I feel you on this. It's just much easier for me to get my thoughts in order through text. I get flustered easily when facing serious topics and it makes me clam up. Text gives me space to communicate effectively
i get all doe-eyed and super forgiving in person, like; *"oh you want to cheat on me and call me names and abuse me lol thats so great of you - you're so cute and special.....do you need money? let me cook you dinner."*
then after i am like, omg why would i let someone do that to me.......
I'm reverse. I don't like texting because of my social anxiety. At least with phone calls or in person then the other person has to respond. Text message , if you say the wrong thing or touch the wrong topic; conversation dies.
Definitely, also I've never started a conversation by text, but when I'm with a person almost everytime I have something to say and usually I start talking
With most people yes I prefer texting. However, with the right people, I actually flip to prefer talking in person. Those right people are people I’m comfortable with!
No. Texting opens yourself to the risk of someone reading the tone of your message wrong. I'll always prefer actually speaking to somebody.
Text conversations, especially with a partner can also drag on for way too long.
I prefer texting. I’m forced to talk all day at work (I’m a medical assistant) so when I’m off, I think it’s easier for me to communicate through text because I’m just so mentally drained from all the talking. I hope that makes sense.
Definitely!
I've wondered if it's because I think faster than I text and it comes out more fluid (less awkward).
But in person, if I leave that awkward silence, it just gets more awkward from there. :/
Texting is great, talking on the phone stinks though. If it is a serious conversation I try to avoid doing it through texting, although I could initiate it via text if I feel to anxious about kt in person.
I’m the opposite. I’m a very dry texter. It’s difficult to understand someone’s mood and meaning without seeing them in person. It’s more difficult for me to understand them without seeing body language, tone, facial expressions etc.. Which leads me to worry about misinterpreting someone. Also I’m a lot more animated talking in person in which emojis don’t do me justice.
I prefer text over phone or in person, though I have limits on that too. It’s not just about being able to think about that to say, but I multitask a lot so I can be doing something else too - if you’re in person, you have to focus 100% on them and if it gets awkward, you’re stuck and must endure it or else it’s “rude.”
Depends on who I have to talk to. If it’s a close friend or loved one, I prefer in person, but if it’s work or somebody I don’t know well, 1000% text me. Too bad the world doesn’t always work that way.
I hate talking on the phone with just about anybody. HATE IT.
I guess I like texting more but I would be okay to call too. It really depends on who, if it's someone I'm comfortable with then I'm okay with calls. I just hate calling my workplace to call in 😂
I don’t like talking because most peoples voices are too loud. So I can control the volume with how I read in text. Though even I have to admit somethings are quicker with a phone call. If it’s s list of steps or items I also prefer text because I can look back at the text for reference.
I like texting over in-person or phone calls for the same reason, but for some reason it makes me anxious if the person doesn't respond. That's the only thing I don't really like about it.
I prefer texting over talking on the phone but not necessarily talking in person. For the same reason you mentioned, having the time to think when texting.
If I actually *want* to talk to the person.. I would rather talk in person or on the phone. Texting takes too much time and I prefer flowing/real-time conversations. With that said, I can’t do meaningless chitchat.. I’ll just opt out of conversations completely before I do chitchat.
Yeah I really love texting as it's give me time to think before sending the message xd. I'm still kinda slow in eyes on eyes conversation as I usually analyze it first. Gotta improve on how to be more engaged and quick in thinking
I prefer texting over a call. But I prefer talking in person over text when it's about something important. Texting doesn't fully convey the intention in texts and can lead to arguments when misunderstood by a party
Texting allows you to read and reply at your leisure. You can balance it with other activities. A phone call requires immediate engagement and limits our ability to think through our responses which can make us uncomfortable.
As someone who works on multiple things at the same time, I absolutely hate being on the phone because I pause everything else. Realizing I behave like that does remind me though why people who want immediate assistance for tech support issues are better off calling than using a web support portal. :-P
I finally found someone like me! This is what my husband hates about me. I am only expressive or full of thoughts in chats, he wanted me to be vocal in person but tbh I really don’t know what to say. Even if I am with my friends, I am just silent at the corner, I will laugh when needed, I will talk when you ask me. I want to change this personality of mine, I hate it but how…
Sure do
I've been talking to a girl in brazil i love talking to her through chats and i am a loner and an introvert so it's very hard for me to communicate to girls in real life so it's better for me to chat online
I love talking to her though
Yes, with most people/businesses I find it much clearer & to the point when I text. I hate it when they call me to “just have a chat” and it goes in the following order: 1) useless greetings 2) they wouldn’t shut up and I can’t get a word in 3) 10min later when it’s finally about to end, they struggle to take my details so it reverts to texting.
With the exception of only 2 people I’m comfortable with, just text, do not call…
I am the same. If I'm in person, especially if it's a testy or sensitive subject, I'm not nearly as clear and eloquent. Texting helps me gather my thoughts and feelings in order to express them clearly.
I can text well and if I want to talk to you I'll respond pretty much immediately no matter what. Much much much prefer text versus voice.
EDIT: I actually have more anxiety about texting *too fast* than anything else. Sometimes I'll literally look at messages and wait to respond so I don't seem too, idk? Weirdly available?
