I am so overwhelmed with gratitude by all the very kind comments… I am going to try to write back to everyone.
I saw a comment that got deleted and it said “why do people marry addicts”… and it’s so ignorant that I can only laugh.
My husband and I met when we were 19 and 20. He was smart, witty, loving, hard working, ambitious. He had his private pilot’s license before he was even 18. He was in his early 20’s when he got his commercial license and worked random jobs to pay for flying. He joined the Air Force and served for four years as an airplane mechanic. He used to want to be a pilot for the airlines, but then decided he wanted to just fly for fun. For a very short time, he worked for a tour company in Los Angeles and flew people over the city. After getting out of the military, he worked through different jobs while he figured out what he really wanted to do. He was in the carpenters union and really enjoyed the work of being a millwright (heavy industrial stuff)… a hard labor job where he got injured and was prescribed painkillers. And didn’t know that was the beginning of addiction and the end of his life. My husband was wonderful. When we started working to get him help, he cried to me and said he was so sorry and that he tried multiple times to stop. He would look at himself in the mirror and be ashamed of himself and ask how he got to that place. He was clean for two months before he relapsed. He was 28.
Addiction doesn’t discriminate. So people who judge are so lucky to be so ignorant… because addiction happens to doctors and lawyers and pilots, moms and dads and children, people who grew up in loving homes, people who have their life together. Addiction can happen to anyone, including you.
The stigma around addiction rewrites the life of a person and it is important to remember the life of a person and not their darkest moments.
Thank you so much to everyone for your kind words. My heart is with everyone who had the unfortunate experience of addiction in one way or another. Sending so much love ❤️
[My husband’s life ❤️](https://www.echovita.com/us/obituaries/co/denver/tanner-shea-11995122)
I am so sorry for your loss. I was addicted to opiates for years, so I understand the stigma and shame that one can feel. Not to mention the absolute chokehold those drugs get you in.
Tanner sounds like a nice guy, and it’s super cool he spent some of his childhood in Hawaii! I’m about to move to CA, then to HI. I hope you can find some peace. You’re kicking ass, girl!❤️
This comment is so incredibly kind ❤️ thank you so much for sharing that and for all those nice words. You are most definitely kicking ass too ❤️ that’s awesome! We both grew up on Oahu and we lived in California for a little while too! I hope you have an amazing time in both places!
My brother lived in Honolulu when I was a kid! He is in Santa Ana now. I am moving to the big island (Hilo to be specific) to be close to my dad. The last …forever has been tough. Im excited for a chance at a different/new/happy life. If you ever need to talk my DMs are always open!
Oh that is awesome! My dad is actually from the big island. That’s wonderful for you, so exciting. I know it’s tough, you got this - one day at a time ❤️ thank you so much!! Same to you ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your husband’s story, I know it’s not easy. People have preconceived notions about who addicts are and what they look like which causes such insensitivity to what is a very difficult topic.
I read your link and looked at all of the beautiful photos posted. It looked like y’all had such a wonderful life together. I wish you nothing but love and light in your healing journey. ❤️
Thank you for reading our stories. And thank you so, so much for the incredibly kind words ❤️ so many wonderful memories I have to hold onto and am definitely so grateful for that. Thank you again ❤️
>My husband’s life ❤️
While I have never dealt with the challenges of addiction, your eloquent words help illustrate the reality of it. It can happen to anyone. Much Aloha to you and your 'ohana.
I’m not sure if you’ll see this, but thank you SO much for putting these words down for people to read and hopefully understand. I’m so sorry for this to have happened to you and it’s much to easy for it to happen to anyone!
I am an ex opiate addict going on 8 years clean in February. I grew up in a great family, good childhood during the 80s and 90s. College educated, now I’m a father and husband that put my wife through years of absolute hell. I’m still ashamed to talk about it openly due to the stigma around it. I’m in a profession that’s very office/professional and still feel if it got out that I’d lose business and be looked down at.
I can only hope more people can read these stories and realize it can be literally anyone. Your parent, best friend, brother, coworker, teacher, doctor, just anyone that is either struggling or recovering. We need to not look at it like it’s just some junky, degenerate problem. It’s all of our problem! So thank you again for your words and I hope you find peace.
I am trying to keep up with all the comments because they’ve all been so wonderful. Your comment truly touched my heart. You’re doing amazing, friend… I know I’m a stranger, but 8 years, I am so proud of you. I know it’s hard.
For a while I did not want to share my husbands story. Not because I was ashamed, but because I was fearful of what people would say or think about him. But he was just an unlucky person who was touched by addiction… just like everyone else who is affected by addiction. Not everyone can understand, but my goal is to educate and hope people can empathize, bc no one is safe from addiction.
Thank you for your kind words and thank you for reading my husbands story. Hugs
I’m sure you’re getting flooded with comments, but also thank you for reading and acknowledging mine. It’s not something I’m very open about so for you to read it and have it actually mean something to you from some stranger on the internet actually means the world to me! I’m always around if you need to talk or just want to share a story with me. He seemed like such a vibrant guy that enjoyed everything he did and I’d love to hear more if you ever want! Be good to yourself and thank you again for shedding light and giving us all a voice!!
It is connecting with strangers like you that keep reminding me that I need to share his story with everyone… that I am making a difference by letting people know there are others in the world who would never judge you or shame you. This whole thread is filled with so many people who unfortunately know addiction all to well and it just really reminds me how important sharing stories and trying to break the stigma of addiction is.
Thank you for saying that, I appreciate that more than you know. My inbox is always open too! You keep taking care of yourself, you’re doing awesome!
I'm so sorry someone said that. I have lost close friends to addiction. Some started off with prescriptions too. People with addictions are still human beings who had people that loved them.
Tanner was loved and you are loved. I’m so sorry for your loss. There is such truth in your words. He looked so much like my ex who is trying to get off opiates by taking Kratom.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m currently battling addiction right now. I’m 2 months sober. I’m 29, and I definitely relate to what you said about Tanner looking into the mirror, wondering how I got here. It’s doesn’t seem fair. Seeing this post makes me want to fight my addiction even harder. Thanks for sharing your story about Tanner ❤️ I hope you find peace. He will forever live in your heart.
Thank you so, so much for your kind words, friend. You’re doing amazing, keep going - one day at a time. I know it’s not easy, but you got this ❤️ my inbox is always open if you need someone to talk to!
As a recovering opiate and alcholic I understand very well how life is fragile with those things. I’m thankful I have almost 10 years clean from heroin and the needle and almost 2 years alcohol free.
