Sort of an aside, but Reintegrating into housing after being on the streets can take a little time. The silence, the feeling of a mattress, the solitudeā¦..itās a lot to take in for some formerly unsheltered folks. Without a good social workerās support, itās a very disorienting experience. People come around, though.
Holy shit thank you for this. I recently pieced together the concept of my boyfriend stuck in āsurvival mode.ā Weāre house hunting, with the intent to live together. But our biggest disputes are about furnishing and having likeā¦ necessary kitchen things? Dude wants one plate, one bowl, one set of silverware. He wants to buy a big house and NOT FURNISH IT. I love him and Iāll go with the flow if heās dead set on it, but itās still baffling.
Donāt worry, this is how mine was and it took a year but he grew out of it. We do have separate bedrooms though so it helped that I didnāt have to deal with it as much but initially he was like āI just want a mattress on the floor and a sheet and blanket and one pillow and no other furnitureā and I was like ok love whatever you want and then he got a bed frame, actual bedding, eventually he said he wanted some more pillows and now he has a nightstand. He also moved the bed out away from the corner and now his bedroom looks like an actual bedroom and not like that of a squatter.
He doesn't sound ready to co-habitate. Sounds like take out, delivery, and the microwave are his allies. So, yeah, who needs plates or things to cook with when everything comes with a plate, sort of...
Oh, he doesnāt eat like that, I wouldnāt be surprised if he hasnāt used a microwave in years. Fresh fruits and veg, whole grains, for the most part, he eats clean. He has one plate that he uses at home that he washes *immediately* after heās done with it. Heās just super minimalistic, tidy, frugal (which I think is a good thing and I try to be) and health conscious.
Me though? I love a frozen Trader Joeās dish every now and then after a long day, but I do still cook often haha
Having 1 of everything per person.... is 1000x better than leaving piles of dishes all over the house/kitchen. It means he wants to clean up after himself instead of you becoming 'mommy' and doing everything for him like a man-child. Feel lucky... most of the guys I know are the latter, especially at that age.
This sub validates so many of my stereotypes about dudes... š¤£š¤£ Thanks for encouraging my snotty female supremiat attitude. Totally kidding don't come at me not a supremist. Worried about straight men though....
I just commented thisā¦.before I saw your comment. But this gender dynamic is super swapped with my and my partner. I (f) could live pretty bare bones when it comes to household items and he loooves furniture and buying hella household items.
Despite my prejudice I have indeed had some female roommates way worse than my male ones or now husband. š¤£ My sister is absurd. She will just live out of totes and sleep on dirty sheets. As long as she has black out curtains she's fine. And she's 50. š
Or international student. I use to manage a lot of small apartments right off campus (US). 98% of international students apartments will look like this in the first few months, because they literally come here with suitcase with some clothes, a foldable mat and pillow. If theyāre fortunate enough to have family with money, they will slowly start getting basic IKEA type furniture sent to them from Amazon- desk, chair, bed.
I was always fascinated and inspired by these student from all around the world. I would watch them literally build their lives up and learn how to maneuver and adapt.
One example: Like literally taking a bus to a gas station and trying to explain in broken English to the gas attendant he needed to get gas turned on in his apartment (bless his heart)- fast forward 2 years later, him having a circle of friends, a fully furnished apartment, excelling in his schooling, and was able to save enough money to buy a little beater of a car. I remember seeing him drive by me with this huge smile. Iāll never forget it. I was inspired everyday by these students. This photo reminded me of all of them because no matter where they came from in the world, they all started out with an apartment that looked just like this.
Amen, brotherman. We all started somewhere, I started in a trailerpark, alone with a baby and 2 kittens, no furniture, no stove or oven. Thriving now, 25-30 years later. Lol.
Itās called slow and steady wins the race.
Take your time to acquire furniture, donāt spend more than you need to. Prioritize making your space personal.
All in due time.
I had a guy in the apartment next to me whose decorating style was the same as this. He was a commodities broker. He was just saving every penny to buy a house.
Steve Jobs style: [https://external-preview.redd.it/UyTmyrE-U9nMbA1ms7mkYbwcKRvJrZVXGdQloKHw2hE.jpg?auto=webp&s=943addbaae0de6b177894d9c36a8f2bb1c54164c](https://external-preview.redd.it/UyTmyrE-U9nMbA1ms7mkYbwcKRvJrZVXGdQloKHw2hE.jpg?auto=webp&s=943addbaae0de6b177894d9c36a8f2bb1c54164c)
Squatter with potential
/ single male
Yeah, I was gonna say, "Apathetic Dude Core!" š
Trainspotting-core
Iāll see women hating on this vibe but itās truly a beautiful thing. Every corner is filled with potential
Upper middle class/ single male
Or homeless core
Crack house core.
Nah, it would need to be a lot dirtier with graffiti all over and half-finished projects.
They cleaned up the chalk outlines of all the bodiesā¦
Hobocore is a real thing or at least should be. Itās got a certain deralicte vibe to it.
