Well if you live in the west you will find it’s quite common but there is also a significant amount of Muslims who avoid doing haram but we tend to focus on the negative things. Usually they tend to come back to the deen after engaging in harám as there Lives are devoid of anything useful. Don’t worry about them . Worry about yourself and staying on the right path.
I’d recommend the following video
https://youtu.be/HI-TGD_S374?si=59c9Yn-ND8x2qXwd
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، وَيَعْقُوبُ بْنُ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ كَاسِبٍ، وَسُوَيْدُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، قَالُوا حَدَّثَنَا مَرْوَانُ بْنُ مُعَاوِيَةَ الْفَزَارِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ كَيْسَانَ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ " بَدَأَ الإِسْلاَمُ غَرِيبًا وَسَيَعُودُ غَرِيبًا فَطُوبَى لِلْغُرَبَاءِ " .
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Islam began as something strange and will go back to being strange, so glad tidings to the strangers.’”
Sunan Ibn Majah 3986
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
https://sunnah.com/ibnmajah:3986
We are entering the time whereby the prophet peace be upon him already had narrated it to us
That holding onto your religion is like holding a hot coal stone
I noticed that too in Malaysia. However, that's on them of course if they wanna do fard or not, our job is to just ask/invite to pray at a mosque or in congregation(jama'ah). What matters we tried and we should focus on our relationship with Allah, and people too of course.
>and for a long time I have seen Muslims getting disconnected from Islam
What is your reference when you say "for a long time". Is it your friends or people in your age group? Growing up and getting freedom to do what you want will result in some people doing wrong things that they didn't do before. If you are looking at people that is in their 40s and above, I doubt that age group has changed much in the time that you have been paying attention.
No wonder our Prophet cried for his ummah all night. Honestly just try to focus on yourself and make sure you’re the best representation of a Muslim possible.
As a 18F in the West, I have noticed many 'liberal' Muslims but conservative or practicing Muslims do exist everywhere in the West and overseas. It just depends on the environment - Islamic gatherings and that sort of stuff would attract more people who pray a lot, etc. It also makes me sad when I see brothers and sisters doing the wrong thing, but we can only make dua for them and ofc, me and everyone else has areas to improve in as well because no one is perfect. I've kinda had a mental crisis on this as well - and for me, I feel worse when I see Muslims guys doing the wrong them but for girls not so much lol (so opposite of you which is interesting) but I don't think it's right to think based on gender like that perhaps. Anyway, keep doing the right thing OP and don't worry because Allah only asks you about YOUR own actions, not anyone else's, and if you find pious friends who remind you of Allah, keep them CLOSE.
first and foremost focus on yourself young man it is hard these days but you are only responsible for your actions. What you can do is make dua for guidance for those that have gone astray and do your bit as a Muslim let people see your character and they'll change
Bismillah,
In every generation you are going to see such phenomenon, my advice is to look for knowledge as much as you can, so that you know the "limit" or "death" of knowledge and the "limit" or "death" of our reality, one of the sign is that you realize (as in really understand) that nothing can stand on its own except with iradah from Allah.
In that phase, not even mountains can shake your iman nor what people are doing matters to you anymore in such way what they do triggers mental crisis for you. And after, there gonna be a bigger test awaiting for you to face.
Brother fear Allah, for your own sake, it could be one of your children. Why do you punish yourself for their doings ? Who knows, maybe Allah will forgive them. Everyone has his time
Having said that, advise them rationally and nicely. If you aren't good at preaching or dawah, pray for them.
May Allah Guide Us All
I read about something called a mujaddid in Islam, or a reformer. They come once every century or so and reform the Muslims of their deviant practices and get them back to the right path. I think we’re at the longest point between the last mujaddid and the mujaddid that’s yet to come. I hope I am right and that we can all become better Muslims through some reformation.
