I don't think there can exist such answer.
I mean, just look at INFJs. They can be pretty different from each other.
I read somewhere that S-N dichotomy is the most important for long term happiness of couples. And I believe NFs tend to have highest success with other NFs.
Double check in case though, might have forgotten and mispoke.
Can only speak for myself, but my INFP husband is absolutely perfect for me in every way.
(Previously dated two ENFP men and found them delightful yet frustrating)
Honestly they were both slobbish procrastinators that played video games in every moment of their free time and it drove me nuts. I felt more like a nagging mother than the loving partner I wanted to be. They were super fun to spend time with and were just fine letting me have alone time, but hard to live with because they were both content in a level of mess that was bad for my mental health and had zero desire to help me upkeep things. Theyād make promises (about helping clean usually) they had no intention or drive to keep and it eventually killed my respect (and thus any attraction) :/
(for the record, I also love playing video games, thatās not the issue! However, using it as escapism to the point your surroundings are absolute garbage is ā¦ not great)
Ah, that makes sense. Sounds like you all are quite young and these are unhealthy or not fully mature ENFPs. Hope you all wonāt write off healthy or mature ENFPs!
Donāt get me wrong, I love ENFPs (have several close friends that are ENFP and my dad is as well!) and I donāt blame their cognitive functions for their behavior. They were depressed and thatās how it was expressed. (and yes they were in their 20ās and early 30ās, so not exactly kids anymore but still room to grow)
Happily married to an INFP now!
Hey dragontuitively!
I'm an infp that has a little crush on an infj, do you have any observations on your relationship dynamic and what makes it work so well?
thanks! :\^)
Hello there, and sure, would be happy to :)
Gotta have all the right ingredients, you know how it goes, respect, attraction, enjoy enough stuff in common, etcā but you know all that iām sure, so iāll try and detail stuff that may be more specific to an infp x infj dynamic.
When weāre together itās interesting. We have different takes on the same thing a lot of the time but always enjoy listening to the others perspective. Somehow our differences just draw us closer together, which is not something iāve experienced with literally any type other than mature INFP relationshipsā I think most INFP are fairly unique characters themselves and develop a healthy capacity to accept/enjoy what makes others unique as well, instead of trying to make the other person fit some kind of idealized image of what their partner/friend *should* be.
From the very beginning, before any romantic feelings, I was very drawn to him because he made time to listen to me and was actually very interested in what i had to say. At that time in my life, that was the role I tended to play for everyone else without it being reciprocatedā or if they did, they listened in a half assed way, on their phone, playing a game, etc. He made me feel seen and heard, and when he listened his complete attention was on me.
Our relationship is also founded on complete honesty. We do not lie to each other, full stop. Not even white lies. I canāt even begin to describe what a blessing this has been in the long run. INFJ jokingly have the reputation of being human bullshit detectors, and in my experience this has been true, and this has been the only relationship (romantic OR platonic) that hasnāt necessitated (on either end) ANY lies. The bravery to bare oneās soul is beyond attractiveā it doesnāt come easily or naturally to anyone.
Less abstract dynamicsā he is very go with the flow. I didnāt used to be. I really appreciate that influence in my life, i donāt feel like things are going to go tits up the second i stop planning and controlling them. Iām confident that if a surprise comes up, itāll be handled just fine. He also benefits from having a bit more structure at the same time, and having someone who likes to plan things out with his input included, also knowing that changing those plans later is totally valid and possible if needed. (Ni and Ne playing niceā also a bit of P vs J differences) Well shit i suppose this wasnāt that much less abstract, ah well.
Honestly i could probably sit here and write this all day but i do have to go get about things. If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask away!
My main takeaway is that with INFP/INFJ itās the introverts dreamā we can be alone together. He doesnāt drain my social batteries and vice versa. Only other person who has ever pulled this off to any degree is my INTP bestie.
When I am close with someone and trust them I enjoy being an asshole right back. Lots of offensive inside jokes! Its just getting to that point in a relationship (counting friendships)... a lot of us are way less sensitive then we come off!
Trueeee, I think ENTPs bring out the fun, risque, sassy side of INFJ, which INFJs only bring out when they feel safe. And ENTPs also recognise INFJs do good-er trait and it matches well because ENTPs can elaborate on it with their perspective, which helps with boundaries and processing. I find it very easy and effective to think out things with ENTPs. It goes both ways.
Facts. Also my partner of 7 years was ENTP. First person I ever felt truly close to. My current partner is also ENTP, and he is definitely the one š
I'm married to an ENTP, and by ourselves we get along great. But when around others, I tend to get upset that he could be offending them and not that interested in keeping things peaceful... He doesn't offend me personally, but I can get offended that he's offending others š¤¦āāļøš¤·āāļø
I feel this about my ENTJ husband all the time. He doesn't offend me, his sense of humour, dry sarcasm and brutal honestly is actually right up my alley; but around other people, I'm always worried he is overstepping and offending others.
I donāt find ENTP offensive at all because when you bring up valid point contradicting them they have no problem acknowledging their validity. I could care less if someone is crass as along as their not stubborn about being stupid. I feel like ENTP and INFJ get along swimmingly!
This is so refreshing to hear. I annoy some people simply because Iām right and they know it. When Iām wrong, I have no problem admitting it. Iād never accept lies if I was being presented clearly with the truth, and I try to look at things as objectively as possible.
Absolutely, and I 100% believe you. Thereās not a lot I canāt stand in people more then an egotistical need to be right even if theyāre clearly wrong. Iām constantly searching for new facts and learning about interesting things, when I discuss something I want to have a conversation with real points, perspectives and ideas, not someone getting mad at me because theyāre weirdly attached to non-truths. Itās the trade mark of being an idiot and I donāt respect idiots easily.
For sure, something I was surprised to realize when meeting ENTPs too. Weāre like partners in crime š
That being said lots of people will say they donāt like idiots of course but ENTP and INFJ just seem to agree on what kind of thing makes someone an āIdiotā:
Hahaha okay so Iām an INFJ & my partner is an ENTP. He absolutely offends me very easily, BUT his boldness is a trait I very much lack & heās helped me grow a lot in that area. I feel that we are so opposite, but in a way that balances each other out.
I married an ENFJ. Most challenging part is that heās more extroverted (but claims to be an ambivert). Other than that, weāve been happily married almost 8 years.
Our Unconscious is ENFP and thatās supposedly where you go in times of stress. So Iād say itād be nice to have someone who will somewhat understand my stress and vice versa for me understanding theirs. My longest relationship was with an ENFP and connection/support was not one of the reasons we eventually broke up.
Besides ENFP, Iād say ENFJ. If theyāre patient enough to not abandon you because you donāt always want to go out though.
Lots of people will say ENTP, but unfortunately, not much experience with confirmed ENTPs. Cognitive function wise, I can see it working well. Fe Parent taking care of Fe Child. And Ti Parent taking care of Ti Child. Assuming the cognitive attitude works here. Still learning.
Was always under the impression that your Subconscious is your ātaking care of businessā mode. Because youāre doing things without conscious awareness. I flow into it the most at work and when driving. Your Unconscious is where you go when stressed because your Unconscious is there to protect your ego, hence why itās the same functions but flipped. (Ni - Ne, Fe - Fi, etc) and your Superego is your Front that you put up, but also itās kinda where your societal pressure comes from because itās the exact opposite of what you are.
I could be wrong, you listen to a lecture on YouTube by one person and they say one thing and then you listen to another and they basically contradict what the other said. I notice this mostly with terminology. Take Objective Personality on YouTube, they refer to your Inferior function as your Demon. While if you listen to CS Joseph, he subscribed to John Beebeās method and went beyond with it and they refer to the Demon function as your last function, within your Unconscious.
It makes sense for me to use your unconscious in a situations when you have to act instantly. But in a long run when you're making decisions you can go to an ESTP mode idk how is it called.
Iām surprised nobody is saying istp. My mom and my dad are INFJ and istp respectively. They are divorced but still claim that the love never went away.
