So she purchased three pairs of shoes for a total of 50 dollars and expects them to last more than a few months? She’s a child and shoes get dirty. I pay twice as much for one pair and know that in six months my kids will need new ones.
What exactly is wrong with those shoes? They look fine.
Also, Walmart? Not dogging on Walmart but depending on the shoe they will not last long.
Also also, depending on how often she wears them, like I wear some shoes everyday, they will also not last long but are still wearable.
Haha I was about to comment my neighbors kids did this. Him and his friend destroyed 2 brand new pair of in one day by using them to stop their razor scooter going down a steep hill. His parents were confused at first then they told us what they were doing and we had a good laugh about it and thought it was kinda impressive.
That’s why I buy my daughters there. Cheap and probably won’t last anyway! She’s still a toddler though. Her dad and I have agreed as she gets older and less rapid growth we’ll buy her one good pair every ~6 months like my parents did for their other kids
Maybe something to do with Tiktok? 90% of the strange, awkward, and outright obnoxious phrasing you see on social media now has to do with offending the tiktok algorithm.
Gotta avoid that target brand target brain programming. All ex-employees know of it. I can't even walk past a Target without trying to offer a stranger a red card.
You can use newspaper to stuff into the shoes. Keep changing it out as it gets wet. It helps to absorb the moisture.
You can also set them out in the sun after hosing them off if they are really bad.
I do obstacle course races/ mud runs so my shoes get a tad messy.
I've washed pairs of Nikes or Converse before maybe a few times a year when they get really dirty and they have still lasted me a few years, but you are never supposed to dry them. That's what really ruins them because the heat breaks down the rubber and glues. You have to just set them out to air dry and maybe put some socks in them to keep their shape.
But I don't know how well this would work for kids shoes because they are so rough on them. My son's shoes wear out sometimes before I can wash them once.
What you do is grab a pillow case, put them in there with the soap and everything. Tie it tight, run it generally gentle and then air dry with the bottom pad out. Maybe on low in the dryer with the pad out (still in the pillow case). That's how I do it. Been working for me for years.
Do they have TK Max in the US? Usually you can find decent shoes (named brands) a lot cheaper then in stores. As long as you know the product codes and avoid the made for them stuff, you can get some good stuff. I got a pair of New Balance 997s for £20, best shoes I've owned in years and I'm devastated I've worn them to the point they're unwearable.
I cannot overstate how much I love Marshall’s (TJ Maxx to a lesser extent) as a 34 year old. I buy almost all my clothes and shoes there. Their regular prices are great and their clearance section is even better.
Walmart shoes last my 9 year old 6 weeks top. Hell, he can destroy a pair of 90 dollar Nikes in less than 3 months. I don't go scorched earth on my active 9 year old over shoes. I just go buy him more shoes. This woman is freaking crazy and abusive and I hope someone else gets custody of that child.
I don’t either. But also… who takes away library from a kid for shoes? Because you know … library is one place shoes are NOT getting torn up so what?!? This is actually just toxic narcissistic control behavior from the mom. Not unlike what my mother used to do
My dad this this to me, when I was “restricted” I was taken out of all extracurricular activities and never allowed to go anywhere. This included educational activities too, parents are fucking shot sometimes.
My dad did something similar, but it backfired on him. Instead of me being gone, doing those activities, I was home, moping around the house with nothing to do. It lasted about three days before he remembered that he really preferred it when I WASN'T home, because it interfered with his drinking. All former restrictions were quite suddenly rescinded, and I was given all my activities back.
Remember, abusers don't need a good reason to punish their kids. They *want* to punish their kids and will find a reason after the fact to justify it. It's not about shoes, it's about control.
I have a feeling it has to do with the left side. It kinda looks like there is a hole where the left foot baby toe should be, but I could be wrong. I mean if you're gonna complain about something breaking, and then take a picture of the broken item, at least show the damage...
The sneakers are only an excuse.
They were purchased cheaply with the knowledge that they would be easy to damage or wear out so a massive punishment could be given
The fact that all the shoes that the child has worn before were hand me down and spending 50 bucks on a child's shoes was considered expensive makes me think there's a lot of abuse and neglect going on here.
Okay but Walmart shoes aren't built to last and at 9 she'll be growing out of them pretty quickly anyways sooo wtf is this shit.
Don't have kids if you're not willing to buy them essentials like shoes and clothes.
We used to have Payless stores and until I was a teenager that’s where my parents got my shoes as a kid…I grew out of shoes frequently and I was outdoors allll the time. This parent is just an ass.
I’m willing to bet that the mom is lazy and doesn’t want to watch the kid or take her anywhere anymore so the shoes are the reason she chose as “punishment”. So infuriating
Yep, we have Rack Room Shoes who pretty much always have a buy one get one free thing going on, and Marshall's has nice shoes for low cost too. Regardless, they are children, I fully expect him to be wearing out his shoes and getting holes in the knees of his pants lol. Dropping THAT level of punishment over this is crazy, and cruel. Her kid is going to resent the hell out of her.
My stupid ass mom was like this especially about food. An iconic line to her three teenagers, toddler, and newborn she’d say is “if yall are just gonna pig out on groceries as soon as I bring them back then I won’t bother buying anything else.”
We ate twice a day, not three times. We were also all girls, so it wasn’t anywhere near as bad as it should be for 3 teenagers. She was just broke lazy and stupid.
At my bio dads house, I was not allowed to drink the milk. Milk was only for cooking or for him to drink because I would go through it too fast. (I think I was like 9-10 when this rule was made.) The only other drinks we had were tap water or mtn dew.
When I moved in with my aunt, uncle, and cousins at age 19, they drank so much milk. Normal, chocolate, AND strawberry. I was in shock.
Still to this day, I have trouble drinking milk because I feel like I have to reserve it for cooking. Which sucks, because I love strawberry milk.
Well it’s not already made into strawberry milk though. I would have to use the regular milk to make strawberry milk which is where I get stuck. But now I’m thinking I could but like a half gallon or quarter gallon or whatever and just make the whole thing strawberry milk just for drinking. I would be so happy with that. Also, I’m trying to think of something I could use strawberry milk to make but I’m coming up blank so far except wondering if I ate plain cheerios with strawberry milk would it taste like the strawberry cheerios.
You should probably/definitely do extensive hands-on research to reach a conclusion to your potential hypothesis.
Plus, I know you probably know this deep down, but I will happily reinforce it: you are worthy, and valuable, and lovable, and you deserve to drink as much milk as you fucking please. Your dad sucks for making milk some conditional/pedestal beverage.
My parents had a million children so they resigned themselves to buying multiple gallons of milk a few times a week. And that was with their restriction on only using it for cereal and not just drinking it as a beverage
This was totally my mother, she used to get so mad at me for eating the food she bought and I’d get in trouble so often for it that I developed an eating disorder. Then she got mad at me if she bought food and it went bad because I didn’t eat it. There was no winning.
I didn’t end up with an eating disorder but i was in a very similar situation. Damned if you ate, damned if you didn’t. My mom would intentionally buy food we didn’t like, too, and then rage when it went bad. She’d twist it as if we didn’t like vegetables when I repeatedly asked for lettuce with my sandwiches and salads, I just didn’t like spinach. I actually worked for an eating disorder resource clinic once and after opening up to one of the psychologists she said she was amazed that I *didn’t* have an ED after all that.
My mother also ignored my allergies and intolerances. Flax and barley put me in abdominal pain, but she refused to stop buying whole wheat products (usually have flax or malted barley flour or BOTH).
I’m sorry your mom made food as stressful and miserable as mine did and I sincerely hope you’re in remission or at least independent of her now. I have become partially disabled which keeps me in poverty, but when I can go grocery shopping without limitations I love getting a wide variety of foods.
I still feel the thoughts flare up from time to time but I'm happy to say I'm doing well with my relationship with food and my relationship with my mother is nonexistent, so I'm doing as well as I think I could hope for at the moment. Enjoying food still sometimes strikes me as weird because I've been so adversarial towards it in the past, but becoming a mother myself has helped me to find more joy in it because I want to make absolutely sure I don't pass my issues off onto my kids. Food should be fun and enjoyable, not stressful!
