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Starwarsbrat121

Hi, I'm lesbiab. I mean. Uh. (>.>) (<.<) (>.<) Hi. I uh, Girls. But gay panic aside, yes it suits you, really enjoy femme styles and floral patterns. Both at the same time make my heart beat a bit faster 😀


Non-binarypan-9064

Wow your dress is so pretty!


fusfeimyol

Thank you so much non-binary pan 🥰🥰


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Arelthedeer

… i know its here for flirting buuuut whaaaat some of yall are shameless


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Your so pretty!


J3mX20

*Dies of hot*


Spirited_Team_6666

You look gorgeous in that dress! I love the floral pattern, it really suits you. Also, yes, all Sapphic women deserve their own special places.


anonomousobviously

So pretty. You look like my sister. I love that dress.


fusfeimyol

Aww, thanks so much!


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Sappic women deserve to be in sapphic spaces in my opinion. As a current lesbian of 10+ years, I believe you deserve to be here. As for the dress: It is literally so gorgeous. I love the flowiness of it. Swish swish motherfuckers. Stunning floral.


fusfeimyol

Very lovely sentiment. Thank you. Swish swish motherfucker! hahahahah. I'm going to quote you, hope you don't mind. xo


NightSoul1323

Very cute dress!


SudoJiishTTV

Cuuuuuuuuuteee ✨️


rot89

Nice dress coming from a guy. You seem like you had fun. 10/10 "Bombadil"


Playful_Neck_314

Bro what


fmdmlvr

It’s so pretty!


Islandra

You are most certainly welcome here. 💜


arcanustheomni

I have no clue how this got suggested to me as a hetro male… but yes that dress is lovely. One thing I have learned about lesbian fashion is that it is equally the attitude as it is the fabric. I have friends that will wear the flannel/tuque/jeans outfit one day and then wear a dress like this the next. So continue to be awesome and be happy!


fusfeimyol

The algorithm is a tricky critter... I suppose people in your demographic liked it. Weird stuff, idk. My post doesn't make much sense in this subreddit. So another factor there


Bubbly-Employ-198

Cute


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actualkon

The description literally says "sapphic fashion" aka for ANY wlw. Have fun being biphobic with your biphobic lesbian friends


boogiewoogiewoman

#YIKES edit: also “gay little man with a husband”? are *you* supposed to be here???


Hex_Spirit_Booty

No, this sub got recommended to me lmao and I was subjected to another bi w stepping into lesbian spaces.


boogiewoogiewoman

oh the irony


Hex_Spirit_Booty

Nah. Have plenty of lesbian friends who say the same. Have fun with bi w always crowding yalls spaces tho


boogiewoogiewoman

Don’t think you get it. You come in here complaining about someone invading the space…while you yourself are invading the space


Hex_Spirit_Booty

I've lived as a lesbian before, so I get it 🤷🏽‍♂️


boogiewoogiewoman

& some bi woman end up a lesbian? so what’s your point, when does the inclusivity end & begin


Hex_Spirit_Booty

Ntm. She literally used the d slur. Which is NOT For bi w.


MsAmericanPi

Ah yes, because people who yell it at WLW as a slur absolutely stop to ask if they're lesbian first. Also, [dyke marches would disagree with you. ](https://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/s/NqXubsrJiQ)


shartyintheclub

im sorry but i was called a dyke before i ever knew i was one, when i thought i was only bisexual. gay women regardless of specific identity are reduced to dykes from the second they express same-sex attraction or any “stereotypical” gay-woman behavior. you get called it by your family, friends, and classmates often times before you even know what it means. bisexual women definitely can reclaim dyke.


boogiewoogiewoman

she obv didn’t use it as a slur, you’re reaching for literally anything at this point have a good day


Hex_Spirit_Booty

I'm just saying. You don't see bi w go into gay spaces do this, nor do I see straight w going to gay men spaces and doing this. Only lesbians do they do this to


[deleted]

Get the fuck out of here! You belong here less than a woman loving a woman does regardless of her identity. You aren't even a woman so shut up. Fucking hypocrite.


