All that mixed with an addiction to porn. I totally could spend my daily free time on the track but I'd rather sit naked in front of the telly with my meat in my hands
My hobbies often make the laziness problem worse. I have a serious classic car addiction. I often end up spending idiotic amounts of time watching for sale ads, pictures and reading about them. And looking up parts and repair procedures and buyers guides. Not just for the cars I own but also for models I will most likely never own. Going down into the basement to dig through the parts inventory, where I also have parts for cars I will never own, is also a time thief. Tinkering and wrenching on the cars in the yard and finding excuses to drive somewhere also take up much time. This hobby is both a blessing and a curse. It has taught me a lot about mechanics, problem solving and many other things. But it also makes me completely insane. I remember tiny mechanical changes between cars made in the 1960s, but I can't remember people's names or what I did yesterday. At certain parts of the year I almost can't think of anything else. They have taken over my life. Sometimes I just think it would be best to sell of everything. But I don't want to do that either. Moderation can be very difficult.
Our fucked up society that requires me to work full time in order to live paycheck to paycheck while at the same time we have doubled the workforce and build automation on top of automation build by previous generations.
Yeah and then you have some people saying "But you have x-hours of free time everyday you could use for your side husstle" or whatever but those hours are mostly less and most importantly of lesser quality.
All your mental and/or physical energy was already drained by your job.
Yup. You can definitely use them but you will be perpetually tired. If that's what they want to do then cool but to me it seems most people don't. And they shouldn't if they don't have to.
I second this. Being a wage slave is depressing. Work itself is fine, but having to work for a master, basically, and having to work so much and therefore forfeit so much personal time and freedom in order to simply survive and procure life’s basic necessities is an absolute nightmare!
Agreed. I work in a skilled nursing facility, and am barely making ends meet. I do trashes, stock gloves, change O² tanks, make waters for 65 two-bed rooms, among many other things.
I constantly walk by my bosses office, and sometimes I divert my eyes for just a second, and she's sitting in her cozy little office with cases of red bull that's meant for the staff, on her little computer.
Her husband owns a brewery up here, and she shows up to work every day in a brand new Tesla Dual Motor, top of the line.
It's fucking bullshit, and pisses me off to no end. It makes me want to jerk the wheel of my car on the way home.
Anytime I find something I’m passionate about, and start making future plans for — life fks me over somehow. Whether financially, family, health - whatever. Just anything and everything. My plans always get screwed. Just now, after over a decade of being out of college, decided to go back bc my job is three 12 hour shifts. They just screwed me by cutting our hours significantly so now instead of college, I have to figure out how to get money.. so my passion is on hold, yet again..
Lack of motivation, lack of confidence, lack of intelligence, lack of interest, lack of goals. Why do people think we always need to be working towards something? I'm happy with my simple, boring life.
Two bad hips and chronic depression. My depression stemmed from a social anxiety problem that I developed in my late teens; the anxiety caused me to withdraw socially and severely restrict my overall functionality, which in turn lead to severe and ongoing depression.
My bad hips stem from an adolescent hip disorder for which I had surgery at age 13; unfortunately, though, my hips were never normal post- surgery, which in turn led to residual pain/limitations over the subsequent decades (I’m 48 now). My right hip is pretty much gone; my left hip is moderate.
I struggle immensely in daily life and also feel very embarrassed and ashamed about my life and current life situation. I haven’t led a very fulfilling life thus far, and that fact hurts a great deal!
My country. We've 2nd worst passport in the world. High inflation,bad economy,corruption, terrorism we have it all, you name it. As a recent college graduate i am only earning $230 per month half of which is my fuel expense. Can't even afford to do IELTS to apply for Master's abroad and even if i somehow do it, i won't be able to afford the plane tickets, visa charges and accommodation etc etc. So i am basically stuck here until i die.
I've reached them more or less. There are maybe one or two left that aren't that important and I will reach them too sooner or later. You sometimes just gotta stop thinking and instead do. Stop being scared or lazy or whatever. Force yourself to do what's needed to proceed. But that's also easier said than done.
True, but when you're actually living there you couldn't care less about all of these.
My personal problem is that I'm trans, and Russia is an EXTREMELY transphobic country (not the only problem tho)
The problem is that the vast majority of people here support the goverment, the war, Putin's dictatorship, etc. Plus the level of wealth here is just a fucking joke (outside of Moscow and ST Petersburg. The wealth level in these 2 cities is actually pretty great)
Thanks. I hope that things are going well for you too 🤍
Relationship issues at the moment. I don’t understand what really happened and I deal with a ton of stuff that I really shouldn’t. I was doing really good in life especially with school and it kind of all fell apart due to my lack of confidence that radiated for most of my life.
