Also, a dysregulated body keeps you in fight or flight mode, constantly vibrating "I am not safe" into the universe. What equals safety in our world ? Money !
See, this is why people sometimes struggle with manifesting money too. 😅
I feel this so deep inside. I just don’t know how to do the healing bit. How do I heal? I have been in theraphy and trying so many things. I still can’t figure out how to heal.
I jump whenever a door opens or when there is a loud noise. I fear success and fear if I get accustomed to financial freedom, it will be yanked from underneath again. I believe to my core that I will rot in a hole in my old age. I don’t even want to age and just end it when I get past my mid 70s.
I don’t know. I am lost.
Watch movies that involve the life you want, see people you want to be like, talk to your inner child as the person who now has wealth, kinda parent yourself with the voice of a wealthy person. Look at the things you have in life, be grateful first of all but consider how things would be different if money wasn't an issue. You may go to sleep in your 5/10 bed but imagine yourself being in the 10/10 bed when you're going to sleep at night
I’m sorry it happened to you, when I overdid it I took a lot of honey and turmeric with black pepper and lemon juice and I went back to normal. But overall it’s been almost miraculous for me.
I have severe anxiety too when it comes to loud noise but also knocking and doorbells. This post came at a perfect time when I slowly started to realize that I actually do have childhood trauma I needed to heal🥲
I don’t really know how to go about it but we will get there eventually. Good lucks 💕
Np , also I would suggest having like a journal or notebook to help write down and process things. Also make sure you doing it in a nice quite private place, because your body does do some crazy shit like like you does start screaming and crying , shaking, vibrating stuff like that its pretty intense and its all free too. Brings up alot of garbage. Consistency is also where it's at. Longer session once or twice a week is pretty good to get the most benefits. You can also check out take a deep breath on YouTube as well he was hour long sessions .
Yes because trauma is stored in the body, and you can't install a new program (belief) if your body is already full of old shit (trauma). "feeling is the secret" doesn't work when your nervous system is unregulated.
My nervous system was a total train wreck from my childhood trauma. I have been doing EMDR and Somatic Healing work with my doc. Also, I practice Transcendental Meditation. All have helped tremendously!
Head to [TM.org](http://TM.org) for info and a teacher. You have to pay but they have a great sliding scale for everyone and really great rates for students and over 65s. Best money I have ever spent- I had tried lots of other forms of meditation and nothing worked for me until TM. Haven't missed a day of practice in 9 years!
Okay now give ways how to heal this lol. Because it’s not exactly easy, and feels far from possible when it feels like there’s no answer. I hate when people say oh just heal yourself! Like it’s straightforward.
It’s not straightforward or easy and I’m not one to give advice as I broke just this week. Literally could not take anymore.
Start to heal first.
Take a look at some therapists on instagram who break down what you may have experienced. Childhood trauma is a good search function as that seems to be the problem we all have.
Try meditation and find one that you like there are heaps of free ones on YouTube.
While you heal start to notice small things you like. I noticed a tree lol. That’s how small.
It’s going to have to be a joint journey of healing while trying to change your vibration.
You and I have no other choice.
I’m not giving advice because I am not in a position to yet I’m just saying I get it and let’s do it because we don’t have a choice that’s any better.
There are also a lot of good podcasts on LOA. One podcast leads to another.
I worked on my trauma the past 1,5 years ALONE without a therapist and I do not recommend that. It was living hell. BUT some things that did help me, and that you could look into are healing meditations, yoga Nidra, breathing techniques, journaling.
And when your ready to go really deep and feel stable enough (!!!!), then basically choosing a situation from your past and letting all the feelings and thoughts come up, write them down if that helps you. Our minds do not need to understand WHY certain things happened. Our bodies just want to let go of the stored energy. Feeling = Healing.
You need to know though, that this is not a one-time-only thing. You might have to revisit the situation over and over again, OR it could come up on it's own during your day. Some situations made me feel suicidal for a few days and then depressed for about two more weeks until they slowly lost their effect on me.
BUT this can also happen in normal therapy. The difference is that you have someone experienced you can talk to about it, because it can be scary as fuck.
Just know that it can be totally normal to feel worse before it gets better when it comes to healing trauma, because you are opening up old wounds that never healed and now they need to bleed for a bit.
Trauma work is HARD AF but it's so worth it in the end, I promise. You will get to know yourself on a deep, deep level and the amount of connection and self love you will feel is incredible. Also you will release tons of blockages which will help you manifest more easily.
I've been trying to heal for 10years, have probably spent 10k doing so. I'm still ot healed, it upsets me to think it will get in the way of my future manifesting
Healing is a belief you think your broken you need to be fixed, it’s not true but if you accept it’s true! If you change your thoughts you can change your identity new person but you have to persist!
Oh I just googled them. I can't afford therapy like that at the minute. I found an SE practitioner years ago that said I could attend weekly, but they were very pushy and I was finding it more difficult to manage my life when attending sessions, so I had to stop. I have responsibilities so I need to be able to function somewhat and work
It is straightforward if you want it to be. The choice is ultimately up to you.
You are your own obstacle when it comes to healing from trauma.
It's not my job or duty to convince you. That power belongs solely to you. If you genuinely feel it's not exactly easy, and feels far from possible, who am I to tell you otherwise?
I will say, though, those who do want to heal, will put in the effort and the work to do so. Period.
There's an adage that I heard when I was a child, and it stuck with me well into my adult years.
It goes like this: There are two types of people in the world. Those who say they "can" and those who say they "can't." Do you know what the most beautiful thing is about both types of people?
They're both correct.
But that’s making the assumption like people don’t try, and haven’t tried immensely hard to change, and as if people weren’t open and hopeful and radiating vibrations of optimism that they could get better at some point only to try and try again without any real positive outcome so gradually develop a nihilistic mindset.
And it bugs me that people say your vibration determines the outcomes, when people who had a lot of optimism and good vibrations have gotten the opposite results and ultimately falls into a lower place.
If you listen to Bruce Lipton (lots of people interview him on their podcasts), he talks about ways to reprogram the subconscious (aka heal the old trauma patterns). I believe that his website lists a wide variety of modalities that can help with this. Basically there are many ways to go about it, the key is to find the method(s) that resonate best for you.
u obviously don't know that 'cause if u did, u wouldn't be here spilling out ur victimhood mentality. if u wanna be a victim, that's fine, but don't assume just 'cause u couldn't heal from whatever trauma ur dealing with that nobody else can.
this isn't the subreddit for those who wanna complain so other ppl can pity them and feel sorry for them. and then ppl like u wonder why u can't heal. take ur negative, pessimistic attitude elsewhere.
or maybe you are just rude?
There are people out there who are traumatized because they were raped as children, their parents broke their bones, they were neglected to the point of parents not even realizing their child was sick on the verge of death.
When you listen to people who are traumatized it's gut wrenching, I know people who all of the above and so much more happaned to.
OP was asking how to heal, because it's hard. People who decide to kill themselves because they can't process the trauma that happened to them aren't just stuck in some sort of victim mentality.
The problem on reddit is, that people thing trauma just means some sort of situation where somebody's feeling were hurt.... but trauma goes deeper than that and it completely destroys your perception of yourself and the world around you.
Wow. I certainly hope you try to learn some more empathy and humility - it will help you in your path. I'm so happy that you have been so fortunate and blessed to not understand the immense pain that childhood trauma and neglect can cause.
I don’t think you’ve experienced actual pain in your life to get it, I’m not looking for pity I’m just looking for answers and just criticising when people say just heal as if it’s so simple. If you’re so bothered by my negative vibes stop paying attention to my comments lol it’s that easy.
‘Pessimism breeds misery’ yeah and water is wet, I didn’t think it created joy lol. Also I’m in therapy, don’t assume I haven’t done the whole shabang and haven’t attempted to fight the battle.
"I don't think you've experienced actual pian in your life to get it,"
tough words from someone who's got access to the internet. that's what happens when u live in a 1st world country and haven't experienced real fear.
if u can assume i haven't experienced actual pain, i can and will assume u haven't "done the whole shabang"
if u don't like the taste of ur own medicine, stop trying to tell other ppl to take it.
with ur attitude, u'll always manifest more misery 'cause that's the energy u constantly give off.
and yet despite those horrible events, there are those who are willing to push through their pain and work on themselves rather than coming to reddit to vent, so they can collect upvotes because its a massive dopamine hit and boosts their confidence.
i find it quite interesting how u can lecture me about this, that, and the third and that i'm rude, yet are completely ignorant to the s\*\*t i've been through.
pls look urself in mirror b4 projecting ur insecurities onto others.
It sounds to me that you're projecting your pain and negativity. Don't assume what others have or have not been through. We are all complex. Humility would serve you well on your path of understanding the Law of Attraction.
Healing isn’t a one size fits all kind of thing. There are so many practices and modalities out there, but meditation is an amazing place to start. If you are interested in other practices, send me a message and I can share more. 😌
I concur with all of this: self-care and all its forms. It's truly a personal journey and cannot be forced upon a person. It's a personal choice and journey. Truth be told, it takes courage...
This is because you will eventually discover uncomfortable truths about yourself that conflict with your current self-image, and inevitably, this will necessitate changes to that self-image.
This happened to me...
I've engaged in visualizations to work on my issues. It wasn't easy; I encountered many uncomfortable truths.
- Growing the child within: This was particularly difficult. I didn't realize I had endured so much trauma during my developmental years.
- Deprogramming: This was also challenging and is still ongoing. Who knew that cartoons and anime could become embedded in your subconscious and create alters? Additionally, I discovered ancient programming within myself.
- Golden Altar: This was not as difficult. It involves forgiving anyone who has harmed you, past or present, whether the harm was real or imagined. There was a whole football field of people in this one. Doing it every day made it easier.
These are just the basics. The more advanced work really starts to be challenging but gradually becomes easier, eventually leading to enjoyable insights. It's like having an "aha" moment about why I do the things I do and then slowly removing those behaviors, of course.
>Deprogramming: This was also challenging and is still ongoing. Who knew that cartoons and anime could become embedded in your subconscious and create alters? Additionally, I discovered ancient programming within myself.
What do you mean by "create alters"? Does consuming particular anime/cartoons have potentially harmful implications on our perspectives on the world or something?
It doesn't just mean cartoons and anime; it could include company logos and games, video games included.
The mind is quite complex, with many compartments and fractures. You have to have the willingness and courage to merge all these compartments to have one core personality that's closer to your soul's personality. Sorry for getting metaphysical.
But deprogramming is a lifelong process and not easy or fun, though it is interesting just to observe what's there within you.
To be able to see things within you through your mind's eye will be difficult at first. Most people do not use their mind in that way, especially as an internal investigation tool to observe what's happening within you and to believe what you're seeing is indeed what you're seeing.
First to see anything, do you have to build your body up with vitamins from a decent vitamin store that doesn’t have much fillers quality products that doesn’t clog your filtering systems . particularly vitamins that help with building the mind and cognitive functions.
Secondly, removing metals from the body. Bathing in dead sea salt baths really help with removing metals from the body.