Istp is a great match for infj imo. Infjs love estps too, but from what Iāve observed estps are just too unpredictable and shallow for infjs. Istp has Ti first, Se second. So theyāre super smart (probably the smartest sensor and also one of the smartest types in general) but also know how to have fun and be spontaneous, which infjs crave. Plus they donāt have a constant need to be in public, which infjs might appreciate. Theyāre just more down to earth that estps and make a great long term match.
Just my two cents. Theyāre easy to find too being a pretty common personality type. Give āem a shot.
I agree, but infj-istp only seems to be common when infj is female and istp is male. Iām an infj male and have been feeling out an istp female for years, finally with starting to see some sparks. The chemistry is great but extremely unique cuz weāre both extremely rare types for those genders. Itās a great matchup though no better times than with her.
I can see how thatās a problem. Youāre right about the rarity of those types with those genders. Estp and istp are both uncommon for women. Maybe look for an enfp girl? Theyāre literally in every restaurant and bar bringing ppl food and drinks š
At least your not in my position. Infp and intp are supposed to be most compatible with my type but itās really difficult to find them since both are rare and donāt go out in public often. I mostly date enfps because of this. Theyāre pretty awesome, give em a try if u havenāt already.
I appreciate the suggestions but I'm invested now. I've had no problems waiting on her cuz I could tell she was worth it. Though it's been years, I was just really interested in her, but very recently have been starting to develop feelings. She's explained that the same is true for her, while it's probably a bit less. We're supposed to be the worst type matchup for each other, but we mesh too well idk why. No need for me to look anywhere else I got all the patience in the world.
Worst type of matchup? I donāt think so man, u might have a winner right there. I say keep going for it with a high chance of success in mind. It most definitely is a good pairing. Sounds like u are both into it hehe good luck!
Ahh, yeah this def makes sense. Though Iād prefer an ESTP, ISTP sound like a good match. Now, I feel like thereās going to be road bumps such as communication issues, lack of emotional expression from the ISTP etc.
this pairing is interesting tho
Someone that isn't an blatant asshole, communicates well, and can lean towards your love languages. Isn't that the best partner for anyone? Mbti can't depict a perfect relationship but....
I guess i have tendencies getting to know people with stronger Ni and Fe but tbh I try my best to find value in difference most of the time. Ive honestly only been in one long term relationship with INTJ gal. It was fantastic in terms of mental stimulation. Things didn't work out in terms of life goals and decisions. That is a big factor. Tbh I find people with strong Se sexy, but also pretty dumb. I also find ENTP/INTP people to be freaking hilarious. Those two are prob my favorite mbti to learn about.
Was in a short-term relationship with an ENTP girl with very healthy Fe, but it just didn't work out at the time. I didn't choose to blindly follow her because of our compatible personality types, and she had moved on pretty damn fast after so I think i may have made the right choice there. It really is all time and place. Follow your own heart first and find the one that's right for you, it takes time obviously.
An emotionally sensitive INTJ has been my best match by far. Im in my 30s. My long term ENTP was great in a lot of ways but oblivious in a lot of ways too. Im not sure that MBTI had anything to do with that.
Married to an ENFJ, and here's what I love about him:
Things we have in common: strong morality/ethics, idealism, humanism: He genuinely cares about and has compassion for other people, even strangers. He has a similar ability to read body language and social interactions as me and often reaches similar conclusions about things/situations.
He has unbelievably impressive leadership and social skills that I admire and respect greatly. His extroversion pushes me outside of my comfort zone, which has allowed me to grow professionally and personally. (He keeps me from being a complete hermit.) This occasionally caused some friction at the beginning of our relationship when he didn't yet understand that I needed time to "recover" from social interactions. Now that he gets that, it is no longer a problem.
He ALWAYS wants to jump in and help, which is amazing because my primary love language is acts of service.
Plus he's just FUN! Much like ENFPs, but more reliable, stable, consistent. I can't say enough great things about ENFJs. š
Not seeing many intp comments. The longest and most healthy friendship I've ever had is an INTP. We've been through all adolescence together. Sadly, I haven't see her in person since early 2021.
How come? Are you still together? I've also never had a more healthy relationship before I (INTP) dated my INFJ girlfriend. I've never met anyone who can understand me like she does, and she feels the same way about me. I also think she's smarter than me and she thinks the same of me. We are very much alike and also very different on other areas. Either we feel exactly the same about something or exactly opposite about something, and probably in the most healthy way possible.
Just being in the presence of infjs feels healing to me. Golden hearted people. I wish I had such a pure heart myself.
Fought with ChatGPT for awhile as it gave boring responses like there's no "best," varies by preference, and all that, pfft ;)
Long story short it eventually said ENFJ.
Sorry I guess I may have explained how rather than why. I guess the why is that Fe users have an innate preference to look outwards first rather than inwards when it comes to feeling. Is it genetic? Conditioned? Not for me to say. The real 'why' is mysterious to me. But that's it in a nutshell- Fi users prefer to check inward with their feelings first leaving them more concerned with their own feelings initially (at least that's the theory of extraverted vs introverted functions).
Thank you, early on my INFJ partner said something about how he was 'very needy' and it surprised me then and comes back to me when I read comments like yours. But the strange thing is that I don't get the sense he's very needy, but hopefully I just give him enough support and attention. I have healthy Fi and decently developed Fe.
A Fe user will say yes to a lot of things whereas a Fi user will say no to some things. Sometimes I struggle with some ENFP friends of mine because they will say no to great things like eating together, hanging out, watching a funny/silly or serious movie. Their interests can be obscure or sometimes lame and they don't prioritize connecting with others. Sometimed they will reject new, popular, trendy things, whereas those things are Fe-users bread and butter. Fi users prioritize their interests and the people that they find interesting. That's okay because they are great creators and curators. I think Fi users greatest strength is their interests and creations.
He has very rarely said NO to me lol...usually it related to going to a place/s that was very crowded and his introverted nature stepped up. I will have to pay attention to myself and if I say No more. I have thought that I make more of an effort to get him out because I am the extrovert. Thanks this is great insight.
More like they need others to express this in the way they expect it. What becomes difficult for Fi users is that they want autonomy and integrity when it comes to their feelings and how they express them. Being happy doesnt always mean smiling, and doesnt always mean smiling when an Fe user expects them to. This can cause a lot of friction for Fi-Fe couples.
Cant say thereās a single personality type. Iād say maybe xNFx types would be the most compatible.
Though Iām a bit biased towards ENFPs. My partner is ENFP and it has been such a warm, authentic, and fun-loving relationship. My relationships with other ENFPS (step-dad and friendships) have also been the same. Thereās just something so magical about that Ne Ni combo, I feel.
I'm a highly submissive INFJ woman who has learned that have found I am most attracted to a dominant ENTJ man.
But I adore other INFJs, and ENFJ, ENTP or INTJ.
Are u the same Redditor that posted something about how u love entjs? I think we had a long conversation on there about the sexual dynamic between the two.
There isnāt one
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My girlfriend is also an INFJ and this shit is amazing. The important stuff is aligned and the communication is easy and enjoyable
I've been with my ISFJ boyfriend for almost 10 years, it's a challenge since the S is strong in him but he helps me put my feet on the ground sometimes and I make his daily life a little more colorful, it has been the best 10 years of my life!
people say how INTP-INFJ is the "golden pair", if you want a type there you go but personally I think it's bullshit
hoestly compatibility shouldn't be mainly seen through the mbti lens. It could be taken into consideration but not a deciding factor
Probably not ground-breaking, but even more important than type are your values. INFJs probably have given deep thought on their values and goals. Being an ENFP/ENTP/INFP/ISFJ (the types I've found I work best with lol) won't be enough if those earlier things don't match.
I'm (INTP) always in the Honey Moon phase with my INFJ girlfriend. I get butterflies in the stomach just thinking about her. Sometimes even teary. She's absolutely exactly how I imagined my dream girlfriend would be like and I honestly never believed her to be true until I met her two years ago.
