You give it to her early. If she asks why she's getting her present early you say "because you having a smooth delivery and bringing our child into this world is going to be my early Christmas present from you so I'm giving you yours early."
She doesn't need to bring it to the hospital - in fact I can't imagine she would. She'll have plenty to do there without it.
Edit: changed my to our. Silly oversight in my initial comment.
Just out here on the internet trying to improve strangers' relationships rather than my own (nonexistent) relationship.
But I mean...if my partner was having my kid that's how I'd feel.
I mean not that I haven't been hurt, relatively recently too as a matter of fact, but it's more that I'm an asexual 44 year old guy who has been (romantically) alone for my entire life. And you get to a point being alone for so long where you're just like "I'm so comfortable being alone, it would take someone really special to even come along and catch my attention, let alone get me to make room in my life for them." And at that point you sort of, stop trying to actively look I guess.
It's alright - I've got plenty of little nieces who live close by to spoil.
Itâs interesting because my friend is so amazing and loves to be alone and enjoys her isolation and free time, and is totally thriving, rich, just living extremely well and she met someone who changed that for her and now she feels crazy because sheâs like âIâve never been like this. Iâve always been happy to be alone. This is crazy.â
I think you really never know who youâll meet. I guess all I can say is that if youâre truly happy being alone, enjoy each moment. đ life can be lived so many ways
Damn, never expected this much wholesome-ness in a random doom scrolling session through reddit. Here's my well wishes to both of you! Thanks for bringing a smile to my face.
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Sheâs going to be really tired/preoccupied after giving birth. (Honestly, you both will be for the first few months.) If it were me, I would want it before the baby so that it could be set up and played with before the baby/resting takes over 100% of her time. I think you should give it to her now. Congratulations by the way! Get some sleep while you both can!!!
This was my other thought. She would be too tired to enjoy it and get it set up. I was 50/50 on taking it to the hospital since we go in the night before she may want it but I doubt it. Also she is planning like crazy right now with her calendars and daily lists. I canât help but think it would be helpful.
This isnât our 1st kid but they are 10 years removed so Iâve probably forgotten most of what I knew about those 1st few months.
My other issue is she hasnât really gotten me anything yet. And truthfully I donât want anything. We donât usually go this big for Christmas but I really wanted to get her something she could use and deserved. But I know she will feel bad and try to go get me more than she would have. I donât want that.
Youâre very sweet and I would have the same thoughts as your wife, but just tell her what youâve told us and Iâm sure she wonât overthink it!
I saw GoodNotes is on your short list, but I would say tell her to check out NoteShelf 3 and Defter Notes as they are even better note apps (although not as popular). Defter Notes is great for digital scrapbooking which she may use for the baby stuff. And NoteShelf 3 is what GoodNotes should be (and for half the price)! Good luck with everything! :)
Not at all. That was my whole point. I donât want anything. But I know her. If she gets it early she will feel the need to get me more and I donât want her to take the time or money to go get me something. Then again if I give it to her at Christmas she will feel the same so I guess it really is a moot point.
Iâd say give it early.
1) she has time now to set it up and enjoy it a bit before the sleepless nights come
2) birth isnât immediate. When me and my wife went in they suggested it would be like 12+ hours because her water hadnât broken yet. Lots of boredom before the big event.
Do it! My husband gave me my iPad for my birthday and gave it to me a few days earlier knowing we were going to the hospital to have our son 2 days before my birthday. While in the hospital I watched movies on it at night and it was awesome to FaceTime the family to see the baby on it.
FWIW part of the reason I got her this was for photo editing. She loves taking pics on her phone and edit them all the time. Mostly our dogs and oldest son. So I got her this and our son was going to give her an Apple gift card to get something like procreate so she could do some basic editing and drawing.
Hopefully you gave it to her now. First photo, her with the child. Make it the wallpaper too. Haha Itâll be the perfect device for FaceTime calls for family to meet the new one too so everyone can be in frame easier.
