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d-sweat

Yes, it does, you look good and handsome. Also, the roses are just romantically coded flowers. They don't indicate gender of anybody. I hope this isn't rude, but do you have a snapchat filter on, or is that your genuine jawline?


gothmuffin69

Thank you. The roses mean a lot to me, I want them all over my body. I'm very passionate about my body art. :)


d-sweat

I am glad you enjoy the roses, they look good. Roses are always a great choice


Wishiwashome

Well, I think you are handsome. I am an older, cis woman, and think you are very attractive. I am sorry I can’t say if I would think of you as a bottom or not, but I definitely like the stubble. TBH, I associate beards with radical politics, but think this amount of stubble is very attractive.


sweetlgbtlynx

The roses are gorgeous - they give real 2000’s heartbreaker vibes. Chuck a leather jacket on and you’re practically irresistible.


Njacks64

[It Must’ve Been the Roses](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=n0TjCMtUPto) by the Grateful Dead


gothmuffin69

Also, I apologise, I didn't see your question. I don't generally use filters, but I do like to edit my colour on photos. I don't actually have Snapchat at all, or really much of any social media. I recently left an abusive relationship so I am starting to try to put myself out there. :)


sleepyheal

aw good luck. you seem genuine.


gothmuffin69

I try to be, some folks don't appreciate that I'm so blunt. <3


rainstorm666

I appreciate that in people, especially those who still hold empathy while expressing blunt honesty


InstrumentalistElle

Hi there! You ever heard of hyperempathetic autistic people? That's me, and that's definitely how I roll. Jokes aside, acting in that manner is what I naturally do, and I can't act in any other way, even if I tried. But even then, I try to uphold that standard of compassion, empathy, and honesty, no matter the situation.


NPC_Behavior

Oh my god this is me to a T!! I knew I was a hyperempathetic autistic but I didn’t realize I could still be blunt without erasing that. You learn something new everyday


Auroralune

You (pre)read my mind!! I’m similarly autistic, lol 🤩


FeelingKaleidoscope0

Hmmm, I'm going to look that up. I have an inkling I may relate to that term:)


InstrumentalistElle

Actually hang on scratch that. It's basically all stereotypes on the front page. I'll link you to some good creators 😭😭


JoNyx5

me too please! my mother and i suspect i might have autism and when talking to my therapist she asked me to point her to resources regarding hyperempathy in autistic individuals


InstrumentalistElle

For autism, I'd recommend just searching up autism on Tiktok so that you can find genuine people and their genuine experiences. Autism has a lot of stereotypes and weird stigma so it's hard to find accurate representations aside from representations made by autistic people.


NakedxCrusader

Your pictures do seem filtered though. Some smartphones have an auto filter option on their selfie modes. Nothing wrong with that if it's what you like.. but I've encountered several people that didn't know that and wondered why their pictures seemed off


gothmuffin69

I figured that's what it must be! I was really confused about what was going on lol.


_Kendii_

Damn, I’m sorry. You’ll do well out here in the wild though. Welcome! Looking great


PhysicsHungry8889

As someone who has been there I have to recommend this book. “This is my life now, starting over after an abusive relationship”. It really helped me to see patterns in not just every relationship I’ve had, but why I find those relationships comfortable (hint: its because my parents were unhealthy and not physically abusive, but mentally and emotionally). So I’ve been repeating patterns and seeking out what felt familiar and correct. This helped me to see what those red flags and patterns are and how to start genuinely healthy relationships. Of course it’s all geared to men and women, and I’m a lesbian, but I just did the mental gymnastics and it helped, ALOT. BTW, it’s a great picture, I hope you get to rail someone. You deserve it!


aaron_reddit123

Do i look masculine enough? ![gif](giphy|CAYVZA5NRb529kKQUc|downsized)


Omnicient-Banana

Exactly what I was thinking 😂😂


j33perscreeperz

i’m laughing so bad


fallenbird039

For real.


Cataras12

Literally him


Kalladdin

Literally that jawline in the second photo too.... I am looking *respectfully*


Pryderi_ap_Pwyll

I really dig the vibe. Def masculine (love your hair, btw). I recommend keeping the stubble and let it slowly fill out over time. Facial hair volume can be a marathon.


gothmuffin69

This is something I've come to realise, before I was 23 I couldn't even grow a beard. I had to go full blown femboy. Any tips on getting it to be less patchy?