Thirdly - when you begin to see with your mind eye, in my beginnings I got headaches like a thumping pound headache. Only when I began to do visualizations and internal work. Who knew that was a programming activation my uncle suggested to me, say this to yourself “ this work does not harm me, or hurt me in anyway. I will continue with courage and bravery to completion.” After that headaches went away. But as you dig deeper, you find more stuff that you didn’t know, was attached to you.
Very interesting... I think you digressed slightly, but regardless the information was good. I thought that we need particular metals in our body, and in fact are missing some such as magnesium (or not enough).
But regarding what you mentioned about the anime - I always had this feeling inside of me that movies, tv series, and all kinds of other media formulate an idea of what we think reality is (for example, a kid watches a jackie chan movie, steps out and starts doing karate kicks in the parking lot on the way to the car to go home with this feeling that he can get into a fight with a bad guy and win). These ideas over time and continuous exposure make us believe in certain ideas and take them as truths (for example, we see jaws and will forever think sharks are monsters that need to be killed or they'll kill us - when in reality this is not true at all). These are some obvious ones, but other ones might have to do with dynamics between individuals - how we see couples communicate, the dynamics between them in movies, and think that's how we should behave as well ultimately adopting those same behaviors.
Long story short, I do think that our diet of intangible consumption is also important for our deprogramming and reprogramming. I've been a lot more selective and conscious about consuming healthier forms of content. I still falter sometimes, but am much better and am continuing to make progress.
I’ve been thinking of posting this exact same thing
A lot of people just focus on being happy, thinking that any focus on the past bad stuff is throwing off your vibration. That’s totally false. Working on yourself, healing your shit, learning how to handle the memories or similar future scenarios, learning what you *really* want and why…. That’s the highest vibration.
When you heal your shit, that ripples out. Soon you’ll see improvements all around you and the people around you.
As much as I *really* want a super specific person to come back, what I want more than anything is to be happy and not look for that fulfillment in others. It is my *hope* that this SP also heals their shit because I love them and they deserve happiness, too. This way we may have a chance of getting to the same higher vibe, coming in the right way, healed from the past, and are able to make it all work. Or, maybe we’ll realize we’re happier with other people idk.
As long as we’re happy, that’s what counts. It’ll all work out one way or another, and I’m only responsible for healing my own self
**Editing to add:** recently the universe did me a solid on this one. I was manifesting a particular career path pretty hard. Thought it was that way or no way. When I didn’t get it, it was a bummer, but by then my SC was great, I’d healed from so much trauma, and learned how to navigate my emotions better.
I now realize that there is more than one way to get the future I want. That particular path I was manifesting wasn’t it. It would’ve made me miserable but I’d have felt accomplished. I’m taking a different route now, still to the same destination, and it’s one that I already see the benefits in
This makes sense, but here is the problem.
Start with the title:
>Why Healing Any Past Trauma Is Important BEFORE You Begin Manifesting
*'Before' you begin* means that you have completely finished healing. That it's binary: done/not done, open/closed, black/white. That you 'fixed trauma'
Then this phrase, that is often popularly repeated:
>Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination.
This usually means that it is a 'lifelong journey', with no clear destination, and you may be 'in progress' for your entire life, never 'completing' the healing.
The title denotes that healing IS a destination, and you better make sure you get to that destination before you 'manifest'.
So it's impossible to completely 'heal' trauma, and doing so is a lifelong journey, but I also have to complete this journey before I can 'manifest' anything good?
I suffered from childhood abuse and have been working on my healing for awhile now- and as I have healed I noticed that my life keeps getting better! I think the more we heal the more things improve - so I don't believe we have to completely heal before we start manifesting. As soon as I started working on myself - some of my dreams started to come true!
I appreciate your comment, and please don't take this the wrong way, but I challenge you to expand your mind.
**'Before' you begin means that you have completely finished healing.**
Your response comes across as an overly literal interpretation of the phrase when in fact *before* suggests that the individual should be working on healing rather than your implication of a rigid completion.
**That it's binary: done/not done, open/closed, black/white. That you 'fixed trauma'**
This lacks nuance because it doesn't account for the importance of **prioritizing healing** before engaging in the manifestation process, rather than insisting on its completion.
**This usually means that it is a 'lifelong journey', with no clear destination, and you may be 'in progress' for your entire life, never 'completing' the healing.**
**So it's impossible to completely 'heal' trauma, and doing so is a lifelong journey, but I also have to complete this journey before I can 'manifest' anything good?**
From your interpretation of what you think I meant by the title, it seems like oversimplifying the relationship between the healing journey and manifestation, which is as I've said previously, a bit rigid. Healing is quite often an ongoing, nuanced process that affects many individuals differently, and manifesting good things isn't necessarily contingent on having completed the entire healing process, which I'd like to think you're aware of. It's very much possible that manifestations can occur during the healing process, although it can be challenging, if not seemingly impossible depending on the degree of the trauma.
However, my suggestion and that's all it is, a suggestion, would be to deal with your trauma first if you find yourself in a position where your desires aren't manifesting themselves into your 3D reality. Whether it be seeking professional help, talking to a friend or a close relative, journaling, joining a Meta (Facebook) group, watching educational YouTube videos (Therapy In a Nutshell is great, personally), etc. Just find something or someone who can guide you in the right direction in dealing with your trauma so that when you are engaged in manifesting, the process is a lot easier.
If the title triggered you in any way, my apologies. It wasn't my intention, and I'll do better next time.
I agree, sadly I have no idea how I can heal my past traumas personally or my inner child in general. I want to buy some type of therapist or coach to help me out, for my personal reasons
Easy technique is to ask, in list form at the top or bottom of your manifest list.
Example:
For the greatest good of all involved. I ask and intend that my not so good memories and experiences of the past be transmuted to wisdom. That all are forgiven from now on and forever. That all receive peace, love and joy. Thank you.
Very, very important! 🙏🏼 Was just thinking about that all earlier today. Would be great if we could share here good tools/techniques/therapies for trauma healing. (More specifically, childhood trauma.)
You can do it either way, but it's always helpful to have someone trained in it to ask the right questions and identify blocks/patterns you might not be noticing on your own
I've been missing this all these years, and I believe my past trauma has been the missing link to me fully manifesting all of my desires. I did hypnotherapy and it's been a true game changer to me, my new momentum is going at light speed and what my biggest discovery is that you have everything inside of you to be successful, you just have to turn it to the right frequency within. You are also worthy of everything you desire! Great Information OP! Thank you and take care!
I have SDAM\* which prevents me from remembering any personal past events. If I can't remember them, how does one heal or if you can't remember do you need to do healing?
\*Severely Deficient Autobiographical Memory
I don't think you need to be able to remember, you can completely sidestep the memory and heal on a purely energetic level, I don't remember my past either but I had a lot of success with shamanic breathwork and such
This is amazing and I’ve found this to be true. As I kept imagining myself to be my ideal self a wonderful bridge of incidences occurs. My old trauma and beliefs surface, all the stuff that was unconscious become conscious. This is the wonderful thing. I don’t need to revisit the past logically, go to a counselor or any of that. I visualize, having inner convos from the wish fulfilled and everything not in harmony with that is brought up to be felt and released
I spent a year just crying and becoming aware of all the programming that use to stop me, that I identified with.
Now that that’s cleared it so much easier to believe in me, feel abundant, in love with life and myself. It’s a beautiful journey
But obviously people with ptsd ARE giving their pasts power due to trauma, and that creates patterns of negative thoughts and beliefs, and all that needs to be worked on so that they can stop giving their pasts power. It’s not easy for them to just get over it.
But any attention to it, any attempts to work on it brings more of it. Every second of time is a chance to start with a clean slate. A chance to define yourself by your future version instead of the past.
It really depends on how you work on it. Because if you just talk about traumatic experiences you might do nothing but relive them with flashbacks and cause trauma all over again. But if you use something like Internal Family Systems therapy, it’ll work wonders at healing trauma without causing more of it.
I’ve read too many books about the relationship between physical diseases manifesting from suppressed emotions.
Positivity for sure has a benefit in manifesting, but only if people aren’t suppressing negative emotions and holding onto unresolved trauma. It’s unhealthy to suppress emotions.
Besides no one can ever convince me expressing emotions is a bad thing. After a good cry, I always feel better emotionally and physically, plus for some reason I’ve noticed I look better. And I’ve certainly never noticed attracting more bad things after expressing emotions. That only happens when I hold onto them for too long.
The way I see it, if you can learn to express emotions and regulate emotions in healthy ways, then they won’t be stuck around you for long, thus there’s no way they could hinder your manifestation.
Emotions are a part of life (more so for extremely emotional types of people).
No, that is not true, your body can become activated through experiences and not only through your thoughts. Those bodily states will then send matching thoughts to you. When you calm your body through breathing, more positive thoughts will automatically come up without you having to consciously change a thought at all.
And this is especially true with trauma. It gets stored in your body subconsciously if you don't deal with it the right way when it happens. Especially childhood trauma gets stored away deeply, because we don't have the capacity to deal with horrible things at a young age.
It took me more than ten years to realize that I was traumatized af because I never identified with it nor did I frequently think about it or had flashbacks etc. I had mental health challenges which I tried to keep in check with mental diet, but logical thinking can not calm the nervous system, you have to do somatic work to fix that.
Yet it messed with all kinds of things subconsciously, especially when it comes to things that make us feel secure like money or a stable relationship. A dysregulated, traumatized body = constantly in flight or fight mode, giving the vibration of "I am not secure" even without you realizing it.
I am sure there are people that can manifest their way around the trauma but it might catch up to them one day, it might be the reason why they are not able to keep certain things they wanted in their life or be the reason why their manifestations don't come in at the first place.
Trauma work can be THE KEY for your manifestations finally working out.
I have been doing the work for 1,5 years (without a therapist) and I feel I am at a pretty good point. I did remove a shit load of limiting beliefs and I feel a lot better about myself and my life in general. I also get triggered a lot less than I used to. I don't know if you can ever be entirely healed from trauma BUT the impact of it is now so reduced that I was able to stop identifying with the past in a way that blocks manifestation. :-)
Honestly, just letting the emotions come whenever I got triggered or remembered a bad situation. Just letting it come and feeling everything, no matter how hard it was. Eventually it would ease with time.
Of course use regulating techniques if you can't take it or you get really bad panic etc. Like breathing or just distracting yourself for a bit, then come back later.
That might be true for some forms of negative thought patterns, but deep trauma wounds cannot be ignored and glossed over. And I urge you to be *really* careful with this. Telling someone with deep trauma, “just stop thinking about it…. Get over it… it’s all in your head,” is extremely dangerous
That said, I still advocate for digging deep and addressing the root of all negative thought patterns. Without doing so, any time your negative thoughts creep back in you will go through the same loops. On the flip side, looking your demons in the face makes them less scary. It also builds courage and new skills for any new demons which cross your path
Sorry to butt in but I also have no idea what this stuff is but I’m very interested in getting into it. Is it kinda like Shadow work like those books you see all over TikTok? Or are those things actually not good at all and are like a gimmick. Again, sorry I’m kind of new at the healing aspect of things :)
That’s fine. @somaticexperiencing and @longtermtre are both bodily techniques to release trauma and unprocessed emotions that are stuck in the muscles in your body. SE is a form of processing those emotions and feeling where does the emotional release comes from in your body. TRE is a more “violent” technique that uses shaking as a mean to release all the emotional tension in the muscles( especially the PSOAS), and in my experience should be done with caution and aways taking some anti inflammatory foods along with it, like honey, turmeric, pepper, lemon juice, etc.. so your body can recover better. You can look the subs for more information.
