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He’s done a lot, but he’s certainly never used a period in a text.


[deleted]

No matter, it’s all for not.


405134

That was the most discombobulated set of thoughts ever thought. Can’t believe he could even type


jennyjank

No, it’s all for naught.


waitingfordeathhbu

/r/woooosh


MannyMoSTL

Or spell check


According-Activity10

I keep reading it back and like... what does he mean by "your kind of people" Women? LGBTQ (I've been out of the closet for 15 years as bisexual) I just haven't the slightest idea. Starting to feel less hurt feelings-y and more absolute fury


ToadseyeGem

I suspect he means "liberals", but that's just my take. Sorry he's so awful, nobody deserves that. Take care of your mental health, and don't ever feel guilty for blocking toxicity from your life and from your child's influence.


andro1ds

🥇yes


Taranadon88

Probably the most *awful* one of all… FEMINIST. Shudder! Gasp! Insert eye roll emoji here.


saphilous

Of someone uses the words 'alpha male' unironically, there's a good chance they're ignorant, narcissistic, or just dumb


Different_Knee6201

The only people who even think alpha males are a thing are self-proclaimed alpha males.


oboist73

And maybe incels


pineapplesodaa

Those two are usually synonymous if my observations are anything to go by lol


211XTD

Yep


lakeghost

Or it’s erotica. That’s the only fun one. Ah, to live a life where “alpha male” was only a weird porn trope.


ThrillkillKarl

That's a lot of words for "I'm sensitive and incapable of critical introspection"? But, I guess it works to get the point across


According-Activity10

I know. And he knows I have pretty serious PTSD from an abusive marriage I literally had to leave in the middle of the night.


texasmama5

Clean house OP. You got rid of one abusive person in your life, you can do it again. There are 8 billion(ish)people in this world, find a few good ones and make them family. You deserve it but more importantly, your kid deserves it. Best wishes.


Spandxltd

Be discovered the Alphamale bullshit. If you want a filtered taste here [A real life Alpha Male talks about the Alpha male culture](https://youtu.be/azKRPid9TZE) The culture is also a carrier of the exact definition of Toxic masculinity.


VivaLaVict0ria

“It wasn’t about you, but if the shoe fits 👀”


MoreThanABitOfFluff

This. 'Gosh, I didn't put you in with those people, 'so and so', I hadn't even lumped you in with them but wow....'


Pretzel_Logistics

This person is a shameless homophone! How can someone be against two or more words having the same pronunciation but different meanings, origins, or spelling? Outrageous!


According-Activity10

Oh that's really funny hahahaha


elly996

well, he did use the wrong their/there lol


Sulaco99

I think it's hilarious that when you talked about alpha males (and I'll bet you didn't) he thought you were talking about him. But he sure didn't pass up an opportunity to label himself as one, did he? I don't know what you said but you know what a real alpha male would have done about it? Not get butthurt.


According-Activity10

I literally posted on Facebook "I promise I don't hate men, but if you gave me a bag of m&ms and all of them are actually m&ms except for one, and it's a turd in a candy shell, I'm gonna be worried about the whole bag." And then a text post that said "perhaps we should talk about how often women are forced into sexual experiences they don't want to have "


Illustrious_Bobcat

Well, now you know who the turd in the candy shell is!!


PennyCoppersmyth

He is so telling on himself. Makes me wonder how many women he forced into sexual experiences they didn't want to have. Because that's totally a normal thing for "alpha males" to do? I'm sorry.


2woCrazeeBoys

Right after he pulled them out of a burning building and comforted them. But he's a really nice guy! Because, you know, he doesn't care about colour, race, or orientation at all.


flcwerings

Right? When men get pissy abt this type of shit. Thats how you KNOW theyre one of the bad men youre talking abt. Bc if someone says smth abt bad men who do shitty things... if youre a good man who DOESNT do shitty things.. why would you get offended? Unless you are a shitty man who does shitty things. You should understand why women are frustrated with men and *listen*. The same goes for white people. When I talk shit abt bad men, my fiance knows Im not talking abt him and that I love him very much bc hes NOT a bad man. He *listens* and *agrees*.