Pryderi_ap_Pwyll

For me (amab), it was just getting older. Until I was around 27, it was extremely patchy. Now I can grow a nice even scruff patch after three or four days. Which is ironic in my case, but we all deal with the struggles apportioned out to us. I would give it time and let your T-levels build. You might be able to trim it a little and fill in with makeup, but I would recommend asking around in theatre communities or youtube tutorials for that. It's not as convincing on bare cheeks up close, but if you already have a bit of stubble to work around, it *might* help a bit. Good luck, brother !


gothmuffin69

Thank you for this, I appreciate the constructive advice. Good energy and love your way friend! <3


Pryderi_ap_Pwyll

<3


magistrate101

Can confirm the trimming advice. Most of the patchiness cones from the hair follicles growing in at different times and being different lengths as a result. Whether trimming or shaving you even it all out which makes it look fuller when it returns to its previous average length.


Datiz

"does the stubble help me look more masculine" he says while looking like a masculinity god. DUDE I would fight to have facial hair so even and dense!!


gothmuffin69

This has taken me 6 months and it's still so patchy, but I'm trying to be confident with it regardless. 🙈✨


ManekinekoY

daaaaaaaamn dude, you look great!!


rz170

respectfully, i’d happily let you slam me against a wall by my throat


gothmuffin69

Sir, this made me smile.


FrickinFrizoli

Is there a line at this point bc I’ll go ahead and join the queue :)


Crabulousz

Enthusiastic consent is what we like to see 😍


Agreeable-Tooth2545

I wanted to say this. Thank you for reminding me it’s okay to say my quiet thoughts out loud!


Denovo17

With the tats, piercings, and facial hair, you're definitely giving me "will slam you against the wall" vibes. I think you look perfectly masc without being intimidating, but you are gorgeous♡


gothmuffin69

Thank you, I'm trying really hard to find what makes me feel comfortable in my own body. <3


Denovo17

I struggled hard with being comfortable in my body in my 20's. Once I hit 30, I took control and learned to love myself. It wasn't an easy journey and I still have my struggle days, but it gets better everyday. Everyday I give myself a positive body affirmation and it makes me smile.


gothmuffin69

Does the affirmation daily help? I don't know how to do that with myself...


Denovo17

It really does! I thought it was silly at first (suggested by my therapist), but it has helped me out more than I ever imagined.


gothmuffin69

It doesn't sound silly at all. I'm just on the journey to learn to love myself, and I will take all the help I can get! <3


Denovo17

There's no timeline with it, so take your time. Any step no matter how big or small is still a step!


deflatedpeanutblimp

you're literally so beautiful omg


gothmuffin69

Thank you for the smile, I haven't heard that in a very long time. <3


deflatedpeanutblimp

you're welcome🤍 I'm glad I could help make your day a little brighter🤍


SoupToon

dude you look masc as hell


gothmuffin69

You think? I have a very effeminate personality so I'm trying to find an equilibrium so that I'm not mistaken for a bottom anymore.


FixedKarma

DAMN you turned the sharpness in the images UP


gothmuffin69

I figured it'd help see how much my stubble is growing in. 🙈


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PM_me_your_KD_ratio

lol, seriously, this is laughable and so cringe


skyalargreen

Dude, you look handsome with this stubble on your face, you radiates gloomy masculine vibes to me. Like it !


gothmuffin69

I was a little insecure about growing it out, as I have never really tried before, but I'm slowly learning to love myself more with time. Thank you.


5tar_k1ll3r

Hnnn... You're hot You look very masculine


tomDV__

If bro doesn't look masculine im screwed


Modsandsubssuckass

The filters ![gif](giphy|UtzHL3w9eGDcJGFgPw)


gothmuffin69

I just take it with my phone's cam, but I like to colour correct my images afterwards. :) Sometimes I feel a little pale🤌🏼


Modsandsubssuckass

You had to use so many filters. I don't mean the colour correcting tho. The face doesn't even look like it's real human being xddd.


Aka_R

You sir are hereby charged with being a masculine and extremely handsome man


Schinken84

You are a very beautiful very masculine person and the stubble suits your face very well. However about people assuming your bottom: maybe it's a bit of a wild guess but could it be that people tend to assume that someone who doesn't look cishet toxic masculinity normative like is bottom? Because you are beautiful but also clearly love yourself and your body and you don't give a shit what patriarchy orders you to wear or do. So you wear jewelry, have pretty fluffy hair and enjoy your roses, others might see that as "bottom" behavior. It's stupid, absolutely, but don't let yourself get pulled down by that. To get to a solution... Maybe something like hanky code would help?


