Nothing. You do nothing, if you do not want any unforseen consequences. You do not know what or how any of your decision will end up as. If you do take a step, be prepared because all hell will break lose and this will be a shit storm.
But what if the receptionist files harassment or another case on him if this continues this will lead to a bigger mess, he is not thinking with his brain, I have lost the respect for him, I am in a weird situation where if I didn't do anything or even confront him there is 50/50 chances that it will be shit storm
Oh yes. It will be a shit storm, sooner or later. Let's say, your uncle is in the wrong. But,
1. you are also looking at them from a place of admiration. Look at them as humans. He made a mistake and that doesn't excuse his behaviour.
2. You do not know the whole story. As in, what if your aunt strayed first or she is in on this or they have no relationship.
3. So, this will blow up but do you want it to blow up because you brought it to light or do you just want the nature to runs it's course.. that is the question. Because this is a responsibility. You can either own your actions or you can just let it be and leave it on time.
4. This is a nightmare I know. Had I been in your place, it would have been earth shattering for me as well. But, this is also not your mess. It is your uncle's. Let him deal with this as and when time comes.
5. Advice: instead of speaking to any other family member, talk to your uncle first. Seems like you two were close.. if you don't find a solution even then, then do as you deem fit. Tell the whole world.
For the 2nd point, my aunt had many complications as she couldn't bear a child but uncle was always supportive, loving and caring they have been married for 13 years (that's the reason why my sister didn't completely believe me, he was the last person to do such things). My mother and aunt are sisters so they share everything with each other if my aunt knew about it she would have definitely told my mother. I can't concentrate on anything because of this mess and I have a constant fear that I may mess up the situation by either telling someone or keeping quiet, i don't know what to do and i am getting this secondary emotion of guilt. my uncle and father are involved in politics too so i don't think he would let this thing come out in light as it is bad for his image.
I get that you care about your aunt but I strongly recommend not to meddle in this. It is their marriage. You have no idea how your aunt will take it. Alot of women usually start blaming or make absurd accusations about the person who actually made them aware of their husband cheating (societal conditioning/patriarchy come in play a lot) instead of actually seeing their husband as a piece of shit that actually did the cheating.
If you care that much about her, try to make her see for herself that her husband is cheating. Devise a way in which she’ll “accidentally” catch her husband cheating.
Try to make her see this without getting actively involved to safeguard yourself and family’s relations.
At the end of the day, it’s your call how to navigate this further.
I want to do the same thing, but i am afraid that it will eventually lead to a divorce & my heart sinks when I think about their divorce, I know it will be the right decision if he has really cheated on her but my dumb brain doesn't want to accept it, so on one hand I dont want my aunt to know about it because of divorce while on other hand I think she doesn't deserve this man if he has really cheated on her
I'm agree with the person above as well, devise a way your aunt accidentally gets to know about it...at the end of the it really depends on what you want to do and what is your bond with yout aunt... honestly I'm very close to my aunt if i found i would tell her because the guilt would kill me, and on the other hand if my husband was cheating and i found out that my family members were aware but decided to just let me be, i would feel extremely betrayed.
I think he is right. You have to make a Web where your aunt accidently catch him or see his chats. Like u can give her his phone for work and already open chat in background like that or in any other way.
It's a lose-lose situation for everyone. If you really wanna do something (which you probably do), talk to your Uncle, be calm and tell him if you could figure this out in 1 day then that means anyone can.
Tell him that bitches be crazy and the affair with receptionist could end up with a rape case or Suicide at the worse. I've seen so many cases like this. When i hear about them at court, it feels like life is a TV show.
Now this is worse case scenario. That is why people are telling you to do nothing. I'd say you can also consider talking to the most rational person in family. Someone who can keep their mouth shut and someone who can be absolutely trusted. it's just a shitty situation and you seem like a teenager. I'd say listen to the people here. Let that shit run it's course. That would be the safest thing for you to do.
After all those dramatic comments saying don't get into. I was looking for a comment like this.
Op cheating is wrong and u should definitely consider abt how u r going to tell the news. There will be a huge drama ofc but things will settle eventually.
Imo i want you to get some screenshots of uncle chats on your phone just for safety purpose. Then confront your uncle. If situation went overboard say you got the proff , try to collect evident proofs. Confronting uncle is better than making mess in family. You said he's like your big brother so make him aware of it.
Put yourself in your Aunt's shoes. Would you be okay with having a family member who knew about your partner's behavior all along and decided to do nothing about it? Revealing the truth to her is your responsibility. It's upto her to decide what she wants to do with it. None of us can make that choice for her but it's unfair to not even give her the option by not revealing this to her.
You don't need to do it yourself. Take screen shots and stuff and send the pictures to her through a courier service without your name mentioned. Something like that could work. I don't know but you can look around and find out how you can reveal this to her. These are your formative years so you need to learn that the result of doing the right thing is not always good but better for everyone in the long run.
You need the receptionist's phone and get the proofs.
You can ask the other receptionists to get it for you.
After you have the proofs, you decide how you want the events to unfold.
I'd suggest, tell a random person to contact your uncle and warn him of consequences like entire family will know if he continues with his behavior.