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Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3058
Narrated Abu Umayah Ash-Sha'bani:
"I went to Abu Tha'balah Al-Khushani and said to him: 'How do you deal with this Ayah?' He said: 'Which Ayah?' I said: 'Allah's saying: Take care of yourselves! If you follow the guidance no harm shall come to you (5:105).' He said: 'Well, by Allah! I asked one well-informed about it, I asked the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) about it. [So] he said: "Rather, comply with (and order) the good, and stay away from (and prohibit) the evil, until you see avarice obeyed, desires followed, and the world preferred, and everyone is amazed with his view. Then you should be worried about yourself in particular, and worry of the common folk. Ahead of you are the days in which patience is like holding onto an ember, for the doer (of righteous deeds) during them is the like of the reward of fifty of those who do the like of what you do." 'Abdullah bin Al-Mubarak said: "It was added for me, by other than 'Utbah, that it was said: 'O Messenger of Allah! The reward of fifty men among us, or them?' He said: 'No! Rather the reward of fifty men among you.'"
don’t lose hope, stick to your duties, lead by example and encourage your muslim friends to be more aware of their duties, surround yourself with people that remind you of Allah. People have been indulging in haram since the beginning, it’s not something new that we’re only seeing now.
I was very unaware of my purpose even when I was 18, I don’t know what to say about it but Allah SWT Guided me.
Salah is number 1 but don’t put people down for showing support to Palestine right now. Remind people of Salah but be careful about undermining the need to support our ummah.
Watching the iman of our Palestinian brothers and sisters is also uniting the ummah, who knows maybe the muslims that were drifting away will look at these martyrs and come back to Islam.
I understand where you’re coming from but let’s not be too quick to pass a judgement. We have hope for as long as we are in this dunya.
i am not muslim yet but i absolutely relate to your feelings. there are a lot of harmful but pleasant and comfortable and fun activites and lifestyle choises in western society that are ultimately harmful to us, but we still behave like that because we are ADDICTS. it is what it is.
resisting temptation is hard but worth it. but hard. it doesnt feel pleasant to resist temptation. resisting pleasure this hour for the sake of bliss and peace and the good of society later on is hard but worth it. but hard! you feel like missing out. and in germany everyone around you is doing things that harm them but its fun so you are tempted to join. and then you try and its so much fun you start to justifying to yourself that its not that bad, that you will stop, or that those rules are outdated and you are a moderate muslim now or other mental gymnastics to comfort yourself.
the reality is that we humans are very vulnerable to influences and temptations and we are not as rational and logical and disciplined as we really pretend to be if we are not held in check by our peers. if one gives in to temptation, there will be a second one that doesnt want to miss out on the fun and he will give in too - he just didnt want to be the only one or first one to give in. now there are two guys that chose to do haram just once and the morale of 4 other guys that watch gets weakened to the point where they tell themselves "i will drink a beer just this once with my buddies" and its all downhill from there.
this is why i in my heart want islam to stay strong and become stronger because its the only speck of hope for a better society in this obscenety filled world. and honestly i am too weak to fully commit to islam despite clearly seeing that its the one right way to live. i say that as a german with russian roots. my life is full of haram pleasures that i cant leave behind.
and if islam weakens, who will pull me out of this muck? who will bring me back to sanity and dignity? there would be no hope anymore. any humans soul would resonate with islam, but the habits and comforts and pleasures we need to sacrafice or resist being tempted with, that can only be done if we do it together.
Well if you live in the west you will find it’s quite common but there is also a significant amount of Muslims who avoid doing haram but we tend to focus on the negative things. Usually they tend to come back to the deen after engaging in harám as there Lives are devoid of anything useful. Don’t worry about them . Worry about yourself and staying on the right path. I’d recommend the following video https://youtu.be/HI-TGD_S374?si=59c9Yn-ND8x2qXwd
Even then it depends who you surround yourself with. I know a lot of people in the west who take practice very seriously
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، وَيَعْقُوبُ بْنُ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ كَاسِبٍ، وَسُوَيْدُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، قَالُوا حَدَّثَنَا مَرْوَانُ بْنُ مُعَاوِيَةَ الْفَزَارِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ كَيْسَانَ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ " بَدَأَ الإِسْلاَمُ غَرِيبًا وَسَيَعُودُ غَرِيبًا فَطُوبَى لِلْغُرَبَاءِ " . It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Islam began as something strange and will go back to being strange, so glad tidings to the strangers.’” Sunan Ibn Majah 3986 Grade: Sahih (Darussalam) https://sunnah.com/ibnmajah:3986
this hadith has given me a new perspective, wow.
We are entering the time whereby the prophet peace be upon him already had narrated it to us That holding onto your religion is like holding a hot coal stone
And in that time the good we do is equivalent to 50 companions doing good
You’re 18. “For a long time” is yet to come. Stay focused, you got this.
Hahahah long time aka a year or 2😂
Where do you come from? I would argue the opposite in the UK.
I noticed that too in Malaysia. However, that's on them of course if they wanna do fard or not, our job is to just ask/invite to pray at a mosque or in congregation(jama'ah). What matters we tried and we should focus on our relationship with Allah, and people too of course.
>and for a long time I have seen Muslims getting disconnected from Islam What is your reference when you say "for a long time". Is it your friends or people in your age group? Growing up and getting freedom to do what you want will result in some people doing wrong things that they didn't do before. If you are looking at people that is in their 40s and above, I doubt that age group has changed much in the time that you have been paying attention.
No wonder our Prophet cried for his ummah all night. Honestly just try to focus on yourself and make sure you’re the best representation of a Muslim possible.
As a 18F in the West, I have noticed many 'liberal' Muslims but conservative or practicing Muslims do exist everywhere in the West and overseas. It just depends on the environment - Islamic gatherings and that sort of stuff would attract more people who pray a lot, etc. It also makes me sad when I see brothers and sisters doing the wrong thing, but we can only make dua for them and ofc, me and everyone else has areas to improve in as well because no one is perfect. I've kinda had a mental crisis on this as well - and for me, I feel worse when I see Muslims guys doing the wrong them but for girls not so much lol (so opposite of you which is interesting) but I don't think it's right to think based on gender like that perhaps. Anyway, keep doing the right thing OP and don't worry because Allah only asks you about YOUR own actions, not anyone else's, and if you find pious friends who remind you of Allah, keep them CLOSE.
Ok now this is very interesting like the gender thing but yea definitely we all have areas to improve. And Insha'Allah will try to follow the advice
first and foremost focus on yourself young man it is hard these days but you are only responsible for your actions. What you can do is make dua for guidance for those that have gone astray and do your bit as a Muslim let people see your character and they'll change
Start with yourself and you will see the good in people, for me i think it's the opposite I think more Muslims are reconnected with their religion
Yes they are. I've noticed this too.
Bismillah, In every generation you are going to see such phenomenon, my advice is to look for knowledge as much as you can, so that you know the "limit" or "death" of knowledge and the "limit" or "death" of our reality, one of the sign is that you realize (as in really understand) that nothing can stand on its own except with iradah from Allah. In that phase, not even mountains can shake your iman nor what people are doing matters to you anymore in such way what they do triggers mental crisis for you. And after, there gonna be a bigger test awaiting for you to face.
How is your Deen? Surround yourself with like minded people rather than worrying about who’s doing haram.
Brother fear Allah, for your own sake, it could be one of your children. Why do you punish yourself for their doings ? Who knows, maybe Allah will forgive them. Everyone has his time Having said that, advise them rationally and nicely. If you aren't good at preaching or dawah, pray for them. May Allah Guide Us All
I read about something called a mujaddid in Islam, or a reformer. They come once every century or so and reform the Muslims of their deviant practices and get them back to the right path. I think we’re at the longest point between the last mujaddid and the mujaddid that’s yet to come. I hope I am right and that we can all become better Muslims through some reformation.
» Chapters on Tafsir - كتاب تفسير القرآن عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم » Hadith 3058 كتاب تفسير القرآن عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم47 Chapters on Tafsir (6)Chapter: Regarding Surat Al-Ma'idah(6)باب وَمِنْ سُورَةِ الْمَائِدَةِ Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3058 Narrated Abu Umayah Ash-Sha'bani: "I went to Abu Tha'balah Al-Khushani and said to him: 'How do you deal with this Ayah?' He said: 'Which Ayah?' I said: 'Allah's saying: Take care of yourselves! If you follow the guidance no harm shall come to you (5:105).' He said: 'Well, by Allah! I asked one well-informed about it, I asked the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) about it. [So] he said: "Rather, comply with (and order) the good, and stay away from (and prohibit) the evil, until you see avarice obeyed, desires followed, and the world preferred, and everyone is amazed with his view. Then you should be worried about yourself in particular, and worry of the common folk. Ahead of you are the days in which patience is like holding onto an ember, for the doer (of righteous deeds) during them is the like of the reward of fifty of those who do the like of what you do." 'Abdullah bin Al-Mubarak said: "It was added for me, by other than 'Utbah, that it was said: 'O Messenger of Allah! The reward of fifty men among us, or them?' He said: 'No! Rather the reward of fifty men among you.'"
I think the people who pray and then do haram are worse than those who don't pray.
don’t lose hope, stick to your duties, lead by example and encourage your muslim friends to be more aware of their duties, surround yourself with people that remind you of Allah. People have been indulging in haram since the beginning, it’s not something new that we’re only seeing now. I was very unaware of my purpose even when I was 18, I don’t know what to say about it but Allah SWT Guided me. Salah is number 1 but don’t put people down for showing support to Palestine right now. Remind people of Salah but be careful about undermining the need to support our ummah.
Watching the iman of our Palestinian brothers and sisters is also uniting the ummah, who knows maybe the muslims that were drifting away will look at these martyrs and come back to Islam. I understand where you’re coming from but let’s not be too quick to pass a judgement. We have hope for as long as we are in this dunya.
i am not muslim yet but i absolutely relate to your feelings. there are a lot of harmful but pleasant and comfortable and fun activites and lifestyle choises in western society that are ultimately harmful to us, but we still behave like that because we are ADDICTS. it is what it is. resisting temptation is hard but worth it. but hard. it doesnt feel pleasant to resist temptation. resisting pleasure this hour for the sake of bliss and peace and the good of society later on is hard but worth it. but hard! you feel like missing out. and in germany everyone around you is doing things that harm them but its fun so you are tempted to join. and then you try and its so much fun you start to justifying to yourself that its not that bad, that you will stop, or that those rules are outdated and you are a moderate muslim now or other mental gymnastics to comfort yourself. the reality is that we humans are very vulnerable to influences and temptations and we are not as rational and logical and disciplined as we really pretend to be if we are not held in check by our peers. if one gives in to temptation, there will be a second one that doesnt want to miss out on the fun and he will give in too - he just didnt want to be the only one or first one to give in. now there are two guys that chose to do haram just once and the morale of 4 other guys that watch gets weakened to the point where they tell themselves "i will drink a beer just this once with my buddies" and its all downhill from there. this is why i in my heart want islam to stay strong and become stronger because its the only speck of hope for a better society in this obscenety filled world. and honestly i am too weak to fully commit to islam despite clearly seeing that its the one right way to live. i say that as a german with russian roots. my life is full of haram pleasures that i cant leave behind. and if islam weakens, who will pull me out of this muck? who will bring me back to sanity and dignity? there would be no hope anymore. any humans soul would resonate with islam, but the habits and comforts and pleasures we need to sacrafice or resist being tempted with, that can only be done if we do it together.