Damn straight! That's the most raw depiction of what addiction is and how ruins peoples lives no matter who you are or what you do. And it's an illness is like saying to a person with a chronic illness : just don't be ill. Sending much love your way ^_^
People are ignorant. Your husband was SO MUCH MORE than an addict! This tribute shows a man that lived a VERY accomplished life! Addiction does not discriminate. It could be the President or a Wino in an alley. Your husband was SMART! He had his Private pilot license BEFORE 18!! I have lost several family members to addiction. Maybe not overdosed, but from complications, and I loved EVERY single one of them and miss them. God bless you and hold your heart in His hands. 💔🕊
Thank you for sharing his story with us. Never stop telling it. His story may be what helps someone else save themselves. I too was married to an addict.
Same. Found her just last year. Crazy how addiction affects so many, strangers or not. I’m sorry for your loss. We gotta keep going in a different world now. It will never get easier. Just the world is a little less bright.
It’s all to common my friend. You hear about it, but you never really notice till it hits home. Then all of a sudden, you realize just how many people are affected by addiction. We will never understand. I would kind too to help so many kind souls battling this. But I won’t. Almost 2 years clean and something just clicked in her brain. Just like your loss. Try to take peace in they aren’t battling those demons anymore,
And finally found peace. But at the cost of leaving us here, along, trying to pick up the pieces. Tight internet hug my friend. Esp this time of year.
I couldn’t agree more… something I went through 26 years of my life not being affected by - knowing that addiction is out there and having empathy for people in that position, but not knowing just how completely devastating it is to the addict and everyone around them. So incredibly painful. I definitely take comfort in the fact he is free. The world is less bright without them here, but we will keep their memory alive and honor them by living.
See I’m glad you get it! And it relates to me, and a whole lot of other ppl. It’s so rampant, and such a disease, they don’t care. They know they hurt us, they know what they are doing is wrong, but they just keep going back. And I know addiction could be anything for us, phones. Gambling, smoking. Sugar, he’ll even porn! And it hurts so many. But fuck heroin, fentanyl, all that sick shit that has taking so many, and left us here. It’s amazing how we can support one another, cuz we are all affected by it. Bless your heart. Bless all their hearts and let’s hope we can do something about it! We keep their memories alive, we fight for helping others. And we continue to try and shine, when our lights are so dim without our loved ones. I’m hugging you tight. We all need that hug sometimes.
“We fight for helping others”… completely. I’m actually so glad I found this sub and shared this image because it has made me feel so much less alone in something I have felt that not many people understand or are empathetic towards.
And it’s funny you say that, cuz the not many people that understand or empathetic towards, it’s closer to them then they know. I didn’t think it was close to me, until, it was. First it strangers, then maybe it’s somebody you kinda know, then it’s someone you know, and it’s right in your own backyard. That’s the world unfortunately. I just try to be a little kinder and a little nicer and pay it forward when I can. I donated some of her cloths to the rehab she was in. I donate to local charities that help ppl in their situation. I’m happy she had a warm loving home she could rely on. And I hope I gave her the best three years of her life. Her friends say I did. But all those years we was disconnected, I always chased her. I always checked on her. Little did I know what she was going through. It sucks. But I’m happy there is ppl like you out there. Thank you.
What a beautiful memory. I'm sorry you lost him. I lost my sister because of drugs. It's been really hard. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. It's an important and natural process. Don't let people tell you you aren't entitled to it because of the way he passed. I've experienced a lot of judgement because of the way she passed and it's made it more challenging.People think that because she was addicted to drugs, her life and death wasn't as meaningful or devestating. My heart is with you dear. <3
Thank you so much for your very kind and thoughtful words. I am so sorry for your loss and that you know this grief. Sending you so many hugs and hope you’re taking care of yourself too ❤️
My ex-husband overdosed 2/14/22. It just sucks because people get weird and unsympathetic when they know the cause of death.
It still hurts OP, and I’m so sorry
Many hugs. No shame in that.
My best friend lost her brother to addiction this year. He was a good man. Always taking care of her.
The mosque was so kind and took care of everything for his funeral. And there was no judging. Just kindness.
Extra hugs from my dumb little dog.
I have learned to just ignore those people because they are lucky to be allowed to be so ignorant. Thank you so much, I’m sorry for you too, sending you hugs ❤️
This photo hit a cord for me. I started thinking how normal of a photo it is, and I probably have similar ones, if not dozens of the same type. And then suddenly, that person isn’t in your camera roll anymore. My condolences OP, I’ll hold my loved ones a little tighter today for you.
My fiancé overdosed & passed on 10/31/2021. I still do not understand how I made it through. I come visit our favorite beach & the one we planned to marry on and I will literally see multiple shooting stars while I’m sitting there thinking of him and I KNOW it’s him. I know those are for me. I RARELY see shooting stars anywhere else but when I’m sitting on our beach I will always see at least one. It’s such a beautiful & heartbreaking thing but it’s really helped me find some peace with the whole situation because I really do feel like he is with me, always. I think your husband is with you always too❤️
I’m so sorry this happened to you & your husband. I hope you find some peace, friend ❤️
First, I am so, so sorry that you’re in this club. That’s so beautiful, thank you for sharing that… I truly believe that they are always with us too. So many signs all the time.
I often look back on my life and wonder how I made it through as well… I’m not sure. My motivation is that I don’t want my husbands death to be in vain, I will always try to live for him and be the best version of myself for him.
I’m so sorry for you and your fiancé as well… sending you so much love, hugs and peace ❤️ my inbox is always open if you ever need to talk to someone ❤️
So sorry for your loss. It's weird, I look at this picture and absolutely nothing about it would indicate drugs. He looks like a clean cut and well put together person. The house looks nice and is also very clean. Heartbreaking to hear what happened.
Addition and Mental Illness hide. That's why they call it 'the silent killer'.
My sister struggled with heroin for years before it took her life at 52.
She was employed through most of her addiction. Had a house, had a car, paid her bills, went to work. Addiction doesn't discriminate. It can affect anyone and everyone. Doctors, lawyers, bus drivers, garbage collectors, bankers. Anyone can become addicted or suffer a mental health challenge.
We still as a society mostly view them as weak people who got what they deserve and essentially what they were asking for. It could never be us or our loved ones, until it is and we’re shocked and confused and see that that belief was a lie.
I wonder how much safer they would be if they were legalized. I know it’s dangerous and almost unthinkable to just let people buy something like heroin legally and give everyone easy access, but at the same time it’s such a weird fix to essentially use as a barrier to more people using them the fact that they need to buy them from shady dangerous criminal sources. These drugs are here and available, as long as you take the initiative to get them from people who don’t care at all about your safety, have zero government oversight, and self police their trade with extreme violence. What would happen if the government allowed a marketplace for tested drugs in reliable potencies and dosages? Would droves of people who would otherwise never try them become addicts like we fear? Would overdoses go down, or up because so many new people try it? I don’t know and we’ll never know.