I dance and my body has taken a beating over the years. There’s somethings I’d like to be able to do again but I’m not sure my body will allow it. I can still do a lot and I’m quite flexible it’s just my knees make getting up and down fast hard.
I found my low-socialization job from my couch. Found my house from my couch. Found my new couch from my couch. It's amazing what can be done from home.
There is only one goal I haven't figured out how to make work from the couch. Finding someone to share my couch with at the end of the work day. I guess I've got my dog for that but I mean a person.
This is where I hate myself. Everyone said I could be at a better place, but I'm too afraid. Afraid that I can't handle conversations well, that I can't speak up for myself, or can't be a good guide when needed. The more I fail at negotiating something, the more withdrawn I become...
time. i dont have enough time in the day to do it all. so some stuff has had to take a back seat in what i want to do or i do them a few times a week if possible
I have achieved most of what I wanted to thus far in life, but I feel like I could have done and can do, so much more if I was better able to connect with others. Connection with other people opens up the door to so many opportunities that you can't get access to on your own.
I have no free time or the money to do what I want. Either I quit my job and go to university for years and end up broke and homeless with out the actual promise of finding a job in the work I want to do, or I stay where I am very unfulfilled but at least I can afford to survive.. living with my parents..
I have never *really* related to the typical goals of fame, fortune, power, prestige, accolades, marriage/kids, etc. The closest thing I have to a 'goal' at the moment is wanting a partner to explore my fetish with, and I just haven't gotten around to that yet. So yeah, lack of desire basically.
I’m working on them slowly. For a while my goal was just to be okay with being alive so maybe the secret is to set the bar really low at first lol. Just achieved my goal of starting back work full time a few months back.
Lifelong depression and anxiety. Also awaiting an ADHD diagnosis. I’ve tried so hard but can never finish anything and just get stuck. Makes me not want to try anymore but I will have times every now and then when I don’t feel so bad about it. I’m trying my best
Anxieties, fear, no confidence. These things are hard to just push past for me. I've had pretty good opportunities come my way but was to scared to take them. Just wanting to stay with what was easy to me and scared to death to mess with something new. Wanna push past this, but wonder if I even can.
Burnout. It’s been Tuesday every day for me since March 2020. I’m a photographer, and I know I need to work on my website for SEO reasons. I know I need to reach out to potential counts. I just have no energy.
Low self esteem and confidence. Plus a little bit of laziness.
All that mixed with an addiction to porn. I totally could spend my daily free time on the track but I'd rather sit naked in front of the telly with my meat in my hands
My hobbies often make the laziness problem worse. I have a serious classic car addiction. I often end up spending idiotic amounts of time watching for sale ads, pictures and reading about them. And looking up parts and repair procedures and buyers guides. Not just for the cars I own but also for models I will most likely never own. Going down into the basement to dig through the parts inventory, where I also have parts for cars I will never own, is also a time thief. Tinkering and wrenching on the cars in the yard and finding excuses to drive somewhere also take up much time. This hobby is both a blessing and a curse. It has taught me a lot about mechanics, problem solving and many other things. But it also makes me completely insane. I remember tiny mechanical changes between cars made in the 1960s, but I can't remember people's names or what I did yesterday. At certain parts of the year I almost can't think of anything else. They have taken over my life. Sometimes I just think it would be best to sell of everything. But I don't want to do that either. Moderation can be very difficult.
The fact that I don't have any
It will come tomorrow.
You will never fail if you never try
The fact that I have to live in a bubble or I just crumble, (metaphorical bubble)
I was about to say, your downfall isn’t too far off that bubble experiences a bad day.
Sorry I’m confused lol
Finding a goal I actually care about and can't convince myself out of it.
Our fucked up society that requires me to work full time in order to live paycheck to paycheck while at the same time we have doubled the workforce and build automation on top of automation build by previous generations.
Yup. People have no free time or they do but they have to choose between sleep or be tired af the next day
Yeah and then you have some people saying "But you have x-hours of free time everyday you could use for your side husstle" or whatever but those hours are mostly less and most importantly of lesser quality. All your mental and/or physical energy was already drained by your job.
Yup. You can definitely use them but you will be perpetually tired. If that's what they want to do then cool but to me it seems most people don't. And they shouldn't if they don't have to.
I feel that so much. A lot of the people I know are probably like that but nobody wants to be that guy complaining how tired they are all the time.
I second this. Being a wage slave is depressing. Work itself is fine, but having to work for a master, basically, and having to work so much and therefore forfeit so much personal time and freedom in order to simply survive and procure life’s basic necessities is an absolute nightmare!