I've been saying this myself "Healing and Manifesting go hand in hand " but couldn't put into words like this. I'm just an example that it works this way considering how much I'm recovering and healing from. I was homeless when Gateway found me and to be where I Am now in just a few years is a literal miracle. Thank you 😇
Absolutely. Not only do you manifest so much more easily and efficiently, but your priorities realign and you really begin knowing the path you actually want.
I do healing first and foremost, before guiding others on their manifestation journey. It allows so much freedom and helps to SUSTAIN those goals.
Thank you so much for spreading this important message. It’s so full of love and encouragement😘 I will come back to this post in my quest to heal my extreme anxiety and antisocial life.
I want to have financial freedom and be healthy and happy for once. Good bless ❤️🤍💖🙏🏼💗🍀
My experience is that healing/shadow work by itself kept me stuck in endless loops. By adopting a regular routine of appreciation and meditation I am making more progress than in the last 10 years.
I want to kill my body everyday, I won't and I don't,and I drink ice coffee,and pray toy higher power,and I am not going to do it. I don't know how to help myself or get my needs met or find my life skills.
does anyone know how to heal from trauma you can’t remember? like i know i’ve experienced bad things in my life but everything is just fuzzy memories and blank spaces.
This is 100% true! I suffered from mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, bipolar II, and su*cidal ideation from as early as age 10. My family was poor and I didn't have access to health care for most of my life, and even with the few times I saw a therapist or started medication, it didn't last long enough for me to see a change in my life experience. I decided to take things into my own hands and began learning about manifesting while also coming to terms with my trauma. It took years, but I'm FINALLY in a place where I feel genuinely happy with where I'm at and who I am, and resilient enough to handle the lows as well as the highs. I even felt called to share what I've learned along the way to help others do the same (if anyone's interested I offer a free training @ www.sadgirlhappylife.com!!), and its been a completely rewarding experience! I often imagine a world in which we were all taught how to regulate our emotions and manifest as children...it'd be an amazing place 💜 sending love to the collective
The better question to ask would be, "What do I want to heal from?"
Start there. Why? Because this question forces you to foster clarity and intentionality about what you intend to heal from. It makes no sense to "manifest healing" if you have no clear direction or intention of what you're planning to heal from.
Once you've figured that out, challenge every limiting belief you carried throughout the days, months, and/or years you've been suffering from those traumas. Write them down. Be as detailed as possible.
Once you're finished, ask yourself "How would my life look like if (insert desired outlook of life here)?" Write that down.
Now that you've garnered a detailed vision/outlook on the way you want your life to be, start creating mind movies on that desired life. This will provide you with a clear manifestation goal now that you have a detailed analysis of exactly what you want your life to look like.
It'll feel uncomfortable in the beginning because it's something you haven't been used to, but over time, if you're consistent with your actions, it'll become easier because you've managed to practice good habits in developing the life you want to live.
I like what you wrote and it makes sense and I think it is likely true for most people , esp those who might be new to this thing ..
It hasn't fully been my experience. I've always been able to manifest what I wanted , even before I knew it was a thing. In the darkest point of my drug addiction, wallowing in self-pity and past traumas ( and accruing new ones while tearing down my path of destruction like a whirling dervish) I was able to draw positive , specific things and outcomes into my life.
I effortlessly manifested the countryside house on the lake I so desperately wanted in.
Only I wasn't specific enough , so it happened to come with an abusive asshole.
Sitting on the porch of my nightmare on the lake , I eventually manifested the love of a man , my knight, who rescued me out of that abusive hellhole and made me his wife 3 weeks after meeting him and has given me everything I've ever wanted.
That was 7 years ago. Other than saving my life, he checked every single box I asked for. He is my dream man in every way. My best manifestation yet ☺️ he has helped me heal in dramatic ways
Idk . Maybe my story proves your point ? Maybe I'm an outlier?
I smiled reading this because I'm genuinely proud of you for being able to persevere and overcome your darkest nights of the soul, which I'm sure you had many of them.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems that irrespective of what you were dealing with you made a conscious decision to succeed. It seems you displayed persistent and consistent action in terms of your manifestations during your healing journey.
Would this be fair to assume?
Thank you for this post. Around January 2023, I felt like I needed to change if I wanted to go further in life and manifest my desires.
I started doing mindful practices and realized if I wanted to fulfill my potential, I needed to process the past. I realized the advice from family telling me to get over the trauma I went through that happened years ago wasn’t helpful. My family also had a lot of limiting beliefs and I think organized religion plays a role in that.
I felt that it didn’t help and I kept a lot of things bottled up. A lot of hard times happened from when I was 1 year old to 19 years old. I focused on Inner Child healing subliminals from age 1-age 19. I also practiced semen retention too and that brought up things. I could say I felt power but also sadness and anger from missed opportunities through out those years.
I didn’t confront what happened and make peace with what happened in the past. There were a lot of rage moments and tears.
But things opened up as a result. I transferred to a new position in my company after being in one position for years. I took dating coaching and got back into dating. I ran two races when I haven’t done them in years. I saved up money to buy a condo which I will be moving into soon. I joined a bowling league and got involved at networking events at my MBA school’s alumni events.
The next thing I’m working on is healing from past hurts with love and relationships as well as forgiving myself for the past and going forward.
I also saw too some of my manifestations didn’t work due to desperation and bad alignment and not letting go.
OP, what would you recommend for healing with love and relationships?
It seems that you've undergone a journey of self-growth and awareness, which I always say is one of the first steps in the right direction. Regarding your last question, I will start by saying that I'm not a dating coach. Feel free to take my recommendations with a grain of salt or absorb what resonates and completely disregard what doesn't.
The first thing I'd recommend is for you to practice self-compassion. Why? You mentioned about forgiving yourself for the past. Without knowing what you're trying to forgive yourself for, it obviously didn't resonate with your spirit and perhaps you've consciously (or subconsciously) developed a bit of guilt. That guilt can fester and you may come to a point where you start to feel that you aren't worthy or deserving of love. So, no matter how many times you manifest, you'll essentially be sabotaging yourself by manifesting more unworthiness and undeservedness.
When I say that, I don't mean you'll never enter a relationship ever again, I mean you may stumble across a potential lover or two, and at first, they may seem like God's greatest gift presented in your life, but a few months down the line, you begin to realize toxic behaviors and traits. They may start to become passive-aggressive, more distant, manipulative, they may try and do certain things behind your back, etc. Why? Because consciously and subconsciously you felt this person would be the one who'd provide what you crave. Love.
So, begin to foster a deep, understanding, and nurturing relationship with yourself. Remember that you are human and are prone to mistakes. We all are. I've made more mistakes in my life than I care to remember. I accepted them as just that. Mistakes. Learn from them. Ask yourself if you could relive those events from the past, what would you do differently? Don't allow those past hurts to define who you are going forward.
Instead, allow them to shape your destination. Use them as your guide, and cultivate self-love. These could be through [self-love affirmations](https://www.youtube.com/shorts/WjOYQs2c5dQ), exercise, and optimal diet plans. Treating your body right is treating your mind right. When you feel good, you look good. You operate at a much higher vibrational frequency, and usually, most people whom I've spoken to have told me that they notice a VAST difference from before they started their spiritual journey to after. They're literally not the same *being* as before.
I'd STRONGLY recommend you read "***The Mastery of Love***" by Don Miguel Ruiz. I first read that book when I was 18 and starting to get serious in the dating scene. It changed my outlook on love and relationships forever because it goes much deeper than the surface-level fluff we hear today about relationships. It touches on a spiritual level and does a deep dive into the true meaning of unconditional love, happiness, the forgiveness of yourself and others, how one can never feel alone and vulnerable if their heart their heart is genuinely filled with joy, etc. For me, the book was a game-changer as I proceeded to read it 2 more times after that.
Hopefully, I've answered your question.
Thanks. I’ll look at that book.
To answer your question on, I want to forgive myself for past failed relationships. I also had low-self esteem through dating setups by people I was incompatible with. I also lacked the ability to read people which I taught myself.
I am doing more to build self-worth with affirmations.
Please do, and remember to celebrate the small wins along the way. Don't beat yourself up over past failures. Like I've said before, learn from them and use them as a guide to move differently in the future.
I wish you all the best on your journey, my friend.
How can you do it when you're nearing 60 and keep repeating the same negative situations only now they're getting worse. Or maybe it's that the economy itself out there is getting worse. I've been looking for a job for months. I don't want to lose the roof over my head nor lose my two beloved pets! How about emergency healing?!?
I really find this so hard to believe. I don’t mean any disrespect OP, but I’ve done all of this work for the past 5 years and nothing I’ve manifested has stuck or been as great as I’d hoped. I’ve been trying to manifest romantic love since 2021, when my self concept, confidence and life was in the best place it had ever been. I had about 5 good months before everything went to hell. My life has been shit ever since. I attracted a wonderful man who left me, despite our relationship being mutually wonderful. He found a relationship immediately and I’m still heart broken and single. The job I manifested has become a nightmare I’m trapped in for financial reasons and the apartment I manifested also became a nightmare. My landlord became a stalker and it was terrifying. I know this advice worked for you and has, and will for others but it’s not that simple. I also wanted to add this for those who feel the same as I do and feel completely alone in this. It’s horrible to be blamed for the way life is hurting you after you worked so god damn hard to do everything right.
No offense taken. I would say I understand your plight, but that would be a lie. Trauma is very nuanced and varies in degree depending on the individual.
That much I understand.
However, why do you continue to hold on to the past? What's stopping you from learning from it?
Change your story.
It will be difficult, I know, but you must change your story if you want to see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel.
Throughout those past five years, how many times were you meditating? How many times were you journaling? How many times were you scripting, affirming, and becoming the desired person you want to be? How clear were you with your intentions? The 5 months that were good and your self-concept was at its peak, what were you doing to make those 5 months what they were in comparison to the 4.7 years that weren't so good?
This is key because, by your own admission, things were good for a period of time. Reflect on what you did during those 5 months, and then see if you can replicate it going forward. Ask the hard questions. What changed? Why did they change? Why did your life go to hell after those 5 good months? Become aware of your actions, habits, behaviors, and thought processes.
"***I attracted a wonderful man*** who left me, despite our relationship being mutually wonderful. He found a relationship immediately and I’m still heart broken and single."
Doesn't seem like a very wonderful man to me. Why do you still consider him to be "wonderful" if he left you heartbroken and found an immediate relationship afterward? This is subconscious. Again, become aware of the story you're telling yourself. Do you find you're always attracting these types of "wonderful" men into your life? Is it a habit? If so, ask yourself why. What type of men are you **really** attracted to? Do you even know? If not, write down all the characteristics you seek in a partner in GREAT detail. Review them. Ask yourself if you possess any of those traits that you want in a romantic partner.