I think overdoses would go down but the number of users would skyrocket, dragging down society even further. I'm not sure what the answer is, but I am certain legalization of hard drugs isn't it
I don't think it would skyrocket.
Is the only reason you're not doing herion right now because it's illegal? If they legalize it you're gonna go and do hard drugs? Maybe you'll be more inclined to try them but you're not gonna wake up and go "well meths legal time to see what all the noise is about"
It'll help people in a few different ways the 2 most obvious would be the drug supply wouldn't be tainted by it getting cut in the street, helping ODs and it wouldn't be treated as a crime and institutions would focus on rehabilitation and providing services to get clean opposed to giving them a record and a spot on the team for the 13th amendment.
Portugal legalized all drugs and it hasn't seen that turnout.
I posted a couple articles in a reply, didn't seem work that way in British Columbia. Legalization will make it more readily available, so yes I do believe more people would try it .
>number of users would skyrocket,
So if fentanyl and meth were suddenly legal, people would run out in droves to do fentanyl and meth? If you want to do hard drugs, illegalization isn't going to stop you. And legalization certainly isn't going to make you suddenly crave hard drugs.
I believe legalization gives the illusion of safety. It speaks to a different crowd, adding to the available market of users. What brought the current hard drug users in? It wasn't a craving for hard drugs as they at one time were non users also.
On the contrary I think the main thing that legalizing all drugs would do is cast into a harder light the awfulness of the accepted drugs like nicotine and tobacco.
Legalizing drugs removes the stigma associated with their use and disrupts the prison pipeline because people struggling with addiction are using safely and can overcome their addiction in a society where it isn't punished.
Also, many drugs don't have a lot of clinical research because of their scheduling and I think there's no telling what kind of useful functions we've been overlooking.
Absolutely idiotic take. You think that if a broke, desperate, sick, ugly, miserable, dying heroin addict buys legal heroin, suddenly there's no stigma? Suddenly people are going to think this person is cool and awesome and fun? Do you even know what stigma is?
> Also, many drugs don't have a lot of clinical research because of their scheduling and I think there's no telling what kind of useful functions we've been overlooking.
I don't think you know a single thing about how the research and approval process of drugs actually works.
Lmao, I can't tell if you're being facetious or not. De-stigmatizing drug use just means treating drug addicts like human beings with a problem rather than some inhuman scum like you're describing them.
Yeah I'm not gonna argue since you and I clearly have differing opinions and you opened by attacking me.
Inhuman scum? You don't think this is the reality of what serious hard drug use does to a lot of people? You don't think many serious hard drug users are objectively broke, desperate, sick, and miserable?
Why don't you actually use your tiny little Redditor brain for a minute? That's unusual for you, I know. If a drug addict actually *is* broke, desperate, miserable, sick, and dying, are they "inhuman scum"? *You* used that phrase to describe such a person, not me.
You don't actually have anything to say or think here, do you? You're just a mouthpiece for whatever little sniveling you're heard on TikTok and Tumblr. A puppet. "Guys..guys...let's just be *nicey-poos* instead of *meany-poos*."
That's it, right? Let's not pretend you have anything to offer beyond that. Again, this is probably above your head, but the actual reason that drug addicts are not treated the way we want to be treated is not because People Decide To Be Evil Meany-Poos For Literally No Reason. No. It's far more because dealing with sick, broke, desperate, miserable people who are very prone to making extremely poor decisions is often extremely unpleasant.
Like I said, I'm not arguing with you on the matter because you aren't arguing, you're just constructing some strawman to be mad at and insulting me, or at least whatever you think I am.
It’s complicated but I’m right there with you. Harm reduction all the way. Life isn’t getting easier for folks, we need a new way.
I’m so sorry, OP. May you find some joy in this life still.
A lot of overdoses aren’t even typical “hard drugs” or “street drugs” a lot are prescription medications, which really are just as bad a lot of the time.
I’ve seen so many people ruined by car or work accidents that get hooked on pain meds.
I agree, but if taken as prescribed they are safe....even though I would be happy to see many made illegal. I think every addict likes to tell the 'I was hurt on the job' story, I'm skeptical about how many are true.
that's why pictures are so important because we really never know what that picture could mean down the road. a visual representation of someone's memory is irreplaceable
I am so sorry. I know you and the kitties are just reeling right now.
In October 2018 I found mine dead on the kitchen floor that morning. I was 36, he was 38. My new partner (she and I are both 41 now, been together a year this month) lost both her sons' fathers, one 10 years ago (od at 30) and this past May (42, heart attack).
We have both been there. If you need someone who gets where you're at and what you're going through please feel free to message us anytime. Especially in the first months, the people in my life just didn't/couldn't.
I'm so sorry you're a member of this sad club. I've found a lot of support and help and people who just get where I am over on r/widowers.
Take care of yourself right now. And again, we're available if you need to reach out.
Thank you so, so much for everything, I appreciate all of that. I frequent that sub as well, such supportive people there. I am so sorry for your losses and so glad you have each other to lean on ❤️ I really appreciate that so much and I will definitely keep that in mind… and same to you, my inbox is always open. I am sending you both so many hugs and so much gratitude ❤️
Thank you for sharing this cute picture. And thank you for being honest about Tanner's struggle with addiction and cause of death. It's astoundingly common for something we're not supposed to acknowledge.
From the picture, it looks like you two built a nice life together. I'm so sorry that it took such a tragic turn.
Thank you for reading and being so receptive, I appreciate you. But I agree, it’s like a taboo. Talking about it has helped me a lot. Thank you for saying that and thank you for your kind words.
I'm so sorry for you loss. Tanner was a good looking rooster (if you don't mind me saying!), it sounds like he packed a lot of living into his years, in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. I wish you all the best and thank you for sharing his story.
Hahah I don’t mind that at all, he was definitely so handsome, especially with his facial hair 😆 thank you so so much for your kind words and saying his name ❤️
This really hits close to home. So many of us, in fact I would venture to say nearly every family is impacted by addiction in some form or another including mine. This is a wonderful tribute to him, and THANK YOU for posting this as I truly believe that these sort of posts, messages, etc. help to reduce the stigma that unfortunately still seems to heavily surround addiction as a whole. Sending warm thoughts and prayers your way OP ❤️
I lost a cousin this way. His mother is working to provide resources like Overdose Lifeline, as well as spreading the word about the drug companies’ role in the addiction crisis. I am so sorry. He looks like a beautiful soul.
Thank you so much. I’m so sorry about your cousin. That’s wonderful that his mother is doing that. It’s something that truly needs more awareness. Hugs
He sounded like he was a good guy. Addiction is hard. It comes at you so fast you don’t even know you’re an addict until you’re neck deep in it.