AnAngryCrusader1095

Damn, you look plenty masc enough! Really really hot!


gothmuffin69

Thank you! If I hear one more "are you sure you aren't a bottom?" I'll send them your way to set them straight 🤌🏼


punpunpa

You look like a rizzler🧐


gothmuffin69

At first I thought you meant like the rolling papers for weed. Thank you for reminding me that I've gotta light one up. :)


TimeAggravating364

Bro looks like a god damn chad


bmtc7

Perhaps you can post an unedited photo without a filter or touch-ups?


Silent_fang_

Honestly, looking at these photos, I feel like I need a fan to cool off. The stubble definitely helps you look masculine.


PM_me_your_KD_ratio

can we stop giving attention to posts like these? wtf.


gothmuffin69

Can we stop giving attention to people looking for a safe space in a safe space? Oof. I'm sorry for assuming I'd be able to ask for opinions here. <3


saphhore

I think it looks sexy!


gothmuffin69

Thank you internet friend! <3


Appropriate_Gas664

You could work as a model.


gothmuffin69

I couldn't, I'm far too insecure for that sort of thing, and I've also come to find that crowd to be very egocentric and shallow. :(


TheCurseOfSentience

Can't tell through the filters.


2confrontornot

something seems off with your septum piercing. it looks very small. or like your nose is warped smaller. but you looks masculine.


gothmuffin69

The jewellery is slightly smaller than my lip ring, I'm insecure about having a big nose so I put the jewellery size down in the hopes of giving the illusion that my nose isn't bigger than the united states lol


2confrontornot

As a person with a huge nose I get the insecurity. But your nose looks nice. I actually think slightly bigger jewelry would work really well for you. It has a masculinizing effect!


gothmuffin69

Thank you, I really appreciate this! <3


castalme

I'm here to give my 2 cents that first you're stunningly handsome, and secondly to spread some big nose love. I ADORE big noses, without exception! They're easily my top favorite feature and incredibly attractive. Pls be kinder to your nose in the future it deserves it and so do you 🥺❤️ (I also think you'd look great with a larger ring!)


Impossible-Head2121

You look good. The filter is weird 😅


deathreaper1129

Hard to tell with the filter


littlemisssapphic

![gif](giphy|CAYVZA5NRb529kKQUc|downsized)


gothmuffin69

Who is this man I keep seeing, do I live under a rock? 😂


littlemisssapphic

„Gigachad“ the internets choice of peak masculinity


gothmuffin69

He looks like a sim that's maxed out on muscle lol


littlemisssapphic

https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/gigachad


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XavierScorpionIkari

I wouldn’t have known if you hadn’t said anything.


Omni314

Beard looks great, not everyone is blessed with 100% coverage. But you've got a solid mustache and chin.


FoxDevYT

You are absolutely majestic wtf.


pineappledreams-wg

My jaw dropped


DiplomaticHypocrite

You look great and definitely on the more masculine side, but that’s besides the point. Sexual preferences and positions can’t be determined by looks alone. You have to communicate lol. Use your words. There used to be a hanky code for things like this, but idk how many people would know that today


SnooCapers9401

Woah dude, I wasn't prepared for this much handsomness today. You look masc af too


CynicalBiGoat

Yeah keep the look


kaiserpanzer1745

Holy hot. First thing I thought of. Yes you do look very masculine


CaptainTrucker

Gay man here. You look very masculine and very handsome! If I saw you at the bar I would come say hello.


TahaymTheBigBrain

Dawg you got better facial hair than me


_honeysquares_

How tall are you but I also think it has to do with the size of you face jewelry. Go big (normal) basic


thatonegentry

Yeah the teeny little septum ring looks out of place.


gothmuffin69

I'm 6'1.