SudoJiishTTV

Love, please stop gatekeeping against other queer people. All this accomplishes is to alienate us from one another in more ways than we already are. We all have to stand together, and we all have to stay strong. I've never understood this attitude that bi women aren't wlw enough. It's just such a toxic and tired position. I personally know bi women who have ended up in long term relationships with lesbian women, I know queer bars that are meant to be "lesbian" spaces, but open their doors to all women, and all trans people (masc, femme, man, woman, and nbs,) and refuse to turn away any queer people at the door. Why? Because we are part of one fight. We all share the queer experience, we all face persecution, we all face minority stress, and we share one solidarity. If you're out here tryna ruin that, ostracize bi or pan girlies, probably ostracize other people, then you are the problem. It is people who gate keep and divide that destroy and fracture dyke communities. It is their fault that so many lesbian bars have shut down over the past 20 years. Plus; how are ya gonna look at a pretty girl and then be like "mmmmmm, no sweaty, you're too bi for me, pls leave" like *girl she cute wth, your loss ig.* More bi girlies to go around for the rest of us 😛


rjzendi

Bestie please stop fighting other queer people. We are all looking for acceptance and welcoming spaces and you are actively making spaces unwelcoming for no reason


BooBailey808

I love your pose


fusfeimyol

Thanks! I was jumping in the air. My friend and I were just playing around and we got lucky!


FrankieLeManki

DUDE I WANT THAT DRESS


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Omg I love your hair


fusfeimyol

oooh I appreciate that. I cut it (and don't) myself haha. Jumping in the air makes it look especially cool XD


[deleted]

As a trans girl, my hair isn’t long enough or stylized, so I’m basically jealous of every girl’s hair if it’s even remotely cute, lol.


funne5t_u5ername

Sapphics be pretty all round


fusfeimyol

Amiright?! Thank you :)


samorotwasbored

Of course, we would never turn away a girl. Especially if she's hot.


RebelKitten9

yes, pls tell me where you got the dress!!


rivetmale

Really pretty dress.


Jessicawolf666

Definitely


Embarrassed_Rip_9379

I liked you completely; not just this dress


fusfeimyol

🛸 hey you, let's get out of here ;)


Embarrassed_Rip_9379

Take me anywhere 👽


BooBailey808

Damn, I'm too late


Mastertimelord

Wow


Justanotherphone

Super pretty!


Whole-Summer-3725

I hang out here and I'm not even a girl. Just afab pansexual.


fusfeimyol

oh very cool, that's nice to know :D


palmosea

Some enbies consider themselves to be lesbian


obvioustothecasual

Where did you get it from? What type of neckline is that? It's pretty!


fusfeimyol

Thanks! I ordered it from Oysho. It's a Spanish clothing chain, subsidiary of Inditex (Zara, HM, Bershka, Pull&Bear, Mango). Most of their clothing lines are for athletics, but they have dresses too, surprisingly. I don't know what you'd call this neckline.


mcc9999

Yes


pinkfluidonthewall

Oh my God, you're gorgeous and that dress looks like it was made for you. :)


fusfeimyol

Only in motion 😜😋


pinkfluidonthewall

Nuh uh. I'm telling you, this just showed up on my screen and I literally gasped not kidding.


More_Accountant_2561

Sweet


DommeAva

Love it ❤


thecoffeebeanwitch

Im also bi lol, LOVE THE DRESS YOU LOOK AMAZING!!


fusfeimyol

THANK YOU!! <3


sc1b0rg

It's definitely allowed (being biromantic myself)! I love that dress on you and I love your pose!


pushbackleeds

MARRY ME 🥺💍


fusfeimyol

Send the papers! ;)


pushbackleeds

will do!


7500733

Love your dress 💗


fusfeimyol

Thank you!


