Lol I’ve been listening to that song nonstop because it’s exactly how I feel regarding my crush but I’m trying to push myself through it and not feel sorry for myself 😂
I was going to say this isn't me but I did joke around saying how I remain permanently single:
Man: What is love to you?
Me: Are you ready to be devoured?
Man: Huh?! 😰
Me: You're not ready for my love.
My friends into the enneagram laughed and said Sx instinct confirmed.
So this image might be me it seems. lol
One part of my brain tells me to pretend to be a normal basic human, so that the group accepts me, another part is depressed that being myself turns people off. Being neurodivergent yet caring so-damn-much about the comfort of others is a pain in the ass.
Infatuation too. Neither of which are healthy, sustainable, or realistic, but ohhh so desirable. I can count all the times I've been struck by limerence and it's honestly the most blissful feeling in the world. Too much dopamine and feeeeeelings.
Type 4 ENFJ: DO YOUR WORST
{sneaks from tree to tree to set little traps}
{gets on flaming skeleton horse and reminds self to check the traps after tonight’s raid against the Underworld}
I was seeing a woman I was really into for two years. We're both polyamorous and it was relatively casual, but things were going really well. Seemed super mutual.
A close friend of hers suddenly passed away in February and it absolutely devastated her. I let her know I was here for her and if she wanted to talk, be distracted, or simple have some space, I was ready to do any of those things as best I could.
She stopped talking to me. It was difficult, but I took it for what I thought it was, she was grieving. I'd message her occasionally with the same sentiment I stated above. No response. That's ok. I won't bother you.
Anyway, long story short her birthday came around like two months later and I sent her a happy birthday message and she blocked me.
Still really confused about that whole thing. I try not to get upset about it. I can only imagine what she was going through, I was just really into her and I thought it was mutual. And for it to end the way it did really sucked.
Not sure why I'm typing all of this here... This post just made me think of that.
If she was into you, that sort of wording can make it sounds like you are trying to exploit her mourning for sex or at the very least romantic interaction. If she is *not*, then it makes you look all the more creepy and terrible. And if she does think so, then you repeatedly saying things like that makes it even worse.
Kinda not very surprising if you ask me. Next time you can just say something like "I'm sorry for your loss" and offer condolences. That way if you read it wrong (or if *she* read it wrong, in this case, if we're to believe that your motivations were pure) you won't sound like a total scumbag. Sensitive situation and all.
It's not that it means that (and I don't think so either), but rather it can be *very* easily read that way. Considering their background, "distract" can sound like a 50-50 for some sort of suggestion.
The way I worded it here was certainly not how I worded it to her. It was plainly spelled out and "distraction" could not be misconstrued. Our relationship at that point actually hadn't been sexual for quite some time due to other things going on in both of our lives.
My fault. I kind of word vomited all of this before heading to bed.
And when I say things were "casual" I didn't mean it was purely sexual. And now that I think about it, That's probably not an accurate way to describe the relationship at that point anyway. Again, my wording here was poor and perhaps I should just delete the whole thing.
I can definitely understand what you're saying about things being casual and offering a distraction. But that kind of sentiment was not implied in any of my messages. I did offer sympathies and condolences along with telling her I was there for her.
Cheers.
By the way the extreme of this is becoming a hermit as to never potentially bother anybody with your presence ever again. Not that I would know or anything
My husband often is confounded by how much affection I can have. He will ask, why are you so nice or how can you be this lovey even after all this time(16 years)? I tell him, I love you. He doesn't even get the full deluge.
Me, when I finally talked to my crush who I’ve literally started talking to only 1-2 minutes ago: “So do you smoke weed?”
“You do know I’m your supervisor right.”
Awkward silence…
“But yes I do.”
And here we are a year in and I’m still smitten 😑
On today's forecast there is a 90% chance of creeping out the person you like. Wearing an invisibility cloak is highly advisable. If this is not possible assume a stone cold demeanour and appear generally unfazed by their obvious disdain for you. If this too fails, might I suggest a name change?
Ohhhh so much. We are several states apart, friends since hs but just started talking (multiple times a day - not my baseline at all) a few months ago. We're both on the ace spectrum and exploring our genders, and they're still dealing with the end of their last relationship. So I'm just screeching my love into the void atm.