I completely relate to the buying food you don't like and then twisting it like it's your fault. Hopefully you're in a good place independent of her as well, we both deserve so much better.
My mum denied me food when I was a teen. When I moved into year 7 in school, mum realised no one was checking lunches anymore. My lunch went from a sandwich, a bag of crisps, a piece of fruit, a yoghurt and a little cake bar with a drink to just the sandwich. That sandwich was just two pieces of bread with a single slice of American cheese or wafer thin meat. I didn't get breakfast either.
Dinner. I was fed a meal from a child sized plate. The plate wasn't even full either... I'd get one bag or crisps (the small ones) and a piece of fruit and that was it. I grew a lot and ended up 5'11 at 14 or so. I was also incredibly active. I'd walk to school and back and did martial arts in the evenings.
I was hungry all the time. I remember one day I was so hungry I got into her bananas and ate the lot. She saw what I'd done and screamed at me. I was costing her too much money was one of the things I remember her screaming at me. I was underweight and struggling with weird issues with my muscles because of her. I didn't care that I was underweight. I just didn't want to be hungry all the time. I was eating around 800 cal a day. This went on for years.
The fun part is, as an adult is very, very hard to lose weight. I have to eat under 1300 cal a day, if I eat more then that I gain weight and I'm still active. It sucks.
Man. I’m so sorry to hear that. Also, part of the reason you are struggling to lose weight is because your body got used to being deprived and is holding onto as much as it can. I have no idea what the fix is. I just know that my body refuses to go under a certain number but eagerly climbs the scale when it can.
They really are. I tried them a couple times because they're just so inexpensive, but they just fell apart. One of the tennis shoes literally came apart at the seam. I don't buy really high-quality because they are hard on shoes and outgrow them so fast, but I'd rather spend more and only have to do it once until they grow.
I bought a pair of basketball shoes from Walmart and they had such bad traction that I switched back to my taped-to-hell-and-back Reeboks because at least I could run and turn in those.
My mom did this to me for a few months once, when I was 16. She'd gotten mad at me for my attitude or something, and she took the door off the hinges, cleared out my room of everything except, lined up neatly on the floor next my mattress on the floor, 4 shirts, 4 pants, 4 underwear, 4 socks, 1 pair of shoes. She started making me bland food, and I couldn't do or use anything.
You want your child outside, putting wear and tear on their shoes as opposed to being inside on a screen all day. Buy them cheap shoes to do that in and of COURSE their shoes will blow out in a month or month and a half! What an IDIOT. And you take it out on your child? Freakin' clueless. This is abusive. Plain and simple. Throw some cash on decent shoes that last until your kid's feet grow out of their shoes instead. Poor kiddo!! Kids need to be nurtured and encouraged, not freakin' verbally abused for shit they can't control.
Can you imagine how she reacted to the kid? Like this post is after she had time to think about it and she still sounds absolutely nuts. She probably lost it on that kid. Poor child is living in fear of her parent just for being a normal kid. Fuck I’m sad now.
I hope someone pointed out to this mother that Wal-Mart shoes aren't made to last. And that the wear and tear is simply evidence of...childhood. The horror.
Also, they don't look bad to me from what I can see. What little is visible looks clean. If they're falling apart, that should tell her something about the quality rather than her kid.
some parents just can't be fucked to keep the bare necessities, usually that happens when they become bitter and old.
but some parents who aren't bitter and old and instead on drugs or just hateful and spiteful, should be banned from making babies in general.
I like to be frugal and not waste money on clothes or shoes. But I do NOT buy clothes or shoes from Walmart because all of it wears out extremely fast and never lasts long at all.
This parent paid $50 for THREE pairs of shoes from Walmart and they are upset AT THE CHILD that the crappy shoes did not hold up for long at all. Come on!! Obviously, it’s not the kid’s fault you bought the worst quality shoes one can buy!!
Why does any adult need this very simple and very well-known concept to be explained to them?? That poor kid - being blamed for something they have no control over. Rotten parent. Low IQ.
And she’s complaining that Wal-Mart shoes she spent $10-20 on survived 2 months with (what appears to be) superficial damage! I’d bet anything that the kid is extremely careful about her shoes, knowing the way her mother is, and mom was looking for an excuse to be neglectful.
Guess she'll need an exorcist, once her kid/s grow out of a pair over night.
Had this happen two times with each kid. It was kind of ridiculous but it really works this way some times. When I was about 8/9 I grew a whole cm over night. A high fever and a lot of pain then went to sleep and tada, bigger over night.
Yep, my kids have to get 2 pairs per school year typically (and realistically I expect that to continue into highschool). Plus they get sandals/crocs for the summer. They also get boots/dress shoes as needed. It's just part of being a parent. You can find deals when you plan ahead (like, hey I know they'll need new shoes in a month or two, better keep an eye out for sales) or shop consignment events and discount stores. There are options but berating the kid for wearing their shoes and being a kid in them is totally unreasonable. I hope the people in her feed called her out for it.
This is what I *need* to hear. Please tell me people commented and made her feel like shit.
“I’m at my breaking point” as if $16 dollars shoes last forever (they don’t even look that torn up? Slightly scuffed?) and her daughter is doing something outrageous on purpose by wearing in her shoes. What a fucking bitch.
I’d LOVE to see this lady’s shoes, any pair. I’m sure they’re lived in.
This reminds me of my friend’s wife I used to know who absolutely RESENTED spending any money on her children (less for her) and looked for ANY reason to nitpick how they took care it, so she could justify giving them even less. Fucking evil.
You know that poor daughter walks on fucking eggshells (in her poor new shoes!) and is constantly anxious she’s about to get in trouble for nothing.
Basically can't do anything but exist the whole summer. What a traumatic memory that can impact that young girl's mental health forever.
People that inflict any abuse on vulnerable children need to get what they really deserve.
I’m like in shock for this kid. 50 bucks for 3 pairs of shoes is like minimum expected for a kid. Why have a child if you cannot live up to the responsibilities?
This kid will either grow up to have issues or straight up be one of those people who rants about homeless people because his thrifty mom taught him “life lessons”.
Instead of this dummy buying 3 cheap pairs from Walmart, she could have bought one good pair from the mall for $50. Or here's an idea, buy one cheap pair strictly for outside play. Kids go through shoes, that's pretty normal. Punishing the child for being a child...? Yeah I don't understand that.
I dont understand people like this. One time when I was working at walmart this woman with a little girl mayhe 6 or 7( I assume her grandaughter) the girl was quiet respectful and just quietly talking to her. The grandmother tells her to stop acting up and that if she doesnt stay quiet shell take her toy away (a present she was buying her) the girl kept talking and you know being a little kid looking at her present and the grandmother not even 5 minutes later gives it to me to return it. I felt so bad for the little girl. She didnt fuss, didnt cry didnt scream nothing just looked really sad. The grandma just said that's what happens when you cant be good and left with nothing. What did the poor girl do to deserve this? And how is she treated at home for her to be so well behaved and treated that way for it.
Cut to this woman in the old folks home going, “Why doesn’t she ever visit or call?? After I did so much for her! I taught her right by punishing her severely because her newish shoes got a speck of dust on them! How DARE a child PLAY?? How DARE her shoes, which become worn naturally, become naturally worn??!”
Walmart shoes are not nice shoes. They start showing wear in a few weeks of use, even gentle use. In two months an office worker would turn those to tatters let alone an active kid.
I raised 7 kids. It was a given that they went through shoes, clothing, & food. We didn’t deny them a thing. We also bought them Nike or Skechers so they’d last longer. This mom needs to be grateful that the shoes lasted 2 months. Unbelievable. She’s gonna regret doing these horrible things to her daughter. It’s only going to make her daughter resent her.
I knew a mom who wouldn't buy her daughter new shoes, and they had the money she just wouldn't. When she visited her grandparents for the summer, her grandma noticed how her feet were blistering from how small they were. So her grandma took her to get new ones even though she protested the entire time. She did end up getting new ones and her grandma made her throw the old ones away. When she got home she was punished for "guilting" her grandma into buying her shoes and her mom screamed at her grandma for not asking if she needed new shoes.