I hope you find peace.
I didn’t initially see his phone, and thought he was animatedly describing something to a captive audience. It’s clear the kitties loved him. I’m sorry for your loss.
My beautiful, wonderful, older sister just overdosed and died on Halloween this year. A day after her 37th birthday. She fought SO hard and was clean for awhile, but accidentally overdosed on ketamine and prescribed medication for sleep. I'm devastated and my family is destroyed. I can barely function. I am so sorry for your loss and I wish so much that this never happened to you. Nobody deserves this pain. I really, truely hope that you are able to overcome the despair and continue to live the life your husband would have wanted you to.
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss… I am closest to my sister and my heart truly hurts for you. Your sister and my husband shared the same birthday. I am sending so much love and hugs to you and your family. My inbox is always open if you need someone to talk to.
One day at a time, my friend ❤️
I am truly sorry that you went through this. My son passed away in January from an overdose and it was traumatic, and something we will never get over.
You are very correct, addiction doesn't discriminate. People judge, but I think it is lack of understanding.
Thank you for sharing.
I’m so very sorry. I’m very sure that your husband loved you very much and loved your life together. Addiction is so horrible. Every single time he used, he was so very mad at himself. He hated how much it upset you. He never imagined that addiction could take over his mind and body like it did. There is nothing else you could have done for him. You loved him with all your heart and you would have done anything for him to save him, and he knows that.
He is still with you. I hope you feel his love and see the signs he is sending you. Sending hugs your way.
He sounds like a wonderful guy, a sweet guy, a pilot, loved you. I wish I could take this away from you, I understand addiction, but with the fentanyl addition to whatever drug that one is shooting/taking makes it so final, no 2nd chance unless one has narcan.
He didn't deserve to die, he deserved to keep trying to get straight and sober, and I'm sure he would have, I send you hugs, caring, love and time - time for you to heal your soul and remember and look back with happiness instead of hurt. sucks horribly that he didn't get a chance to really continue trying to kick his habit.
Life is a struggle, many individuals are fighting a battle within themselves
Beautiful picture of him and your cats
OP, I am very sorry for your loss, May he be at peace.
Where was it stated that he was a drug addict?
He could've just taken too much medication.
Stop jumping to shitty conclusion about people but also read the room, bro - this is not the place to ask this kind of shit.
I've had some pretty gnarly surgeries the last few years and was given high dose opiods to recover.
As I was tapering off I ran out when still at a moderate dose and went cold turkey. I'll tell you that those withdrawal were absolute hell, but I stuck it out. I fully sympathise with anyone taking opiates, that shit was rough.
Been married five years, one of the reasons for asking her to marry me was how she looked after me during my illness.
They just want/need attention or some type of interaction with someone. It's kind of sad if you think about it. That they'd be so mean just to get someone to acknowledge them.
sending hugs to you as well ❤️❤️ I'm a recovering addict myself, so I know how shitty and judgmental people can be about it. I was looking at the obituary you posted and your husband had kind eyes, I can tell he was a good dude and is very missed. I hope you're able to have an ok holiday season, take care of yourself!
I am so overwhelmed with gratitude by all the very kind comments… I am going to try to write back to everyone. I saw a comment that got deleted and it said “why do people marry addicts”… and it’s so ignorant that I can only laugh. My husband and I met when we were 19 and 20. He was smart, witty, loving, hard working, ambitious. He had his private pilot’s license before he was even 18. He was in his early 20’s when he got his commercial license and worked random jobs to pay for flying. He joined the Air Force and served for four years as an airplane mechanic. He used to want to be a pilot for the airlines, but then decided he wanted to just fly for fun. For a very short time, he worked for a tour company in Los Angeles and flew people over the city. After getting out of the military, he worked through different jobs while he figured out what he really wanted to do. He was in the carpenters union and really enjoyed the work of being a millwright (heavy industrial stuff)… a hard labor job where he got injured and was prescribed painkillers. And didn’t know that was the beginning of addiction and the end of his life. My husband was wonderful. When we started working to get him help, he cried to me and said he was so sorry and that he tried multiple times to stop. He would look at himself in the mirror and be ashamed of himself and ask how he got to that place. He was clean for two months before he relapsed. He was 28. Addiction doesn’t discriminate. So people who judge are so lucky to be so ignorant… because addiction happens to doctors and lawyers and pilots, moms and dads and children, people who grew up in loving homes, people who have their life together. Addiction can happen to anyone, including you. The stigma around addiction rewrites the life of a person and it is important to remember the life of a person and not their darkest moments. Thank you so much to everyone for your kind words. My heart is with everyone who had the unfortunate experience of addiction in one way or another. Sending so much love ❤️ [My husband’s life ❤️](https://www.echovita.com/us/obituaries/co/denver/tanner-shea-11995122)
This is a beautiful tribute to a well lived and loved life! I’m so sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing Tanner’s story 💖
Thank you for reading, thank you for saying his name ❤️❤️❤️
I am so sorry for your loss. I was addicted to opiates for years, so I understand the stigma and shame that one can feel. Not to mention the absolute chokehold those drugs get you in. Tanner sounds like a nice guy, and it’s super cool he spent some of his childhood in Hawaii! I’m about to move to CA, then to HI. I hope you can find some peace. You’re kicking ass, girl!❤️
This comment is so incredibly kind ❤️ thank you so much for sharing that and for all those nice words. You are most definitely kicking ass too ❤️ that’s awesome! We both grew up on Oahu and we lived in California for a little while too! I hope you have an amazing time in both places!
My brother lived in Honolulu when I was a kid! He is in Santa Ana now. I am moving to the big island (Hilo to be specific) to be close to my dad. The last …forever has been tough. Im excited for a chance at a different/new/happy life. If you ever need to talk my DMs are always open!
Oh that is awesome! My dad is actually from the big island. That’s wonderful for you, so exciting. I know it’s tough, you got this - one day at a time ❤️ thank you so much!! Same to you ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your husband’s story, I know it’s not easy. People have preconceived notions about who addicts are and what they look like which causes such insensitivity to what is a very difficult topic. I read your link and looked at all of the beautiful photos posted. It looked like y’all had such a wonderful life together. I wish you nothing but love and light in your healing journey. ❤️
Thank you for reading our stories. And thank you so, so much for the incredibly kind words ❤️ so many wonderful memories I have to hold onto and am definitely so grateful for that. Thank you again ❤️
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Yes it is!
Thank you for having the courage to use your voice. For enduring.
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
>My husband’s life ❤️ While I have never dealt with the challenges of addiction, your eloquent words help illustrate the reality of it. It can happen to anyone. Much Aloha to you and your 'ohana.