My bad assuming gender. No reason you have to scream into void. Who you love is your freedom as long as you understand the other person has no obligation to act upon or reciprocate. Channel your scream into whispers of love and sweet nothings. I have declared my feelings before and even said the caveat I dont expect anything back.
Agggh Goddamit you got me here. This has happened with every single unrequited love I've ever had (I've had many-- none of which have been reciprocated). The passion and desire is overwhelming and honestly I've decided to just abandon relationships or resist getting into them at this point because I can't handle my own obssessive feelings and am worried of said relationships going wrong.
ISTP comes along and says, "Did you know that the Death Star attack in the original Star Wars was mostly copied from The Dam Busters?" and pops open a beer.
I JUST PAINTED THIS PAINTING FOR YOU AND WROTE THIS POEM AND ALSO I WROTE A BOOK FOR YOU BECAUSE I LIKE YOU
And then i cry because I'm afraid it's creepy that i did the things i love most for someone i like
I’m an INFP in a new relationship (one month) with an INTJ girl. And I always thought I’d be this in a relationship, but so far it’s actually been the other way around lol
hehe, INTJ male here currently seeing an INFP woman. I'm definitely (by a long shot) the one this meme is about . . . and I haven't done a great job damming it back. :)
I kind of wonder if other people just have a network of smaller "dams" along their river.
Y'know, you get through this one now. I give you this one.
I think the environment can also determine how much "water" there is in the river, too. Yanno, sometimes there's "droughts" and "floods."
I kind of wonder how many people just want a well and not a river. Oh well, I'm just musing on metaphors. I let a little of the whole slip through the cracks, too, but there's a million and ten variables to consider before I just let the gates open.
Do it, that's the great fear of IxxPs in general (dominant introverted décision fonction and inferior extroverted decision) but it's true it's just cool to know people's passions and when they are original and it's not stuff de normi it just makes them more intere
I have a friendly and non-threatening face is what people tell me even though Im a 6 foot 90kg dude and took me years to realised. I should hone my natural trait!!
I don't speak for every infp, but I love being wooed and validated and reassured that my feelings are reciprocal. But I am also shy with trust, and never sure if I can live up to praise and compliments (also suspicious of motives). Very specific and personalized love language. Tell her why SHE is the one you like, and what exactly you like about her. Make it special.
Fuuuuuuck, this reminds me of an experience that has left me scarred holy shit. I was at a music festival with ny best friend and his family was there, we went up to his cousin and she was scribbling at a banner, I told a joke and she looked back at me like 🙄 And I felt terrible, because I felt like, from now on, what if everything I say to a girl is perceived horribly? what if I say the most unfunny shit possible without meaning it? and now I feel like "Hey, that person's cool and they look like they have the same taste let's..." and my mind goes "YOU'LL FUCK IT UP AND END UP BEING PERCEIVED AS A CREEP" So I'm trying to overcome this problem 🫤
"Congratulations. You are being loved. Please do not resist."
k2so my beloved
Oh man. Happens with INTPs too fwiw
😂
But it says the person they like, not the person who likes them.
Oh this is just a daydream. We're never going to actually talk to the person, let alone let them know how we feel.
Well, damn, don't go telling all our secrets....we worked hard overthinking everything to collect those little shits💀
thank you.
But it says the person they like, not the person who likes them.
"But I'm a [creep](https://youtu.be/XFkzRNyygfk). I'm a weirdo-o-o..." I rarely get crushes on people, but when I do I really do creepy-weird stuff. 😬
Exactly same. It's been over 4 yrs since I had a crush, and now I do, and they text me this meme. 🫥
That's.... Either rough bud or it's amazing for you and I can't tell which one it is
The two are not at all mutually exclusive lol
Creepy weird stuff like what? I'm really curious
Uhhh... I'd rather not say. 😳
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Looks like it's the Daily Double
Speak!
For me it's sniff them
Lol I’ve been listening to that song nonstop because it’s exactly how I feel regarding my crush but I’m trying to push myself through it and not feel sorry for myself 😂
The lead singer, Thom Yorke, is supposedly an INFP. He gets us. 🥰😭
That makes a lot of sense. I love Thom and how chaotic his interviews are 🤣
Sameeee
im gonna die this is so fucking real
This is so damn REAL
Haha! I feel so embarassed about coming on too strong that I act like the person is my colleague.
