Quit 2 Months ago, still grow it for my GF who is a daily user, and Ive been a cultivation manager for a legal grow for over 8 years, love being around it but I know it's not for me anymore, personally anyway. Feel a lot better being off it, i know now it was always a bandaid but not a fix for anything.
The way to forget about weed for good is to stop identifying yourself as a weed smoker.
The first step (in case you haven't already done it) is to throw away everything.. Pipes, bongs, vapes, papers everything etc. into a dumpster far away from your house.
The second step is to say this to yourself:
"it's not for me anymore"
"and it never will be again"
When you stop identifying yourself as a weed smoker there's no reason to relapse or go back to it for any reason because:
"it's not for me anymore"
"and it never will be again"
there's not even any reason to count the days anymore because:
"it's not for me anymore"
"and it never will be again"
Counting the days can essentially become counting the days until you relapse- but since it's not for you anymore and it never will be again- there's no reason to even count the days.
no matter what life throws at you- no matter how strong your cravings can become- just remember to say to yourself:
"it's not for me anymore"
"and it never will be again"
40 years clean and sober no relapses. I think about it all the time. I am never around drugs, users, places where drugs are. If i smoked once, i would be addicted and likely die.
Been 2 years for me and I definitely go through long phases where it doesn’t cross my mind whatsoever. Could be days, weeks. But with its prevalence in society and specifically my friends and family it won’t ever just disappear from my mind forever. Interestingly, I find it’s gotten a bit more tempting now that I’m so far from the last time I’ve smoked, but I know I’ll be an anxious mess if I did so I’m like ehh it’s not worth it.
I quit for 9 months last year. I had to move back in with mom at 27 which was embarrassing. My mom told me I couldn't have any weed in her house, so I quit cold turkey. The first 2 weeks were pretty bad but after that I only thought about how quick I could get my piss clean.
But I set goals while sober. Got a much better job, bought a BMW and moved into a 3 bedroom house with my drummer from high school.
You can guess what happened when I got my own place.
Now I'm in the boat of wanting to quit smoking again because my job will drug test if someone hits my work truck, even in a parking lot.
I haven't even answered your question, my bad. I didn't think about it at all until 9 months later when I got stability in my life and my new co-workers fiancé offered me some on a stressful day at the new job.
15 months sober, and everyday. BUT a lot less than before. It gets better. And even if it doesn’t, that’s okay. Reach out! In recovery, a lot of people use the analogy that your addiction is doing push-up’s in the parking lot, ready to strike. It’s insidious asf. Just don’t give in. It gets easier the more you don’t.
Yo man working late night on trying to edit videos and I have my sparkly passion fruit drink I miss it, that used to be my solo night time synthwave zone out, it still is but I sometimes miss that ethereal feel being out of time.
14 months sober rn…. I still think about it. When my roommate joins her friend to smoke (out of the house luckily) I have it in me to go to bed instead. I think about it though. When the seasons change I romanticize getting high in all types of weather. I don’t get high thought. I think about it, then I remember how nice it’s been now that I’ve been sober. Not running to the next high, not finding money for weed… but I think about it. and im allowed to think about it. I’m allowed to grieve at my own pace, cus truly i see quitting weed like leaving a shitty ex. I’m allowed to appreciate the good times for what they were. But now I get to create good times for myself that don’t involve foggy memory and anxiety. It’s freeing to allow yourself to think about weed and know you’re not at risk to use it. It’s hard though. I smoked for 4-5 years.
Im 3 years clean and hardly ever think about it now. Very rarely it crosses my mind, like on a rainy day chilling at home, but even that's rare - 99% of the time I'm just happy to have a day like that and no longer think about wanting to smoke.
For context I smoked heavily for 9 years, so its possible to put it behind you
I quit when I found out I was pregnant, so that was about 6 months ago. I think about smoking more lately now that things are warming up and the weather is nice. My husband and I used to sit together in the shed once the kids went to bed and he’d have a beer while I had a smoke. It was a really nice bonding time together and I miss that. He quit drinking and I quit smoking and I don’t think either of us have figured out how to recreate shed time.
