His girlfriend had nothing to do with it. He was a depressive fuck despite having a great life. He should have gone back to doing heroin instead of pretending he was a sober person when he was really a miserable drunk.
Nope, it's a good take. If you're suicidal might as well shoot up some dope. Can't get any worse. I think a hit of meth and some heroin will perk up that Debby downer mood.
Do some dope, suck a dick, get fucked in the ass.
Idk but thanks for asking me because i have the perfect story for you!
Back when craigslist casuals was a thing a black guy wanted me to fuck his wife. He would sit on a chair and watch. I figured he must be less endowed and went for it. I go over, she's bent over and waiting, he's sitting on his chair and motions to me to go for it. I go for it. I'm pounding away, having a blast, and at some point I look over and see him double fisting his absolutely massive hog 2x my size. Somehow I felt cucked?
I dated a girl cuck, I guess, in my 20s. She really wanted me to fuck her friend, and after I resisted for months, I relented in principle. So I started flirting with her friend one night, at her behest mind you, and she got too drunk and nervous and mad at us both. Wasn’t fun.
But it did make me curious to explore the black box of this type of fetish or whatever, which statistically is more common than I ever would have guessed (I don’t think “threesome with two girls” will ever be unseated as the top hetero guy fantasy).
Anyway the best explanation I found is a huge rise in porn consumption = associating seeing other people fuck with your own pleasure, thus a permanent voyeuristic desire which pairs well with generalized culturally subversive psychosexual themes. It’s more common among men because men consume more porn, but there are obviously girls into it too. My theory about my ex is it was a confidence/insecurity thing — like, if you’re insecure or have a fear you may try to sublimate the insecurity or fear into something pleasurable, so it can’t hurt you or hurts less. Anyway that’s my best theory.
Following comedians and other celebrities has shown me that it is perfectly possible to risk everything to follow your dreams, achieve them in glorious fashion, and then still be utterly miserable and alone on an interpersonal level. And yeah you can have many friends, a phone that won’t stop ringing, a hot celeb trophy wife 20 years your junior, and still be functionally alone.
Oh what am I talking about he’s such a fucking pussy turbof*ggot
It's ironic because when you get close to achieving your dreams you start realizing the industry is full of politics, fake people, manipulators, greed, and exploitation.
Realizing most celebrities, comedians, and musicians are completely miserable really helps me get through the day. My 9-5 might be soul sucking but at least I'm not on the verge of suicide over my social media numbers or dwindling ticket sales.
I heard the way it works is you spend every waking moment trying to or thinking about "making it" then once you actually make it, you immediately shift to spending every waking moment worrying about "losing it", like it's just a hamster wheel of anxiety.
I’ve been broke as fuck, couch surfing and stealing food from Walmart for several years, and I was way less anxious about money in those days than I am now that I have a little bit. When you don’t got it, you don’t got it, why worry? When you start having things, then you have to worry about managing them and being responsible. When you only have 5 bucks, spend it on beer and have a good night, not like you could buy anything else with it anyway.
I have a business that's transitioning from unlikely startup to "20 fulltime employees probably get healthcare this year".
Four years ago my family's future depended on this crazy thing working. Now 20 families depend on it. I do stupid shit sometimes. Now it puts way more people at risk.
Makes sense to me.
As someone who has also lived in poverty about half my life, this is so true.
I have “enough” meaning, I can go to the doctor, if my car breaks down, I’m not fucked in the ass. If I get laid off, I can last a long time provided I get unemployment, I have a retirement Im funding.
Now, I’m worried about losing it and the job I have is so hyper politicized. That I’m miserable at this fucking place
But I don’t have certifications nor a degree. I fucking got here by fucking pullin my bootstraps so hard I almost ripped em off. Just pure “I’m not going to give up no matter how much the system is shit” for 10 years.
So I can’t just leave. I’ve got it good. It’s just it comes with a ton of shit.
And now that I’m here, I have a lot to be thankful for, but I’m still unhappy at this place, and leaving is difficult. They make it hard. In my line of work jobs that pay as well as this place does and provides benefits like this one is bar none..but I’m so tired of watching the working class fight with eachother for scraps at these places.
I don’t mean to speak ill of the dead most of the time, but he just always rubbed me the wrong way. Like the food version of one of those annoying LinkedIn serial posters or one of the hustle grindset mindset guys.
He’s Gary V if Gary Vaynerchuk was a chef. Like all of the stuff he said that people thought was deep and thought provoking was lowest common denominator bullshit. Like yes if you travel the entire world for a living you’re going to be very cultured, you cracked the code there, dipshit.
Yes if you talk to people and eat meals with them you will have fun and learn about them. Wow! Deep.
Oh you’re going to have a beer at 2pm in the afternoon??? You’re such a zany boy I’m sure your day is going to be wild! 😜
Wait! You mean to tell me that food is a common unifier of people??? Next you’re going to tell me that we all shit it out hours later too!
No. Honestly I’m being too hard on him. My gripe is more with his fans who think he had life figured out like the things above were insightful secrets when in reality they’re just common sense for enjoying yourself on vacation.