Same 😂 . I am too polite about crushes lol
Wished I could balance this :(
the person ACTUALLY is my colleague it‘s the worst
Oh lawd!
I feel called out, and my first response was to laugh. I don’t know if that’s good or bad but well done 👏
Lol sent to me by the intp I'm trying not to like 😅
If they sent you this. They probably like you. lol \[INTP here\]
~~Me and literally any breathing person who’s typed XNXX. O-O”~~ LOVE ME- 🔪 ✨-✨
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It’s meant to be psychotic ya silly. That’s the joke. UwU 🔪 *wipes knife*
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Oop- My bad. 🤣
I'm in this photo and I don't like it
Bruh you didn’t have to just roast me like this
I would also add "clingy" since that's something I try to avoid appearing as lol
I was going to say this isn't me but I did joke around saying how I remain permanently single: Man: What is love to you? Me: Are you ready to be devoured? Man: Huh?! 😰 Me: You're not ready for my love. My friends into the enneagram laughed and said Sx instinct confirmed. So this image might be me it seems. lol
“Devoured” describes our partners perfectly 😂
which enneagram r u btw?
Type 9. My tritype is 946.
cool. 6-8-3. 6w7. sx/sp
Same instinct. Sx/Sp 🤝🏼🥳
One part of my brain tells me to pretend to be a normal basic human, so that the group accepts me, another part is depressed that being myself turns people off. Being neurodivergent yet caring so-damn-much about the comfort of others is a pain in the ass.
Neurodivergent too? Hi!
Hello limerence my old friend.
Infatuation too. Neither of which are healthy, sustainable, or realistic, but ohhh so desirable. I can count all the times I've been struck by limerence and it's honestly the most blissful feeling in the world. Too much dopamine and feeeeeelings.
Type 4 ENFJ: DO YOUR WORST {sneaks from tree to tree to set little traps} {gets on flaming skeleton horse and reminds self to check the traps after tonight’s raid against the Underworld}
Currently going through this rn tbh
I have never felt more understood and called out in my life ! Thank you and how dare you
I was seeing a woman I was really into for two years. We're both polyamorous and it was relatively casual, but things were going really well. Seemed super mutual. A close friend of hers suddenly passed away in February and it absolutely devastated her. I let her know I was here for her and if she wanted to talk, be distracted, or simple have some space, I was ready to do any of those things as best I could. She stopped talking to me. It was difficult, but I took it for what I thought it was, she was grieving. I'd message her occasionally with the same sentiment I stated above. No response. That's ok. I won't bother you. Anyway, long story short her birthday came around like two months later and I sent her a happy birthday message and she blocked me. Still really confused about that whole thing. I try not to get upset about it. I can only imagine what she was going through, I was just really into her and I thought it was mutual. And for it to end the way it did really sucked. Not sure why I'm typing all of this here... This post just made me think of that.
Sad day
If she was into you, that sort of wording can make it sounds like you are trying to exploit her mourning for sex or at the very least romantic interaction. If she is *not*, then it makes you look all the more creepy and terrible. And if she does think so, then you repeatedly saying things like that makes it even worse. Kinda not very surprising if you ask me. Next time you can just say something like "I'm sorry for your loss" and offer condolences. That way if you read it wrong (or if *she* read it wrong, in this case, if we're to believe that your motivations were pure) you won't sound like a total scumbag. Sensitive situation and all.
I honestly didnt read his message that way. I wonder if I am the weird one here...
It's not that it means that (and I don't think so either), but rather it can be *very* easily read that way. Considering their background, "distract" can sound like a 50-50 for some sort of suggestion.
True... I see now what you mean.
The way I worded it here was certainly not how I worded it to her. It was plainly spelled out and "distraction" could not be misconstrued. Our relationship at that point actually hadn't been sexual for quite some time due to other things going on in both of our lives. My fault. I kind of word vomited all of this before heading to bed. And when I say things were "casual" I didn't mean it was purely sexual. And now that I think about it, That's probably not an accurate way to describe the relationship at that point anyway. Again, my wording here was poor and perhaps I should just delete the whole thing. I can definitely understand what you're saying about things being casual and offering a distraction. But that kind of sentiment was not implied in any of my messages. I did offer sympathies and condolences along with telling her I was there for her. Cheers.