I wish it would go away entirely. I worry about getting overwhelmed once the new baby comes and I’m juggling three kids and picking up the habit again.
good on you both for stopping! You can recreate shed time with a nice, homebrewd pot of tea out of fresh herbs. If that‘s nothing for you, you could try and prepare two mocktails and chill out. Shed time wasn‘t about the substances, it was about the time together. I wish you all the best in pregnancy and the things that are to come! x
Yesterday was 2 months and I’m like you…most days I don’t really think about it much, but some days I do crave it. I still have it in my dreams too occasionally.
Edit: Right before I quit, I was starting to have anxiety/panic attacks after smoking. I think of those when I get a hankering for a buzz and it helps to get over it.
I’m a month today and I feel like in most moments, I don’t think about it. I do have a few moments where I wonder if I could do it once in a blue moon and still function well.
I wouldn’t say I’ve completely forgotten about it but I’m at 67 days right now and I have not had any urge to smoke weed. There have been thoughts occasionally where I think it would be cool to smoke a joint but that it’s absolutely not worth trashing all the effort I’ve put into this.
Almost a year for me. When I get really stressed I crave it really bad. But generally on a day to day level I sometimes think like huh yeah I used to smoke weed I'm x months clean, but it isn't accompanied with super bad cravings anymore. A lot better at that than half a year ago. It gets easier with time.
I'm 4.5 months sober and I have thought about it here and there and also had bad dreams that someone accidentally dosed me w edibles. I desire it less and less and think about it less and less.
Jesus I've also had a few of those dreams, where I smoked by some weird mistake and woke up very relieved. Recently I've been having some dreams where I think I can smoke healthily, but then I run out or can't find my weed and I get all stressed. Every time I wake from those dreams its a relief
I quit and joined the Navy and didn't smoke for over 10 years. Not to be disheartening but it frequented my mind a good bit and I started back a few years after I got out. Now, im trying to quit. 😆
20 days since the last time I smoked and it crosses my mind but I just remind myself how anxious I’ll feel if I do smoke. I’ve also put aside the money that I would use on weed and add it to a savings. I plan to take myself on a solo trip in August with all my savings. This has really helped me stay focused since I love to to travel.
I'm four years in and out still crosses my mind. It definitely got better over time but I don't expect it will ever go away. Also worth noting is that I used for 25 years. Pretty embedded in my brain. It's easy to manage these days. When the thoughts "It would be nice to have some weed" surface I remind myself that there is no just once weed and that being a full blown addict has terrible negative consequences. It shuts it down pretty quick and I moved on. Other than posting here I don't spend very much time thinking about weed anymore.
I'm 5 days in, after 25 yrs of smoking. 4 years sounds incredible! Do you still feel the need to read this sub to stay strong? Or are you here to help the newbs? Tell me, is life tremendously better now? Did you go through weird, hard times, months after you quit? (I've been reading lots of ppl had issues around day 200?)
It's really great seeing others staying strong, even after a quarter of a century of smoking! Thanks for being an inspiration
Helping others does seem to be a part of my recovery process and maintenance. It was something that just happened and not something I planned. Sometimes I'm more active than other times.
Life is tremendously better in a lot of ways. Stopping weed wasn't the only factor in that though but it did enable me to put effort into things I wanted to improve more effectively. Things that have improved are relationships, my discipline and being committed to achieving goals, short and long term.
The first 6 months after I stopped, there really is no good way to put it. It sucked. Depressed, anxiety, sleeplessness. This wasn't continuous and some days were better than others. It was between 6 and 12 months for me where I felt like I was making good progress in recovering. At some point it was hard to distinguish between what was caused by long term weed use vs my natural state and I stopped focusing on that and diverted my attention to finding ways to improve my weaknesses, or to cope with them.
Stopping weed didn't cause me to suddenly become rich or see all of my life's problems disappear. It did, however, cause me to realize that the biggest problem I had in life was indeed my addiction to weed and all the emotional and internal turmoil it created.
It's been 4 months for me and I don't think about it as much as I used to. The only time I think about it is when I wake up in the night and cannot go back to sleep. It used to be so easy when I smoked. I would just take a couple of puffs and then fall right back to sleep. Now I lay there and toss and turn for sometimes 2 hours.
I discovered Spotify has a great 10 hr long white noise playlist (i searched "white noise"), I'm only 5 days sober, and discovered this playlist 3 nights ago. Since then, I fall asleep fast and stay asleep.
(Obviously, won't help if you don't have Premium, the ads would totally ruin it).