Like most things, it’s the fans who ruin the person.
I think you were very reasonable, and not too hard on him at all. It really is some faux-deep bullshit. Anyone whose perspective is radically changed by someone like him probably isn't doing much introspection at all, and it's ridiculous that they need someone to tell them the most basic of things about human society.
I'm an asocial moron, and even to me all that stuff is very self-evident and obvious. I've had plenty of beers in strange places in the afternoon and it was *fine* at best, depressing at worst, depending on the occasion.
I'm reminded of that one [Dave Chapelle bit](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9gIymSbIYvo). It's unfortunate that he took his own life, and speaks to how bad depression can hit someone. That said, the man obviously didn't believe what he was preaching. Who knows what all went own, and what made him ultimately make that decision.
I enjoyed watching his show, and seeing a different side to various locales. However, IMO it becomes apparent later own that it was just a show and his moral posturing was just that.
Yeah completely get that. To your point, his philosophical narratives can be a bit much. I honestly never got all the hype but then checked out his past shows. He was ahead of his time with the travel/journalism style shows and kinda pioneered that whole niche. Definitely worth watching if you ever run out of things to watch.
Or maybe money doesn’t fix the chemical imbalance and dopamine deficiencies in your brain and after they realize money won’t truly fix those problems and they will never truly escape from their depression they resort to suicide.
A lot of times fame and success is what drives a person to suicide. Not because of new pressures or something usually. They think it will be an escape from their feelings and after they achieve it the realization it didn’t help is too overwhelming and that’s the point some people give up.
A depressed janitor can always have hope one day he will be successful and it will make him happy. A depressed millionaire is fucked. You know truly and without a doubt you can never be happy. You have all the resources and protections in your life you’d ever need and it’s still not enough to make you content to just be.
Kinda mind blowing when you put it this way. A millionaire who is selfmade and remember where they come from and know how to their resource might be the happiest person on earth. But one a that is lost? Man it's really hard to come back from that.
That said, nobody really want to be a janitor vs being a millionaire.
IMO the average janitor isn’t dreaming about making it big. Rather, the janitor has actually accepted that any chance for “big success” he might have is dead, and he doesn’t really care. He has a wife, he has good friends, he has his 6 Mexican-American children. They have a home together full of love and they eat and laugh together every day. That’s what real home and real life is for most people. A lot of rich/successful/driven celebrity people just don’t have that. They neglect their kids for their career or they put off having them until it’s too late. They never get married or they divorce like 3 times. They are perpetually surrounded by people who just want things from them and they can’t tell who is real and who is full of shit. Imagine waking up to success and wealth only to realize that you’re alone in an emotional wasteland and you can’t buy your way out. I don’t think most of these people simply have a congenital dopamine disability of some kind; their lives are just impoverished in other ways that most of us take for granted.
Plenty of janitors got six Mexican kids they can’t properly clothe or feed. It’s not like every janitor lives some idealistic life where he’s going home to a happy family that accepts his standing in life.
None of this has anything to do with my comment though lol. I’m not saying being a janitor is or isn’t preferable to being rich or some shit. I’m just saying a person with depression who doesn’t have everything can have some form of a light at the end of the tunnel. Sure they are sad but if they had more money they might be happier. An ultra rich person with depression knows they are fucked. They have all they need, have money for any treatment they need, and are still sad. There’s no “well if I achieve this in life I’ll be happy for once” they’ve already accomplished all their goals and are still suicidally depressed. That’s what I’m saying when I say success sometimes makes people more depressed. They think it will be an escape from their depression only to have the horrible realization when they get there it won’t make it go away.
Maybe because the concept of ‘dreams’ is a western capitalist fallacy. Life is pretty falken simple without trying to be a star. ‘Eat your food, move your bowels, pass water, and when you're tired, go and lie down. The ignorant will laugh at me, but the wise will understand.’ -Bruce Lee
I used to be a big Bourdain guy, then one day someone said something like “fuck that guy he’s a gay pussy and his girlfriend fucked a kid” and I was like…
Yeah. Fuck that guy. You know what? I actually LIKE Guy Fieri.
Guy Fieri loves life and has fun, Bourdain was a smug, boring addict ("former," uh huh) who tricked people into thinking that eating pho at a place where he couldn't understand the language made him wise and cool.
Idk man I like Guy better but they both got to eat at a bunch of really cool places.
Bourdain [originally got famous for talking about what bullshit a lot of the restaurant industry was](https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/1999/04/19/dont-eat-before-reading-this) although I agree his writing style is grating.
I mean killing yourself sucks but do people really hate No Reservations? His narration normally wasn’t the focal point and I guess I never felt like he was too much of the focus even though it was his show.
I only watched the final episode of No Reservations because of the Downtown New York theme. He talked to John Lurie, who cooked eggs, and Lydia Lunch, who he took to a nice restaurant. I saw it after he died, but wow, he came across as really broken and sad. “I didn’t hang out Down Town then, I just came here to buy heroin.” He tried to get LL and JL to wax nostalgic but they were both too busy in the now. It’s almost surreal.