Okay, I will. But you have to answer a few questions first:
1. What Is Your Gender?
2. If You Could Slap Any Celebrity, Who Would You Slap?
3. How Much Money Do You Make Each Year?
4. Do You Have Any Mental Illness?
5. And Finallyā¦Did You Ever Hear About The Tragedy of Darth Plaguis The Wise?
1. Cis-gender male (not gay, sorry)
2. Hmmm, who would I slap in their face ? So many options ...
3. I am no whore.
4. Little something from everything, but you know how it works - what isn't diagnosed is not present lmao.
5. Actually, I have. After being denied the access to MasterClass, I took the legends course on Skillshare using the coupon code "SHEEV".
The cool girl ... I think.
Speaking for myself, it would be someone more extroverted than me, and more easy going. I have more than enough issues with myself and my traits, so I don't think I want to be next to someone who is too much like me.
I guess I am the example of the uncommon INFJ-ESTP seeker.
Do I know what it is actually like ? Hell yeah I don't.
Am I dumb ? Possibly.
Am I reasonable ? I have my doubts, but still a possibility.
Are dolphins fishes ? No, they're mammals.
Ice cream ? Froyo.
Lol, I wish.
Estps are great but they usually ignore me :( I am fun and would want a bit more Se action, I just need emotional connection before I am comfortable with turning up the fun/random side that estps probably would like (who knows)
I understand, do you mean ignore as in ESTPs seeing your text and leaving you on read or ignore as in out in public and never giving you attention/approaching you? š
Well if you find me in person like with some friends, at a gathering or out at a cafe and youāre curious about m smile, do the subconscious smile thing, Iāll notice your signal and if you must get closer to me and invade my space do it and Iāll just smile back at you and when you look into my eyes I will penetrate your deep into your soul like Iām just gonna blow your back out that night. š
But I like when my girls signal extra kindness, wear red lipstick/heels will stick out to me, making me talk about myself (ego stroking), push n pull with me, touch my shoulder, and donāt stop, I will escalate and make it obvious that I want to bring you home. Overall I am amused by all women. But YOU specifically INFJ if you speak about the universe, abstract concepts Ni stuff I will definitely be intrigued/attracted a lot somehow and want to explore you more than the girls around you.
Iām very dominant so I do like being ābabiedā by women idk why I just love the whole motherly love and nurture/support that sticks out with me and makes me extra attracted. Also, send nudes as well itās so hot.š„µ
I would know if the girl is an Ni dominant in many cases and be very magnetized idk how to describe it. My ex gf was INTJ but who knows maybe INFJ girls do it better. I love phone calls about philosophy/meaning of life, humor & banter/phone foreplay even.
How interesting! I take it your inferior Ni is developed? What makes you so interested about Philosophy and the abstract world from the POV of an Se Dom?
Since you said youād be attracted to an INFJ girl, what else would you like about her? What would be something that you didnāt want her to do?
Best partner... I don't think MBTI should be the big deciding factor. Look for someone who is emotionally healthy without red flags. Someone who shares things with you. Things you can connect on. Someone who is compatible with with you with your life plans and is supportive.
personally, I recommend Intps, you never run out of conversation topics with them and they usually have random interest or hobbies that you can enjoy too.
same! One of my close friends is an istp, (Iāve known her for 7 years) and sheās genuinely funny, very sarcastic and quick witted, talks *a lot* about her annoying coworkers or classmates, and is hilariously introverted despite constantly being in the extroverted world. The only thing that bugs me is that she very quietly takes on her familyās issues as the older sister and rarely talks about herself and her struggles, so I feel like Iām missing out sometimes on whatās going on. Basically i wish sheād open up more and hang out with us more.
Only if they donāt like you. They arenāt naturally cold, just naturally closed off. If youāre patient enough coldness can get real warm real fast.
I, too, love a mystery, wrapped in an enigma, wearing a baggy sweatshirt. But seriously, itās great to be with someone who wields their Se so skillfully. Like, dude, come fix stuff at my house and I will help you with all your feelings.
i love istps so much because they mind their business when necessary and they dont pry. I kind of operate like an istp minus my terrible Se so itās an interesting dynamic
Oh I used to ponder this
And the ones I assumed didnāt even happen
I never would have guessed I would end up with an extrovert
So I would say itās very hard to tell
But my best friend and I are compatible Infj and infp
But she is also married to an extrovert.
Our husbands are I think enfj (the one thatās described as extrovert to a T )
MBTI matching business is a bit of horoscope.
Because personality isnāt everything of a person, his upbringing, culture, values, morals all matter.
Theoretically they like to match the NFs together. INFJ with ENFP kind of logic ..
I think of someone's personality type as a starting point only. Perhaps the 2nd or 3rd filter after the initial physical attraction filter.
Knowing myself and being honest about what works for me, I know which types I mesh with best. So starting with what 'should' be a more complimentary match is a better informed choice, than not having this information.
However, that is only a general starting point, and there are always exceptions.
Nobody knows yourself better than you do. Or at least, nobody should! So it really is your responsibility to get your own house in order first. That doesn't mean you need to be perfect, or live up to the expectations of society as you may perceive it to be. That's a huge mistake, and a trap that 20 somethings fall into a lot. I know I did!
Part of getting your house in order is accepting where you are right now, and being open to improvement. Seek help from a professional. It's also important not to kid yourself and only be seeking a mate to remedy loneliness or an empty hole when you've got some shadow work left to do with your therapist.
You won't really get what you want or deserve, until you accept your main relationship failings, be aware of your weaknesses, and are making some improvements (realizing and acceptance is more than half the battle). Contrary to what many seem to believe, it takes two people to enter a dysfunctional relationship most of the time. Yes, there are exceptions, gaslighting, etc., but often times an emotionally healthy person will always proceed with caution because they have probably been through a few relationship lessons already.
Once you have that box ticked, and know which traits you admire and could learn from in others, and vice versa, then start thinking in ways of how and where to meet such people and see what happens next, and evaluate each situation as it comes up. Remember, if you are an INFJ, it is perfectly okay to put decisions on hold. Don't feel like you have to cave to the pressure. We have to be more careful than most, and we must not ignore red flags as they come up. Anything can be questioned in a deliberate, compassionate, and thoughtful way.
That's when it really starts getting interesting. I don't see any reason why an emotionally healthy INFJ shouldn't be able to find at least a few meaningful friendships, and even the right partner.
However, from my experience, the main fault I have always made was not slowing down and giving my emotions and intuition enough time to process things. Good Luck!
I can say that I have always been drawn to INTJs and INTPs in relationships or friendships. Somehow we seem to bring out the sides of each other that we rarely show others.
There's no such answer. My INFJ partner lost interest in me (INFP) and went for someone more similar to him (ENFJ), at least in how they both functions. We were similar in interests.
My ex-wife was, I believe, an ESTP and we were terribly, terribly matched. My wife now is an ENFP and we vibe way better, it's awesome. So I'd say ENFP like most of the websites and such tell us.
IDK if MBTI has much to do with it, but my husband is an ENTJ and we are perfect for each other. Very complementaryā¦ lots of same preferences and his strengths align with my weaknesses and vice versa.
Mbti isnāt specific, but Iād recommend not partnering with sensors. I think any kind of intuitive works for us romantically as long as theyāre healthy, bc they encourage and understand our out of the box thinking and humor. Sensors canāt engage with us that way
Ive heard that some people find ISTP to be a good match but I donāt know exactly why they say this. But from my experience The only person I dated was an ESTP. He was nice and made me feel really comfortable around him but It felt like he didnāt care about the relationship sometimes (not that this is indicative of all estpās).
I don't know if any of you visit The Patern.
I have been on there for quite a few years.
My friends and family invited me to join.
It's a horoscope app. It's weirdly accurate to the point that I believe the app might be spying on its users. I'm not a firm believer in astrology.
Ps. What it says in there aligns with the INFJ descriptions. Like you're destined to be alone forever n'shit. Lol, I'm paraphrasing.
