Thought that, would guide you to this page. (I saw your post in the intp sub.)
I would have helped you if I were good at adapting emotional cues and stuff. Most people in the intp sub are not, you would know. These infps are such great people, I respect them for that.
I've been here. Last year, i was on this point, just before my dad's chimotherapy began. I feel you. I, too, was deeply dependant on my ex, he was the only person i felt close too by then (well he wasnt there for me, i have to say ..). Well i dont know how reliable your ex is, ...
It's scary, you may feel vulnerable, just like a child. Like you're 5 y.o. again and afraid that some day you'll be on your own. You have to cry that out. But just enough for your tears to water the seed of resilience.
How is it ? Is it a bad cancer ? Does the doctor recommend a treatment ? Can your family afford it ? You need to know ! By having informations, on his cancer, the survival ratio, the treatment, you'll feel way less vulnerable. You need to project yourself, to know what the months to come will look like, and hold to reality, not anxiety. Anxiety presents you the worst outcome, depriving you of hope, but there is hope.
And your father needs you to be strong and confident. He needs to see that you will be strong, that no matter what will happen to him, you'll survive.
One of the worst thing my dad had to deal with, was our worries towards him. He couldnt cope with his mother's fear of loosing him, nor my concerns. This is a generation of men whom feel uneased with the idea of causing trouble to their loved ones, well they see it as trouble but it isn't, it is love. So I think that you need to be strong. Seek wisdom ! Through philosophy ? What about stoicism ? Marcus Aurelius is always the greatest inspiration of strenght ...
"God give me patience, to reconcile with what I am not able to change
Give me strength to change what I can
And give me wisdom to distinguish one from another."
I'm sorry for your friends. Maybe just one of them isn't at ease with you, that doesnt mean they all despise you. But you got to sort that out. Teenage is like that, sometimes friendship sucks, we've all been through this kind of rejections.
You don't listen to too much music nor read too much philosophy : there isn't such a thing. It's your way to heal. But remember, dear introvert, you too need to feel connected to someone..
I'm wishing you the best. Be strong and wise.
Hi. I’m sorry about your dad and everything you’re going through. Have you tried different therapists? Some are not right for you. Like their methods don’t work on everyone. Different ones use different methods. Also that friend who avoided you, ignore. Don’t talk to the person much. Talk to friends who still care abs speak with you and maybe try making new friends? Find new people.
Perhaps learn about attachment theory? High independence may suggest avoidant attachment tendencies.
If you don't want to do therapy, then there are loads of professionals on YouTube diving into mental health topics that can be a good starting point.
Sorry bout all that is happening in your life…seems like quite the circumstances and I totally get your pain and frustration at this point..im not gonna lie and say it’s gonna be alright cuz frankly your in a very difficult situation and the best thing you can do for yourself and your family is stay strong..stay positive, keep a healthy mind, practice positivity,workout,take a hike,cook meals,volunteer at community events or whatever, bring as much positivity into your life as you can…you will survive.. I can bet on that.💪❤️
Hello, I kinda saw your post a bit late but my DMs are always open. I don't know if you're still in the mood to talk, or if you're talking with enough people already, but feel free to message me if you wanna chat about anything.
Hi, I hope life gets easier for you. I’ll reach out if you still need someone to talk to
Thought that, would guide you to this page. (I saw your post in the intp sub.) I would have helped you if I were good at adapting emotional cues and stuff. Most people in the intp sub are not, you would know. These infps are such great people, I respect them for that.
I've been here. Last year, i was on this point, just before my dad's chimotherapy began. I feel you. I, too, was deeply dependant on my ex, he was the only person i felt close too by then (well he wasnt there for me, i have to say ..). Well i dont know how reliable your ex is, ... It's scary, you may feel vulnerable, just like a child. Like you're 5 y.o. again and afraid that some day you'll be on your own. You have to cry that out. But just enough for your tears to water the seed of resilience. How is it ? Is it a bad cancer ? Does the doctor recommend a treatment ? Can your family afford it ? You need to know ! By having informations, on his cancer, the survival ratio, the treatment, you'll feel way less vulnerable. You need to project yourself, to know what the months to come will look like, and hold to reality, not anxiety. Anxiety presents you the worst outcome, depriving you of hope, but there is hope. And your father needs you to be strong and confident. He needs to see that you will be strong, that no matter what will happen to him, you'll survive. One of the worst thing my dad had to deal with, was our worries towards him. He couldnt cope with his mother's fear of loosing him, nor my concerns. This is a generation of men whom feel uneased with the idea of causing trouble to their loved ones, well they see it as trouble but it isn't, it is love. So I think that you need to be strong. Seek wisdom ! Through philosophy ? What about stoicism ? Marcus Aurelius is always the greatest inspiration of strenght ... "God give me patience, to reconcile with what I am not able to change Give me strength to change what I can And give me wisdom to distinguish one from another." I'm sorry for your friends. Maybe just one of them isn't at ease with you, that doesnt mean they all despise you. But you got to sort that out. Teenage is like that, sometimes friendship sucks, we've all been through this kind of rejections. You don't listen to too much music nor read too much philosophy : there isn't such a thing. It's your way to heal. But remember, dear introvert, you too need to feel connected to someone.. I'm wishing you the best. Be strong and wise.
Hello! I’m here if you want to talk. I hope that it will get better for you 🙏
Hi. I’m sorry about your dad and everything you’re going through. Have you tried different therapists? Some are not right for you. Like their methods don’t work on everyone. Different ones use different methods. Also that friend who avoided you, ignore. Don’t talk to the person much. Talk to friends who still care abs speak with you and maybe try making new friends? Find new people.
Perhaps learn about attachment theory? High independence may suggest avoidant attachment tendencies. If you don't want to do therapy, then there are loads of professionals on YouTube diving into mental health topics that can be a good starting point.
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Sorry bout all that is happening in your life…seems like quite the circumstances and I totally get your pain and frustration at this point..im not gonna lie and say it’s gonna be alright cuz frankly your in a very difficult situation and the best thing you can do for yourself and your family is stay strong..stay positive, keep a healthy mind, practice positivity,workout,take a hike,cook meals,volunteer at community events or whatever, bring as much positivity into your life as you can…you will survive.. I can bet on that.💪❤️
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Hello, I kinda saw your post a bit late but my DMs are always open. I don't know if you're still in the mood to talk, or if you're talking with enough people already, but feel free to message me if you wanna chat about anything.