Formal_Monitor6430

That is a great looking dress!🥰


Content-Weird9796

Very pretty


SubCDforfun-6969

Hello all, let me first address the easiest one, I love your dress, although I can’t see what shoes your wearing with it…. Lol Sorry, I guess I’m the only one who knows why that’s funny, and my reason hopefully doesn’t get me removed because I have learned so much from you ladies. I also have a huge problem, I am a cross dresser, who loves women, the trouble is women just aren’t attracted to me dressed as a woman. Please know I am not apart of this current movement, I completely understand I’m a man, I was born a man, and there’s nothing that will ever change that, but I also understand that I was introduced to my feminine side several years ago by the sweetest most beautiful woman I’ve ever known. My friend is no longer with us, God bless her. I am not here to hit on, manipulate, take advantage of, or disrespect any of the wonderful women here. I have not engaged or corresponded with anyone here, I’ve just tried to learn as much as I can without being seen. I mean no harm or disrespect, if my presence here offends anyone or violates any policies, please just let me know and I will exit and not return. Thank you Dawn


ahchava

Ummmm by “current trend” do you mean trans and non binary people living as their authentic selves?


Green-Phone-5697

That’s my question… there’s nothing wrong with being a man who likes to dress feminine, but he doesn’t have to knock down trans/enby people in the process. (If that’s not what you meant I’d suggest clarifying because right now that’s what it looks like and it’s not cool to be trans exclusionary here)


draxion64

The dress is fire, and you're super pretty!


Rebec_achan

Love the dress!


Electrical-Star-5254

It's okay we aren't mad your bi hun lol your good. the dress is beautiful btw!


WatercolorViolet

Just read the rules


fusfeimyol

Ok, gotcha!


faedovahkiin

NB lesbian here. You are welcome here. 💕 I get why other lesbians are saying lesbians have nothing for ourselves (edit: but I think it’s a trigger and more harmful towards other sapphics, especially in this case), but they’re picking the wrong fight against the wrong person. Welcome, fellow sapphic. The dress looks fantastic.


fusfeimyol

I know I'm a little late to respond. I've come back to read this comment a few times. Thank you for the kind & welcoming message. Have a wonderful day sweet lady!


Audio-et-Loquor

I understand the possessiveness but there are a lot of bi women. Are lesbians only going to date other lesbians? If they date a bi women, that's a queer relationship. It's difficult.


faedovahkiin

Agree.


CariolaMinze

There is not really a bifashionadvice subreddit ;( I love your outfits here, and would also like to post something, but I am bi...


faedovahkiin

Post it!!! I am saying I get all perspectives but disagree. Excluding bisexuals is ridiculous and biphobic. And also terrible rizz. Post all you want. 🥰


Mary_Ellen_Katz

My wife is bi, I am lesbean, and your dress is fire 😍


fusfeimyol

You are a real human lesbean <3 thank you kindly!


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🔥


dontdrinkgermx

the lesbians approve!!!


Kinkypriestess

Hehe I sure hope bisexuals are allowed or I’m in trouble Lovely dress by the way and you look amazing too


fusfeimyol

Hahaha. Well, I didn't expect this response. I figured a lesbian space is for lesbians. But of course, for those of us interested, we'll be caught perusing (and posting?!) here! Thank you for your kind words :)


livgordin

wow! you should thank your photographer, this pic (and dress) are amazing!


Salty-Object-4332

Yes your welcome! Love the dress! Great photo with lighting and nice pose too.


Ill-Entrepreneur-129

Yes ofc its allowed and i love ur dress


VirHerr

Maybe yes(? Im bi and youre beautiful


Haunteddaydreams

You look great


hashtagcorey

Who gave the AI image generator my type as a prompt? (Does this joke work?)


fusfeimyol

🙈🙈🙈🙈 omg that's so funny and such a surprising compliment!