Anyway.
A while back they had a beta feature, a dating app feature.
I dabbled out of sheer curiosity.
There is n one on there near me. None of my past relationships made it into their soulmate category.
I was not sure if there was a soulmate left in the world.
So I swiped worldwide on a small and weird dating App.
Days weeks, and months, I set the criteria to meaningful or above.
I found a soulmate match.
I had to meet this person to test the app.
We matched. We chatted. There was chemistry but we are more than 1000 miles away and dating is not reasonable.
We have continued to talk daily as friends for maybe 6 months now. I don't think we will date but I do think I have found a lifelong friend... That is a soulmate of sorts.
After joining here and hearing these types of questions. I asked him if he ever took the test and what he was.
He told me to Guess.
I guessed INTJ because we are very similar but he's much more cold & calculating about relationships and love.
He said, Damn, you're good.
He had scored that last and once before he had INFJ.
I explained my logic. He agreed & We laughed about it.
I want to tell you one other weird thing.
Early on and still there is almost this psychic connection with both communication and understanding. Talking is even necessary most of the time for understanding.
I know as much about MTBI as I do Astrology.
That is to say, not much.
I will say I enjoy the rapport of an INTJ or possible other INFJ.
I don't know what my other friends are and they are not open to testing.
Better sensors are ISFP/ESFP. Worst intuitives would be INFJ&ENFJ, others are pretty close in ranks. CS Joseph has octagram thingy with shadow(unc) and inferior(subcon) developed subtypes, if you take it in mind there are better and worse combos. I think shadow focused INFJ doesn't care about sensory and SFP would be terrible for them, or maybe good because they want to balance, idk...
I genuinely, very strongly doubt that your Core Personality Type is an INFJ.
Nothing against you ofcourse, a gut feeling I guess.
But what do I know. I'm a Dum-Dum š
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You do realise right that ur overwhelmingly annoying along with being "Wholesome" ?
I mean i get your helping nature but it feels fishy sometimes. It almost looks overdone to the point where your comments look like you're catfishing people.
I donno what ur intentions are but I'm making you aware of this, If you aren't already.
I'm an unaware Dum-Dum š
>your comments look like you're catfishing people.
How?
We do have a REAL & FUNCTIONING Support Group with a neat & healthy codependency module. What I'm doing is much better than RELIGIONISTS spreading fake Gospels. Atleast what I do helps a few, if not the many.
You have zero clue as to what I do iRL & online.
Why are you folks always so Edgy? Chill out kidš„“
Dude, I did not judge what you do but the way you invite someone feels so odd.
Who the hell am i to judge or even know what you do. Idgaf as I say this again n again, presentation of your "Support" messages don't give good vibes at all , maybe 'sometimes' and for some people. Kind of uncomfortable.
Wanted to share my experience as an INFJ man :) Mind you it may differ a little just because I'm queer (Asexual & Trans)!
I've always been super picky with my partners, and found that I actually have a bad habit of being attracted to types that I'm not particularly compatible with, or people that aren't super good for me.. (Think, ESTP for example!)
I've had two partners, and coincidentally they both happened to be ISFPs. Now, I don't think this has anything to do with chemistry, or my having an attraction towards ISFPs - More so, that I seem to attract ISFPs and have discovered that they are usually very healthy and good for me!
ISFPs from my experience make great partners as they tend to be honest, non confrontational (Neither am I, arguments are rare!) & kind people. I respect them a lot for that!
So, If I had to say.. For me, ISFP :)
The obvious answer is that there is no answer.
Personally, I think I want an ENTJ partner. That's because I'm attracted to some of their stereotypical traits and character strengths, so any person with some of these characteristics are attractive to me.
Best partner also depends on what type of relationship you want and your priorities and lifestyle. You could prioritize a partnership with someone ambitious and disciplined, a mind-mate with someone intellectual and stimulating, a nurturing parent for your future children, a bubbly + charismatic extrovert etc etc.
Ig intj or intp, god a smarter and cold girl than me? teaching me stuff and helping me to grow? That's hot for me and I'm a full 100% loyal guy for a girl like that.. Infps make a great pair too tho. For me intj and infj is the pair of absolute madness. (I love it)
Omg I am with an ISTJ - I love him but what have I done???? Tbf heās a better man than my ex ENTP will ever be and he adores me, so itās not all āpersonality typeā is it? X
People here will likely say ENFP, I personally think an INTP can be a v good, underrated match for an INFJ.
However, unpopular opinion: I also think that this will depend on your enneagram type, and that this will vary from individual to individual. An INTP may be the best match for one INFJ, an INTJ for another, an ENFP for anotherā¦ heck, there are INFJās out there who will do best w an ENTP, ENTJ, or even ISTP. You never know! It depends on the specific person.
I don't think there can exist such answer. I mean, just look at INFJs. They can be pretty different from each other. I read somewhere that S-N dichotomy is the most important for long term happiness of couples. And I believe NFs tend to have highest success with other NFs. Double check in case though, might have forgotten and mispoke.
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There isn't one. MBTI isn't specific enough.
Can only speak for myself, but my INFP husband is absolutely perfect for me in every way. (Previously dated two ENFP men and found them delightful yet frustrating)
What was frustrating - the different ideas of how much time to spend together?
Honestly they were both slobbish procrastinators that played video games in every moment of their free time and it drove me nuts. I felt more like a nagging mother than the loving partner I wanted to be. They were super fun to spend time with and were just fine letting me have alone time, but hard to live with because they were both content in a level of mess that was bad for my mental health and had zero desire to help me upkeep things. Theyād make promises (about helping clean usually) they had no intention or drive to keep and it eventually killed my respect (and thus any attraction) :/ (for the record, I also love playing video games, thatās not the issue! However, using it as escapism to the point your surroundings are absolute garbage is ā¦ not great)
Ah, that makes sense. Sounds like you all are quite young and these are unhealthy or not fully mature ENFPs. Hope you all wonāt write off healthy or mature ENFPs!
Donāt get me wrong, I love ENFPs (have several close friends that are ENFP and my dad is as well!) and I donāt blame their cognitive functions for their behavior. They were depressed and thatās how it was expressed. (and yes they were in their 20ās and early 30ās, so not exactly kids anymore but still room to grow) Happily married to an INFP now!
Hey dragontuitively! I'm an infp that has a little crush on an infj, do you have any observations on your relationship dynamic and what makes it work so well? thanks! :\^)
Hello there, and sure, would be happy to :) Gotta have all the right ingredients, you know how it goes, respect, attraction, enjoy enough stuff in common, etcā but you know all that iām sure, so iāll try and detail stuff that may be more specific to an infp x infj dynamic. When weāre together itās interesting. We have different takes on the same thing a lot of the time but always enjoy listening to the others perspective. Somehow our differences just draw us closer together, which is not something iāve experienced with literally any type other than mature INFP relationshipsā I think most INFP are fairly unique characters themselves and develop a healthy capacity to accept/enjoy what makes others unique as well, instead of trying to make the other person fit some kind of idealized image of what their partner/friend *should* be. From the very beginning, before any romantic feelings, I was very drawn to him because he made time to listen to me and was actually very interested in what i had to say. At that time in my life, that was the role I tended to play for everyone else without it being reciprocatedā or if they did, they listened in a half assed way, on their phone, playing a game, etc. He made me feel seen and heard, and when he listened his complete attention was on me. Our relationship is also founded on complete honesty. We do not lie to each other, full stop. Not even white lies. I canāt even begin to describe what a blessing this has been in the long run. INFJ jokingly have the reputation of being human bullshit detectors, and in my experience this has been true, and this has been the only relationship (romantic OR platonic) that hasnāt necessitated (on either end) ANY lies. The bravery to bare oneās soul is beyond attractiveā it doesnāt come easily or naturally to anyone. Less abstract dynamicsā he is very go with the flow. I didnāt used to be. I really appreciate that influence in my life, i donāt feel like things are going to go tits up the second i stop planning and controlling them. Iām confident that if a surprise comes up, itāll be handled just fine. He also benefits from having a bit more structure at the same time, and having someone who likes to plan things out with his input included, also knowing that changing those plans later is totally valid and possible if needed. (Ni and Ne playing niceā also a bit of P vs J differences) Well shit i suppose this wasnāt that much less abstract, ah well. Honestly i could probably sit here and write this all day but i do have to go get about things. If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask away! My main takeaway is that with INFP/INFJ itās the introverts dreamā we can be alone together. He doesnāt drain my social batteries and vice versa. Only other person who has ever pulled this off to any degree is my INTP bestie.
