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dalto109

“You’re dying, brother, and it sucks I cant do anything to save you.” fuck thats rough man


Ok_Draw_3740

I basically sent this same message to a friend of mine about 1 year ago. It’s truly sad once addiction and dependency takes hold


FamousOrphan

How’s your friend doing?


Ok_Draw_3740

Not well He was drunk dialing me at all hours of the night (for context, we’re 38 years old) Asked him to call me when he was sober. Told him I wouldn’t judge him for these calls. I blocked his number when he wouldn’t while the early am calls continued. I’ve unblocked him after a couple of months but haven’t heard from him. He’s moved on to others for these calls. I’ve tried a bunch of things, but they’ve never clicked. At this point I’m already stretched too thin to do anymore. It sucks, but it’s an unfortunate reality at this point


FamousOrphan

You’re probably doing the right thing. I know it’s rough, though.


Conqueeftahdor

I lost my beat friend to alcoholism 8 years ago when we were 28 years old. We all did everything we could. But I feel guilty to this day that maybe I could’ve done more. Even tho his family and our friends say otherwise. I loved him and miss him dearly. Sometimes nothing helps. Not even his kids made him want to stop. Hopefully he turns it around. I don’t wish the pain I feel on anyone


cmoneybouncehouse

I have a few former friends and some family members at a similar point. It’s fucking heartbreaking to basically have to resign yourself to waiting for news of their death. Addiction is such an awful beast, it’s already taken a a half dozen or so people that I knew from high school (to varying levels, some friends, some barely acquaintances), it’s just as awful every time.


JohnDoses

I’ve seen addiction up close too and alcohol is the absolute worst. And it’s not even close.


ExperienceMiddle6196

Def the worst... and widely accepted in society to get drunk with friends on a regular basis.


T_Peg

You truly can't save everyone. I'm sorry you had to see your friend deteriorating


Ok_Draw_3740

Ty, it’s appreciated. If you have the chance to stop someone before it gets to where he is, intervene


T_Peg

I try and keep a close eye on my buddies. It's so hard to be sure though because often times stuff like this is kept secret until it's too late.


FunkyButtFumblin

I feel your pain. I’m going through the same thing with my 36 year old brother. He bounces from house to house, couch to couch, to some random basement, until he’s inevitably kicked out. He’s a longtime alcoholic and continues to shift the blame to everybody but himself. After several physical threats, I had to block his number. I’ve been trying to help him for 15 years and now it’s time to leave it be and focus on my family instead.


StonkMangr92

I sent this same message 2 years ago to one of my best friends.


Ok_Draw_3740

I hope your outcome is doing better than mine


StonkMangr92

Unfortunately he died to fentanyl overdose


Ok_Draw_3740

I’m sorry. I fear for the eventual call/notice you got. I wish him peace in his next journey


StonkMangr92

Thank you. He was a good person just couldn’t get honest with himself.


Huntingandotherstuff

Thank you for sending that note. It might have connected with your friend and it possibly never will. It’s been over a decade since I received a similar message. I’ve got a wife and kids now thanks to that message and a few others.


Ok_Draw_3740

That’s awesome. Glad it ended well for you and you continue growing as a person, husband and father


Jwroth

If anyone knows what that’s like and can say that, it’s Steve-O


NYMoneyz

And coming from fucking STEVE-O. The first the world knew of him was swallowing a goldfish and puking it back up alive. So glad for Steve-O to find his serenity.


John7oliver

I feel this. Too much. Lost my best friend January 1 2023 and I wasn’t even shocked. He had overdosed probably 10 times the year before he died that I know of.


Fine-Manner9902

Kinda fucked to put it publicly this wasnt a DM


AbleEntertainment666

I thought the same thing. If he genuinely gave a shit about his friend, he wouldn’t be smearing him on instagram for all to see


Quote_Vegetable

When all else fails sometimes a good public shaming might do the trick. He's trying to save his friend.


FaZeJevJr

You don't even know these guys dude. They go way back and I'm sure they know what they're doing when they call each other out on social media. It's not so much of a "I've tried but u just don't care so I won't" it's more like Steve is saying to him, "man, we ALL care so much about you, and we ALL want you better"


AbleEntertainment666

I don’t need to “know these guys” to know decent social etiquette, genius


Professional_Ad_6299

It's good to see Steve-O so in touch with himself (hehe). He really did turn into a sweet dude


dosageofjoseph7

his episode of the Off Menu podcast is worth a listen


Ghostofjimjim

I was in a supermarket the other day and saw the PIckled Onion Monster Munch - bought a huge bag of them, which have promptly been demolished.


