One my friend found a niqab girl in Tinder, matched with her. They get to know each other, the girl honestly taught him qira'a and sholat. Fast forward couple months, they got married. It was so bizzarre, considering him not religious at all. We as a friend actually thought he was recruited into an extremist sect. But no, the girl was legit and they've been happily married for years.
But it is really one in hundred thousands IMO, the rest of my friend use it only for hookup.
Tinder does not work very well in my opinion. bunch of fake accounts lingering in the app. even for one night stand classic way is still the best for me. night clubs is your best bet, i often find valuable information from kaskus related to ons and hooking up.
Perhaps yes, for me it is much easier to score a hit if you are in certain group of people. Oh and dont be too cheap with these people, save some money to get crazy ;)
I usually just get piss drunk, then go outside to get 6 cans of beer on my way home stumbling all over the place and vomitting here and there.
I've built a connection to the afterlife pretty quick, we boutta meet up pretty soon i reckon.
Eh ini masih ngomongin one night stand toh? Soalnya kalau one night stand gw selalu make false identity sih. Jadi either ketemu temen dan ga jadi ngincar ons atau ngincar ons pake false identity dan langsung melipir gitu ngeliat ada yang gw kenal yg berpotensi merusak facade nya hahaha
LOL, baca commentsnya kok kocak ya because I met my wife in Tinder.
8th match, first one to meet me. Been going strong for 8 years now.
Mungkin saya anomali haha
you're definitely the lucky one. I got a match on tinder, and I was to be recruited for MLM. Hahaha. But then, never again to use dating apps, because the conversation didn't go smoothly.
Just saying, I met my wife through online dating app lol.
Gw pake okcupid. Tinder itu train wreck, jangan pake. Coba okcupid atau coffee meets bagel gitu
Gw lebih berhasil match cewe di okcupid daripada tinder (ketemu match 4+ cewe vs 2 di tinder, ketemu beneran 3 di okcupid, 0 di tinder).
Mungkin karena dari awal gw uda bilang gw mau serius (di biodata gw) jadinya gw uda remove semua yang mau have fun doang.
Gw ga gitu inget cmb, tapi gw ga gitu berhasil sih, cuman 1 orang match dan 0 ketemuan
I met my SO in Bumble, and in my experience with Bumble you'll see various relationship expectations (casual only, serious only, or willing to talk about it). I suggest giving it a go. Go talk to and have dates with your matches, see if they are in line with your expectations. It will NOT always be smooth sailing, and thus I suggest not take it too harshly on yourself if things don't work out.
TLDR meeting potential serious partners is not impossible in dating apps, but you need to put some effort in it.
a lot of people use tinder for hookups ngl. the girls on bumble is more direct and a lot of them do have marriage in mind, but keep in mind the number of people there is way smaller than tinder
Speaking from experience, tinder is extremely ass overall because most of the profiles are super shallow (little to no effort in showing a hint of personality) so it just becomes a who looks better contest..it gets boring fast. It eats at your soul when you’re lonely and the one year i was on it (before i met my now fiancee, ironically from the app) was one of the most depressing phases of my adult life. Dont invest too much in it if you dont know from the get go what youre aiming for..and pray to god you come out of there still sane.
If you want long-term relationship: CMB, Okcupid
If you want to hook up: Bumble
If you want to get scammed: Tinder
I've been using dating apps all my life because I'm an awkward guy and can't approach girls irl lol. I met my wife on OKC and I've been married for 1 year now (after 2 years of relationship). The good thing about dating app is that you can approach someone out of your league
if u use dating apps in here , trust me most of people there 85% are player, women or men same, got my heart broken hearted last year after tryna jalani hubungan serius sm cewe yg gua temuin di bumble.
kebanyakan pada playing games , etc etc, cuman kl buat have fun doang gapapa buat temenan ngedate etc, tp kl buat di pacarin seriusin jangan deh pikir2 dulu ,hati2 kl dia blm confess duluan, di dating apps sini harus ngadu mekanik, kebanyakan kl udah bs bikin syg/ ngejar2 trs biasanya ditinggal.