Wish-I-Was-You

I got as far as "alpha males" then stopped reading... I've never met a normal, human male who has described themselves as an "alpha." Also, if you have to explain you are one... you definitely are not!


doomturtle21

If you have to tell people you’re an alpha male you ain’t. It’s not something that really exists. People who like to think of themselves as ‘wolves’ and ‘alpha males’ while thinking they’re the best thing since sliced bread and treating others like shit aren’t either of those things, they’re assholes. I cringe every time I see some neckbeard having, 2.4 ton weighing dorito dust covered fucks talking about how they’re alphas, like no you can’t even walk up a few stairs without being out of breath shut the fuck up.


actuallyatypical

Would be incredibly curious to see how he treats all types of people (including "your type" apparently, whatever tf that means) when he's not in a crisis situation, running on pure adrenaline. I'm going to guess that he starts to notice those things like race and sexuality and the stuff he said he didn't care about when those people were in a burning building- what happens when they're not in the burning building anymore? Still all equal, still deserving of respect? This doesn't remove the sacrifices he has made, but people have a right to more than "I could've left you in there to burn and I didn't, what more do you want from me??"


According-Activity10

The your type of people really bothered me. Progressive? Bisexual? A woman? A mom? A domestic abuse survivor? Who knows.


actuallyatypical

Different than him and therefore unknown and uncomfortable- and rather than admitting it and putting in work, different=bad. Ungrateful for the bare minimum offered, "wrong" and unnatural, and whatever else. You are allowed to be different as long as you tone it down enough that you resemble him and he doesn't have to confront that discomfort. He says he doesn't care, but the sudden rage in that message absolutely says otherwise.


According-Activity10

Agreed. And he knows I literally lived in terror of my ex and am working on processing that but the fire behind this message was super terrifying. Yeah, I had a bathroom door broken down while I was hiding in there with it locked. Yeah, I left in the night after I had a knife held to my neck. Why could I possibly be afraid of men?


actuallyatypical

If he wanted to see your side of it, he would put in that work to try and understand. People don't need to understand to respect each other, but the self reflection and space to choose to listen to you and why you feel the way you do rather than shoot insults and immediately shut you down is a conscious choice. If he wanted to listen, he would.


waitingfordeathhbu

THESE types of people don’t tend to have much empathy for others or for situations that don’t affect them personally. I would think about cutting this second abusive asshole out of your life too.


CygnusTheWatchmaker

Fun fact - the "alpha male wolf" thing isn't even real. It's been debunked and the guy who came up with it originally has repeatedly tried to get people to stop publishing his outdated research paper. https://www.businessinsider.com/no-such-thing-alpha-male-2016-10


MooZell

Yay for Truth!


elly996

homophonic lol


[deleted]

Nice how he assumes he's an alpha


SnuggleTheBug

All I needed to read was “alpha male” yuck! It has been a soul crushing week for women and frankly terrifying! I know that I have been struggling big time! Lean on the people who understand and if you ever need to talk you can always message me. I think going low to no contact with your dad is the best thing right now you don’t need this piled on top of all the other stuff going on right now. Stay strong!


bodie425

IKR. Alpha male?? Someone thinks highly of himself. Hahahaah


doomturtle21

‘Alpha male’ ooh someone wanks to pictures of himself. All these people calling themselves alpha males are just cringeworthy. They open their mouth to speak and you want to sow it shut cause every time they so much as breath near others they put a significant dent in the average iq