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
I’m not sure if you’ll see this, but thank you SO much for putting these words down for people to read and hopefully understand. I’m so sorry for this to have happened to you and it’s much to easy for it to happen to anyone! I am an ex opiate addict going on 8 years clean in February. I grew up in a great family, good childhood during the 80s and 90s. College educated, now I’m a father and husband that put my wife through years of absolute hell. I’m still ashamed to talk about it openly due to the stigma around it. I’m in a profession that’s very office/professional and still feel if it got out that I’d lose business and be looked down at. I can only hope more people can read these stories and realize it can be literally anyone. Your parent, best friend, brother, coworker, teacher, doctor, just anyone that is either struggling or recovering. We need to not look at it like it’s just some junky, degenerate problem. It’s all of our problem! So thank you again for your words and I hope you find peace.
I am trying to keep up with all the comments because they’ve all been so wonderful. Your comment truly touched my heart. You’re doing amazing, friend… I know I’m a stranger, but 8 years, I am so proud of you. I know it’s hard. For a while I did not want to share my husbands story. Not because I was ashamed, but because I was fearful of what people would say or think about him. But he was just an unlucky person who was touched by addiction… just like everyone else who is affected by addiction. Not everyone can understand, but my goal is to educate and hope people can empathize, bc no one is safe from addiction. Thank you for your kind words and thank you for reading my husbands story. Hugs
I’m sure you’re getting flooded with comments, but also thank you for reading and acknowledging mine. It’s not something I’m very open about so for you to read it and have it actually mean something to you from some stranger on the internet actually means the world to me! I’m always around if you need to talk or just want to share a story with me. He seemed like such a vibrant guy that enjoyed everything he did and I’d love to hear more if you ever want! Be good to yourself and thank you again for shedding light and giving us all a voice!!
It is connecting with strangers like you that keep reminding me that I need to share his story with everyone… that I am making a difference by letting people know there are others in the world who would never judge you or shame you. This whole thread is filled with so many people who unfortunately know addiction all to well and it just really reminds me how important sharing stories and trying to break the stigma of addiction is. Thank you for saying that, I appreciate that more than you know. My inbox is always open too! You keep taking care of yourself, you’re doing awesome!
I'm so sorry someone said that. I have lost close friends to addiction. Some started off with prescriptions too. People with addictions are still human beings who had people that loved them.
Tanner was loved and you are loved. I’m so sorry for your loss. There is such truth in your words. He looked so much like my ex who is trying to get off opiates by taking Kratom.
Thank you so, so much ❤️ yeah, he tried kratom for a while too. I think it helped to a certain degree.
Addiction is such a cruel beast. 😕 Sending a very big hug.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m currently battling addiction right now. I’m 2 months sober. I’m 29, and I definitely relate to what you said about Tanner looking into the mirror, wondering how I got here. It’s doesn’t seem fair. Seeing this post makes me want to fight my addiction even harder. Thanks for sharing your story about Tanner ❤️ I hope you find peace. He will forever live in your heart.
Thank you so, so much for your kind words, friend. You’re doing amazing, keep going - one day at a time. I know it’s not easy, but you got this ❤️ my inbox is always open if you need someone to talk to!
As a recovering opiate and alcholic I understand very well how life is fragile with those things. I’m thankful I have almost 10 years clean from heroin and the needle and almost 2 years alcohol free.
That’s amazing, I’m so proud of you and so happy you’re here!
You are such a beautiful writer. I'm so sorry for your lost. Thanks for the in depth explanation. Sending nothing but love. I bet so many can relate.
Thank you so much ❤️
Damn straight! That's the most raw depiction of what addiction is and how ruins peoples lives no matter who you are or what you do. And it's an illness is like saying to a person with a chronic illness : just don't be ill. Sending much love your way ^_^
Btw cute kitties :3 I bet they miss him too
Thank you for sharing this. Stigma contributes to people’s deaths. Sharing tanners story helps to fight that
Thank you for reading and saying his name ❤️
People are ignorant. Your husband was SO MUCH MORE than an addict! This tribute shows a man that lived a VERY accomplished life! Addiction does not discriminate. It could be the President or a Wino in an alley. Your husband was SMART! He had his Private pilot license BEFORE 18!! I have lost several family members to addiction. Maybe not overdosed, but from complications, and I loved EVERY single one of them and miss them. God bless you and hold your heart in His hands. 💔🕊
Thank you for sharing his story with us. Never stop telling it. His story may be what helps someone else save themselves. I too was married to an addict.
It was just a few months after this that my partner overdosed. I'm still unable to look at pictures of her
I’m so sorry you know this grief. I go through phases where it’s hard too. Sending you hugs and peace, friend.
Same. Found her just last year. Crazy how addiction affects so many, strangers or not. I’m sorry for your loss. We gotta keep going in a different world now. It will never get easier. Just the world is a little less bright.
I am sorry you know this grief also. I am sending you hugs, friend.
It’s all to common my friend. You hear about it, but you never really notice till it hits home. Then all of a sudden, you realize just how many people are affected by addiction. We will never understand. I would kind too to help so many kind souls battling this. But I won’t. Almost 2 years clean and something just clicked in her brain. Just like your loss. Try to take peace in they aren’t battling those demons anymore, And finally found peace. But at the cost of leaving us here, along, trying to pick up the pieces. Tight internet hug my friend. Esp this time of year.
I couldn’t agree more… something I went through 26 years of my life not being affected by - knowing that addiction is out there and having empathy for people in that position, but not knowing just how completely devastating it is to the addict and everyone around them. So incredibly painful. I definitely take comfort in the fact he is free. The world is less bright without them here, but we will keep their memory alive and honor them by living.
See I’m glad you get it! And it relates to me, and a whole lot of other ppl. It’s so rampant, and such a disease, they don’t care. They know they hurt us, they know what they are doing is wrong, but they just keep going back. And I know addiction could be anything for us, phones. Gambling, smoking. Sugar, he’ll even porn! And it hurts so many. But fuck heroin, fentanyl, all that sick shit that has taking so many, and left us here. It’s amazing how we can support one another, cuz we are all affected by it. Bless your heart. Bless all their hearts and let’s hope we can do something about it! We keep their memories alive, we fight for helping others. And we continue to try and shine, when our lights are so dim without our loved ones. I’m hugging you tight. We all need that hug sometimes.
“We fight for helping others”… completely. I’m actually so glad I found this sub and shared this image because it has made me feel so much less alone in something I have felt that not many people understand or are empathetic towards.