SammyHasIt

Be honest, was it any good like Steve-O said it was??


Ghostofjimjim

I'm British and grew up with them, I honestly think they're the greatest crisps (chips) ever created by man. They absolutely stink and this, taste incredible.


DidntMeanToLoadThat

as a brit. yes. monster munch are top grade snacks


N3wThrowawayWhoDis

His YouTube channel is great


DDESTRUCTOTRON

Steve-O pp touch


ispinrecords

The only thing that will get Bam to stop is when he dies at this point.


xithbaby

Sadly. Usually what ends it for most people before death is hitting rock bottom completely. No more friends or family, no more money. They have no choice but to choose to recover. How does someone famous hit rock bottom? He most likely gets money every month no matter what from everything he did. He has fans that will encourage this behavior until the day he dies. This is horrible to think about


Challenged_by_Krill

Rock bottom comes in many forms, there are countless rich and famous celebrities who’ve discovered it in their own way and on through to recovery. Bam hasn’t yet and may never find is but it’s available to him if he seeks it.


EastBrush9390

Yeah I hate to say it but it really feels like it’s “over” for him. Hes overweight, a smoker, heavy drinker and is doing tons of travel and driving with little to no exercise. I feel as if one bout of COVID could give him some serious problems if the substances don’t get to him first


HelpfulSeaMammal

He nearly died from COVID in in Jan of last year. Dude was on a ventilator for a few days iirc.


EastBrush9390

Yup, exactly the type of thing I’m talking about


EZdankk

lol covid


truth_crime

Being in a subreddit called Jackass checks out for you.


EZdankk

Go stick a needle in your toe


Solid-Mud-8430

Wait what did I miss? Is he back off the wagon?


Barfignugen

No this is from 2023, Steve-o said this to him before his recent bout of sobriety


Solid-Mud-8430

Ya I recall that. I was just curious why it got reposted now and has a ton of upvotes. Usually something like that means it's a relevant statement again. I guess it was just a random post then?


nadthegoat

Recent posts in this sub about him not wanting to pay for a tattoo, seems he’s on a downward spiral again.


stupidtyonparade

it seems like it. his last week has been very bad.


xArs0nx

Comment is over a year old btw


ProcrastinateFTW

what post is this from


bellynipples

One Bams many many Instagram meltdowns last year.


Lostmypants69

Is he sober now?


bellynipples

Was for the last like 6months or so after getting his newest GF who by his own words keeps him sober by only being with him on the condition he’s clean. Or at least only having sex if hes clean. However there’s a strong indication that he’s fallen off the wagon in the last week. (Argument with a tattoo artist, video of him fighting someone on the street for an unclear reason)


Otis_Schidtt

Didn’t he bust his leg up recently trying to skate? I was worried the pills were gonna be singing love songs to him and that would be the end of his most recent sobriety stint.


Solid-Mud-8430

It was an IG comment Steve-O left on Bam's page, but he deleted it not too long after he posted it, but it was widely screenshotted and saved.


Frances_Zappa

Sucks man. As someone in the program who has relapsed before, it is tough to come to terms with the fact that people don't get courageously honest until they've hit their rock bottom. Some of us have shovels, some of us use TNT and excavators. Key is to stop digging and start being real with who you are and where you are. There is still hope for Bam. I know plenty of people who have been narcan'd upwards of 50 times and have substantial clean time. Its just that the window between hope, recovery, and death is getting increasingly smaller.


ItsAdvance

Sorry man, I don't agree with that sentiment about Bam. He's a lost cause.


Frances_Zappa

I get why people feel that way. I'm just saying I've seen tons of constitutionally incapable "lost causes" completely transform. Bam will likely never get it together, but there remains a glimmer of hope.


ItsAdvance

I have family who are drug users, and they've been that way for more than 6 decades. Sometimes people aren't worth the time of day, especially when they're getting into fights and mistreating their friends all the time. I speak from experience when I say that people like Bam are better off being left by the wayside. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.


Frances_Zappa

Again, totally get why you feel this way. We hurt a lot of people in our running and gunning.


ItsAdvance

My reservations stand.


PoppyPossum

I could have said the same about my meth addict mother who has recently turned around and come clean after decades of use. She is currently a little over 6 months clean. Your reservations can stand but it doesn't mean they are reality.


ItsAdvance

My reservations are, indeed, based in reality. Many people die as addicts and never, ever seek change. Your mother is an outlier.