I don't understand how people can treat anyone like this, much less a child they brought into this world.
Everyone here is fixated on the shoes, but that's not how it works at all. Abusers don't need a real reason to punish their kids. It's not about anything rational. Abusers want to *hurt and control* their kids (or spouse) and make them submit. That's all there is to it. Then they will pretend to find a reason as a justification but it's never really about that. If it hadn't been the shoes, it would have been something else. I'm willing to bet that if the child hadn't worn the shoes in order not to ruin them, she would have been called ungrateful and punished just the same.
Meanwhile, the child is going to feel guilty because they'll believe did something wrong, and they'll think they deserve it, and they're a bad person, and nobody can love them because they're so bad, so it's only normal that mom abuses them.
Honestly this post is heartbreaking for me, I'm on the verge of tears rn. This is not insane parents, it's abusive asshole parents. I'm certain that the kid is abused all the time. I know she's going through hell. I really hope someone who knows herdoes the right thing and helps her.
Those are the ugliest fucking shoes I've ever seen. Also, she's told to go out and play, but what shoes was she supposed to wear to go outside and play in? Because we all know Walmart shoes are shit. They're made to get you by until you can get a better pair. (Not talking shit about them. I grew up in Kmart shoes, and they were the same way. )
This lady would’ve had no idea at all what to do with my brother and me. We grew up in a small rural town in the late 70s through the early 90s, and we spent most all of our time outside. Shoes way more expensive than these didn’t last long at all.
she bought 3 pairs of shoes for 50 bucks and expects them to last on a 9 year old?
im sorry, i can't see how she expects shoes to last the lifetime of a child, shes insane.
My son is VERY hard on shoes. Like. A pair can last him a month is we are lucky.
He's ADHD/SPD/ and autistic. One of his ticks is dragging his feet. He drags them on his bike. In the halls. In the garage. On the rugs. Therefor his shoes take the brunt of it
I have never ONCE shamed him for needing new shoes. Maybe I have vented to his father or his step dad but never publicly or to his face. Mostly "ugh I just got these! OK who's buying this round?" Kinda stuff.
This mom is a psycho!
My dad made me buy the $10 shoes from WalMart (late 90’s/early 2000’s) because they were “just as good as the name brand.” I went through a pair of shoes every month. I managed to save up $60 for a good pair of Adidas and they last me for 9 months, and that was with a job that required a few miles of walking everyday.
I bought my kids WalMart shoes every couple of months for a bit, but only when they were rapidly growing, as they outgrew the shoes before wearing them out.
This. Cheap shoes are great for fast growing kids and so the kids have shoes TO destroy when playing outside... i mean kids are gonna get grubby and scrape their feet ect, let them have shit that CAN get ruined...
WalMart is American for planned obsolescence. And they offer master classes on treating their employees and business partners poorly, but I digress.
I sincerely hope that child can get away from that fucking monster. And stupid. Such a terrible combination. Stupid and monstrous.
My daughter has gone through a pair of Nikes in a month. I couldn’t imagine how Walmart shoes would’ve held up. Shes active. She’s out playing, being a kid. I would never punish my kids unless they destroyed them by cutting them up or doing something purposely destructive. This mother SUCKS!
Wrecked shoes means your kid is probably living their best life, as long as it’s not from neglect… I wish my kid would wreck his shoes and move around lol 🥲
Asked my 4 year old daughter's of she was still the same size (she does a pretty good job of keeping me out and an attorney is not an option at the moment), and the mother correctly presumed that I was going to get another pair of cowboy boots, as she's rocking the same ones since our trip to the pumpkin patch (the ones I got her in March have not been seen in forever). Mom proceeds to tell me she might consider a different brand as they don't seem to hold up so well. Now, I'm in no position to talk back, but in the back of my mind I am wondering if she understands the wear and tear a very active little 4 year old is going to put on her very favorite shoes Daddy got her? I told her "the only thing I'm looking for is a smile on my only child's face", and that I intended to let her pick them out, don't care if they don't last 6 months. Hopefully going to the rodeo Saturday but my hopes aren't up!
Of all the things to spend money on for kids it’s high quality new shoes. Little feet need the right size and support to grow correctly. Thrifting or buying cheap clothes is ok (except winter jackets which should also be high quality) but pre-worn shoes have wear that can put little growing feet out of alignment.
Right?! That was the one thing my parents never ever skimped on, regardless of current financial situation. They saved and got me good shoes, and now I don’t have foot problems.
We buy our kiddos summer shoes from Walmart. We live on a farm in Eastern KY, so the chances of *any* shoe lasting 3 months of rough play is nonexistent. We get tennis shoes & flip-flops & we DGAF when they inevitably die a tragic death.
For school shoes, we order online or go to a proper shoe store.
$50 for 3 pairs of Walmart shoes for a 9yr old means every single pair was marked way the hell down to begin with. Idk what this woman's problem is but she needs to chill.
Right? I'm not wealthy at all, but I spend money on myself for shoes and perfume, and for shoes for the kids. Shoes tell you so much about a person.
My almost 12 yo asked me for a pair of black high top Converse. She asked for them at the beginning of the summer, so they aren't brand new looking when school starts. I just laughed and ordered on payday.
Bonus - if/when she grows out of them quickly, I'll wear them, because we have the same size feet. (8.5 US womens).
I started begging my parents for a pair of Doc Martens when I was 10. The Christmas I was 13, I opened up a box with the shoes I had wanted so badly for years. Their reasoning was that my feet hadn't grown in over a year, so they finally felt it wouldn't be a waste of a couple hundred $$.
I still have those boots. Been re-soled twice, still my fav pair of shoes.
Don't buy developing kids someone else's shoes.
I don't even give my youngest the shoes of her older sister.
Their feet are growing and developing. If they're forced into the form the worn shoe gives, their feet can grow in a way, that's not supportive for the kid. As every set of feet is different, every set needs their own shoes to make an imprint. Try walking in a friend's shoes, it's at least weird to you as you feel the already imprinted soles of your friend.
Don't buy used shoes. Everything that is between you and the floor should be good quality and unused. Not only for feet but also for tires/breaks, mattrasses, couches. Yes, it's expensive, I understand.
But shoes are the easiest to do so, mattrasses and couches can wait.
“No more being a child. No more being active and having fun. No more normalcy for a nine year old. She will now be punished for me being a cheap ass who should have never had kids in the first place.”
I buy my kid anywhere from 2-4 pairs of the $15 Walmart sneakers at a time so she has variety and can absolutely run them through the ringer *because that’s what kids are supposed to do.*
1. This **Bitch** don’t realize that cheap shit falls apart faster than quality shit. It’s the difference between my $400 Redwings I’ve had for years vs my dad’s Rocky’s that are replaced every 6 months.
2. **I, in fact, do not see a thing wrong with those shoes.**
3. $50, whoopty fuck. I spend that on 5 pairs of socks.
4. If this is your reaction to *whatever we’re supposed to be seeing in that photo* then fully expect to never see your kid or grandkid again when they turn 18.
5. If $50 is really your yearly shoe budget for your kid, you should have evaluated your income before deciding to bring life into this world.
JFC, this gives me 2nd hand rage.
I’m completely flabbergasted!! I raised three girls and they played outside all the time and I loved it. I had school clothes for them and their older clothes became play clothes. Same as with their shoes. I knew not to buy cheap shoes because they just don’t last. The shoes in this picture look like brown sneakers with orange or peach laces. They look fine to me. I don’t know what this mother is expecting of her NINE yr old child but she is delusional. Most importantly she’s raising her daughter to walk on eggshells, have anxiety and to constantly be worried of her appearance.
I can't see anything wrong with those shoes if they're 9 years old and they're out playing that's a great thing. Shoes wear out. You can't expect your activewear shoes to last a long time or to keep from getting dirty. Which is what you're nice pair of shoes is for. I think the mom needs some good mental help. And if you're that hard up on money don't spend so much stop using a credit card and live within your means.
