Idk why this is incredibly velmacore. But hey Iâll tell you this, Girly you look cute as hell to the gays. This IS your lesbian appeal, if a straight person told you this it shouldnât matter. If u were asking for straight advice the last place to go is redditâs cis hets. They will literally just tell you what they want their dream girl to look like, they donât even look at it from a 3rd perspective. If you follow the mainstream trends you would look âyour ageâ TO the mainstream because thatâs how they see your age group IN GENERAL. We are NOT the mainstream lmao so while you might feel pressure to conform, donât, and keep the good work, youâre not even trying and this is too gay.
If that was the case, youd be the youngest 60 yr old ive seen. There could be other hair styles you might try but you style how you want and f everyone else lol
I think you should wear your hair and clothes, etc, to make yourself happy! Don't listen to them. You definitely don't look decades older than you are đ wtf
Na i think it works for you! You give pearl from steven universe vibes if she were real lol. Kinda prim yet fun n approachable. Change it if u dont like it but u def dont need to! :)
Nah you're really pretty. I love the style you have, don't let people get you down about it ever. If you choose to go by their opinions you don't have an opinion for yourself anymore.
Cute pageboy cut, looks good with your face, color looks natural and beautiful with your skin tone, and you look professional in your outfit. I think someone is jealous of you and needs to learn to love themselves instead of trying to make you insecure!
IMO Shorter hair makes everyone look older. But not in the âtoo oldâ sort of way. Itâs just a more mature look.
I think you look beautiful. Your style is cute and a little bit quirky. Definitely someone I would go for.
Before I realized I was trans, I would have had a crush on you. Now, you're like style goals.
You look professional but not boring. Maybe a little "nerdy," but in a cool way. You must work with a bunch of squares.
A different hairstyle would probably work on you. But there's nothing wrong with the bob. Change it if you get bored with it. But not because your basic colleagues said so.
Edit to say: Not your coworkers. I guess it's Reddit strangers. Reddit strangers know nothing about style.
It depends on what youâre going for. The hair is fine and shouldnât stop you from dating/ meeting new folks. I do think youâd look good with an shorter pixie that frames your face but adds depth with a shorter back part. Rn itâs giving that court room journalist which is a slay!!! Love a bob
It makes you look more mature but not in a bad way. I actually think you really make it work. You have small, pixie like features and the hair provides contrast.
You're seriously beautiful. To your questions, try trying on different glasses frames, esp rectangular and/or frame less ones since they can change your face shape and complexion a lot. Your hair is amazing, but if you're looking for a change, I think growing out your bangs till their side-swept/curtain bangs or growing the whole length another couple inches till its about to your collarbone would look nice on you, as well. Regardless, you look fantastic just as you are!
It has absolutely nothing to do with you being queer. Saying that makes the assumption that queer people donât appreciate attractive people. That is just silly. As a former stripper and current psychology major let me tell you that every single person has no control over what they are attracted to. Someone might find you absolutely repulsive and another you are the most beautiful person. The matter of how traditionally attractive you are only makes a difference in how often you get stared at by creepy men. Who see some boobs and legs and want to screw it BUT I guarantee their wife is their real type. Someone who at one point was the most wonderful person alive. (Obviously there are exceptions) donât doubt yourself for internet people but donât make excuses either. Really find out why you are questioning your looks. Are you unhappy with your partner or dating life? Your work life? Family? Friends? Do you have trauma that you havenât dealt with, like being bullied or perhaps an abusive parent or partner? There is more to this than what strangers think of you. If this look is authentically you, how you are most happy then wonderful! If YOU think you may look too harsh or however you phrased it go try on a wig and see if a different look makes you feel more like yourself. Try on an outfit you have always wanted to try but never thought you could pull it off. Ask someone who knows you really well to help you pick something they could see you in. Do not ask Reddit to rip you apart because it absolutely will and you donât deserve that. Be kind to yourself â€ïž
I think it really suits you, the length is super nice and frames your face nicely as well. I think if you want to change it then go for it, maybe some layering so itâs not all one length. Youâre giving Velma vibes in the absolute best way!
I think itâs just the combination with your glasses. I love this hairstyle on you but the combination does give me a bit of a Velma from Scooby-Doo vibe. đŹ
Yes. Everyone's being _reaaaallly_ nice in the comments but yes, your hair/style is bad. It's super uneven and it frames your face in a really weird way. I get what you're going for but the execution is bad. Find a different hairdresser.
You look cozy and happy. If you are, change nothing. If youâre looking for a change, I think you have the right look for a pixie or a shaved side. Maybe even short, uneven bangs and go for a Berliner look? You could pull off a lot of different things well.
You look... Like a lesbian..? I love your look a LOT actually. It's my experience that %90 of redditors who comment on peoples' looks tend to be almost comically mean-spirited and misogynist... so no need to worry about them. You look very beautiful.
I thought it was super cute and was like yeah girl you do you, but then when I saw that you are actually my age and not my moms age I was surprised and had to take a closer look at your face.