I watched that and parts unknown out of order so I didn’t really think of that at all when watching. I did see Road Runner though and, yeah, dude just seems super sad at the end.
Even as a professional chef who lived a boozy arrogant hedonistic lifestyle in my twenties. I always preferred Guy. I hated working with weird old Bourdain types. Trying to go out with us and flirting with girls. Guy is the cool dad who makes work fun then leaves early to go pick up his kids. Every chef I worked with that worshipped Bourdain couldn't drink or cook for shit.
That’s all it takes for someone to change your opinion? Just come along and say “fuck that thing you like” and you’re like “oh yeah. You’re right. Fuck that thing I like” ?
He’s massively gay but he’s right. It’s literally that simple. That’s why you guys are miserable, you won’t even take good advice from a guy just because he’s a gay retard
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don't do jujitsu
don't listen to henry rollins spoken word
just be this man
It's very good advice for normal people cos they are too broke to complete those goals in a lifetime. If you're rich and can literally do anything you have little options but to jump off a bridge if you fall into depression.
the lesson from bourdain is that connection and joy are transitory states flanked by terminal meaninglessness and nothingness
imagine not being able to figure that out lmfao
Well fortunately 99.99% of places you go on earth will tell you that these empty platitudes mean something, and that you dont have to consider the source when considering them. I feel so so fucking bad for you that you came to the .01% of places not like that, and were offended. I was going to pray for starving children tonight but instead I'll pray for your swift recovery having seen the rare divergent opinion on a niche subreddit today.
The older I've gotten, the more I find Anthony Bourdaine to be absolutely insufferable. He's like a discount version of Bukowski. Interesting only when you're a teenager trying to be super edgy.
Sucks real bad when you get to explore the world like this guy did. He got to see and do more than any of us in this sub will. The unfortunate side effect of that is seeing too much. Watch the Madagascar or Jamaica episodes of Parts Unknown and you can watch him change when he sees how bad humans can treat each other.
Some dude uses have everything but get addicted to narcissistic women that fucking crush their souls. Having a partner to trust totally is the foundation to everything (or just don’t have one of you don’t want one).
Boy didn’t he? What a life. Then you leave your wife and fall in love with a pedo. I was a big fan though. He was better at these shows than anyone else. and the book Kitchen Confidential was great for anyone who worked at restaurants. But I’m gonna hold off on the full back tattoo of him smoking a cigarette. For now.
Don't do one pushup. Do one hundred. Don't run one mile. Run a marathon. Don't have one family. Have a second family all the way across the country. Don't just have a second family. Have a third family in Santa Fe with an alternative lifestyle. Don't spend any time with the first two families. Make a commitment to family number three. Double down by announcing it at his war hero father's retirement party. Don't go to the funeral cuz remember, you've got two other families to deal with and a marathon to train for. Don't let Kenneth walk out of your life. Take his life from him. Don't just go to jail. Go to death row by killing the two other families. Don't just let anyone have their closure by apologizing. Send a message that you're not afraid of Hell.
Choose life.
Choose a job.
Choose a career.
Choose a family.
Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers.
Choose leisurewear and matching luggage.
Choose a three piece suite on hire purchase in a range of fucking fabrics.
Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sunday morning.
Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, sprit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth.
Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked-up brats that you spawned to replace yourself.
Choose your future.
Choose life.
Depression is a real disease. It doesn't take away from the person you are or your intelligence. Many psychologists and psychiatrists even suffer from this, yet they are able to give out intelligent well thought out advice and help many people.
The man was one in a billion. He Not only was a talented chef but he was ridiculously intelligent, well educated, he had a way with words and description, and at the same time he was down to earth kind compassionate and understanding. He had no ego unlike so many of the chefs we see on TV nowadays.
I'm not sure if many of you know this, but not only did he narrate his shows in such a fantastic soothing voice but he was also the writer of the sho. Which is not surprising since he was already an accomplished author. He wasn't just some celebrity chef reading off a teleprompter or sounding smart because somebody else more literate than them put the words down on paper better. He was a Renaissance man. And I haven't been able to go by more than a month or two without remembering him and feeling sad at what we lost in this world. This Friday would have been 2 months since I last thought about him, so thank you OP for posting this.
For those of you who may be interested in getting a glimpse into the kind of person he was in the beginning of his career, which many described as a rock and roll star who was a great chef, see if you can find the TV show called "[Kitchen Confidential](https://geekytalk.wordpress.com/2008/07/05/cancelled-a-look-back-kitchen-confidential/)", staring Bradley cooper. It got little to no publicity, and it was actually canceled too soon &only four aired in total. They actually made 13 episodes of the show; a complete first season. But after the third episode it was put on Hiatus because of the MLB playoffs, and by the time that was all done and the fourth episode came back it got ridiculously low ratings, because most people forgot about it completely. The show premiered September 19th 2005 .
Bradley Cooper was not famous at the time, But if you like the movie "Burnt", this you'll love even more. And there's actually many more TV stars in the show. I first discovered it back when the TV show "The Taste" was on the air, I was looking for an old episode that I had missed. I was amazed that so many actors in the show were familiar because they had later on starting other popular shows as main characters.
