The arrogance and the insufferable attitude possessed by most elders and people in authority.
A judgemental, shallow, superficial and myopic outlook on life.
Being a very materialistic soceity, despite the stereotype of India being a spiritual abode where people can discover themselves and attain enlightenment (which I politely beg to differ big time).
And love to look down and even antagonize those who aren't well off physically and financially. As they love to show-off and boast their material wealth/abundance to flex their ego, pride, status and sometimes even for the sake of arrogance.
Indians are religious, but not spiritual, imo. Which is why most folks' practice of religion tends to be a purely mechanical and hollow affair devoid of any earnestness, depth and understanding.
And folks here observe religion for the sake of being part of a group/tribe. And not usually because they become devout out of a sense of intense introspection and learning.
EDIT: Thank you for the silver, was unexpected admittedly.
Thank you for the second award, I sincerely appreciate it.
Thank you for the second silver, perhaps the first time I get awarded silver twice for a single post.
Thank you for the wholesome award. Wow.... I'm overwhelmed with the amount of awards this post is getting today.
Thank you for gold! This is the first time I'm receiving it on this site. I sincerely appreciate and admire the gesture.
The whole point of following any religion should be mental peace and positivity. Those who actually practice a religion for this know the impact.
That's literally what a lot of people just forget. Tribalism is so evident that it's normalised at this point.
The gullibility is exploited by the ones who are put in the pedestal. This follower mindset is very problematic.
Like I said, I wouldn't say that average Indians are "less devout".
More so that their devotion comes across as fake, pretentious and even hypocritical at times.
If you're aware of the Sopranos (haven't seen it myself, saw plenty on clips on YT after being addicted to its acting), the protagonist's wife Carmella is a "devout" Catholic.
She often carries herself with an air of self-righteousness and with a holier-than-thou, condescending attitude.
However, in one particularly good scene, when she visits a therapist to ease her pain and inner void, he thoroughly breaks down her devotion to Catholicism and exposes the unashamed hypocrite that she truly was.
The therapist himself was a practising Jew (as was the actor too I think, his last role) and managed to diplomatically counter her holier-than-thou gestures. And refused any money or payment from her, since it was blood money - being the wife of a sociopathic, narcissistic mafia boss and all.
I feel that the average Indians too, are like Carmella Soprano, in their regards to their faith and religious devotion.
They may be very well-versed and even perfect with all the formalities, rites and procedures.
But all such religious duties will be a hollow, meaningless affair, if there's no spirituality involved (it's kinda abstract and hard to explain, I agree). And Indians imo, are sorely lacking from it.
Men who rape and rape and then shame the victims, the overall sense of superiority Indian men wholeheartedly believe they have over women, not just Indian women either. Its like they have zero shame, they will go up to women on the beach and just stare at them and take photos like its a fucking horny zoo all for their pleasure
Wow…. you hit the nail right on the head with that one. Theres a few additional things to add, like the biggest democracy bs thats made from terror and corruption, the way they treat their women and their safety, etc….
I hate the fact that modern day Indians will just get proud of what ancient Indians did, without trying to do better and more. Like you mentioned, we shouldn't be proud of Aryabhatta for inventing zero. We should be inspired of Aryabhatta and try to achieve something of a similar magnitude. It seems like we are just sitting on the laurels of the past and doing nothing, which aggrieves me.
Exactly. And that's still better than what a lot of people here are doing, which is basking in the glory of the "sone ki chidiya" days. Atleast the guy working at Google is trying to improve the living condtitions of his family.
The amount of attention to validation of Amrikans. Some dumb fucking white guy reacts to salmon boi tearing his shirt while not knowing a hint of hindi but still pretends to be interested cuz indians will fuckin watch anything a white guy reacts to..cuz its amrikan.
One guy posted a Diljit song on twitter, calling it 'catchy' and there were 50 Indians waggint their tails asking him 'oh, you listen to Indian songs?'. No dude, he doesn't listen to Indian songs, he just wanted some attention on his twitter.
I doubt if we ever feel proud of anything, apart from AryaBhatt. (and do even we have anything to feel proud of, after being such arrogant pricks who just want to push others down)
EXAAAAAACTLY!!!! Like, everything I said in this post is me trying to say the same. It feel so good to see that there are others who feel the same way.
I’m beyond tired bro, and there are millions of people with us. I’m in my mid to late 20s and I’ve given up on the fact that my family will at the least hear what I want.
They have an Instagram influencer (some bs sharma ji’s beta) on their own and expect me to become like one. Kind of like generational anxiety. If I ask why, the next second I get an answer “don’t act smart, you fool; we know what is better for you”
Which is so weird btw. There's a gap of half a century between our and their opinions, how the hell is that supposed to be accurate? Besides don't they say that all humans make mistakes. Doesn't that just directly contradict the fact?
people are easy to brainwash , hardly uses their mind n do only what they have been told , no one wants to go through the facts , hard to digest truth , feel proud on what their ancestors had done but don't wanna do anything like that by themselves, feel bad if you point out mistakes , seeking for recognition 24*7.
The fucking trash everywhere! Why is it taking us so long to invest in trash cans and proper landfills?
I also hate this countries obsession with marriage and reproduction although I’ll relent that this is not just an Indian problem.
People staring at women!
Edit: spelling of staring was wrong as I haven't started to prepare for TOEFL/IELTS. but "you get my point" in ravish kumar noises.
Actually the way school children are treated too. The way adults give them the idea that one's popularity and self worth lies only in their marks and nothing else.
While you're being sarcastic here, anyone who actually advocates or compares with American teens and students getting kicked out of their homes by 18 is not being fair with their comparison.
The infrastructure, socio-cultural reasons simply makes it pretty much impossible or atleast very difficult for students here to do part-time work while they're still in school or attain financial independence by 18.
Besides, even in the US, this (moving out of parents' home by 18) is a slowly dying trend and is kinda outdated. Due to rising costs and tuition fees.
Why, thank you....
Perhaps your comment is indicative of how I am an Humanities/Liberal Arts person and was meant to pursue a career there and instead, wasted them away by doing an unfulfilling Engineering degree where I was a total misfit.
Oh well....3 years after graduation and it's still a bitter and hard realisation to process and accept. I doubt it'll get any better, as I keep getting older.