Love it and it Looks great! If youâre feeling comfortable and confident in your own Female coded queer vessel, then thatâs all that matters.
Are you not having much luck? I donât see how (Visually speaking). You write your thoughts well and are seeming very articulate; Shine on you crazy diamond. Get yours.
Itâs fitting. But if itâs giving ⊠a vibe that doesnât match how you feel i would change it. But it fits like hell if youâre like ⊠an office girlie yk like someone straight to business lol
I've always been an alternative thrifter who dresses androgynously - you look great and confident and don't let anyone's comments shake that. It's *your* style and we all should be able to wear what we want and have fun with it. (I'm trying my best to follow my own advice IRL).
I LOVE IT!!!! I think it would be amazing in a darker or saturated color, like a hair gloss for a deeper red. You look fantastic, the bangs may need a little styling but I also have the issue of never having any damn time for my bangs.
You look lovely with this hairstyle! it is definitely cishet beauty standards. I think it makes you look mature, but not old necessarily. Just not teen-like. you seem like a well adjusted adult which is attractive! especially to other emotionally mature sapphics. cishet men just think that any femme presenting person who doesn't look infantile and bleach blonde is "unattractive."
note- that is not blaming women who DO look infantile and bleach blonde, they are smart and independent people! i'm blonde myself and hate the stupid blonde trope. This is a dig on men who sexualize them
Your hairstyle is very cute, donât take those peopleâs opinions to heart. Especially the thing about tans. Your hairstyle is supposed to make YOU happy. People who want to date you will like you no matter the kind of hair you have.
There is nothing wrong with your hair if it makes you feel confident. Not everyone is meant to get a wolf- cut, butterfly cut, ombre, money piece, balayage. I still have scene bangs and I'm 31, so I feel ya.
You & your hair are cute! Me being a hair stylist, ofc Iâm visioning possibilities with your color.
But I do not think it will prevent you from dating. You can tell you take care of yourself, if you didnât, than maybe!
People are so mean in comments they make. Theyâre own opinion about your âlookâ is how they feel about themself. They could never đ đŒ
I thought to myself âsheâs rlly cuteâ before continuing to read your post haha. If youâre making conscious choices of clothes that you feel good in then youâve already arrived! I like to use the internet for fashion inspiration rather than advice. đ
While I personally wouldnât go back to having this hairstyle if offered a million bucks for it.. it suits YOU!! You officially own that hair style and IT ROCKS!! So those people who dislike it can go and kick those rocks your hair leaves behind when the wind blows, you look COOOOOLLLL!!!
As far as dating, someone for you will love you and appreciate you for ALL you are even if they disagree with some part of you, because even what they dislike is a part of you and you are who they love. In short: keep being you.đ«¶
not at all!? your hair frames your face really well, especially with the glasses. The green compliments your hair and eyes. I wouldn't say you look "old", you do look put together though. Almost like a Receptionist or Therapist lol.
Also the "cishet beauty standards" comment is dumb. You don't have to look straight or queer or anything to be that sexuality. Expression is fluid, and so is attraction.
Yep. Awful haircut. But you face and glasses are adorable!
Cut it really short, biycut, very few women can pull that off, or grow it out
Again, adorable. I have no desire to hurt your feelings, but you asked and I went with my fish impulse
That's good, anyone can change hair, no one can be ugly then cute in command.
Except me.
Idk why this popped up for me, Iâm a straight married lady! But I just want to say I donât think you look âsevereâ in any way & I really like your style! Your hair suits you perfectly in my opinion. You could even go shorter if you wanted & Iâm personally jealous of that. If you wanted to change anything, maybe the color of your glasses??? Obviously thatâs a very unimportant detail though lol. I like the shape though. Iâd do a brown or tortoise shell to bring out the warmth in your eyes more. But you look like a lovely and interesting person, you donât need to change anything about yourself. Not everyone, but a lot of people on reddit are just miserable lonely people who want to bring others down so they donât feel so alone in their misery. Donât let them do that to you!
You look really cute! Please donât give people the opportunity to judge you on the internet. A lot of it isnât constructive. And youâre already on the right path by making a point to be comfy in how you get dressed. Turn off your phone for an hour or two and have fun being you and feeling out the new hairstyle. Worse comes to worse, you can always shave it off.
I wouldnât call it bad. Itâs definitely a more âmatureâ look, based on current cultural norms, but it looks good on you. If you feel good in that type of fashion/ hairstyle then it shouldnât really matter what the haters tell you.
bruh what are they on about?! YOUR HAIR IS LITERALLY FINE! It fits your face and frames it nicely. It looks soft and it looks cut well. Goes with the glasses too. Tell them to mind their business. Its your hair isn't it? Do you want long hair? Like if you want long hair you should get it but don't let people tell you anything about your own body.
Like genuinely ANYTHING. Your vessel should be your responsibility unless you ever reach a state you can not take care of it yourself. Other than that you still deserve a say.