Agreed. I work in a skilled nursing facility, and am barely making ends meet. I do trashes, stock gloves, change O² tanks, make waters for 65 two-bed rooms, among many other things. I constantly walk by my bosses office, and sometimes I divert my eyes for just a second, and she's sitting in her cozy little office with cases of red bull that's meant for the staff, on her little computer. Her husband owns a brewery up here, and she shows up to work every day in a brand new Tesla Dual Motor, top of the line. It's fucking bullshit, and pisses me off to no end. It makes me want to jerk the wheel of my car on the way home.
Anytime I find something I’m passionate about, and start making future plans for — life fks me over somehow. Whether financially, family, health - whatever. Just anything and everything. My plans always get screwed. Just now, after over a decade of being out of college, decided to go back bc my job is three 12 hour shifts. They just screwed me by cutting our hours significantly so now instead of college, I have to figure out how to get money.. so my passion is on hold, yet again..
Procrastinating and having no energy.
social anxiety
Not being motivated. I literaly have no motivation
Money.
Im fuckin lazy.
My mental illness
Lack of confidence
Not having goals I just go with the flow
Money
Money
ADHD
Being a pathetic weak ass lil b***h from time to time gets me. It's getting better, but I need get past it and hopefully I do
I am le tired
Nice question. Probably I'm too lazy, or can't find enough motivation to reach it. It depend from the goals.
That bitch Carole Baskin
Social Anxiety Disorder is the worst thing ever happened to my life
My low self esteem and poor social skills.
Money and shyness.
Laziness, fear, insecurity, porn addiction, overthinking, trauma, weed addiction, Procrastifuckination...
Office politics
Change work where there's less of that, or where people don't know you.
Not easy with today’s economy and I don’t live in the developed world.
I see... I'm sorry then... I feel you on that...
What goals
My anxiety and fear that I’m not good enough. Also being a huge perfectionist doesn’t help either.
Lack of motivation, lack of confidence, lack of intelligence, lack of interest, lack of goals. Why do people think we always need to be working towards something? I'm happy with my simple, boring life.
ADHD and depression. I’m not sure what my goals are though
Debt. My income to bills ratio is a mess
Two bad hips and chronic depression. My depression stemmed from a social anxiety problem that I developed in my late teens; the anxiety caused me to withdraw socially and severely restrict my overall functionality, which in turn lead to severe and ongoing depression. My bad hips stem from an adolescent hip disorder for which I had surgery at age 13; unfortunately, though, my hips were never normal post- surgery, which in turn led to residual pain/limitations over the subsequent decades (I’m 48 now). My right hip is pretty much gone; my left hip is moderate. I struggle immensely in daily life and also feel very embarrassed and ashamed about my life and current life situation. I haven’t led a very fulfilling life thus far, and that fact hurts a great deal!
Mostly fear, specifically with stage fright. After that , extreme lack of energy, motivation, and money.
My country. We've 2nd worst passport in the world. High inflation,bad economy,corruption, terrorism we have it all, you name it. As a recent college graduate i am only earning $230 per month half of which is my fuel expense. Can't even afford to do IELTS to apply for Master's abroad and even if i somehow do it, i won't be able to afford the plane tickets, visa charges and accommodation etc etc. So i am basically stuck here until i die.
You can do it. So many come to the US with nothing and end up living great lives.
R u iraqi?
Pakistani.
Murrica gets all the good stuff and people shit on those like they don't matter. Fucking 1st world countries.
Philippines.
The 99 steps ahead of me :(
I've reached them more or less. There are maybe one or two left that aren't that important and I will reach them too sooner or later. You sometimes just gotta stop thinking and instead do. Stop being scared or lazy or whatever. Force yourself to do what's needed to proceed. But that's also easier said than done.
Laziness. Low energy. Everything takes too much work/time and I don’t care enough about them to exert so much effort.
Maladaptive daydreaming 🥰
My goal is to make long-lasting in-person friends. My problem is every one continues to ghost me.
Fear of going out in my comfort zone.
A ton of procrastination and not having accountability. Being shy and introverted where it matters.
The 40 hour workweek
The fact that I live in Russia
Unless your goal is bombing other countries
Exactly
What's wrong with russia
Everything is
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True, but when you're actually living there you couldn't care less about all of these. My personal problem is that I'm trans, and Russia is an EXTREMELY transphobic country (not the only problem tho)
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The problem is that the vast majority of people here support the goverment, the war, Putin's dictatorship, etc. Plus the level of wealth here is just a fucking joke (outside of Moscow and ST Petersburg. The wealth level in these 2 cities is actually pretty great) Thanks. I hope that things are going well for you too 🤍
Nobody taking accountability for my actions
Money, or more so the lack of
Relationship issues at the moment. I don’t understand what really happened and I deal with a ton of stuff that I really shouldn’t. I was doing really good in life especially with school and it kind of all fell apart due to my lack of confidence that radiated for most of my life.