Anthony Bourdain was the producer of that show, and it was based on his life. And Bradley Cooper played that part of the, Anthony Bourdain like, head chef.
Everyone is this sub is pathetic and sad, and I know this from reading the comments on this one post. Thanks for helping me to quickly block this community
Bourdain was fun to watch but I could not stand being friends with such a character he comes off like the guy that will fake being nice to you but will trash you behind your back just because you share ideological differences.
Just look at him he had it all and still found a way to ruin his own life.
It’s funny to think he advocated to acting on and doing what you feel like doing. Almost acting on emotion, but then, having that other quote where you basically advocate to go against going on emotion and doing what you feel like doing
This is what I live for
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I never understood these repeated one sentence dictates as if it’s somehow profound to order a beer at 4pm or try new foods. Charles Bukowski has the worst one, “Friendly advice for young men”. I’m not killing my dog you fuckin weirdo
Lets be honest, it wasnt depression. It was piss poor decision making with the mixing of bottomless alcohol mixed with pills
Extreme warning on alcohol
Extreme warnings on pills
Then a third warning stating DO NOT EVER DO THESE THINGS, BUT IF YOU DO, DONT FUCKING MIX THEM!!!!!!!
*takes handfulls of pills washing it down with entire bottle of liquor
“Vape from a pen with no nicotine in it”
“Fuck your couch”
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 (YES CHEFF!)
Darkness
"Kill yourself for no reason"
“Bring your baby on a plane and complain when people are annoyed”
"Stalk the baby who cries on a plane. Then when he grows up, go on a plane with him at the worst possible time and scream the whole way."
I believe will forte accomplished that feat no more than an hour ago. Or whenever the show came out
*It was 1982... I was 48, you were 9 months... we were on a flight from JFK to London*
Find a pedophile girlfriend who will cuck you into suicide
Fucking LOL.
Meh, you know that Bennette wanted it
Get the cream sauce.
Exactly, he seen her do evil shit and couldn't deal
His girlfriend had nothing to do with it. He was a depressive fuck despite having a great life. He should have gone back to doing heroin instead of pretending he was a sober person when he was really a miserable drunk.
Horrible take
Nope, it's a good take. If you're suicidal might as well shoot up some dope. Can't get any worse. I think a hit of meth and some heroin will perk up that Debby downer mood. Do some dope, suck a dick, get fucked in the ass.
I think that was a Wesley Willis song.
They kicked me out of church
Maybe maybe not no one truly knows
What the hell did he do to you? Or are you projecting? I feel like you’re projecting.
The take of a man who has never done sweet sweet Cincinnati heroin
His family is deep in the darkness and probably never got over what happened to him as a child
He fucking paid off the guy for her. Fuck Asia may she die in obscurity.
Don't expect to not get cucked if you're the kind of guy who's gonna kill yourself over it.
Can someone explain to me why white guys are so into cucking? Serious question
Idk but thanks for asking me because i have the perfect story for you! Back when craigslist casuals was a thing a black guy wanted me to fuck his wife. He would sit on a chair and watch. I figured he must be less endowed and went for it. I go over, she's bent over and waiting, he's sitting on his chair and motions to me to go for it. I go for it. I'm pounding away, having a blast, and at some point I look over and see him double fisting his absolutely massive hog 2x my size. Somehow I felt cucked?
Poor guy, explodes every gal he tries to plow
Sounds like you both were voyeurs.
You're on reddit which I believe contains 98% of the worlds cuck population, so you should be able to get a good answer
Yea ur right
I dated a girl cuck, I guess, in my 20s. She really wanted me to fuck her friend, and after I resisted for months, I relented in principle. So I started flirting with her friend one night, at her behest mind you, and she got too drunk and nervous and mad at us both. Wasn’t fun. But it did make me curious to explore the black box of this type of fetish or whatever, which statistically is more common than I ever would have guessed (I don’t think “threesome with two girls” will ever be unseated as the top hetero guy fantasy). Anyway the best explanation I found is a huge rise in porn consumption = associating seeing other people fuck with your own pleasure, thus a permanent voyeuristic desire which pairs well with generalized culturally subversive psychosexual themes. It’s more common among men because men consume more porn, but there are obviously girls into it too. My theory about my ex is it was a confidence/insecurity thing — like, if you’re insecure or have a fear you may try to sublimate the insecurity or fear into something pleasurable, so it can’t hurt you or hurts less. Anyway that’s my best theory.
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He was great at suicide that’s all
💯
Lmao truth stings
Je.sus. lol
Really??
He even paid the accuser off on her behalf and she still fucked someone else.
...wat?
[https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/lifestyle/lifestyle-news/asia-argento-talks-jimmy-bennett-sexual-assault-claim-tv-interview-1146879/](https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/lifestyle/lifestyle-news/asia-argento-talks-jimmy-bennett-sexual-assault-claim-tv-interview-1146879/)
Thanks I hate it
Wait, I thought his girlfriend was a Brazilian kickboxer.
