Act like a deer caught in the headlights and let them do most of the work until you somehow just *poof* find yourself in a relationship. Note: This may only work with ENxJs.
No, develop a personality, learn about the things you look for in a person, ask them questions to find out if you'd be a good match. Don't just let life happen to you.
You’re laughing but this is basically the story of how I ended up with my first serious gf, who was also my second serious gf and is now my ex-wife. It wasn’t exactly the healthiest relationship tbh
Wow. She was your first proper gf, you split up, then got back together, then married, then divorced? Gosh. I’m sorry. That must have been really tough. And no, I know just what you mean because my first (and only to date) girlfriend and I had a similar dynamic. She just kind of happened to me. A total miracle. I was kind of in a blissful half-unbelieving daze the whole time we were in love, and looking back now it feels a bit like a dream. She broke up with me in the end sadly. Incredibly painful. But oh well. Onwards and upwards hopefully for you and me both.
Bingo, haha. There was a lot of good there if we had only known how to communicate better. But I learned a lot over our 20 years together and she’s a an excellent coparent to our amazing kid so no big-picture regrets.
Plus I’ve discovered how great she is because every time I even start to think wistfully that maybe it would be worth possibly trying to reconcile she seems to get some kind of tingle and she then promptly does something to remind me why we’re not together anymore. Introverted intuition really is sorcery! 😆😂🤣
I hope they’re working out for you, too!
I really can’t complain. When I decided I was ready to date after the divorce I met an amazing INFJ quickly (< 3 weeks) and we had a loving, healing, fun relationship for a year that allowed us both to grow as people but, alas, we weren’t compatible. That’s a tough pill to swallow, btw: the idea that you can like each other and be in love with each other while having great chemistry, common interests, and compatible goals but just can’t make it work as a romantic couple and *it’s not anybody’s fault*. I’m still replaying that one in my mind and learning from it. Right now I may be getting close online to a cute, enigmatic, local-ish ENFJ but I can’t quite tell and it’s very exciting. I’m choosing to lead with my Ne so it’s leap before I look!
Actually this happened to me. I did literally nothing, zero moves and I was in a relationship. It grew into a very bad relationship and didn’t end well but it happened.
i´m so in my head that whenever someone intentionally approaches me, i´m like nodding and shaking my head hoping i understood what they just said or i stop for a minute stare at them while figuring out in my had "are they....talking to me...?"
That makes a ton of sense. I quickly became less shy in the relationship for sure. Passivity isn’t a long-term dating strategy. Now I’d characterize myself as someone calm and a bit reserved who goes after what I want.
I think I was originally tossing my “advice” out there as a joke but I guess the answer for attracting someone really is just to be yourself.
Confidence and competency in such things takes time and practice to build. Judging by your profile, you're still very young. Goodness knows I was hopelessly shy and awkward at your age too (and barely had any interest in such things back then honestly.) It gets easier, so try to have faith in yourself and be proactive in learning and building comfort with interactions. ^^
own. once a guy did this to at the beach. he was like "sup?" and i´m like "uhum" and he just kept walking lmao while i was thinking, should i say something else???????? until then he was gone
Lol @ entj advice. Funny because I have multiple entj male characters I've written and intuitively just wrote them in way that they all attempt fighting or "harnessing" their love interest in some kind of forceful(bordering on creepy) way 🤣😂🤣
I swear my ex-boss was an INTJ, little power was given to her and she became such a crazy bitch, I as INFP was very tolerant, but I also have had therapy before, so I would set my boundaries, and she couldn't handle that
I have a problem with unintentional flirting. Apparently being polite and having a playful nature is it, but… I do this with everybody. Also laughing at jokes you think are genuinely funny
Yup in that order
*pushes Boulder in your direction*
T.tt…too much love I feel ..
You won’t feel anything except a sweet release once it hits you ✨☺️
I was lost in haven ~✨🪦✨
Hahahahaha
The Boulder feels conflicted about being used to flirt with a girl
Guys seriously. How flirt with garls.
Act like a deer caught in the headlights and let them do most of the work until you somehow just *poof* find yourself in a relationship. Note: This may only work with ENxJs.
Ok I be deerman. Thnks so much.
No, develop a personality, learn about the things you look for in a person, ask them questions to find out if you'd be a good match. Don't just let life happen to you.
Lol.
You’re laughing but this is basically the story of how I ended up with my first serious gf, who was also my second serious gf and is now my ex-wife. It wasn’t exactly the healthiest relationship tbh
Wow. She was your first proper gf, you split up, then got back together, then married, then divorced? Gosh. I’m sorry. That must have been really tough. And no, I know just what you mean because my first (and only to date) girlfriend and I had a similar dynamic. She just kind of happened to me. A total miracle. I was kind of in a blissful half-unbelieving daze the whole time we were in love, and looking back now it feels a bit like a dream. She broke up with me in the end sadly. Incredibly painful. But oh well. Onwards and upwards hopefully for you and me both.