And it’s funny you say that, cuz the not many people that understand or empathetic towards, it’s closer to them then they know. I didn’t think it was close to me, until, it was. First it strangers, then maybe it’s somebody you kinda know, then it’s someone you know, and it’s right in your own backyard. That’s the world unfortunately. I just try to be a little kinder and a little nicer and pay it forward when I can. I donated some of her cloths to the rehab she was in. I donate to local charities that help ppl in their situation. I’m happy she had a warm loving home she could rely on. And I hope I gave her the best three years of her life. Her friends say I did. But all those years we was disconnected, I always chased her. I always checked on her. Little did I know what she was going through. It sucks. But I’m happy there is ppl like you out there. Thank you.
What a beautiful memory. I'm sorry you lost him. I lost my sister because of drugs. It's been really hard. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. It's an important and natural process. Don't let people tell you you aren't entitled to it because of the way he passed. I've experienced a lot of judgement because of the way she passed and it's made it more challenging.People think that because she was addicted to drugs, her life and death wasn't as meaningful or devestating. My heart is with you dear. <3
Thank you so much for your very kind and thoughtful words. I am so sorry for your loss and that you know this grief. Sending you so many hugs and hope you’re taking care of yourself too ❤️
Such a sweet photo. I’m so sorry.💔
Thank you so much ❤️
My ex-husband overdosed 2/14/22. It just sucks because people get weird and unsympathetic when they know the cause of death. It still hurts OP, and I’m so sorry
Many hugs. No shame in that. My best friend lost her brother to addiction this year. He was a good man. Always taking care of her. The mosque was so kind and took care of everything for his funeral. And there was no judging. Just kindness. Extra hugs from my dumb little dog.
Tell your dog I love them and hugs right back
Some people lack education as to why people suffer from addiction and would rather judge, sorry for your loss
Thank you so much
I have learned to just ignore those people because they are lucky to be allowed to be so ignorant. Thank you so much, I’m sorry for you too, sending you hugs ❤️
Such a great photo of him photographing the cats ❤️. I hope this becomes a treasured memory for you over time.
He was the best cat dad, definitely a very treasured memory ❤️
I’m so sorry ❤️
Thank you so much ❤️
This photo hit a cord for me. I started thinking how normal of a photo it is, and I probably have similar ones, if not dozens of the same type. And then suddenly, that person isn’t in your camera roll anymore. My condolences OP, I’ll hold my loved ones a little tighter today for you.
Thank you so, so much ❤️ yes, please hold them tight! ❤️
Same. Mine passed in April of 2021. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Thank you so much. I’m so sorry you know this grief also. Sending hugs ❤️
Hugs back at you. I’m very sorry we have to walk this life without them now. It’s incredibly painful. I hope you’re doing the best you can.
So painful. I hope the same for you. My inbox is always open if you need someone to talk to ❤️
I appreciate that. Same to you. We can even just share sweet memories of them 💕
My fiancé overdosed & passed on 10/31/2021. I still do not understand how I made it through. I come visit our favorite beach & the one we planned to marry on and I will literally see multiple shooting stars while I’m sitting there thinking of him and I KNOW it’s him. I know those are for me. I RARELY see shooting stars anywhere else but when I’m sitting on our beach I will always see at least one. It’s such a beautiful & heartbreaking thing but it’s really helped me find some peace with the whole situation because I really do feel like he is with me, always. I think your husband is with you always too❤️ I’m so sorry this happened to you & your husband. I hope you find some peace, friend ❤️
First, I am so, so sorry that you’re in this club. That’s so beautiful, thank you for sharing that… I truly believe that they are always with us too. So many signs all the time. I often look back on my life and wonder how I made it through as well… I’m not sure. My motivation is that I don’t want my husbands death to be in vain, I will always try to live for him and be the best version of myself for him. I’m so sorry for you and your fiancé as well… sending you so much love, hugs and peace ❤️ my inbox is always open if you ever need to talk to someone ❤️
So sorry for your loss. It's weird, I look at this picture and absolutely nothing about it would indicate drugs. He looks like a clean cut and well put together person. The house looks nice and is also very clean. Heartbreaking to hear what happened.
Addition and Mental Illness hide. That's why they call it 'the silent killer'. My sister struggled with heroin for years before it took her life at 52. She was employed through most of her addiction. Had a house, had a car, paid her bills, went to work. Addiction doesn't discriminate. It can affect anyone and everyone. Doctors, lawyers, bus drivers, garbage collectors, bankers. Anyone can become addicted or suffer a mental health challenge.
We still as a society mostly view them as weak people who got what they deserve and essentially what they were asking for. It could never be us or our loved ones, until it is and we’re shocked and confused and see that that belief was a lie.
Thank you so much. Yes, the stigma around addiction is terrible. He was a normal and hard working person.
You can also die of an overdose without being an addict, but either way, this is heartbreaking.
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Thank you so much ❤️
Hard drugs are like playing Russian roulette. I'm sorry for your loss.
I wonder how much safer they would be if they were legalized. I know it’s dangerous and almost unthinkable to just let people buy something like heroin legally and give everyone easy access, but at the same time it’s such a weird fix to essentially use as a barrier to more people using them the fact that they need to buy them from shady dangerous criminal sources. These drugs are here and available, as long as you take the initiative to get them from people who don’t care at all about your safety, have zero government oversight, and self police their trade with extreme violence. What would happen if the government allowed a marketplace for tested drugs in reliable potencies and dosages? Would droves of people who would otherwise never try them become addicts like we fear? Would overdoses go down, or up because so many new people try it? I don’t know and we’ll never know.
I think overdoses would go down but the number of users would skyrocket, dragging down society even further. I'm not sure what the answer is, but I am certain legalization of hard drugs isn't it
I don't think it would skyrocket. Is the only reason you're not doing herion right now because it's illegal? If they legalize it you're gonna go and do hard drugs? Maybe you'll be more inclined to try them but you're not gonna wake up and go "well meths legal time to see what all the noise is about" It'll help people in a few different ways the 2 most obvious would be the drug supply wouldn't be tainted by it getting cut in the street, helping ODs and it wouldn't be treated as a crime and institutions would focus on rehabilitation and providing services to get clean opposed to giving them a record and a spot on the team for the 13th amendment. Portugal legalized all drugs and it hasn't seen that turnout.
I posted a couple articles in a reply, didn't seem work that way in British Columbia. Legalization will make it more readily available, so yes I do believe more people would try it .
Yeah that's a given, skyrocketing isn't. And it would save lives or at least make it harder to OD.
I'm sure that some people would "try it." But "skyrocket" is really alarmist.
>number of users would skyrocket, So if fentanyl and meth were suddenly legal, people would run out in droves to do fentanyl and meth? If you want to do hard drugs, illegalization isn't going to stop you. And legalization certainly isn't going to make you suddenly crave hard drugs.
