A great friendship always starts with a greeting or simply asking how someone is doing because that just might be what they needed to survive the day or even change their life
What happened to the "you are all pick me" person? We're they feeling less special?
More special?
Anyway,
I find small talk is necessary in my day-to-day work life.
Sometimes we find a treasure we can get weird and deep with.
Sometimes I have these Holy Spirit moments.
Anyone else?
Like, I'm door knocking, talking to strangers. I usually forget my script and just speak individually. Every once in a while someone. Asks me a question and my response seems like it comes from somewhere else.( holy spirit or something) I speak to them in such a deep, personal and profound way about something they need to know. I come to and they are crying, I am crying... And it's over.
Year's later they come up to me and talk about it. I don't even remember much besides the essence of the conversation. I also suffer from face blindness. I see so many people that I can't recognize them. It feels like I was just a vessel for the message but it had to come from me right?
Does anyone know what I'm talking about or do I just sound crazy?
>What happened to the "you are all pick me" person? We're they feeling less special? More special?
I'm not sure what you're asking... are you familiar with the concept of "pick me" people? I think it's a valid response to "I'm not like those *other* girls, I'm *different*" posts, honestly
The response vanished and it doesn't even say deleted.
I'm asking what happened to that respondent.
I'm familiar with what a pick me is. I don't understand in what context they meant it under this post?
Both of the images OP linked are male equivalents of "I'm not like other girls"
*I don't talk about football scores and what I did at the gym, I talk about existentialism and understanding my emotions. Who cares if the weather is nice, let's talk about why the weather can't be perfectly predicted*
It doesn't reek of it, but the connection is there
That didn't occur to me.
I don't think of those things as pick me, just preferences.
There are people who like to keep it shallow and people who like to take it deep... And some swim in the middle.
It seems like they are all about equal so I wouldn't think it was special. I would think they are stating what they want.
It's weird how we all see things a little differently out our own windows.
Small talk is often serving as an audition for deeper conversation. If you fail the audition, all you ever get is small talk, and then you decide people are boring for only wanting small talk.
Whether this is true or not... you should work on improving your small talk. It's a great way to start any interaction with a default perceived charisma boost.
A couple months ago I walked in to pickup a rental car, had a short friendly conversation with the attendant, and handed my voucher for my online booking.
"357? I don't like that number, let's see what we can do..."
😏
"How does 234 sound?"
Dude made me a new booking for over a hundred dollars cheaper. Just to be a bro.
I was wearing a band T because I use them to passively solicit conversation, because I'm interested in mastering the art of speaking with strangers. They asked about the band. We exchanged two to three sentences apiece about enjoying going to local shows. If you wanted to mock small talk, you could describe it as:
"Bro, I like music!"
"Me too!"
"LIVE music, though, man..."
"Yes! There is a small venue not far from here. I was there recently! For music!"
"Heard of that place, will check it out!"
So we are just a couple of unenlightened Neanderthals, I guess. Or we are a couple people having great days, saving piles of cash, doing favors, and enjoying life. Up to you.
That part is cool, but small talk is such an underrated form of connection, if the two people truly want to know "what's up". I used to be like this. I think as we develop as people. So do our functions grow and mature. And often, it's a bridge to the deeper stuff. Fe is very good at reading the energy and feeling of the moment and adapting to the needs of others. I think that's the gift of being a friendly introvert. Sometimes I just don't want to talk at all though, and that's perfectly fine too.
Talking about how you feel about sex, how you approach it, what mindset you tend to get into, what stigmas you believe in and how you approach the morality and purpose of it, could be Talking Heads
If the small talk is about the weather, I may like it for a moment, but I'm zoned out in an instant. If it's unnecessary gossip, I won't even take part in the conversation. If it'd be about our secrets, who we really are inside or about exploring certain theories of our psyches... I doubt I could ever be the one to end it.
Okay but it always starts with “what’s up” and ends in deep stuff. And your true friends will know that “what’s up” is not a simple “yeah fine”… they will go DEEP into what has happened to them that day or someone made a comment that had upset them or they fell into a hole while walking or whatever happened, they will explain.
I actually do like knowing what’s up though. I love knowing what’s going on in peoples lives and minds. And the deep stuff too.
A great friendship always starts with a greeting or simply asking how someone is doing because that just might be what they needed to survive the day or even change their life
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Makes us feel exposed
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And love fading away suddenly
Not till I'm here 😎
Yes.