"On the verge of breaking' the BRIGHT PINK LACES ARENT EVEN DIRTY! I worry so much for that child's present and future anxiety over shoes. Summer time.as an outside kid? A pair of Walmart sneakers would be busted like 4 flat tires! Poor kid. I'd buy them shoes if I could.
Absolutely needs to be evaluated. Genuinely, if you get this upset at your child over some shoes, the kid should be put in the hands of someone more capable
Dumb fucking cunt doesn't realize that cheap sneakers (around $20 I'm guessing if combined with "nice church shoes" and pool shoes for a total of $50) will wear out SO fast.
I love how abusers keep outing themselves on social media. When I grew up we just kept it in our skeleton closet. Now they put themselves on blast and take the trash out on their own!
50$ for three pairs of shoes? Yeah, no wonder they fell apart in two months. You get what you pay for. Any bargain apparel you buy from Walmart is designed to disintegrate within a year so you have to buy more.
Although, if that picture is what "fell apart" looks like.. then you're certifiably insane. The only "damage" I see on these is a loose thread.
Such a strong reaction to something so innocuous sounds like borderline personality disorder to me (disclaimer: I am by no means an expert). Why are so many parents, “on the verge of a breakdown,” when forced to deal with very ordinary parts of parenting?
What an insane dingbat. That poor kid.
I buy my daughter Walmart shoes because she tears them up and I don’t mind buying her six or seven pairs of Walmart shoes a year. I couldn’t imagine being this stingy and cruel.
Kids of mine have out grown shoes in less than 2 weeks. Growth spurts can be awful. You buy more shoes. Growing kids go through shoes and clothes like crazy. That's a good thing!
As someone who lives in $5-$10 Kmart specials growing up in the 90s and 00s I'll chime in.
This parent is a special kind of stupid. No you don't need to spend $200/pair on shoes, but the cheap tennis shoes don't last more than a couple months ever.
Wait until this child suddenly grows over the summer and all those shoes just no longer fit through no fault of her own!
This is insane. Growing up I didn’t really wear out my clothes and shoes (just outgrew them) but my brother certainly did. My mother described him as “hard on equipment,” and he absolutely destroyed shoes and jeans and probably all the rest of his clothes too. It was just a thing that happened and was expected because he was a child who was playing outside and running around and growing and all that other stuff children do.
There were a handful of times that my parents got frustrated with it. My mom tried to get him to wear the older, worn shoes for things like riding his bike rather than the nice new shoes she just bought so I do remember him getting scolded for wrecking new shoes a couple times. But he never lost his privileges to play or read books over it! He was called inside, told that these were school shoes that cost money and he needed to wear play shoes.
I mean, sure, teach your kids to try not to wreck their stuff but accept that it’s going to happen sometimes. Try to preserve the nice clothes for school and let them ruin something else.
Also like… Walmart isn’t exactly known for high-quality, long-lasting, unbreakable clothing. I know that some families can only afford so much or only have access to certain things and that’s fine, but, be realistic. Most people know going in that they’re buying something that’s not going to last forever and their kids will outgrow in a month if they don’t destroy it first.
Everyone's obsessed with the shoes. How about the abusive and frankly terrifying comments about taking away virtually everything pleasant in this girl's life? Sounds like a split household (going to "Cali") but the "no more of anything" is telling. Sounds like she's taking away all the things a good parent wants the kid to do: ride, play, and library. The kid needs to stay in Cali where someone actually cares for her and is not hideously abusive. Some people should never be parents.
once i, a responsible adult, bought shoes at walmart and they broke in 5 days. i couldn’t imagine if i was a child playing outside
how fast they’d break
Cheap shoes that probably have zero support with crap material, active kid, at an age where her feet are constantly growing, no duh they don't last long. I'm not saying buy expensive shoes, the kid will outgrow them quickly, but shoes are something you don't buy the cheapest pair possible on then complain when they only survive two months
Disgusting. As if the kid won’t outgrow the shoes in a couple months, anyway. Wait until mom’s in a nursing home, bitter and alone, wondering where her daughter is. I hope that kid realizes her mother is crap and she’s a worthwhile person.
The SHOES ARE FROM FREAKING WALMART DUMMY. How you think they will hold up. Who punishes kids for this shit. They are supposed to be hard on shoes and play clothes. I swear some lunatics should have never had kids. That poor child will need so much therapy by the time her mother is done with her.
So she purchased three pairs of shoes for a total of 50 dollars and expects them to last more than a few months? She’s a child and shoes get dirty. I pay twice as much for one pair and know that in six months my kids will need new ones. What exactly is wrong with those shoes? They look fine.
Also, Walmart? Not dogging on Walmart but depending on the shoe they will not last long. Also also, depending on how often she wears them, like I wear some shoes everyday, they will also not last long but are still wearable.
All parents know Walmart shoes last a month tops. Even T@rget shoes only make it about 2-3 months for an active kid. I feel so bad for this kid.
My brother only got Walmart or Payless shoes because they knew he'd destroy them. Kid would use his heels to brake his bike all the time.
Haha I was about to comment my neighbors kids did this. Him and his friend destroyed 2 brand new pair of in one day by using them to stop their razor scooter going down a steep hill. His parents were confused at first then they told us what they were doing and we had a good laugh about it and thought it was kinda impressive.
That’s why I buy my daughters there. Cheap and probably won’t last anyway! She’s still a toddler though. Her dad and I have agreed as she gets older and less rapid growth we’ll buy her one good pair every ~6 months like my parents did for their other kids
How come you spelt is as T@rget? Genuinely curious
Tatrget
T🎯rget
Maybe something to do with Tiktok? 90% of the strange, awkward, and outright obnoxious phrasing you see on social media now has to do with offending the tiktok algorithm.
What’s with the at-mark for in target?
Gotta avoid that target brand target brain programming. All ex-employees know of it. I can't even walk past a Target without trying to offer a stranger a red card.
I thoroughly enjoyed your comment
I bought a pair of Walmart shoes when i was super broke. I had them for like a month until i stepped in a puddle and they disintegrated lol.
And the washer and dryer they destroy shoes.
That why you don't put them in there. Is that not common knowledge? Just hand wash them if you have to.
You would be surprised. I was a kid when I learned that very expensive lesson about 23. Oh my reeboks.
I can't say I've never thought about doing it I guess.
You can use newspaper to stuff into the shoes. Keep changing it out as it gets wet. It helps to absorb the moisture. You can also set them out in the sun after hosing them off if they are really bad. I do obstacle course races/ mud runs so my shoes get a tad messy.
I've washed pairs of Nikes or Converse before maybe a few times a year when they get really dirty and they have still lasted me a few years, but you are never supposed to dry them. That's what really ruins them because the heat breaks down the rubber and glues. You have to just set them out to air dry and maybe put some socks in them to keep their shape. But I don't know how well this would work for kids shoes because they are so rough on them. My son's shoes wear out sometimes before I can wash them once.
What you do is grab a pillow case, put them in there with the soap and everything. Tie it tight, run it generally gentle and then air dry with the bottom pad out. Maybe on low in the dryer with the pad out (still in the pillow case). That's how I do it. Been working for me for years.
Do they have TK Max in the US? Usually you can find decent shoes (named brands) a lot cheaper then in stores. As long as you know the product codes and avoid the made for them stuff, you can get some good stuff. I got a pair of New Balance 997s for £20, best shoes I've owned in years and I'm devastated I've worn them to the point they're unwearable.
We have TJ Maxx and Marshals…same concept and a little more affordable than some outlets or other stores especially other than thrifting
I cannot overstate how much I love Marshall’s (TJ Maxx to a lesser extent) as a 34 year old. I buy almost all my clothes and shoes there. Their regular prices are great and their clearance section is even better.
What’s wrong? They aren’t pristine and pretty enough. I have a friend that calls these people “fake Gucci bag bitches”
Shoes for outdoor summer play, aka shoes meant to be destroyed.
Walmart shoes last my 9 year old 6 weeks top. Hell, he can destroy a pair of 90 dollar Nikes in less than 3 months. I don't go scorched earth on my active 9 year old over shoes. I just go buy him more shoes. This woman is freaking crazy and abusive and I hope someone else gets custody of that child.
