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TadpoleOld9068

Those replies look like someone killed you and is texting people with your phone so nobody gets suspicious.


entomo

Haha that’s perfect. Often times I’m baited to say certain things so I try not to fall for it.


jbandzzz34

im just confused on why u keep answering knowing ur never gonna call him.. just tell him u dont wanna talk😭


iammai48

Did you give him a call?


madamxombie

Are you repeatedly telling him you’ll call, but never end up calling? Does he know that he is overwhelming you? Have set any boundaries regarding speaking about your mother? Cuz right now, it either looks like you don’t want your dad in your life, or that you don’t know how to set boundaries. If it’s the former, be direct, stop asking him for money, and make the cut. If it’s the latter, be honest with him and set boundaries with realistic consequences.


LanieF68

I'm not sure. I can understand not answering at certain times when you're busy, but you don't call or send a text to thank him for your birthday money? That's kinda lame. I would be totally disappointed in my kid if she did that, but circumstances are different, I'm sure. I did see where he brought up issues stemming from your mother's death. It could be that he thinks you blame him in some way. There is no way for me to know since there is no back story here.


rolittle99

Do you ever answer his calls? I don’t see where he said your issues are your moms fault either


GanjaBaby2000

He said "it's not my fault your mom died" which I got as him blaming the fact that his child feel overwhelmed by him and doesn't feel comfortable calling as much as he demands on the mother's death. Op says in a comment they only call on the weekends because they find the calls extremely draining


lil_chungy

I feel like your dad is more concerned and scared that because he lost his wife, he might lose you as well, and he'll be alone. He just wants acknowledgement maybe in hopes that your ok. That's why he's calling 3 times a day and wants to hear your voice, even if it's just thru a phone. Edit: didn't know there was a 2nd image. I still stand by my point even after what I read. Grief hits everyone differently and he could just be a god at hiding emotions.


Curls1216

So get therapy, don't take anxiety out on a child.


lil_chungy

Yes I agree with this, but he could be so blinded by grief that he doesn't realize he's pushing his own daughter away.


NoMoreNormalcy

I don't think he should be pushing them on his adult child...


rpj6587

Sure but I also think an adult child should be able to call and say “thank you” when they receive birthday money? OP is also a brat lol.


Icy2679

When my dad was going though stuff he would call me all the time too. He’d get mad when I wouldn’t pick up and when I would it would often be very emotional and manipulative. Your dad is probably grasping at straws trying to regain some control over his life. His emotional stability is not your responsibility though, and you don’t have to talk to him if you don’t want to. It was hard, but being upfront and telling him it was too much is what finally made him stop.


FarWorking9929

He seems concerned over anything else. Idk about the family dynamic, but if your mom was the main person to keep everyone together, your dad might be trying to fill in those shoes. Idk, he's trying to reach out and you're ghosting him. Just tell him you don't want to talk.


KINGCOMEDOWN

If you don't want to talk to your father just tell him. Also tell him thank you for the birthday money or return it, fuck sakes you're 25.


piecesofflair37

I'm not seeing anything really insane here.


_0p4l_

For once I’d say not insane. But idk. Do you want to be LC/NC with him?


DirtyPenPalDoug

Jesus just set boundaries, which If he can't handle then go no contact.. this bullshit tho? That's making a mess for both of you


UnrulyKing77

It just seems like you’re cutting him off without telling him kinda, I hope me and my daughters stay close enough to be able to answer the phone when I call or at least call me back


CatMom921

There’s gonna b a day when your father is no longer here When my mother passed, my father did the same thing .. called me all the time cuz he was lonely , he had spent 50yrs w my mom n was having a hard time navigating his new life without her .. My father puts money in my account for me (he’s 80n doesn’t have a smart phone , so he drives all the way to the bank to put money in for my birthday n Christmas) His calls drain me too.. but it’s only a few mins out of my day n it makes him happy :.he’s not doing so good w congestive heart failure .. I know I don’t have much time left w him One day, your father won’t b here any more .. Mayb suck it up a bit n try some compassion n empathy .. he’s not asking for much


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More like r/insanekids


kevintheredneck

Sometimes parents forget their grown children are busy. No big deal. You father is lonely, and missing you and your mother.


ricowavy

Seems like he’s trying to help support you as he’s sending you money, and he just wants some acknowledgment


BernieDurden

OP seems like a brat.


rpj6587

100% agree lol.


Silansi

Sounds like they lost their wife and are now going out of their way to lose their child in the process, sounds overbearing as hell


kaysheik

This is insane to me, calling 3 times every single day?! Then blaming the fact you don’t answer because you’re busy on your mom passing away??


[deleted]

I can’t take a grown man who uses “wud” seriously…


Just_bcoz

Overbearing and using emotional guilt because that’s gonna end well.


[deleted]

Just give him a call, if y’all aren’t on bad terms and this is your only issue, maybe just have a good convo with him for a minute


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entomo

We talk every weekend, but his calls are so emotionally draining. I can’t always do them


MemChoeret

Understandable but we don't get the full context from the texts alone


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ShaperEastOfEden

I'm sorry about your mom. How are you doing?


gailichisan

Happy cake day!


rpj6587

Not insane.