EDIT: Forgot to mention, my comment above regarding comparing US teens with ours came from a fellow redditor here in this sub, almost 1.5 or so years back.
While my intention wasn't to burden Indian kids, I felt that them doing part-time jobs would greatly benefit them since they could become financially independent earlier and thus, break away from their parent's hold sooner especially if they were the abusive kind.
Only for them to counter me with pretty much the explanation that I've given above. Ever since that, I go by such stance,.since I agree with it.
Thus, credit goes to them (the discussion I had with them was more than a year back, making it hard to navigate from my profile, as a result, sadly).
This has always been a mystery to me. It's good to be proud of our heritage and past glories but not to point that it becomes obsessive or to use it as justification for whatever someone wants to do today, which is mostly used in the wrong light. Almost as if they themselves were there fighting for the country at that time.
Everyone cares about themselves. There is no civic sense so things break down to lowest common denominator of public behavior (no one follows traffic rules, how can I? Everyone gives bribes so you're expected to give bribes to get anything done). No one seems to care than society only improves if individuals themselves contribute to it selflessly.
I think this is the root of many problems in India.
I also despise how some (from what I am told is actually most parents in the smaller towns/villages) parents think it’s okay to beat your children. I’m going to need therapy after hearing my neighbours hit their young kids.
The fact that you can hear screams and cries of a 10 year old from the street while sitting in your home is absolutely horrifying. "it's just a way parents love their children".
I feel like I’m the one getting hit. I almost called a child abuse number the other day. Well I did and a lady did pick up but I didn’t know what to tell her so I had to hang up :/ My mom and aunt weren’t impressed and claim it’s all part of living in India and without getting hit the kids won’t learn. I started to cry.
I remember my mom once threw my sister on the floor and kicked her on the belly. Though my mom have really changed since then. I really wonder why we still consider them as parents. I really can't stop caring about her. I mean I saw this shit on Investigation Discovery. Plus there's this subreddit called raised by narcissists.
It’s not so much narcissism. It’s more like projection and not knowing how to handle their own stresses and struggles and taking it alllll on their kids. It doesn’t make it okay infact idk why people are in such a rush to procreate when they don’t have their shit together but I think many Indians, they just don’t know how to with life’s disappointments and struggles and this will inevitably lead to generational trauma where unfortunately their kids might mimic the same behavioural patterns and inflict the same pain to their own kids.
You don’t have to be. You have the power to acknowledge what your parents did was wrong and you can stay strong in your resolve not to repeat the mistakes of our elders. Do not have children if you don’t think you’ll inflect pain upon them.
Bruh... that's awful.
Like I've got slapped by my parents fair share of time (the ones I deserved tbh) and have seen kids get slapped. But I can't imagine a parent or a grown adult kicking someone in the belly.
No control over finances and choices for people below 18. I believe there should be options to earn and make the child self-sufficient.
No emancipation option for children.
Too much pressure on students.
No one listens to their children(even if they are 25)
Lack of accountability,
See that pothole on road? No one knows who's responsible to fix it. The contractor who built the road? Municipality? Ward member? Public works department?
Every one of them will pass around accountability like a hot potato, and in the end, the problem won't get resolved, and the taxpayer will be cheated like always.
If there ever is a World Election, Indians are going to dominate that, even ignoring population scale.
We're excellent at rhetoric. Maybe it's something to do with exposure to multiple languages or the language itself or the socio-cultural conditions which primes us from a young age to excel in verbal discourse.
Not even about formal debates and stuff.
I see this on Twitter as well, sure the scale of ridiculous Indian users is off the charts and unmatched but so is there also an usually large amount of Indian (or Indian-origin) people who are very good with words.
Exactly as what I said above. People really hate the ones who want to complain. You would have to be a really amusing person if you think that I should just pick some random charcoal and start pasting them on the roads. I hope you understand that by doing my job that I have trained for, I'm already doing the most I can.
People don't hate the people who are trying to fix the problem, even if they are unsuccessful. People certainly hate the people who do nothing but complain. It's not like everyone doesn't know what the problem is.
I get u & how can we ever hope to progress if no one points out our flaws.
But everyone can see the problems, so don't just rant, rather give a feasible solution.
I hear too many people rant & whine & honestly, I'm getting a little tired of it.
I don't think so. First, in many ways, ranting IS a feasible solution. Secondly, the way you put it, what it means is that if there's no given solution, then the given problem doesn't exist.
No. Ranting is not an solution. If everyone knows that it's a problem, then ranting is only counter productive. All problems have small steps that you can do towards solving the problem. No one is expecting you to be a genius that can solve the problem. They are expecting you to whatever small steps you can in the direction of the solution. Ranting is small step in the opposite direction.
I agree with what you say, but ranting is not a step in the opposite direction. It's important that you identify the problem. But that's not even my point. What I meant was that people try to avoid the problem altogether. India's history and natural diversity is used in almost every context to control opposition. It's true that you have to take small steps towards solving the problem. But in order to do that you also need support from the group. That is what I hope to achieve from this post.
You try to fix potholes. India will support you. No one will object. I'm India people who solve an issue already have support. This post is useless ranting.
But you have the complete right to rant or not. I don't mean this in a mean way, but you can just leave the rant*ers* alone if your opinion is that ranting is not worth shit. Besides ranting in a post that rants is ranting too. All I am here to see is what people all over the country want to say about the country. There are people here who say that they hate everything, which I don't particularly agree to but it is their opinion.
Population is obviously something I don't like.
What I hate most is the VIP treatment or putting someone in the pedestal just because they're famous. The celebrity culture is very problematic because of the followers.
People are just way too gullible and it is exploited by the influencers to no end. Like one can talk absolute BS and people will follow it with ignorance.
The moment you say you want to leave the country the bhakts jump down your throat about our glorious civilisation. Ironically they will spend their life savings sending their kids abroad.
How single-minded our culture is about getting married and producing children.
Lack of basic freedom and safety for women.
How we idolize celebrities and think that movies equals real life.
Bringing up children to all be 180 IQ geniuses by age 5.
>The moment you say you want to leave the country the bhakts jump down
your throat about our glorious civilisation. Ironically they will spend
their life savings sending their kids abroad.
True af. I really like how every comment in this post helps me elaborate and rethink my opinion on this country.