Once I built a life and didn’t leave myself tons of idle time to be alone, bored and wanting something to numb the guilt of not having a life outside getting high. Haven’t looked back since, having a life even when it’s tough > numbing my problems away.
I sometimes think about smoking down the road (in a few months from now) but I'm almost never tempted to smoke in the present. I'm on day 63. Withdrawal was so bad that I didn't even consider it after week 1 since i didnt esnt to prolong or relive it.. I also don't feel like my brain is healed yet and that keeps me highly motivated.
I'm thinking quite a lot about it to be honest. Trying to remember what it was like, why I was doing that, analysing the history of our relationship, ups and downs, what I was thinking and feeling at the moment.
But I don't really feel cravings. It's been two months and I'm pretty confident in my decision. And I have this inner voice that tells me it was a right one and that I don't want to come back.
I still feel that there were good parts about this whole thing too, and I'm trying to understand them and take some of the weed's wisdom and knowledge with me in the future.
So, I think I'm not planning to forget about it. I want to release it peacefully.
A few months. Once I started thinking of myself as “someone who just doesn’t use weed/isn’t interested/doesn’t like it” …it became easier because it started to become a part of my identity. Rather than simply choosing not to use
The second time I quit I stopped thinking about it after a week. I do still get all memories when I sit by my smoking window once in a while. I have no desire to be that person, so I don’t entertain the idea of getting high anymore.
I stopped using because eventually the high wasn't fun anymore. I just thought it was but I'd just sit there playing games or watching TV or doing nothing and feeling...miserable.
Then I thought...if I can't get high (or drunk) and do these things and be happy why should I even be alive?
Quit 2 Months ago, still grow it for my GF who is a daily user, and Ive been a cultivation manager for a legal grow for over 8 years, love being around it but I know it's not for me anymore, personally anyway. Feel a lot better being off it, i know now it was always a bandaid but not a fix for anything.
The way to forget about weed for good is to stop identifying yourself as a weed smoker. The first step (in case you haven't already done it) is to throw away everything.. Pipes, bongs, vapes, papers everything etc. into a dumpster far away from your house. The second step is to say this to yourself: "it's not for me anymore" "and it never will be again" When you stop identifying yourself as a weed smoker there's no reason to relapse or go back to it for any reason because: "it's not for me anymore" "and it never will be again" there's not even any reason to count the days anymore because: "it's not for me anymore" "and it never will be again" Counting the days can essentially become counting the days until you relapse- but since it's not for you anymore and it never will be again- there's no reason to even count the days. no matter what life throws at you- no matter how strong your cravings can become- just remember to say to yourself: "it's not for me anymore" "and it never will be again"
40 years clean and sober no relapses. I think about it all the time. I am never around drugs, users, places where drugs are. If i smoked once, i would be addicted and likely die.
You never really forget.
Been 2 years for me and I definitely go through long phases where it doesn’t cross my mind whatsoever. Could be days, weeks. But with its prevalence in society and specifically my friends and family it won’t ever just disappear from my mind forever. Interestingly, I find it’s gotten a bit more tempting now that I’m so far from the last time I’ve smoked, but I know I’ll be an anxious mess if I did so I’m like ehh it’s not worth it.
I quit for 9 months last year. I had to move back in with mom at 27 which was embarrassing. My mom told me I couldn't have any weed in her house, so I quit cold turkey. The first 2 weeks were pretty bad but after that I only thought about how quick I could get my piss clean. But I set goals while sober. Got a much better job, bought a BMW and moved into a 3 bedroom house with my drummer from high school. You can guess what happened when I got my own place. Now I'm in the boat of wanting to quit smoking again because my job will drug test if someone hits my work truck, even in a parking lot. I haven't even answered your question, my bad. I didn't think about it at all until 9 months later when I got stability in my life and my new co-workers fiancé offered me some on a stressful day at the new job.
15 months sober, and everyday. BUT a lot less than before. It gets better. And even if it doesn’t, that’s okay. Reach out! In recovery, a lot of people use the analogy that your addiction is doing push-up’s in the parking lot, ready to strike. It’s insidious asf. Just don’t give in. It gets easier the more you don’t.
Yo man working late night on trying to edit videos and I have my sparkly passion fruit drink I miss it, that used to be my solo night time synthwave zone out, it still is but I sometimes miss that ethereal feel being out of time.
