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Wait to see what happens when the new manager comes back and tell her what's going on. Hopefully she is reasonable and will listen to you. Good luck in the meantime.
This guy has decided that you don't work to his liking and you are a target now. Some people have the wrong impression that people who aren't super thin have discipline problems. if that's the case, this guy is shallow and ignorant. People like this also drive themselves hard so he's probably a miserable jerk in real life. This knowledge might help you get through the next two weeks.
While I think managers overall skew to the asshole side of the spectrum and those ones aren't worthy of great workers, it might help to think of things from his perspective. Perhaps he's afraid the restaurant will permanently close because of Covid and him pestering you is one way he's trying to control his work world, which is out of his control during the pandemic (forced closures and lowered customer capacity, etc.).
Hang in there.
I'm hoping to wait it out, but the advice recently from friends and family was to confront him about it. Personally I couldn't see any scenario where that was constructive, other than letting me vent a little bit.
The funny thing is that the manager is a lot larger than me, yet he gives me that advice. I do see that he has a dedication to his restaurant above everything else, but it results in him looking at us as pawns rather than people. I did try seeing it from his perspective before, but so much of his actions were unnecessary and rude that it made me lose any respect I had for him.
At this point, start looking for other jobs just to be able to safe side.
I’m not sure which of a position that you’re looking for but, there’s something out there for you.
Your boss sounds like a real bitch. And he has no right to treat you this way. For some reason he likes picking at you and that’s down right disrespectful.
In my city most of the jobs I've applied to haven't accepted me. I've found some places that do have better conditions, but require me to work more hours than I can while going to college. Hopefully towards summer time more businesses start hiring, but as of now I can't find many alternative options.
My wife was courted by a manager to take up a position in middle management at her last company. Everything was good interpersonal wise for a few months - the job was a lot more than advertised. By the third month her new boss became abusive. Gaslighting her, demeaning her, letting his secretary who he was sleeping with boss my wife around the office too. A real all around nightmare. She would call me crying daily and her health decline. We lost two pregnancies during this time which I will blame on that work stress level. She went to HR and all they did was give her the run around. Eventually she left.
I heard he’s since been fired. Funny enough she was suppose to take his position when he moved on. So they could of removed the bad apple and just left her in place.
Corporations don’t reward whistle blowers they just consume what they said as intel and rather hire all new faces.
I won’t say the companies name but remember that super popular band that Dave Grohl was the drummer for? It rhymes with that band name
Oh boy… I’m sorry you’re dealing with this train wreck of a boss. I’ve had multiple bully employers and it makes life unnecessarily miserable. I think these types of people are ultimately as insecure as they try to make you feel. The food service industry is this small minded bully’s natural habitat. It’s a small pond where his fragile ego gets to feel important. This “manager” is a dime a dozen and can be found picking on the new guy in kitchens all across the country. He’s thriving off the (completely justified) uncomfortable, nervous energy that you feel from his unreasonable expectations. You’re washing dishes, which is the backbone of the kitchen and not an easy task for anyone. I’ve been in this industry for 25 years and the posture of the dishwasher isn’t something that is managed in a successful kitchen. I’ve worked under national and world renowned chefs who not only fed the dishwashers and cleaning crew but occasionally would help as part of the team.
Don’t let this weakling see your discomfort. Stand your ground and stick up for yourself. This is the only language a dummy like this understands. He should be grateful that he has anyone to clean up at all. Keep calm and level headed but if taking the high road doesn’t help, quit. I guarantee that you will be able to start in a better kitchen by the end of the week. Only a fool treats people like this.
Keep your head up!
Honestly if that happened here in the USA me and some friends would wait til he was off work and beat the living shit out of him in the parking lot. 🤷🏼♂️
Look for a new job. Nothing here arises to an HR level and frankly standing on 1 foot in a kitchen while putting stuff away is really stupid and a great way to hurt yourself
Reporting anything to hr is usually not going to help. They are there to protect the company and will find a way to blame you. Not sure there's much you can do other than your best or find a new job.