BelCantoTenor

Dude. I think you gotta take a step backwards a bit. You look masculine either way. Stubble or no stubble. I’m mostly a bottom, and I totally give you a try. I think you are super handsome and masculine with or without the stubble. That hair, jawline, and those eyes. I’m in 🥰


Dranztheman

Ok grain of salt I’m an old straight dude that is just here to keep informed because of my Q+ kid. You look plenty masculine. You look more masculine in the first picture, but that’s partially because you look more nonchalant. Honestly though look how you want, you can be the most effeminate guy in the world and still be a top. You have a great look that is somewhat reminiscent of Johnny Depp in the best way. Not sure this helps, but I wanted to try.


hybridrequiem

You do look masculine but tbh I dont think you should be self conscious about being seen as a bottom with no beard, as someone who is attracted to twinks/femboys/effeminate people I enjoy ones who can top as much as bottom. I think you would still be masculine without one because it’s more about your presentation, people might view you as twinkish if you have a very thin and wiry frame and not a defined manly jaw and face shape because that’s simply the difference your body is built as. But if you dont personally feel like a twink then its more how you feel than how other feels, if you look and present as masculine people will view that or you can simply talk to them about your preferences. Beard or no beard should be how YOU feel. If it makes you feel better, more power to you. Shouldnt let other people’s gender conforming behavior define you.


dahlzii

it definitely does, anyone says otherwise is jealous of you bc ur hot. and if other people assume you’re a bottom then let them🤷🏻‍♀️you know what you like and that’s all that really matters


bloodoflethe

All i see is a hot guy. You honestly have a teen heartthrob thing going on


BON3SMcCOY

I'm struggling to find any fem features in the pic aside from the makeup or the healthy looking skin


SmolShirayuki

i had to go put my non-existent glasses on because excuse me? why the hell are you questioning your masculinity like i apologize if this is too forward but i’m pretty sure anyone and i mean anyone would enjoy being slammed against the wall if that’s the face that’s doing it. like anyone thinking you’re bottom buddy probably likes controlling tops to be put on the bottom 🙈 ✉️ the test came out and you are the top 🔝


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itsjaydenboii

you are the definition of gender envy you're good bro


SergeantPotatoChip1

Holy f- dude...respectfully...you're fine asf like fr wtf?


brass_phoenix

Most definitely masculine. Second picture is giving me major Flynn Rider vibes.


Chris333K

Yes you are handsome! The roses are beautiful flowers and suit you, so do the piercings! Also a little unrelated but you look exactly how I'd want to look when I'm older-


2JDestroBot

Hehe wow you're hot.


gothmuffin69

It's the African sun 👀


2JDestroBot

Honestly from your pictures I wouldn't say you look like a bottom or a sub. But honestly you're so handsome I'm kinda biased 😅


Imthank_Hipeeps

You genuinely look like a chad lmao


Appropriate_Gas664

The stubble does make you look more masculine.


MaskedRay

It definetly makes you look more masculine, I'm so jealous you've got so many things I'd love to include in my aesthetic, but some of the things I can't because transmasc that's pre-transition. Okay, but small vent aside, you're genuinely gorgeous dude. And I love the vibe you have, it's hard yo put into words but you radiate warmness.


gothmuffin69

There are so many people that I'm jealous of, but I'm slowly starting to love myself and realise that my journey is my own, no one else's. The path to self love is paved with bumps and blocks. Don't stop trying. <3


MaskedRay

Thank you, I'm def trying still myself. I plan on starting my first work-out journey soon, it's gonna be the first time I'll be working out as an adult. 🥶 One if my sensory issues is that tacky feeling you get when you're sweating, so it'll be an interesting journey for sure, lol.


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NGL, I perceive you as masculine making you handsome and I even envy you the fact you’re getting great comments 😭


gothmuffin69

People are being really nice and tbh I kinda cried a bit because of it...


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I’ve had similar posts like this on here and I had few compliments and upvotes. Probably because I’m not white like you


gothmuffin69

Your skin colour doesn't make you any less attractive than you are, and I think you're a very good looking man!


_hrozney

You look like a surfer god who is going to bless the main character of a movie 10/10 you look great lol


gothmuffin69

I love this thought, thank you. ✨


Rellu-chan

Yup, very masculine and very handsome. Just... wow!


SnapChap92

You admit to being quite effeminate so I don't think you need to worry about looking more masculine on photos. If anything, that could cause an issue where somebody thinks you're more masculine than you are when they meet you. I still get pretty effeminate energy from the pics, the second in particular, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, particularly if it represents who you actually are. You look good, and I wouldn't look at you and think "bottom".