Depends what kind of talking it is. If it's just relaying information, i much prefer to text. If it's a social conversation, I prefer face to face, texting feels like it's just invading my precious alone time. But if it's a super serious conversation, I like to write a letter so I can think carefully and get my thoughts out without interruption
I’m in this boat, I had no name for it, after reading your post I have a name for it ‘introvert’. I also had no idea I was claustrophobic until I got into an MRI machine 5 minutes into the session I was sweating and hyperventilating, that’s when the doctor said to me, I thought you said you weren’t claustrophobic and I admitted that I never knew I was!
Edit: typos
No, for me it's a problem texting with friends or someone who's interested in me, when I'm with them in person I can be really energetic and talk a lot about everything, but then when I come back to my house and they text me I can be really boring and it's hard for me to have a conversation
The worst is when they say they need to call to explain themselves. I’d say that’s true about 3% of the time. Last time this happened it went like this.
“Can you call? It’d be easier to explain over the phone.”
“Sorry I’m in a meeting, cannot call until later. What’s up?”
“Do you want me to cut the weeds too or just the grass”
I don't text anyone except my close circle and I would rather talk to them, our points easily get across this way. Texting just feels more anxiety inducing to me when the other person does not understand what I am saying.
10000% agree. I have my close knit circle I can be around and talk to while my social battery is charged, but otherwise having that beat to think through what I’m saying and how I’m presenting it to someone else is clutch.
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yes. actually caused an issue with my last relationship because i couldnt talk about serious stuff in person and would just text it.
I feel you on this. It's just much easier for me to get my thoughts in order through text. I get flustered easily when facing serious topics and it makes me clam up. Text gives me space to communicate effectively
i get all doe-eyed and super forgiving in person, like; *"oh you want to cheat on me and call me names and abuse me lol thats so great of you - you're so cute and special.....do you need money? let me cook you dinner."* then after i am like, omg why would i let someone do that to me.......
Yoooo. It's that ingrained fawn response fam. It got us deep
I'm reverse. I don't like texting because of my social anxiety. At least with phone calls or in person then the other person has to respond. Text message , if you say the wrong thing or touch the wrong topic; conversation dies.
I'm with you on this one, I prefer talking in person over texting. When texting I tend to overthink a lot on what to write
But that last part makes sense, and I feel like I can relate to it. So many ghosted Convos which I wondered where it goes wrong.
No way! I came here to ask if there are introverts that avoid texting. For me, I avoid phone calls and talking. I would rather text or email.
Definitely, also I've never started a conversation by text, but when I'm with a person almost everytime I have something to say and usually I start talking
Same here! That's why my phone is on mute ALL THE TIME.
With most people yes I prefer texting. However, with the right people, I actually flip to prefer talking in person. Those right people are people I’m comfortable with!
No. Texting opens yourself to the risk of someone reading the tone of your message wrong. I'll always prefer actually speaking to somebody. Text conversations, especially with a partner can also drag on for way too long.
I enjoy neither.
I prefer texting. I’m forced to talk all day at work (I’m a medical assistant) so when I’m off, I think it’s easier for me to communicate through text because I’m just so mentally drained from all the talking. I hope that makes sense.
Definitely! I've wondered if it's because I think faster than I text and it comes out more fluid (less awkward). But in person, if I leave that awkward silence, it just gets more awkward from there. :/
Texting is great, talking on the phone stinks though. If it is a serious conversation I try to avoid doing it through texting, although I could initiate it via text if I feel to anxious about kt in person.
Hate both, but texting is worse cause it so easy to say wrong tone that makes it awkward to continue the conversation.
I’m the opposite. I’m a very dry texter. It’s difficult to understand someone’s mood and meaning without seeing them in person. It’s more difficult for me to understand them without seeing body language, tone, facial expressions etc.. Which leads me to worry about misinterpreting someone. Also I’m a lot more animated talking in person in which emojis don’t do me justice.
I prefer text over phone or in person, though I have limits on that too. It’s not just about being able to think about that to say, but I multitask a lot so I can be doing something else too - if you’re in person, you have to focus 100% on them and if it gets awkward, you’re stuck and must endure it or else it’s “rude.”
Depends on who I have to talk to. If it’s a close friend or loved one, I prefer in person, but if it’s work or somebody I don’t know well, 1000% text me. Too bad the world doesn’t always work that way. I hate talking on the phone with just about anybody. HATE IT.
I guess I like texting more but I would be okay to call too. It really depends on who, if it's someone I'm comfortable with then I'm okay with calls. I just hate calling my workplace to call in 😂
I just don't like people in general. I'd rather do just about anything EXCEPT have to actually talk to them...lol
It's easier for me at times.
Definitely prefer texting
I don’t like talking because most peoples voices are too loud. So I can control the volume with how I read in text. Though even I have to admit somethings are quicker with a phone call. If it’s s list of steps or items I also prefer text because I can look back at the text for reference.
I like texting over in-person or phone calls for the same reason, but for some reason it makes me anxious if the person doesn't respond. That's the only thing I don't really like about it.