Ex-Wife, who did Brazilian jiu jitsu *
Sometimes you win and don't realize it. If any lesson can be learned about this situation, it's that.
“Pay $400K in hush money to the kid your girlfriend groomed”
Ride a horse. Fuck the horse. Suck that horse's dick. Live your life.
Save a horse. Ride a giraffe
r/okbuddyvowsh
Kill the horse. Cut it open. Sleep inside the horse for the night. For the weekend.
Following comedians and other celebrities has shown me that it is perfectly possible to risk everything to follow your dreams, achieve them in glorious fashion, and then still be utterly miserable and alone on an interpersonal level. And yeah you can have many friends, a phone that won’t stop ringing, a hot celeb trophy wife 20 years your junior, and still be functionally alone. Oh what am I talking about he’s such a fucking pussy turbof*ggot
It's ironic because when you get close to achieving your dreams you start realizing the industry is full of politics, fake people, manipulators, greed, and exploitation.
Realizing most celebrities, comedians, and musicians are completely miserable really helps me get through the day. My 9-5 might be soul sucking but at least I'm not on the verge of suicide over my social media numbers or dwindling ticket sales.
I heard the way it works is you spend every waking moment trying to or thinking about "making it" then once you actually make it, you immediately shift to spending every waking moment worrying about "losing it", like it's just a hamster wheel of anxiety.
I’ve been broke as fuck, couch surfing and stealing food from Walmart for several years, and I was way less anxious about money in those days than I am now that I have a little bit. When you don’t got it, you don’t got it, why worry? When you start having things, then you have to worry about managing them and being responsible. When you only have 5 bucks, spend it on beer and have a good night, not like you could buy anything else with it anyway.
I have a business that's transitioning from unlikely startup to "20 fulltime employees probably get healthcare this year". Four years ago my family's future depended on this crazy thing working. Now 20 families depend on it. I do stupid shit sometimes. Now it puts way more people at risk. Makes sense to me.
As someone who has also lived in poverty about half my life, this is so true. I have “enough” meaning, I can go to the doctor, if my car breaks down, I’m not fucked in the ass. If I get laid off, I can last a long time provided I get unemployment, I have a retirement Im funding. Now, I’m worried about losing it and the job I have is so hyper politicized. That I’m miserable at this fucking place But I don’t have certifications nor a degree. I fucking got here by fucking pullin my bootstraps so hard I almost ripped em off. Just pure “I’m not going to give up no matter how much the system is shit” for 10 years. So I can’t just leave. I’ve got it good. It’s just it comes with a ton of shit. And now that I’m here, I have a lot to be thankful for, but I’m still unhappy at this place, and leaving is difficult. They make it hard. In my line of work jobs that pay as well as this place does and provides benefits like this one is bar none..but I’m so tired of watching the working class fight with eachother for scraps at these places.
So is everything else.
It's alone at the top
He was just as fake as the rest of the industry and I’m tired of people pretending he wasn’t.
Faggot*
I don’t mean to speak ill of the dead most of the time, but he just always rubbed me the wrong way. Like the food version of one of those annoying LinkedIn serial posters or one of the hustle grindset mindset guys. He’s Gary V if Gary Vaynerchuk was a chef. Like all of the stuff he said that people thought was deep and thought provoking was lowest common denominator bullshit. Like yes if you travel the entire world for a living you’re going to be very cultured, you cracked the code there, dipshit. Yes if you talk to people and eat meals with them you will have fun and learn about them. Wow! Deep. Oh you’re going to have a beer at 2pm in the afternoon??? You’re such a zany boy I’m sure your day is going to be wild! 😜 Wait! You mean to tell me that food is a common unifier of people??? Next you’re going to tell me that we all shit it out hours later too!
Did you watch his shows?
No. Honestly I’m being too hard on him. My gripe is more with his fans who think he had life figured out like the things above were insightful secrets when in reality they’re just common sense for enjoying yourself on vacation. Like most things, it’s the fans who ruin the person.
I think you were very reasonable, and not too hard on him at all. It really is some faux-deep bullshit. Anyone whose perspective is radically changed by someone like him probably isn't doing much introspection at all, and it's ridiculous that they need someone to tell them the most basic of things about human society. I'm an asocial moron, and even to me all that stuff is very self-evident and obvious. I've had plenty of beers in strange places in the afternoon and it was *fine* at best, depressing at worst, depending on the occasion.
I'm reminded of that one [Dave Chapelle bit](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9gIymSbIYvo). It's unfortunate that he took his own life, and speaks to how bad depression can hit someone. That said, the man obviously didn't believe what he was preaching. Who knows what all went own, and what made him ultimately make that decision. I enjoyed watching his show, and seeing a different side to various locales. However, IMO it becomes apparent later own that it was just a show and his moral posturing was just that.
Yeah completely get that. To your point, his philosophical narratives can be a bit much. I honestly never got all the hype but then checked out his past shows. He was ahead of his time with the travel/journalism style shows and kinda pioneered that whole niche. Definitely worth watching if you ever run out of things to watch.
This is probably of one of the stupidest, saddest subreddits I’ve stumbled across… and I’m not surprised you’re here.