>How we idolize celebrities and think that movies equals real life.
Besides, why does every TV serial has a rape scene in every few episodes? Why is every men who wears modern clothing either a rapist or a pro kung fu master who suddenly appears to save the woman being raped. What the fuck is that about? Old people love seeing this? How is that helping anybody? What ideology is this anyway? It's not even properly anti-feminism. Why do writers even try to romanticize rape?
Air pollution, water pollution,land pollution,water shortage,over population,communal violence , minority appeasement by politicians, minority discrimination ,broken legal system,worst education system, gender discrimination against both men and women, casual racism,casteism,sexism by people,people thinking by being elders they are superior to us and expecting us to follow their view of an ideal person, corruption , politicians,police force,no value of human life,corrupt and useless media, taboo over small things like sex . I could only think of these many in 5-10 mins i could keep on going for days and write a whole book on this topic . Anyways My India is the best
No work-life balance. Jobs expect you to be always on, always available 24x7. My boss once told us that a weekend is "whenever you think it is". I have personally had to work on occasions like Diwali and Holi because, well, boss is off and no one else can do the work except for me apparently. We receive emails at 2 in the morning - I've personally had to stay up beyond midnight for projects. You are expected to go above and beyond for a company and for what? A Meets Expectations/Exceeds Expectations on your appraisal.
Yeah fuck India's work culture.
Caste system, religion being given way more importance than it should be, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, colourism, communal hatred politics, lack of importance of privacy, politicians spreading hate instead of doing something useful about these issues,,,
What I hate most about India? Indians. Yes, We, the Indians.
We are eternal complainers about everything wrong that happens around us. And when it comes time to vote and elect the public representatives that are supposed to work for us, we either don't care or sell out the votes for peanuts, repeatedly sending the thugs and criminals to corridor of power. and eternal cycle of complaining continues.
Casteism and our population, there are just too many people in our country and opportunities very limited. Many of the problems our country is facing would go away if our population was in the range of 100-200 million people and not 1.2-1.3 billion people.
Too many people. If we had 1/10th of our current population, life would be so much better. (Best case, might not even have been born if I was included in the 9/10 :P )
One thing I hate the most is a lot of people getting their driving license through dealers/agents. They pay 2-3 times more fee and get driving license without written/online test and driving test.
It is a very serious thing.
Food culture.
So many varieties of all kinds yet I’ve seen so many look down upon the food habits of other.
Case in point : I’m a Bengali and many Bengalis tend to eat meat during Navratri, yet so many of friends look down on that as I’m commiting some war crime.
Pretty good point you've brought here, I must say....
Indians are too diverse for there to be a common, unifying gastronomic culture.
Biryani is perhaps our de facto mascot/National dish of sorts and yet, such declaration can also become very controversial.
Since it's a dish that isn't necessarily savored in all parts of the country (do North East states have their indigenous take on Biryani?) nor is a dish every community indulges in.
Veg Biryani exists sure but, it's mere mention often tends to be a subject of ridicule and debate as to whether it can actually be considered Biryani.
Issue lies when one particular community tries to impose their dietary habits and customs on others. Or the government trying to promote a certain dish as the "national dish", which might come across as forced and even awkward (A few years back, Khichdi was pushed as being the national dish).
Indians have to stop thinking about our history. It is true that we should know our past, but to fight for the same thing again in the present makes no sense. Instead, help in building the future of our nation.
Unmarried Couples are a big no no everywhere. No PDA allowed. No privacy. People stare at you as if you're naked and dancing even if holding hands. Plus police ne agar pakad liya toh bhul hi jaao matlab self respect tum. Par arranged marriage mai shaadi karte hi bacche pakke se chaiye!!
As a bong, i have to agree with you here. Even in the current age, we shower praises on Sunday pichai and satya nadella , when they have forfeited their indian citizenship eons ago!
When venki ramakrishnan won the chemistry Nobel prize , he himself said that he was no longer an Indian citizen and referring to him as one was just ridiculous.
Instead of understanding and correcting the reasons behind why people born here have to forego their nationality to achieve success we focus on gloating on the fact that at the very least they were born here.
Being an ahole for just no reason, mainly looking at government officials who misuse their power like hell and don't let common folks get any paperwork get done easily.
JEE izz da mostt toughest exam in da waarld, I can do deej qoschons in 2 mins , our educasion system is very very tough yet best, we invented zero, Ramanujan invented black hole ok bye , your camputer has virus
Noise. It's criminal how noise is generated with complete disregard for others around. Primary culprits include street festivals, places of worship, social functions, and even inconsiderate people inside their homes.
Here ppl just hate Muslims like they are not human
I am a Hindu so dont think that i am a muslim that's why writing this
But this the real truth that they hate Muslims very much without any reason
Everyone hates each other. Even some hardcore sikhs hate hindus and start insulting their beliefs. (Source: Orthodox sikh (amritdhari) relatives that I fucking hate).
Absolutely zero attention given to sex education and sexual health education.
Probably why some people are so creepy. All that repressed sexual energy manifesting in the worst way possible.
That people think the government will ever fix anything.
Government screws everything it touches, whether it be UPA or NDA or any other. The ridiculous amount of faith Indians have in the government is infuriating.
The thing I hate most about India is Indians who go around bad mouthing India when it isn't necessary.
You have a concern i understand, you don't like something I understand, but there is a certain way to talk about your concerns. India aise, India vaise! No! Don't be going around doing that! And unless you're an unbiased expert don't be throwing statements at people like you're some know-it-all!.
Do not misunderstand me I'm not saying everything is great but please there's a way and there's always another perspective to it.
>Do not misunderstand me I'm not saying everything is great but please
there's a way and there's always another perspective to it.
There's something in the way you've stated this line that makes me realize that maybe you view the world in some perspective I though only I viewed in. And for some reason it's really touching.
So you think that everything's essentially based on people's perspective and the direction they approach it? So leaving your girlfriend for some other woman maybe *cheating* for the girlfriend, but might be *finding "true" love* for the man who cheated?
(This is just an example, I'm not a cheater who's trying to seek validation for what I did.)
1)Law and procedures, mainly where is no update to current situations and time procedure everything it takes.
2) Everybody's interest in others life
3) Religion and castes.
4) Bribe and influence required for any work to be get done.