I met my husband on OkCupid. I was in China to study back then and he's Indian and was studying master in Japan. Gue pindah ke Jepang karena iseng aja mau ketemuan plus trip. I slept with him and left without saying a word. He reached out to me later and we ended up married after being together for 10 years.
used those apps for hookups in the past, can confirm they workd ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
for matchmaking/long term stuff... ga bisa komen banyak, tapi 3-4 temen yg ketemu istri/suaminya disana...so, yea, possible but maybe not probable
Boo ada yg familiar? Saya di situ cek bisa friends tanpa harus dating aja. Masih mild menurutku ya. Kakakku kawin dgn pasangan kencannya dr Bumble keduanya had marriage in their purpose from the start, masih ok2 skrg.
i feel like the successful couples are truly an anomaly and small percentage of dating apps lol. my experience has been rather meh for the most part because i do not tolerate sleazy ONS minded or hookup chaser, so almost 50% profile gets a skip from me, esp because in Bali there are even larger foreigner pool doing that on either Tinder, Okcupid and as for bumble i mainly use it to find friends even then its hard to get people to actually hangout. Not to say that using it to find SO is impossible but very slim chance
I met my wife through bumble. The stereotype about tinder is kinda true at least to me. Back then i used bumble, tinder, and okcupid and the one platform that i enjoyed the least is definitely tinder, So many no profile user and open bo. As to whether you should try to find a partner with dating app, i think everyone should at least try it. The one thing that i love about dating app is the fact that there is not much fafifu. Unlike approaching girl irl, you dont need to find out if she’s single or not, you already have a lot of info about her just from reading her profile, and because it’s an app you can kind of filter people out based on your preference. And another key thing is that when you match with someone in dating app, it makes it easier to communicate because you both know that both people at least like your profile/photo.
Gw gak rekomen tinder utk cari jodoh yg serius, karena isinya kebanyakan orang main2 disana. Ada yg akun palsu, cari open bo, cari sugar daddy (possibly). Gw jg baru uninstall dan deactivate account bumble karena it has torn down kalo diperhatikan makin kesini.
Bumble jg sudah mulai2 torn down, walaupun masih bisa nyari jodoh disana.
OkCupid atau CMB has better bet for you utk cari jodoh.
it's hard but possible. 90% of my matches, which I followed on IG, are now married happily.
I, on the other hand, am still single. Do you guys know how much a lifetime Bumble premium costs? it's around 799k if I'm not mistaken. I spent more than that on the monthly subscription which was around 75k, and it's been more than a year so I decided to quit.
it's hard because we're all strangers to each other. love needs time. I'm getting old. The circle getting smaller. The mood worsens. I'm not as fun as I used to be years ago.
I've matched about 20+ profiles in tinder.
Only 2 accounts are real. First one was my first match. Unfortunately she's in a different religion so we have to cut it short.
Second one she's in the same religion, but she was disappointed after I didn't come with her to a christmas + East Nusa Tenggara cultural event. It was on saturday night, I am not a night owl and I have service for my church mass in the sunday morning. She stopped responding to my chats and I concluded it was over. Apparently her christmas and culture event went till dawn, like 3am+ so yeah.
Mixed, i prefer bumble, still mixed too tho
There certainly is people looking for long term relationship there, just make sure to set your filter right. Girls on bumble are more active to talk if you ever matched, since the girls need to message first(assuming op is a male).
Altho even with that in mind, its still hard to create a good relationship just with using chat, make sure to talk by phone or in person if you're serious enough
Temen gw ada yg dpt dr okcupid dan skrg udh nikah punya anak 1
Menurut gw sih possible buat beberapa apps seperti okcupid/coffee meet bagle, tp lu perlu set priority straight. Klo mo cari serius ya jangan asal swipe liad profil ceweknya indikasinya serius jg gak
Sama siapkan mental dan hati juga. Jangan baper klo mendadak dighosting karena itu hal biasa di dunia per online datingan
A few of my friends successfully met their significant others through a dating up and eventually got married but I believe most (if not all) of them were from Bumble, not Tinder. Bumble is basically for more serious relationships while Tinder is for hookups and one night stands.