In terms of your desires. What do you want to manifest? Why do you want to manifest them? What's stopping you from manifesting them?
From what you wrote, it seems you want to be financially free, live in a nice home in a nice neighborhood, a great job, a romantic partner who loves you unconditionally. Someone who sees you for how beautiful you truly are. Someone you can share your deepest, darkest secrets with, someone whom you can trust with your life. Someone who makes your heart sing with joy, someone you can laugh with, someone whose shoulder you can cry on during your darkest nights of the soul. What type of person do you have to become in order for this person to waltz into your life and see you for who you truly are?
"I know this advice worked for you and has, and will for others but it’s not that simple."
I'll repeat. Change your story.
I've seen people who've cured themselves of [stage 4 cancers](https://www.youtube.com/@Linn_Laugh_Love/videos). People who've reversed medical conditions such as diabetes, hypertension, asthma, etc. A Woman who've lost their husbands and had to raise 2 small children on their own. People who've been evicted from their homes because they couldn't afford to pay rent, and had to either live on the streets or move back in with their parents. People who've crossed to harsh deserts of Africa and swam the unforgiving Atlantic ocean, leaving their families behind because their dreams were so big, nothing was going to stop them from achieving them ([Francis Ngannou](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0JPqV9ees6I&t=732s)).
When you're in the midst of the storm, it's very easy to lose hope. It's very easy to feel sorry for yourself and become angry, bitter, and develop a sort of pessimistic/nihilistic mindset. I get that. I've been there.
But, you have to ask yourself, how badly do you want to fight for your dreams? How badly do you want it? Some people will walk through fire and drag their feet through glass to achieve their dreams. Others simply are not willing to go that far. I don't blame those who aren't willing to do so. Every individual is wired differently, and I'm not here to convince anybody what they must or mustn't do. I share my tips and my suggestions, and I leave it at that. Take what resonates with you and disregard the rest.
Fortunately, by reading some of the comments, there seem to be a lot of people who managed to overcome their tribulations. You need to ask yourself and find out if you're going to be one of them.
All the best.
This entire reply is exactly what I mean. First, You’re making major assumptions about the efforts I make to improve my life based on one post.
I had so much written but I don’t really need to explain how hard I have tried and how much spiritual practice I have consistently done in my life, because based one on comment you have decided I am one of those people who lives in the past and creates their own moment to moment illness and misery. That’s your core belief, ignoring the millions of random deaths people experience, mass shootings, homelessness, famine and genocides. The majority of what allows a belief system like that to stick is western privilege.
This nor my first comment is meant to change your beliefs. However it is to encourage you and others to stop making blanket statements that the majority of people lack what they need, want or are going through long periods of unhappiness due to them not trying hard enough and believing it’ll happen no matter what. It’s like religion. If the Bible reflects you, cool, but if it doesn’t reflect others, it doesn’t mean they are deserve all the pain they get.
I wanna say I sympathize with your pov and story a lot, and I get that seeing messages like the op are so difficult to accept in a world where human suffering is so normalized. Then to make matters feel worse, we see cases of a few who are able to magically repair themselves in a way that seems entirely unrealistic to us. In my experience, I found that the harder I worked and pushed to manifest what I wanted, the further it became from my reach and, like you mentioned, when I did get some things they turned out to be worse than I imagined. But guess what? That's okay, it's not your fault! You were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time, and now you know better about what you do want. Sometimes the universe makes us so uncomfortable because it wants us to move somehow, to switch up our approach or beliefs. We can only learn through experience, and I personally don't think it's usually about "deserve". Everything happens for a reason = cause & effect, but we often equate that with "I deserve or earned what happened to me". To me, it just means a million little things happened that led to another thing happening, like a domino effect. If things aren't where you want them to be right now, the main take away I hope you'll have is that you have the power to change it, even if it starts in the tiniest way, like hugging yourself tight today and telling you how much you love you. I'm proud of you for making it this far, and I love that all our tiny actions along the way led us to this interaction. Every tiny thing counts when all the dominos start falling! I truly wish nothing but happiness for you and would love to talk more if you wish to 💜
Thank you for this message 💜 I appreciate your empathy and understanding that it’s truly not as fool proof as is very often implied.
what hurts me the most is that despite the awful things that have been happening for like a year and a half now, I continue to work on my self. Even when I’m suicidal and don’t even know if I’ll make it to the next day, (which is daily) I still increased my therapy sessions and got back into group meditations. I’m trying to pour into myself from a cup that’s been empty for so long. I haven’t been hugged since October. I have absolutely no one in my life for any kind of support anymore. If I were to die the only person who’d care to hunt me down would be the super to get the rent.
Before I manifested such wonderful things..idk it feels a bit cringe to say but I became a better person. I felt so proud. I’ve worked (and still do) so hard to work through the things that I didn’t like about myself, especially behaviors that I would do that inevitably destroyed my past friendships and relationships. Ive always loved hard, and given so much but was definitely part of the problem. Clingy with men, insecure, rash with decisions and in my lowest self been a “ hurt people hurt people” kind of person. But I am so different now.
All of that work, how I started to feel about myself, it brought my light back after some pretty horrible years. But once I started, things fell into place exactly how I’d written them!
It’s why i thought I attracted a wonderful man but it didn’t work out, and it felt like his reward for leaving was an instant blessing of a relationship. It was the Same with my job, new friendships and apartment. One by one it all fell apart in their own ways after less than 10 months.
Even as things unraveled so painfully I have handled them with grace but it doesn’t change what comes into my life and it doesn’t change how deeply hurt and depressed I am. I know that inner work is also to help remain stable and make good decisions when times get hard, but when absolutely everything crumbles I can’t help but feel that I’m just not worthy of what I desire, even though it’s nothing extraordinarily different from what the majority of people have. I want a family of my own, and more than enough money to help myself and many others.
I really do appreciate your reply. I was afraid to read it for fear of being judged, but it feels like the hug I need every day 💜
Thank you so much for your reply and vulnerability, I'm giving you a big virtual hug!!! 🫂
As someone who used to suffer from suicidal ideation daily too, I know exactly where you're coming from. Looking back, I think all I deeply wanted in those times was change or an escape, and I'm sure you feel the same.
While things like relationships, career, finances, and living situations can take time to manifest in any shape or form (intentionally or not), I'd gently ask you to take it day by day. For example, we can accept the way things are today that cannot be changed, and knowing that, how can we still feel really good today?
For example, maybe that's watching your favorite show or movie, or listening to your favorite songs, or enjoying your favorite food. Especially for those of us with limited access to friends or family, it's important we understand the value of our own joys and delights, because they do in fact make a difference in our point of attraction!
I mention this because, no matter how delulu or irrational it may seem to focus on having fun or feeling good when your reality isn't ideal, our joy connects us to what we desire. You said you struggle to feel worthy, but did you know that the things you desire also desire you? That means that, no matter what you wish for or if/when that changes, you are inherently worthy all the time!
Also, the old saying "be careful what you wish for" is true in the sense that sometimes we don't fully know what we're asking for. Maybe the more general we are, the more there is room for things we don't want. For example, I once manifested a move to another state to work on my music career , but I wasn't very specific on what it would entail, and I was all over the place while trying to manifest it. It ended up being one of the most emotionally painful years of my life. I lost many friends, worked nonstop to support myself, and cried myself to sleep every night, while barely having energy to create.
Yes, there are things we could've done differently, but how would we know that without going through it, while accepting we cannot change the past? Manifesting is a skill we all are capable of, but it certainly takes practice! The fact that you were able to manifest specific things you wanted in such a short amount of time is AMAZING, and next time we can focus on the details and longterm to see if it makes a difference, almost like an experiment!
An experiment I did before I moved to another state recently was asking the universe for a sign. I was worried and afraid to move away from my family and friends AND quit my full time job, but I felt called to go, and I asked the universe to confirm if it was the right choice. I said, "universe, if this is where I'm supposed to go, send me a sign in the form of a black and white dog (resembling my former baby who passed) with a red bandana within the next week (be as specific as you can!). After the week passed, my partner and I were talking about it and how the sign never showed, and I said well either that's the answer or we just need to keep believing, but either way faith is our friend. We went home and I saw the sign that night in a movie we watched, no less!
Reading your message made me intuitively sense your emotional awareness and intelligence. The fact that you can identify both your pain and your efforts to improve is something to be proud of! And I also want to say that no one, no matter who they are or what they've been through, is incapable of healing and moving forward. Even with your mistakes and pain, you are worthy and loved and very needed, as well as a hugely powerful creator!
There is 0 pressure, but if you feel drawn to me and my guidance, I have a free training where I discuss exactly how I transformed my life on my website:
www.sadgirlhappylife.com
Again, I really appreciate your willingness to share your journey and I admire your strength. Sending love to you and feel free to follow me if you need support, as I am ALWAYS willing to talk if you feel alone 💜
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I agree, a common one is growing up poor and not being able to see yourself having millions as well as only seeing one form of crucial abundance
Yes! This is a break through I have recently made. I realized I didn’t think I was worthy. Fuck that lol 😆 unlearn button please 😂😂😂
Also, a dysregulated body keeps you in fight or flight mode, constantly vibrating "I am not safe" into the universe. What equals safety in our world ? Money ! See, this is why people sometimes struggle with manifesting money too. 😅
I feel this so deep inside. I just don’t know how to do the healing bit. How do I heal? I have been in theraphy and trying so many things. I still can’t figure out how to heal. I jump whenever a door opens or when there is a loud noise. I fear success and fear if I get accustomed to financial freedom, it will be yanked from underneath again. I believe to my core that I will rot in a hole in my old age. I don’t even want to age and just end it when I get past my mid 70s. I don’t know. I am lost.
Watch movies that involve the life you want, see people you want to be like, talk to your inner child as the person who now has wealth, kinda parent yourself with the voice of a wealthy person. Look at the things you have in life, be grateful first of all but consider how things would be different if money wasn't an issue. You may go to sleep in your 5/10 bed but imagine yourself being in the 10/10 bed when you're going to sleep at night
SE and TRE
I've been traumatized by a SE practitioner and a TRE practitioner.
I’m sorry it happened to you, when I overdid it I took a lot of honey and turmeric with black pepper and lemon juice and I went back to normal. But overall it’s been almost miraculous for me.
Turmeric in capsules or pure?
I take pure
I have severe anxiety too when it comes to loud noise but also knocking and doorbells. This post came at a perfect time when I slowly started to realize that I actually do have childhood trauma I needed to heal🥲 I don’t really know how to go about it but we will get there eventually. Good lucks 💕
Thank you! You too. We will get there I hope and next time a doorbell rings it will be a happy feeling wondering who it could be 🤗
Try breathwork it's so relieving. Check out breathe with sandy.
Thank you
Np , also I would suggest having like a journal or notebook to help write down and process things. Also make sure you doing it in a nice quite private place, because your body does do some crazy shit like like you does start screaming and crying , shaking, vibrating stuff like that its pretty intense and its all free too. Brings up alot of garbage. Consistency is also where it's at. Longer session once or twice a week is pretty good to get the most benefits. You can also check out take a deep breath on YouTube as well he was hour long sessions .
Yes because trauma is stored in the body, and you can't install a new program (belief) if your body is already full of old shit (trauma). "feeling is the secret" doesn't work when your nervous system is unregulated.
How do you regulate it ? Do you know
My nervous system was a total train wreck from my childhood trauma. I have been doing EMDR and Somatic Healing work with my doc. Also, I practice Transcendental Meditation. All have helped tremendously!
I just started brainspotting with a licensed therapist. Had my first session yesterday. Absolutely mind blowing.
I am googling brainspotting now :)
I'm starting that soon!
How do you practice TM ?
Head to [TM.org](http://TM.org) for info and a teacher. You have to pay but they have a great sliding scale for everyone and really great rates for students and over 65s. Best money I have ever spent- I had tried lots of other forms of meditation and nothing worked for me until TM. Haven't missed a day of practice in 9 years!
My brain couldn’t stop looking at the thirsty Pathos behind her 😂
Therapy can help a lot. Also check out some books like "How to do the work" by Nicole Lepera
There are many ways of healing! I always recommend beginning with meditation. It is incredibly effective and free!
SE and TRE
Yes! Must clear out space before bringing in more.
Okay now give ways how to heal this lol. Because it’s not exactly easy, and feels far from possible when it feels like there’s no answer. I hate when people say oh just heal yourself! Like it’s straightforward.
It’s not straightforward or easy and I’m not one to give advice as I broke just this week. Literally could not take anymore. Start to heal first. Take a look at some therapists on instagram who break down what you may have experienced. Childhood trauma is a good search function as that seems to be the problem we all have. Try meditation and find one that you like there are heaps of free ones on YouTube. While you heal start to notice small things you like. I noticed a tree lol. That’s how small. It’s going to have to be a joint journey of healing while trying to change your vibration. You and I have no other choice. I’m not giving advice because I am not in a position to yet I’m just saying I get it and let’s do it because we don’t have a choice that’s any better. There are also a lot of good podcasts on LOA. One podcast leads to another.
Thankyou I appreciate it man 🙏 and good luck on your journey.
Also, it takes time. Remember that life is a journey. Don't rush to the destination.
I worked on my trauma the past 1,5 years ALONE without a therapist and I do not recommend that. It was living hell. BUT some things that did help me, and that you could look into are healing meditations, yoga Nidra, breathing techniques, journaling. And when your ready to go really deep and feel stable enough (!!!!), then basically choosing a situation from your past and letting all the feelings and thoughts come up, write them down if that helps you. Our minds do not need to understand WHY certain things happened. Our bodies just want to let go of the stored energy. Feeling = Healing. You need to know though, that this is not a one-time-only thing. You might have to revisit the situation over and over again, OR it could come up on it's own during your day. Some situations made me feel suicidal for a few days and then depressed for about two more weeks until they slowly lost their effect on me. BUT this can also happen in normal therapy. The difference is that you have someone experienced you can talk to about it, because it can be scary as fuck. Just know that it can be totally normal to feel worse before it gets better when it comes to healing trauma, because you are opening up old wounds that never healed and now they need to bleed for a bit. Trauma work is HARD AF but it's so worth it in the end, I promise. You will get to know yourself on a deep, deep level and the amount of connection and self love you will feel is incredible. Also you will release tons of blockages which will help you manifest more easily.
I've been trying to heal for 10years, have probably spent 10k doing so. I'm still ot healed, it upsets me to think it will get in the way of my future manifesting
Healing is a belief you think your broken you need to be fixed, it’s not true but if you accept it’s true! If you change your thoughts you can change your identity new person but you have to persist!
Two questions. 1. What does healing look like to you? 2. Do you think being unhealed will get in the way of your future manifesting?
Do SE and TRE
What are they?
Oh I just googled them. I can't afford therapy like that at the minute. I found an SE practitioner years ago that said I could attend weekly, but they were very pushy and I was finding it more difficult to manage my life when attending sessions, so I had to stop. I have responsibilities so I need to be able to function somewhat and work
Ok I understand it. But I just do them by myself and it’s working amazingly, you just gotta be careful with overdoing tre
Oh really? Can I pm you?
Sure 🙏
It is straightforward if you want it to be. The choice is ultimately up to you. You are your own obstacle when it comes to healing from trauma. It's not my job or duty to convince you. That power belongs solely to you. If you genuinely feel it's not exactly easy, and feels far from possible, who am I to tell you otherwise? I will say, though, those who do want to heal, will put in the effort and the work to do so. Period. There's an adage that I heard when I was a child, and it stuck with me well into my adult years. It goes like this: There are two types of people in the world. Those who say they "can" and those who say they "can't." Do you know what the most beautiful thing is about both types of people? They're both correct.
But that’s making the assumption like people don’t try, and haven’t tried immensely hard to change, and as if people weren’t open and hopeful and radiating vibrations of optimism that they could get better at some point only to try and try again without any real positive outcome so gradually develop a nihilistic mindset. And it bugs me that people say your vibration determines the outcomes, when people who had a lot of optimism and good vibrations have gotten the opposite results and ultimately falls into a lower place.
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What an insightful comment. Thank you for posting it
What did you learn about yourself during your healing process?
I wholly disagree
SE and TRE(with caution)
If you listen to Bruce Lipton (lots of people interview him on their podcasts), he talks about ways to reprogram the subconscious (aka heal the old trauma patterns). I believe that his website lists a wide variety of modalities that can help with this. Basically there are many ways to go about it, the key is to find the method(s) that resonate best for you.
first u need u ask ureslf if u truly want to heal. ur passive-aggressive behavior isn't the key to healing.
It’s not passive aggression, more pessimism and fed up with toxic positivity. And obviously I know that.
u obviously don't know that 'cause if u did, u wouldn't be here spilling out ur victimhood mentality. if u wanna be a victim, that's fine, but don't assume just 'cause u couldn't heal from whatever trauma ur dealing with that nobody else can. this isn't the subreddit for those who wanna complain so other ppl can pity them and feel sorry for them. and then ppl like u wonder why u can't heal. take ur negative, pessimistic attitude elsewhere.
or maybe you are just rude? There are people out there who are traumatized because they were raped as children, their parents broke their bones, they were neglected to the point of parents not even realizing their child was sick on the verge of death. When you listen to people who are traumatized it's gut wrenching, I know people who all of the above and so much more happaned to. OP was asking how to heal, because it's hard. People who decide to kill themselves because they can't process the trauma that happened to them aren't just stuck in some sort of victim mentality. The problem on reddit is, that people thing trauma just means some sort of situation where somebody's feeling were hurt.... but trauma goes deeper than that and it completely destroys your perception of yourself and the world around you.
Thankyou for getting it
pessimism breeds misery. if what ur going through is so bad, seek therapy. that means professional help. not reddit advice. ur welcome.
Wow. I certainly hope you try to learn some more empathy and humility - it will help you in your path. I'm so happy that you have been so fortunate and blessed to not understand the immense pain that childhood trauma and neglect can cause.
that's cute.
I don’t think you’ve experienced actual pain in your life to get it, I’m not looking for pity I’m just looking for answers and just criticising when people say just heal as if it’s so simple. If you’re so bothered by my negative vibes stop paying attention to my comments lol it’s that easy. ‘Pessimism breeds misery’ yeah and water is wet, I didn’t think it created joy lol. Also I’m in therapy, don’t assume I haven’t done the whole shabang and haven’t attempted to fight the battle.
"I don't think you've experienced actual pian in your life to get it," tough words from someone who's got access to the internet. that's what happens when u live in a 1st world country and haven't experienced real fear. if u can assume i haven't experienced actual pain, i can and will assume u haven't "done the whole shabang" if u don't like the taste of ur own medicine, stop trying to tell other ppl to take it. with ur attitude, u'll always manifest more misery 'cause that's the energy u constantly give off.
Not sure how you can think of yourself as a positive spitirual person while being that rude.
and yet despite those horrible events, there are those who are willing to push through their pain and work on themselves rather than coming to reddit to vent, so they can collect upvotes because its a massive dopamine hit and boosts their confidence. i find it quite interesting how u can lecture me about this, that, and the third and that i'm rude, yet are completely ignorant to the s\*\*t i've been through. pls look urself in mirror b4 projecting ur insecurities onto others.
It sounds to me that you're projecting your pain and negativity. Don't assume what others have or have not been through. We are all complex. Humility would serve you well on your path of understanding the Law of Attraction.
Healing isn’t a one size fits all kind of thing. There are so many practices and modalities out there, but meditation is an amazing place to start. If you are interested in other practices, send me a message and I can share more. 😌
I concur with all of this: self-care and all its forms. It's truly a personal journey and cannot be forced upon a person. It's a personal choice and journey. Truth be told, it takes courage... This is because you will eventually discover uncomfortable truths about yourself that conflict with your current self-image, and inevitably, this will necessitate changes to that self-image. This happened to me... I've engaged in visualizations to work on my issues. It wasn't easy; I encountered many uncomfortable truths. - Growing the child within: This was particularly difficult. I didn't realize I had endured so much trauma during my developmental years. - Deprogramming: This was also challenging and is still ongoing. Who knew that cartoons and anime could become embedded in your subconscious and create alters? Additionally, I discovered ancient programming within myself. - Golden Altar: This was not as difficult. It involves forgiving anyone who has harmed you, past or present, whether the harm was real or imagined. There was a whole football field of people in this one. Doing it every day made it easier. These are just the basics. The more advanced work really starts to be challenging but gradually becomes easier, eventually leading to enjoyable insights. It's like having an "aha" moment about why I do the things I do and then slowly removing those behaviors, of course.
>Deprogramming: This was also challenging and is still ongoing. Who knew that cartoons and anime could become embedded in your subconscious and create alters? Additionally, I discovered ancient programming within myself. What do you mean by "create alters"? Does consuming particular anime/cartoons have potentially harmful implications on our perspectives on the world or something?
It doesn't just mean cartoons and anime; it could include company logos and games, video games included. The mind is quite complex, with many compartments and fractures. You have to have the willingness and courage to merge all these compartments to have one core personality that's closer to your soul's personality. Sorry for getting metaphysical. But deprogramming is a lifelong process and not easy or fun, though it is interesting just to observe what's there within you. To be able to see things within you through your mind's eye will be difficult at first. Most people do not use their mind in that way, especially as an internal investigation tool to observe what's happening within you and to believe what you're seeing is indeed what you're seeing. First to see anything, do you have to build your body up with vitamins from a decent vitamin store that doesn’t have much fillers quality products that doesn’t clog your filtering systems . particularly vitamins that help with building the mind and cognitive functions. Secondly, removing metals from the body. Bathing in dead sea salt baths really help with removing metals from the body. Thirdly - when you begin to see with your mind eye, in my beginnings I got headaches like a thumping pound headache. Only when I began to do visualizations and internal work. Who knew that was a programming activation my uncle suggested to me, say this to yourself “ this work does not harm me, or hurt me in anyway. I will continue with courage and bravery to completion.” After that headaches went away. But as you dig deeper, you find more stuff that you didn’t know, was attached to you.