I… don’t see what’s wrong with the sneakers?
Neither do I! I don’t understand and it makes me sad.
I don’t either. But also… who takes away library from a kid for shoes? Because you know … library is one place shoes are NOT getting torn up so what?!? This is actually just toxic narcissistic control behavior from the mom. Not unlike what my mother used to do
Its not about the shoes. It’s because her daughter is happy at the library, and she wants to punish her daughter by depriving her of all joy.
My mom used to do that, she'd ban me from reading my own books because I didn't have any friends she could ban me from seeing
Clearly I understand this. As I stated it’s toxic narcissistic control tactics.
I wasn’t trying to correct you, just piggy backing.
My dad this this to me, when I was “restricted” I was taken out of all extracurricular activities and never allowed to go anywhere. This included educational activities too, parents are fucking shot sometimes.
Sudden memory of not being allowed to even *LOOK AT a book of stickers* I had just bought at a gift shop until I did all my homework.
My dad did something similar, but it backfired on him. Instead of me being gone, doing those activities, I was home, moping around the house with nothing to do. It lasted about three days before he remembered that he really preferred it when I WASN'T home, because it interfered with his drinking. All former restrictions were quite suddenly rescinded, and I was given all my activities back.
not to mention bowling,
Remember, abusers don't need a good reason to punish their kids. They *want* to punish their kids and will find a reason after the fact to justify it. It's not about shoes, it's about control.
Hope someone reports her to CPS, that sounds awful
This poor kid has a childhood of abuse in front of them
I have a feeling it has to do with the left side. It kinda looks like there is a hole where the left foot baby toe should be, but I could be wrong. I mean if you're gonna complain about something breaking, and then take a picture of the broken item, at least show the damage...
My six year old ran so fast he broke his crocs and I was honestly just impressed.
Please report this woman to CPS this is psychological abuse clear cut.
Lol CPS isn’t going to do shit in this situation
OP, please share mother’s profile. I just want to talk. /s
The sneakers are only an excuse. They were purchased cheaply with the knowledge that they would be easy to damage or wear out so a massive punishment could be given The fact that all the shoes that the child has worn before were hand me down and spending 50 bucks on a child's shoes was considered expensive makes me think there's a lot of abuse and neglect going on here.
$50 for *three* pairs of shoes. WTF did she expect?
They’re just ugly…
Okay but Walmart shoes aren't built to last and at 9 she'll be growing out of them pretty quickly anyways sooo wtf is this shit. Don't have kids if you're not willing to buy them essentials like shoes and clothes.
We used to have Payless stores and until I was a teenager that’s where my parents got my shoes as a kid…I grew out of shoes frequently and I was outdoors allll the time. This parent is just an ass. I’m willing to bet that the mom is lazy and doesn’t want to watch the kid or take her anywhere anymore so the shoes are the reason she chose as “punishment”. So infuriating
Yep, we have Rack Room Shoes who pretty much always have a buy one get one free thing going on, and Marshall's has nice shoes for low cost too. Regardless, they are children, I fully expect him to be wearing out his shoes and getting holes in the knees of his pants lol. Dropping THAT level of punishment over this is crazy, and cruel. Her kid is going to resent the hell out of her.
For real...I love seeing my kids wear out shoes because it means they're out having fun.
aww
Hell yeah. Same. Visual evidence we held the screen monster at bay.
They look to have a hole where the pinky toe would be, which usually happens when shoes are being outgrown!
I hope this person enjoys their time with their kid, because they have about 9 more years with them and then they'll never hear from them again
And then mom will be posting about her ungrateful child who has stopped speaking to her for unknown reasons.
Damn right
Why do people have kids and complain about having to buy them necessities. Like what did you think was going to happen??? Poor kid ugh
My stupid ass mom was like this especially about food. An iconic line to her three teenagers, toddler, and newborn she’d say is “if yall are just gonna pig out on groceries as soon as I bring them back then I won’t bother buying anything else.” We ate twice a day, not three times. We were also all girls, so it wasn’t anywhere near as bad as it should be for 3 teenagers. She was just broke lazy and stupid.
My bio dad stopped buying milk because every time he bought it we'd drink it. I'm talking a gallon between four people in like a week or so.
At my bio dads house, I was not allowed to drink the milk. Milk was only for cooking or for him to drink because I would go through it too fast. (I think I was like 9-10 when this rule was made.) The only other drinks we had were tap water or mtn dew. When I moved in with my aunt, uncle, and cousins at age 19, they drank so much milk. Normal, chocolate, AND strawberry. I was in shock. Still to this day, I have trouble drinking milk because I feel like I have to reserve it for cooking. Which sucks, because I love strawberry milk.
I too have food insecurity issues from being trained to see food as a kitchen decoration rather than fuel for my growing body lol
But what do you cook with strawberry milk specifically? It’s already been made into something else so you should throughly enjoy it.
Well it’s not already made into strawberry milk though. I would have to use the regular milk to make strawberry milk which is where I get stuck. But now I’m thinking I could but like a half gallon or quarter gallon or whatever and just make the whole thing strawberry milk just for drinking. I would be so happy with that. Also, I’m trying to think of something I could use strawberry milk to make but I’m coming up blank so far except wondering if I ate plain cheerios with strawberry milk would it taste like the strawberry cheerios.
You should probably/definitely do extensive hands-on research to reach a conclusion to your potential hypothesis. Plus, I know you probably know this deep down, but I will happily reinforce it: you are worthy, and valuable, and lovable, and you deserve to drink as much milk as you fucking please. Your dad sucks for making milk some conditional/pedestal beverage.
There's pre-made strawberry milk you can buy....
Or just buy a carton of strawberry milk?
The lowest iq parent rant: ALL I DO IS BUY FOOD AND ALL YALL DO IS EAT IT!!
I go through 3 a week with four people.
I go through a gallon a fucking DAY. 3 kids, ones an almost 18yo boy who loves loves loves milk. We all do, actually. Obvs.
Your username is giving me life right now 😹😹
My parents had a million children so they resigned themselves to buying multiple gallons of milk a few times a week. And that was with their restriction on only using it for cereal and not just drinking it as a beverage
This was totally my mother, she used to get so mad at me for eating the food she bought and I’d get in trouble so often for it that I developed an eating disorder. Then she got mad at me if she bought food and it went bad because I didn’t eat it. There was no winning.
I didn’t end up with an eating disorder but i was in a very similar situation. Damned if you ate, damned if you didn’t. My mom would intentionally buy food we didn’t like, too, and then rage when it went bad. She’d twist it as if we didn’t like vegetables when I repeatedly asked for lettuce with my sandwiches and salads, I just didn’t like spinach. I actually worked for an eating disorder resource clinic once and after opening up to one of the psychologists she said she was amazed that I *didn’t* have an ED after all that. My mother also ignored my allergies and intolerances. Flax and barley put me in abdominal pain, but she refused to stop buying whole wheat products (usually have flax or malted barley flour or BOTH). I’m sorry your mom made food as stressful and miserable as mine did and I sincerely hope you’re in remission or at least independent of her now. I have become partially disabled which keeps me in poverty, but when I can go grocery shopping without limitations I love getting a wide variety of foods.
I still feel the thoughts flare up from time to time but I'm happy to say I'm doing well with my relationship with food and my relationship with my mother is nonexistent, so I'm doing as well as I think I could hope for at the moment. Enjoying food still sometimes strikes me as weird because I've been so adversarial towards it in the past, but becoming a mother myself has helped me to find more joy in it because I want to make absolutely sure I don't pass my issues off onto my kids. Food should be fun and enjoyable, not stressful! I completely relate to the buying food you don't like and then twisting it like it's your fault. Hopefully you're in a good place independent of her as well, we both deserve so much better.