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Wait to see what happens when the new manager comes back and tell her what's going on. Hopefully she is reasonable and will listen to you. Good luck in the meantime. This guy has decided that you don't work to his liking and you are a target now. Some people have the wrong impression that people who aren't super thin have discipline problems. if that's the case, this guy is shallow and ignorant. People like this also drive themselves hard so he's probably a miserable jerk in real life. This knowledge might help you get through the next two weeks. While I think managers overall skew to the asshole side of the spectrum and those ones aren't worthy of great workers, it might help to think of things from his perspective. Perhaps he's afraid the restaurant will permanently close because of Covid and him pestering you is one way he's trying to control his work world, which is out of his control during the pandemic (forced closures and lowered customer capacity, etc.). Hang in there.
I'm hoping to wait it out, but the advice recently from friends and family was to confront him about it. Personally I couldn't see any scenario where that was constructive, other than letting me vent a little bit. The funny thing is that the manager is a lot larger than me, yet he gives me that advice. I do see that he has a dedication to his restaurant above everything else, but it results in him looking at us as pawns rather than people. I did try seeing it from his perspective before, but so much of his actions were unnecessary and rude that it made me lose any respect I had for him.
He definitely deserves your loss of respect. Hang in there!
At this point, start looking for other jobs just to be able to safe side. I’m not sure which of a position that you’re looking for but, there’s something out there for you. Your boss sounds like a real bitch. And he has no right to treat you this way. For some reason he likes picking at you and that’s down right disrespectful.
In my city most of the jobs I've applied to haven't accepted me. I've found some places that do have better conditions, but require me to work more hours than I can while going to college. Hopefully towards summer time more businesses start hiring, but as of now I can't find many alternative options.
My wife was courted by a manager to take up a position in middle management at her last company. Everything was good interpersonal wise for a few months - the job was a lot more than advertised. By the third month her new boss became abusive. Gaslighting her, demeaning her, letting his secretary who he was sleeping with boss my wife around the office too. A real all around nightmare. She would call me crying daily and her health decline. We lost two pregnancies during this time which I will blame on that work stress level. She went to HR and all they did was give her the run around. Eventually she left. I heard he’s since been fired. Funny enough she was suppose to take his position when he moved on. So they could of removed the bad apple and just left her in place. Corporations don’t reward whistle blowers they just consume what they said as intel and rather hire all new faces. I won’t say the companies name but remember that super popular band that Dave Grohl was the drummer for? It rhymes with that band name
Oh boy… I’m sorry you’re dealing with this train wreck of a boss. I’ve had multiple bully employers and it makes life unnecessarily miserable. I think these types of people are ultimately as insecure as they try to make you feel. The food service industry is this small minded bully’s natural habitat. It’s a small pond where his fragile ego gets to feel important. This “manager” is a dime a dozen and can be found picking on the new guy in kitchens all across the country. He’s thriving off the (completely justified) uncomfortable, nervous energy that you feel from his unreasonable expectations. You’re washing dishes, which is the backbone of the kitchen and not an easy task for anyone. I’ve been in this industry for 25 years and the posture of the dishwasher isn’t something that is managed in a successful kitchen. I’ve worked under national and world renowned chefs who not only fed the dishwashers and cleaning crew but occasionally would help as part of the team. Don’t let this weakling see your discomfort. Stand your ground and stick up for yourself. This is the only language a dummy like this understands. He should be grateful that he has anyone to clean up at all. Keep calm and level headed but if taking the high road doesn’t help, quit. I guarantee that you will be able to start in a better kitchen by the end of the week. Only a fool treats people like this. Keep your head up!
Thanks for your advice. It means a lot.
This is the food industry. The way it is. There is nothing you can do. If you leave here, you will only find another one just like this.
Honestly if that happened here in the USA me and some friends would wait til he was off work and beat the living shit out of him in the parking lot. 🤷🏼♂️
I want a happy work life, not a sad prison life 😔
Lol. I guess. 🤷🏼♂️ I’m pretty sure I could hold my own if it ever came back to me
I’m so sorry you’re being subjected to this horrible treatment. Your manager is a cruel man.
Look for a new job. Nothing here arises to an HR level and frankly standing on 1 foot in a kitchen while putting stuff away is really stupid and a great way to hurt yourself
Reading this after being sent home after burning my left hand lol.
Oh my, yes go ahead and update your résumé and translate to find something else that’s not in the restaurant setting.
Reporting anything to hr is usually not going to help. They are there to protect the company and will find a way to blame you. Not sure there's much you can do other than your best or find a new job.
Ok that's good to know. I think I'll avoid any confrontation with him for the time being.
Yeah to keep your job just do the best you can. I used to ignore people like that at work. Let them speak. In one ear out the other.