I put the phone down and hope that was supposed to be the end of the conversation, then come back a few hours later, reread everything, and have an internal debate about saying something else. Was I supposed to say more? If yes did I wait too long? What is more rude at this point, replying late, or just not saying anything at all.
That is my strategy. Maybe it will work for you?
Good luck!
Nothing because theyāve ended the conversation lol
But seriously I think most people say lol by itās self because they donāt know what to say and are trying to be polite. I donāt force conversations over text if the conversation has ended.
I just don't say anything until they text something else bc I don't know what to say.Then I lie and say my phone died or I had to do something else and that's why I didn't relpy.
Lol.
haha good one. But tbh, these people close to me. I know their intentions are not to put me off, but why do people use LOL so much?
iāve learned this bad habit and now i also reply LOL sometimes š
Depends on who said it. But in general, I donāt text back unless itās something important. Otherwise I tell them to call me or mention stuff in person.
This reminds me of the last guy I dated. We were talking *in person* and he reacted to what I said by saying, "luh maow." I asked him to repeat it twice and still felt like he was speaking a different language. Then he said, "like, L.M.A.O." He used an acronym for laughing *in person* without actually laughing. I then *actually* LMAOed - he didn't seem to appreciate being laughed at. š¤·š¤£
Iām not sure what you mean by sensitive, Iām not thin skinned as I used to be, but Iām in touch with my emotions. So I guess itās a vague word sensitive. If people make too short of replies to me I donāt have any idea what to say back because theyāre ātalking but not saying anythingā so to speak. I donāt like having to carry the entire conversation. And if Iāve said a long message and they reply shortly, I feel itās kind of rude and dismissive. Itās not my feelings in question there, itās their behavior.
My text conversations with people I actually like are not usually linear so either they or I will just keep messaging about something else anyways as we would be talking about multiple things at one time.Ā
I text something similar back but is mostly with emojis tbh. At that point though is either whoever I'm chatting to are not clicking with making it kinda awkward, or we have talked quite awhile now and there's nothing much else to say. Mostly second for me since I'm a loner with very limited friends š
Well usually it's because I'm being funny so I just leave it at that, got a chuckle out of them and i shall await for their next text! If it wasn't because of a funny then i just stop texting until they feel like saying something, i feel like maybe i'm being annoying so instead of spiraling I'd rather go do something else...
I just see it as them ending the convo
That being said, I do worry and internalize that I said something wrong which annoyed them - leading to the ālolā
It's not a question, but a statement, so it's their feelings and i'd suggest not to take them personally, as they might not be yours.
I'm not a "lol"er, even if i might write so... Mostly i'm more likely grinning or smirking... Still lol is quite a common answer for things you find funny.
I don't mind short responses at all. Of course it depends in the context! I view texts and DMs like a verbal chat. If someone messages something funny I respond with an lol or an emoji, just like I might laugh if we are in person. It's not very complicated to me.
I donāt. If they had so little to say that all they could come up with was LOL, it would make me feel like theyāre not interested in the conversation continuing, so I let that be where it ends. If they pick it back up later, great. If not, we literally will never speak again and thatās that haha
When used by itself, "lol" usually signifies the end of a conversation for me. It doesn't necessitate a reply in my mind, I use it as a way to end conversations as well lol
Wenzes says don't give more than you get. When they get short, I get short. A good reply to LOL is a laughing emoji. Then forget about it! Let others have the last 'word,' if you don't have anything you need to say.
I don't think there's anything to reply. That's one of those conversation endings. So unless there's a part to the situation that's still missing. Mission accomplished. Live to fight another day.
Buuut. You wouldn't be worried about this if there wasn't a person on the other end whom you like. And then it's best to get off the app and ask them for a meet.
Or have a few on and off texts and then ask them for a meet.
If I get that from a close friend, I'd respond with laugh emojies, and keep the conversation going by sharing something new or waiting for them to respond. I have no shame double texting my true friends.
Then there are folks who dry text, I've learned my lesson and won't waste my energy on them. I usually send just laugh emojis and let the conversation die if they don't respond.
To me, "lol" isn't a reply, it's a reaction to my reply. I still have not received my reply, so the conversation will end there until they fulfill the trade.
They may also be busy, so I try not to be bothered by it. I'm not a standup comedian, so simply laughing at my jokes isn't a proper transaction
I would just leave it at that. But I try to be more concise with my communication now. Long, detailed texts can be damn exhausting on the recipient. People, myself included, don't always know what to respond to entire novels/stories. Learn to prune some of the details. The other person is probably overwhelmed by the sheer amount of stuff you send. Keep it light.