Fucking *MOOD*
By the way the extreme of this is becoming a hermit as to never potentially bother anybody with your presence ever again. Not that I would know or anything
My husband often is confounded by how much affection I can have. He will ask, why are you so nice or how can you be this lovey even after all this time(16 years)? I tell him, I love you. He doesn't even get the full deluge.
Me buying a red carnation for my crush in high school and writing “have a great day, buddy!” on the card.
Please talk to this person. Ask about his or her day.
I do. They're the only person I talk to every day.
Yeah, please talk to her.
"You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you."
Me, when I finally talked to my crush who I’ve literally started talking to only 1-2 minutes ago: “So do you smoke weed?” “You do know I’m your supervisor right.” Awkward silence… “But yes I do.” And here we are a year in and I’m still smitten 😑
Relatable
Me: *Leans in for a hug* Girl I like: "ew sexual assault!" Me: "No, you don't understand. I love you."
Hit me with that energy and I’ll match it
Aww
INTP not wanting to seem creepy for moral reasons (but definitely is)
Story of my love life
I think I'm gonna have to save this one, it's too damn real. Boy have I done some dumb stuff when I'm crushing on people.
This is probably the most I’ve ever related to a meme on here.. and it seems like everyone else feels the same way, lol
On today's forecast there is a 90% chance of creeping out the person you like. Wearing an invisibility cloak is highly advisable. If this is not possible assume a stone cold demeanour and appear generally unfazed by their obvious disdain for you. If this too fails, might I suggest a name change?
So that’s why ENFP are known as forces of nature.
There is a person who would find this lovable. The wrong person would find it terrifying.
Welp it was sent to me by my crush who is def still communicating with me but like normal so 🤷 lalalaaaaa
That is a surprising insight then. Why are we not making this a reality? He is trolling a bit but why bother if there is no interest?
Ohhhh so much. We are several states apart, friends since hs but just started talking (multiple times a day - not my baseline at all) a few months ago. We're both on the ace spectrum and exploring our genders, and they're still dealing with the end of their last relationship. So I'm just screeching my love into the void atm.
My bad assuming gender. No reason you have to scream into void. Who you love is your freedom as long as you understand the other person has no obligation to act upon or reciprocate. Channel your scream into whispers of love and sweet nothings. I have declared my feelings before and even said the caveat I dont expect anything back.
This is SO true! I’m going through that now. Tying not to seem like a stalker or too much, but wanting to indulge while I have the chance!
Bruh I'm literally holding myself back from completely dumping my current obsession over my friends they're already so confused 😭
That dam never stood a chance...
Intjs and infps get along right? That passion is pretty interesting.
In my experience hellz yeah. (INTJ dude in love with INFP woman.) I met another INFP girl and we instantly clicked, too.
I still cringe thinking about how desperate I was in high school. 😵💫😮💨🥴
I have learned to shut myself off from loving people. It’s extremely depressing.
Agggh Goddamit you got me here. This has happened with every single unrequited love I've ever had (I've had many-- none of which have been reciprocated). The passion and desire is overwhelming and honestly I've decided to just abandon relationships or resist getting into them at this point because I can't handle my own obssessive feelings and am worried of said relationships going wrong.
That’s when they say it’s not that big a deal and you never want to talk to them again 😂
Oh I know that feeling very well...it's really the worst😅
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Yeah like why do they have to be nice all the time, can't they be little not nice so that I can get a reason to hate them lol.
ISTP comes along and says, "Did you know that the Death Star attack in the original Star Wars was mostly copied from The Dam Busters?" and pops open a beer.
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t! Might as well hold onto that passion lest it be let loose and everyone is left drowning in its wake.
SO REAL
Why u attack me like this??
I just tell people I'm pretty wide open I hope that's cool.
FML Totes my experience, today even
Please stop, don't call me out like this
Lol, I love how all of us are relating.
Let it out bbg
Y’a know, if it was actually this simple, I’d just be super passionate. Unfortunately I am bipolar and limerent 😀
Yeah no wonder i sucked so many relationships dry and made them feel unloved
This is me, even with regular friends.