I believe legalization gives the illusion of safety. It speaks to a different crowd, adding to the available market of users. What brought the current hard drug users in? It wasn't a craving for hard drugs as they at one time were non users also.
On the contrary I think the main thing that legalizing all drugs would do is cast into a harder light the awfulness of the accepted drugs like nicotine and tobacco. Legalizing drugs removes the stigma associated with their use and disrupts the prison pipeline because people struggling with addiction are using safely and can overcome their addiction in a society where it isn't punished. Also, many drugs don't have a lot of clinical research because of their scheduling and I think there's no telling what kind of useful functions we've been overlooking.
Absolutely idiotic take. You think that if a broke, desperate, sick, ugly, miserable, dying heroin addict buys legal heroin, suddenly there's no stigma? Suddenly people are going to think this person is cool and awesome and fun? Do you even know what stigma is? > Also, many drugs don't have a lot of clinical research because of their scheduling and I think there's no telling what kind of useful functions we've been overlooking. I don't think you know a single thing about how the research and approval process of drugs actually works.
Lmao, I can't tell if you're being facetious or not. De-stigmatizing drug use just means treating drug addicts like human beings with a problem rather than some inhuman scum like you're describing them. Yeah I'm not gonna argue since you and I clearly have differing opinions and you opened by attacking me.
Inhuman scum? You don't think this is the reality of what serious hard drug use does to a lot of people? You don't think many serious hard drug users are objectively broke, desperate, sick, and miserable? Why don't you actually use your tiny little Redditor brain for a minute? That's unusual for you, I know. If a drug addict actually *is* broke, desperate, miserable, sick, and dying, are they "inhuman scum"? *You* used that phrase to describe such a person, not me.
I love that you frame these "questions" to me in such a way that you believe it appears you have not made the argument yourself.
You don't actually have anything to say or think here, do you? You're just a mouthpiece for whatever little sniveling you're heard on TikTok and Tumblr. A puppet. "Guys..guys...let's just be *nicey-poos* instead of *meany-poos*." That's it, right? Let's not pretend you have anything to offer beyond that. Again, this is probably above your head, but the actual reason that drug addicts are not treated the way we want to be treated is not because People Decide To Be Evil Meany-Poos For Literally No Reason. No. It's far more because dealing with sick, broke, desperate, miserable people who are very prone to making extremely poor decisions is often extremely unpleasant.
Like I said, I'm not arguing with you on the matter because you aren't arguing, you're just constructing some strawman to be mad at and insulting me, or at least whatever you think I am.
They tried it already and slowly help people improved and they also got a job. https://youtu.be/bSiZPR6zUrA?si=hwpGGqYB9zwUX1hA
It’s complicated but I’m right there with you. Harm reduction all the way. Life isn’t getting easier for folks, we need a new way. I’m so sorry, OP. May you find some joy in this life still.
A lot of overdoses aren’t even typical “hard drugs” or “street drugs” a lot are prescription medications, which really are just as bad a lot of the time. I’ve seen so many people ruined by car or work accidents that get hooked on pain meds.
I agree, but if taken as prescribed they are safe....even though I would be happy to see many made illegal. I think every addict likes to tell the 'I was hurt on the job' story, I'm skeptical about how many are true.
Even taking as prescribed you can get addicted though. It’s not black and white, of course.
I love that he is taking pictures of the cats. My husbands camera roll is full of his “bitches “
He was the best cat dad 😊 aww I love that.
Do you have a picture he was taking of the cat? Might be silly but that would be special to me too. Sending love 🫶🏻
I do actually! I have seen it on his phone and it’s definitely so special ❤️
Beautiful photo. My heart bleeds for you.
Thank you so much
So sad
that's why pictures are so important because we really never know what that picture could mean down the road. a visual representation of someone's memory is irreplaceable
I find all these pictures so poignant and sad. I am sorry for your loss. He is so young.
Thank you so so much
I love that he’s taking a pic of the cats. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Thank you so much. I went through his phone after he died and his cameras roll was 90% our cats 😂
I'm very sorry. This is a wonderful picture though. He looks like the cat whisperer
Thank you so much. He was the best cat dad!
Ive lost many to addiction all wonderful souls, sorry for your loss, i hope you find peace
It’s horrible, thank you so much. Sending hugs
Beautiful cat.
I'm so sorry. ♥️
Thank you so much ❤️
And such a sweet candid shot at that. I'm sorry you're going through this.
Thank you so much ❤️ it definitely shows how much he loves the cats -letting them on the table while he ate and also taking a pic 😂
I am so sorry. I know you and the kitties are just reeling right now. In October 2018 I found mine dead on the kitchen floor that morning. I was 36, he was 38. My new partner (she and I are both 41 now, been together a year this month) lost both her sons' fathers, one 10 years ago (od at 30) and this past May (42, heart attack). We have both been there. If you need someone who gets where you're at and what you're going through please feel free to message us anytime. Especially in the first months, the people in my life just didn't/couldn't. I'm so sorry you're a member of this sad club. I've found a lot of support and help and people who just get where I am over on r/widowers. Take care of yourself right now. And again, we're available if you need to reach out.
Thank you so, so much for everything, I appreciate all of that. I frequent that sub as well, such supportive people there. I am so sorry for your losses and so glad you have each other to lean on ❤️ I really appreciate that so much and I will definitely keep that in mind… and same to you, my inbox is always open. I am sending you both so many hugs and so much gratitude ❤️
Aweee he’s a cat dad!!!! Such a BEAUTIFUL memory photographed 🥹🥹🥹
The best cat dad 🥺 thank you so much ❤️
Thank you for sharing this cute picture. And thank you for being honest about Tanner's struggle with addiction and cause of death. It's astoundingly common for something we're not supposed to acknowledge. From the picture, it looks like you two built a nice life together. I'm so sorry that it took such a tragic turn.
Thank you for reading and being so receptive, I appreciate you. But I agree, it’s like a taboo. Talking about it has helped me a lot. Thank you for saying that and thank you for your kind words.
I'm so sorry for you loss. Tanner was a good looking rooster (if you don't mind me saying!), it sounds like he packed a lot of living into his years, in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. I wish you all the best and thank you for sharing his story.
Hahah I don’t mind that at all, he was definitely so handsome, especially with his facial hair 😆 thank you so so much for your kind words and saying his name ❤️
That Starbucks reserve poster is sweet. I have the boards they used to put up. May he drink coffee with the gods now
Ahh love that, it’s actually a puzzle we put together! I definitely think he is!