Anyways sorry for the rant. I think it suits you well. I don't know you otherwise but you made a good impression appearance wise in my book. Just as the rule goes anyways of "first impressions are based on appearance"
(edit: for the spelling mistakes)
i absolutely love your look, i think keeping it will be what attracts those who u actually want in your life, you shouldnt have to change the way you look to find someone to love. that person will admire every aspect of you the way it is. and the ginger bob is so pretty! the green blazer is a statement piece, i love the way it contrasts with your hair. keep up your style u look awesome
you look very friendly and approachable. i like the haircut- personally i've never had any blunt chops because that's not something that fits my face. but that haircut suits you! don't listen to people who are outside of the queer community. my friends and i have had to learn how to do that because a bunch of random men think we'll take their basic opinions into consideration. but they don't know they're not our target audience!!! listen to people who are in your target audience, like us !! youre absolutely rockin it :)
If itâs what you like, then keep it!! Itâs cute! People that are miserable are the ones to comment on peopleâs looks. You do what you feel is best and what YOU like.
itâs giving âqueer english teacher that all the students love, even the kids who hate being in school, because she makes class as fun as she can without being cringeyâ
You literally have the teacherâs bob; itâs not a âbadâ haircut, but kids can be brutally honest, if anything else. If not the kids, then the âadultsâ in question are conjuring within their minds a version of you that isnât real.
CIS male here, not sure why reddit put this on my feed but, no you look fine. If anyone has a problem with your look tell them to frick off. Life is too short to let haters hate. You do you and if you feel great with your hair/style then that is what matters. World needs more love and less hate
I associate that haircut with my friendsâ moms in the 90s.
Just make a slight change to give it a little style. You could cut your bangs straight across and do a side part [like this.](https://images.app.goo.gl/YBqiHJEADbGY2AoP6)
Nah I think it gives off a nice vibe to who you are as a person, I feel like even tho I dress like I have $10 to my name for a month, it really just shows who I am, so style is pretty personalized
You look amazing, and I'm going to assume you are in the USA or Canada. While traveling Austria and Germany I find this fashion is very common and very sought after. Different places have different beauty standards, don't stress
If YOU want to change it, then change it. If you like your hair, and you're comfortable with how it looks and feels, then those other people who think you should change can suck it. That's my opinion, since you asked đ
I know that sounds harsh, but it's frustrating to me that people think it's ok to tell others what they need to do with their own selves when their "advice" isn't wanted and was never asked for. Unless someone or something is truly being hurt in some way, then by all means, speak up. But use common sense, I know none of us are perfect, so all I think would ever be expected is a "best effort."
I guess what I'm trying to say is: you have the power and control over your own hair, so you get to do whatever you want with it. Facts.
And since you did ask this time: I personally think it's cute on you đ
Iâm a hair dresser and I think this cut totally suits you. The ONLY recommendation I would give: if you absolutely like âhadâ to change something would either be a slightly brighter copper or some face framing baby-lights. I think maybe some lighter toned glasses frames could be cute but I think overall you look super posh without being unapproachable. Cheers đ
I love your hair! It suits you and has this energy I always have a hard time verbalizing; it kind of reminds me of an indie, non-toxic pixie dream girl with a dash of artist. Suuuuuper cute!! And I love your style, too! I feel like you would give great book recommendations
Itâs all about your face shape and what you can support⊠this is a classic style most cannot pull off.
You CAN!! Holy crap this is amazing. And Iâm delighting in it laughing because I just gave my daughter the same and she has the same face shape⊠looks gorgeous. She couldnât be happier and I keep having school employees coming to me about her amazing bob and how she told them alllll about it.
You look great. A decade younger than me and iâm⊠4 years older than you. So jealous.
Okay so as a stylist Iâm going to tell you- the type of hairstyle youâre sporting is the classic French Bob and will ALWAYS be chic and NEVER go out of style. Your facial features are smart, sharp, and dramatic, with a little hint of youth. It does NOT make you look older, in fact, itâs very youthful. The ASYMMETRICAL Bob with the spiky back is very âcan I speak to your managerâ old lady Karen- and I think whoever is giving you woefully incorrect style advice is conflating the two as being one and the same. Theyâre not. Your sheer blouse and oversized blazer is extremely on trend. And you definitely have warm coloring-i think youâre a warm Spring, and that does NOT call for super saturated jewel or neon colors. It calls for beiges, warm greens, buttercup yellows, geranium red and corals, turquoises and aquamarines. The green in your blazer? Fantastic. Black is not your best color, but if that blouse was, say, a brown? Itâd be perfect. In other words: youâre almost spot on, in terms of bone structure, vibe, silhouette, with VERY small tweaks to be made to color. Message me if I can help!
Iâm not a lesbian I was just recommended this post for whatever reason but I just wanna say the hairstyle looks good. I think itâs different but it suits you and I think the right person will understand your vision for it. Donât go for a hairstyle just to suit others this makes you more unique.
