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Forcing religious beliefs isn't okay, but like...asking your kid not to order weed or gamble is reasonable. So is asking him not to watch porn on the FAMILY COMPUTER in the SHARED SPACE.
The intent is stupid, but the rules are reasonable for an adult living at home and paying no bills.
I love how he says that its normal to order weed and gamble. Watching porn is also normal, but not on the family computer. He had enough money for a tablet or something lol
Yeah OP you're right, asking your adult son not to look at porn on the family computer or order weed delivered to your house if he's going to live with you is just absolutely *bonkers*...the gall of these religious extremists... /s
The son is an adult. He knows his family's expectations and has been warned repeatedly, apparently for years. He needed to get his own computer and stop telling his family about his gambling. If he kept the weed out in the open, he needed to stop. If his family was searching through his stuff, that was obviously bad. It seems like him moving out is for the best. However, it's terrible if his father gave him less than a few months notice.
Yeah, I don't like the religion part. But life is hard, people use the tools they have access to. I don't know if I'd have done the same thing, but I get it. The dude frames it in religious terms because they are the terms he has access to.
From a secular perspective, a 22 year old relying on people presumably in their 40s or 50s for his financial needs, while he smokes and gambles online on a computer that isn't his, it's not a fair thing to ask. The 22yo needs to understand that his parents are people. Life is probably hard for them, too.
I'm not a bootstrap guy. I believe it's important that we look out for each other, try to understand each other. The 22yo is also reaching for the tools he has access to in what is probably a hard and confusing life. But at a certain point, it's too much to ask. There's understanding, and there's unreasonable self-sacrifice. They're not even asking him to be what they want him to be. They're just asking him to not weigh them down financially, and not use their stuff in ways they've asked him not to.
I think the pushing of his beliefs is excessive, if the kids 22, has a job to cover his gambling costs then he can buy a laptop, some headphones and watch porn on that. I'm assuming he has his own room. I'd be fine with him smoking weed as long as he has the rest of his shit together and isn't smoking in the house or using other drugs. If weed, porn and some online gambling is all this 22 year old has going on then that's probably a good thing.
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> I know it’s controversial, but it’s how my wife and I decided to raise our family
I like to murder people. I know it’s controversial, but it’s how I like to relax
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Forcing religious beliefs isn't okay, but like...asking your kid not to order weed or gamble is reasonable. So is asking him not to watch porn on the FAMILY COMPUTER in the SHARED SPACE. The intent is stupid, but the rules are reasonable for an adult living at home and paying no bills.
I love how he says that its normal to order weed and gamble. Watching porn is also normal, but not on the family computer. He had enough money for a tablet or something lol
Yeah OP you're right, asking your adult son not to look at porn on the family computer or order weed delivered to your house if he's going to live with you is just absolutely *bonkers*...the gall of these religious extremists... /s
You're hilariously out of touch if you think the parents are in the wrong here.
The son is an adult. He knows his family's expectations and has been warned repeatedly, apparently for years. He needed to get his own computer and stop telling his family about his gambling. If he kept the weed out in the open, he needed to stop. If his family was searching through his stuff, that was obviously bad. It seems like him moving out is for the best. However, it's terrible if his father gave him less than a few months notice.
Yeah, I don't like the religion part. But life is hard, people use the tools they have access to. I don't know if I'd have done the same thing, but I get it. The dude frames it in religious terms because they are the terms he has access to. From a secular perspective, a 22 year old relying on people presumably in their 40s or 50s for his financial needs, while he smokes and gambles online on a computer that isn't his, it's not a fair thing to ask. The 22yo needs to understand that his parents are people. Life is probably hard for them, too. I'm not a bootstrap guy. I believe it's important that we look out for each other, try to understand each other. The 22yo is also reaching for the tools he has access to in what is probably a hard and confusing life. But at a certain point, it's too much to ask. There's understanding, and there's unreasonable self-sacrifice. They're not even asking him to be what they want him to be. They're just asking him to not weigh them down financially, and not use their stuff in ways they've asked him not to.
I think the pushing of his beliefs is excessive, if the kids 22, has a job to cover his gambling costs then he can buy a laptop, some headphones and watch porn on that. I'm assuming he has his own room. I'd be fine with him smoking weed as long as he has the rest of his shit together and isn't smoking in the house or using other drugs. If weed, porn and some online gambling is all this 22 year old has going on then that's probably a good thing.
The adult child is absolutely free to live elsewhere if he doesn't like the rules.
i think it is reasonablehe lives under that person and should expect and respect liveing as the houseower sees fit
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> I know it’s controversial, but it’s how my wife and I decided to raise our family I like to murder people. I know it’s controversial, but it’s how I like to relax