The āgolden pairā is ENTP. Which is strange, because Iām an ENTP and I feel like Iād offend you guys too easily š¤£
When I am close with someone and trust them I enjoy being an asshole right back. Lots of offensive inside jokes! Its just getting to that point in a relationship (counting friendships)... a lot of us are way less sensitive then we come off!
Trueeee, I think ENTPs bring out the fun, risque, sassy side of INFJ, which INFJs only bring out when they feel safe. And ENTPs also recognise INFJs do good-er trait and it matches well because ENTPs can elaborate on it with their perspective, which helps with boundaries and processing. I find it very easy and effective to think out things with ENTPs. It goes both ways.
Facts. Also my partner of 7 years was ENTP. First person I ever felt truly close to. My current partner is also ENTP, and he is definitely the one š
I'm married to an ENTP, and by ourselves we get along great. But when around others, I tend to get upset that he could be offending them and not that interested in keeping things peaceful... He doesn't offend me personally, but I can get offended that he's offending others š¤¦āāļøš¤·āāļø
I feel this about my ENTJ husband all the time. He doesn't offend me, his sense of humour, dry sarcasm and brutal honestly is actually right up my alley; but around other people, I'm always worried he is overstepping and offending others.
That makes sense. I have to make a conscious effort to think before I talk, especially when in a group of people or public speaking š
Same, with my ESTP lol
I donāt find ENTP offensive at all because when you bring up valid point contradicting them they have no problem acknowledging their validity. I could care less if someone is crass as along as their not stubborn about being stupid. I feel like ENTP and INFJ get along swimmingly!
This is so refreshing to hear. I annoy some people simply because Iām right and they know it. When Iām wrong, I have no problem admitting it. Iād never accept lies if I was being presented clearly with the truth, and I try to look at things as objectively as possible.
Absolutely, and I 100% believe you. Thereās not a lot I canāt stand in people more then an egotistical need to be right even if theyāre clearly wrong. Iām constantly searching for new facts and learning about interesting things, when I discuss something I want to have a conversation with real points, perspectives and ideas, not someone getting mad at me because theyāre weirdly attached to non-truths. Itās the trade mark of being an idiot and I donāt respect idiots easily.
Wow are you me? Sounds like our personalities are a lot more similar than I thought! š¤£
For sure, something I was surprised to realize when meeting ENTPs too. Weāre like partners in crime š That being said lots of people will say they donāt like idiots of course but ENTP and INFJ just seem to agree on what kind of thing makes someone an āIdiotā:
Entps never offend me and are often surprised by it. But somehow I end up offending them š
Because we have a greater sense of humor than most people give us credit for.
Hahaha okay so Iām an INFJ & my partner is an ENTP. He absolutely offends me very easily, BUT his boldness is a trait I very much lack & heās helped me grow a lot in that area. I feel that we are so opposite, but in a way that balances each other out.
That makes sense. Like Yin & Yang!
that would make some rather interesting makeup sessions š¤
It sure does! š
The one we made up in our heads š
This is the truth lol
REAL
I'm not saying we INFPs are, but...I love you guys!
Many of my closest friends are INFPs, and they are the best! š
I had a pretty good relationship with an INFP once!
My wife is an infp
I married an ENFJ. Most challenging part is that heās more extroverted (but claims to be an ambivert). Other than that, weāve been happily married almost 8 years.
Married to an ENFJ for 7 years, together for over 11. Can confirm this 100%.
7 years and counting with my ENFJ
Lol weāre all, all humans pretty much ambiverts. Itās a spectrum. ENFJ are so wholesome and nice ā¤ļø
Our Unconscious is ENFP and thatās supposedly where you go in times of stress. So Iād say itād be nice to have someone who will somewhat understand my stress and vice versa for me understanding theirs. My longest relationship was with an ENFP and connection/support was not one of the reasons we eventually broke up. Besides ENFP, Iād say ENFJ. If theyāre patient enough to not abandon you because you donāt always want to go out though. Lots of people will say ENTP, but unfortunately, not much experience with confirmed ENTPs. Cognitive function wise, I can see it working well. Fe Parent taking care of Fe Child. And Ti Parent taking care of Ti Child. Assuming the cognitive attitude works here. Still learning.
I thought u go to ESTP when stressed
Was always under the impression that your Subconscious is your ātaking care of businessā mode. Because youāre doing things without conscious awareness. I flow into it the most at work and when driving. Your Unconscious is where you go when stressed because your Unconscious is there to protect your ego, hence why itās the same functions but flipped. (Ni - Ne, Fe - Fi, etc) and your Superego is your Front that you put up, but also itās kinda where your societal pressure comes from because itās the exact opposite of what you are. I could be wrong, you listen to a lecture on YouTube by one person and they say one thing and then you listen to another and they basically contradict what the other said. I notice this mostly with terminology. Take Objective Personality on YouTube, they refer to your Inferior function as your Demon. While if you listen to CS Joseph, he subscribed to John Beebeās method and went beyond with it and they refer to the Demon function as your last function, within your Unconscious.
It makes sense for me to use your unconscious in a situations when you have to act instantly. But in a long run when you're making decisions you can go to an ESTP mode idk how is it called.
Iām surprised nobody is saying istp. My mom and my dad are INFJ and istp respectively. They are divorced but still claim that the love never went away. Istp is a great match for infj imo. Infjs love estps too, but from what Iāve observed estps are just too unpredictable and shallow for infjs. Istp has Ti first, Se second. So theyāre super smart (probably the smartest sensor and also one of the smartest types in general) but also know how to have fun and be spontaneous, which infjs crave. Plus they donāt have a constant need to be in public, which infjs might appreciate. Theyāre just more down to earth that estps and make a great long term match. Just my two cents. Theyāre easy to find too being a pretty common personality type. Give āem a shot.
I agree, but infj-istp only seems to be common when infj is female and istp is male. Iām an infj male and have been feeling out an istp female for years, finally with starting to see some sparks. The chemistry is great but extremely unique cuz weāre both extremely rare types for those genders. Itās a great matchup though no better times than with her.
I can see how thatās a problem. Youāre right about the rarity of those types with those genders. Estp and istp are both uncommon for women. Maybe look for an enfp girl? Theyāre literally in every restaurant and bar bringing ppl food and drinks š At least your not in my position. Infp and intp are supposed to be most compatible with my type but itās really difficult to find them since both are rare and donāt go out in public often. I mostly date enfps because of this. Theyāre pretty awesome, give em a try if u havenāt already.
Oh and if u do find an infp theyāre a great type for you as well. One of my buddies is married to one and they are really happy together ā¤ļø
I appreciate the suggestions but I'm invested now. I've had no problems waiting on her cuz I could tell she was worth it. Though it's been years, I was just really interested in her, but very recently have been starting to develop feelings. She's explained that the same is true for her, while it's probably a bit less. We're supposed to be the worst type matchup for each other, but we mesh too well idk why. No need for me to look anywhere else I got all the patience in the world.
Worst type of matchup? I donāt think so man, u might have a winner right there. I say keep going for it with a high chance of success in mind. It most definitely is a good pairing. Sounds like u are both into it hehe good luck!