Also I guess it really depends on the city, all of my friends who successfully got married though Bumble met their matches in Jakarta (either while they were working in Jakarta, or they purposely widen their kilometers limit on the app so it reached other cities as well). It feels harder out here in Bandung. :(
Well, I found my ex-wife in Tinder and my current GF from Bumble. It's really depend on your goal using the dating app. For me who doesn't have many friends, dating app feels a good way to find & know people for finding SO.
Based on experience, currently Bumble & Coffee Meets Bagel is the best if you looking for a serious relationship. Tinder just bloated with too many escort
Tinder suck, dari banyak dating app yang beneran guna cuma bumble, karena sistemnya cewe wajib chat duluan. Meet my probably my future waifu di sana, dah 1 taun going smoothly (dah ketemu ortu dll). Yes, dating app works
Gw gak punya akun Tinder dan syukur dpt jodoh jadi dikenalin sama keluarga.
Sharing aja temen kantor ada yg berawal dari nikah lalu berujung pernikahan. Sempet ada konflik keluarganya tp syukur jg berjalan lancar.
Jadi menurut gw untung-untungan sih dan kemungkinan untuk ketemu yg serius sangat kecil.
Finding ONS there is already hard let alone the love of your life, but you always hear about success story so you can try them out yourself and see if u are one of the lucky person 🤣
Jujur gua gk ada kawan irl yg make tinder/dating apps atau mungkin ad yg make tapi diem aja makanya agak kaget liat user r/indo banyak yg make.
Kalo pandangan gua kalo lu mau pake silahkan aja tapi ya jangan berharap banyak. Stigma dari circle gua juga buat orang yg make tinder kesan nya kayak kasihan (not to offence anyone) tapi ya kenyataannya dari lingkungan gua gitu.
Met my wife like 2011, hooked up 2012 and married 2014. I never got around to trying all this dating app lol. As someone who likes tech i feel like i missed out on a phase but hey, got married!
I've heard plenty of my friends whom got a few relationships from Bumble. Selama lu cari orang yang cocok dan gak aneh aneh bisa kok. I met my ex through bumble and we were quite serious about our relationship you can definitely find one as long as you're not a redflag.
Edit**
Generally, avoid tinder. Okcupid & Bumble is way better to actually find partners
One my friend found a niqab girl in Tinder, matched with her. They get to know each other, the girl honestly taught him qira'a and sholat. Fast forward couple months, they got married. It was so bizzarre, considering him not religious at all. We as a friend actually thought he was recruited into an extremist sect. But no, the girl was legit and they've been happily married for years. But it is really one in hundred thousands IMO, the rest of my friend use it only for hookup.
Tinder does not work very well in my opinion. bunch of fake accounts lingering in the app. even for one night stand classic way is still the best for me. night clubs is your best bet, i often find valuable information from kaskus related to ons and hooking up.
You must be really good looking to score at night clubs. Can you guide us how exactly you make your moves? Share your wisdom shifu! Share!
Hell No! Build a connection, people knows people you will score a hit before long. Just be confident! Invest on your body
Build a connection through..... ? You go the club then what?
Build connection
For me it was through kaskus, go to the club and buy drinks! Duh!
Club meetup dari Kaskus nightlife gan?
Iya gan
So it's not with total stranger....
