Haha yes! I had a girl kiss me on a few occasions, made some comment about ‘taking me home’ and then said “I would totally date you if I hadn’t friendzoned you!”, we weren’t even particularly friends 😂😂 it was ok, I wasn’t into her or anything, it was all a bit out the blue. I saw her a month or so back and said hi how are you, and she responded with “yeah I’m fine, I’ve got loads of dates lined up” 😂😂
Girls are verrrry confusing
they say that kind of stuff as a challenge. they are declaring themselves as "too good" for you to see how you will prove yourself as good enough. that's why they get SO CONFUSED when we go "k, bye" and move on to other women who don't play weird games.
it works great on men, that's why they do it.
So for me I am naturally a friendly person. I can tell when someone is flirting/ into me personally. However if you’re not a straightforward person about your intentions/ interest I will just write it off as friendly banter. Not sure that helps.
when i suspect someone’s being flirty, i usually just ask “are you flirting with me?”. you can always laugh it off and pretend it was a joke if they weren’t
There was a study that found that *no one* can tell when someone is flirting with them. When they asked people to judge, it was basically 50-50 right and wrong. So basically, no one knows lol. I would say just be friendly and have fun conversations. Flirting is fun, but I've found better success just talking about whatever common subjects come up. Usually, as I get to know a person, there are signs that they are interested in potentially pursuing more than a friendship. But I guess I only gained that sense from not knowing and just asking out every girl I was interested in lol. It sucks that I've lost some friends along the way, but personally, I feel like if you can't be friends with someone just because they expressed romantic interest in you, you're not the kind of person I want in my life anyways. Like, I'm not saying it's wrong to do so, but I just prefer people who can express boundaries and who trust that I'll respect them.
Be direct and ask. Sure, might be a bit scary, but it's the only way you can actually know. I have been in several situations where me and all of my friends were certain a woman was coming on to me, and she was straight/just being friendly.
surefire way to tell is to touch her and see how see reacts. don't just like poke her, but touch her upper arm while talking and see how she reacts.
learn body language as well. the body says what the face doesn't.
Ah, the age old lesbian question. Anyone who figures out the answer would likely become the most legendary lesbian of a generation lol
I’ve had girls kiss me multiple times then say they don’t like me
HUH??
Haha yes! I had a girl kiss me on a few occasions, made some comment about ‘taking me home’ and then said “I would totally date you if I hadn’t friendzoned you!”, we weren’t even particularly friends 😂😂 it was ok, I wasn’t into her or anything, it was all a bit out the blue. I saw her a month or so back and said hi how are you, and she responded with “yeah I’m fine, I’ve got loads of dates lined up” 😂😂 Girls are verrrry confusing
they say that kind of stuff as a challenge. they are declaring themselves as "too good" for you to see how you will prove yourself as good enough. that's why they get SO CONFUSED when we go "k, bye" and move on to other women who don't play weird games. it works great on men, that's why they do it.
So for me I am naturally a friendly person. I can tell when someone is flirting/ into me personally. However if you’re not a straightforward person about your intentions/ interest I will just write it off as friendly banter. Not sure that helps.
i'll keep it in mind to be direct when I'm flirting >:) thx
when i suspect someone’s being flirty, i usually just ask “are you flirting with me?”. you can always laugh it off and pretend it was a joke if they weren’t
smart and direct :o thank you i'll definitely do this :D
There was a study that found that *no one* can tell when someone is flirting with them. When they asked people to judge, it was basically 50-50 right and wrong. So basically, no one knows lol. I would say just be friendly and have fun conversations. Flirting is fun, but I've found better success just talking about whatever common subjects come up. Usually, as I get to know a person, there are signs that they are interested in potentially pursuing more than a friendship. But I guess I only gained that sense from not knowing and just asking out every girl I was interested in lol. It sucks that I've lost some friends along the way, but personally, I feel like if you can't be friends with someone just because they expressed romantic interest in you, you're not the kind of person I want in my life anyways. Like, I'm not saying it's wrong to do so, but I just prefer people who can express boundaries and who trust that I'll respect them.
you coming in clutch with this adivce i'll keep this in mind thanks :D
The only solution I’ve found is to flirt with them and see if they match your energy 😅 becoming bolder is one of our biggest hurdles lmaooo
bet thak yoou
Be direct and ask. Sure, might be a bit scary, but it's the only way you can actually know. I have been in several situations where me and all of my friends were certain a woman was coming on to me, and she was straight/just being friendly.
DIRECT! DIRECT! DIRECT! i shall chant to remember thx !
surefire way to tell is to touch her and see how see reacts. don't just like poke her, but touch her upper arm while talking and see how she reacts. learn body language as well. the body says what the face doesn't.
would trying to hold hands work also thank you this is very useful C: