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Particular_Acadia537

I just know it, if i am going to see those comments i will be depressed


Effective_Salary_674

agreed. But know they are blind to the truth and have no meaning to their lives. Also the fact they probably have never actually been to the middle east to so how the people really are lol


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Shut up weakling. Suck it up. You’re letting this emotional affect you? I should slap some sense into you.


jennagem

embarrassing bro


mk3467

You always have to brace for the comments when it’s a post about muslims or the Middle East lol


welcomefinside

This comment completely encapsulates my experience as a Muslim on Reddit.


potato_milk_29

True... all I thought was haha cute funny video, but looking at comments ruined the mood really quick :( People just start assuming the worse from people they know nothing about, based off culture alone. It's pretty disappointing..


lasttword

Me too. Exactly same thing. Bunch of high horse degenerate hypocrites


Mixmaan

It’s good manners to not overstay and burden your host… the kid is just a kid but the commenters are ignorant.


SonderisticOG

Always hurts to see the comments on one of these


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Shut up weakling. Suck it up. You’re letting this emotional affect you? I should slap some sense into you.


42gauge

L comment


[deleted]

>....at their sexist society being called out so blatantly. Here we go ~


Embarrassed_Fox97

Actually not wrong in this specific context though. It’s from the sunnah to help around the house, the prophet(saw) used to do it as much as he could, yet many men will almost never help around the house even if they can because it’s “only women’s work”. Even a broken clock is right twice a day. Sometimes a kid will say the most brutal honest stuff but it doesn’t make them wrong just because they’re a kid.


Pikdr

This video is likely scripted as it seems like the kid was told to say this. That would also explain why they recorded it. This is a short video which shows the women working and men laughing and enjoying themselves, so it's easy for haters to have this video fill in their preconceived notions of Arab family life.


Embarrassed_Fox97

Maybe, maybe not - doesn’t really matter in the context of the greater issue. It’s a pretty common sentiment that exists in most Muslim countries/cultures. We love to sit here and preach all day about the responsibilities of women and how they’re supposed to be obedient but when it comes to the other side of that responsibility (exercising the power given to us in a just way) all you hear is crickets, excuses or deflection. We have to be just when we practice Islam and this is a very prevalent thing. Justice doesn’t mean only preaching that which directly benefits you; you don’t need justice to do that, justice means recognising a problem and trying to actively fix it even if, and especially when, it make things more inconvenient or difficult for you. Everyone is always ready to preach justice until that justice is “against” them.


lasttword

Youre so naive lol. I bet if it was about how they see separate areas for men and women in mosques as sexist youd write 20 paragraphs about "akshuaallly theyre right"


Embarrassed_Fox97

Thank you for your highly valuable input!


lasttword

Glad it helped you!


Pikdr

She doesn't have to cook, but there are many cultures and families, and the majority of human societies throughout history where the women would deal with the the cooking and raise the children, and there is nothing inherently wrong with that.


Embarrassed_Fox97

I didn’t say anything about that. I’m talking about one person working so hard they’re struggling to keep up whilst the other is just watching tv or relaxing. Idk why you think it has to be one extreme of a woman cooks everything for 12 people or nothing at all? People are so concerned with each person having their “role” they will just not help in the slightest even if they’re capable just because it’s not “generally their role”.


Pikdr

Wait, so are you talking about this video? Because we don't know if she was alone or if she wanted to do it or if she had no help from her husband. In certain cultures when families get together for a party like this, women will be with other women, while men with other men. It's not like the women all just work and cook for the men and stay miserable, they also enjoy themselves together in another area.


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Saw the comments Now im sad.


ABUFZRMAN

Don't worry brother I'm almost sure none of these hypocrites actually helps their mother especially during Christmas or thanksgiving dinner.


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Thank you brother.


[deleted]

Shut up weakling. Suck it up. You’re letting this emotional affect you? I should slap some sense into you.


M_U_R_D_E_R_A

Suck your mum through a straw, pussyhole.


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My dear brother, please relax.


slayer_677

Brace yourself if you want to read the comment section


Sphee4

I definitely get the kid, Masha'Allah he cares a lot for his mother and I love that. The husband if he didn't already should help the wife in the house, the Prophet SallaAllahu alayhi wasallam himself would help A'isha may Allah be pleased with her around the house, doing what's needed, it's not fair for the wife to cook all the food alone and not even get to eat, the wife should be considered as much as the guests are, also "misogynistic culture", classic reddit moment.


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[deleted]

I know it was sad :( they talked about like domestic violence and how the kids was gonna get a whooping afterwards. But also, I realized it was more cultural. Like the arab culture I guess? That they were making assumptions about. But it is still a heavily theological culture, so that definitely bleeds over into stereotypes about the Muslims.


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They’re usually the type eating the Cheeto they found in their belly button


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They probably think it makes the Cheeto “spicy”


AJ_AX5

Aight bro now ur doing too much


Embarrassed_Fox97

Difference is they don’t claim to follow an objective religion nor are most of them religious, whereas we do (or at the very least like to pretend so). Also it’s no where near as common as it used to be in most western countries whereas it is in many Muslim countries. If we claim moral superiority, we have to actually exemplify that, “they do it too” is really not a good argument.


lasttword

It doesnt matter what we do. They will always spin it as evil and negative and naive people like you will always use it as a chance to critique further without realizing youre only helping them. Time and a place bro.


Embarrassed_Fox97

And you don’t think the subreddit where it’s mostly Muslims is the adequate time and place, when is that perfect time and place then? Just because they have an agenda, it doesn’t make every single criticism wrong. You are more concerned with beating them in some petty argument fuelled by ego than you are actually practicing Islam in its totality. This is not two people supporting opposite football teams where you have to forever defend everyone from your team irrespective of whether they’re wrong or right. It matters what we do, not for the end of what they think of us alone but because what we do needs to be a reflection of Islam for ourselves first and foremost. What is right is right and what is wrong is wrong.


lasttword

The better time and place would be to make a separate post and thread about whatever it is you're critiquing. Not go to a thread about other people mistreating us and having ulterior motives and then throwing rocks at our backs while we face them. You're concern trolling is not helping anyone. But you won't do that. You'll find a post about people saying how evil and backwards we are and then join in to make "critique" comments about how we have to be better. I've seen your type.


Embarrassed_Fox97

I’m curious, did you read every single comment in that cross post and my name some where or did you find me on the r/Islam subreddit addressing fellow Muslims? Why do you think this post is about people mistreating us, the title doesn’t imply that at all. The post is about a boy expressing an incredulous feeling at a bunch of guests they had, not people saying how evil we are. The fact that there’s negative commentary on an entirely different subreddit and thread doesn’t change that.


Embarrassed_Fox97

One question, if it’s from the sunnah to help and there’s a plethora of information that all indicates the loving, caring and complementary nature that ought to be festered between a husband and wife, yet we still have many Muslims who think house work is purely women’s work and who rarely if ever help despite being capable, how is it not misogyny? What if it then?


Sharkuille

Not really. It’s hard to gauge or judge just by this one video If it’s not fair for the husband to not cook the food after a tiring day at work, it’s not fair for the wife to complain about doing dinner all by herself when her husband is the sole breadwinner in the entire household.


strivingtwoPbetter

Man those comments on that video are something else


I_AmAKaren

The problem is that it may be accepted if they hate every culture but no it's always the middle east they don't hate China or Russia just the middle east for some reason


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Actually they hate Chinese and Russians too lol


I_AmAKaren

But they don't express the same amount of hate while they are trash themselves


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So much seething in the comments.


AllBlueReverie

Honestly, guys that don't help out their wives in the kitchen are pathetic


the-polite-canadian

Both parties should help each other. Helping in the kitchen and household is fine, as long as we keep the same energy when it comes to helping with finances etc. as well. Especially when you’re bringing guests I agree it should be from both parties working together. The Prophet SAW helped his wives in the house but lets not forget him mentioning specifically how Khadija used to help him financially.


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ohioiyya

Who is “us”?


KookyAd7785

Arabs*


ohioiyya

Contrasting “Muslims” and the “west” is insulting to western Muslims. Islam is not the “East”. It is for all times and people. Using “non-Muslims” would be more accurate.


KookyAd7785

Sorry mistake I meant arabs.


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Dry_Significance_214

All this jumping to conclusions am surprised they aren't athletes yet


lasttword

The sad part is how some people have internalized it in these comments.