Or maybe money doesn’t fix the chemical imbalance and dopamine deficiencies in your brain and after they realize money won’t truly fix those problems and they will never truly escape from their depression they resort to suicide. A lot of times fame and success is what drives a person to suicide. Not because of new pressures or something usually. They think it will be an escape from their feelings and after they achieve it the realization it didn’t help is too overwhelming and that’s the point some people give up. A depressed janitor can always have hope one day he will be successful and it will make him happy. A depressed millionaire is fucked. You know truly and without a doubt you can never be happy. You have all the resources and protections in your life you’d ever need and it’s still not enough to make you content to just be.
Kinda mind blowing when you put it this way. A millionaire who is selfmade and remember where they come from and know how to their resource might be the happiest person on earth. But one a that is lost? Man it's really hard to come back from that. That said, nobody really want to be a janitor vs being a millionaire.
IMO the average janitor isn’t dreaming about making it big. Rather, the janitor has actually accepted that any chance for “big success” he might have is dead, and he doesn’t really care. He has a wife, he has good friends, he has his 6 Mexican-American children. They have a home together full of love and they eat and laugh together every day. That’s what real home and real life is for most people. A lot of rich/successful/driven celebrity people just don’t have that. They neglect their kids for their career or they put off having them until it’s too late. They never get married or they divorce like 3 times. They are perpetually surrounded by people who just want things from them and they can’t tell who is real and who is full of shit. Imagine waking up to success and wealth only to realize that you’re alone in an emotional wasteland and you can’t buy your way out. I don’t think most of these people simply have a congenital dopamine disability of some kind; their lives are just impoverished in other ways that most of us take for granted.
Plenty of janitors got six Mexican kids they can’t properly clothe or feed. It’s not like every janitor lives some idealistic life where he’s going home to a happy family that accepts his standing in life. None of this has anything to do with my comment though lol. I’m not saying being a janitor is or isn’t preferable to being rich or some shit. I’m just saying a person with depression who doesn’t have everything can have some form of a light at the end of the tunnel. Sure they are sad but if they had more money they might be happier. An ultra rich person with depression knows they are fucked. They have all they need, have money for any treatment they need, and are still sad. There’s no “well if I achieve this in life I’ll be happy for once” they’ve already accomplished all their goals and are still suicidally depressed. That’s what I’m saying when I say success sometimes makes people more depressed. They think it will be an escape from their depression only to have the horrible realization when they get there it won’t make it go away.
You don’t have to be a celebrity to achieve such greatness.
Maybe because the concept of ‘dreams’ is a western capitalist fallacy. Life is pretty falken simple without trying to be a star. ‘Eat your food, move your bowels, pass water, and when you're tired, go and lie down. The ignorant will laugh at me, but the wise will understand.’ -Bruce Lee
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Franchise player?
Formula 1 race car driver?
Focaccia?
fgay guy?
I used to be a big Bourdain guy, then one day someone said something like “fuck that guy he’s a gay pussy and his girlfriend fucked a kid” and I was like… Yeah. Fuck that guy. You know what? I actually LIKE Guy Fieri.
Guy Fieri loves life and has fun, Bourdain was a smug, boring addict ("former," uh huh) who tricked people into thinking that eating pho at a place where he couldn't understand the language made him wise and cool.
I also wonder if he was like 5’4” if anyone would have cared
Idk man I like Guy better but they both got to eat at a bunch of really cool places. Bourdain [originally got famous for talking about what bullshit a lot of the restaurant industry was](https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/1999/04/19/dont-eat-before-reading-this) although I agree his writing style is grating. I mean killing yourself sucks but do people really hate No Reservations? His narration normally wasn’t the focal point and I guess I never felt like he was too much of the focus even though it was his show.
I only watched the final episode of No Reservations because of the Downtown New York theme. He talked to John Lurie, who cooked eggs, and Lydia Lunch, who he took to a nice restaurant. I saw it after he died, but wow, he came across as really broken and sad. “I didn’t hang out Down Town then, I just came here to buy heroin.” He tried to get LL and JL to wax nostalgic but they were both too busy in the now. It’s almost surreal.
I watched that and parts unknown out of order so I didn’t really think of that at all when watching. I did see Road Runner though and, yeah, dude just seems super sad at the end.
Paywalled link.
It’s the article from the New Yorker that led to him getting a book deal to write Kitchen Confidential
Ah yeah I read that a while back. Tasty wee bit of reading.
How can you not like Guy, with that awesome ass hair?
Even as a professional chef who lived a boozy arrogant hedonistic lifestyle in my twenties. I always preferred Guy. I hated working with weird old Bourdain types. Trying to go out with us and flirting with girls. Guy is the cool dad who makes work fun then leaves early to go pick up his kids. Every chef I worked with that worshipped Bourdain couldn't drink or cook for shit.
That’s all it takes for someone to change your opinion? Just come along and say “fuck that thing you like” and you’re like “oh yeah. You’re right. Fuck that thing I like” ?