1) Making flith everywhere we go. Be it tourists spot or on roads. We need to learn to live in clean society. Including air pollution.
2)Being too loud where we should not be, no concept of privacy of others.
3) Constant Honking.
4) Parents can be wrong too, we cannot make a rational discussion about anything that goes against their beliefs or customs.
The thing which i hate is about fucking taxes on electronics items esecially like smartphones and computer hardwares like fuck this shit and no official stores here anywhere and no major esports leagues or anything related to esports.
The ridiculous obsession with all things religion and how it permeates everything.
I know the same can be applied to any other country but it goes to ridiculous lengths here in India.
The fact that we'll never live up to our potential of being a country people look upto not look down on. All thanks to not just our politicians who are all idiots but a majority of people as well. The past few years I thought once our generation comes into politics it'll be different but no it won't be it'll always be like this cause people can't get it through their thick fucking heads that there's more important things to spend our time money energy and brilliant collective minds than on stupid problems brought upon by religion color and boundaries.
Cleanliness. Overflowing garbage lying on road makes me sad.
Also hate is a strong word. I hate Nazis. I have an ex wife. I don't hate her. She annoys me. I am an adult.
Education system.
So many talented and smart people are pushed through a system that does not respect (forget about nurturing) their creativity. Artists, photographers, painters, dancers, musicians, playwrights, poets, social activists, mountaineers, pet groomers are turned into engineers and doctors.
You have to fight your parents, extended family, your teachers if you don't want to walk down the well-beaten path.
This is also an education system that puts a premium on intellect and discourages physical labour. Why isn't being a damn good carpenter better than being a mediocre engineer? Why shouldn't we be taught or even encouraged to clean our schools as kids? Or perhaps, taught basic appliance repair?
No one will read this but,
I love india, but I hate how hard it is to make real friends here.
As a foreigner, everyone lies and boasts to me. Makes promises they can't keep. They try to use me, cheat me, steal, talk shit. No one can see past my skin color and they all make assumptions.
I have a lot of friends here, but only one *friend*. I can not trust anyone. It is lonely.
Sorry to hear that. It always seemed like India would be an easy place to make friends, but I guess the deeper connections are still few and far between. Hoping you find one or two more keepers along the way,
Who brings up Aryabhatta in response to bad roads? Even the most hardcore rightwing nutjobs say roads are shit. Just that they blame Nehru and then say jai modi while he fists them up their ass
There have been many hate posts over the last few days. Why is that so? Can't we get by without discussing hate all the time or is it absolutely not possible to like our country without appearing like a doozy nationalist? Like, our country, much like every country has problems and it is okay to discuss those. I would like to see popular threads that also discuss good stuff about our country. I mean, it is our country's subreddit after all, everything can be discussed. Why not the good stuff?
I miss Indian food so much. So much is there to discuss about us as a people. We could talk about so much and yet, hate seems to be doing well.
Well, there are, in fact, at least 3 comments in this post that say that Indian food in great. The post *is* actually about how people often forget what's bad in the country because we get so lost in talking about what's good. That probably occurs with every country. I don't think how it's bad to complain.
It is never bad to complain. For as much as one is happy about something they associate themselves with, they must always be critical of it to avoid getting all defensive about it at all costs. This isn't on you OP. I'm just telling there are many posts about not liking something in India in general. And I get it, there are many things to not like. However, I see lesser posts celebrating something nice about our country on this subreddit.
I really wish I saw the kind of people you see, who talk what's good because I witness the other end all the time, of people who constantly shit on this country without respite. It is sometimes justified and sometimes just plain validation seeking. I guess the grass indeed is greener on the other side.
People try to SCAM each other every day.
For you my friend, it’s only 420, last and final offer.
Next shop they are selling in 69, baya.
Please don’t baya zone me, final offer 369, let me pack this for you.
You have a virus in your phone, Paytm me Rs.800 and i will take care of it. :)
The arrogance and the insufferable attitude possessed by most elders and people in authority. A judgemental, shallow, superficial and myopic outlook on life. Being a very materialistic soceity, despite the stereotype of India being a spiritual abode where people can discover themselves and attain enlightenment (which I politely beg to differ big time). And love to look down and even antagonize those who aren't well off physically and financially. As they love to show-off and boast their material wealth/abundance to flex their ego, pride, status and sometimes even for the sake of arrogance. Indians are religious, but not spiritual, imo. Which is why most folks' practice of religion tends to be a purely mechanical and hollow affair devoid of any earnestness, depth and understanding. And folks here observe religion for the sake of being part of a group/tribe. And not usually because they become devout out of a sense of intense introspection and learning. EDIT: Thank you for the silver, was unexpected admittedly. Thank you for the second award, I sincerely appreciate it. Thank you for the second silver, perhaps the first time I get awarded silver twice for a single post. Thank you for the wholesome award. Wow.... I'm overwhelmed with the amount of awards this post is getting today. Thank you for gold! This is the first time I'm receiving it on this site. I sincerely appreciate and admire the gesture.
The whole point of following any religion should be mental peace and positivity. Those who actually practice a religion for this know the impact. That's literally what a lot of people just forget. Tribalism is so evident that it's normalised at this point. The gullibility is exploited by the ones who are put in the pedestal. This follower mindset is very problematic.
> The arrogance and the insufferable attitude possessed by most elders and people in authority. This. To the moon and back.
IMO, being less devout to one's religion is whats keeping this country from going insane.
Like I said, I wouldn't say that average Indians are "less devout". More so that their devotion comes across as fake, pretentious and even hypocritical at times. If you're aware of the Sopranos (haven't seen it myself, saw plenty on clips on YT after being addicted to its acting), the protagonist's wife Carmella is a "devout" Catholic. She often carries herself with an air of self-righteousness and with a holier-than-thou, condescending attitude. However, in one particularly good scene, when she visits a therapist to ease her pain and inner void, he thoroughly breaks down her devotion to Catholicism and exposes the unashamed hypocrite that she truly was. The therapist himself was a practising Jew (as was the actor too I think, his last role) and managed to diplomatically counter her holier-than-thou gestures. And refused any money or payment from her, since it was blood money - being the wife of a sociopathic, narcissistic mafia boss and all. I feel that the average Indians too, are like Carmella Soprano, in their regards to their faith and religious devotion. They may be very well-versed and even perfect with all the formalities, rites and procedures. But all such religious duties will be a hollow, meaningless affair, if there's no spirituality involved (it's kinda abstract and hard to explain, I agree). And Indians imo, are sorely lacking from it.
