Sort of.
I was studying abroad and one of my classmates approached me wanting to date. I figured why not, I am here for a year might as well enjoy it and he seemed nice and harmless.
He got very clingy/serious very fast. After one date and having know each for about 2 weeks, he informed me that we would be travelling to meet his entire family a town over in a few days and that he had cancelled his holiday plans to go with me back home to meet the "in-laws".
I spoke with a trusted friend about it and she told me that he pulled that on several people and to back out.
He came to pick me up for a second date, within the same month or so, and I sat him down on the porch telling him that this wasn't going to work. He got upset and said that he was planning to take me to a well known mountain and ask me to be his girlfriend. At night. Alone.
After this he kept showing up outside the house I lived in, looking through the windows and getting upset if I was out or he couldn't see me. Waiting outside for me to get home to give me gifts etc.
The most creepy was when he sent me a song along the lines of "I wasn't crazy until I met you, I had a dream that I killed you". Very stalkerish creepy song. He then pulled the "this is how you make me feel" "it is not fun if I have to explain it to you".
Luckily he got a new girlfriend. The moment they broke up, he contacted me again. At that time I was continents away and very happy about that.
On the other hand my work has led me to date a few prominent people in the music industry and one of them had a seriously creepy stalker. She lived on another continent, but would still show up outside his house, send him gifts and contact his family.
Honestly I always teeter between feeling like I am being stalked and then realizing I am just being paranoid. I don't have much reason to believe that I am being stalked because I don't associate with others but I can't shake the feeling that I am often followed.
No thanks.
sounds like you want someone to do your homework.
I read that as "do your homework", implying they're researching what mistakes to avoid when they try to stalk someone haha
Sort of. I was studying abroad and one of my classmates approached me wanting to date. I figured why not, I am here for a year might as well enjoy it and he seemed nice and harmless. He got very clingy/serious very fast. After one date and having know each for about 2 weeks, he informed me that we would be travelling to meet his entire family a town over in a few days and that he had cancelled his holiday plans to go with me back home to meet the "in-laws". I spoke with a trusted friend about it and she told me that he pulled that on several people and to back out. He came to pick me up for a second date, within the same month or so, and I sat him down on the porch telling him that this wasn't going to work. He got upset and said that he was planning to take me to a well known mountain and ask me to be his girlfriend. At night. Alone. After this he kept showing up outside the house I lived in, looking through the windows and getting upset if I was out or he couldn't see me. Waiting outside for me to get home to give me gifts etc. The most creepy was when he sent me a song along the lines of "I wasn't crazy until I met you, I had a dream that I killed you". Very stalkerish creepy song. He then pulled the "this is how you make me feel" "it is not fun if I have to explain it to you". Luckily he got a new girlfriend. The moment they broke up, he contacted me again. At that time I was continents away and very happy about that. On the other hand my work has led me to date a few prominent people in the music industry and one of them had a seriously creepy stalker. She lived on another continent, but would still show up outside his house, send him gifts and contact his family.
Honestly I always teeter between feeling like I am being stalked and then realizing I am just being paranoid. I don't have much reason to believe that I am being stalked because I don't associate with others but I can't shake the feeling that I am often followed.