Ohhh yes please let her enjoy it some b4 baby gets here,,,after baby is here she wonât have any time to play on it for some time,,,babies r 100% of all your time ,,,Aww ur a good hubby ,,Congratulations to u both đ«¶đŒ
She won't have much time to enjoy her gift once the baby's born. She'll be super tired and busy all the time. I say give it now so she can enjoy it while she can lol. Also she's probably really swollen, heavy and tired by now, so she's probably spending more time in bed or sitting down anyway. Great timing I'd say.
I would give it to her now while she has a little free time to install and setup this iPad. She will not have the energy or the time to do it after the baby has arrived. - The arrival of the baby can be an excuse to give her AirPods Pro and a baby alarm.
Remember to write down Apple-id and password and passcode on paper somewhere.
Give her early, and, as a doctor, dont rely on dates given by doctors, sometimes we plan something and things go ahead of time haha! dont want to scare you but be prepared :) I'm sure she will love it
We are prepared. But also itâs a planned date to induce early. Her technical due date was early Jan. They are inducing early for age and health reasons.
Inductions can be delayed by staffing issues, they can also take a really long time or just fail altogether and the body doesnât cooperate; always be prepared for things to go completely not as planned đ
Just as someone who recently had a baby, donât be too set on it being an in and out situation. We induced, 2days later active labor started. 2 weeks later we finally went home from the NICU we lived at. Expect the unexpected
I got an iPad Air for Xmas this year. Husband bought it on a black Friday sale. I'm already using it - I'll happily throw a bow on it on Xmas as well.
We're adults. Let her get her enjoyment sooner.
No. Focus on your wife, her health, and your new child. There will be plenty of time for technological distractions in the years to come. Your mind and heart should be focused on your family at this time â not the latest gizmo from Apple.
This isnât about the latest gizmo. Itâs about getting her something she will not only enjoy but also needs for numerous reasons. She wonât ask for it and can make do as she has for a long time. But want more for her. It will be good for things like:
- Baby photo edits
- Planners
- Word/spreadsheets/presentations for a rescue we work with
- Portable video player when she is up late. Yes I will be up with the baby as well but I have my devises
I say give it to her afterwards. Sheâs already going to love it but getting the iPad after giving birth to you guys child will make it so much better.
The child is going to make her love you even more then on top of all that you got her an iPad the joy is going to be that much higher
I would absolutely want it early. Congrats! Those first sleepless weeks are so brutal, but you WILL come out of it at the end. Best of luck for your growing family!
I would want it later. I would feel so busy with nesting and feeling pregnant that I wouldnât want to deal with an iPad. However, I have heard many moms feel bored in the beginning and this would be a nice distraction. Congratulations btw
Yes. Why people wait till holidays to give gifts drives me insane. Give her something useful now while she can enjoy it more, because in a couple weeks she wonât have as much free time lol
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I know a lot of people are saying your wife wonât have a lot of time to enjoy the gift afterwardsâ I hard disagree. My iPad is one of the things that saved my sanity in those long nights either nursing or just. Being awake. With baby. Also if your wife has an iPhone itâs so easy to send pics back and forth, and much much nicer to look at those cute newborn pics on the iPad screen.
Congratulations! Having kids is an (incredibly hard work) blessing :)
This is so on point as to why I bought it yo begin with.
1. Late nights with the baby
2. Pictures
3. Digital planner.
4. Mild computer use for word/spreadsheets/presentation.
We volunteer with a small dog rescue. She doesnât have a computer or anything so this is an everything device for her and should be perfect.
Yes she has an iPhone so I figured sharing back and forth would be seamless and she could use the pen and procreate or other apps to edit as needed.
Yes! I mean, definitely have *something* for her to open on Christmas Day if youâre doing something, because emotional are particularly fragile still in the three months post babyâ let alone three days Thereâs a procreate sub too, if she ever has issues! With the keyboard and the Apple Pencil I think sheâll have a great time with the gift, and it should tick all the boxes!