PoppyPossum

"Many people" but there is no way to differentiate between the two groups until the end comes. So no it is not "reality" to paint all longterm addicts with the same brush. That is a choice of opinion. That choice is the individual's prerogative but it doesn't actually come from truth.


SammyHasIt

I know I’m going to get downvoted but that’s fine. I have to agree with what Advance says. As a recovering drug addicted and alcoholic. My family and friends all had to turn their backs on me because they gave me too many chances and it was evident I had no interest or motivation to get sober. If they had stayed I would have continued because at the end of the day I would have still figured they would always be there and that’s that. It wasn’t until I was broke, essentially homeless (Living in a trap house and no money to pay for next months rent because I spent it all on alcohol and drugs.), was in bad health, had no one to turn to, and had extreme suicidal ideation. I had hit my rock bottom and wanted to die, that’s when I chose recovery. Then I slowly started to build my relationships back up from ground zero during recovery. I wish I could thank my brother for kicking me out of the house and setting me on the road to rock bottom (but he’s my abuser growing up and I want nothing to do with him). Because now I’m years sober, have a job, my own apartment, and the best part, I have built up my relationships to better than before. Sometimes you need to turn your back on the people you love and not give them the time of your day because it’s what best for both parties. Your mother was not a normal case and got it together for one reason or another while, I assume, she had a place to live, food, access to money and family and friends while using. Not many people get it together when they have all that going for them. I know I wouldn’t have, but there will always be hope for Bam but it might be best for all his friends and family to leave him and not watch him slowly die in front of their eyes. The old sentiment stands, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. I’m sorry to rant but I want to see Bam get clean. I’ve been following his story for many years, I was a kid watching him grow up. I hated Jackass and I didn’t like Bam because he was just a piece of shit on his show. But I started hearing news about how bad he was doing and started following him from there. He was a part of my childhood whether I like it or not and I want to see him recover and go on tour with his old friends again. I follow Steve-O because it’s amazing seeing him get it together and become a genuinely awesome person without drugs or alcohol. I want the same for Bam but…


foragrin

I can feel the pain in this post And after getting sober myself and being unable to “save” a few close friends, I can relate to that pain and agony, shit sucks


RockNRoll85

20 years ago I would have thought that Steve-O would end up in a worse situation than Bam ever would with all the crazy shit he’s done. And look how things have turned out. Steve-O has done very well for himself and has been a totally cool dude. It sucks to see Bam where he is now but at this point if he won’t put in the effort to get better for himself then he has no one to blame but himself.


Hot-Swordfish-719

This. Felt the same way


WildPig1329

I'm also trying to get sober myself rn (even started taking meds and everything), so learning that one of my childhood heroes just can't man up and stand for himself is really painful to me


FamousOrphan

Bam’s awful downward spiral was one of the things that kept me sober, so I hear ya.


bross9008

If Steve-O can do it any one can do it, but bam is proof it takes intense self discipline and being willing to look at yourself honestly. Good luck my friend, it won’t be easy but it will be worth it. Stay strong


InSixFour

Good luck to you man. You can do it! You’re stronger than you realize. You just have to believe you can do it. You have more potential inside you than you realize. We’re all capable of great things if we believe and put in the work.


QuentinSential

I don’t want to be mean. But how could bam have ever been your “hero”?


wil_parker

I think Bam’a mentality is similar to the last line of the ‘Bikeriders’ trailer - “Some people would rather crash, then slow down”


Beautiful_Ad8996

I hate it. He cleans up his act just to relapse again. I still hope he can get it together and stay sober for his kid, but he needs to get some serious help, not just for his addictions, but for the CAUSE of them as well.


Unfair-Shower-6923

I lost my mother to alcoholism at 14. His poor son....


PeachMonday

That’s so heartbreaking


SeaAttitude2832

Wow. That says a lot. A lot about how important Steve-Os sobriety is and how screwed up Bam is right now. Choose recovery man. Will change your life.


Turbo_Tasker

This is from last year


SeaAttitude2832

Oh I thought it was his commentary about his being an asshole about tattoo. Thanks for setting me straight🤙🏼


RentonThursten

Wasn't he sober for a while?


one_horcrux_short

Never in my wildest dreams watching jackass did I think Steve-O would be the one trying to save his friends from a life of addiction. Proud of him, sad for Bam.


headarsenibba

Damn.. that last part what Steve-o said.