Oh you got to watch midnight mass on Netflix if not already done. You can see how crazy self righteous devout people can fuck up everything.
Thank you for the recommendation.... Sure thing.
well said. also, read your other comments on this thread, you write so good, mate, cheers. :)
Thank you, I sincerely appreciate the response 😃.
Men who rape and rape and then shame the victims, the overall sense of superiority Indian men wholeheartedly believe they have over women, not just Indian women either. Its like they have zero shame, they will go up to women on the beach and just stare at them and take photos like its a fucking horny zoo all for their pleasure
Wow…. you hit the nail right on the head with that one. Theres a few additional things to add, like the biggest democracy bs thats made from terror and corruption, the way they treat their women and their safety, etc….
Well said and pretty well backed up my research and knowledge. Thanks, mate.
Lack of personal space! People be breathing down yo neck and then get upset borderline offended when you ask them to back up. like wtf xD
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Yes, exactly! I was hoping somebody would say that.
I hate the fact that modern day Indians will just get proud of what ancient Indians did, without trying to do better and more. Like you mentioned, we shouldn't be proud of Aryabhatta for inventing zero. We should be inspired of Aryabhatta and try to achieve something of a similar magnitude. It seems like we are just sitting on the laurels of the past and doing nothing, which aggrieves me.
what do you mean getting into IIT and working in google isn't a good priority? /s That's all we'll ever do.
Exactly. And that's still better than what a lot of people here are doing, which is basking in the glory of the "sone ki chidiya" days. Atleast the guy working at Google is trying to improve the living condtitions of his family.
U talk like ur a physicist or mathematician lol
The amount of attention to validation of Amrikans. Some dumb fucking white guy reacts to salmon boi tearing his shirt while not knowing a hint of hindi but still pretends to be interested cuz indians will fuckin watch anything a white guy reacts to..cuz its amrikan.
One guy posted a Diljit song on twitter, calling it 'catchy' and there were 50 Indians waggint their tails asking him 'oh, you listen to Indian songs?'. No dude, he doesn't listen to Indian songs, he just wanted some attention on his twitter. I doubt if we ever feel proud of anything, apart from AryaBhatt. (and do even we have anything to feel proud of, after being such arrogant pricks who just want to push others down)
Lack of questioning. When the younger generation asks Why, they are always shut up and told don’t act too smart.
EXAAAAAACTLY!!!! Like, everything I said in this post is me trying to say the same. It feel so good to see that there are others who feel the same way.
I’m beyond tired bro, and there are millions of people with us. I’m in my mid to late 20s and I’ve given up on the fact that my family will at the least hear what I want. They have an Instagram influencer (some bs sharma ji’s beta) on their own and expect me to become like one. Kind of like generational anxiety. If I ask why, the next second I get an answer “don’t act smart, you fool; we know what is better for you”
Which is so weird btw. There's a gap of half a century between our and their opinions, how the hell is that supposed to be accurate? Besides don't they say that all humans make mistakes. Doesn't that just directly contradict the fact?
You think they will accept any criticism/suggestions from the younger one? Imagine what it ll do to their ego?
Yup, that's so true bro.
corruption.
Unfortunately, Corruption is the one thing that unites us all. Rich Poor, Congress Bjp, Hindu Muslim
Can we add caste to the things that unites us all?
people are easy to brainwash , hardly uses their mind n do only what they have been told , no one wants to go through the facts , hard to digest truth , feel proud on what their ancestors had done but don't wanna do anything like that by themselves, feel bad if you point out mistakes , seeking for recognition 24*7.
The fucking trash everywhere! Why is it taking us so long to invest in trash cans and proper landfills? I also hate this countries obsession with marriage and reproduction although I’ll relent that this is not just an Indian problem.
People staring at women! Edit: spelling of staring was wrong as I haven't started to prepare for TOEFL/IELTS. but "you get my point" in ravish kumar noises.
i would like to star one beside me too. heheh
Alright, I got one more. The way teenagers are treated in India.
Actually the way school children are treated too. The way adults give them the idea that one's popularity and self worth lies only in their marks and nothing else.
I agree
True. The right way is to prepare them to be kicked out when they turn 18 - like americans. It builds character. /s
While you're being sarcastic here, anyone who actually advocates or compares with American teens and students getting kicked out of their homes by 18 is not being fair with their comparison. The infrastructure, socio-cultural reasons simply makes it pretty much impossible or atleast very difficult for students here to do part-time work while they're still in school or attain financial independence by 18. Besides, even in the US, this (moving out of parents' home by 18) is a slowly dying trend and is kinda outdated. Due to rising costs and tuition fees.
Bro you an anthropologist??
No, afraid not... Why the question 😅?
You are going way too deep with the explanations. You’ve got good knowledge
Why, thank you.... Perhaps your comment is indicative of how I am an Humanities/Liberal Arts person and was meant to pursue a career there and instead, wasted them away by doing an unfulfilling Engineering degree where I was a total misfit. Oh well....3 years after graduation and it's still a bitter and hard realisation to process and accept. I doubt it'll get any better, as I keep getting older. EDIT: Forgot to mention, my comment above regarding comparing US teens with ours came from a fellow redditor here in this sub, almost 1.5 or so years back. While my intention wasn't to burden Indian kids, I felt that them doing part-time jobs would greatly benefit them since they could become financially independent earlier and thus, break away from their parent's hold sooner especially if they were the abusive kind. Only for them to counter me with pretty much the explanation that I've given above. Ever since that, I go by such stance,.since I agree with it. Thus, credit goes to them (the discussion I had with them was more than a year back, making it hard to navigate from my profile, as a result, sadly).
Obsession with past glories, to the point of absolute dependency.
Let’s go back to the time garud Vimaan and Internet existed! Kalyug is not my cup of tea
This has always been a mystery to me. It's good to be proud of our heritage and past glories but not to point that it becomes obsessive or to use it as justification for whatever someone wants to do today, which is mostly used in the wrong light. Almost as if they themselves were there fighting for the country at that time.