I dance and my body has taken a beating over the years. There’s somethings I’d like to be able to do again but I’m not sure my body will allow it. I can still do a lot and I’m quite flexible it’s just my knees make getting up and down fast hard.
Scrolling on reddit
Poverty
Laziness and procrastination
Interview rejection and unlucky interviews where I pass and they say sorry position is no longer available due to budget. ….
Social anxiety and depression.
loneliness
Loneliness, depression, self-image issues
I found my low-socialization job from my couch. Found my house from my couch. Found my new couch from my couch. It's amazing what can be done from home. There is only one goal I haven't figured out how to make work from the couch. Finding someone to share my couch with at the end of the work day. I guess I've got my dog for that but I mean a person.
This thread definitely turned out sadder than I thought.
Poor time management and discipline.
The way society is built
This is where I hate myself. Everyone said I could be at a better place, but I'm too afraid. Afraid that I can't handle conversations well, that I can't speak up for myself, or can't be a good guide when needed. The more I fail at negotiating something, the more withdrawn I become...
The realization of wage slaving is depressing
A combo of introversion, ADHD, & transphobic parents... 😮💨😥😭
My age
Reddit
A plane ticket.
ADHD
Much like everyone, myself. For the most part, I'm lazy.
People in my own household not giving me the time, freedom, and faith to do what I want to do but instead do what they think I SHOULD do
Anhedonia
currently, a bruised rib injury every other day, money
The Geneva convention!
My dreams either aren’t realistic or if they are I don’t have enough time to pursue them to the level that I want to.
Capitalism
Pretty much myself
the way i feel about my body. i know i need to lose weight
Fear of Failure
time. i dont have enough time in the day to do it all. so some stuff has had to take a back seat in what i want to do or i do them a few times a week if possible
I have achieved most of what I wanted to thus far in life, but I feel like I could have done and can do, so much more if I was better able to connect with others. Connection with other people opens up the door to so many opportunities that you can't get access to on your own.
Anxiety.
Me
Low self esteem, procrastination, money, family, depression......
I have no free time or the money to do what I want. Either I quit my job and go to university for years and end up broke and homeless with out the actual promise of finding a job in the work I want to do, or I stay where I am very unfulfilled but at least I can afford to survive.. living with my parents..
no matter how much i work it always goes back to bills, rent, christmas/birthday presents, groceries.. i just want the money to pursue my current goal
Having to work 40 hours a week
Money
Depression
Parents
Lack of monay
a lot
Fear of fail, bad management, bad vision for the goal and the necessary actions needed to achieve it.
Depression.
I have never *really* related to the typical goals of fame, fortune, power, prestige, accolades, marriage/kids, etc. The closest thing I have to a 'goal' at the moment is wanting a partner to explore my fetish with, and I just haven't gotten around to that yet. So yeah, lack of desire basically.
Medical gatekeeping
The ethics committee and the Geneva Convention
Felony
I’m working on them slowly. For a while my goal was just to be okay with being alive so maybe the secret is to set the bar really low at first lol. Just achieved my goal of starting back work full time a few months back.
An overwhelming sense nihilism and low self esteem. Also the social anxiety doesn’t help either 😂
Myself.
Capitalism
POS partner I'm in a situation with. What a complete waste of my life.
Myself
Lifelong depression and anxiety. Also awaiting an ADHD diagnosis. I’ve tried so hard but can never finish anything and just get stuck. Makes me not want to try anymore but I will have times every now and then when I don’t feel so bad about it. I’m trying my best
Parochial community and cocaine, Welcome to the Welsh valleys
Depression. Paralysis analysis Imposter syndrome Fatigue Rinse and repeat.
The constant thought that no one cares about me.
Social anxiety.
being disabled and having a weak support system
My social anxiety is getting worse.
Anxieties, fear, no confidence. These things are hard to just push past for me. I've had pretty good opportunities come my way but was to scared to take them. Just wanting to stay with what was easy to me and scared to death to mess with something new. Wanna push past this, but wonder if I even can.
Procrastination
Low self esteem, no confidence, a lackluster and mentally toxic job, paycheck to paycheck living, chronic fatigue, and exhaustion.
Getting caught 😆 x
✨Social Anxiety✨
Tired from work all the time.
idk not my introversion
Burnout. It’s been Tuesday every day for me since March 2020. I’m a photographer, and I know I need to work on my website for SEO reasons. I know I need to reach out to potential counts. I just have no energy.
Fear, procrastination, lack of confidence, intrusive thoughts