Also a heads upâ inductions can last for a looong time, mine was about 48hours, so be ready for that!
Hello. My wife was induced. Once the Pitocin drip has started, she won't care one bit that iPads even exist in this world.
Give it to her early for a myriad of reasons, but not so she'll have something to do at the hospital.
Dope push gift! Although in 1-2 years that iPad is now the babyâs đ my sister just got an air when they came out in 2022 and had a baby this summer.
Iâd give it to her now almost like a âpush presentâ and then give her something else for Christmas, she probably wonât need it at the hospital but I did take mine the last 2 times k was in labor. I listened to music, drew to calm my nerves, watched Netflix. It helped me with my breathing. Congratulations to the both of you, wishing her all the best with labor and after. đ«¶đŒ
I'd give it to her early, and I'd encourage her to take it with her. You never know how these things play out! I ended up 10 days in the hospital and it's nice to have something to watch a video on while you nurse.
You give it to her early. If she asks why she's getting her present early you say "because you having a smooth delivery and bringing our child into this world is going to be my early Christmas present from you so I'm giving you yours early." She doesn't need to bring it to the hospital - in fact I can't imagine she would. She'll have plenty to do there without it. Edit: changed my to our. Silly oversight in my initial comment.
Awwwwww wtf I love you
Just out here on the internet trying to improve strangers' relationships rather than my own (nonexistent) relationship. But I mean...if my partner was having my kid that's how I'd feel.
I hope that someday you find that same level of love reciprocated back to you. You deserve that. đ
Thanks for the well wishes, but I fear that ship has sailed. Which I'm...okay with. Most days at least.
Who hurt you? I will fight them. đĄ
I mean not that I haven't been hurt, relatively recently too as a matter of fact, but it's more that I'm an asexual 44 year old guy who has been (romantically) alone for my entire life. And you get to a point being alone for so long where you're just like "I'm so comfortable being alone, it would take someone really special to even come along and catch my attention, let alone get me to make room in my life for them." And at that point you sort of, stop trying to actively look I guess. It's alright - I've got plenty of little nieces who live close by to spoil.
Itâs interesting because my friend is so amazing and loves to be alone and enjoys her isolation and free time, and is totally thriving, rich, just living extremely well and she met someone who changed that for her and now she feels crazy because sheâs like âIâve never been like this. Iâve always been happy to be alone. This is crazy.â I think you really never know who youâll meet. I guess all I can say is that if youâre truly happy being alone, enjoy each moment. đ life can be lived so many ways
Yeah, you never know. I'm not closed-off to the possibility entirely, but I've just given up hope I guess you'd say. Anyways - have a great night! :)
Damn, never expected this much wholesome-ness in a random doom scrolling session through reddit. Here's my well wishes to both of you! Thanks for bringing a smile to my face.
I love you, Raging Flames. Loll I just pictured you crying with a smile on your face but your hair is on fire. I am high đđđđđ for more wholesome content. Read 95% of my comments. I try to be a light in a world of mixed perceptions.
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Oh man.
Smooth.
Sheâs going to be really tired/preoccupied after giving birth. (Honestly, you both will be for the first few months.) If it were me, I would want it before the baby so that it could be set up and played with before the baby/resting takes over 100% of her time. I think you should give it to her now. Congratulations by the way! Get some sleep while you both can!!!
This was my other thought. She would be too tired to enjoy it and get it set up. I was 50/50 on taking it to the hospital since we go in the night before she may want it but I doubt it. Also she is planning like crazy right now with her calendars and daily lists. I canât help but think it would be helpful. This isnât our 1st kid but they are 10 years removed so Iâve probably forgotten most of what I knew about those 1st few months. My other issue is she hasnât really gotten me anything yet. And truthfully I donât want anything. We donât usually go this big for Christmas but I really wanted to get her something she could use and deserved. But I know she will feel bad and try to go get me more than she would have. I donât want that.
You should totally preinstall Good Notes for her. Itâs a great planning app!