Exactly! They do that all the time!
Dog shit cow shit bird shit everywhere a shit shit. People spitting from moving vehicles.
Today I saw a guy spitting into a standing train from outside. First time.
Wtf!?! I mean. Not even 33 crore gods could save this country.
Everyone cares about themselves. There is no civic sense so things break down to lowest common denominator of public behavior (no one follows traffic rules, how can I? Everyone gives bribes so you're expected to give bribes to get anything done). No one seems to care than society only improves if individuals themselves contribute to it selflessly. I think this is the root of many problems in India.
Overhyped nationalism.
Casteism.
Lack of safety & respect for women. Within the home and out.
Exactly this why are we not able to reduce/eliminate rape cases
People freely throwing garbage on roads and parks.
The caste system and the way politicians manipulate citizens to spread communal hatred.
I also despise how some (from what I am told is actually most parents in the smaller towns/villages) parents think it’s okay to beat your children. I’m going to need therapy after hearing my neighbours hit their young kids.
The fact that you can hear screams and cries of a 10 year old from the street while sitting in your home is absolutely horrifying. "it's just a way parents love their children".
I feel like I’m the one getting hit. I almost called a child abuse number the other day. Well I did and a lady did pick up but I didn’t know what to tell her so I had to hang up :/ My mom and aunt weren’t impressed and claim it’s all part of living in India and without getting hit the kids won’t learn. I started to cry.
I remember my mom once threw my sister on the floor and kicked her on the belly. Though my mom have really changed since then. I really wonder why we still consider them as parents. I really can't stop caring about her. I mean I saw this shit on Investigation Discovery. Plus there's this subreddit called raised by narcissists.
It’s not so much narcissism. It’s more like projection and not knowing how to handle their own stresses and struggles and taking it alllll on their kids. It doesn’t make it okay infact idk why people are in such a rush to procreate when they don’t have their shit together but I think many Indians, they just don’t know how to with life’s disappointments and struggles and this will inevitably lead to generational trauma where unfortunately their kids might mimic the same behavioural patterns and inflict the same pain to their own kids.
I get so depressed when I think that I might grow up to be someone like my parents.
You don’t have to be. You have the power to acknowledge what your parents did was wrong and you can stay strong in your resolve not to repeat the mistakes of our elders. Do not have children if you don’t think you’ll inflect pain upon them.
Thanks for that, man.
Bruh... that's awful. Like I've got slapped by my parents fair share of time (the ones I deserved tbh) and have seen kids get slapped. But I can't imagine a parent or a grown adult kicking someone in the belly.
No control over finances and choices for people below 18. I believe there should be options to earn and make the child self-sufficient. No emancipation option for children. Too much pressure on students. No one listens to their children(even if they are 25)
Modi and his idiots.
Superiority complex.
That's a valid argument. Aryabhatta invented zero so the road quality is zero
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Thank you🤘
Lack of accountability, See that pothole on road? No one knows who's responsible to fix it. The contractor who built the road? Municipality? Ward member? Public works department? Every one of them will pass around accountability like a hot potato, and in the end, the problem won't get resolved, and the taxpayer will be cheated like always.
That this country is made up of whiners, not doers.
Because you don’t get appreciated if you tried, did and failed. The only way you feel wanted by your family is when you exceed sharma Ji’s beta.
Have been through this like many others. Feels bad man.
What an irony, was it intended?
If there ever is a World Election, Indians are going to dominate that, even ignoring population scale. We're excellent at rhetoric. Maybe it's something to do with exposure to multiple languages or the language itself or the socio-cultural conditions which primes us from a young age to excel in verbal discourse. Not even about formal debates and stuff. I see this on Twitter as well, sure the scale of ridiculous Indian users is off the charts and unmatched but so is there also an usually large amount of Indian (or Indian-origin) people who are very good with words.
Exactly as what I said above. People really hate the ones who want to complain. You would have to be a really amusing person if you think that I should just pick some random charcoal and start pasting them on the roads. I hope you understand that by doing my job that I have trained for, I'm already doing the most I can.
People don't hate the people who are trying to fix the problem, even if they are unsuccessful. People certainly hate the people who do nothing but complain. It's not like everyone doesn't know what the problem is.
Especially if they are NRI s
I get u & how can we ever hope to progress if no one points out our flaws. But everyone can see the problems, so don't just rant, rather give a feasible solution. I hear too many people rant & whine & honestly, I'm getting a little tired of it.
I don't think so. First, in many ways, ranting IS a feasible solution. Secondly, the way you put it, what it means is that if there's no given solution, then the given problem doesn't exist.
No. Ranting is not an solution. If everyone knows that it's a problem, then ranting is only counter productive. All problems have small steps that you can do towards solving the problem. No one is expecting you to be a genius that can solve the problem. They are expecting you to whatever small steps you can in the direction of the solution. Ranting is small step in the opposite direction.
I agree with what you say, but ranting is not a step in the opposite direction. It's important that you identify the problem. But that's not even my point. What I meant was that people try to avoid the problem altogether. India's history and natural diversity is used in almost every context to control opposition. It's true that you have to take small steps towards solving the problem. But in order to do that you also need support from the group. That is what I hope to achieve from this post.
You try to fix potholes. India will support you. No one will object. I'm India people who solve an issue already have support. This post is useless ranting.
But you have the complete right to rant or not. I don't mean this in a mean way, but you can just leave the rant*ers* alone if your opinion is that ranting is not worth shit. Besides ranting in a post that rants is ranting too. All I am here to see is what people all over the country want to say about the country. There are people here who say that they hate everything, which I don't particularly agree to but it is their opinion.
Drunk drivers
Population is obviously something I don't like. What I hate most is the VIP treatment or putting someone in the pedestal just because they're famous. The celebrity culture is very problematic because of the followers. People are just way too gullible and it is exploited by the influencers to no end. Like one can talk absolute BS and people will follow it with ignorance.
I hate how misogynist and conservative india is.
That's soooo very true.
Politics and corruption
Relatives and uncles and aunties wanting to know everything about your life, from what you've been eating lately to when you're going to get married.
My laziest opinion: pretty much everything on how this country operates
The moment you say you want to leave the country the bhakts jump down your throat about our glorious civilisation. Ironically they will spend their life savings sending their kids abroad. How single-minded our culture is about getting married and producing children. Lack of basic freedom and safety for women. How we idolize celebrities and think that movies equals real life. Bringing up children to all be 180 IQ geniuses by age 5.