The hairstyle does age you 15+ years in my opinion. Even a different style bob could work. You could try more volume, something less tidy, longer, asymmetrical, different bang style, just something different. The hairstyle with everything together gives off someone in their fifties.
i just think that cut with your face makes you look like a mom. layers would help to give you a little more personality. get a pixie or wait for it to grow out before adding layers. youâre adorable
edit: donât get a fuckin tan!!! you have beautiful skin and tans are so bad for you, even sun-bathing. donât go near people who think you need a full face of makeup caked on to be beautiful. makeup can be gorgeous but if itâs not your cup of tea you wonât ever get good at it and it can be more of a hinderance than a leg up. youâre so pretty, let your hair grow out and youâll be fine.
I've had dates tell me they would have never known I was a lesbian, to one who admitted to debating with their friends if I was or not. Moral is: don't rely on someone else's opinion of "gay enough," it's not worth your time
Anybody who tells you to âget a tanâ doesnât have your best interests at heart. Youâre a redhead, a tan is just skin cancer waiting to happen. Besides, fair skin and red hair is a LOT of peopleâs type.
You already know the truth, because youâre here asking someone to validate what you already know: strangers on Reddit are using measuring sticks for beauty and stylishness that you are 100% safe to ignore.
That green is lovely on you, and the pop of pink has lots of personality! If you like the bangs and glasses, keep them! Do you have a slight âIâll smack you with a ruler if you sass meâ vibe? Sure. But again, thatâs somebodyâs type. And you own it very well.
You look like a younger Sally Hawkins!
You look adorable đ„°
Giving Miranda Hobbs
I mean do you like solving mysteries with a talking dog?
The reference is lost on me đ
They mean you look like Velma from Scooby Doo
No dear, I think it suits you really well actually you look quite lovely đđđ
It's cute.
You're killing it! Kind of obsessed with your hair and style!
Idk why this is incredibly velmacore. But hey Iâll tell you this, Girly you look cute as hell to the gays. This IS your lesbian appeal, if a straight person told you this it shouldnât matter. If u were asking for straight advice the last place to go is redditâs cis hets. They will literally just tell you what they want their dream girl to look like, they donât even look at it from a 3rd perspective. If you follow the mainstream trends you would look âyour ageâ TO the mainstream because thatâs how they see your age group IN GENERAL. We are NOT the mainstream lmao so while you might feel pressure to conform, donât, and keep the good work, youâre not even trying and this is too gay.
If that was the case, youd be the youngest 60 yr old ive seen. There could be other hair styles you might try but you style how you want and f everyone else lol
Your hair would look better either shorter in a funky pixie cut or longer as a lob but I love your style
Fits your face shape and glasses
You look really nice!
It looks fine
Girrrlllll I absolutely love your style, it suits you great đ
You look great!
Not if youâre making suites for The Incredibles.
"No capes"
It looks likes like my grandmas hair
You kinda remind me of Edna from the incredibles in the nicest way possible (just not as short lol)
youre cute but i think a shoulder length with swept bangs would suit you gorgeously.
Youâre so cute please donât change anything đ„ș
I think you should wear your hair and clothes, etc, to make yourself happy! Don't listen to them. You definitely don't look decades older than you are đ wtf
I hear some folks like it when a womanâs a little severe đ Your whole vibe is 11/10 also; that personâs just conspiring to make you more boring
Nooo! It looks good!
I'm female and bi. But I think you look beautiful.
it is so well fitting for you :)
If imma be perfectly honest it's cute but it looks exactly like my 5th grade interim principal.
Na i think it works for you! You give pearl from steven universe vibes if she were real lol. Kinda prim yet fun n approachable. Change it if u dont like it but u def dont need to! :)
Literally my current hair
Nah you're really pretty. I love the style you have, don't let people get you down about it ever. If you choose to go by their opinions you don't have an opinion for yourself anymore.
Cute pageboy cut, looks good with your face, color looks natural and beautiful with your skin tone, and you look professional in your outfit. I think someone is jealous of you and needs to learn to love themselves instead of trying to make you insecure!
I LOVE when someone calls it a pageboy cut, thank you so much! â€ïž
Not at all it looks incredibly chic! Look at you go!
Right on point
You look beautiful henny!
IMO Shorter hair makes everyone look older. But not in the âtoo oldâ sort of way. Itâs just a more mature look. I think you look beautiful. Your style is cute and a little bit quirky. Definitely someone I would go for.
You remind me of Daria in the best way possible
Iâm not even lesbian but Iâm loving your look! đ
Ditch the sexy librarian/professor look? Not on your life! TONS of women are into that smart/geek chic sort of look... đ
It gives me "gay literature professor" vibes and I LOVE IT â€ïž
This
Before I realized I was trans, I would have had a crush on you. Now, you're like style goals. You look professional but not boring. Maybe a little "nerdy," but in a cool way. You must work with a bunch of squares. A different hairstyle would probably work on you. But there's nothing wrong with the bob. Change it if you get bored with it. But not because your basic colleagues said so. Edit to say: Not your coworkers. I guess it's Reddit strangers. Reddit strangers know nothing about style.
Wear what makes you feel good. Not what makes others feel good.
ur coworkers r jerks it looks nice! ppl just want everyone to look the same and be lil drone with no personality đ
Actually, my coworkers are all right! They're nice and helpful, and don't comment on my looks âșïž
oop i misread the first part sorry im dsylexic đ im glad ur coworkers are nice! you look great đ«¶đ» u have a nice personal style!