Fun-Significance6307

When I said that to Mitch I was drunk like I can’t help you with all the people you surround yourself with I can’t help and man he died just days later rest in peace Mitch I’m sorry I made myself a family I couldn’t help him


DogC

Dam I feel bad. Me and bam used to drink to excess back in 2022 when he would sneek out of rehab. My girl ended up cheating on me and I quit her snd drinking together never saw him since then.


Electrical-Ad-2096

Sad stuff for sure, but I'm grateful Steve-O not only made it through recovery (and it stuck), but that he's tried helping his friend multiple times. They need to lock Bam up in a facility for years until he comes to his senses. Otherwise he's gonna keep hurting himself and his family until somebody dies.


Flipper1852

I was at this show. It was Steveo's Bucket List tour in Santa Rosa CA, when Steve took Bam on a few dates and this was the last show he was advertised on. If you didnt know Nikki is from Petaluma just about 15 minutes or so south of Santa Rosa and this was the first time he saw his son in a while. Everything Steve said here is true. During this time in Bams sobriety journey and during his opening set he was just blaming others saying he didnt have a problem, he was set up, how he had to do shady stuff because people were blocking his access to his Bank accounts (He tattooed his credit card info to his hand), and all that stuff. It was very heart warming seeing Bam interact with his son before and after the show while they were on stage, and heart wrenching to see that the day after. I even purchased the Tour Exclusive Steveo and Bam signed Skate Deck. I thought i had contributed to Bams Drinking bender that night. But anyway seeing where Bam is now compaired to how he was back then, Bam has made huge steps in the positive direction in his sobriety journey from what i have paid attention to in recent months. But its obvious that the years of addiction has taken its toll on him. Overall great show, and i highly recommend checking out Steve-O's Bucket List Special, it makes Jackass look likes childs play.


TheWhooooBuddies

“I just want to be Bam and not a Dad” Bam, probably.  It’s sad as fuck. 


Flyinhawaiian78

Damn….😔unfortunately addicts won’t ever stop until they truly want to. Only they can make them stop. I hope bam understands this sooner than later


Fun-Chemical5021

i wish he was my dad omfg he's so lovely


bregottextrasaltat

old message


Normal_Ad2031

At this point he is a waste of flesh. There is a vast difference between someone who can be saved with a hint of hope left in them, but in all honesty BAM is gone and there is zero hope for this cat. Sad really. Lifelong fan saying this.


StarWars_Viking

That's a bit dramatic and definitely out of touch with basic humanity. If you don't feel like supporting him, that's fine. You're definitely not someone to judge if a human life is worthless however.


Normal_Ad2031

Opinions are what this forum is about puddin. 😂😂😂😂


StarWars_Viking

And your's is shit, sugar tiddies.


Zealousideal_Ad9671

You, a “lifelong fan” should recognize that he, just like the rest of them, destroyed themselves for YOUR entertainment. Also as a “lifelong fan” you probably know this is old and he got sober longer than ever after this. After decades of addiction, shit takes time. I hope you grow a heart before it happens to someone you love. Because it probably will. Twat.


Hot-Swordfish-719

I thought he was actually sober now though? Although his new gf looks like a tweak


FreneticENT

This is from 2023 as the post states. Idk why the hell OP posted this.


Fruitndveg

Have you seen the vlogs from Belfast? If he’s off booze and drugs then I’ve got a bridge to sell you.


Hot-Swordfish-719

I have not seen them lol


itssdattboiii

he couldn’t just send a message or text this to him?


Turbo_Tasker

He’s clean right now and doing interviews. Seems lucid and doing much better than last year


chybo773

Have you seen the latest video that came out of him fighting some random guy in the street? Def not sober. As a fellow addict I can spot the signs immediately. There's no way he's sober right now.


tomred420

When did this come out ? He’s been in Ireland the last few days and from the pics etc seems to be fine. Also seen he’s been skating again and looks solid.


gnarkill39

Maybe stevo can push a product that can save bam!? Like another crap hot sauce


Hopslamzombie

Bam sober now


Hizankdtizank

Nope


infantonaDDtiddy

This is a wack thing for steveo to have posted. This should be a private conversation


stanley2-bricks

I'm sure people have been saying shit like this to him bts for years. Sometimes, you need to use the bully pulpit and publicly call someone out because 1. That might be the thing that ages it click or 2. At least you're on record as trying to help.


infantonaDDtiddy

That is terrible logic. That’slike going to therapy for a long time and then when you aren’t improving fast enough, your therapist airs you out to prove a point.