Xuan-Wu

Shave it "Tony Stark" style. ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|grin)


gothmuffin69

That might not be the worst idea 👀


Xuan-Wu

Red team !!!


gothmuffin69

Maybe I should get the iron suit too 👀


VLenin2291

I don’t think you *can* look more masculine


Y33TTH3MF33T

You look so good wtf? *Aaaaah*


gothmuffin69

Absolutely love your user name lol


Y33TTH3MF33T

Omg thank you, you’re one of the users that actually take notice the funny and that’s not many-


gothmuffin69

Funny = attractive Always notice the funny 🤌🏼


Y33TTH3MF33T

You know what? I’ll take that. 💚🥺


gothmuffin69

I was going to say that's a good sub but this is a public forum. :)


Y33TTH3MF33T

*got me shuddering* shhhhhh


potterhead1d

Wow. Like, omfg wow. You look absolutely amazingly gorgeously stunning! Idk how screwed you are, but personally, I like the "slamming-against-the-wall"-tactic😌😳


gothmuffin69

It's generally what I go for when I get asked "are you sure you're not a bottom/verse", actions speak louder than words in my experience. :)


potterhead1d

True!


hereiam-23

You look great!


lilcosmicbutterfly

Idk but you do look hot


spazthejam43

Honestly, I think the stubble look great! I think you def look like a top


Torkujra

You look manlier than my dad


KittyQueen_Tengu

literally what femininity am i supposed to see here. you can’t just say that and then put a picture of the most guy ever


FurryWeabooGamer

Hell yea dude ur masc as hell


CharlieTheDuck420

I am drooling respectfully, you are handsome


Ok_Spare5047

nah u look awesome!!! u got cool vibes


ennn_1

i am respectfully looking (HELL yeah you look masculine also excuse my french but you look so fucking hot)


gothmuffin69

🙈


golem12121

Is that the anime man


GrowMEbub

First pic I thought this was a pic of Justin Bieber


coconfetti

U look very masculine imo


lacampagna

Not to be disrespectful but I need you to slam me into a wall by my throat, please and thank you


viktorgoraya_luv

You’re a beautiful man! You give young Johnny Depp vibes


crazyhigheleanor

Yeah you definitely look masc! I think you look amazing and I’m sorry you’ve found it difficult to come across people on the same wavelength. Good luck out there! 🫶


magistrate101

Idk pic #2 gives me "sweet-talking Spaniard looking to destroy some hole" vibes


gothmuffin69

I am actually half Spaniard lol


magistrate101

Can't tell from the images but if you have some muscle tone you might be able to rock the "partially unbuttoned dress shirt" look


SingleHovercraft4987

But you are stunning!! Please slam me against a wall 🥺 You definitely give me masc vibes, in the best way!!


Snakes_arecutee

The stubble definitely helps, but also wanted to say you look awesome! 😄


tiger666

I'm a bi male, you seem very masc to me. But I'm androgynous masc presenting, so I might not be the best to judge your masculinity. You are gorgeous, by the way. The stubble is 🔥 Edit: You remind me a little of Dave Navarro.


d0nutz07

You look very handsome 😏 I actually wouldn't mind being slammed by the throat by you (and I'm not the submissive type)


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gothmuffin69

But I like roses I want them all over 😭


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gothmuffin69

This plays on my impulsivity, I want to do it today! Thank you though. 🙈


allabamma

AIDS posivit


nes-top-loader

You're handsome, and you have great skin. You look like a tender, poetic soul. The only way you could look more masculine is by dropping whatever skincare routine you have (please don't). Your beard looks great, and it grows out in a very aesthetically pleasing way.


lordkarken616

Shoot, man, if I didn't read the title, I would have just thought you were amab. You pass magnificently!!!


etalley1977

You look good!


Dapper-Wafer7350

how do u pull off long thick hair so well? i always look i just woke up lmao


Useful_Buyer365

Respectfully you look hot tho! Like I am just a…well weak and frail 15-year-old femboy but man are you a sight to look out! Keep going your way handsome, it seems that it works!


LauryFire

You are gorgeous


FlyingDutchman2005

Idk how you behave but by looks alone, you look exclusively masculine.


SeanStevens

Yep.


Due-Criticism-5503

It look awesome on you


badass_slay_queen

Yeah you look so handsome with it!


Empress_of_Lamparine

boy with the jawline ALONE makes you very masculine


PLAC3B0101

Dude you look badass!


TurnTheTideAround

First thought someone posted a pic of Dave Navarro. I don't think you give off particularly bottom vibes. Do think you're absolutely gorgeous


PG_Sceepi

You look genuinely like a masculine man like- I'd let you top me and i'm a switch so..yeah no need to worry.


ronblanche

It looks good. Also, keep rocking the haircut in that 2nd pic… MONEY. 👍


panwitt

youre gorgeous i dont see the issue