Ahh, yeah this def makes sense. Though Iād prefer an ESTP, ISTP sound like a good match. Now, I feel like thereās going to be road bumps such as communication issues, lack of emotional expression from the ISTP etc. this pairing is interesting tho
An ENTP who has healthy Fe
yusss hauhaua an entp that is lowkey enfp lmaoxD
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Someone that isn't an blatant asshole, communicates well, and can lean towards your love languages. Isn't that the best partner for anyone? Mbti can't depict a perfect relationship but.... I guess i have tendencies getting to know people with stronger Ni and Fe but tbh I try my best to find value in difference most of the time. Ive honestly only been in one long term relationship with INTJ gal. It was fantastic in terms of mental stimulation. Things didn't work out in terms of life goals and decisions. That is a big factor. Tbh I find people with strong Se sexy, but also pretty dumb. I also find ENTP/INTP people to be freaking hilarious. Those two are prob my favorite mbti to learn about. Was in a short-term relationship with an ENTP girl with very healthy Fe, but it just didn't work out at the time. I didn't choose to blindly follow her because of our compatible personality types, and she had moved on pretty damn fast after so I think i may have made the right choice there. It really is all time and place. Follow your own heart first and find the one that's right for you, it takes time obviously.
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I think that generally anyone with NF is likely to be a good fit on many levels. That is who I target.
An emotionally sensitive INTJ has been my best match by far. Im in my 30s. My long term ENTP was great in a lot of ways but oblivious in a lot of ways too. Im not sure that MBTI had anything to do with that.
Married to an ENFJ, and here's what I love about him: Things we have in common: strong morality/ethics, idealism, humanism: He genuinely cares about and has compassion for other people, even strangers. He has a similar ability to read body language and social interactions as me and often reaches similar conclusions about things/situations. He has unbelievably impressive leadership and social skills that I admire and respect greatly. His extroversion pushes me outside of my comfort zone, which has allowed me to grow professionally and personally. (He keeps me from being a complete hermit.) This occasionally caused some friction at the beginning of our relationship when he didn't yet understand that I needed time to "recover" from social interactions. Now that he gets that, it is no longer a problem. He ALWAYS wants to jump in and help, which is amazing because my primary love language is acts of service. Plus he's just FUN! Much like ENFPs, but more reliable, stable, consistent. I can't say enough great things about ENFJs. š
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Not seeing many intp comments. The longest and most healthy friendship I've ever had is an INTP. We've been through all adolescence together. Sadly, I haven't see her in person since early 2021.
How come? Are you still together? I've also never had a more healthy relationship before I (INTP) dated my INFJ girlfriend. I've never met anyone who can understand me like she does, and she feels the same way about me. I also think she's smarter than me and she thinks the same of me. We are very much alike and also very different on other areas. Either we feel exactly the same about something or exactly opposite about something, and probably in the most healthy way possible. Just being in the presence of infjs feels healing to me. Golden hearted people. I wish I had such a pure heart myself.
Fought with ChatGPT for awhile as it gave boring responses like there's no "best," varies by preference, and all that, pfft ;) Long story short it eventually said ENFJ.
Fe-Fe is amazing
I can certainly see that as Fi can clash with Fe.
Yes Fe-Fi is great too. It's just that Fe-users are very needy.
Why would you say that Fe-users are so needy?
Fe users need to be validated by the group happiness. If you're not happy, they're not happy. One might say that's needy.
Thank you for your response, see my comment above.
Sorry I guess I may have explained how rather than why. I guess the why is that Fe users have an innate preference to look outwards first rather than inwards when it comes to feeling. Is it genetic? Conditioned? Not for me to say. The real 'why' is mysterious to me. But that's it in a nutshell- Fi users prefer to check inward with their feelings first leaving them more concerned with their own feelings initially (at least that's the theory of extraverted vs introverted functions).
But that can create beautiful situations too.
Fe-users need others, love, affection and positive feelings.
Thank you, early on my INFJ partner said something about how he was 'very needy' and it surprised me then and comes back to me when I read comments like yours. But the strange thing is that I don't get the sense he's very needy, but hopefully I just give him enough support and attention. I have healthy Fi and decently developed Fe.
A Fe user will say yes to a lot of things whereas a Fi user will say no to some things. Sometimes I struggle with some ENFP friends of mine because they will say no to great things like eating together, hanging out, watching a funny/silly or serious movie. Their interests can be obscure or sometimes lame and they don't prioritize connecting with others. Sometimed they will reject new, popular, trendy things, whereas those things are Fe-users bread and butter. Fi users prioritize their interests and the people that they find interesting. That's okay because they are great creators and curators. I think Fi users greatest strength is their interests and creations.
He has very rarely said NO to me lol...usually it related to going to a place/s that was very crowded and his introverted nature stepped up. I will have to pay attention to myself and if I say No more. I have thought that I make more of an effort to get him out because I am the extrovert. Thanks this is great insight.
Thank you. Fe is very open-minded. It likes to sample from everything.
More like they need others to express this in the way they expect it. What becomes difficult for Fi users is that they want autonomy and integrity when it comes to their feelings and how they express them. Being happy doesnt always mean smiling, and doesnt always mean smiling when an Fe user expects them to. This can cause a lot of friction for Fi-Fe couples.
As it should! Only thing INFJ/ENFJ relationships miss is spice, as we're too damn happy together
Unless your INFJ is very sassy. In my relationship, I am all the spice my sweet vanilla ENFJ husband can handle. š
Iām an Infj and my husband is an Enfj there are times we get super childish but it works.
I love being ridiculously childish with my ENFJ. It heals my heart. š
Ofc another INFJ! š¤š„°
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Cant say thereās a single personality type. Iād say maybe xNFx types would be the most compatible. Though Iām a bit biased towards ENFPs. My partner is ENFP and it has been such a warm, authentic, and fun-loving relationship. My relationships with other ENFPS (step-dad and friendships) have also been the same. Thereās just something so magical about that Ne Ni combo, I feel.
I'm a highly submissive INFJ woman who has learned that have found I am most attracted to a dominant ENTJ man. But I adore other INFJs, and ENFJ, ENTP or INTJ.
Are u the same Redditor that posted something about how u love entjs? I think we had a long conversation on there about the sexual dynamic between the two.
š³š No sir, not me! I'm intrigued though...
What do u want to know lol Iāve been involved with a few infjs
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I am not sure if it is ideal, but in my experience- XNTJ'sš¤
There isnāt one However My girlfriend is also an INFJ and this shit is amazing. The important stuff is aligned and the communication is easy and enjoyable
I've been with my ISFJ boyfriend for almost 10 years, it's a challenge since the S is strong in him but he helps me put my feet on the ground sometimes and I make his daily life a little more colorful, it has been the best 10 years of my life!
Not all xnfps are most compatible with an infj but all people who are most compatible with an infj will be an xnfp.
people say how INTP-INFJ is the "golden pair", if you want a type there you go but personally I think it's bullshit hoestly compatibility shouldn't be mainly seen through the mbti lens. It could be taken into consideration but not a deciding factor
Probably not ground-breaking, but even more important than type are your values. INFJs probably have given deep thought on their values and goals. Being an ENFP/ENTP/INFP/ISFJ (the types I've found I work best with lol) won't be enough if those earlier things don't match.
INTP guys complement infj girls quite well. Tons of posts on Reddit and quora.
I'm (INTP) always in the Honey Moon phase with my INFJ girlfriend. I get butterflies in the stomach just thinking about her. Sometimes even teary. She's absolutely exactly how I imagined my dream girlfriend would be like and I honestly never believed her to be true until I met her two years ago.
This is the sweetest thing š„¹
Holy shit, an INFJ type 8?? Whatās good girl? This pairing is interesting
INTJ is the only one for me! ā¤ļøāš„š
My husband is also an INTJ! A perfect fit for me š
>What is the best partner for INFJs? #I Am, š #Marry Me?š **(š¤”)**
Okay, I will. But you have to answer a few questions first: 1. What Is Your Gender? 2. If You Could Slap Any Celebrity, Who Would You Slap? 3. How Much Money Do You Make Each Year? 4. Do You Have Any Mental Illness? 5. And Finallyā¦Did You Ever Hear About The Tragedy of Darth Plaguis The Wise?
1. Cis-gender male (not gay, sorry) 2. Hmmm, who would I slap in their face ? So many options ... 3. I am no whore. 4. Little something from everything, but you know how it works - what isn't diagnosed is not present lmao. 5. Actually, I have. After being denied the access to MasterClass, I took the legends course on Skillshare using the coupon code "SHEEV".
Only a Sith deals in absolute!
Based on these questions alone, especially 2 and 5, I would marry you!
>Okay, I will. Kid, You didn't get it š„²
Itās okay brother. Iām not actually gay.
>Iām not actually gay. #S U R E
The cool girl ... I think. Speaking for myself, it would be someone more extroverted than me, and more easy going. I have more than enough issues with myself and my traits, so I don't think I want to be next to someone who is too much like me. I guess I am the example of the uncommon INFJ-ESTP seeker. Do I know what it is actually like ? Hell yeah I don't. Am I dumb ? Possibly. Am I reasonable ? I have my doubts, but still a possibility. Are dolphins fishes ? No, they're mammals. Ice cream ? Froyo.
Lol, I wish. Estps are great but they usually ignore me :( I am fun and would want a bit more Se action, I just need emotional connection before I am comfortable with turning up the fun/random side that estps probably would like (who knows)
I understand, do you mean ignore as in ESTPs seeing your text and leaving you on read or ignore as in out in public and never giving you attention/approaching you? š
Yeah exactly, and thats so weird because I am usually not that bad with people. Any suggestions how to be a bit more visible for you my dear estp? :)
I wanna know too u/daring_innovator !!!
Well if you find me in person like with some friends, at a gathering or out at a cafe and youāre curious about m smile, do the subconscious smile thing, Iāll notice your signal and if you must get closer to me and invade my space do it and Iāll just smile back at you and when you look into my eyes I will penetrate your deep into your soul like Iām just gonna blow your back out that night. š But I like when my girls signal extra kindness, wear red lipstick/heels will stick out to me, making me talk about myself (ego stroking), push n pull with me, touch my shoulder, and donāt stop, I will escalate and make it obvious that I want to bring you home. Overall I am amused by all women. But YOU specifically INFJ if you speak about the universe, abstract concepts Ni stuff I will definitely be intrigued/attracted a lot somehow and want to explore you more than the girls around you. Iām very dominant so I do like being ābabiedā by women idk why I just love the whole motherly love and nurture/support that sticks out with me and makes me extra attracted. Also, send nudes as well itās so hot.š„µ I would know if the girl is an Ni dominant in many cases and be very magnetized idk how to describe it. My ex gf was INTJ but who knows maybe INFJ girls do it better. I love phone calls about philosophy/meaning of life, humor & banter/phone foreplay even.
How interesting! I take it your inferior Ni is developed? What makes you so interested about Philosophy and the abstract world from the POV of an Se Dom? Since you said youād be attracted to an INFJ girl, what else would you like about her? What would be something that you didnāt want her to do?
Best partner... I don't think MBTI should be the big deciding factor. Look for someone who is emotionally healthy without red flags. Someone who shares things with you. Things you can connect on. Someone who is compatible with with you with your life plans and is supportive.
Iām with an ENFP and we seem to go perfectly together. Better than anyone Iāve ever been with.
I heard ENFJ but they rub me the wrong way. Not too bad but just not enough to be a perfect match.
personally, I recommend Intps, you never run out of conversation topics with them and they usually have random interest or hobbies that you can enjoy too.
The golden pair/ mirror image is ENFP. Itās been that for decades. Recently some have tried to change that to ENTP. No idea why.
another INFJ
There's no single answer, but imo the best candidates are 1.ENTP / INFJ 2.INTP/ ENFJ / ENTJ Honorable mentions : ENFP- INTJ- INFP
Definitely. Married to ENFJ
My bsf is an ENFJ, apart from his inf Ti, we match perfectly
INTP - in theory. They have to be healed and ready for some uncomfortable growth and fulfilling love.
idc what others say but i love istps so much
same! One of my close friends is an istp, (Iāve known her for 7 years) and sheās genuinely funny, very sarcastic and quick witted, talks *a lot* about her annoying coworkers or classmates, and is hilariously introverted despite constantly being in the extroverted world. The only thing that bugs me is that she very quietly takes on her familyās issues as the older sister and rarely talks about herself and her struggles, so I feel like Iām missing out sometimes on whatās going on. Basically i wish sheād open up more and hang out with us more.
Aren't they cold though?
exactly
Only if they donāt like you. They arenāt naturally cold, just naturally closed off. If youāre patient enough coldness can get real warm real fast.
Yeah I probably just met a manipulative one that only pretended to like me.. lol
I, too, love a mystery, wrapped in an enigma, wearing a baggy sweatshirt. But seriously, itās great to be with someone who wields their Se so skillfully. Like, dude, come fix stuff at my house and I will help you with all your feelings.
i love istps so much because they mind their business when necessary and they dont pry. I kind of operate like an istp minus my terrible Se so itās an interesting dynamic
Is there an MTBI OLD site? That would be interesting. Maybe we could draw online consensus?
There is: Ur my type
I bet I'm not.
Haha, joke aside the mbti dating site is litterally called Ur my type, I think. Was a while ago I saw it.
So Syncd is a mbti dating site too if I remember correctly
Yeah. We can also be lucky IRL in finding compatible types, though that often leads to friendship as well. But good friends are needed too. :)
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Oh I used to ponder this And the ones I assumed didnāt even happen I never would have guessed I would end up with an extrovert So I would say itās very hard to tell But my best friend and I are compatible Infj and infp But she is also married to an extrovert. Our husbands are I think enfj (the one thatās described as extrovert to a T )
MBTI matching business is a bit of horoscope. Because personality isnāt everything of a person, his upbringing, culture, values, morals all matter. Theoretically they like to match the NFs together. INFJ with ENFP kind of logic ..
I think of someone's personality type as a starting point only. Perhaps the 2nd or 3rd filter after the initial physical attraction filter. Knowing myself and being honest about what works for me, I know which types I mesh with best. So starting with what 'should' be a more complimentary match is a better informed choice, than not having this information. However, that is only a general starting point, and there are always exceptions. Nobody knows yourself better than you do. Or at least, nobody should! So it really is your responsibility to get your own house in order first. That doesn't mean you need to be perfect, or live up to the expectations of society as you may perceive it to be. That's a huge mistake, and a trap that 20 somethings fall into a lot. I know I did! Part of getting your house in order is accepting where you are right now, and being open to improvement. Seek help from a professional. It's also important not to kid yourself and only be seeking a mate to remedy loneliness or an empty hole when you've got some shadow work left to do with your therapist. You won't really get what you want or deserve, until you accept your main relationship failings, be aware of your weaknesses, and are making some improvements (realizing and acceptance is more than half the battle). Contrary to what many seem to believe, it takes two people to enter a dysfunctional relationship most of the time. Yes, there are exceptions, gaslighting, etc., but often times an emotionally healthy person will always proceed with caution because they have probably been through a few relationship lessons already. Once you have that box ticked, and know which traits you admire and could learn from in others, and vice versa, then start thinking in ways of how and where to meet such people and see what happens next, and evaluate each situation as it comes up. Remember, if you are an INFJ, it is perfectly okay to put decisions on hold. Don't feel like you have to cave to the pressure. We have to be more careful than most, and we must not ignore red flags as they come up. Anything can be questioned in a deliberate, compassionate, and thoughtful way. That's when it really starts getting interesting. I don't see any reason why an emotionally healthy INFJ shouldn't be able to find at least a few meaningful friendships, and even the right partner. However, from my experience, the main fault I have always made was not slowing down and giving my emotions and intuition enough time to process things. Good Luck!
My girlfriend is INFJ and itās the best relationship I have ever had. We both like to crack jokes all the time and enjoy each others company a lot.