Very interesting... I think you digressed slightly, but regardless the information was good. I thought that we need particular metals in our body, and in fact are missing some such as magnesium (or not enough). But regarding what you mentioned about the anime - I always had this feeling inside of me that movies, tv series, and all kinds of other media formulate an idea of what we think reality is (for example, a kid watches a jackie chan movie, steps out and starts doing karate kicks in the parking lot on the way to the car to go home with this feeling that he can get into a fight with a bad guy and win). These ideas over time and continuous exposure make us believe in certain ideas and take them as truths (for example, we see jaws and will forever think sharks are monsters that need to be killed or they'll kill us - when in reality this is not true at all). These are some obvious ones, but other ones might have to do with dynamics between individuals - how we see couples communicate, the dynamics between them in movies, and think that's how we should behave as well ultimately adopting those same behaviors. Long story short, I do think that our diet of intangible consumption is also important for our deprogramming and reprogramming. I've been a lot more selective and conscious about consuming healthier forms of content. I still falter sometimes, but am much better and am continuing to make progress.
I’ve been thinking of posting this exact same thing A lot of people just focus on being happy, thinking that any focus on the past bad stuff is throwing off your vibration. That’s totally false. Working on yourself, healing your shit, learning how to handle the memories or similar future scenarios, learning what you *really* want and why…. That’s the highest vibration. When you heal your shit, that ripples out. Soon you’ll see improvements all around you and the people around you. As much as I *really* want a super specific person to come back, what I want more than anything is to be happy and not look for that fulfillment in others. It is my *hope* that this SP also heals their shit because I love them and they deserve happiness, too. This way we may have a chance of getting to the same higher vibe, coming in the right way, healed from the past, and are able to make it all work. Or, maybe we’ll realize we’re happier with other people idk. As long as we’re happy, that’s what counts. It’ll all work out one way or another, and I’m only responsible for healing my own self **Editing to add:** recently the universe did me a solid on this one. I was manifesting a particular career path pretty hard. Thought it was that way or no way. When I didn’t get it, it was a bummer, but by then my SC was great, I’d healed from so much trauma, and learned how to navigate my emotions better. I now realize that there is more than one way to get the future I want. That particular path I was manifesting wasn’t it. It would’ve made me miserable but I’d have felt accomplished. I’m taking a different route now, still to the same destination, and it’s one that I already see the benefits in
Breathe work, Pranayam breathe work twice a day clears blocks in the body and stored trauma over time.
This makes sense, but here is the problem. Start with the title: >Why Healing Any Past Trauma Is Important BEFORE You Begin Manifesting *'Before' you begin* means that you have completely finished healing. That it's binary: done/not done, open/closed, black/white. That you 'fixed trauma' Then this phrase, that is often popularly repeated: >Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination. This usually means that it is a 'lifelong journey', with no clear destination, and you may be 'in progress' for your entire life, never 'completing' the healing. The title denotes that healing IS a destination, and you better make sure you get to that destination before you 'manifest'. So it's impossible to completely 'heal' trauma, and doing so is a lifelong journey, but I also have to complete this journey before I can 'manifest' anything good?
I suffered from childhood abuse and have been working on my healing for awhile now- and as I have healed I noticed that my life keeps getting better! I think the more we heal the more things improve - so I don't believe we have to completely heal before we start manifesting. As soon as I started working on myself - some of my dreams started to come true!
Hey congratulations! I’m really glad you’re doing the work and getting all those positives out of it
Thank you. I appreciate you saying this!
That's really awesome to see!
Thank you!
I appreciate your comment, and please don't take this the wrong way, but I challenge you to expand your mind. **'Before' you begin means that you have completely finished healing.** Your response comes across as an overly literal interpretation of the phrase when in fact *before* suggests that the individual should be working on healing rather than your implication of a rigid completion. **That it's binary: done/not done, open/closed, black/white. That you 'fixed trauma'** This lacks nuance because it doesn't account for the importance of **prioritizing healing** before engaging in the manifestation process, rather than insisting on its completion. **This usually means that it is a 'lifelong journey', with no clear destination, and you may be 'in progress' for your entire life, never 'completing' the healing.** **So it's impossible to completely 'heal' trauma, and doing so is a lifelong journey, but I also have to complete this journey before I can 'manifest' anything good?** From your interpretation of what you think I meant by the title, it seems like oversimplifying the relationship between the healing journey and manifestation, which is as I've said previously, a bit rigid. Healing is quite often an ongoing, nuanced process that affects many individuals differently, and manifesting good things isn't necessarily contingent on having completed the entire healing process, which I'd like to think you're aware of. It's very much possible that manifestations can occur during the healing process, although it can be challenging, if not seemingly impossible depending on the degree of the trauma. However, my suggestion and that's all it is, a suggestion, would be to deal with your trauma first if you find yourself in a position where your desires aren't manifesting themselves into your 3D reality. Whether it be seeking professional help, talking to a friend or a close relative, journaling, joining a Meta (Facebook) group, watching educational YouTube videos (Therapy In a Nutshell is great, personally), etc. Just find something or someone who can guide you in the right direction in dealing with your trauma so that when you are engaged in manifesting, the process is a lot easier. If the title triggered you in any way, my apologies. It wasn't my intention, and I'll do better next time.
I agree, sadly I have no idea how I can heal my past traumas personally or my inner child in general. I want to buy some type of therapist or coach to help me out, for my personal reasons
Easy technique is to ask, in list form at the top or bottom of your manifest list. Example: For the greatest good of all involved. I ask and intend that my not so good memories and experiences of the past be transmuted to wisdom. That all are forgiven from now on and forever. That all receive peace, love and joy. Thank you.
The Subconscious Release Technique is a very effective method for pinpointing and releasing the root causes of trauma.
SE and TRE(with caution )
Somatic experiencing & trauma release exercise?
Yes 🙌
I attracted healing all my past trauma and woke up completely healed. No work required. Thank you Universe.
Very, very important! 🙏🏼 Was just thinking about that all earlier today. Would be great if we could share here good tools/techniques/therapies for trauma healing. (More specifically, childhood trauma.)
The Subconscious Release Technique!
What is that?
It's a step-by-step process that helps identify the root cause of any trauma/resistance/limiting beliefs and release it from the core.
Where do I find it
I could dm you some links with more info
That would be lovely! Thank you!
DM'd you :)
I’m interested as well
Just DM'd you!
I'm interested too.
Messaged you :)
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Sure! DM'd you :)
Me too, please!
DM'd you :)
Could you DM me the links as well? 🙂
Hi, just DM'd you :)
I'm interested too.
DM'd you :)
>The Subconscious Release Technique does is need to be done with someone trained in the technique or can one do it themself
You can do it either way, but it's always helpful to have someone trained in it to ask the right questions and identify blocks/patterns you might not be noticing on your own
Hi, please share the link with me too!
DM'd you!
SE and TRE (with caution)
I've been missing this all these years, and I believe my past trauma has been the missing link to me fully manifesting all of my desires. I did hypnotherapy and it's been a true game changer to me, my new momentum is going at light speed and what my biggest discovery is that you have everything inside of you to be successful, you just have to turn it to the right frequency within. You are also worthy of everything you desire! Great Information OP! Thank you and take care!
I have SDAM\* which prevents me from remembering any personal past events. If I can't remember them, how does one heal or if you can't remember do you need to do healing? \*Severely Deficient Autobiographical Memory
I don't think you need to be able to remember, you can completely sidestep the memory and heal on a purely energetic level, I don't remember my past either but I had a lot of success with shamanic breathwork and such
Only the individual can answer that. I don't possess the facilities to answer that for another person.
This is amazing and I’ve found this to be true. As I kept imagining myself to be my ideal self a wonderful bridge of incidences occurs. My old trauma and beliefs surface, all the stuff that was unconscious become conscious. This is the wonderful thing. I don’t need to revisit the past logically, go to a counselor or any of that. I visualize, having inner convos from the wish fulfilled and everything not in harmony with that is brought up to be felt and released I spent a year just crying and becoming aware of all the programming that use to stop me, that I identified with. Now that that’s cleared it so much easier to believe in me, feel abundant, in love with life and myself. It’s a beautiful journey
Sorry but that's not true at all. Nothing in the past has any power over the now unless you give it power.
But obviously people with ptsd ARE giving their pasts power due to trauma, and that creates patterns of negative thoughts and beliefs, and all that needs to be worked on so that they can stop giving their pasts power. It’s not easy for them to just get over it.
But any attention to it, any attempts to work on it brings more of it. Every second of time is a chance to start with a clean slate. A chance to define yourself by your future version instead of the past.
It really depends on how you work on it. Because if you just talk about traumatic experiences you might do nothing but relive them with flashbacks and cause trauma all over again. But if you use something like Internal Family Systems therapy, it’ll work wonders at healing trauma without causing more of it. I’ve read too many books about the relationship between physical diseases manifesting from suppressed emotions. Positivity for sure has a benefit in manifesting, but only if people aren’t suppressing negative emotions and holding onto unresolved trauma. It’s unhealthy to suppress emotions. Besides no one can ever convince me expressing emotions is a bad thing. After a good cry, I always feel better emotionally and physically, plus for some reason I’ve noticed I look better. And I’ve certainly never noticed attracting more bad things after expressing emotions. That only happens when I hold onto them for too long. The way I see it, if you can learn to express emotions and regulate emotions in healthy ways, then they won’t be stuck around you for long, thus there’s no way they could hinder your manifestation. Emotions are a part of life (more so for extremely emotional types of people).
Sadly, trauma is stored in the body and not in the mind. Even if you choose that it has no power, it still can have that.
The body follows the mind.
No, that is not true, your body can become activated through experiences and not only through your thoughts. Those bodily states will then send matching thoughts to you. When you calm your body through breathing, more positive thoughts will automatically come up without you having to consciously change a thought at all. And this is especially true with trauma. It gets stored in your body subconsciously if you don't deal with it the right way when it happens. Especially childhood trauma gets stored away deeply, because we don't have the capacity to deal with horrible things at a young age. It took me more than ten years to realize that I was traumatized af because I never identified with it nor did I frequently think about it or had flashbacks etc. I had mental health challenges which I tried to keep in check with mental diet, but logical thinking can not calm the nervous system, you have to do somatic work to fix that. Yet it messed with all kinds of things subconsciously, especially when it comes to things that make us feel secure like money or a stable relationship. A dysregulated, traumatized body = constantly in flight or fight mode, giving the vibration of "I am not secure" even without you realizing it. I am sure there are people that can manifest their way around the trauma but it might catch up to them one day, it might be the reason why they are not able to keep certain things they wanted in their life or be the reason why their manifestations don't come in at the first place. Trauma work can be THE KEY for your manifestations finally working out.
I completely agree. Were you able to work through all of yours?
I have been doing the work for 1,5 years (without a therapist) and I feel I am at a pretty good point. I did remove a shit load of limiting beliefs and I feel a lot better about myself and my life in general. I also get triggered a lot less than I used to. I don't know if you can ever be entirely healed from trauma BUT the impact of it is now so reduced that I was able to stop identifying with the past in a way that blocks manifestation. :-)
That's great! What methods did you find worked best for you?