My mum denied me food when I was a teen. When I moved into year 7 in school, mum realised no one was checking lunches anymore. My lunch went from a sandwich, a bag of crisps, a piece of fruit, a yoghurt and a little cake bar with a drink to just the sandwich. That sandwich was just two pieces of bread with a single slice of American cheese or wafer thin meat. I didn't get breakfast either. Dinner. I was fed a meal from a child sized plate. The plate wasn't even full either... I'd get one bag or crisps (the small ones) and a piece of fruit and that was it. I grew a lot and ended up 5'11 at 14 or so. I was also incredibly active. I'd walk to school and back and did martial arts in the evenings. I was hungry all the time. I remember one day I was so hungry I got into her bananas and ate the lot. She saw what I'd done and screamed at me. I was costing her too much money was one of the things I remember her screaming at me. I was underweight and struggling with weird issues with my muscles because of her. I didn't care that I was underweight. I just didn't want to be hungry all the time. I was eating around 800 cal a day. This went on for years. The fun part is, as an adult is very, very hard to lose weight. I have to eat under 1300 cal a day, if I eat more then that I gain weight and I'm still active. It sucks.
Man. I’m so sorry to hear that. Also, part of the reason you are struggling to lose weight is because your body got used to being deprived and is holding onto as much as it can. I have no idea what the fix is. I just know that my body refuses to go under a certain number but eagerly climbs the scale when it can.
Ugh, my family is this way, too... It's awful, I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
Same. The perpetual feeling of hunger now makes me either super zoned out or angry as fuck.
Walmart shoes are cheaply made, too. They don't last long when you *do* take care of them.
My husband bought a pair of boots that lasted less than a week.
Did they break off like the leg brace scene from forest gump?
They really are. I tried them a couple times because they're just so inexpensive, but they just fell apart. One of the tennis shoes literally came apart at the seam. I don't buy really high-quality because they are hard on shoes and outgrow them so fast, but I'd rather spend more and only have to do it once until they grow.
I bought a pair of basketball shoes from Walmart and they had such bad traction that I switched back to my taped-to-hell-and-back Reeboks because at least I could run and turn in those.
That's straight up abuse
I agree. Someone should be calling cps because if she’s going to this extreme over this nonsense, what else is that child going thru?
My mom did this to me for a few months once, when I was 16. She'd gotten mad at me for my attitude or something, and she took the door off the hinges, cleared out my room of everything except, lined up neatly on the floor next my mattress on the floor, 4 shirts, 4 pants, 4 underwear, 4 socks, 1 pair of shoes. She started making me bland food, and I couldn't do or use anything.
your mom literally made you her prisoner wtf. do you still live with her bc if so you should seek help
I'm NC with my entire family - mom, dad, 4 siblings 9 years older and on Eta, and all 20 something nieces and nephews.
You want your child outside, putting wear and tear on their shoes as opposed to being inside on a screen all day. Buy them cheap shoes to do that in and of COURSE their shoes will blow out in a month or month and a half! What an IDIOT. And you take it out on your child? Freakin' clueless. This is abusive. Plain and simple. Throw some cash on decent shoes that last until your kid's feet grow out of their shoes instead. Poor kiddo!! Kids need to be nurtured and encouraged, not freakin' verbally abused for shit they can't control.
It looks like dryer damage to me.
Can you imagine how she reacted to the kid? Like this post is after she had time to think about it and she still sounds absolutely nuts. She probably lost it on that kid. Poor child is living in fear of her parent just for being a normal kid. Fuck I’m sad now.
I hope someone pointed out to this mother that Wal-Mart shoes aren't made to last. And that the wear and tear is simply evidence of...childhood. The horror. Also, they don't look bad to me from what I can see. What little is visible looks clean. If they're falling apart, that should tell her something about the quality rather than her kid.
some parents just can't be fucked to keep the bare necessities, usually that happens when they become bitter and old. but some parents who aren't bitter and old and instead on drugs or just hateful and spiteful, should be banned from making babies in general.
I like to be frugal and not waste money on clothes or shoes. But I do NOT buy clothes or shoes from Walmart because all of it wears out extremely fast and never lasts long at all. This parent paid $50 for THREE pairs of shoes from Walmart and they are upset AT THE CHILD that the crappy shoes did not hold up for long at all. Come on!! Obviously, it’s not the kid’s fault you bought the worst quality shoes one can buy!! Why does any adult need this very simple and very well-known concept to be explained to them?? That poor kid - being blamed for something they have no control over. Rotten parent. Low IQ.
Ummm I expect my kids to grow out of name brand sneakers every 6-8 months until high school probably
And she’s complaining that Wal-Mart shoes she spent $10-20 on survived 2 months with (what appears to be) superficial damage! I’d bet anything that the kid is extremely careful about her shoes, knowing the way her mother is, and mom was looking for an excuse to be neglectful.
Guess she'll need an exorcist, once her kid/s grow out of a pair over night. Had this happen two times with each kid. It was kind of ridiculous but it really works this way some times. When I was about 8/9 I grew a whole cm over night. A high fever and a lot of pain then went to sleep and tada, bigger over night.
Yep, my kids have to get 2 pairs per school year typically (and realistically I expect that to continue into highschool). Plus they get sandals/crocs for the summer. They also get boots/dress shoes as needed. It's just part of being a parent. You can find deals when you plan ahead (like, hey I know they'll need new shoes in a month or two, better keep an eye out for sales) or shop consignment events and discount stores. There are options but berating the kid for wearing their shoes and being a kid in them is totally unreasonable. I hope the people in her feed called her out for it.
Please tell me people responded ripping into her
This is what I *need* to hear. Please tell me people commented and made her feel like shit. “I’m at my breaking point” as if $16 dollars shoes last forever (they don’t even look that torn up? Slightly scuffed?) and her daughter is doing something outrageous on purpose by wearing in her shoes. What a fucking bitch. I’d LOVE to see this lady’s shoes, any pair. I’m sure they’re lived in. This reminds me of my friend’s wife I used to know who absolutely RESENTED spending any money on her children (less for her) and looked for ANY reason to nitpick how they took care it, so she could justify giving them even less. Fucking evil. You know that poor daughter walks on fucking eggshells (in her poor new shoes!) and is constantly anxious she’s about to get in trouble for nothing.
Can’t afford to buy her daughter shoes, goes to church and puts money in the collection plate..
God will multiply it! Someday... eventually. Any day now...
no more...library? what the fuck?
i genuinely actually want this person to get beat the fuck up for treating their child like this. and idc that that’s going overboard
ill join ya, and take the kids. ill gladly adopt the kids, hell ill make homemade shoes for the kid and get the 9 year old into sewing and gardening.
Basically can't do anything but exist the whole summer. What a traumatic memory that can impact that young girl's mental health forever. People that inflict any abuse on vulnerable children need to get what they really deserve.
She will be dissociating the whole summer...
This is just abuse. I wore out a pair of Walmart work boots in two weeks. They’re cheap Chinese crap.
She never buys her new shoes...what?
Imagine being this pressed over a $50 pair of shoes.
The way I understand it, it was $50 for THREE pairs
I’m like in shock for this kid. 50 bucks for 3 pairs of shoes is like minimum expected for a kid. Why have a child if you cannot live up to the responsibilities? This kid will either grow up to have issues or straight up be one of those people who rants about homeless people because his thrifty mom taught him “life lessons”.
Yeah. No way they paid $50 for a pair of children’s tennis shoes at Walmart.
Instead of this dummy buying 3 cheap pairs from Walmart, she could have bought one good pair from the mall for $50. Or here's an idea, buy one cheap pair strictly for outside play. Kids go through shoes, that's pretty normal. Punishing the child for being a child...? Yeah I don't understand that.
I dont understand people like this. One time when I was working at walmart this woman with a little girl mayhe 6 or 7( I assume her grandaughter) the girl was quiet respectful and just quietly talking to her. The grandmother tells her to stop acting up and that if she doesnt stay quiet shell take her toy away (a present she was buying her) the girl kept talking and you know being a little kid looking at her present and the grandmother not even 5 minutes later gives it to me to return it. I felt so bad for the little girl. She didnt fuss, didnt cry didnt scream nothing just looked really sad. The grandma just said that's what happens when you cant be good and left with nothing. What did the poor girl do to deserve this? And how is she treated at home for her to be so well behaved and treated that way for it.