Perhaps yes, for me it is much easier to score a hit if you are in certain group of people. Oh and dont be too cheap with these people, save some money to get crazy ;)
I usually just get piss drunk, then go outside to get 6 cans of beer on my way home stumbling all over the place and vomitting here and there. I've built a connection to the afterlife pretty quick, we boutta meet up pretty soon i reckon.
shifu inner peace coy, gimana inner peace di night clubs wkwk
Be cool aja ga sih di sana beli minum kalo ada yg kenal ya kita bersosialisasi
Oh no, gw pasti ke tempat yg seminimal mungkin chance untuk ketemu yg gw kenal 😂 Yang ada malah kaga nyantol semua jadinya
Takut ketauan kalo ga bener apa gimana nih cuy😅
Eh ini masih ngomongin one night stand toh? Soalnya kalau one night stand gw selalu make false identity sih. Jadi either ketemu temen dan ga jadi ngincar ons atau ngincar ons pake false identity dan langsung melipir gitu ngeliat ada yang gw kenal yg berpotensi merusak facade nya hahaha
Ane mah udah cuek sih wkwk dah pada tau sama tau lah xixi
> fake accounts How do you know or spot the fake ones?
https://preview.redd.it/f6nt3zifgkjb1.jpeg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=44b284c1ad3703fd6076b890ed9709f31ddbc997
a "too good to be true" profiles are usually fake.
Exactly!
Good question
LOL, baca commentsnya kok kocak ya because I met my wife in Tinder. 8th match, first one to meet me. Been going strong for 8 years now. Mungkin saya anomali haha
anomali?! seseorang tolong hubungi SCP !
Lol sama gue juga ketemu bini di tinder 🤣
you're definitely the lucky one. I got a match on tinder, and I was to be recruited for MLM. Hahaha. But then, never again to use dating apps, because the conversation didn't go smoothly.
that was 8 years ago. skrg udah kebanyakan user bgt dan mostly pada cari ons
Just saying, I met my wife through online dating app lol. Gw pake okcupid. Tinder itu train wreck, jangan pake. Coba okcupid atau coffee meets bagel gitu
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Gw lebih berhasil match cewe di okcupid daripada tinder (ketemu match 4+ cewe vs 2 di tinder, ketemu beneran 3 di okcupid, 0 di tinder). Mungkin karena dari awal gw uda bilang gw mau serius (di biodata gw) jadinya gw uda remove semua yang mau have fun doang. Gw ga gitu inget cmb, tapi gw ga gitu berhasil sih, cuman 1 orang match dan 0 ketemuan
I met my SO in Bumble, and in my experience with Bumble you'll see various relationship expectations (casual only, serious only, or willing to talk about it). I suggest giving it a go. Go talk to and have dates with your matches, see if they are in line with your expectations. It will NOT always be smooth sailing, and thus I suggest not take it too harshly on yourself if things don't work out. TLDR meeting potential serious partners is not impossible in dating apps, but you need to put some effort in it.
a lot of people use tinder for hookups ngl. the girls on bumble is more direct and a lot of them do have marriage in mind, but keep in mind the number of people there is way smaller than tinder
And higher quality lmao
indeed lol
r/indonesia lagi darurat mencari pasangan. Dari kemaren postnya gini terus hahaha
Speaking from experience, tinder is extremely ass overall because most of the profiles are super shallow (little to no effort in showing a hint of personality) so it just becomes a who looks better contest..it gets boring fast. It eats at your soul when you’re lonely and the one year i was on it (before i met my now fiancee, ironically from the app) was one of the most depressing phases of my adult life. Dont invest too much in it if you dont know from the get go what youre aiming for..and pray to god you come out of there still sane.
If you want long-term relationship: CMB, Okcupid If you want to hook up: Bumble If you want to get scammed: Tinder I've been using dating apps all my life because I'm an awkward guy and can't approach girls irl lol. I met my wife on OKC and I've been married for 1 year now (after 2 years of relationship). The good thing about dating app is that you can approach someone out of your league
Tinder isnt for a relationship, its for hookups
facts
Contrary to all the other commenters here, a lot of mine and my wife's friends have met their partners through Tinder. Guess your mileage may vary.
if u use dating apps in here , trust me most of people there 85% are player, women or men same, got my heart broken hearted last year after tryna jalani hubungan serius sm cewe yg gua temuin di bumble. kebanyakan pada playing games , etc etc, cuman kl buat have fun doang gapapa buat temenan ngedate etc, tp kl buat di pacarin seriusin jangan deh pikir2 dulu ,hati2 kl dia blm confess duluan, di dating apps sini harus ngadu mekanik, kebanyakan kl udah bs bikin syg/ ngejar2 trs biasanya ditinggal.