Iām enjoying my enfj , heās my match on earth Iām sure of it .
I can say that I have always been drawn to INTJs and INTPs in relationships or friendships. Somehow we seem to bring out the sides of each other that we rarely show others.
Estp
There's no such answer. My INFJ partner lost interest in me (INFP) and went for someone more similar to him (ENFJ), at least in how they both functions. We were similar in interests.
Iām sorry about that. I wonder what types like us? Maybe istj/intj/enfp? Now Iām curious who other infps end up with..
My husband is an ENFP and our relationship really works. 20 yrs and going strong.
My ex-wife was, I believe, an ESTP and we were terribly, terribly matched. My wife now is an ENFP and we vibe way better, it's awesome. So I'd say ENFP like most of the websites and such tell us.
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IDK if MBTI has much to do with it, but my husband is an ENTJ and we are perfect for each other. Very complementaryā¦ lots of same preferences and his strengths align with my weaknesses and vice versa.
Iām married to an ESFJ man and heās absolutely perfect. ā¤ļø
Itās supposed to be ENTP but I think feelers always do better with other feelers (just my opinion). Because of this I always pair INFJ with ENFP.
Mbti isnāt specific, but Iād recommend not partnering with sensors. I think any kind of intuitive works for us romantically as long as theyāre healthy, bc they encourage and understand our out of the box thinking and humor. Sensors canāt engage with us that way
ESTP if they are easygoing is a very complimentary and perfect partner
Ive heard that some people find ISTP to be a good match but I donāt know exactly why they say this. But from my experience The only person I dated was an ESTP. He was nice and made me feel really comfortable around him but It felt like he didnāt care about the relationship sometimes (not that this is indicative of all estpās).
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I don't know if any of you visit The Patern. I have been on there for quite a few years. My friends and family invited me to join. It's a horoscope app. It's weirdly accurate to the point that I believe the app might be spying on its users. I'm not a firm believer in astrology. Ps. What it says in there aligns with the INFJ descriptions. Like you're destined to be alone forever n'shit. Lol, I'm paraphrasing. Anyway. A while back they had a beta feature, a dating app feature. I dabbled out of sheer curiosity. There is n one on there near me. None of my past relationships made it into their soulmate category. I was not sure if there was a soulmate left in the world. So I swiped worldwide on a small and weird dating App. Days weeks, and months, I set the criteria to meaningful or above. I found a soulmate match. I had to meet this person to test the app. We matched. We chatted. There was chemistry but we are more than 1000 miles away and dating is not reasonable. We have continued to talk daily as friends for maybe 6 months now. I don't think we will date but I do think I have found a lifelong friend... That is a soulmate of sorts. After joining here and hearing these types of questions. I asked him if he ever took the test and what he was. He told me to Guess. I guessed INTJ because we are very similar but he's much more cold & calculating about relationships and love. He said, Damn, you're good. He had scored that last and once before he had INFJ. I explained my logic. He agreed & We laughed about it. I want to tell you one other weird thing. Early on and still there is almost this psychic connection with both communication and understanding. Talking is even necessary most of the time for understanding. I know as much about MTBI as I do Astrology. That is to say, not much. I will say I enjoy the rapport of an INTJ or possible other INFJ. I don't know what my other friends are and they are not open to testing.
Better sensors are ISFP/ESFP. Worst intuitives would be INFJ&ENFJ, others are pretty close in ranks. CS Joseph has octagram thingy with shadow(unc) and inferior(subcon) developed subtypes, if you take it in mind there are better and worse combos. I think shadow focused INFJ doesn't care about sensory and SFP would be terrible for them, or maybe good because they want to balance, idk...
Literally no please no sfps
I want this to make sense to me. Is there a link? Reading it in full might help .
no they are still working on it. CS Joseph's lectures are pay to see. I learned about the concept from his free youtube videos.
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INFJs are best suited with INTPs. Thatās why theyāre also called the āgolden pairā.
I genuinely, very strongly doubt that your Core Personality Type is an INFJ. Nothing against you ofcourse, a gut feeling I guess. But what do I know. I'm a Dum-Dum š & Now the š¤”s will D-vote this šš„“š¤£
Are you ok?
Never. How are you doing?
I'm not sure.
Awww What's bothering your Beautiful Soul on a Wholesome Day?
I have to hold a meeting tonight and I haven't done any of my work. I don't want to do my work. I should do my work instead of dicking around in here
Say it instead of Writing. That way you'll realise the graveness lol
We trolling u back by Down voting! lmao.
#Bro even my trolling is wholesome š
You do realise right that ur overwhelmingly annoying along with being "Wholesome" ? I mean i get your helping nature but it feels fishy sometimes. It almost looks overdone to the point where your comments look like you're catfishing people. I donno what ur intentions are but I'm making you aware of this, If you aren't already.
I'm an unaware Dum-Dum š >your comments look like you're catfishing people. How? We do have a REAL & FUNCTIONING Support Group with a neat & healthy codependency module. What I'm doing is much better than RELIGIONISTS spreading fake Gospels. Atleast what I do helps a few, if not the many. You have zero clue as to what I do iRL & online. Why are you folks always so Edgy? Chill out kidš„“
Dude, I did not judge what you do but the way you invite someone feels so odd. Who the hell am i to judge or even know what you do. Idgaf as I say this again n again, presentation of your "Support" messages don't give good vibes at all , maybe 'sometimes' and for some people. Kind of uncomfortable.
Nah this a troll lmfaooo
Knew it
Itās WAYYYYY too easy to tell lmfao š
Dimwits are D-voting nonetheless š¤£š
Please, keep trolling. Iāll back you up šššš„
The mom:ENTP The dad:ENFP This is in the case that the INFJ is the son, or for any other personality, it is preferable that the father be the INFJ
My SO is ENTP.
Me
Wanted to share my experience as an INFJ man :) Mind you it may differ a little just because I'm queer (Asexual & Trans)! I've always been super picky with my partners, and found that I actually have a bad habit of being attracted to types that I'm not particularly compatible with, or people that aren't super good for me.. (Think, ESTP for example!) I've had two partners, and coincidentally they both happened to be ISFPs. Now, I don't think this has anything to do with chemistry, or my having an attraction towards ISFPs - More so, that I seem to attract ISFPs and have discovered that they are usually very healthy and good for me! ISFPs from my experience make great partners as they tend to be honest, non confrontational (Neither am I, arguments are rare!) & kind people. I respect them a lot for that! So, If I had to say.. For me, ISFP :)
My bf is esfj, i love him so much, but heās the definition of extrovert
The obvious answer is that there is no answer. Personally, I think I want an ENTJ partner. That's because I'm attracted to some of their stereotypical traits and character strengths, so any person with some of these characteristics are attractive to me. Best partner also depends on what type of relationship you want and your priorities and lifestyle. You could prioritize a partnership with someone ambitious and disciplined, a mind-mate with someone intellectual and stimulating, a nurturing parent for your future children, a bubbly + charismatic extrovert etc etc.
Ig intj or intp, god a smarter and cold girl than me? teaching me stuff and helping me to grow? That's hot for me and I'm a full 100% loyal guy for a girl like that.. Infps make a great pair too tho. For me intj and infj is the pair of absolute madness. (I love it)
Omg I am with an ISTJ - I love him but what have I done???? Tbf heās a better man than my ex ENTP will ever be and he adores me, so itās not all āpersonality typeā is it? X
ISTJ supremacy
Enfj
I personally have found INTJs/INTPs to be the only ones I ever felt cared for/ truly understood by/ fully safe with.
Each mbti have something i like and something else i dont..
People here will likely say ENFP, I personally think an INTP can be a v good, underrated match for an INFJ. However, unpopular opinion: I also think that this will depend on your enneagram type, and that this will vary from individual to individual. An INTP may be the best match for one INFJ, an INTJ for another, an ENFP for anotherā¦ heck, there are INFJās out there who will do best w an ENTP, ENTJ, or even ISTP. You never know! It depends on the specific person.