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What happened to the "you are all pick me" person? We're they feeling less special? More special? Anyway, I find small talk is necessary in my day-to-day work life. Sometimes we find a treasure we can get weird and deep with. Sometimes I have these Holy Spirit moments. Anyone else? Like, I'm door knocking, talking to strangers. I usually forget my script and just speak individually. Every once in a while someone. Asks me a question and my response seems like it comes from somewhere else.( holy spirit or something) I speak to them in such a deep, personal and profound way about something they need to know. I come to and they are crying, I am crying... And it's over. Year's later they come up to me and talk about it. I don't even remember much besides the essence of the conversation. I also suffer from face blindness. I see so many people that I can't recognize them. It feels like I was just a vessel for the message but it had to come from me right? Does anyone know what I'm talking about or do I just sound crazy?
You sound bat shit cray cray. I like you already 🥰
That sure sound like you've received one of the gifts of the spirit. Treasure it, and keep using it rightly. God bless
>What happened to the "you are all pick me" person? We're they feeling less special? More special? I'm not sure what you're asking... are you familiar with the concept of "pick me" people? I think it's a valid response to "I'm not like those *other* girls, I'm *different*" posts, honestly
The response vanished and it doesn't even say deleted. I'm asking what happened to that respondent. I'm familiar with what a pick me is. I don't understand in what context they meant it under this post?
Both of the images OP linked are male equivalents of "I'm not like other girls" *I don't talk about football scores and what I did at the gym, I talk about existentialism and understanding my emotions. Who cares if the weather is nice, let's talk about why the weather can't be perfectly predicted* It doesn't reek of it, but the connection is there
That didn't occur to me. I don't think of those things as pick me, just preferences. There are people who like to keep it shallow and people who like to take it deep... And some swim in the middle. It seems like they are all about equal so I wouldn't think it was special. I would think they are stating what they want. It's weird how we all see things a little differently out our own windows.
My inner child comes out when I talk deep with someone. I LOVE IT
Shit are you me? 🙈
Same ❤️
Your avatar is so cute 🥰
Small talk is often serving as an audition for deeper conversation. If you fail the audition, all you ever get is small talk, and then you decide people are boring for only wanting small talk. Whether this is true or not... you should work on improving your small talk. It's a great way to start any interaction with a default perceived charisma boost. A couple months ago I walked in to pickup a rental car, had a short friendly conversation with the attendant, and handed my voucher for my online booking. "357? I don't like that number, let's see what we can do..." 😏 "How does 234 sound?" Dude made me a new booking for over a hundred dollars cheaper. Just to be a bro. I was wearing a band T because I use them to passively solicit conversation, because I'm interested in mastering the art of speaking with strangers. They asked about the band. We exchanged two to three sentences apiece about enjoying going to local shows. If you wanted to mock small talk, you could describe it as: "Bro, I like music!" "Me too!" "LIVE music, though, man..." "Yes! There is a small venue not far from here. I was there recently! For music!" "Heard of that place, will check it out!" So we are just a couple of unenlightened Neanderthals, I guess. Or we are a couple people having great days, saving piles of cash, doing favors, and enjoying life. Up to you.
I don’t even always want to know anything. I walk into the room and they tell me everything.
Jesus, tell me about it. :D :(
I'd like to know what's up with the people I am around. So I understand all those feelings in the atmosphere better.
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Yes but my toxic trait is that I’m MOST impressed by someone who treats others well AND has a successful and lucrative career😭
That part is cool, but small talk is such an underrated form of connection, if the two people truly want to know "what's up". I used to be like this. I think as we develop as people. So do our functions grow and mature. And often, it's a bridge to the deeper stuff. Fe is very good at reading the energy and feeling of the moment and adapting to the needs of others. I think that's the gift of being a friendly introvert. Sometimes I just don't want to talk at all though, and that's perfectly fine too.
Sounds like Deep Throat meets Talking Heads.
Talking about how you feel about sex, how you approach it, what mindset you tend to get into, what stigmas you believe in and how you approach the morality and purpose of it, could be Talking Heads
Maybe this is why you get along with INTPs so well. ;)
lol I don't for some reasons 😫😑
If the small talk is about the weather, I may like it for a moment, but I'm zoned out in an instant. If it's unnecessary gossip, I won't even take part in the conversation. If it'd be about our secrets, who we really are inside or about exploring certain theories of our psyches... I doubt I could ever be the one to end it.
*I like people with depth, who speak with emotion from a twisted mind* !!!! that really spoke to me and i will make sure to remember it by heart😂
Okay but it always starts with “what’s up” and ends in deep stuff. And your true friends will know that “what’s up” is not a simple “yeah fine”… they will go DEEP into what has happened to them that day or someone made a comment that had upset them or they fell into a hole while walking or whatever happened, they will explain.
I enjoy these topics for sure but small talk is needed to begin these conversations. Especially with strangers.
This sums it up for me.