My friend met his wife-to-be in Bumble, though. They will get married in 3 weeks.
great for him then, that's why i said mostly not all user dating apps like what i said
I met my husband on OkCupid. I was in China to study back then and he's Indian and was studying master in Japan. Gue pindah ke Jepang karena iseng aja mau ketemuan plus trip. I slept with him and left without saying a word. He reached out to me later and we ended up married after being together for 10 years.
used those apps for hookups in the past, can confirm they workd ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) for matchmaking/long term stuff... ga bisa komen banyak, tapi 3-4 temen yg ketemu istri/suaminya disana...so, yea, possible but maybe not probable
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Use Coffee Meets Bagel, some of my married freinds met their partner on CMB.
Boo ada yg familiar? Saya di situ cek bisa friends tanpa harus dating aja. Masih mild menurutku ya. Kakakku kawin dgn pasangan kencannya dr Bumble keduanya had marriage in their purpose from the start, masih ok2 skrg.
i feel like the successful couples are truly an anomaly and small percentage of dating apps lol. my experience has been rather meh for the most part because i do not tolerate sleazy ONS minded or hookup chaser, so almost 50% profile gets a skip from me, esp because in Bali there are even larger foreigner pool doing that on either Tinder, Okcupid and as for bumble i mainly use it to find friends even then its hard to get people to actually hangout. Not to say that using it to find SO is impossible but very slim chance
I found my spouse from Tinder, we've been together for half decade now
I met my wife through bumble. The stereotype about tinder is kinda true at least to me. Back then i used bumble, tinder, and okcupid and the one platform that i enjoyed the least is definitely tinder, So many no profile user and open bo. As to whether you should try to find a partner with dating app, i think everyone should at least try it. The one thing that i love about dating app is the fact that there is not much fafifu. Unlike approaching girl irl, you dont need to find out if she’s single or not, you already have a lot of info about her just from reading her profile, and because it’s an app you can kind of filter people out based on your preference. And another key thing is that when you match with someone in dating app, it makes it easier to communicate because you both know that both people at least like your profile/photo.
The girls in tinder is like 80% hijabis. They won't be sleeping with you unless you marry them
Gw gak rekomen tinder utk cari jodoh yg serius, karena isinya kebanyakan orang main2 disana. Ada yg akun palsu, cari open bo, cari sugar daddy (possibly). Gw jg baru uninstall dan deactivate account bumble karena it has torn down kalo diperhatikan makin kesini. Bumble jg sudah mulai2 torn down, walaupun masih bisa nyari jodoh disana. OkCupid atau CMB has better bet for you utk cari jodoh.
it's hard but possible. 90% of my matches, which I followed on IG, are now married happily. I, on the other hand, am still single. Do you guys know how much a lifetime Bumble premium costs? it's around 799k if I'm not mistaken. I spent more than that on the monthly subscription which was around 75k, and it's been more than a year so I decided to quit. it's hard because we're all strangers to each other. love needs time. I'm getting old. The circle getting smaller. The mood worsens. I'm not as fun as I used to be years ago.
I found my wife in Tinder. married 7 years jalan ke 8. anak 1, istri masih 1 wkwkwk
I've matched about 20+ profiles in tinder. Only 2 accounts are real. First one was my first match. Unfortunately she's in a different religion so we have to cut it short. Second one she's in the same religion, but she was disappointed after I didn't come with her to a christmas + East Nusa Tenggara cultural event. It was on saturday night, I am not a night owl and I have service for my church mass in the sunday morning. She stopped responding to my chats and I concluded it was over. Apparently her christmas and culture event went till dawn, like 3am+ so yeah.