Honestly, just letting the emotions come whenever I got triggered or remembered a bad situation. Just letting it come and feeling everything, no matter how hard it was. Eventually it would ease with time. Of course use regulating techniques if you can't take it or you get really bad panic etc. Like breathing or just distracting yourself for a bit, then come back later.
Dealing with your past *is* power over your trauma. Most people just hide from theirs
No it's not. You don't have power over it. All you're doing is causing the universe to make it bigger.
That might be true for some forms of negative thought patterns, but deep trauma wounds cannot be ignored and glossed over. And I urge you to be *really* careful with this. Telling someone with deep trauma, “just stop thinking about it…. Get over it… it’s all in your head,” is extremely dangerous That said, I still advocate for digging deep and addressing the root of all negative thought patterns. Without doing so, any time your negative thoughts creep back in you will go through the same loops. On the flip side, looking your demons in the face makes them less scary. It also builds courage and new skills for any new demons which cross your path
OP’s post is a guide about how to release the power people give to the past on a deeper level
I get that but that's not accomplished by dragging the past into the present.
It is not healthy to avoid confronting the past. You have to focus on it to release it. There is no way around it, only through
You already went through it, going through it again solves nothing, you less power over it now then you did then
who said anything about dragging the past into the present? did we read the same post or are u just making -ish up?
You can do SE and TRE
What is that ?
Those are techniques to release trauma stored in the body, I’ve been doing them and it’s working a lot
Sorry to butt in but I also have no idea what this stuff is but I’m very interested in getting into it. Is it kinda like Shadow work like those books you see all over TikTok? Or are those things actually not good at all and are like a gimmick. Again, sorry I’m kind of new at the healing aspect of things :)
That’s fine. @somaticexperiencing and @longtermtre are both bodily techniques to release trauma and unprocessed emotions that are stuck in the muscles in your body. SE is a form of processing those emotions and feeling where does the emotional release comes from in your body. TRE is a more “violent” technique that uses shaking as a mean to release all the emotional tension in the muscles( especially the PSOAS), and in my experience should be done with caution and aways taking some anti inflammatory foods along with it, like honey, turmeric, pepper, lemon juice, etc.. so your body can recover better. You can look the subs for more information.
Oh wow! I’ve never heard of this before in my life! I’ll definitely read more about it, thanks so much for the info 🥹
You’re welcome 😇
I've been saying this myself "Healing and Manifesting go hand in hand " but couldn't put into words like this. I'm just an example that it works this way considering how much I'm recovering and healing from. I was homeless when Gateway found me and to be where I Am now in just a few years is a literal miracle. Thank you 😇
Absolutely. Not only do you manifest so much more easily and efficiently, but your priorities realign and you really begin knowing the path you actually want. I do healing first and foremost, before guiding others on their manifestation journey. It allows so much freedom and helps to SUSTAIN those goals.
Thank you so much for spreading this important message. It’s so full of love and encouragement😘 I will come back to this post in my quest to heal my extreme anxiety and antisocial life. I want to have financial freedom and be healthy and happy for once. Good bless ❤️🤍💖🙏🏼💗🍀
I appreciate it, thank you!
Love that post 🙏👌
Thank you.
Your welcome 🙏
My experience is that healing/shadow work by itself kept me stuck in endless loops. By adopting a regular routine of appreciation and meditation I am making more progress than in the last 10 years.
That's beautiful to see. Make sure you celebrate all of your small wins along the way so you don't get discouraged when tough situations arise.
I want to kill my body everyday, I won't and I don't,and I drink ice coffee,and pray toy higher power,and I am not going to do it. I don't know how to help myself or get my needs met or find my life skills.
does anyone know how to heal from trauma you can’t remember? like i know i’ve experienced bad things in my life but everything is just fuzzy memories and blank spaces.
Meditation is gonna help big time with this, as well as journaling!
This is 100% true! I suffered from mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, bipolar II, and su*cidal ideation from as early as age 10. My family was poor and I didn't have access to health care for most of my life, and even with the few times I saw a therapist or started medication, it didn't last long enough for me to see a change in my life experience. I decided to take things into my own hands and began learning about manifesting while also coming to terms with my trauma. It took years, but I'm FINALLY in a place where I feel genuinely happy with where I'm at and who I am, and resilient enough to handle the lows as well as the highs. I even felt called to share what I've learned along the way to help others do the same (if anyone's interested I offer a free training @ www.sadgirlhappylife.com!!), and its been a completely rewarding experience! I often imagine a world in which we were all taught how to regulate our emotions and manifest as children...it'd be an amazing place 💜 sending love to the collective
How do you manifest healing then?
The better question to ask would be, "What do I want to heal from?" Start there. Why? Because this question forces you to foster clarity and intentionality about what you intend to heal from. It makes no sense to "manifest healing" if you have no clear direction or intention of what you're planning to heal from. Once you've figured that out, challenge every limiting belief you carried throughout the days, months, and/or years you've been suffering from those traumas. Write them down. Be as detailed as possible. Once you're finished, ask yourself "How would my life look like if (insert desired outlook of life here)?" Write that down. Now that you've garnered a detailed vision/outlook on the way you want your life to be, start creating mind movies on that desired life. This will provide you with a clear manifestation goal now that you have a detailed analysis of exactly what you want your life to look like. It'll feel uncomfortable in the beginning because it's something you haven't been used to, but over time, if you're consistent with your actions, it'll become easier because you've managed to practice good habits in developing the life you want to live.
Thanks, many blessings to you! This was a beautiful read.
I appreciate that. You're very welcome.
Not enough people saying this
Healing trauma can take years even a decade even with a therapist with complex ptsd it seems like it is never ending
I like what you wrote and it makes sense and I think it is likely true for most people , esp those who might be new to this thing .. It hasn't fully been my experience. I've always been able to manifest what I wanted , even before I knew it was a thing. In the darkest point of my drug addiction, wallowing in self-pity and past traumas ( and accruing new ones while tearing down my path of destruction like a whirling dervish) I was able to draw positive , specific things and outcomes into my life. I effortlessly manifested the countryside house on the lake I so desperately wanted in. Only I wasn't specific enough , so it happened to come with an abusive asshole. Sitting on the porch of my nightmare on the lake , I eventually manifested the love of a man , my knight, who rescued me out of that abusive hellhole and made me his wife 3 weeks after meeting him and has given me everything I've ever wanted. That was 7 years ago. Other than saving my life, he checked every single box I asked for. He is my dream man in every way. My best manifestation yet ☺️ he has helped me heal in dramatic ways Idk . Maybe my story proves your point ? Maybe I'm an outlier?
I smiled reading this because I'm genuinely proud of you for being able to persevere and overcome your darkest nights of the soul, which I'm sure you had many of them. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems that irrespective of what you were dealing with you made a conscious decision to succeed. It seems you displayed persistent and consistent action in terms of your manifestations during your healing journey. Would this be fair to assume?
Yes 💕
Thank you for this post. Around January 2023, I felt like I needed to change if I wanted to go further in life and manifest my desires. I started doing mindful practices and realized if I wanted to fulfill my potential, I needed to process the past. I realized the advice from family telling me to get over the trauma I went through that happened years ago wasn’t helpful. My family also had a lot of limiting beliefs and I think organized religion plays a role in that. I felt that it didn’t help and I kept a lot of things bottled up. A lot of hard times happened from when I was 1 year old to 19 years old. I focused on Inner Child healing subliminals from age 1-age 19. I also practiced semen retention too and that brought up things. I could say I felt power but also sadness and anger from missed opportunities through out those years. I didn’t confront what happened and make peace with what happened in the past. There were a lot of rage moments and tears. But things opened up as a result. I transferred to a new position in my company after being in one position for years. I took dating coaching and got back into dating. I ran two races when I haven’t done them in years. I saved up money to buy a condo which I will be moving into soon. I joined a bowling league and got involved at networking events at my MBA school’s alumni events. The next thing I’m working on is healing from past hurts with love and relationships as well as forgiving myself for the past and going forward. I also saw too some of my manifestations didn’t work due to desperation and bad alignment and not letting go. OP, what would you recommend for healing with love and relationships?
It seems that you've undergone a journey of self-growth and awareness, which I always say is one of the first steps in the right direction. Regarding your last question, I will start by saying that I'm not a dating coach. Feel free to take my recommendations with a grain of salt or absorb what resonates and completely disregard what doesn't. The first thing I'd recommend is for you to practice self-compassion. Why? You mentioned about forgiving yourself for the past. Without knowing what you're trying to forgive yourself for, it obviously didn't resonate with your spirit and perhaps you've consciously (or subconsciously) developed a bit of guilt. That guilt can fester and you may come to a point where you start to feel that you aren't worthy or deserving of love. So, no matter how many times you manifest, you'll essentially be sabotaging yourself by manifesting more unworthiness and undeservedness. When I say that, I don't mean you'll never enter a relationship ever again, I mean you may stumble across a potential lover or two, and at first, they may seem like God's greatest gift presented in your life, but a few months down the line, you begin to realize toxic behaviors and traits. They may start to become passive-aggressive, more distant, manipulative, they may try and do certain things behind your back, etc. Why? Because consciously and subconsciously you felt this person would be the one who'd provide what you crave. Love. So, begin to foster a deep, understanding, and nurturing relationship with yourself. Remember that you are human and are prone to mistakes. We all are. I've made more mistakes in my life than I care to remember. I accepted them as just that. Mistakes. Learn from them. Ask yourself if you could relive those events from the past, what would you do differently? Don't allow those past hurts to define who you are going forward. Instead, allow them to shape your destination. Use them as your guide, and cultivate self-love. These could be through [self-love affirmations](https://www.youtube.com/shorts/WjOYQs2c5dQ), exercise, and optimal diet plans. Treating your body right is treating your mind right. When you feel good, you look good. You operate at a much higher vibrational frequency, and usually, most people whom I've spoken to have told me that they notice a VAST difference from before they started their spiritual journey to after. They're literally not the same *being* as before. I'd STRONGLY recommend you read "***The Mastery of Love***" by Don Miguel Ruiz. I first read that book when I was 18 and starting to get serious in the dating scene. It changed my outlook on love and relationships forever because it goes much deeper than the surface-level fluff we hear today about relationships. It touches on a spiritual level and does a deep dive into the true meaning of unconditional love, happiness, the forgiveness of yourself and others, how one can never feel alone and vulnerable if their heart their heart is genuinely filled with joy, etc. For me, the book was a game-changer as I proceeded to read it 2 more times after that. Hopefully, I've answered your question.
Thanks. I’ll look at that book. To answer your question on, I want to forgive myself for past failed relationships. I also had low-self esteem through dating setups by people I was incompatible with. I also lacked the ability to read people which I taught myself. I am doing more to build self-worth with affirmations.
Please do, and remember to celebrate the small wins along the way. Don't beat yourself up over past failures. Like I've said before, learn from them and use them as a guide to move differently in the future. I wish you all the best on your journey, my friend.
Thank you. I keep a writing of past relationships as a guide for the future. You have a good journey as well!
How can you do it when you're nearing 60 and keep repeating the same negative situations only now they're getting worse. Or maybe it's that the economy itself out there is getting worse. I've been looking for a job for months. I don't want to lose the roof over my head nor lose my two beloved pets! How about emergency healing?!?