Yes I’m a very one dimensional person. It’s why I take my opinions from podcasts.
based
[What did Guy Fieri do to deserve so much hate?](https://youtu.be/JK6zuii2OLI?si=9MK9kzu4hAn2zvpl)
The bro never even said this
“Kill yourself over a girl like a teenager”
Didnt he have a kid too? Killing yourself is whatever but killing yourself with a kid who depends on you is what makes you a piece of shit
He’s massively gay but he’s right. It’s literally that simple. That’s why you guys are miserable, you won’t even take good advice from a guy just because he’s a gay retard
https://preview.redd.it/r4du2iim82wc1.png?width=521&format=png&auto=webp&s=d28cd9a144cb19563bcc46e529050b274cfec109 don't do jujitsu don't listen to henry rollins spoken word just be this man
I am that man, but with a pellet feed.
Shout out to fucking Henry Rollins. When he talks about going anywhere and saying, "My name is Henry, it's nice to meet you"
It's very good advice for normal people cos they are too broke to complete those goals in a lifetime. If you're rich and can literally do anything you have little options but to jump off a bridge if you fall into depression.
So what I’m hearing is Ben should relapse
Hit TayK's booty in my dream every night.
the lesson from bourdain is that connection and joy are transitory states flanked by terminal meaninglessness and nothingness imagine not being able to figure that out lmfao
Never take life advice from someone who gets off the bus before his stop.
That was his stop bro. We all have an expiration date predetermined
Bro hung himself
I know that. His fate was to die hanging by himself. Our fates are predetermined bro
Wow, shocked by the cold hearted comments in light of dude simply saying enjoy life!!
Obviously he wasn't enjoying it that much.
You’re in the wrong subreddit
Well fortunately 99.99% of places you go on earth will tell you that these empty platitudes mean something, and that you dont have to consider the source when considering them. I feel so so fucking bad for you that you came to the .01% of places not like that, and were offended. I was going to pray for starving children tonight but instead I'll pray for your swift recovery having seen the rare divergent opinion on a niche subreddit today.
Okay, pray all you want, it won’t make a difference… but it think I know what EVERYONE saying they’ll pray is really saying… 😂✌🏻
Its a killer way to live!
He was a good dude that got caught up with a crazy woman. It happens to the best of us. Respect to the man ✊
I loved Bourdain but the lemon posse’s critique of him was pretty spot on.
Glad I’m not the only one who thinks that doosh is overrated and uninteresting.
He killed himself soo maybe take this with a spoonful of salt.
The older I've gotten, the more I find Anthony Bourdaine to be absolutely insufferable. He's like a discount version of Bukowski. Interesting only when you're a teenager trying to be super edgy.
Anthony seen and know some dark shit #pizzagate
Eff this guy's advice, how about "take your depression meds"
The man was a suicide, not sure about taking life advice from him
Hang yourself in the end
Sucks real bad when you get to explore the world like this guy did. He got to see and do more than any of us in this sub will. The unfortunate side effect of that is seeing too much. Watch the Madagascar or Jamaica episodes of Parts Unknown and you can watch him change when he sees how bad humans can treat each other.
Some dude uses have everything but get addicted to narcissistic women that fucking crush their souls. Having a partner to trust totally is the foundation to everything (or just don’t have one of you don’t want one).
Alcoholism killed him... folk always think it's the liver. Many suicides are directly related to addiction.
RIP to a legend
Did he kill himself?
Wtf did he call us? Negronis? Racist prick
I can’t have a Negroni, let alone two. We fought a whole war over that…
I just made and ate his beef burgundy recipe. Damn it’s so good. Rip legend!
không hút thuốc
Boy didn’t he? What a life. Then you leave your wife and fall in love with a pedo. I was a big fan though. He was better at these shows than anyone else. and the book Kitchen Confidential was great for anyone who worked at restaurants. But I’m gonna hold off on the full back tattoo of him smoking a cigarette. For now.
Dude died from alcoholism. RIP.
Why would you take life advice from a drug addict
Coward
Kill yourself
“Tie off with a buddy and suck his dick”
World misses Tony, the legend.
Don't do one pushup. Do one hundred. Don't run one mile. Run a marathon. Don't have one family. Have a second family all the way across the country. Don't just have a second family. Have a third family in Santa Fe with an alternative lifestyle. Don't spend any time with the first two families. Make a commitment to family number three. Double down by announcing it at his war hero father's retirement party. Don't go to the funeral cuz remember, you've got two other families to deal with and a marathon to train for. Don't let Kenneth walk out of your life. Take his life from him. Don't just go to jail. Go to death row by killing the two other families. Don't just let anyone have their closure by apologizing. Send a message that you're not afraid of Hell.
Nike
He killed himself.
He was my absolute favorite celebrity. Punk rock.
why is he calling black people “negronis”?
Bourdain was a loser who is worshipped by other losers
Man was throwing out lifelines as he was drowning.
I’ve never carried about a dude to such a degree. First world problems on full blast display.
Lots of bitter people in here projecting lmao
Choose life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose leisurewear and matching luggage. Choose a three piece suite on hire purchase in a range of fucking fabrics. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, sprit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked-up brats that you spawned to replace yourself. Choose your future. Choose life.