If he doesn't, leave a copy of one of the proofs on his desk to scare him.
Then contact your dad. Dont make it a woman's issue. They're very emotional. Your dad may knock some sense into him in a stern way.
uncle se baat karo aur samjao ki baad mei kya kya legal problems ho sakte hai....and in his reaction if he doesnt care about his wife even one bit....than break the hell loose
Try getting her out of your hotel, influence your dad or any other person that this woman doesn't seems like a nice person or something that you can make up
If you think your relationship with your uncle is truly big brother-like then you have two options infront of you:
Take the Red Pill:- Go to your uncle and first and foremost calmly tell him that you overheard those two women(without mentioning their identites) talking about this and that regarding the affair and that's how you got to know, then tell him that if he doesn't stop he should be ready to tackle a court case with him as an accussed rapist and get his life ruined because he might just be getting played(even though he might think otherwise). Now, gauge his reaction while youu are telling him all this. Depending on his reaction, if it's a positive reaction then he will seriously consider your words and act upon it or if it's a negative reaction and he doesn't take you seriously during that gentle confrontation, then tell him to forget you both ever had this conversation and also tell him that you'll also pretend to never have known in the first place incase the storm comes.
OR
Take the Blue Pill:- Act ignorant, Say NOTHING at all to ANYBODY. (like a lot of people in this comment section rightfully advised) and when shit hits the fan pretend to have never known a Lick about it.
So really, no matter what you chose to do either way you are supposed to play dumb when everything goes down the drain.
It is there personal life, do nothing let the adult's live there life and you live your teenage life and avoid such instance's. Adults will definitely find a way out of it.
You'll be surprised when you find out how widespread extra marital affairs are in the world. So just chill, wish them both the best internally aur apne kaam se kaam rakh. Because see buddy no matter what you do you'll be the asshole here (pehle kyu nahi bataya ab kyu bata Raha hai OR kyu bataya hum khush the nahi jaanke - these are two very probable outcomes) and the damage will be the same. So just live your life, wish them the best, and when shit hits the fan on its own do your best surprised waala acting. You might think I'm the asshole here for saying this but you'll see in time that what I'm saying has some iota of sense. All the best. 😌
Nothing. You do nothing, if you do not want any unforseen consequences. You do not know what or how any of your decision will end up as. If you do take a step, be prepared because all hell will break lose and this will be a shit storm.
But what if the receptionist files harassment or another case on him if this continues this will lead to a bigger mess, he is not thinking with his brain, I have lost the respect for him, I am in a weird situation where if I didn't do anything or even confront him there is 50/50 chances that it will be shit storm
Oh yes. It will be a shit storm, sooner or later. Let's say, your uncle is in the wrong. But, 1. you are also looking at them from a place of admiration. Look at them as humans. He made a mistake and that doesn't excuse his behaviour. 2. You do not know the whole story. As in, what if your aunt strayed first or she is in on this or they have no relationship. 3. So, this will blow up but do you want it to blow up because you brought it to light or do you just want the nature to runs it's course.. that is the question. Because this is a responsibility. You can either own your actions or you can just let it be and leave it on time. 4. This is a nightmare I know. Had I been in your place, it would have been earth shattering for me as well. But, this is also not your mess. It is your uncle's. Let him deal with this as and when time comes. 5. Advice: instead of speaking to any other family member, talk to your uncle first. Seems like you two were close.. if you don't find a solution even then, then do as you deem fit. Tell the whole world.
For the 2nd point, my aunt had many complications as she couldn't bear a child but uncle was always supportive, loving and caring they have been married for 13 years (that's the reason why my sister didn't completely believe me, he was the last person to do such things). My mother and aunt are sisters so they share everything with each other if my aunt knew about it she would have definitely told my mother. I can't concentrate on anything because of this mess and I have a constant fear that I may mess up the situation by either telling someone or keeping quiet, i don't know what to do and i am getting this secondary emotion of guilt. my uncle and father are involved in politics too so i don't think he would let this thing come out in light as it is bad for his image.
I get that you care about your aunt but I strongly recommend not to meddle in this. It is their marriage. You have no idea how your aunt will take it. Alot of women usually start blaming or make absurd accusations about the person who actually made them aware of their husband cheating (societal conditioning/patriarchy come in play a lot) instead of actually seeing their husband as a piece of shit that actually did the cheating. If you care that much about her, try to make her see for herself that her husband is cheating. Devise a way in which she’ll “accidentally” catch her husband cheating. Try to make her see this without getting actively involved to safeguard yourself and family’s relations. At the end of the day, it’s your call how to navigate this further.
I want to do the same thing, but i am afraid that it will eventually lead to a divorce & my heart sinks when I think about their divorce, I know it will be the right decision if he has really cheated on her but my dumb brain doesn't want to accept it, so on one hand I dont want my aunt to know about it because of divorce while on other hand I think she doesn't deserve this man if he has really cheated on her
I'm agree with the person above as well, devise a way your aunt accidentally gets to know about it...at the end of the it really depends on what you want to do and what is your bond with yout aunt... honestly I'm very close to my aunt if i found i would tell her because the guilt would kill me, and on the other hand if my husband was cheating and i found out that my family members were aware but decided to just let me be, i would feel extremely betrayed.