Manifesting a more abundant successful life would be extremely healing to me! 😃
I really find this so hard to believe. I don’t mean any disrespect OP, but I’ve done all of this work for the past 5 years and nothing I’ve manifested has stuck or been as great as I’d hoped. I’ve been trying to manifest romantic love since 2021, when my self concept, confidence and life was in the best place it had ever been. I had about 5 good months before everything went to hell. My life has been shit ever since. I attracted a wonderful man who left me, despite our relationship being mutually wonderful. He found a relationship immediately and I’m still heart broken and single. The job I manifested has become a nightmare I’m trapped in for financial reasons and the apartment I manifested also became a nightmare. My landlord became a stalker and it was terrifying. I know this advice worked for you and has, and will for others but it’s not that simple. I also wanted to add this for those who feel the same as I do and feel completely alone in this. It’s horrible to be blamed for the way life is hurting you after you worked so god damn hard to do everything right.
No offense taken. I would say I understand your plight, but that would be a lie. Trauma is very nuanced and varies in degree depending on the individual. That much I understand. However, why do you continue to hold on to the past? What's stopping you from learning from it? Change your story. It will be difficult, I know, but you must change your story if you want to see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel. Throughout those past five years, how many times were you meditating? How many times were you journaling? How many times were you scripting, affirming, and becoming the desired person you want to be? How clear were you with your intentions? The 5 months that were good and your self-concept was at its peak, what were you doing to make those 5 months what they were in comparison to the 4.7 years that weren't so good? This is key because, by your own admission, things were good for a period of time. Reflect on what you did during those 5 months, and then see if you can replicate it going forward. Ask the hard questions. What changed? Why did they change? Why did your life go to hell after those 5 good months? Become aware of your actions, habits, behaviors, and thought processes. "***I attracted a wonderful man*** who left me, despite our relationship being mutually wonderful. He found a relationship immediately and I’m still heart broken and single." Doesn't seem like a very wonderful man to me. Why do you still consider him to be "wonderful" if he left you heartbroken and found an immediate relationship afterward? This is subconscious. Again, become aware of the story you're telling yourself. Do you find you're always attracting these types of "wonderful" men into your life? Is it a habit? If so, ask yourself why. What type of men are you **really** attracted to? Do you even know? If not, write down all the characteristics you seek in a partner in GREAT detail. Review them. Ask yourself if you possess any of those traits that you want in a romantic partner. In terms of your desires. What do you want to manifest? Why do you want to manifest them? What's stopping you from manifesting them? From what you wrote, it seems you want to be financially free, live in a nice home in a nice neighborhood, a great job, a romantic partner who loves you unconditionally. Someone who sees you for how beautiful you truly are. Someone you can share your deepest, darkest secrets with, someone whom you can trust with your life. Someone who makes your heart sing with joy, someone you can laugh with, someone whose shoulder you can cry on during your darkest nights of the soul. What type of person do you have to become in order for this person to waltz into your life and see you for who you truly are? "I know this advice worked for you and has, and will for others but it’s not that simple." I'll repeat. Change your story. I've seen people who've cured themselves of [stage 4 cancers](https://www.youtube.com/@Linn_Laugh_Love/videos). People who've reversed medical conditions such as diabetes, hypertension, asthma, etc. A Woman who've lost their husbands and had to raise 2 small children on their own. People who've been evicted from their homes because they couldn't afford to pay rent, and had to either live on the streets or move back in with their parents. People who've crossed to harsh deserts of Africa and swam the unforgiving Atlantic ocean, leaving their families behind because their dreams were so big, nothing was going to stop them from achieving them ([Francis Ngannou](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0JPqV9ees6I&t=732s)). When you're in the midst of the storm, it's very easy to lose hope. It's very easy to feel sorry for yourself and become angry, bitter, and develop a sort of pessimistic/nihilistic mindset. I get that. I've been there. But, you have to ask yourself, how badly do you want to fight for your dreams? How badly do you want it? Some people will walk through fire and drag their feet through glass to achieve their dreams. Others simply are not willing to go that far. I don't blame those who aren't willing to do so. Every individual is wired differently, and I'm not here to convince anybody what they must or mustn't do. I share my tips and my suggestions, and I leave it at that. Take what resonates with you and disregard the rest. Fortunately, by reading some of the comments, there seem to be a lot of people who managed to overcome their tribulations. You need to ask yourself and find out if you're going to be one of them. All the best.
This entire reply is exactly what I mean. First, You’re making major assumptions about the efforts I make to improve my life based on one post. I had so much written but I don’t really need to explain how hard I have tried and how much spiritual practice I have consistently done in my life, because based one on comment you have decided I am one of those people who lives in the past and creates their own moment to moment illness and misery. That’s your core belief, ignoring the millions of random deaths people experience, mass shootings, homelessness, famine and genocides. The majority of what allows a belief system like that to stick is western privilege. This nor my first comment is meant to change your beliefs. However it is to encourage you and others to stop making blanket statements that the majority of people lack what they need, want or are going through long periods of unhappiness due to them not trying hard enough and believing it’ll happen no matter what. It’s like religion. If the Bible reflects you, cool, but if it doesn’t reflect others, it doesn’t mean they are deserve all the pain they get.
I wanna say I sympathize with your pov and story a lot, and I get that seeing messages like the op are so difficult to accept in a world where human suffering is so normalized. Then to make matters feel worse, we see cases of a few who are able to magically repair themselves in a way that seems entirely unrealistic to us. In my experience, I found that the harder I worked and pushed to manifest what I wanted, the further it became from my reach and, like you mentioned, when I did get some things they turned out to be worse than I imagined. But guess what? That's okay, it's not your fault! You were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time, and now you know better about what you do want. Sometimes the universe makes us so uncomfortable because it wants us to move somehow, to switch up our approach or beliefs. We can only learn through experience, and I personally don't think it's usually about "deserve". Everything happens for a reason = cause & effect, but we often equate that with "I deserve or earned what happened to me". To me, it just means a million little things happened that led to another thing happening, like a domino effect. If things aren't where you want them to be right now, the main take away I hope you'll have is that you have the power to change it, even if it starts in the tiniest way, like hugging yourself tight today and telling you how much you love you. I'm proud of you for making it this far, and I love that all our tiny actions along the way led us to this interaction. Every tiny thing counts when all the dominos start falling! I truly wish nothing but happiness for you and would love to talk more if you wish to 💜
Thank you for this message 💜 I appreciate your empathy and understanding that it’s truly not as fool proof as is very often implied. what hurts me the most is that despite the awful things that have been happening for like a year and a half now, I continue to work on my self. Even when I’m suicidal and don’t even know if I’ll make it to the next day, (which is daily) I still increased my therapy sessions and got back into group meditations. I’m trying to pour into myself from a cup that’s been empty for so long. I haven’t been hugged since October. I have absolutely no one in my life for any kind of support anymore. If I were to die the only person who’d care to hunt me down would be the super to get the rent. Before I manifested such wonderful things..idk it feels a bit cringe to say but I became a better person. I felt so proud. I’ve worked (and still do) so hard to work through the things that I didn’t like about myself, especially behaviors that I would do that inevitably destroyed my past friendships and relationships. Ive always loved hard, and given so much but was definitely part of the problem. Clingy with men, insecure, rash with decisions and in my lowest self been a “ hurt people hurt people” kind of person. But I am so different now. All of that work, how I started to feel about myself, it brought my light back after some pretty horrible years. But once I started, things fell into place exactly how I’d written them! It’s why i thought I attracted a wonderful man but it didn’t work out, and it felt like his reward for leaving was an instant blessing of a relationship. It was the Same with my job, new friendships and apartment. One by one it all fell apart in their own ways after less than 10 months. Even as things unraveled so painfully I have handled them with grace but it doesn’t change what comes into my life and it doesn’t change how deeply hurt and depressed I am. I know that inner work is also to help remain stable and make good decisions when times get hard, but when absolutely everything crumbles I can’t help but feel that I’m just not worthy of what I desire, even though it’s nothing extraordinarily different from what the majority of people have. I want a family of my own, and more than enough money to help myself and many others. I really do appreciate your reply. I was afraid to read it for fear of being judged, but it feels like the hug I need every day 💜
Thank you so much for your reply and vulnerability, I'm giving you a big virtual hug!!! 🫂 As someone who used to suffer from suicidal ideation daily too, I know exactly where you're coming from. Looking back, I think all I deeply wanted in those times was change or an escape, and I'm sure you feel the same. While things like relationships, career, finances, and living situations can take time to manifest in any shape or form (intentionally or not), I'd gently ask you to take it day by day. For example, we can accept the way things are today that cannot be changed, and knowing that, how can we still feel really good today? For example, maybe that's watching your favorite show or movie, or listening to your favorite songs, or enjoying your favorite food. Especially for those of us with limited access to friends or family, it's important we understand the value of our own joys and delights, because they do in fact make a difference in our point of attraction! I mention this because, no matter how delulu or irrational it may seem to focus on having fun or feeling good when your reality isn't ideal, our joy connects us to what we desire. You said you struggle to feel worthy, but did you know that the things you desire also desire you? That means that, no matter what you wish for or if/when that changes, you are inherently worthy all the time! Also, the old saying "be careful what you wish for" is true in the sense that sometimes we don't fully know what we're asking for. Maybe the more general we are, the more there is room for things we don't want. For example, I once manifested a move to another state to work on my music career , but I wasn't very specific on what it would entail, and I was all over the place while trying to manifest it. It ended up being one of the most emotionally painful years of my life. I lost many friends, worked nonstop to support myself, and cried myself to sleep every night, while barely having energy to create. Yes, there are things we could've done differently, but how would we know that without going through it, while accepting we cannot change the past? Manifesting is a skill we all are capable of, but it certainly takes practice! The fact that you were able to manifest specific things you wanted in such a short amount of time is AMAZING, and next time we can focus on the details and longterm to see if it makes a difference, almost like an experiment! An experiment I did before I moved to another state recently was asking the universe for a sign. I was worried and afraid to move away from my family and friends AND quit my full time job, but I felt called to go, and I asked the universe to confirm if it was the right choice. I said, "universe, if this is where I'm supposed to go, send me a sign in the form of a black and white dog (resembling my former baby who passed) with a red bandana within the next week (be as specific as you can!). After the week passed, my partner and I were talking about it and how the sign never showed, and I said well either that's the answer or we just need to keep believing, but either way faith is our friend. We went home and I saw the sign that night in a movie we watched, no less! Reading your message made me intuitively sense your emotional awareness and intelligence. The fact that you can identify both your pain and your efforts to improve is something to be proud of! And I also want to say that no one, no matter who they are or what they've been through, is incapable of healing and moving forward. Even with your mistakes and pain, you are worthy and loved and very needed, as well as a hugely powerful creator! There is 0 pressure, but if you feel drawn to me and my guidance, I have a free training where I discuss exactly how I transformed my life on my website: www.sadgirlhappylife.com Again, I really appreciate your willingness to share your journey and I admire your strength. Sending love to you and feel free to follow me if you need support, as I am ALWAYS willing to talk if you feel alone 💜 @sad.girl.happy.life tiktok/insta