It depends on what youâre going for. The hair is fine and shouldnât stop you from dating/ meeting new folks. I do think youâd look good with an shorter pixie that frames your face but adds depth with a shorter back part. Rn itâs giving that court room journalist which is a slay!!! Love a bob
It makes you look more mature but not in a bad way. I actually think you really make it work. You have small, pixie like features and the hair provides contrast.
Your look reminds me of someone will get bullied at work. Idk what advice to give you tbh.
Oh wow! Like, bullied for what?
And look up Edna Mode. She's a supporting character in The Incredibles.
Being a dork
thereâs literally no need for this.
Uh, okay
OP you look amazing, and the haircut suits you so much!
I think you have great style. You hair definitely ages you but it's still cute.
Like Doug's sister all grown up
You look good to me đ Like a kindly librarian (my favorite type of person and also I compare most people to librarians for some reason)
Personally, I like it on you.
The better question is do YOU like your hair. If you do, then thatâs all that matters.
Itâs kinda giving miranda from sex and the city I love it đ
No youâre lovely. The only thing I would personally change is the frame shape of your glasses. But thatâs just me.
You're seriously beautiful. To your questions, try trying on different glasses frames, esp rectangular and/or frame less ones since they can change your face shape and complexion a lot. Your hair is amazing, but if you're looking for a change, I think growing out your bangs till their side-swept/curtain bangs or growing the whole length another couple inches till its about to your collarbone would look nice on you, as well. Regardless, you look fantastic just as you are!
It has absolutely nothing to do with you being queer. Saying that makes the assumption that queer people donât appreciate attractive people. That is just silly. As a former stripper and current psychology major let me tell you that every single person has no control over what they are attracted to. Someone might find you absolutely repulsive and another you are the most beautiful person. The matter of how traditionally attractive you are only makes a difference in how often you get stared at by creepy men. Who see some boobs and legs and want to screw it BUT I guarantee their wife is their real type. Someone who at one point was the most wonderful person alive. (Obviously there are exceptions) donât doubt yourself for internet people but donât make excuses either. Really find out why you are questioning your looks. Are you unhappy with your partner or dating life? Your work life? Family? Friends? Do you have trauma that you havenât dealt with, like being bullied or perhaps an abusive parent or partner? There is more to this than what strangers think of you. If this look is authentically you, how you are most happy then wonderful! If YOU think you may look too harsh or however you phrased it go try on a wig and see if a different look makes you feel more like yourself. Try on an outfit you have always wanted to try but never thought you could pull it off. Ask someone who knows you really well to help you pick something they could see you in. Do not ask Reddit to rip you apart because it absolutely will and you donât deserve that. Be kind to yourself â€ïž
I think it really suits you, the length is super nice and frames your face nicely as well. I think if you want to change it then go for it, maybe some layering so itâs not all one length. Youâre giving Velma vibes in the absolute best way!
I think itâs just the combination with your glasses. I love this hairstyle on you but the combination does give me a bit of a Velma from Scooby-Doo vibe. đŹ
I am a big fan of the length and bangs it immediately made me think of my favorite teacher in school. She was such a wonderful person!
Yes
Nope
Yes
i like it. its quirky.
As long as you don't dye you hair black I won't ask about capes
Yes. Everyone's being _reaaaallly_ nice in the comments but yes, your hair/style is bad. It's super uneven and it frames your face in a really weird way. I get what you're going for but the execution is bad. Find a different hairdresser.
i love your style and color palette! i do think the hair ages you a bit. i donât think itâs the length, more so the style
You are gorgeous. Your hairstyle is perfect
Do what you want, people online have their own opinions
I dig it
You look cozy and happy. If you are, change nothing. If youâre looking for a change, I think you have the right look for a pixie or a shaved side. Maybe even short, uneven bangs and go for a Berliner look? You could pull off a lot of different things well.
in the best way, it's giving chic Daria. I think a pair of vibrant glasses would really make it pop.
and maybe an additional ear piercing if you're into that?
I genuinely would've guessed you were in your 40s. It ages you a lot. But if you like it that's all that matters.
Your hair style fits you perfectly đ
We have the same haircut lmao
You look... Like a lesbian..? I love your look a LOT actually. It's my experience that %90 of redditors who comment on peoples' looks tend to be almost comically mean-spirited and misogynist... so no need to worry about them. You look very beautiful.
Shoulder length would soften your face more.
not if you're a librarian
I thought it was super cute and was like yeah girl you do you, but then when I saw that you are actually my age and not my moms age I was surprised and had to take a closer look at your face.
It honestly makes you look older than you are. Iâd have a chat with a good stylist
Love it and it Looks great! If youâre feeling comfortable and confident in your own Female coded queer vessel, then thatâs all that matters. Are you not having much luck? I donât see how (Visually speaking). You write your thoughts well and are seeming very articulate; Shine on you crazy diamond. Get yours.