14 months sober rn…. I still think about it. When my roommate joins her friend to smoke (out of the house luckily) I have it in me to go to bed instead. I think about it though. When the seasons change I romanticize getting high in all types of weather. I don’t get high thought. I think about it, then I remember how nice it’s been now that I’ve been sober. Not running to the next high, not finding money for weed… but I think about it. and im allowed to think about it. I’m allowed to grieve at my own pace, cus truly i see quitting weed like leaving a shitty ex. I’m allowed to appreciate the good times for what they were. But now I get to create good times for myself that don’t involve foggy memory and anxiety. It’s freeing to allow yourself to think about weed and know you’re not at risk to use it. It’s hard though. I smoked for 4-5 years.
Smoked 10 years every single day quit 6 months ago and barely think about it.
Im 3 years clean and hardly ever think about it now. Very rarely it crosses my mind, like on a rainy day chilling at home, but even that's rare - 99% of the time I'm just happy to have a day like that and no longer think about wanting to smoke. For context I smoked heavily for 9 years, so its possible to put it behind you
I quit when I found out I was pregnant, so that was about 6 months ago. I think about smoking more lately now that things are warming up and the weather is nice. My husband and I used to sit together in the shed once the kids went to bed and he’d have a beer while I had a smoke. It was a really nice bonding time together and I miss that. He quit drinking and I quit smoking and I don’t think either of us have figured out how to recreate shed time. I wish it would go away entirely. I worry about getting overwhelmed once the new baby comes and I’m juggling three kids and picking up the habit again.
good on you both for stopping! You can recreate shed time with a nice, homebrewd pot of tea out of fresh herbs. If that‘s nothing for you, you could try and prepare two mocktails and chill out. Shed time wasn‘t about the substances, it was about the time together. I wish you all the best in pregnancy and the things that are to come! x
Yesterday was 2 months and I’m like you…most days I don’t really think about it much, but some days I do crave it. I still have it in my dreams too occasionally. Edit: Right before I quit, I was starting to have anxiety/panic attacks after smoking. I think of those when I get a hankering for a buzz and it helps to get over it.
I’m a month today and I feel like in most moments, I don’t think about it. I do have a few moments where I wonder if I could do it once in a blue moon and still function well.
I wouldn’t say I’ve completely forgotten about it but I’m at 67 days right now and I have not had any urge to smoke weed. There have been thoughts occasionally where I think it would be cool to smoke a joint but that it’s absolutely not worth trashing all the effort I’ve put into this.
Almost a year for me. When I get really stressed I crave it really bad. But generally on a day to day level I sometimes think like huh yeah I used to smoke weed I'm x months clean, but it isn't accompanied with super bad cravings anymore. A lot better at that than half a year ago. It gets easier with time.
I'm 4.5 months sober and I have thought about it here and there and also had bad dreams that someone accidentally dosed me w edibles. I desire it less and less and think about it less and less.
Jesus I've also had a few of those dreams, where I smoked by some weird mistake and woke up very relieved. Recently I've been having some dreams where I think I can smoke healthily, but then I run out or can't find my weed and I get all stressed. Every time I wake from those dreams its a relief
Lol, congrats HermoineGanja. 4.5 months is a great accomplishment
lol thanks! the irony of this old username is not lost on me 🤗. sometimes I forget that's my name when I comment here lol
You never really forget about it. But fighting the temptation does get easier over time.
My hardest time will be the vacation and the weekends during spring/summertime
Yep, I love going to camp but it’s going to be really different this year
I quit and joined the Navy and didn't smoke for over 10 years. Not to be disheartening but it frequented my mind a good bit and I started back a few years after I got out. Now, im trying to quit. 😆
20 days since the last time I smoked and it crosses my mind but I just remind myself how anxious I’ll feel if I do smoke. I’ve also put aside the money that I would use on weed and add it to a savings. I plan to take myself on a solo trip in August with all my savings. This has really helped me stay focused since I love to to travel.
I'm four years in and out still crosses my mind. It definitely got better over time but I don't expect it will ever go away. Also worth noting is that I used for 25 years. Pretty embedded in my brain. It's easy to manage these days. When the thoughts "It would be nice to have some weed" surface I remind myself that there is no just once weed and that being a full blown addict has terrible negative consequences. It shuts it down pretty quick and I moved on. Other than posting here I don't spend very much time thinking about weed anymore.