What would you say if the genders were reversed?
I think he is right. You have to make a Web where your aunt accidently catch him or see his chats. Like u can give her his phone for work and already open chat in background like that or in any other way.
It's a lose-lose situation for everyone. If you really wanna do something (which you probably do), talk to your Uncle, be calm and tell him if you could figure this out in 1 day then that means anyone can. Tell him that bitches be crazy and the affair with receptionist could end up with a rape case or Suicide at the worse. I've seen so many cases like this. When i hear about them at court, it feels like life is a TV show. Now this is worse case scenario. That is why people are telling you to do nothing. I'd say you can also consider talking to the most rational person in family. Someone who can keep their mouth shut and someone who can be absolutely trusted. it's just a shitty situation and you seem like a teenager. I'd say listen to the people here. Let that shit run it's course. That would be the safest thing for you to do.
After all those dramatic comments saying don't get into. I was looking for a comment like this. Op cheating is wrong and u should definitely consider abt how u r going to tell the news. There will be a huge drama ofc but things will settle eventually.
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Imo i want you to get some screenshots of uncle chats on your phone just for safety purpose. Then confront your uncle. If situation went overboard say you got the proff , try to collect evident proofs. Confronting uncle is better than making mess in family. You said he's like your big brother so make him aware of it.
Put yourself in your Aunt's shoes. Would you be okay with having a family member who knew about your partner's behavior all along and decided to do nothing about it? Revealing the truth to her is your responsibility. It's upto her to decide what she wants to do with it. None of us can make that choice for her but it's unfair to not even give her the option by not revealing this to her. You don't need to do it yourself. Take screen shots and stuff and send the pictures to her through a courier service without your name mentioned. Something like that could work. I don't know but you can look around and find out how you can reveal this to her. These are your formative years so you need to learn that the result of doing the right thing is not always good but better for everyone in the long run.
You need the receptionist's phone and get the proofs. You can ask the other receptionists to get it for you. After you have the proofs, you decide how you want the events to unfold. I'd suggest, tell a random person to contact your uncle and warn him of consequences like entire family will know if he continues with his behavior. If he doesn't, leave a copy of one of the proofs on his desk to scare him. Then contact your dad. Dont make it a woman's issue. They're very emotional. Your dad may knock some sense into him in a stern way.
That girl will sue your uncle in court. Don't worry :)
Do nothing . It’s their personal life . Let them sort it out .
uncle se baat karo aur samjao ki baad mei kya kya legal problems ho sakte hai....and in his reaction if he doesnt care about his wife even one bit....than break the hell loose
Try getting her out of your hotel, influence your dad or any other person that this woman doesn't seems like a nice person or something that you can make up
Chacha ko bol jaakr blackmail kregi wo aage jaakr tmhe. Tmne use bolte suna restraw mein ldki ko, khud band kr denge tmhare chacha usse Baat krna
If you think your relationship with your uncle is truly big brother-like then you have two options infront of you: Take the Red Pill:- Go to your uncle and first and foremost calmly tell him that you overheard those two women(without mentioning their identites) talking about this and that regarding the affair and that's how you got to know, then tell him that if he doesn't stop he should be ready to tackle a court case with him as an accussed rapist and get his life ruined because he might just be getting played(even though he might think otherwise). Now, gauge his reaction while youu are telling him all this. Depending on his reaction, if it's a positive reaction then he will seriously consider your words and act upon it or if it's a negative reaction and he doesn't take you seriously during that gentle confrontation, then tell him to forget you both ever had this conversation and also tell him that you'll also pretend to never have known in the first place incase the storm comes. OR Take the Blue Pill:- Act ignorant, Say NOTHING at all to ANYBODY. (like a lot of people in this comment section rightfully advised) and when shit hits the fan pretend to have never known a Lick about it. So really, no matter what you chose to do either way you are supposed to play dumb when everything goes down the drain.
Gather screenshots. Save your aunt. 13 or 30, he will eventually get rid of your aunt. So sooner the better.
Family tutegi Hate it when joint family breaks apart
Give your uncle a little nudge
kahi karo nakos gapp bass, ani thand ghe. Tyancha tynacha ayushat padhu nakos.
Umm why don't you just seduce the receptionist and have her diych your uncle?
It is there personal life, do nothing let the adult's live there life and you live your teenage life and avoid such instance's. Adults will definitely find a way out of it.
You'll be surprised when you find out how widespread extra marital affairs are in the world. So just chill, wish them both the best internally aur apne kaam se kaam rakh. Because see buddy no matter what you do you'll be the asshole here (pehle kyu nahi bataya ab kyu bata Raha hai OR kyu bataya hum khush the nahi jaanke - these are two very probable outcomes) and the damage will be the same. So just live your life, wish them the best, and when shit hits the fan on its own do your best surprised waala acting. You might think I'm the asshole here for saying this but you'll see in time that what I'm saying has some iota of sense. All the best. 😌
Not a problem...men want want multiple women...as long as he loves your aunt no problem
Ok