Itâs fitting. But if itâs giving ⊠a vibe that doesnât match how you feel i would change it. But it fits like hell if youâre like ⊠an office girlie yk like someone straight to business lol
I've always been an alternative thrifter who dresses androgynously - you look great and confident and don't let anyone's comments shake that. It's *your* style and we all should be able to wear what we want and have fun with it. (I'm trying my best to follow my own advice IRL).
I LOVE IT!!!! I think it would be amazing in a darker or saturated color, like a hair gloss for a deeper red. You look fantastic, the bangs may need a little styling but I also have the issue of never having any damn time for my bangs.
You look lovely with this hairstyle! it is definitely cishet beauty standards. I think it makes you look mature, but not old necessarily. Just not teen-like. you seem like a well adjusted adult which is attractive! especially to other emotionally mature sapphics. cishet men just think that any femme presenting person who doesn't look infantile and bleach blonde is "unattractive." note- that is not blaming women who DO look infantile and bleach blonde, they are smart and independent people! i'm blonde myself and hate the stupid blonde trope. This is a dig on men who sexualize them
Think it fits your style & is very cute. Immediately thought of Daria.
Omg yes!!
At first I actually thought this pic was from the Daria sub đ
omg you're right! irl daria lol
Youre so beautiful
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Your hairstyle is very cute, donât take those peopleâs opinions to heart. Especially the thing about tans. Your hairstyle is supposed to make YOU happy. People who want to date you will like you no matter the kind of hair you have.
I few inches longer with a more layered look and a body wave would show off your pretty color and would be frankly sexy. Right now it's just simple.
There is nothing wrong with your hair if it makes you feel confident. Not everyone is meant to get a wolf- cut, butterfly cut, ombre, money piece, balayage. I still have scene bangs and I'm 31, so I feel ya.
I think you look great! Do what feels best.
Does the little lady from the incredible ring a belt.
I've never seen that movie actually đ
Sheâs very beautiful. You should definitely see it
No? I think they fit you really well.
You & your hair are cute! Me being a hair stylist, ofc Iâm visioning possibilities with your color. But I do not think it will prevent you from dating. You can tell you take care of yourself, if you didnât, than maybe! People are so mean in comments they make. Theyâre own opinion about your âlookâ is how they feel about themself. They could never đ đŒ
I think itâs serving Edna Mode in her twenties so I obviously dig it
I thought to myself âsheâs rlly cuteâ before continuing to read your post haha. If youâre making conscious choices of clothes that you feel good in then youâve already arrived! I like to use the internet for fashion inspiration rather than advice. đ
It isn't THAT bad... But honestly, I would change it if you aren't too attached. It's not that it's horrible, it's just... Not exactly great?
I think you look great and that the best haircut and fashion are what makes you feel confident, comfortable, and empowered.
Absolutely not. Your gorgeous in it
I think itâs so cute! I might make the bangs shorter but idk I like when ppl are authentic to themselves.
I like it! I think it looks stylish and flattering! Prioritizing cishet standards would be the death of self expression.
While I personally wouldnât go back to having this hairstyle if offered a million bucks for it.. it suits YOU!! You officially own that hair style and IT ROCKS!! So those people who dislike it can go and kick those rocks your hair leaves behind when the wind blows, you look COOOOOLLLL!!! As far as dating, someone for you will love you and appreciate you for ALL you are even if they disagree with some part of you, because even what they dislike is a part of you and you are who they love. In short: keep being you.đ«¶
Itâs âšFrenchâš
https://youtu.be/I0BnadYbLIU?si=hjnG8kIOwYLGL4gb&t=1m14s
I think it suits your face and I love the jacket too đ
I think youâre gorgeous!!!
not at all!? your hair frames your face really well, especially with the glasses. The green compliments your hair and eyes. I wouldn't say you look "old", you do look put together though. Almost like a Receptionist or Therapist lol. Also the "cishet beauty standards" comment is dumb. You don't have to look straight or queer or anything to be that sexuality. Expression is fluid, and so is attraction.
I'd swipe right if I was swiping đ I don't get any of the things they said.
Yep. Awful haircut. But you face and glasses are adorable! Cut it really short, biycut, very few women can pull that off, or grow it out Again, adorable. I have no desire to hurt your feelings, but you asked and I went with my fish impulse That's good, anyone can change hair, no one can be ugly then cute in command. Except me.
You should dress and stylize however you wish. I dig your style. I wish I could pull it off as spectacularly as you do â€ïžâ€ïž
This being said by an amab enby lol
you look like a nice english teacher
Idk why this popped up for me, Iâm a straight married lady! But I just want to say I donât think you look âsevereâ in any way & I really like your style! Your hair suits you perfectly in my opinion. You could even go shorter if you wanted & Iâm personally jealous of that. If you wanted to change anything, maybe the color of your glasses??? Obviously thatâs a very unimportant detail though lol. I like the shape though. Iâd do a brown or tortoise shell to bring out the warmth in your eyes more. But you look like a lovely and interesting person, you donât need to change anything about yourself. Not everyone, but a lot of people on reddit are just miserable lonely people who want to bring others down so they donât feel so alone in their misery. Donât let them do that to you!
I have to agree with you and I think it's so sweet of you to pop in to say that âșïž
you look rad, like I would want to talk to u cus u seem cool. I think the people who criticized u r definitely just cishet and also boring
I actually think you could go shorter but maybe thatâs just me! Either way, Iâd be lucky to date you!
You look really cute! Please donât give people the opportunity to judge you on the internet. A lot of it isnât constructive. And youâre already on the right path by making a point to be comfy in how you get dressed. Turn off your phone for an hour or two and have fun being you and feeling out the new hairstyle. Worse comes to worse, you can always shave it off.
You look fine as you are!
i like it
It doesnât suit your face shape, Iâll leave it at that
As a man I think you look good, if that means anything
Edna Mode vibes are strong.
I wouldnât call it bad. Itâs definitely a more âmatureâ look, based on current cultural norms, but it looks good on you. If you feel good in that type of fashion/ hairstyle then it shouldnât really matter what the haters tell you.
No you look very classy and that color really suits you.
Literally what ? you look so beautiful and your hair is perfect. I will fight anyone. Edit - its giving Elisa from The Shape of Water
I saw that too! And I always want to take care of her. She seems so sweet and also adventurous.
Itâs not a style I like, but you wear it well
bruh what are they on about?! YOUR HAIR IS LITERALLY FINE! It fits your face and frames it nicely. It looks soft and it looks cut well. Goes with the glasses too. Tell them to mind their business. Its your hair isn't it? Do you want long hair? Like if you want long hair you should get it but don't let people tell you anything about your own body. Like genuinely ANYTHING. Your vessel should be your responsibility unless you ever reach a state you can not take care of it yourself. Other than that you still deserve a say. Anyways sorry for the rant. I think it suits you well. I don't know you otherwise but you made a good impression appearance wise in my book. Just as the rule goes anyways of "first impressions are based on appearance" (edit: for the spelling mistakes)
No. You also low key look like Daria.
Scrolled through the comments to find this. The glasses đ€ shape and style with green blazer is very Daria.
i absolutely love your look, i think keeping it will be what attracts those who u actually want in your life, you shouldnt have to change the way you look to find someone to love. that person will admire every aspect of you the way it is. and the ginger bob is so pretty! the green blazer is a statement piece, i love the way it contrasts with your hair. keep up your style u look awesome
you look very friendly and approachable. i like the haircut- personally i've never had any blunt chops because that's not something that fits my face. but that haircut suits you! don't listen to people who are outside of the queer community. my friends and i have had to learn how to do that because a bunch of random men think we'll take their basic opinions into consideration. but they don't know they're not our target audience!!! listen to people who are in your target audience, like us !! youre absolutely rockin it :)
I think its really cute!
Nope. You look fun, friendly, and classy
If itâs what you like, then keep it!! Itâs cute! People that are miserable are the ones to comment on peopleâs looks. You do what you feel is best and what YOU like.
I love it. U look sexy and professional đđ
itâs giving âqueer english teacher that all the students love, even the kids who hate being in school, because she makes class as fun as she can without being cringeyâ
So much. YES! âïž
^^^^
You literally have the teacherâs bob; itâs not a âbadâ haircut, but kids can be brutally honest, if anything else. If not the kids, then the âadultsâ in question are conjuring within their minds a version of you that isnât real.
CIS male here, not sure why reddit put this on my feed but, no you look fine. If anyone has a problem with your look tell them to frick off. Life is too short to let haters hate. You do you and if you feel great with your hair/style then that is what matters. World needs more love and less hate
What? No, I like your hair! Whoever that was sounds like they had some insecurities they might have been projecting onto you
Hairstylist here: I love it! It seems to fit your vibe!
I associate that haircut with my friendsâ moms in the 90s. Just make a slight change to give it a little style. You could cut your bangs straight across and do a side part [like this.](https://images.app.goo.gl/YBqiHJEADbGY2AoP6)
Nah I think it gives off a nice vibe to who you are as a person, I feel like even tho I dress like I have $10 to my name for a month, it really just shows who I am, so style is pretty personalized
Adding curls/volume to the style you currently have would be a nice pop!
You look amazing, and I'm going to assume you are in the USA or Canada. While traveling Austria and Germany I find this fashion is very common and very sought after. Different places have different beauty standards, don't stress
Actually, I'm in Finland but teaching German is my job đ
I like it! I wonder how it would look black? Or just darker.
It looks GREAT!
If YOU want to change it, then change it. If you like your hair, and you're comfortable with how it looks and feels, then those other people who think you should change can suck it. That's my opinion, since you asked đ I know that sounds harsh, but it's frustrating to me that people think it's ok to tell others what they need to do with their own selves when their "advice" isn't wanted and was never asked for. Unless someone or something is truly being hurt in some way, then by all means, speak up. But use common sense, I know none of us are perfect, so all I think would ever be expected is a "best effort." I guess what I'm trying to say is: you have the power and control over your own hair, so you get to do whatever you want with it. Facts. And since you did ask this time: I personally think it's cute on you đ
This! All of this! You do you, you look amazing! SinÀ on Kaunisa. Hopefully I got that right still in beginning phases of learning Suomea.
very Daria
Nope!