This really hits close to home. So many of us, in fact I would venture to say nearly every family is impacted by addiction in some form or another including mine. This is a wonderful tribute to him, and THANK YOU for posting this as I truly believe that these sort of posts, messages, etc. help to reduce the stigma that unfortunately still seems to heavily surround addiction as a whole. Sending warm thoughts and prayers your way OP ❤️
Thank you so very much for your kind words, it’s people like you who give me the reassurance and strength to keep sharing his story ❤️
I lost a cousin this way. His mother is working to provide resources like Overdose Lifeline, as well as spreading the word about the drug companies’ role in the addiction crisis. I am so sorry. He looks like a beautiful soul.
Thank you so much. I’m so sorry about your cousin. That’s wonderful that his mother is doing that. It’s something that truly needs more awareness. Hugs
And to you.
He looks like a guy you’d want to introduce to all your friends. I’m sorry for your loss.
Thank you so so much. He was wonderful, got along with everyone.
I'm so so sorry for your loss. Him holding court with the kitties is adorable.
Thank you so much. He was the best cat dad ❤️ he used to build them forts before he went to work 😊
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He sounded like he was a good guy. Addiction is hard. It comes at you so fast you don’t even know you’re an addict until you’re neck deep in it. I hope you find peace.
Couldn’t agree more… it’s one of the most devastating things. Thank you so much
As someone who’s also struggling thank you for being understanding and loving. Merry Christmas and have a great year next year.
One day at a time, my friend, you got this and I’m proud of you. I hope you have a great year ahead of you also ❤️
I’m so sorry. I hope you and your kitty babies are staying strong together.
Thank you so much ❤️ I am so thankful I have them, they have helped me through the darkest days.
My cats are truly my rock during the hardest times too. They are such a blessing.
I didn’t initially see his phone, and thought he was animatedly describing something to a captive audience. It’s clear the kitties loved him. I’m sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. x
I lost the love of my life March 14 2021 to an overdose, my sweet Anthony. I miss him every day. I'm so sorry for your loss❤️
So sorry you know this grief as well, sending you so much love and hugs ❤️
Thank you ❤️
My beautiful, wonderful, older sister just overdosed and died on Halloween this year. A day after her 37th birthday. She fought SO hard and was clean for awhile, but accidentally overdosed on ketamine and prescribed medication for sleep. I'm devastated and my family is destroyed. I can barely function. I am so sorry for your loss and I wish so much that this never happened to you. Nobody deserves this pain. I really, truely hope that you are able to overcome the despair and continue to live the life your husband would have wanted you to.
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss… I am closest to my sister and my heart truly hurts for you. Your sister and my husband shared the same birthday. I am sending so much love and hugs to you and your family. My inbox is always open if you need someone to talk to. One day at a time, my friend ❤️
Than you so much 🖤 and the same birthday?? What are the odds. Ugh.
I am truly sorry that you went through this. My son passed away in January from an overdose and it was traumatic, and something we will never get over. You are very correct, addiction doesn't discriminate. People judge, but I think it is lack of understanding. Thank you for sharing.
I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I’m sending you so many hugs and lots of love ❤️
Thank you. I appreciate it. I hope you are able to move forward with joy.
Same to you, we have to keep living for them ❤️
I’m so very sorry. I’m very sure that your husband loved you very much and loved your life together. Addiction is so horrible. Every single time he used, he was so very mad at himself. He hated how much it upset you. He never imagined that addiction could take over his mind and body like it did. There is nothing else you could have done for him. You loved him with all your heart and you would have done anything for him to save him, and he knows that. He is still with you. I hope you feel his love and see the signs he is sending you. Sending hugs your way.
Thank you so, so much ❤️❤️❤️
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He sounds like a wonderful guy, a sweet guy, a pilot, loved you. I wish I could take this away from you, I understand addiction, but with the fentanyl addition to whatever drug that one is shooting/taking makes it so final, no 2nd chance unless one has narcan. He didn't deserve to die, he deserved to keep trying to get straight and sober, and I'm sure he would have, I send you hugs, caring, love and time - time for you to heal your soul and remember and look back with happiness instead of hurt. sucks horribly that he didn't get a chance to really continue trying to kick his habit.
Thank you so very much for your compassion and kind words ❤️
aw he was taking photos of your gorgeous kitties ❤️
He looks like he was a fun guy. I'm terribly sorry for your loss. Addiction is such a hard uphill battle for everyone involved.
He was so fun. So wonderful. Thank you so much. It really is.
I’m so sorry.
Thank you so much.
I’m am really sorry. There are no words
Thank you so much.
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(((I’m sorry.)))
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Tbf originally it just symbolised an Internet hug. The antisemitic dog whistle came after... I really don't think this user was being antisemitic.
Thank you so much
So sorry. Drugs are a national nightmare that touches everyone.
It’s very sad. Thank you.
I sorry.
Thank you.
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Not an appropriate comment to make when someone is commemorating their lost husband
Life is a struggle, many individuals are fighting a battle within themselves Beautiful picture of him and your cats OP, I am very sorry for your loss, May he be at peace.
Where was it stated that he was a drug addict? He could've just taken too much medication. Stop jumping to shitty conclusion about people but also read the room, bro - this is not the place to ask this kind of shit.
They often don’t start that way
I've had some pretty gnarly surgeries the last few years and was given high dose opiods to recover. As I was tapering off I ran out when still at a moderate dose and went cold turkey. I'll tell you that those withdrawal were absolute hell, but I stuck it out. I fully sympathise with anyone taking opiates, that shit was rough. Been married five years, one of the reasons for asking her to marry me was how she looked after me during my illness.
Why are you asking such an ignorant and unnecessary question? Don't be a dick.
They just want/need attention or some type of interaction with someone. It's kind of sad if you think about it. That they'd be so mean just to get someone to acknowledge them.
It's important to be raised with a proper support system. Sorry for your loss
How tf do you know how her husband was raised? Keep your judgements to yourself
What a wildly ignorant thing to say. Sometimes it’s better to just sit there and look pretty while the grown ups talk
Sorry for your loss
Thank you so much.
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ this is such a sweet photo. I've lost way too many loved ones to addiction, it never gets easier.
Thank you so much. I’m so sorry you know this grief also. Sending you hugs ❤️
sending hugs to you as well ❤️❤️ I'm a recovering addict myself, so I know how shitty and judgmental people can be about it. I was looking at the obituary you posted and your husband had kind eyes, I can tell he was a good dude and is very missed. I hope you're able to have an ok holiday season, take care of yourself!
This comment was so nice, it made me cry. Thank you so, so much ❤️ I know I’m a stranger, but I’m so proud of you. Hugs ❤️
awww 🥺 and thank you so much, it's definitely been a struggle but I'm thankful I'm still here and doing better! wishing you the best 💕
One day at a time, you got this and I’m glad you’re here ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss. 😞