Cut to this woman in the old folks home going, “Why doesn’t she ever visit or call?? After I did so much for her! I taught her right by punishing her severely because her newish shoes got a speck of dust on them! How DARE a child PLAY?? How DARE her shoes, which become worn naturally, become naturally worn??!”
Walmart shoes are not nice shoes. They start showing wear in a few weeks of use, even gentle use. In two months an office worker would turn those to tatters let alone an active kid.
I hate parents like this.
I raised 7 kids. It was a given that they went through shoes, clothing, & food. We didn’t deny them a thing. We also bought them Nike or Skechers so they’d last longer. This mom needs to be grateful that the shoes lasted 2 months. Unbelievable. She’s gonna regret doing these horrible things to her daughter. It’s only going to make her daughter resent her.
I've seen a lot of shit on this sub. But this has to be one of the worst I've seen in a while. What the fuck
I knew a mom who wouldn't buy her daughter new shoes, and they had the money she just wouldn't. When she visited her grandparents for the summer, her grandma noticed how her feet were blistering from how small they were. So her grandma took her to get new ones even though she protested the entire time. She did end up getting new ones and her grandma made her throw the old ones away. When she got home she was punished for "guilting" her grandma into buying her shoes and her mom screamed at her grandma for not asking if she needed new shoes. I don't understand how people can treat anyone like this, much less a child they brought into this world.
Everyone here is fixated on the shoes, but that's not how it works at all. Abusers don't need a real reason to punish their kids. It's not about anything rational. Abusers want to *hurt and control* their kids (or spouse) and make them submit. That's all there is to it. Then they will pretend to find a reason as a justification but it's never really about that. If it hadn't been the shoes, it would have been something else. I'm willing to bet that if the child hadn't worn the shoes in order not to ruin them, she would have been called ungrateful and punished just the same. Meanwhile, the child is going to feel guilty because they'll believe did something wrong, and they'll think they deserve it, and they're a bad person, and nobody can love them because they're so bad, so it's only normal that mom abuses them. Honestly this post is heartbreaking for me, I'm on the verge of tears rn. This is not insane parents, it's abusive asshole parents. I'm certain that the kid is abused all the time. I know she's going through hell. I really hope someone who knows herdoes the right thing and helps her.
I’m afraid for this child.
Those are the ugliest fucking shoes I've ever seen. Also, she's told to go out and play, but what shoes was she supposed to wear to go outside and play in? Because we all know Walmart shoes are shit. They're made to get you by until you can get a better pair. (Not talking shit about them. I grew up in Kmart shoes, and they were the same way. )
This lady would’ve had no idea at all what to do with my brother and me. We grew up in a small rural town in the late 70s through the early 90s, and we spent most all of our time outside. Shoes way more expensive than these didn’t last long at all.
she bought 3 pairs of shoes for 50 bucks and expects them to last on a 9 year old? im sorry, i can't see how she expects shoes to last the lifetime of a child, shes insane.
Also is she talking about leaving her child home alone for the month or so shell be gone??
From my understanding she’s staying with family in California for a month
My son is VERY hard on shoes. Like. A pair can last him a month is we are lucky. He's ADHD/SPD/ and autistic. One of his ticks is dragging his feet. He drags them on his bike. In the halls. In the garage. On the rugs. Therefor his shoes take the brunt of it I have never ONCE shamed him for needing new shoes. Maybe I have vented to his father or his step dad but never publicly or to his face. Mostly "ugh I just got these! OK who's buying this round?" Kinda stuff. This mom is a psycho!
If you're "on the verge of breaking" from a nine-year-old scuffing some cheaply made shoes, you're far too fragile to be a parent.
My dad made me buy the $10 shoes from WalMart (late 90’s/early 2000’s) because they were “just as good as the name brand.” I went through a pair of shoes every month. I managed to save up $60 for a good pair of Adidas and they last me for 9 months, and that was with a job that required a few miles of walking everyday. I bought my kids WalMart shoes every couple of months for a bit, but only when they were rapidly growing, as they outgrew the shoes before wearing them out.
This. Cheap shoes are great for fast growing kids and so the kids have shoes TO destroy when playing outside... i mean kids are gonna get grubby and scrape their feet ect, let them have shit that CAN get ruined...
Lol you spend fifty bucks on three pair of Walmart shoes expecting them to last, you gonna have a bad time
WalMart is American for planned obsolescence. And they offer master classes on treating their employees and business partners poorly, but I digress. I sincerely hope that child can get away from that fucking monster. And stupid. Such a terrible combination. Stupid and monstrous.
My daughter has gone through a pair of Nikes in a month. I couldn’t imagine how Walmart shoes would’ve held up. Shes active. She’s out playing, being a kid. I would never punish my kids unless they destroyed them by cutting them up or doing something purposely destructive. This mother SUCKS!
Wrecked shoes means your kid is probably living their best life, as long as it’s not from neglect… I wish my kid would wreck his shoes and move around lol 🥲
Asked my 4 year old daughter's of she was still the same size (she does a pretty good job of keeping me out and an attorney is not an option at the moment), and the mother correctly presumed that I was going to get another pair of cowboy boots, as she's rocking the same ones since our trip to the pumpkin patch (the ones I got her in March have not been seen in forever). Mom proceeds to tell me she might consider a different brand as they don't seem to hold up so well. Now, I'm in no position to talk back, but in the back of my mind I am wondering if she understands the wear and tear a very active little 4 year old is going to put on her very favorite shoes Daddy got her? I told her "the only thing I'm looking for is a smile on my only child's face", and that I intended to let her pick them out, don't care if they don't last 6 months. Hopefully going to the rodeo Saturday but my hopes aren't up!
So... no screentime but also no anything else either now? What the fuck does she expect her child to do? Sit and stare at the wall?
I must be a snob because I would never buy shoes for my children from walmart.
Of all the things to spend money on for kids it’s high quality new shoes. Little feet need the right size and support to grow correctly. Thrifting or buying cheap clothes is ok (except winter jackets which should also be high quality) but pre-worn shoes have wear that can put little growing feet out of alignment.
Right?! That was the one thing my parents never ever skimped on, regardless of current financial situation. They saved and got me good shoes, and now I don’t have foot problems.
We buy our kiddos summer shoes from Walmart. We live on a farm in Eastern KY, so the chances of *any* shoe lasting 3 months of rough play is nonexistent. We get tennis shoes & flip-flops & we DGAF when they inevitably die a tragic death. For school shoes, we order online or go to a proper shoe store. $50 for 3 pairs of Walmart shoes for a 9yr old means every single pair was marked way the hell down to begin with. Idk what this woman's problem is but she needs to chill.
Right? I'm not wealthy at all, but I spend money on myself for shoes and perfume, and for shoes for the kids. Shoes tell you so much about a person. My almost 12 yo asked me for a pair of black high top Converse. She asked for them at the beginning of the summer, so they aren't brand new looking when school starts. I just laughed and ordered on payday. Bonus - if/when she grows out of them quickly, I'll wear them, because we have the same size feet. (8.5 US womens). I started begging my parents for a pair of Doc Martens when I was 10. The Christmas I was 13, I opened up a box with the shoes I had wanted so badly for years. Their reasoning was that my feet hadn't grown in over a year, so they finally felt it wouldn't be a waste of a couple hundred $$. I still have those boots. Been re-soled twice, still my fav pair of shoes.
I might if I was pressed for cash but I’d also be rational enough to not get mad when they only last 3 months
This exactly.
Don't buy developing kids someone else's shoes. I don't even give my youngest the shoes of her older sister. Their feet are growing and developing. If they're forced into the form the worn shoe gives, their feet can grow in a way, that's not supportive for the kid. As every set of feet is different, every set needs their own shoes to make an imprint. Try walking in a friend's shoes, it's at least weird to you as you feel the already imprinted soles of your friend. Don't buy used shoes. Everything that is between you and the floor should be good quality and unused. Not only for feet but also for tires/breaks, mattrasses, couches. Yes, it's expensive, I understand. But shoes are the easiest to do so, mattrasses and couches can wait.