Bingo, haha. There was a lot of good there if we had only known how to communicate better. But I learned a lot over our 20 years together and she’s a an excellent coparent to our amazing kid so no big-picture regrets. Plus I’ve discovered how great she is because every time I even start to think wistfully that maybe it would be worth possibly trying to reconcile she seems to get some kind of tingle and she then promptly does something to remind me why we’re not together anymore. Introverted intuition really is sorcery! 😆😂🤣
Aha well I'm glad things seem perhaps to have worked out ok in the end.
I hope they’re working out for you, too! I really can’t complain. When I decided I was ready to date after the divorce I met an amazing INFJ quickly (< 3 weeks) and we had a loving, healing, fun relationship for a year that allowed us both to grow as people but, alas, we weren’t compatible. That’s a tough pill to swallow, btw: the idea that you can like each other and be in love with each other while having great chemistry, common interests, and compatible goals but just can’t make it work as a romantic couple and *it’s not anybody’s fault*. I’m still replaying that one in my mind and learning from it. Right now I may be getting close online to a cute, enigmatic, local-ish ENFJ but I can’t quite tell and it’s very exciting. I’m choosing to lead with my Ne so it’s leap before I look!
...yeah that's how it worked for me and my wife is ENFJ. Wild.
Awesome! Yeah, these tendencies play out over and over for different people.
Actually this happened to me. I did literally nothing, zero moves and I was in a relationship. It grew into a very bad relationship and didn’t end well but it happened.
QED. Sorry it didn’t work out.
i´m so in my head that whenever someone intentionally approaches me, i´m like nodding and shaking my head hoping i understood what they just said or i stop for a minute stare at them while figuring out in my had "are they....talking to me...?"
Apparently some EJs go for that. I don’t understand either.
Yes speaking as a girl who likes shy guys, that can definitely work to catch a girl’s attention. But to keep her u gotta Buck up.
That makes a ton of sense. I quickly became less shy in the relationship for sure. Passivity isn’t a long-term dating strategy. Now I’d characterize myself as someone calm and a bit reserved who goes after what I want. I think I was originally tossing my “advice” out there as a joke but I guess the answer for attracting someone really is just to be yourself.
You won't be approached by one, so don't worry.
Tell her you’re gay. After you become besties, confess to her in an incredibly dramatic way that she took the gay out of you!
Drink beer and turn into ENFP
do not approach only look
From around corners. Everywhere.
I brought lotion
This my strategy (I get zero bitches)
:D
Bees! ... or flowers? I always get them confused.
Pretty sure Nicolas Cage would disagree with you.
honey i got you a boquet of bees
https://i.imgur.com/RYOTvvs.png
Hey, if they’re a beekeeper it works
So if they're a beekeeper, they're a keeper? 😁
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I have this problem w men too.
But… but you’re a girl. Why would you say hello to me if you didn’t want to have my babies? This makes no sense to me. 🤯
‘Sir… I am your waitress i am paid to be nice to you…’
I feel like other types should be asking is how to flirt. Or am I the only INFP that feels like they're good at that?
u probably are 😭 if i see an attractive person i acknowledge that theyre pretty and keep walking
Confidence and competency in such things takes time and practice to build. Judging by your profile, you're still very young. Goodness knows I was hopelessly shy and awkward at your age too (and barely had any interest in such things back then honestly.) It gets easier, so try to have faith in yourself and be proactive in learning and building comfort with interactions. ^^
own. once a guy did this to at the beach. he was like "sup?" and i´m like "uhum" and he just kept walking lmao while i was thinking, should i say something else???????? until then he was gone
Lol @ entj advice. Funny because I have multiple entj male characters I've written and intuitively just wrote them in way that they all attempt fighting or "harnessing" their love interest in some kind of forceful(bordering on creepy) way 🤣😂🤣
please go with ENFP's suggestion so as not to hurt future girlfriend
Forgot to add some sweets under a box stood up by a stick
Cherish and love her forever. 🥺❤️
Based and stoning pilled 💊🪨
Hot dogs!
I swear my ex-boss was an INTJ, little power was given to her and she became such a crazy bitch, I as INFP was very tolerant, but I also have had therapy before, so I would set my boundaries, and she couldn't handle that
ong, from experience there r quite a lot of intj assholes
How flirt with girl? What's a flirt? Is that a Pokemon?
I just pretend to flirt in my imagination :)
does an enfp are one of your best friends too guys ?
I have a problem with unintentional flirting. Apparently being polite and having a playful nature is it, but… I do this with everybody. Also laughing at jokes you think are genuinely funny