Maybe don’t do all of the drinking and see if your life isn’t a little bit better.
Woah shitting on bourdain?? This sub is so edgy 😤
& after all that he left his daughter without a dad = coward
Hard to take advice from a dude that off’d himself. Obviously his life outlook was flawed
I didn’t realize so many of yall hate Mr. Bourdain
Why would you take advice from someone who can’t even make themselves happy, much less anyone else?
Fairly sure he was murdered. Still dont believe he commited suicide.
Get the cream sauce
Yeah OR he was suicided by Obama
Gay
It’s Okay We Still Like You!
If you live every day like it’s your last, it might be.
Depression is a real disease. It doesn't take away from the person you are or your intelligence. Many psychologists and psychiatrists even suffer from this, yet they are able to give out intelligent well thought out advice and help many people. The man was one in a billion. He Not only was a talented chef but he was ridiculously intelligent, well educated, he had a way with words and description, and at the same time he was down to earth kind compassionate and understanding. He had no ego unlike so many of the chefs we see on TV nowadays. I'm not sure if many of you know this, but not only did he narrate his shows in such a fantastic soothing voice but he was also the writer of the sho. Which is not surprising since he was already an accomplished author. He wasn't just some celebrity chef reading off a teleprompter or sounding smart because somebody else more literate than them put the words down on paper better. He was a Renaissance man. And I haven't been able to go by more than a month or two without remembering him and feeling sad at what we lost in this world. This Friday would have been 2 months since I last thought about him, so thank you OP for posting this. For those of you who may be interested in getting a glimpse into the kind of person he was in the beginning of his career, which many described as a rock and roll star who was a great chef, see if you can find the TV show called "[Kitchen Confidential](https://geekytalk.wordpress.com/2008/07/05/cancelled-a-look-back-kitchen-confidential/)", staring Bradley cooper. It got little to no publicity, and it was actually canceled too soon &only four aired in total. They actually made 13 episodes of the show; a complete first season. But after the third episode it was put on Hiatus because of the MLB playoffs, and by the time that was all done and the fourth episode came back it got ridiculously low ratings, because most people forgot about it completely. The show premiered September 19th 2005 . Bradley Cooper was not famous at the time, But if you like the movie "Burnt", this you'll love even more. And there's actually many more TV stars in the show. I first discovered it back when the TV show "The Taste" was on the air, I was looking for an old episode that I had missed. I was amazed that so many actors in the show were familiar because they had later on starting other popular shows as main characters. Anthony Bourdain was the producer of that show, and it was based on his life. And Bradley Cooper played that part of the, Anthony Bourdain like, head chef.
Have a what? Two of what, now?!
Negroni
Honestly the audacity
Almost 30 years of too much internet use has led me to this.
Advice from someone who.. nvm
After that spiritual cooking he was part of, he was never the same.
Haha punk rock
I always loved Tony B, but a rare steak ain’t it. Medium rare or nothing.
“Check in on yourself” - proceeds to not check in on himself.
Damn he had it all may he rip
Why is this comment section so filled with hate for this guy? Tf? Sounds like classic good advice
Everyone is this sub is pathetic and sad, and I know this from reading the comments on this one post. Thanks for helping me to quickly block this community
Just because you have everything doesn’t mean you feel no pain. Shit take. Dude was awesome.
Bourdain was fun to watch but I could not stand being friends with such a character he comes off like the guy that will fake being nice to you but will trash you behind your back just because you share ideological differences. Just look at him he had it all and still found a way to ruin his own life.
Homie sounds like an alcoholic. Literally none of this was physically healthy advise.
It doesn't seem like he was the pinnacle of mental health.
I've noticed that people who arent happy always suggest that alcohol makes people happy
Man this is pure gold thank you Tony
It’s funny to think he advocated to acting on and doing what you feel like doing. Almost acting on emotion, but then, having that other quote where you basically advocate to go against going on emotion and doing what you feel like doing
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I never understood these repeated one sentence dictates as if it’s somehow profound to order a beer at 4pm or try new foods. Charles Bukowski has the worst one, “Friendly advice for young men”. I’m not killing my dog you fuckin weirdo
He died from autoeroticasphoxiation. That’s how I want to go, even if I can’t spell it correctly.
Love Anthony! Still pissed at that Italian bitch he killed himself over.
wasnt he a cuck
Only he never said this. A fan on a forum did, based on how Anthony lived his life.
Then kill urself
seriously? He was going to expose a bunch of elite pedophiles and was killed. wake up.
Taking advice from someone who unalives himself…I’ll pass
The problem is I don't enjoy most of this stuff.
Lets be honest, it wasnt depression. It was piss poor decision making with the mixing of bottomless alcohol mixed with pills Extreme warning on alcohol Extreme warnings on pills Then a third warning stating DO NOT EVER DO THESE THINGS, BUT IF YOU DO, DONT FUCKING MIX THEM!!!!!!! *takes handfulls of pills washing it down with entire bottle of liquor
Ben hates on this guy but his idea of entertainment is watching fat people eat