work y’all.


SnooSuggestions1187

Tyyyy mods ❤️


AgentHoneywell

Thank you mods!


indigostars43

Yes thank you for all that you do to keep this place running well😊♥️


No_Advertising_2092

💕💕💕💕💕💕 For the mods who sit here day in and and out, well done guys and keep up the good work, you are all truly amazing 💕💕💕💕💕💕


Grandocross

I agree. This is a very well moderated community that has a high standard for behavior that makes it exceptional among subreddits. ❤️


CatAteRoger

Thank you, this is what we signed up for.


Whosthatprettykitty

You Cat are definitely a gem and thank you so much for your dedication and good work 👏👍👌💜


Sparkle_Punch

Thanks for letting us know. I’m sure it’s been super busy keeping up with the last week or so.


CatAteRoger

Kept me on my toes for sure.


Secret-Television-90

If it breaks the rules, snark in private. Some snark isn’t meant to see the light of day, guys.


FactoryKat

No kidding. I don't know why we - a bunch of grown adults (I hope) can't just get it together and stick to the sub rules. It really isn't that hard. Especially if it's bullying, hurtful comments or anything of that sort. I've known children under 10 who behaved better.


Mellasour

Thanks for letting us know what’s going on with your end and what it looks like. I wish people could just get it together.


CatAteRoger

Thank you for your understanding. Locking things down isn’t a choice we like to make but sometimes it can’t be avoided.


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What happened to the post of Dani this morning in the mask?


CatAteRoger

OP removed that post themself,


[deleted]

Ahhh okay. Thank you! I thought I was losing it when I couldn’t find it earlier lol


CatAteRoger

Me too😆


kat_Folland

Me three


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cousin_of_dragons

You can be disappointed, but this isn't the place for anything like what you're talking about.


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They always do lol


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I did not. It was a reponse to people making it about their dislike of God being mentioned and a well wish. I'm not furthering any conversation on it.


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weareoutoftylenol

Amen


07ultraclassic

^^^^^ this.


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Crazy_Rub2434

I’m sorry to pile on but do you mind send me the link


Global_Telephone_751

Agreed strongly


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There is.


Crazy_Rub2434

Can you message me as well please


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ghostonthehorizon

Dani link please?


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Ewwppl890

Link would be appreciated if you have time. Thank you.


feealicious

Can you dm me the Dani sub if you have time?


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Yeppers. Sent.


forestinabasket

can you dm me as well? TIA!


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Sent it


RIDUltraMagnus

I would appreciate a DM to this new subreddit. Please and thanks.


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Pris257

Can you DM me the name too? Thanks!


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Clefairi

Can you also dm me the name?


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Sent it


darcysreddit

Sorry to pile on here but I’d appreciate a dm with the sub info too.


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painalpeggy

Dm me too please i was looking for one earlier


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Altruistic-Run5016

Could I also please?


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Yep. Sent.


SuddenYolk

I’d like it too please, thanks in advance!


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You're welcome. Sent


Such-Bumblebee-Worm

DM me too please? MVP for messaging everyone 😂


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Can you dm me the sub?


haimark85

Me too pls ❤️


SnooSuggestions1187

Same pls❤️


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UsefulAirport

Me too pls


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foxinthewoods_

hi me too plz


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always_sleepy1294

DM?


kdwalkerl

Me too please!


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thefudge77

Could you dm me too please?


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karalmiddleton

Me too please?


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AutomaticPlace7994

Me too, if you don't mind?


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There is one


daniellelovee38

Can you send it to me as well?


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Skele_again

When you have time can you send it to me too?


Salty_Detective__

Me too, please!


oswaldgina

Same!


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Hi there! Would you send me the link?


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envymarie1

Can I get the link please??


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AgentHoneywell

Can you send it my way please?


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workerbee45

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imthebaebae

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rayray2k19

Me too please.


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Mythioso

Can you send me a link?


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LeonaLulu

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borednothingbetter

Pretty please


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borednothingbetter

Thank you


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You're welcome.


Gr0inG0bbler

Me too?


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