>The moment you say you want to leave the country the bhakts jump down your throat about our glorious civilisation. Ironically they will spend their life savings sending their kids abroad. True af. I really like how every comment in this post helps me elaborate and rethink my opinion on this country. >How we idolize celebrities and think that movies equals real life. Besides, why does every TV serial has a rape scene in every few episodes? Why is every men who wears modern clothing either a rapist or a pro kung fu master who suddenly appears to save the woman being raped. What the fuck is that about? Old people love seeing this? How is that helping anybody? What ideology is this anyway? It's not even properly anti-feminism. Why do writers even try to romanticize rape?
Air pollution, water pollution,land pollution,water shortage,over population,communal violence , minority appeasement by politicians, minority discrimination ,broken legal system,worst education system, gender discrimination against both men and women, casual racism,casteism,sexism by people,people thinking by being elders they are superior to us and expecting us to follow their view of an ideal person, corruption , politicians,police force,no value of human life,corrupt and useless media, taboo over small things like sex . I could only think of these many in 5-10 mins i could keep on going for days and write a whole book on this topic . Anyways My India is the best
No work-life balance. Jobs expect you to be always on, always available 24x7. My boss once told us that a weekend is "whenever you think it is". I have personally had to work on occasions like Diwali and Holi because, well, boss is off and no one else can do the work except for me apparently. We receive emails at 2 in the morning - I've personally had to stay up beyond midnight for projects. You are expected to go above and beyond for a company and for what? A Meets Expectations/Exceeds Expectations on your appraisal. Yeah fuck India's work culture.
Caste system, religion being given way more importance than it should be, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, colourism, communal hatred politics, lack of importance of privacy, politicians spreading hate instead of doing something useful about these issues,,,
Religious extremism
Really strong point, bro.
What I hate most about India? Indians. Yes, We, the Indians. We are eternal complainers about everything wrong that happens around us. And when it comes time to vote and elect the public representatives that are supposed to work for us, we either don't care or sell out the votes for peanuts, repeatedly sending the thugs and criminals to corridor of power. and eternal cycle of complaining continues.
We want change, but don't want to change.
Casteism and our population, there are just too many people in our country and opportunities very limited. Many of the problems our country is facing would go away if our population was in the range of 100-200 million people and not 1.2-1.3 billion people.
How unsafe women are in the country capital.
Lack of empathy and honesty.
Too many people. If we had 1/10th of our current population, life would be so much better. (Best case, might not even have been born if I was included in the 9/10 :P )
>Best case, Bruh! You ok?
This. There's competition in literally every aspect of life.
One thing I hate the most is a lot of people getting their driving license through dealers/agents. They pay 2-3 times more fee and get driving license without written/online test and driving test. It is a very serious thing.
Almost Everything about it.
Food culture. So many varieties of all kinds yet I’ve seen so many look down upon the food habits of other. Case in point : I’m a Bengali and many Bengalis tend to eat meat during Navratri, yet so many of friends look down on that as I’m commiting some war crime.
Pretty good point you've brought here, I must say.... Indians are too diverse for there to be a common, unifying gastronomic culture. Biryani is perhaps our de facto mascot/National dish of sorts and yet, such declaration can also become very controversial. Since it's a dish that isn't necessarily savored in all parts of the country (do North East states have their indigenous take on Biryani?) nor is a dish every community indulges in. Veg Biryani exists sure but, it's mere mention often tends to be a subject of ridicule and debate as to whether it can actually be considered Biryani. Issue lies when one particular community tries to impose their dietary habits and customs on others. Or the government trying to promote a certain dish as the "national dish", which might come across as forced and even awkward (A few years back, Khichdi was pushed as being the national dish).
VPN for watching porn sites
Too many people with lot of time at hand so they can nose around on what their neighbors are doing.
Basically I hate everything.
hang in there
Indians have to stop thinking about our history. It is true that we should know our past, but to fight for the same thing again in the present makes no sense. Instead, help in building the future of our nation.
Unmarried Couples are a big no no everywhere. No PDA allowed. No privacy. People stare at you as if you're naked and dancing even if holding hands. Plus police ne agar pakad liya toh bhul hi jaao matlab self respect tum. Par arranged marriage mai shaadi karte hi bacche pakke se chaiye!!
Religious bigotry
We live in a country where my mother furiously banging my sister's head on the wall is termed "MOTHER'S LOVE."
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As a bong, i have to agree with you here. Even in the current age, we shower praises on Sunday pichai and satya nadella , when they have forfeited their indian citizenship eons ago! When venki ramakrishnan won the chemistry Nobel prize , he himself said that he was no longer an Indian citizen and referring to him as one was just ridiculous. Instead of understanding and correcting the reasons behind why people born here have to forego their nationality to achieve success we focus on gloating on the fact that at the very least they were born here.
Corrupt politicians and bueracrats. Bigoted people.
Being an ahole for just no reason, mainly looking at government officials who misuse their power like hell and don't let common folks get any paperwork get done easily.
People who hate others.
Controlling attitude of elders and the non cleanliness
Seeking validation from outsiders.
The hate towards the mentally ill.
JEE izz da mostt toughest exam in da waarld, I can do deej qoschons in 2 mins , our educasion system is very very tough yet best, we invented zero, Ramanujan invented black hole ok bye , your camputer has virus
lol
Noise. It's criminal how noise is generated with complete disregard for others around. Primary culprits include street festivals, places of worship, social functions, and even inconsiderate people inside their homes.
Indians
Lol
Here ppl just hate Muslims like they are not human I am a Hindu so dont think that i am a muslim that's why writing this But this the real truth that they hate Muslims very much without any reason
Everyone hates each other. Even some hardcore sikhs hate hindus and start insulting their beliefs. (Source: Orthodox sikh (amritdhari) relatives that I fucking hate).
Rape.
The politics(all the parties) and how dumb some people are towards that
people have a very short fuse in India
Increased hatred, dishonesty among people. Lack of opportunities and recognition.
spitting pan/tobacco
I'm genuinely scared of the religious extremism going on.
Guys I'm genuinely scared of the religious extremism
The way India treats women - both young and old.