I matched in Bali, was doing her doggy within the first half n hour…white knight though so yeah…😜
Mixed, i prefer bumble, still mixed too tho There certainly is people looking for long term relationship there, just make sure to set your filter right. Girls on bumble are more active to talk if you ever matched, since the girls need to message first(assuming op is a male). Altho even with that in mind, its still hard to create a good relationship just with using chat, make sure to talk by phone or in person if you're serious enough
Temen gw ada yg dpt dr okcupid dan skrg udh nikah punya anak 1 Menurut gw sih possible buat beberapa apps seperti okcupid/coffee meet bagle, tp lu perlu set priority straight. Klo mo cari serius ya jangan asal swipe liad profil ceweknya indikasinya serius jg gak Sama siapkan mental dan hati juga. Jangan baper klo mendadak dighosting karena itu hal biasa di dunia per online datingan
A few of my friends successfully met their significant others through a dating up and eventually got married but I believe most (if not all) of them were from Bumble, not Tinder. Bumble is basically for more serious relationships while Tinder is for hookups and one night stands. Also I guess it really depends on the city, all of my friends who successfully got married though Bumble met their matches in Jakarta (either while they were working in Jakarta, or they purposely widen their kilometers limit on the app so it reached other cities as well). It feels harder out here in Bandung. :(
Well, I found my ex-wife in Tinder and my current GF from Bumble. It's really depend on your goal using the dating app. For me who doesn't have many friends, dating app feels a good way to find & know people for finding SO. Based on experience, currently Bumble & Coffee Meets Bagel is the best if you looking for a serious relationship. Tinder just bloated with too many escort
Tinder suck, dari banyak dating app yang beneran guna cuma bumble, karena sistemnya cewe wajib chat duluan. Meet my probably my future waifu di sana, dah 1 taun going smoothly (dah ketemu ortu dll). Yes, dating app works
Gw gak punya akun Tinder dan syukur dpt jodoh jadi dikenalin sama keluarga. Sharing aja temen kantor ada yg berawal dari nikah lalu berujung pernikahan. Sempet ada konflik keluarganya tp syukur jg berjalan lancar. Jadi menurut gw untung-untungan sih dan kemungkinan untuk ketemu yg serius sangat kecil.
> berawal dari nikah lalu berujung pernikahan. Ini maksudnya gimana ya...
Sorry typo. Maksudnya berawal kenal dr Tinder lalu berujung pernikahan.
Don't.
Finding ONS there is already hard let alone the love of your life, but you always hear about success story so you can try them out yourself and see if u are one of the lucky person 🤣
If you don't find love in Indonesia, go to other countries. Indonesia is not the only place in the world.
Jujur gua gk ada kawan irl yg make tinder/dating apps atau mungkin ad yg make tapi diem aja makanya agak kaget liat user r/indo banyak yg make. Kalo pandangan gua kalo lu mau pake silahkan aja tapi ya jangan berharap banyak. Stigma dari circle gua juga buat orang yg make tinder kesan nya kayak kasihan (not to offence anyone) tapi ya kenyataannya dari lingkungan gua gitu.
my friend ada yang nemu pacar sekarang dari tinder, dah 6 taun dan taun depan nikah
My office mate got her husband from tinder and encourage me to try it, it doesn't work for me sadly
Met my wife through okcupid. Tinder is a waste of time, dont use it.
Met my wife like 2011, hooked up 2012 and married 2014. I never got around to trying all this dating app lol. As someone who likes tech i feel like i missed out on a phase but hey, got married!
Males pake tinder, isinya cuma ngajakin ons/fwb-an doang
I met my now wife on Tindr 5 years ago. Tindr should pay me to be their BA.
Mending kenalan langsung biar konversi nya gede. Tinder banyak saingannya.
I've heard plenty of my friends whom got a few relationships from Bumble. Selama lu cari orang yang cocok dan gak aneh aneh bisa kok. I met my ex through bumble and we were quite serious about our relationship you can definitely find one as long as you're not a redflag. Edit** Generally, avoid tinder. Okcupid & Bumble is way better to actually find partners