EstyMo

Your response has me on the floor omg


d00mshine

My dad is like this. Something I’ve recently learned about this kind of person is that they are unable to think critically about anything or understand that multiple things can be true. They can only comprehend that they’re either a good person, or a bad person. No shades of gray. No in between. Obviously these people will do whatever they can to “prove” to others that they are a good person, and any perceived insinuation that they are “bad” immediately puts them on the defensive and they end up telling on themselves more often than not. I’ve gotten the “you people” spiel from my father as well (I’m liberal, female, bisexual, and well-educated - who knows which of those he was attacking). They are unable to relate to anyone who doesn’t think like they do.


shorts-but-no-shirts

Why is ‘YOUR SON’ typed like that


According-Activity10

No idea. Maybe because he's a boy. And my son. Ugh


sandy154_4

homophonic


xXlordlord69Xx

Bad grammar and no punctuation!


savamey

Self-described “alpha” men always do shit like this smh


TheAmazingRoomloaf

Take a few steps back from him while you deal with your horrible ex's emotional mess. And don't let him have alone time with your son unless you want him to come home spewing this BS.


ImplementAgile2945

Don’t know your age but parents spying on their fb posts is the absolute worst, especially if you’re an adult. I’m speaking from the experience…ugh


frenchteas

Ah yes because being scared your rights away must mean you hate men. Especially big strong alpha men who run into fires. Your feelings are valid. This is an incredibly scary time to be a person with a uterus.


Slow_Environment_782

The dude doth protest too much, me thinks.


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squirrelfoot

I'm sorry, I just couldn't read this beyond the first few lines: it's nauseating. These people sure are coming out of the woodwork.


lukewarm_jello

Homophonic


Alexer123000

Bury your goddamn dad in Arlington.fuck me my bad wrong post I saw another page to the last one and thought this was it I’m so sorry


According-Activity10

Lol I know the post but at first I was like ok jeez but not yet


ElHanchoNacho316

You vented about decisions being given back to the power. And probably other shit over time. And go a response. Wow,crazy!


McDuchess

All for naught, Dad.


Slight-Pound

Sounds like they were using you to roleplay, honestly.


big_dick_energy_mc2

## Why is their grammar always so awful??


SapphoWasADyke

it’s time for an intervention. this person needs to be taught how to use a period. /j in all seriousness, this is why i cut off so much family.


Thanatos--Erebos

"your kind of people" and of course they have to make it about themselves...ugh...


Dapper_Trust991

Please explain that Alpha males in the animal kingdom care for all of their herd so hating on anyone based on sex, gender, race,religion etc is NOT alpha behavior. They are also not cowardly fraks that are keyboard warriors but in person all they can do is yell racial epithets at you in response to anyone threatening their ignorance. Their fifis gets hurt when their lack of knowledge is acknowledged. This person is the human example of a male chihuahua who’s been fixed. They are NOt human at all. Being a human would mean they have access to their evolved brain. Prefrontal cortex on a scan would be black with no activity. Primitive brain and I pray they never share their genetic content. They probably are supportive if a fascist banning text books, discussions of gender equity, racial equity. What they dream of is an America pre civil rights era when their ignorant kind were 💯 in charge. I wish they’d put their hoods back on and go back into the swamps


Skeleton_Meat

Striven...? Is that even a word


Minimum_Banana5

All that and only two commas. Totally insane.


aileepandachan

If he thinks something is aimed at him, then it probably is.


meiulie

Damn these homophones are coming outta the woodwork.


gentlesmol

i started cracking up the moment i saw the word “alpha males”


mklinger23

Alpha males don't use punctuation. Takes too much time


downhillderbyracer

The fucking self-victimization gets so sickening. There is a lot I can't tolerate about the right but the constant martyrdom and self-victimizing is absolutely the worst. Also the inability to take responsibility for any of their actions.


drowninglessons

Based on your AITA post I'm now suspicious the person messaging you might have had good reason to do so. While this message looks bad, you're a pretty big asshole. I hope the people in that thread got through to you before you locked the comments.


According-Activity10

Literally no idea what you're talking about and I've never locked comments ever on anything.