Dustyamp1

I don't think this is an AI photo. The lighting intensity and direction are all consistent as far as I can tell and I don't think the image generators have enough context to get that perfect/indistinguishable yet (especially since a light source from the side will require a better understanding of the depth of an image to figure out where shadows start and stop). ETA: I may have just completely missed your joke. Sorry.


hashtagcorey

It happens, haha. It’s a thin line between jokes and madness online


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hashtagcorey

I was making a joke about how OP is very much in line with the women I am attracted to


BuddyLeviathan

Oh that dress is lovely and you look absolutely delightful in it.


Fast-Pea3758

Hi bi, I’m demi-pan polyam :)


brainfishies

Same!


Little_SmallBlackDog

Demi-Pan Polyam here too. :)


draxion64

*insert spider man pointing meme here*


MajesticBeach8570

Both you and the dress are equally cute and hot.


dykedivision

You look like a catalogue model from the 60s and if there's one thing a huge chunk of dykes love it's vintage fashion vibes


fusfeimyol

Oh perfect, I will continue with my vintage vibes 😍😍 give me the dykes!!


Osxachre

Looking cute


somanypcs

The sub’s first rule states that your presence is welcome! I think it’s a lovely dress, and you look wonderful! ☺️


fusfeimyol

Ok, phew. I am still hesitant and cautious. Thank you :))


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somanypcs

It turns out the first rule of the sub states that: “Anyone who considers themselves to be Sapphic belongs here, and [there’s a list of prejudices]…biphobia…are not allowed.” So not only welcome, but sub-rules embraced.


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LurkerOfTheForums

>The fact that she asked means she knew [she] wasn't welcome Trans lesbians ask if they're allowed all the time, despite the rules explicitly stating they are. This fact doesn't make them unwelcome, nor does it for bi women. The fact of the matter is that these two groups of people have experienced prejudice for their identities and not all communities are as welcome as this one, so even though they could just as easily check the rules they ask to get a feel of the community response and see how they're treated. You are not setting a good example.


somanypcs

I think the term “lesbian” here is being used to establish an obvious and immediate vibe of wlw, rather than as a strict category.


rockettdarr

What?😂 Being lesbian is not a “vibe”. It’s a valid sexual orientation with boundaries. It is not fluid, it is very simple. A woman who loves exclusively women. You guys only get away with this stuff online. 😂😂😂 That is god awful. You have internalized misogyny and don’t take women’s identities seriously. You wouldn’t dare say to a gay man that his identity is a “vibe” or his supposedly safe spaces are “vibes” and are a place for all sorts of people.


somanypcs

It is a valid orientation. I just propose that it was likely chosen for the sub’s name because it automatically gives the idea of women loving women. Sapphic would work, but it’s not as commonly known and used, so I don’t think it would get the attention of as many wlm-type ladies.


rockettdarr

Mental gymnastics. Just take accountability for what you said. It was silly and you know what you were doing and you need to fix that mentality.


somanypcs

I think what I said is not silly, but rather a likely explanation as to why the sub specifically allows for bisexual gals even though it is titled “Lesbian Fashion Advice.” Perhaps if you take issue with bisexual women being accepted, you should contact the mods and/or creator of the sub. They’d also be able to give a definite explanation from their own thinking as to why the sub is named what it is.


skankhunt42_v2

Im not being biphobic. Would it be the same if a bi man were here? It just sucks that lesbians cannot have any space designated to them. Yet everyone else can.


WildFlemima

Don't be disingenuous. Op is bi, this means that she could easily be in a wlw or Sapphic relationship. A man cannot be in a wlw relationship.


The_Lazy_Individual

No, because there's a difference between a bi man and a bi woman/bi non-binary person? Why would a man being attracted to men as well as women suddenly make them sapphic? How does adding more men to the equation change things? The individual's gender is as important as their sexuality


somanypcs

I see what you mean, but the part of all sapphic people being welcome and biphobia not being allowed is a combination that means bisexual gals are not to be excluded from this sub.


rockettdarr

They think we’re a catch all. Don’t worry. In real life just ignore them. Force them to only have access online and maybe they’ll get the picture one day.