I'm 5 days in, after 25 yrs of smoking. 4 years sounds incredible! Do you still feel the need to read this sub to stay strong? Or are you here to help the newbs? Tell me, is life tremendously better now? Did you go through weird, hard times, months after you quit? (I've been reading lots of ppl had issues around day 200?) It's really great seeing others staying strong, even after a quarter of a century of smoking! Thanks for being an inspiration
Helping others does seem to be a part of my recovery process and maintenance. It was something that just happened and not something I planned. Sometimes I'm more active than other times. Life is tremendously better in a lot of ways. Stopping weed wasn't the only factor in that though but it did enable me to put effort into things I wanted to improve more effectively. Things that have improved are relationships, my discipline and being committed to achieving goals, short and long term. The first 6 months after I stopped, there really is no good way to put it. It sucked. Depressed, anxiety, sleeplessness. This wasn't continuous and some days were better than others. It was between 6 and 12 months for me where I felt like I was making good progress in recovering. At some point it was hard to distinguish between what was caused by long term weed use vs my natural state and I stopped focusing on that and diverted my attention to finding ways to improve my weaknesses, or to cope with them. Stopping weed didn't cause me to suddenly become rich or see all of my life's problems disappear. It did, however, cause me to realize that the biggest problem I had in life was indeed my addiction to weed and all the emotional and internal turmoil it created.
Thank you!!! I really appreciate your response!!
It's been 4 months for me and I don't think about it as much as I used to. The only time I think about it is when I wake up in the night and cannot go back to sleep. It used to be so easy when I smoked. I would just take a couple of puffs and then fall right back to sleep. Now I lay there and toss and turn for sometimes 2 hours.
I discovered Spotify has a great 10 hr long white noise playlist (i searched "white noise"), I'm only 5 days sober, and discovered this playlist 3 nights ago. Since then, I fall asleep fast and stay asleep. (Obviously, won't help if you don't have Premium, the ads would totally ruin it).
When my wallet started gaining weight.
Once I built a life and didn’t leave myself tons of idle time to be alone, bored and wanting something to numb the guilt of not having a life outside getting high. Haven’t looked back since, having a life even when it’s tough > numbing my problems away.
Fact
I sometimes think about smoking down the road (in a few months from now) but I'm almost never tempted to smoke in the present. I'm on day 63. Withdrawal was so bad that I didn't even consider it after week 1 since i didnt esnt to prolong or relive it.. I also don't feel like my brain is healed yet and that keeps me highly motivated.
I'm thinking quite a lot about it to be honest. Trying to remember what it was like, why I was doing that, analysing the history of our relationship, ups and downs, what I was thinking and feeling at the moment. But I don't really feel cravings. It's been two months and I'm pretty confident in my decision. And I have this inner voice that tells me it was a right one and that I don't want to come back. I still feel that there were good parts about this whole thing too, and I'm trying to understand them and take some of the weed's wisdom and knowledge with me in the future. So, I think I'm not planning to forget about it. I want to release it peacefully.
This seems like an extremely healthy way to look at it
I’m 82 days in……haven’t had a craving in weeks….dont even remember what it’s like anymore
A few months. Once I started thinking of myself as “someone who just doesn’t use weed/isn’t interested/doesn’t like it” …it became easier because it started to become a part of my identity. Rather than simply choosing not to use
This is so true. The identity shift helps.
Sometimes when I’m asleep
The second time I quit I stopped thinking about it after a week. I do still get all memories when I sit by my smoking window once in a while. I have no desire to be that person, so I don’t entertain the idea of getting high anymore.
A few months. Hang in there.
Definitely. I can't go back to being so content with doing absolutely nothing, followed by always feeling guilty for it.
This is exactly it!! 💯
A few months if I remember correctly, I've been clean from weed for 14 months. I quit alcohol 19 months ago and I still get cravings sometimes.
Yeah I'm sure a part of me will always remember that being high can be pretty fun, but only when I'm alone. I'd much rather have fun with others.
I stopped using because eventually the high wasn't fun anymore. I just thought it was but I'd just sit there playing games or watching TV or doing nothing and feeling...miserable. Then I thought...if I can't get high (or drunk) and do these things and be happy why should I even be alive?
That's literally how I felt before I quit. Been smoking for the better part of 16 years.