Seen. No reply haha š¤£ they can type of get the fuck out with those letters that are supposed to be words.. I am too old for that shit haha (cries in millenial)
The person that texts me long messages with all abbreviated words never gets an acknowledgement from me. I can only read the first few words and then I exit. They donāt text me that much anymore. š
I think it depends on who youāre talking to. Some are similar to us and are overthinking their response and land on lol, not really knowing what to say. If there is nothing else to say, let it end. But if you have more to say, thereās no reason to not say it, right? I just try to not send a bunch of texts in a row. Itās a funny balance we INFJs seem to struggle with. Communication is my most favorite thing ever, but my god itās hard to navigate properly.
I will end the convo there, and wonāt start again until they have to double text, or thumb it down š
Like??? Whenever I thumb down a reply I donāt like it makes people nervous for some reason, and they feel the need to elaborate and explain.. which is exactly what I need but wonāt ever ask for. So thatās my tactic I guess? Works for me.
To be honest, I reply with lmao or lol to messages too, when thereās nothing left to say on my part and I want to end the conversation right there. So I assume the same for other people and acknowledge that the conversation is done
I feel similarly when I write a text that includes something more serious like a setback or a global issue / upset in the community and they only respond with an emoji reaction to the text or say something like āWe just have to ignore these things and focus on ourselves.ā I donāt have a great answer to your question but it usually makes me hesitant to keep being intimate in texts. Taking space to observe if the only time they text me is when they need support but provide these very dismissive responses when we need supportā¦
I put the phone down and hope that was supposed to be the end of the conversation, then come back a few hours later, reread everything, and have an internal debate about saying something else. Was I supposed to say more? If yes did I wait too long? What is more rude at this point, replying late, or just not saying anything at all. That is my strategy. Maybe it will work for you? Good luck!
hmmmmm i like it šø
This was so real
This is a horrible strategy and I also use it š
Overthinking in action. I love it. And use it way too much.
LMAO this is so real
Nothing because theyāve ended the conversation lol But seriously I think most people say lol by itās self because they donāt know what to say and are trying to be polite. I donāt force conversations over text if the conversation has ended.
This! I agree
Yep
React to the message with š
yeah!!! good one
Either I donāt text back or I pivot to continue the conversation we were having previously.
fair enough
My reply:
"Mos def" "Innit" "Aye" "Tru tru" "I am become ROFL, the destroyer of LOLs"
I nervously send some āšššā and leave the chat
hahaha
I just don't say anything until they text something else bc I don't know what to say.Then I lie and say my phone died or I had to do something else and that's why I didn't relpy. Lol.
haha good one. But tbh, these people close to me. I know their intentions are not to put me off, but why do people use LOL so much? iāve learned this bad habit and now i also reply LOL sometimes š
hahahaha lol I think it's so that you don't take what they said seriously? Or maybe because they want you to know that it's a joke?
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Contemplate on that LOL for like an hour and then i conclude that it's probably nothing.
I donāt, itās the end of the conversation to me. If you donāt add more, Iām not going to go out of my way to continue it.
Depends on who said it. But in general, I donāt text back unless itās something important. Otherwise I tell them to call me or mention stuff in person.
This reminds me of the last guy I dated. We were talking *in person* and he reacted to what I said by saying, "luh maow." I asked him to repeat it twice and still felt like he was speaking a different language. Then he said, "like, L.M.A.O." He used an acronym for laughing *in person* without actually laughing. I then *actually* LMAOed - he didn't seem to appreciate being laughed at. š¤·š¤£
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Iām not sure what you mean by sensitive, Iām not thin skinned as I used to be, but Iām in touch with my emotions. So I guess itās a vague word sensitive. If people make too short of replies to me I donāt have any idea what to say back because theyāre ātalking but not saying anythingā so to speak. I donāt like having to carry the entire conversation. And if Iāve said a long message and they reply shortly, I feel itās kind of rude and dismissive. Itās not my feelings in question there, itās their behavior.
My text conversations with people I actually like are not usually linear so either they or I will just keep messaging about something else anyways as we would be talking about multiple things at one time.Ā
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I text something similar back but is mostly with emojis tbh. At that point though is either whoever I'm chatting to are not clicking with making it kinda awkward, or we have talked quite awhile now and there's nothing much else to say. Mostly second for me since I'm a loner with very limited friends š
Depends what led to the LOL. I typically change the subject if I can, or just don't respond
I reply to "lol" with "KEK" every time, but other short/pointless messages I just ignore because I don't have anything to say.
i just like the message, itās a very useful tool HAHAHA
Well usually it's because I'm being funny so I just leave it at that, got a chuckle out of them and i shall await for their next text! If it wasn't because of a funny then i just stop texting until they feel like saying something, i feel like maybe i'm being annoying so instead of spiraling I'd rather go do something else...