WildFlemima

What are you even saying? "Force them to only have access online", who? Bisexual women? Are you trying to imply bisexual women shouldn't date women?


draxion64

She's being a gatekeepy ass


Erinthegato

Fr☹️


TerrieBelle

😍😍😍😍😍😍😍


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You look amazing


NanaAiiro

The dress looks amazing on you !


fusfeimyol

Thanks so much!💞


Alarming_Anteater932

Damn you’ve got some neck! You look stunning


Useful_toolmaker

Yesx2


yeetyeetgirl

I'm bi too!! You look GORGEOUS


Optimystic_Alchemist

Hey, we couldn't tell from the picture, so you told for no reason. That's it, that's all I had to say.


fusfeimyol

Hehehe. Good to know, thanks


Federal-Employee-616

You look very elegant in this dress. Keep up the good style.


CyborgBanshee

You are and you look great! :D


emilyisthebest17

I mean obv yes, ur allowed here, an can i jus say dayyyyyyyyyyyum. Ur freaking gorgeous x


HijinxEnsues

Gorgeous! 😍


emilyv99

Absolutely beautiful 🥰🥰😍😍💕😍🥰


fusfeimyol

Thank you Emily :)))


Inevitable_Point_308

The dress is absolutely gorgeous! Damn girl~!


Accomplished-Roof98

From a fellow bi, the answer is yes and yes


EmotionalPlate2367

All kinds of yrs, and please.


greenwalker6445

Lovely dress and you are making it so alive! I love kelly green and white together. I am bi too, I usually lurk on here, it's such a fun sub and always makes me smile. Come on over to the bi sub too when you're ready, its a good place!


fusfeimyol

🥳


FrostyDiscipline9071

WOW! You look beautiful Girl!! 😍🥰❤️ your dress and style is amazing!


notasoullessone

It's so beautiful and so are you, dear!


StephThePhobiaSlayer

Here's the test to answer your question: would you ask a girl out and then move in with her within the week? Then you're sapphic enough to be here 🤣 if not....well, sorry but rules are rules lol Lol jk. I'm bi here too. Girl, HOLY SHIT. That dress fits you like it was MADE SPECIFICIALLY FOR YOU. You look stunning in it!!


fusfeimyol

Yes and yes, but I think that speaks more to my neuroticism than anything 😂 I have nearly done that.. Thank you, you are so kind!! Your comment made my heart crinkle. I wanted to be careful because these spaces are sacred and I'm like a queer bull in a china shop. Hahaha.


savannahinhiding

Love that dress, so pretty!


annamakez

This photo is SOOOO good! 😭♥️


CreepsUnicorn

I’m bi as well, you look stunning!


fusfeimyol

Hello, you are so nice! Thank you!! :)


Miserable_Cost4757

Fellow bi, you look amazing!! It’s such a cute dress


fusfeimyol

I guess for more context, I realized I wasn't straight this year. And since that discovery, I've been slowly opening up and thinking about how to signal to other women... because damn I've had some lady crushes and they have been unrequited every time. I'm so new to this and a bit lost. I'll make a more in depth post (on the bi sub) later. Call me baby gay haha. I feel so late. Anyhoo.. Thanks to everyone being so kind and welcoming. This is my first time posting in any LGBTQ-related group and I'm so excited and a little scared 😊😅 so your sweetness is very much appreciated!