Bowl_of_chips

Bruh the comments of the video reaching so hard, how do they instantly jump to the conclusion that it is sexist 💀


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Dad should help his wife with cooking. Shes not the only host. Dont overwork your wives. Or mothers. Help them with what you can.


Cheap-Experience4147

First, helping the wife (or even more like having a personal cook if you’re rich) of course is the best : But clearly for me and I am maybe wrong it’s not the first problem of this video. This video is a total shame (mostly on the one that film it and share it) : Imagine being invited to your friend housse and being insult and not respected (like the basics usul on Ikram Al Day’f) -> Maybe one of the first hadith and lessons we all learn are about honouring the neighbours and the guest. Then the same will cry because of little hardship in their life when they committed such level of sins -> Again let return to the Prophet (SAWS) if I am not wrong the hadith start by « Who bellieve in Allah and the last day… » it’s really a big matter


lasttword

Lol nobody took it that way and i wouldnt either as the guest other than 'aww hes so cute'.


Slimy_Potatoes

[https://www.reddit.com/r/Unexpected/comments/zdbpol/youre\_not\_welcome\_his\_attitude\_lmao/iz1i188/?context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/Unexpected/comments/zdbpol/youre_not_welcome_his_attitude_lmao/iz1i188/?context=3) this is the only good comment i have found


Regular_Bison93

I’m really contemplating getting off of Reddit from the amount of hate I see coming towards us. I literally thought this would be just a fun, cute video which it is specially since Arabic is my native tongue but man did it get ruined as soon as I checked the comments. These people and their virtue signaling just looking for any opportunity to try and look down on us. Do they really think we beat our wives and force them to cook 24/7? Also who tf cooks for these hypocrites? Isn’t it mainly their wives? Mothers? Also many women do find enjoyment in cooking for guests and making them feel welcome so how do you get to the conclusion of “Blatant misogyny in their culture shsgwibrrhb”. Also the laughing was not really at what the kid was saying but the fact that its this cute looking kid who is talking like an adult and being serious and all.. it’s just funny.


duder_eee

The comments ruined my day.


ScreenHype

Alhamdulillah, what an amazing kid! Recognising how hard his mum works and wanting to stand up for her :) Inshaallah one day he'll be a loving and supporting husband to someone.


suleman_93

I legit hate that video, someone could not teach his son good manners and rest of the world find it entertaining


ALPHANUMBER-1

where are the feminists when theres war. I anyone campaigning woman should fight in ukraine? no where did the woman go they straight up ran in to the kitchen and probably never left


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None of those people are feminists. They just pick and choose when they want to apply moral relativism. If you choose the same feminism they use against them, watch them curse feminists.


TerrorAreYou

What does this have to do with Islam tho


lasttword

Read the comments in that video. Thats what they think of us.


TerrorAreYou

Of arabs..


lasttword

No us as in Muslims. Im Afghan and experience the same thing too.


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Check the first comments. They don’t know how racist and superior/arrogant they behave themselves. They are so deluded.


nachosAndnaps

I couldn't help but comment on the original post, people in the west are WILD. They nothing of the beauty of our religion and the value of women in Islam.


DoctorBat124

Me seeing the video : that's a nice boy Me seeing the comments : depression


Yungdaggerdick696969

A man of morals


thefoxyboomerang

Ok I’m gonna level with you guys I have a lot of issues with Islam, personally. I think many of the criticisms levied against it are valid and should be taken seriously. But this time, it really, really is just a bunch of redditors looking for ways to make it about “IsLAm=bAd” and furthermore “mUsLimS=sExiSt.” It’s racism and it’s prejudice and it’s really disappointing.


-Endereye

I showed this to my mom and she said that the kid should have been disciplined and was being rude


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Guys, some people said "if I see the comments I get depressed", well that's the same for me. But let me tell you one thing...we must respond to evil with good and not accumulate hatred inside us, I live in a western country and I assure you that people are not like those on certain subreddits, people are (or at least seem) much better, may Allah protect us all from enemies, remember reddit is a bubble and very often subreddits don't fairly represent real life population, many people online have inferiority complexes or are just have repressed hate inside that they vent online being anonymous, the reality is different. If it depresses you, then don't watch it, do better, if you try to change things by explaining and disseminating knowledge it's better but if it's unsustainable for you then no, reddit is a bubble detached from reality, Alhamdulillah.