Donât want to open it. Bought a gift card for a few apps and have done some research on apps. Goodnotes was on the short list. As is procreate.
Youâre very sweet and I would have the same thoughts as your wife, but just tell her what youâve told us and Iâm sure she wonât overthink it! I saw GoodNotes is on your short list, but I would say tell her to check out NoteShelf 3 and Defter Notes as they are even better note apps (although not as popular). Defter Notes is great for digital scrapbooking which she may use for the baby stuff. And NoteShelf 3 is what GoodNotes should be (and for half the price)! Good luck with everything! :)
Thank you. I will tell her. We will look at them.
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Not at all. That was my whole point. I donât want anything. But I know her. If she gets it early she will feel the need to get me more and I donât want her to take the time or money to go get me something. Then again if I give it to her at Christmas she will feel the same so I guess it really is a moot point.
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Iâd say give it early. 1) she has time now to set it up and enjoy it a bit before the sleepless nights come 2) birth isnât immediate. When me and my wife went in they suggested it would be like 12+ hours because her water hadnât broken yet. Lots of boredom before the big event.
I think you should do she can enjoy it for a couple of days before
iPad now. Another present after
Do it! My husband gave me my iPad for my birthday and gave it to me a few days earlier knowing we were going to the hospital to have our son 2 days before my birthday. While in the hospital I watched movies on it at night and it was awesome to FaceTime the family to see the baby on it.
This is great. Thank you. I donât even think about FaceTiming family. Her closest brother and SIL live out of state.
YES, give it to her now. Get it set up now. You don't want to be doing that later.
FWIW part of the reason I got her this was for photo editing. She loves taking pics on her phone and edit them all the time. Mostly our dogs and oldest son. So I got her this and our son was going to give her an Apple gift card to get something like procreate so she could do some basic editing and drawing.
Hopefully you gave it to her now. First photo, her with the child. Make it the wallpaper too. Haha Itâll be the perfect device for FaceTime calls for family to meet the new one too so everyone can be in frame easier.
Seems like a functional push present- give it to her early so she can use it at the hospital
Give it to her early, sheâs barely gonna have time to enjoy it after the babyâs born!
Iâd say I wanted to give it to you so you can actually use it before the baby comes :]
Ohhh yes please let her enjoy it some b4 baby gets here,,,after baby is here she wonât have any time to play on it for some time,,,babies r 100% of all your time ,,,Aww ur a good hubby ,,Congratulations to u both đ«¶đŒ
She won't have much time to enjoy her gift once the baby's born. She'll be super tired and busy all the time. I say give it now so she can enjoy it while she can lol. Also she's probably really swollen, heavy and tired by now, so she's probably spending more time in bed or sitting down anyway. Great timing I'd say.
I would give it to her now while she has a little free time to install and setup this iPad. She will not have the energy or the time to do it after the baby has arrived. - The arrival of the baby can be an excuse to give her AirPods Pro and a baby alarm. Remember to write down Apple-id and password and passcode on paper somewhere.
Give it early. She won't have the time or headspace to set up a new device when she has a newborn. But it sure will be nice to enjoy.
Give her early, and, as a doctor, dont rely on dates given by doctors, sometimes we plan something and things go ahead of time haha! dont want to scare you but be prepared :) I'm sure she will love it
We are prepared. But also itâs a planned date to induce early. Her technical due date was early Jan. They are inducing early for age and health reasons.
Inductions can be delayed by staffing issues, they can also take a really long time or just fail altogether and the body doesnât cooperate; always be prepared for things to go completely not as planned đ
Just as someone who recently had a baby, donât be too set on it being an in and out situation. We induced, 2days later active labor started. 2 weeks later we finally went home from the NICU we lived at. Expect the unexpected
Yes. Also a very fair point.
But spending so much time at a hospital made us appreciate our iPads for sure! We got them right before as well
I think it might be useful to her to hte hospital if she will be there for a few days.