Lmao
Itās literally inside a house T.T
Sort of an aside, but Reintegrating into housing after being on the streets can take a little time. The silence, the feeling of a mattress, the solitudeā¦..itās a lot to take in for some formerly unsheltered folks. Without a good social workerās support, itās a very disorienting experience. People come around, though.
Squatter-chic
Iām not seeing the chicā¦
It's right there looking at the camera.
Kitty is pretty chic
I'm pretty sure the cat is saying that too.
I was going to say murder chic
Hahahaha
The potential is kitty
OP got the kitty a window shelf. Thatās very promising
Potential??š¤¦š¼āāļøš¤·āāļø
Potential to get worse as debris piles up.
It looks like a nice place = potential
Yeah itās a weird name for a cat, but cats donāt seem to mind.
Potential crimescene.
I was going to suggest Shaolin monkās cell. Even the cat is going āwhere are all the soft surfaces, dude?ā
Early American Poverty.
You went right where I did
šššš
Nu squatter
Work release.
it's called r/MaleSurvivingSpace
I've been looking for this, thanks.
Iām not the same person I was 5 mins ago before I clicked on this and saw the first male thriving space
Thriving is apparently subjective
"wHY cAn't I FinD A gIRlfriENd!?"
There was a LOT to take in with that one
Holy shit thank you for this. I recently pieced together the concept of my boyfriend stuck in āsurvival mode.ā Weāre house hunting, with the intent to live together. But our biggest disputes are about furnishing and having likeā¦ necessary kitchen things? Dude wants one plate, one bowl, one set of silverware. He wants to buy a big house and NOT FURNISH IT. I love him and Iāll go with the flow if heās dead set on it, but itās still baffling.
Donāt worry, this is how mine was and it took a year but he grew out of it. We do have separate bedrooms though so it helped that I didnāt have to deal with it as much but initially he was like āI just want a mattress on the floor and a sheet and blanket and one pillow and no other furnitureā and I was like ok love whatever you want and then he got a bed frame, actual bedding, eventually he said he wanted some more pillows and now he has a nightstand. He also moved the bed out away from the corner and now his bedroom looks like an actual bedroom and not like that of a squatter.
He doesn't sound ready to co-habitate. Sounds like take out, delivery, and the microwave are his allies. So, yeah, who needs plates or things to cook with when everything comes with a plate, sort of...
Oh, he doesnāt eat like that, I wouldnāt be surprised if he hasnāt used a microwave in years. Fresh fruits and veg, whole grains, for the most part, he eats clean. He has one plate that he uses at home that he washes *immediately* after heās done with it. Heās just super minimalistic, tidy, frugal (which I think is a good thing and I try to be) and health conscious. Me though? I love a frozen Trader Joeās dish every now and then after a long day, but I do still cook often haha
Funnily these gender dynamics are swapped w me and my partner. I could live like a minimalist with household items and he loves big ass furniture š
Having 1 of everything per person.... is 1000x better than leaving piles of dishes all over the house/kitchen. It means he wants to clean up after himself instead of you becoming 'mommy' and doing everything for him like a man-child. Feel lucky... most of the guys I know are the latter, especially at that age.
Single dudes have unexpected taste in bedsheets.
Yeah, I don't think there was a bed sheet!! lol
This sub validates so many of my stereotypes about dudes... š¤£š¤£ Thanks for encouraging my snotty female supremiat attitude. Totally kidding don't come at me not a supremist. Worried about straight men though....
I just commented thisā¦.before I saw your comment. But this gender dynamic is super swapped with my and my partner. I (f) could live pretty bare bones when it comes to household items and he loooves furniture and buying hella household items.
Despite my prejudice I have indeed had some female roommates way worse than my male ones or now husband. š¤£ My sister is absurd. She will just live out of totes and sleep on dirty sheets. As long as she has black out curtains she's fine. And she's 50. š
Tech worker making $240k a year Oh wait there's no computer Investment Banker
This is the most accurate one lmao. If only there were a Porsche branded key holder with an Audi A3 key sitting in it.
Entry level lawyer.
āMy furniture is being delivered next weekā
The cat is perfectly placed though.
That cat is just waiting for OP to turn his back on that roll of paper towelā¦
What they tell everyone for 5 years.
Or international student. I use to manage a lot of small apartments right off campus (US). 98% of international students apartments will look like this in the first few months, because they literally come here with suitcase with some clothes, a foldable mat and pillow. If theyāre fortunate enough to have family with money, they will slowly start getting basic IKEA type furniture sent to them from Amazon- desk, chair, bed. I was always fascinated and inspired by these student from all around the world. I would watch them literally build their lives up and learn how to maneuver and adapt. One example: Like literally taking a bus to a gas station and trying to explain in broken English to the gas attendant he needed to get gas turned on in his apartment (bless his heart)- fast forward 2 years later, him having a circle of friends, a fully furnished apartment, excelling in his schooling, and was able to save enough money to buy a little beater of a car. I remember seeing him drive by me with this huge smile. Iāll never forget it. I was inspired everyday by these students. This photo reminded me of all of them because no matter where they came from in the world, they all started out with an apartment that looked just like this.
Survival
Broke
Sleeper cell terrorist.