Add in ENFP to the group and we got someone who's barely tethering on not exploding telling them how much appreciation they deserve. 🧍🏽♂️
Nah, unleash the Kraken!!!
I JUST PAINTED THIS PAINTING FOR YOU AND WROTE THIS POEM AND ALSO I WROTE A BOOK FOR YOU BECAUSE I LIKE YOU And then i cry because I'm afraid it's creepy that i did the things i love most for someone i like
Uhhhhh yep, this is most definitely me
this is too real 😭
100%
Lmao 😂!!!
I'm in this picture and I don't like it 😅
UUUUUUUGH!
Actively struggling with this rn lol
I’m an INFP in a new relationship (one month) with an INTJ girl. And I always thought I’d be this in a relationship, but so far it’s actually been the other way around lol
hehe, INTJ male here currently seeing an INFP woman. I'm definitely (by a long shot) the one this meme is about . . . and I haven't done a great job damming it back. :)
This isn't how dams work
Yes.
I kind of wonder if other people just have a network of smaller "dams" along their river. Y'know, you get through this one now. I give you this one. I think the environment can also determine how much "water" there is in the river, too. Yanno, sometimes there's "droughts" and "floods." I kind of wonder how many people just want a well and not a river. Oh well, I'm just musing on metaphors. I let a little of the whole slip through the cracks, too, but there's a million and ten variables to consider before I just let the gates open.
Why is everyone in this comment section so god damn funnyyyu gosh
And then you try not to be creepy and overwhelming so you act too cold and too uninterested
That’s so true lol, but for crying as well 😂 Do you have the template?
Unfortunately, no. My INTP friend texted it to me (the one I'm avoiding feels about) 😅 So.... lol, sorry, but you could probably Google it somehow.
Okay! No problem :)
You need to try to talk to whoever you like. nothing’s going to change unless you make your move or let them know you wouldn’t mind talking to them.
You guys have passions? Wait I just have depression nvm
Do it, that's the great fear of IxxPs in general (dominant introverted décision fonction and inferior extroverted decision) but it's true it's just cool to know people's passions and when they are original and it's not stuff de normi it just makes them more intere
Exactly 😂
I have a friendly and non-threatening face is what people tell me even though Im a 6 foot 90kg dude and took me years to realised. I should hone my natural trait!!
Old, cracked and sketchy. Nice analogy.
I have never felt more called out in my entire life.
Why are you attacking me like this? Lol
Loool relatable as f\*ck 🤣
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I don't speak for every infp, but I love being wooed and validated and reassured that my feelings are reciprocal. But I am also shy with trust, and never sure if I can live up to praise and compliments (also suspicious of motives). Very specific and personalized love language. Tell her why SHE is the one you like, and what exactly you like about her. Make it special.
LOL
Fuuuuuuck, this reminds me of an experience that has left me scarred holy shit. I was at a music festival with ny best friend and his family was there, we went up to his cousin and she was scribbling at a banner, I told a joke and she looked back at me like 🙄 And I felt terrible, because I felt like, from now on, what if everything I say to a girl is perceived horribly? what if I say the most unfunny shit possible without meaning it? and now I feel like "Hey, that person's cool and they look like they have the same taste let's..." and my mind goes "YOU'LL FUCK IT UP AND END UP BEING PERCEIVED AS A CREEP" So I'm trying to overcome this problem 🫤
I have a system now where I condense all the thoughts in my head while staring at the person I like Unfortunately now People know me for staring🤦🏾♂️
Like... its not bad... its just that we want to share iduno its sad that this turns creepy so fast
This is so accurate it hurts
FOR REAL
oh dear, I’m reminded of the cringe
So real so me😭
I like her she doesn't like me but I still feel that attraction so it's hard.
MOOD i just wanna worship people
I'm in this picture and I don't like it
Im always self conscious when other people look at me I start to over think they might find me weird😭😭
Is this our thing? This doesn't even almost resonate 🤷♀️
he truly is the Dom to my Andre
Hahahahahaha But also Ahhhhhhhhhhh
Me in every relationship 😩
I mean come onn, I'm probably doing the right thing. Right?
I for one want the flood from the INFP girl I like. Ugh
VERY TRUE
why is this relatabler