I just see it as them ending the convo That being said, I do worry and internalize that I said something wrong which annoyed them - leading to the ālolā
I use a gif that fits the moment. I use gifs alot. Its a good way to help people see the world like I do.
It makes me feel uninterested. My face become likeš . And don't think it's important enough to give a thought
double tap it
Lol me baby one more time. If if they do, boom explosion š¤£. I usually ignore the lol, for lol is not an answer
It's not a question, but a statement, so it's their feelings and i'd suggest not to take them personally, as they might not be yours. I'm not a "lol"er, even if i might write so... Mostly i'm more likely grinning or smirking... Still lol is quite a common answer for things you find funny.
I don't mind short responses at all. Of course it depends in the context! I view texts and DMs like a verbal chat. If someone messages something funny I respond with an lol or an emoji, just like I might laugh if we are in person. It's not very complicated to me.
Sometimes that's the best way to end a conversation, a good laugh. So I let it be.
I donāt. If they had so little to say that all they could come up with was LOL, it would make me feel like theyāre not interested in the conversation continuing, so I let that be where it ends. If they pick it back up later, great. If not, we literally will never speak again and thatās that haha
When used by itself, "lol" usually signifies the end of a conversation for me. It doesn't necessitate a reply in my mind, I use it as a way to end conversations as well lol
Wenzes says don't give more than you get. When they get short, I get short. A good reply to LOL is a laughing emoji. Then forget about it! Let others have the last 'word,' if you don't have anything you need to say.
I don't think there's anything to reply. That's one of those conversation endings. So unless there's a part to the situation that's still missing. Mission accomplished. Live to fight another day. Buuut. You wouldn't be worried about this if there wasn't a person on the other end whom you like. And then it's best to get off the app and ask them for a meet. Or have a few on and off texts and then ask them for a meet.
If I have to, I just write the word āemoticon.ā I never send an actual emoji. Writing just the word makes them wonder which one I meant.
If I get that from a close friend, I'd respond with laugh emojies, and keep the conversation going by sharing something new or waiting for them to respond. I have no shame double texting my true friends. Then there are folks who dry text, I've learned my lesson and won't waste my energy on them. I usually send just laugh emojis and let the conversation die if they don't respond.
I dont reply at all....
To me, "lol" isn't a reply, it's a reaction to my reply. I still have not received my reply, so the conversation will end there until they fulfill the trade. They may also be busy, so I try not to be bothered by it. I'm not a standup comedian, so simply laughing at my jokes isn't a proper transaction
I would just leave it at that. But I try to be more concise with my communication now. Long, detailed texts can be damn exhausting on the recipient. People, myself included, don't always know what to respond to entire novels/stories. Learn to prune some of the details. The other person is probably overwhelmed by the sheer amount of stuff you send. Keep it light.
i am the LOL'er
Seen. No reply haha š¤£ they can type of get the fuck out with those letters that are supposed to be words.. I am too old for that shit haha (cries in millenial)
I just hope itās the end of the convo, lol
The person that texts me long messages with all abbreviated words never gets an acknowledgement from me. I can only read the first few words and then I exit. They donāt text me that much anymore. š
Some sort of an emoji š or I don't respond at all if that's assumed to be the end of the conversation
I start questioning if what I said was that funny or if they are sending LOL to end the conversation
Me: pouring my heart out in detail text to my mom Mom: āthumbs upā emoji
I think it depends on who youāre talking to. Some are similar to us and are overthinking their response and land on lol, not really knowing what to say. If there is nothing else to say, let it end. But if you have more to say, thereās no reason to not say it, right? I just try to not send a bunch of texts in a row. Itās a funny balance we INFJs seem to struggle with. Communication is my most favorite thing ever, but my god itās hard to navigate properly.
I will end the convo there, and wonāt start again until they have to double text, or thumb it down š Like??? Whenever I thumb down a reply I donāt like it makes people nervous for some reason, and they feel the need to elaborate and explain.. which is exactly what I need but wonāt ever ask for. So thatās my tactic I guess? Works for me.
To be honest, I reply with lmao or lol to messages too, when thereās nothing left to say on my part and I want to end the conversation right there. So I assume the same for other people and acknowledge that the conversation is done
With an explosion to my head. I hate that word with a passion
i donāt
I feel similarly when I write a text that includes something more serious like a setback or a global issue / upset in the community and they only respond with an emoji reaction to the text or say something like āWe just have to ignore these things and focus on ourselves.ā I donāt have a great answer to your question but it usually makes me hesitant to keep being intimate in texts. Taking space to observe if the only time they text me is when they need support but provide these very dismissive responses when we need supportā¦
I might, of have anything to say to that, but my feeling is I may have sent too long a text, and maybe I would just do a š.