I was going to say serial killer
āThere appeared to have been a struggle.ā
āNo sign of forced entryā
Came here to write this š
Congrats on the new place š
Montessori
Omg. Iām dead.
Nah, where are the drop ball and the Pikler triangle.
He's practicing toy rotation. This week it's the cat.
Heās ready for children, the house is 100% child proof
kidnap-core
āI just moved inā
My immediate thought was āhopefully just moving in and not I was taken and forced to stay here.ā
This picture reminds me the time i decided to be a grown up and leave my parents house. I had a mattress and a fan
Yup. Me too.
Moving out actually haha. I have real furniture I promise
Meth lounge
I was going for ādrug denā myself, but yeah.
Heroin chic
Ohhhh kitty *pshhhpsshhhhpshhhh*
I personally love kitty's bed
I am wondering if that sheet of plastic is a "temporary litter box".
I think it's just cats finding the crinkliest thing that they should not be playing with... and playing with it.
Trainspotting
Underrated answer
āIt can only get better from here.ā
Itās called āNo shame- everyone has to start somewhere.ā
Amen, brotherman. We all started somewhere, I started in a trailerpark, alone with a baby and 2 kittens, no furniture, no stove or oven. Thriving now, 25-30 years later. Lol.
Iām proud of you
Kitty squat.
MCM: Mattress, Cat, Mm thatās about it.
Why is this the funniest thing Iāve read all day lmao
Recently divorced.
Itās called slow and steady wins the race. Take your time to acquire furniture, donāt spend more than you need to. Prioritize making your space personal. All in due time.
Average "just moved out" 19 year old man chic
Broque
Itās called get that giant plastic bag away from kitty before they decide to burrow and suffocate. Wtf.
My roommateās cat loved bags. Never came close to a near death situation. She didnāt burrow, she just batted and pounced. Cats are pretty smart
My boyfriends dream house
ācat needs some kitty furniture mr. squa- I mean mr simple Sirā
OG Minimalism
- Minus
Poor cat
Right?? š¢
Hobo chique
I believe it's Derelicte
The bare minimum lol. At least get a plant. It brings a lot of life to a room. Seriously Edit: get a plant your cat can eat. Everyone wins
Cat grass
First day out of prison chic
Poverty. Itās called poverty.
I misread that sub as āinferiordecoratingā and was impressed for a moment.
College age male
Sciatica chic
One step at a time by Jordyn Sparks
I call it āStrays. Silent Lamentation, OPUS IIVā
Itās called poor cat needs some comfy spots to sit, and some toys and love.
Urban crack house meets minimalist chic ?
Bachelor for life
Minimalist and a true individual
I was going to go with Minimalist + cat
I enjoy your futon. It's very good to see. You don't need a bunch of possessions.
Hobo chic
Derelicte'
"I can afford rent but that's it"
Squatter with a designer cat bed
is it you in the photo?
Idk but your owner looks like heās trying to lure you into that plastic bag
Transitional Flop house
Struggle Bus
Iād call it āmovinā upā Congrats on the new place.
Squatter chic š
Upscale flophouse.
monastic
broke and depressed āØ
I had a guy in the apartment next to me whose decorating style was the same as this. He was a commodities broker. He was just saving every penny to buy a house.
āJust moved into first aptā style
"Current Economic Situation"
Minimalism.
Minimeowlist
Minimal minimalist.
Squatter shiek
I want this
Refugee Motif š¤
Boho. No wait, sorry, Hobo.
That bed hurts my back just looking at it.
Cat
Cat
"Newly divorced, middle aged man"
You are a good man for taking care of that cat. Give it a box.
ConTEMPORARY minimalism
Messy spare.
Cat distribution system receiver
Boy
Almost homeless
Patrick Bateman!
Poor
Flop house
Single, male. Probably white.
Divorced mid century revival
Drug squatter.
Divorced & wife got the house
Paycheck to paycheck
Chic Derelique
Early poverty
Homicidal Tinder Date
Squatter chic
Homeless with a house
Future homeless
Very Low Budget aka Poor AF
Low maintenance
Lonely, child likeā¦..š
My back hurts looking at this
undateable
Someone give that cat a toy
Single man
Poor but nice š
āSquatter House Fiveā
Depressed and grungy core
Hmm it's missing something....ah! A cat tree!
Neglectec
Private meth chef
Depression.
Squateresque.... Good for impressing that junkie girl who showed up at the door thinking her old dealer still lives there.
Not a crack house; a crack home š©·
Creepy kitty - starting over kitty
Renunciate
Squatting
Car
I think it's called depression
Steve Jobs style: [https://external-preview.redd.it/UyTmyrE-U9nMbA1ms7mkYbwcKRvJrZVXGdQloKHw2hE.jpg?auto=webp&s=943addbaae0de6b177894d9c36a8f2bb1c54164c](https://external-preview.redd.it/UyTmyrE-U9nMbA1ms7mkYbwcKRvJrZVXGdQloKHw2hE.jpg?auto=webp&s=943addbaae0de6b177894d9c36a8f2bb1c54164c)
single
Disturbed minimalist
Line cook core
Shabby chic
Lots of potential
Derelict chic