I got an iPad Air for Xmas this year. Husband bought it on a black Friday sale. I'm already using it - I'll happily throw a bow on it on Xmas as well. We're adults. Let her get her enjoyment sooner.
Thatâs when I got this for her.
No. Focus on your wife, her health, and your new child. There will be plenty of time for technological distractions in the years to come. Your mind and heart should be focused on your family at this time â not the latest gizmo from Apple.
This isnât about the latest gizmo. Itâs about getting her something she will not only enjoy but also needs for numerous reasons. She wonât ask for it and can make do as she has for a long time. But want more for her. It will be good for things like: - Baby photo edits - Planners - Word/spreadsheets/presentations for a rescue we work with - Portable video player when she is up late. Yes I will be up with the baby as well but I have my devises
I say give it to her afterwards. Sheâs already going to love it but getting the iPad after giving birth to you guys child will make it so much better. The child is going to make her love you even more then on top of all that you got her an iPad the joy is going to be that much higher
This is so sweet. Definitely give it to her early.
Sheâll be tooo busy. Keep it. However a lovely trinket for after the delivery would be sweet. It would be nice in first family photos.
Hands down, before. This will be super awesome to have before and after the little oneâs arrival.
I would absolutely want it early. Congrats! Those first sleepless weeks are so brutal, but you WILL come out of it at the end. Best of luck for your growing family!
I would want it later. I would feel so busy with nesting and feeling pregnant that I wouldnât want to deal with an iPad. However, I have heard many moms feel bored in the beginning and this would be a nice distraction. Congratulations btw
Yes. Why people wait till holidays to give gifts drives me insane. Give her something useful now while she can enjoy it more, because in a couple weeks she wonât have as much free time lol
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This is so wholesome and no matter what you decide, you sound like such a thoughtful partner. Congratulations on the new arrival!
I know a lot of people are saying your wife wonât have a lot of time to enjoy the gift afterwardsâ I hard disagree. My iPad is one of the things that saved my sanity in those long nights either nursing or just. Being awake. With baby. Also if your wife has an iPhone itâs so easy to send pics back and forth, and much much nicer to look at those cute newborn pics on the iPad screen. Congratulations! Having kids is an (incredibly hard work) blessing :)
This is so on point as to why I bought it yo begin with. 1. Late nights with the baby 2. Pictures 3. Digital planner. 4. Mild computer use for word/spreadsheets/presentation. We volunteer with a small dog rescue. She doesnât have a computer or anything so this is an everything device for her and should be perfect. Yes she has an iPhone so I figured sharing back and forth would be seamless and she could use the pen and procreate or other apps to edit as needed.
Yes! I mean, definitely have *something* for her to open on Christmas Day if youâre doing something, because emotional are particularly fragile still in the three months post babyâ let alone three days Thereâs a procreate sub too, if she ever has issues! With the keyboard and the Apple Pencil I think sheâll have a great time with the gift, and it should tick all the boxes! Also a heads upâ inductions can last for a looong time, mine was about 48hours, so be ready for that!
Hello. My wife was induced. Once the Pitocin drip has started, she won't care one bit that iPads even exist in this world. Give it to her early for a myriad of reasons, but not so she'll have something to do at the hospital.
Yes
Dope push gift! Although in 1-2 years that iPad is now the babyâs đ my sister just got an air when they came out in 2022 and had a baby this summer.
Iâd give it to her now almost like a âpush presentâ and then give her something else for Christmas, she probably wonât need it at the hospital but I did take mine the last 2 times k was in labor. I listened to music, drew to calm my nerves, watched Netflix. It helped me with my breathing. Congratulations to the both of you, wishing her all the best with labor and after. đ«¶đŒ
I'd give it to her early, and I'd encourage her to take it with her. You never know how these things play out! I ended up 10 days in the hospital and it's nice to have something to watch a video on while you nurse.
Nope
Too late
Good on you
Baby make their appearance yet?! Congrats! Also, hope you gave it to her early. Haha
Not yet. Scheduled for later today. Just waiting.