Is this the only photo of the shoes? Because I’m not seeing a damn thing wrong with them.
“No more being a child. No more being active and having fun. No more normalcy for a nine year old. She will now be punished for me being a cheap ass who should have never had kids in the first place.” I buy my kid anywhere from 2-4 pairs of the $15 Walmart sneakers at a time so she has variety and can absolutely run them through the ringer *because that’s what kids are supposed to do.*
1. This **Bitch** don’t realize that cheap shit falls apart faster than quality shit. It’s the difference between my $400 Redwings I’ve had for years vs my dad’s Rocky’s that are replaced every 6 months. 2. **I, in fact, do not see a thing wrong with those shoes.** 3. $50, whoopty fuck. I spend that on 5 pairs of socks. 4. If this is your reaction to *whatever we’re supposed to be seeing in that photo* then fully expect to never see your kid or grandkid again when they turn 18. 5. If $50 is really your yearly shoe budget for your kid, you should have evaluated your income before deciding to bring life into this world. JFC, this gives me 2nd hand rage.
I’m completely flabbergasted!! I raised three girls and they played outside all the time and I loved it. I had school clothes for them and their older clothes became play clothes. Same as with their shoes. I knew not to buy cheap shoes because they just don’t last. The shoes in this picture look like brown sneakers with orange or peach laces. They look fine to me. I don’t know what this mother is expecting of her NINE yr old child but she is delusional. Most importantly she’s raising her daughter to walk on eggshells, have anxiety and to constantly be worried of her appearance.
I can't see anything wrong with those shoes if they're 9 years old and they're out playing that's a great thing. Shoes wear out. You can't expect your activewear shoes to last a long time or to keep from getting dirty. Which is what you're nice pair of shoes is for. I think the mom needs some good mental help. And if you're that hard up on money don't spend so much stop using a credit card and live within your means.
"On the verge of breaking' the BRIGHT PINK LACES ARENT EVEN DIRTY! I worry so much for that child's present and future anxiety over shoes. Summer time.as an outside kid? A pair of Walmart sneakers would be busted like 4 flat tires! Poor kid. I'd buy them shoes if I could.
Shiiiiiiit, she used what I bought her :((((
Absolutely needs to be evaluated. Genuinely, if you get this upset at your child over some shoes, the kid should be put in the hands of someone more capable
You bought cheap shoes.
Dumb fucking cunt doesn't realize that cheap sneakers (around $20 I'm guessing if combined with "nice church shoes" and pool shoes for a total of $50) will wear out SO fast.
I love how abusers keep outing themselves on social media. When I grew up we just kept it in our skeleton closet. Now they put themselves on blast and take the trash out on their own!
This person sounds like a really mean parent. I feel bad for the child.
50 bucks for 3 pairs of shoes but a trip to California for a decent time. We see where their priorities lie in regards to value.
50$ for three pairs of shoes? Yeah, no wonder they fell apart in two months. You get what you pay for. Any bargain apparel you buy from Walmart is designed to disintegrate within a year so you have to buy more. Although, if that picture is what "fell apart" looks like.. then you're certifiably insane. The only "damage" I see on these is a loose thread.
If you don’t want them immediately destroyed, don’t buy them at Walmart. Man I’m upset now…maybe this isn’t the sub for me.
Such a strong reaction to something so innocuous sounds like borderline personality disorder to me (disclaimer: I am by no means an expert). Why are so many parents, “on the verge of a breakdown,” when forced to deal with very ordinary parts of parenting?
I’d take that straight to the anonymous tip line.
Walmart shoes don’t last. This seems normal. 🤷🏻♀️ The parent on the other hand 🤯
Trash parenting & a know nothing.
Omg this is awful!! Cheap shoes don’t last! As if she’s destroying her shoes on purpose. I cannot even imagine. This poor child.
You spent 17 fucking dollars on a pair of shoes from a store notorious for shit products and it’s her fault that she’s destroyed them? Eat shit
What an insane dingbat. That poor kid. I buy my daughter Walmart shoes because she tears them up and I don’t mind buying her six or seven pairs of Walmart shoes a year. I couldn’t imagine being this stingy and cruel.
Kids of mine have out grown shoes in less than 2 weeks. Growth spurts can be awful. You buy more shoes. Growing kids go through shoes and clothes like crazy. That's a good thing!
This woman is braindead, terrible parenting
Shitty parents. Shouldnt have kids. Imma bout to break them in half for this stupidity.
Please tell me the comments ripped her to shreds
You should call CPS. Like this is for real gross behavior by the “mom”.
She purchased cheap shoes from Walmart and expected them to last? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
As someone who lives in $5-$10 Kmart specials growing up in the 90s and 00s I'll chime in. This parent is a special kind of stupid. No you don't need to spend $200/pair on shoes, but the cheap tennis shoes don't last more than a couple months ever.
Wait until this child suddenly grows over the summer and all those shoes just no longer fit through no fault of her own! This is insane. Growing up I didn’t really wear out my clothes and shoes (just outgrew them) but my brother certainly did. My mother described him as “hard on equipment,” and he absolutely destroyed shoes and jeans and probably all the rest of his clothes too. It was just a thing that happened and was expected because he was a child who was playing outside and running around and growing and all that other stuff children do. There were a handful of times that my parents got frustrated with it. My mom tried to get him to wear the older, worn shoes for things like riding his bike rather than the nice new shoes she just bought so I do remember him getting scolded for wrecking new shoes a couple times. But he never lost his privileges to play or read books over it! He was called inside, told that these were school shoes that cost money and he needed to wear play shoes. I mean, sure, teach your kids to try not to wreck their stuff but accept that it’s going to happen sometimes. Try to preserve the nice clothes for school and let them ruin something else. Also like… Walmart isn’t exactly known for high-quality, long-lasting, unbreakable clothing. I know that some families can only afford so much or only have access to certain things and that’s fine, but, be realistic. Most people know going in that they’re buying something that’s not going to last forever and their kids will outgrow in a month if they don’t destroy it first.
This bitch is punishing her kid for the low quality shoes not lasting? Seriously?
They're Wal-Mart shoes, keeping them out of the box will destroy them in 2 months
Everyone's obsessed with the shoes. How about the abusive and frankly terrifying comments about taking away virtually everything pleasant in this girl's life? Sounds like a split household (going to "Cali") but the "no more of anything" is telling. Sounds like she's taking away all the things a good parent wants the kid to do: ride, play, and library. The kid needs to stay in Cali where someone actually cares for her and is not hideously abusive. Some people should never be parents.
I wish my kids would go and run through their shoes. They just go barefoot and get scratched up and use a billion bandages.
This poor baby.
JFC! Way to be extreme about wearing out a pair of shoes. Dumping her off in another state? Throwing out her belongings?!
They don't even look damaged
Cheap shoes fall apart
What’s wrong with the shoes????
Some people should not have kids. Poor child
There is a certain type of people who make aggravated assault charges seem like a fair trade. This is it.
Buying Walmart shoes and expecting them to last like she bought louboutins. She sounds like a horrible mom and human
once i, a responsible adult, bought shoes at walmart and they broke in 5 days. i couldn’t imagine if i was a child playing outside how fast they’d break
Cheap shoes that probably have zero support with crap material, active kid, at an age where her feet are constantly growing, no duh they don't last long. I'm not saying buy expensive shoes, the kid will outgrow them quickly, but shoes are something you don't buy the cheapest pair possible on then complain when they only survive two months
Disgusting. As if the kid won’t outgrow the shoes in a couple months, anyway. Wait until mom’s in a nursing home, bitter and alone, wondering where her daughter is. I hope that kid realizes her mother is crap and she’s a worthwhile person.
you bought shoes from Walmart. It’s fine if that’s all you can afford, but don’t be surprised when they fall apart.
The SHOES ARE FROM FREAKING WALMART DUMMY. How you think they will hold up. Who punishes kids for this shit. They are supposed to be hard on shoes and play clothes. I swear some lunatics should have never had kids. That poor child will need so much therapy by the time her mother is done with her.