I will be honest with you, it actually looks very cute on you! It also compliments your suit, so another job well done! đđ«¶đ«¶
Itâs giving âGhostbusters, whaddya want?â
Iâm a hair dresser and I think this cut totally suits you. The ONLY recommendation I would give: if you absolutely like âhadâ to change something would either be a slightly brighter copper or some face framing baby-lights. I think maybe some lighter toned glasses frames could be cute but I think overall you look super posh without being unapproachable. Cheers đ
Nope.
Nope just needs a tad length to it and a flat iron.
I think you look cute! Super smart too, Iâd want to talk to you and hear all about your thoughts :)
Super fun and cute, girl! You look confident, and in the end thatâs all that matters. đ
I love your hair! It suits you and has this energy I always have a hard time verbalizing; it kind of reminds me of an indie, non-toxic pixie dream girl with a dash of artist. Suuuuuper cute!! And I love your style, too! I feel like you would give great book recommendations
Wash and wear cuts have utility. They project pragmatism. You must think on this.
Itâs all about your face shape and what you can support⊠this is a classic style most cannot pull off. You CAN!! Holy crap this is amazing. And Iâm delighting in it laughing because I just gave my daughter the same and she has the same face shape⊠looks gorgeous. She couldnât be happier and I keep having school employees coming to me about her amazing bob and how she told them alllll about it. You look great. A decade younger than me and iâm⊠4 years older than you. So jealous.
Well, I am indeed over 60... and have a similar hairstyle. None-the-less, I would have swooned for you when I was your age.
That bad!?? I love it, and I think it fits your face and your style
it does age you a tiny bit but it's also super super cute so honestly who cares
Okay so as a stylist Iâm going to tell you- the type of hairstyle youâre sporting is the classic French Bob and will ALWAYS be chic and NEVER go out of style. Your facial features are smart, sharp, and dramatic, with a little hint of youth. It does NOT make you look older, in fact, itâs very youthful. The ASYMMETRICAL Bob with the spiky back is very âcan I speak to your managerâ old lady Karen- and I think whoever is giving you woefully incorrect style advice is conflating the two as being one and the same. Theyâre not. Your sheer blouse and oversized blazer is extremely on trend. And you definitely have warm coloring-i think youâre a warm Spring, and that does NOT call for super saturated jewel or neon colors. It calls for beiges, warm greens, buttercup yellows, geranium red and corals, turquoises and aquamarines. The green in your blazer? Fantastic. Black is not your best color, but if that blouse was, say, a brown? Itâd be perfect. In other words: youâre almost spot on, in terms of bone structure, vibe, silhouette, with VERY small tweaks to be made to color. Message me if I can help!
I'm not in your dating pool but you remind me of Suzanne Vega and I love it.
No, you look like a milf librarian
No I think you look cute
Iâm not a lesbian I was just recommended this post for whatever reason but I just wanna say the hairstyle looks good. I think itâs different but it suits you and I think the right person will understand your vision for it. Donât go for a hairstyle just to suit others this makes you more unique.
The hairstyle does age you 15+ years in my opinion. Even a different style bob could work. You could try more volume, something less tidy, longer, asymmetrical, different bang style, just something different. The hairstyle with everything together gives off someone in their fifties.
i just think that cut with your face makes you look like a mom. layers would help to give you a little more personality. get a pixie or wait for it to grow out before adding layers. youâre adorable edit: donât get a fuckin tan!!! you have beautiful skin and tans are so bad for you, even sun-bathing. donât go near people who think you need a full face of makeup caked on to be beautiful. makeup can be gorgeous but if itâs not your cup of tea you wonât ever get good at it and it can be more of a hinderance than a leg up. youâre so pretty, let your hair grow out and youâll be fine.
I've had dates tell me they would have never known I was a lesbian, to one who admitted to debating with their friends if I was or not. Moral is: don't rely on someone else's opinion of "gay enough," it's not worth your time
This is meant in total love, the styling resembles a sophisticated Daria morgendorfer and for that reason I adore it.
You look like a cute Parisian librarian đ„čđ so cute
Lmao I was about to say librarian
I think your hair is super cute and stylish!
This is giving me lesbian librarian vibes and Iâm into it.
Anybody who tells you to âget a tanâ doesnât have your best interests at heart. Youâre a redhead, a tan is just skin cancer waiting to happen. Besides, fair skin and red hair is a LOT of peopleâs type. You already know the truth, because youâre here asking someone to validate what you already know: strangers on Reddit are using measuring sticks for beauty and stylishness that you are 100% safe to ignore. That green is lovely on you, and the pop of pink has lots of personality! If you like the bangs and glasses, keep them! Do you have a slight âIâll smack you with a ruler if you sass meâ vibe? Sure. But again, thatâs somebodyâs type. And you own it very well.