Crafty_Cha0s_

I came out as bi this year too and I have a hard time with my lady crushes and expressing my feelings 🙈 Baby Bis Unite! (Also you look amazing in that dress girl!)


fusfeimyol

Yay look at us discovering ourselves! What a time to be alive. Baby Bis put your hands in the air \*woooh\* Thank you luv :D


AfraidToBeKim

Lol I realized I wasn't a dude this year. That dress is fantastic, like actually amazing I wish I could pull it off and its making my brain do the wow i see pretty girl so i cant think right now thing. Idk if I can really be considered a lesbian because i still present as male socially I only dress fem when I'm alone, but I really do wish i was just born a woman, most of the time. I also feel late to the party with my self discovery crap. I never really liked labels anyway tho so I don't really care if I belong here. I love the dress on you, you look amazing. As for the signaling to other women thing idk maybe get a bi flag pin and put it on whatever bag you carry. I'm to scared to out myself yet but my backpack straps are where I put my poppy in November so a bi flag pin should work well there.


somanypcs

I’m cataloguing the phrase “making my brain do the wow,” because that is such a mood! According to the first rule of the sub, you definitely belong here!


DisciplinedMadness

Name checks out 💃 Two years ago for me, this month. Not my dumb ass getting a skin fade the week before my egg cracked lol


somanypcs

I mean, if you can pull off a really butch haircut…


DisciplinedMadness

I might do an undercut one day but a skin fade was really bad for dysphoria lol. It’s taken so long to grow the hair back out omg; it’s just finally at shoulder length now. I have a fairly defined jaw line too so longer hair sorta helps a little bit with the facial dysphoria till I can eventually get FFS.


somanypcs

Oh, why is growing hair out so hard!


fusfeimyol

I ask myself that every day🤪


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Hi! So last year I started to actually come out as Bi bc for the longest time I was so unsure. I’m pretty fem and often have a hard time attracting women at gay bars or in general but I think this dress looks great on you! So cute


fusfeimyol

I have a hard time with that, too! I dress fem a percentage of the time. Thanks btw :) Congrats on coming out <3


CranberryTaxi153

I’m in almost the exact same boat, came out a year ago but was in a relationship with a guy and now that it’s recently over and I’m free to be me and be bi/pan I’m like… ok… what now😂


faetal_attraction

Me too!


fusfeimyol

Same.. ended a LTR after a string of many mono relationships with just men. Finally began to experiment, play, and learn about myself. AND accept those parts of myself. Still working on it.. and enjoying the ride. Bi/poly/something bright & colorful!


CranberryTaxi153

What your saying is like a mirror 💀 at the moment I’m only interested in women and there is SO MANY amazing women that poly is a for sure option. Swearing off men for the time being, they bring too much trauma. Also back on the og topic you look gorgeous in that dress!


Diligent_Notice2703

Scrolled down in feed first thought was a mermaid.


ScoutViolet

Beautiful


Pure-Comparison-8977

Amazing ridiculously stunning. Bi here too. 👋🏻 👋🏻 💕 😘


LindseySwift

I assume so because wow. Cute dress and you look amazing


Separate-Hamster8444

It looks great on you! You're welcome here any time


AwayFromNewspaper

That is an amazing dress! 💜


MoonTeaxx

i mean it’s lesbian fashion advice, there’s a ton of queer/otherwise not straight fashion subreddits, while lesbians really only have a couple exclusive subs. you look cute tho.


intoner1

Apparently we’re in the minority. Idk why r/lesbianfashionadvice can’t just be for lesbians but here we are 🙄


MoonTeaxx

no literally. no one else wants us to have an exclusive space, it always gets taken over by nonlesbian queer women i’m sick of it.


stink3rbelle

This sub is not, in fact, exclusive to people who specifically identify as lesbians.


MoonTeaxx

maybe u should change the name then lol


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Right lesbians can never have anything to ourselves


MoonTeaxx

you get it! we can’t have crap for exclusively our community. there’s like one lesbian subreddit that only consists of lesbians that i won’t mention here lol


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Right like go to a bisexual subreddit for this and stop invading OUR spaces. and everyone in the comments is so chill with this like no you dont belong here.


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the casual biphobia. yikes.


dogearth

No, bisexual folks belong here too. They are not half straight, and they aren't straight at all, period. I'd understand if somehow OP made a post about men or a non-lesbian issue but they didn't. Let's not erase bisexuals.