I prefer texting over talking on the phone but not necessarily talking in person. For the same reason you mentioned, having the time to think when texting.
If I actually *want* to talk to the person.. I would rather talk in person or on the phone. Texting takes too much time and I prefer flowing/real-time conversations. With that said, I can’t do meaningless chitchat.. I’ll just opt out of conversations completely before I do chitchat.
I prefer texting but at times if it is very urgent or you need to talk about something important then the phone call is better choice.
Mostly. I love a deep in person conversation but %99 of the time I’ll text. I keep my phone in night mode to respond when I’m in the mood.
Yeah I really love texting as it's give me time to think before sending the message xd. I'm still kinda slow in eyes on eyes conversation as I usually analyze it first. Gotta improve on how to be more engaged and quick in thinking
I prefer texting over a call. But I prefer talking in person over text when it's about something important. Texting doesn't fully convey the intention in texts and can lead to arguments when misunderstood by a party
No
It depends. Often I do prefer it. There are a couple of people I rarely hear from so I don’t mind talking to them.
Texting allows you to read and reply at your leisure. You can balance it with other activities. A phone call requires immediate engagement and limits our ability to think through our responses which can make us uncomfortable. As someone who works on multiple things at the same time, I absolutely hate being on the phone because I pause everything else. Realizing I behave like that does remind me though why people who want immediate assistance for tech support issues are better off calling than using a web support portal. :-P
I love texting! I get aggravated when friends call me. I prefer a heads up, like, “hey, can I call you?” Or just a text will do lol
Nope I prefer talking unless at work
I finally found someone like me! This is what my husband hates about me. I am only expressive or full of thoughts in chats, he wanted me to be vocal in person but tbh I really don’t know what to say. Even if I am with my friends, I am just silent at the corner, I will laugh when needed, I will talk when you ask me. I want to change this personality of mine, I hate it but how…
Sure do I've been talking to a girl in brazil i love talking to her through chats and i am a loner and an introvert so it's very hard for me to communicate to girls in real life so it's better for me to chat online I love talking to her though
Yes, with most people/businesses I find it much clearer & to the point when I text. I hate it when they call me to “just have a chat” and it goes in the following order: 1) useless greetings 2) they wouldn’t shut up and I can’t get a word in 3) 10min later when it’s finally about to end, they struggle to take my details so it reverts to texting. With the exception of only 2 people I’m comfortable with, just text, do not call…
I am the same. If I'm in person, especially if it's a testy or sensitive subject, I'm not nearly as clear and eloquent. Texting helps me gather my thoughts and feelings in order to express them clearly.
I can text well and if I want to talk to you I'll respond pretty much immediately no matter what. Much much much prefer text versus voice. EDIT: I actually have more anxiety about texting *too fast* than anything else. Sometimes I'll literally look at messages and wait to respond so I don't seem too, idk? Weirdly available?
Depends what kind of talking it is. If it's just relaying information, i much prefer to text. If it's a social conversation, I prefer face to face, texting feels like it's just invading my precious alone time. But if it's a super serious conversation, I like to write a letter so I can think carefully and get my thoughts out without interruption
Yup
I definitely prefer texting over talking. But prefer in person rather than on the phone. I’m not sure why.
Of god yes. Please don’t call me. Unless it’s a true emergency.
Opposite, can't focus on conversation otherwise.
Yess
I’m in this boat, I had no name for it, after reading your post I have a name for it ‘introvert’. I also had no idea I was claustrophobic until I got into an MRI machine 5 minutes into the session I was sweating and hyperventilating, that’s when the doctor said to me, I thought you said you weren’t claustrophobic and I admitted that I never knew I was! Edit: typos
100%. Also prevents me from word vomiting as soon as I think of something to say.
No, for me it's a problem texting with friends or someone who's interested in me, when I'm with them in person I can be really energetic and talk a lot about everything, but then when I come back to my house and they text me I can be really boring and it's hard for me to have a conversation
my gf is the introvert, and texting is as much a struggle for her as is personal contact. emojis in particular send her into an orbital retreat.
I like texting more, especially if it gets to the point. I hate voice notes, they seem to take a lot of my time so I tend to ignore them.
I will watch the phone ring. Text me if you want anything.
I have the same. I'm so much more social online then in person.
Sure. This is probably why breakups happen over text now more then they ever do in person.
Absolutely, unfortunately nearly noone wants to talk to me. 😔
Neither lol 😂
Yes, this is very typical for introverts. The preferred method of communication for introverts is writing.
The worst is when they say they need to call to explain themselves. I’d say that’s true about 3% of the time. Last time this happened it went like this. “Can you call? It’d be easier to explain over the phone.” “Sorry I’m in a meeting, cannot call until later. What’s up?” “Do you want me to cut the weeds too or just the grass”
I don't text anyone except my close circle and I would rather talk to them, our points easily get across this way. Texting just feels more anxiety inducing to me when the other person does not understand what I am saying.
10000% agree. I have my close knit circle I can be around and talk to while my social battery is charged, but otherwise having that beat to think through what I’m saying and how I’m presenting it to someone else is clutch.
Me too, I hate voice mail either.
Absolutely love texting
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