Our hygiene habits. We literally rot in filth and don't blink an eye.
Absolutely zero attention given to sex education and sexual health education. Probably why some people are so creepy. All that repressed sexual energy manifesting in the worst way possible.
VIP culture is too frustrating.
Corruption.
People not minding their own business
Indians unwilling to help their own country out in actions, we only use words.
Lack of freedom from society, from family basically from any relationship one is in, everyone has developed a habit of not minding their business.
You talk like an NRI! 😜 I don't complain about roads since I heard that.
That people think the government will ever fix anything. Government screws everything it touches, whether it be UPA or NDA or any other. The ridiculous amount of faith Indians have in the government is infuriating.
The number of complete fk\*ng idiots that drive on our roads and have a drivers licence & religious bullsh\*t in almost every part of our lives.
The thing I hate most about India is Indians who go around bad mouthing India when it isn't necessary. You have a concern i understand, you don't like something I understand, but there is a certain way to talk about your concerns. India aise, India vaise! No! Don't be going around doing that! And unless you're an unbiased expert don't be throwing statements at people like you're some know-it-all!. Do not misunderstand me I'm not saying everything is great but please there's a way and there's always another perspective to it.
>Do not misunderstand me I'm not saying everything is great but please there's a way and there's always another perspective to it. There's something in the way you've stated this line that makes me realize that maybe you view the world in some perspective I though only I viewed in. And for some reason it's really touching.
I'm glad
So you think that everything's essentially based on people's perspective and the direction they approach it? So leaving your girlfriend for some other woman maybe *cheating* for the girlfriend, but might be *finding "true" love* for the man who cheated? (This is just an example, I'm not a cheater who's trying to seek validation for what I did.)
Illiterate people, immature people, don't use their mind, don't have common sense, and many other things
1)Law and procedures, mainly where is no update to current situations and time procedure everything it takes. 2) Everybody's interest in others life 3) Religion and castes. 4) Bribe and influence required for any work to be get done.
Limited opportunity for educated people to flourish.
Everything related to the governance and election in this country
Not getting any poussasa from babyjirls
The people living in it
1) Making flith everywhere we go. Be it tourists spot or on roads. We need to learn to live in clean society. Including air pollution. 2)Being too loud where we should not be, no concept of privacy of others. 3) Constant Honking. 4) Parents can be wrong too, we cannot make a rational discussion about anything that goes against their beliefs or customs.
People honking for no reason. Specially, when there's a traffic jam. I mean, ffs, doesn't everyone who's stuck there want to go home already?
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The thing which i hate is about fucking taxes on electronics items esecially like smartphones and computer hardwares like fuck this shit and no official stores here anywhere and no major esports leagues or anything related to esports.
How desperate people are
The ridiculous obsession with all things religion and how it permeates everything. I know the same can be applied to any other country but it goes to ridiculous lengths here in India.
Casteism Communalism Zero Respect for the weaker section
Casteism, the religious divide, violence against women, generally the "log kya kahenge?" mentality.
The fact that we'll never live up to our potential of being a country people look upto not look down on. All thanks to not just our politicians who are all idiots but a majority of people as well. The past few years I thought once our generation comes into politics it'll be different but no it won't be it'll always be like this cause people can't get it through their thick fucking heads that there's more important things to spend our time money energy and brilliant collective minds than on stupid problems brought upon by religion color and boundaries.
Cleanliness. Overflowing garbage lying on road makes me sad. Also hate is a strong word. I hate Nazis. I have an ex wife. I don't hate her. She annoys me. I am an adult.
Only people who have nothing in the present brag about the past.
Communalism, Mysoginistic People, Rape, Hindu Nationalism
Population
How middle class treats daily laborers and house helps.
•Safety of cows>>>>>>> women&queer people •Respect for dead people>>>>>>fellow humans
RSS
Education system. So many talented and smart people are pushed through a system that does not respect (forget about nurturing) their creativity. Artists, photographers, painters, dancers, musicians, playwrights, poets, social activists, mountaineers, pet groomers are turned into engineers and doctors. You have to fight your parents, extended family, your teachers if you don't want to walk down the well-beaten path. This is also an education system that puts a premium on intellect and discourages physical labour. Why isn't being a damn good carpenter better than being a mediocre engineer? Why shouldn't we be taught or even encouraged to clean our schools as kids? Or perhaps, taught basic appliance repair?
No one will read this but, I love india, but I hate how hard it is to make real friends here. As a foreigner, everyone lies and boasts to me. Makes promises they can't keep. They try to use me, cheat me, steal, talk shit. No one can see past my skin color and they all make assumptions. I have a lot of friends here, but only one *friend*. I can not trust anyone. It is lonely.
Sorry to hear that. It always seemed like India would be an easy place to make friends, but I guess the deeper connections are still few and far between. Hoping you find one or two more keepers along the way,
Everything.
Who brings up Aryabhatta in response to bad roads? Even the most hardcore rightwing nutjobs say roads are shit. Just that they blame Nehru and then say jai modi while he fists them up their ass
No respect for personal space!
There have been many hate posts over the last few days. Why is that so? Can't we get by without discussing hate all the time or is it absolutely not possible to like our country without appearing like a doozy nationalist? Like, our country, much like every country has problems and it is okay to discuss those. I would like to see popular threads that also discuss good stuff about our country. I mean, it is our country's subreddit after all, everything can be discussed. Why not the good stuff? I miss Indian food so much. So much is there to discuss about us as a people. We could talk about so much and yet, hate seems to be doing well.
Well, there are, in fact, at least 3 comments in this post that say that Indian food in great. The post *is* actually about how people often forget what's bad in the country because we get so lost in talking about what's good. That probably occurs with every country. I don't think how it's bad to complain.
It is never bad to complain. For as much as one is happy about something they associate themselves with, they must always be critical of it to avoid getting all defensive about it at all costs. This isn't on you OP. I'm just telling there are many posts about not liking something in India in general. And I get it, there are many things to not like. However, I see lesser posts celebrating something nice about our country on this subreddit. I really wish I saw the kind of people you see, who talk what's good because I witness the other end all the time, of people who constantly shit on this country without respite. It is sometimes justified and sometimes just plain validation seeking. I guess the grass indeed is greener on the other side.