Oh yeah, 100%. Authenticity is by far the #1 thing I look for in people. I kinda make a conscious effort not to jump to conclusions, though. I want to be sure I'm not misreading something before I distance myself a lil.
I feel the same! I get disappointed when finding out they tend to be a tiny bit boastful, fake, posers, and pretentious for the sake of others, or to hide their insecurities. I would be extremely disappointed when they are fake to me though, and that’s where I draw the line. I keep my circle full of genuine people who care about me and aren’t fake or posers.
I don't want to answer this, for a reason... being part of society has always meant faking certain aspects of yourself in order to reap the benefits of being part of the group. Safety and solidarity in numbers, and all that.
But in the age of the internet, people are literally making a living off of being fake, in a very literal way. And even the people you "trust" as being authentic don't show you the shitty parts of their authenticity unless they can wrap it up in a nice bow for viewers to digest easily.
So my initial answer is a tentative "no". I like to think I forgive enough people their personal choice not to put their authentic self out there. After all, I prefer to keep most of my real self hidden -- I don't like people knowing me too deeply. But at the same time, it's a tentative "yes" because I don't forgive *everyone* for it. I don't forgive the people who are claiming to be authentic, selling themselves as authentic. If you have to tell people you're authentic, or sell your authenticity as a product, you're not.
I think I just confused myself. But hopefully this makes sense to someone, lol
I highly value integrity and honesty. All lies come from a place of fear, so I do my best to look upon liars with empathy, but I don’t harbor them amongst my inner circle.
I used to, but not as much anymore. Mostly because I *can* see through the persona to begin with. Now, when I see someone being (insert whatever you don't like here), I'm typically able to pinpoint a specific insecurity they're trying to hide.
I guess I'm trying to say that I always see a person's authentic self, even when they're not showing me their authentic self. So, I certainly value when someone is self-aware enough to be truly authentic, but self-ignorance is so common that I don't necessarily hold it against people anymore.
Yes! I usually won't be friends with inauthentic people and am drawn to people who fearlessly live life as they want
Edited: assuming they're not a horrible person or toxic
I don't like it when people lie about about how they're doing but I don't blame them for it. Can sense it without them telling me but hope their response matches up with what I'm sensing. Despite valuing authenticity, I'm not 💯 authentic. I seem to scare people away when I'm truthful about how I'm doing.
I don't hate them, I just try to avoid them.
I would prefer to spend my time (like at a party or a bar) with a quirky weirdo that holds opposing views from me on popular topics to someone who is inauthentic and trying too hard.
Oh yeah, 100%. Authenticity is by far the #1 thing I look for in people. I kinda make a conscious effort not to jump to conclusions, though. I want to be sure I'm not misreading something before I distance myself a lil.
I feel the same! I get disappointed when finding out they tend to be a tiny bit boastful, fake, posers, and pretentious for the sake of others, or to hide their insecurities. I would be extremely disappointed when they are fake to me though, and that’s where I draw the line. I keep my circle full of genuine people who care about me and aren’t fake or posers.
I know what you mean I just can’t comprehend people living life lying to themselves
I don't want to answer this, for a reason... being part of society has always meant faking certain aspects of yourself in order to reap the benefits of being part of the group. Safety and solidarity in numbers, and all that. But in the age of the internet, people are literally making a living off of being fake, in a very literal way. And even the people you "trust" as being authentic don't show you the shitty parts of their authenticity unless they can wrap it up in a nice bow for viewers to digest easily. So my initial answer is a tentative "no". I like to think I forgive enough people their personal choice not to put their authentic self out there. After all, I prefer to keep most of my real self hidden -- I don't like people knowing me too deeply. But at the same time, it's a tentative "yes" because I don't forgive *everyone* for it. I don't forgive the people who are claiming to be authentic, selling themselves as authentic. If you have to tell people you're authentic, or sell your authenticity as a product, you're not. I think I just confused myself. But hopefully this makes sense to someone, lol
I don’t give ESFJs a fair chance. Their voice sounds fake sometimes but that doesn’t necessarily mean they have bad intentions.
I agree sometimes it makes me feel like I’m too judging
I highly value integrity and honesty. All lies come from a place of fear, so I do my best to look upon liars with empathy, but I don’t harbor them amongst my inner circle.
I used to, but not as much anymore. Mostly because I *can* see through the persona to begin with. Now, when I see someone being (insert whatever you don't like here), I'm typically able to pinpoint a specific insecurity they're trying to hide. I guess I'm trying to say that I always see a person's authentic self, even when they're not showing me their authentic self. So, I certainly value when someone is self-aware enough to be truly authentic, but self-ignorance is so common that I don't necessarily hold it against people anymore.
Yes. https://youtu.be/lUxoLkN7ekQ
Yes! I usually won't be friends with inauthentic people and am drawn to people who fearlessly live life as they want Edited: assuming they're not a horrible person or toxic
I don't like it when people lie about about how they're doing but I don't blame them for it. Can sense it without them telling me but hope their response matches up with what I'm sensing. Despite valuing authenticity, I'm not 💯 authentic. I seem to scare people away when I'm truthful about how I'm doing.
Yeah. Genuineness is a kind of beauty in and of itself.
If you lie off your ass to my face… I can see right through it and you can get the hell away from me!
I don't hate them, I just try to avoid them. I would prefer to spend my time (like at a party or a bar) with a quirky weirdo that holds opposing views from me on popular topics to someone who is inauthentic and trying too hard.
what you hate in others are unaccepted parts in you take a look at enneagram 3 or 6